Never happened before but I got catfished (self.TheRedPill)

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So, for the first time ever I got catfished. I go to meet this girl I was talking to, for the first time. And she is nothing like her profile or pictures.

Profile says 5'8", but she's just as tall as me (6'1"). Okay, I can overlook that a little. Pictures show blonde, shows up with purple hair. Hey, maybe she dyed it recently.

But here's the deal breakers: Pictures show she's like...thick but trim. Yeah that was because her pictures were from high school when she was like 17 and a volleyball girl. 6 years ago. She easily weighed just as much if not more than me. And finally, profile said non-smoker. I know this because I filter out smokers. She shows up smoking a cigarette and just fucking REEKS of them.

And to add to all that, HUGE red flag. (Before we met) She tells me "just so you know, like 90% of my friends are guys, so I hope that's okay. Women and I just don't get along" 🚨 I don't know why I continued with her, it was at THIS point I should have just dropped her.

Don't get me wrong, her having guy friends, not a problem. If I observed it, it was discussed and she was very casual about it like "yeah, they're my group of friends. Including women...blah blah blah." But something about her having to TELL me and then also adding that she doesn't get along with women just...my god, I was so fucking irked by that.

I confronted her on all of this and said "sorry but this is not acceptable. You cannot expect to portray one person, and show up a totally different one. Not in the dating world. Do that shit in the fantasy world." She follows it up with "so, are you saying this is done?" I laughed and walked away.

[–][deleted] 144 points145 points  (9 children)

I know a much older guy. Recently widowed and pushing 70 and he jumped online and started dating for the first time in his whole life

One of the first women he met was mucho mas grande than her photos.

He didnt waste a second of his time and blasted her instantly

"You know, the photos were false but thats not why Im leaving. For all you know, I like big women. Know what I dont like? Dishonest women"

[–][deleted] 60 points61 points  (6 children)

Fuck. That's beautiful. Gotta love that natural masculinity of previous generations who weren't indoctrinated to be pussies. Totally confident in telling it straight. No question in his mind. Just words cutting like hot knives through her buttery exterior.

Sometimes I wish I had lived in early America. The boomers in my opinion lived the best years in America. All the wealth, easy access to jobs, super cheap food and gas and housing, no world war, watching the technological boom, and the women were not brainwashed yet, no one was fat, white girls wanted white men (a plus for me, but not for everyone).

My dad looked exactly like me when he was my age and he got laid nonstop. Non stop. I do pretty well, but if I had a little more natural edge instead of constantly having to sharpen myself, and had a higher percentage of white girls and less feminists and the nonexistent obesity rate that he got to experience... God, that must have been heaven.

[–]esirnus18 19 points20 points  (3 children)

I met an old Navy vet once at a bar. Bill was his name and he must of been nearing 80 years old but had all his wits and was funny as hell, not a bad looking fellow for his age either. He told me after Korea and some stints on submarines in and around Caribbean he got out of navy and went on to become a manager at a hotel in Hawaii. This was in the mid 1950's he said that while working night shifts there in the busy season he got laid frequently with some of the ladies staying there some where with their husbands, some were college girls, all were willing and horny and none presented any sort of drama like you see today. I mean sexual harassment claims and etc...Bill also said back than nobody knew what an STD or an Hiv was. Women were much more promiscuous but in a way that you couldn't tell if you just knew them as family or friends. (He also told me that he misses pubic hair the most from that era..LoL)

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 2 points3 points  (2 children)

The girl I spent Saturday night with was the first in something like 15 years that had a bush. Sure it's because she doesn't want to bother with shaving, but it wasn't buckwheat on a bad hair day nor Don King on crank. It's a nice 21 year old patch on a snatch with a pleasant aroma.

[–]esirnus18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually asked my GF one time why women don't grow bush more often and she said that the first couple of weeks are miserable cause it itches and irritates whole are after that it softens and it's not so bad. So basically my experience with growing beard I just cant past that really itchy stage at around 2 weeks.

[–][deleted] 189 points190 points  (40 children)

I got catfished a couple times online dating. First one the chick must have used pictures from highschool. In person she had full sleeved tattoos, her ears were swiss cheese like you couldn't fit one more earring in there and she was about 40 pounds heavier. I insisted she had the wrong guy, "aren't you vodkamonsta?" she said. Yes I am and I'm meeting someone with your name but I can assure you its not you, what a coincidence bye!

second one girl used "athletic" for her body type which in her mind meant she identified as athletic because she played basketball 7 years ago and completed a 5k once. she wasn't terrible looking but I'm not into liars, gave her the same treatment as the first one.

[–]Gawernator 103 points104 points  (27 children)

Lol, that is almost as common as fat girls describing themselves as "curvy". They post pics of the one time they went hiking or went running, and pretend they workout six times a week. Yeah, ok. That's why you're 250 lbs

[–]slay_it_forward 75 points76 points  (25 children)

"Curvy" girls only post face pics, as if you're not going to notice that she's a tub-o-shit when you meet in person.

They think if you get to know them in person you'll like them in spite of the lard. LOL.

[–]Windryder 39 points40 points  (1 child)

They're trying to cash in on sunk cost fallacy.

[–]Buchloe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This. Betting you'll see it through since you're already there.

[–]Ambiguousdude 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The spectrum of fitness for some people are screwed up. Their curvy= Blob

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (21 children)

That's not really true, enough guys don't give a fuck that plenty of fat girls post fat pics and barely see a decline in messages

[–]Gawernator 26 points27 points  (7 children)

I saw two average guys, one not fat at all both with really fat girls today at a restaurant. Smh.. it was gross

[–][deleted] 32 points33 points  (1 child)

Meh. I won't stand for a fat girl who thinks she is hot as shit, but so far I haven't found them to actually be like that. I've hooked up with two off the internet and found both extremely eager, fun, and willing to please... ready to meet up and get banged immediately. Not a first choice, but definitely something to do on a sunday night... times are tough for young lovers

[–]Gawernator 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the entitled ones that act like they're hot are the worst. If they know their place, then it's whatever

[–]yaysmr 10 points11 points  (4 children)

I get depressed when I see fit, attractive guys who appear to have their lives in order (not knowing their true background, of course) wandering around with whales on their arm. USUALLY the girl has some kind of redeeming feature, but it is clear that the guy puts work in to his appearance and health and she just does not.

I imagine it is a symptom of hypergamy. A guy can either work hard to get a small chance at landing an decent looking or above chick, or just sacrifice his standards a little to find a lard-ass who at least will stick around and treat him like a god (I hope, at least, or he's REALLY getting shafted). Maybe if he's lucky she'll improve her looks la little bit.

But I see it so much these days, I wonder what the hell is actually happening that men have sacrificed their pride while women are just getting larger and larger. DOUBLY sad when I see them carting a kid around because I conclude

A) Either the guy came in her and is married to her, no hope of escape...

B) Some OTHER dude came in her and this guy is getting sloppy seconds, or

C) He's trying his damndest to raise a kid of his own and settled for the first girl he could find who would settle down with him.

[–]Gawernator 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Stay away from Army bases. You will be full of sadness.... lol

[–]Gross_Guy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because dating is fucking difficult. And flitering through the ocean of women in front of us is tideous. Sometimes you really don't give a fuck trying to be all cool and composed and above the rim and just take a fatty out to mckies.

[–]ScarletNumbers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get depressed when I see fit, attractive guys who appear to have their lives in order (not knowing their true background, of course) wandering around with whales on their arm.

I don't get depressed. I find it pathetic

[–]slay_it_forward 8 points9 points  (12 children)

You must live in Texas.

And why you fucking fatties?

[–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (11 children)

i live in Canada actually, lots of blubber

apathy, convenience. the same reason you eat at McDonalds sometimes

[–]slay_it_forward 12 points13 points  (4 children)

Fucking grotty women is terrible for your self-worth.

[–][deleted] 52 points53 points  (2 children)

so is eating at McDonalds, but once in a while, i'm lovin' it

[–]Nay2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One day ago I was lovin the shit I took

[–]krazeesheet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

never fuck with a Canadian.

[–]theONE843663 7 points8 points  (4 children)

EY fellow Canadian. I find fat girls don't really care about the technicality of sex they just wanna get​fucked. They're good material for balls draining cuz you don't have to eat them out and they don't complain about finishing early.

Fat chick > the hand in my opinion lol. Well.... Depends cuz if she smells really bad (had this happen) then the hand is def better lol.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children)

They're just lazy, you have to explicitly tell them what to do so there is an expectation, otherwise they'll take the E-Z way out like any other lazy SOB. "Time for doggy, roll over" "Get on top and bounce, bitch" etc are turn ons; other guys don't tell them things like that because they're afraid of offending them the same way some guys are afraid of "breaking" small-framed women... only the most obese fucks can't participate in all parts of sex, they want to be bossed around a little like any other girl.

you can't blame a fat lazy person for just laying down and getting fucked if that's all they are expected to do. i've found them very receptive to instructions, like any other girl. as for the smell, not something i've noticed any more than regular size girls; if anything fatties are often overly conscious of smelling bad while hot girls don't feel bad about skipping showers because their orbiters don't complain. Your mileage may vary

[–]theONE843663 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I dunno about that cuz being fat will most definitely cause more smellinesss. I know this from personal experience lol. No matter how much good hyegine you have, you'll smell bad more often than someone slim. This is cuz of the fat rolls that traps odour causing bacteria.

EDIT: I've fucked a lot of obese girls lol. I'm talking 300lbs just for the sake of putting my dick on pussy. No regrets... Except for that one time she smelled like rotten oyster... But I still finished tho somehow thanks to the testosterone.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm inclined to agree. I'm not dating them, but I'll fuck one of I'm hitting a dry spell, my plares are all busy or the fat chick earns it somehow. Used to bang a fat girl after a deployment or PCS move just to get started again.

[–]youngzari 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm loving these replies. I'm new here. Fellow Canadian as well.

[–]PanzerBatallion 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It totally counts as working out if you wear yoga pants to the smoke shop.

[–][deleted] 28 points29 points  (1 child)

I'm not into liars,

Better start looking for unicorns then

[–]theONE843663 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unicorns definitely exist... But from our frame of reference, they don't. So for all intents and purposes, unicorns do not exist. That's the logic I go by lmao. Works all the time.

[–][deleted] 48 points49 points  (3 children)

second one girl used "athletic" for her body type which in her mind meant she identified as athletic because she played basketball 7 years ag

That made me laugh.

[–]theONE843663 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Playing ping pong once a week and bitches think they have an 'athletic' physique lmfao.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

  • "Yeah I'm super into sports."
  • "Cool so what do you play?"
  • "Oh nothing, but I watched the Olympics on TV?"
  • "I see...so, where do you want to go for dinner?"
  • "KFC"
  • "I think I've got an important phone call to make."

[–]ShagrathBG 13 points14 points  (0 children)

"I have to return some videotapes."


[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

when a girl says she's athletic or fit, i ask what kind of shit she does. if she gives evasive language, i'll probe harder. if she doesn't go on and on about how she's hitting the gym/yoga/sports 5x per week CURRENTLY, instant redflag... she's portraying who she wants to be, not who she is.

and if she's misleading about stuff you can see instantly, there's no way she's going to be found out upon instantly when you meet up, you can bet she's hiding much worse shit.

[–]OracleofFl 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Her sport is sumo wresting!

[–]d0lphinsex 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Happened to me as well. Kinda cute in the pictures. 20 kg heavier in real life. I went to another city for her. 2 hours travel. Yuge boobs though! Like basketballs, no joke. Yeah, I titfucked her. I just had to. Totally worth it.

[–]bitch_regulator 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Online dating bodies in the UK:

Average = FAT; Curvy = FAT; Thin = average (or maybe FAT); Fit = 10 years ago (early teens...maybe); A Few Extra Pounds = Wicked FAT

You get catfished constantly, so go out in real life. Women self image perception is delusional.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Vodka - do you think this misinformed self reflection on the women's end has something to do with their stupidity and inability to understand how the world works?

[–]Origami84 242 points243 points  (1 child)

Well done. Seems like you reduced the time, energy and money potentially wasted on this girl to a minimum. She was uninteresting, NEXT.

[–][deleted] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I don't think his beef is that she was uninteresting, heck, he could have had a gay old time picking her brains on why she thought being such a liar and a weirdo was a good idea.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 90 points91 points  (15 children)


She follows it up with "so, are you saying this is done?" I laughed and walked away.


Great job there... was reading along and half expected you to cave in at the end.

I can tell you were thirsty... but not that thirsty for a girl.

What a complete rip off.

Female quality is rapidly declining due to Blue Pill Feminism so it does not surprise me that a girl can deteriorate that fast in just a few years. Some women are attractive for only about 5 years then fall off a cliff. (usually from 17 - 22)

This is why SMV peaks at 22 for women... though for many that peak is 18.


[–]yomo86 31 points32 points  (1 child)

In my experience online-dating has only three categories. First those who look uber-good are in for the attention and the fun it brings playing to peoples fantasies and then droping them. Power is addictive.

Second the ones who are so damaged goods mentally that getting the information they have written as profiles in a private setting would scream red flags.

And the third are plain uglies.

[–]Gawernator 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There's a smaller amount of relatively normal girls that are decently attractive, they just aren't very common, because most girls don't need an app to find a guy.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (12 children)

I'm interested to know, you used the term "Blue Pill Feminism" - is that a catch all for the lot of it or do you differentiate between it's different branches?

I get you either way; it teaches women that men who won't accept you as a fat slob are hateful, narcissistic sexists that society will shun (Yeah, right) and that it's not necessary to put any effort into your appearance or make any inroads towards growing as a human being.

Or in short-hand: you can have it all without lifting a finger, fuck the haters.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 22 points23 points  (10 children)

The Blue Pill is a mythology.

It replaces Truth with a Myth. (it's fake)

The myth being generated differs depending on if you are male or female.

For the female they invert Truth and get Feminism.

For the male they invert Truth and get the beta male Nice Guy™.

Both Myths are inversions of the Truth and are part of the Blue Pill.

The Red Pill reverses all that and returns to your senses... to Natural Laws... and the Truth.

Both males and females are damaged by the Mind Control manipulation we know as the Blue Pill. The Matrix destroys everyone.


[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (9 children)

I get you and I'm sure you already know this, but there are different types of feminism like intersectional/3rd wave/anarcho and I just wondered if you were referring to a specific subset when you mentioned BPF.

Blue Pill as a mythology....good one.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 2 points3 points  (8 children)

They make that crap up on a daily basis, so I don't follow it too much.

Just know it's all bullshit manipulation... a mythology. (Blue Pill)

Try to avoid it, turn off the television, read Manosphere websites as well as read great classical works. Be in tune with Alt Media before they manage to censor it.


[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (6 children)

I know it's all horseshit but it's legitimately quite funny how each one contradicts and impinges on the other until the only thing they can do is shriek at one another about which group are the most oppressed - I thought that's maybe why you'd made a distinction, but I see now that you hadn't.

I haven't watched TV in years, and, whilst I won't plug their names but I'm big into the New Media guys on Youtube. I think Pewdiegate managed to shut down any hopes they had of censoring the alt/new media though, it's here to stay.

[–]Stythe 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Social justice is inherently flawed. We all have different boundaries and things we find acceptable based on our lives and experiences. Things like feminism can't work for a million reasons, but trying to focus on the biggest victim makes them search indefinitely for the next bigger victim, then once the original victim isn't victimized enough, they shove it out to be stomped on my real life. It's basically how cockroaches work, only with more mental gymnastics.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

once the original victim isn't victimized enough

Boy you've nailed it there.

[–]Stythe -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Yknow, it wouldn't be an issue if it wasn't attached to anger and hatred and if actual skillsets and outlooks rooted in reality were taught. Then it would genuinely be helping people. Sadly that's the opposite if what happens and so it ends in more anger and hatred.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to ask two questions - "is the person/groups problem genuine? Are they concerned about something legitimately harmful to society or a direct danger to themselves?" So things like shutting down schools, giving police military-grade weapons and cutting back on services etc.

The I ask "Are these people simply trying to tear down the current infrastructure, through protest and whining, because they're not at the top of the pyramid?"

It's usually the latter when it comes to these types of people.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Any ideology based on something other than reality is going to be inherently flawed, and the followers will make shit up as they go to prop it up. They will turn to the same tactics, shaming, legislation, screaming, trying to guilt everyone into it, and telling you who is the pious and who is the evil oppressors. Religion is the same no matter what they base it on, be it feminism or sky faries that want blood sacrifice. They are all trying to be the biggest victim so they can justify whatever horrible shit they want to do.

Look at screaming feminists blocking doors and compare them to religious nuts who try to get everything banned or hate the evil oppressive gays. Same shit, same tactics, same want to control what you think, say, and do. None of it is based in reality, even if it uses some of reality in it. Harry Potter is not based on reality, but it still uses reality to sell the story. Same thing, except people tend to kill for the fictional characters in the Bible.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we can both agree they're fundamental extremists acting aggressively in the real world because what they believe is based on complete fantasy.

I hate it when I see people trying to shut down those they don't agree with, I've seen a few examples of the 'blocked doors' you mention.

[–]Stythe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think that first bit is key. It is made up to suit whatever moment it's needed in. A movement of any type without descriptive limits and boundaries is junk. Feminism has always been like that. Most movements are, or are quickly corrupted before they solidify. Individual aspect of it may work, but as a whole it becomes part of a hivemind.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it ironic that the blue pill calls themselves such.

[–]Gr0o0vy 40 points41 points  (27 children)

She had it all. The only thing left was that she is on meds. Probably is, you just did not stick around long enough to find out.

[–][deleted] 47 points48 points  (25 children)

Well actually...during dinner she did reveal she was "diagnosed bi-polar" and on meds. That only put the stamp on the already stamped envelope of me telling her to fuck off.

And yes, I still had dinner with her because it was at a new steakhouse that I was REALLY excited to try. Food was good, company was shit.

[–]fakenate1 17 points18 points  (19 children)

Do you typically take people you meet on the internet to dates at fancy steakhouses?

[–]Gearski 34 points35 points  (9 children)

I want him to take me to that fancy steak house, it sounds pretty good. (no homo)

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (8 children)

In all honesty, that's what I should've done. Gone with some friends. The food was really good, but it's slightly tainted by the fact that she was there. Not to say I won't go back.

[–]TB3o3 24 points25 points  (6 children)

How bout inviting TRP for a steakhouse dinner? Get mad rowdy

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 20 points21 points  (5 children)

Too many noobs would be negging the hostess at once. It would be a disaster.

[–]TB3o3 22 points23 points  (4 children)

I can imagine 50 sexually frustrated, socially awkward reddit users making small talk and swooning over the hot waitress.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Come on that would be classically funny, we'll just cockblock each other so hard.

[–]I_AM_CALAMITY 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why our community can be so funny. Most people on here, me included, haven't made it yet, but those who have, made it big.

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like hanging out with 50 guys from an engineering University.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (8 children)

New, not fancy. It was about the equivalent of Outback I'd say. And no, I'm usually about coffee or sushi or something. This was just an opportunity for me to try this joint.

[–]Jessie_James 5 points6 points  (7 children)

You should never invite a woman to dinner on a first date. Never. Drinks - alcoholic drinks - period. Never buy her more than 1 drink unless things are going great.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (2 children)

I said in another reply, coffee is usually the go to thing. I really wanted to try this place so I was trying to kill 2 birds. But yes this just drove the final nail in the coffin that dinner and special stuff is meant for friends, or LTRs.

[–]Jessie_James 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Yeah, I noticed you said coffee or sushi. Glad you got it figured out, too.

There's a lot more to the whole $20 tops and drinks for the first date, but suffice to say a woman who is not interested in you won't risk getting tipsy or drunk, nor will she go on a cheap date.

You got used for your wallet. You have to avoid that.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

"You got used for your wallet" I never really thought of that, but that could've been her game the whole time...I mean, if you saw her, you'd accept it that she was just looking for a free meal. However, it wasn't a typical "appetizers, 9 drinks, and lobster meal" type of order, she had some chicken dish and a soda. Not terribly expensive on my end. So I just chalked it up to an inexpensive lesson learned. Could've been worse, could've fucked her and opened myself up to rape accusations, pregnancy, stalker syndrome. Who knows?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

If you drink with her and then have sex she can claim she was raped even if she was under the legal limit of intoxication.

[–]Jessie_James 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Claim away. In the real world, the courts actually have a lot higher standards to actually charge and convict someone for rape.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

hm, I think I'll wait till I graduate college and get a good job before I take this risk

[–]tyrryt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meanwhile the stigma, time, and legal costs of the claim destroy your life.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

during dinner

Wait. What?

I read your post and was thinking "Well done for calling her on her deception", but you didn't do that until during/after the meal? Dude, you should have done that the very moment she walked up - and had the meal alone.

[–]maniclurker 22 points23 points  (0 children)

OP is trickling the truth to avoid proper judgement.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ragrets. I posted in a reply that the food was good, company was shit. Tainted the experience. I will go back with friends to wash it away.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

during dinner

first meetup with online girls is ONLY coffee, a single drink, or a walk in the park. in a social media world, they portray themselves as how they WANT to be seen, not how they actually are, and no one calls them out on it. well, meeting up in person with a complete stranger is usually a reality bomb.

90% of women look 1-3 notches worse than their worst picture. 9% look like their worst picture, and only 1% look like their pics and/or better than their pics.

[–]Coach_DDS -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Shit company is never worth the best food. I'll take a box of Chinese dog vomit with the right gal... I wouldn't want to go to the best statehouse in the world with bad company. Totally ruins it.

[–]tyrryt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Victim of various "sexual abuses". "Abusive" ex-boyfriend, maybe a stalker or two.

[–][deleted] 30 points31 points  (7 children)

Jesus Christ, she may as well have just shown up waving a red flag in each hand.

Someone who values other peoples cognitive abilities to recognise they've been blatantly lied to that extent cannot be very healthy mentally themselves.

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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That and the fact she was standing on a pile of dead bodies...

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (4 children)

Solopcism means shes the only actor... He doesnt exist

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

There's a comment further down saying she did legit have mental health problems, which isn't surprising.

Self-centredness aside, that's going a bit far.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)


Not really. Its a common misundersfanding of the concept

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That's a nicely written post, and the thing about women not negotiating enough as been in the news lately.

But I'm not sure what it proves because you could ascribe much of the "symptoms" of solipsism to learned helplessness, fatalism and a lack of confidence.

[–]grewapair 29 points30 points  (3 children)

Lol. You're just getting older. At a certain point, this will happen to you more than it doesn't.

  1. Always ask for a photo less than 6 months old. If one of hers is less than that, she can point it out. I found when you ask for it, 80 percent of them ghost you. Let some other guy meet those girls, they're just going to waste your time.

  2. When you meet, never for dinner, meet outside the venue. Not looking like her photos? "Nice meeting you" and you're gone.

Online dating is a numbers game and you can't get to large numbers if you waste time on fatties. Be more direct and you can succeed at it.

Note: zoosk has people who check their photos for you. They'll give them instructions: hold up two fingers, etc and then check that photo against their other photos. If they match, they get a verified label.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (2 children)

100% agree with you. In fact, I've decided that based on the 5-6 years I've been doing the online dating, it's been too damn stressful and not worth it. I deleted every profile I had and decided I'm going to give it a long term break, possible permanent.

[–]grewapair 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Wrong answer. You can use it as long as you recognize that most people are using online dating because they have something to hide. Not everyone, but most. So you have to filter them. From now on, all fatties are named "Ruth" and your goal is to be Ruthless. So filter Ruthlessly.

If you're Ruthless, you succeed. Each time a girl ghosts you for being Ruthless, you've just saved a ton of time. Be Ruthless and you can succeed.

[–]DigitallyDisrupt 57 points58 points  (6 children)

You don't know what catfishing is. This was not catfishing. This was a woman lying about her looks.

If a completely different person (literally, not subjectively) shows up, then you are catfished. All that happened was, you got to enjoy online dating for what it is.

[–]enkae7317 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A buddy of mine got catfished once. Was laughing at him and we had a good chuckle about it.

Girl in post was latina. Girl that showed up was something entirely different.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (4 children)

Lol. Alright, thanks for the clarification.

[–]DigitallyDisrupt 21 points22 points  (3 children)

You might think I'm being a dick with the clarification, but it's women/feminist movement and the wacky liberals that co-opt words, change definitions, then apply then to confuse the masses to fall for a narrative. If we just all respect dictionary definitions, points are made much clearer.

You simply were not catfished as much as lied to. Watch part of a episode of the show catfish, and be glad THAT hasn't happened to you. Hot Latina in pictures, AA male in real life. Now, that is some deep fried catfish, Lol.

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (2 children)

Nah. I don't think you're being a dick.

[–]DigitallyDisrupt 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Cool, wasn't sure the gravitas of the lol :)

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Nah it's all good. Semantics.

[–]DadOnDabs 21 points22 points  (3 children)

Happened to me last night. She weighed about 50 lbs more than her pictures. Drove a mile down the road before making up some shit I forgot I had to do then dropped her off. Saw that she had posted on snapchat after and thought she would be talking shit about me. She got locked out of her house. I laughed pretty hard.

[–]BreathOfDick 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Drove a mile down the road before making up some shit I forgot I had to do

My go-to is always "I have to return some video tapes"

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

classic line. laughed at this!

[–]DysfunctionalBrother 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lol. Reminds me of what happened to an old friend of mine. Basically he meets up with this girl, he thought she was okay from the photos. Can't remember exactly what it was about her, but when he meets up with her she is not what was advertised. Needless to say he was disappointed. Later on he tells her he needs to go to the toilet. I think her back was turned because when he came out of the toilet he was able to maneuver himself out of the shopping centre and leg it back home. Couldn't stop laughing when he told me. When he finished i said "So, do you think your going to see her again?"

[–]CuckFuckMcPuck 10 points11 points  (2 children)

Typical feminists think they can bait and switch without consequences.

I am glad you laughed in her face and walked away. I would have loved to see the expression on the dumb sow.

She'll probably go on instagram and whine about a "sexist pig" who didn't want to cuddle with a fattie. Such it goes.

At least you have your dignity. Good show!

[–]Nonso625 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so right . This was literally my ex . Our only discussions were about her previous sexual encounters . When I got fed up and ended it she rebounded the next week to another guy . She discovers it's not going well and comes crying back after screwing the guy . 2 weeks later I decide it isn't worth it and ask her to leave . She bounds immediately to another guy .

[–]Phoenixtorment 18 points19 points  (2 children)

"just so you know, like 90% of my friends are guys, so I hope that's okay. Women and I just don't get along"

I always ask this of women, it's a big red flag. Why can't they get along with women?

Imagine a man saying this, I can't get along with other men. Ridiculous.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree. The two statements combined have different problems. 1- "90% of my friends are guys" Really? You've done the math and come to that final numerical value. You've reduced your group of friends to the gender they are? Friends are meant to be whoever you enjoy spending time with in a non sexual manner, so when you start identifying them by their gender, it implies sexual desires.

2- "I just don't get along with women" So you're saying that the ones who don't want to fuck you, see that you're a shitty person and want nothing to do with you. Would you like to revise your statement to "I don't get along with anyone who doesn't want to fuck me"

As I said, I don't care if the 90% is actually true. What throws up the red flag, in my book, is having to tell me it before I've met any of these people to make the observation myself. It's like she was "warning" me of something that is a problem. Which in a way, I suppose is a courtesy she didn't even realize she was giving me. Win on my part.

[–]Eastuss -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Why is it a red flag? The women they can't get along with are the exact women you don't want to lay eggs on.

[–]king_daxter5 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Both males and females are damaged by the fact that she was about forty pounds heavier.

[–]pisspoordecisions 6 points7 points  (5 children)

Why couldn't this have been posted like...5 days ago. Happened to me this past Thursday and I didn't know what the fuck to do, cause she came to my apartment.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Ooooooooo. Yeah that's never a good idea. Always meet them somewhere first. It's also a way to make sure you're not being fooled on any level. Also gives you an escape.

[–]pisspoordecisions 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Yeah, normally id do that. I matched with and met up with her good friend earlier in the week, so I figured based on that, and the pictures on her Instagram/nudes she was snapping me, she was a bit thicker but in a good way and was more willing to just invite her over. She had basically said she wanted to just come over and have sex. She showed up and was just straight up fat. I wanted to kill myself.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol, pull their shit. "Oh I have a headache".

Nah, I can't say 100% what I would do in that situation, but if you wanna avoid it, there's 2 options: -tell her no, get the fuck out -do the fake phone call and rush her out the door while you jump in your car and take the fuck off

[–]RedPillWintergreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's happened to me before. The solution is still the same. Just say "Hey I am not feeling this. Get home safe" and send her on her way. Black and asian chicks are the most egregious, they think that white guys can't tell the difference.

[–]plenty_of_eesh 4 points5 points  (4 children)

I confronted her on all of this and said "sorry but this is not acceptable. You cannot expect to portray one person, and show up a totally different one. Not in the dating world.

My case of this was not quite as bad. Not smoking.... hair short but not purple at least... A lot of extra pounds and years compared to photos...

But somehow charming.

I fucked her all weekend and then told her later that she can't do that shit, no longer interested.

Let me tell you she was perhaps the best lay of anyone that year. She was really trying to get approval, coz she knew she had kinda disappointed me on looks.

And she was upset at my "take what I want but b-bye after"... Sometimes I feel guilty about it.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (3 children)

I didn't realize it until afterwards, but another red flag was that she was hyper sexual. Sounds like a good thing, and I thought it was at the time, but combined with everything else, it was just another reason to bounce. I thought about taking advantage of it but I learned a long time ago, never stick your dick in crazy (that you know of).

[–]Phoenixtorment 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Hyper sexual, while a beta wussy/young boy's wet dream, is indeed a red flag. Experienced it myself several times.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup. I'd rather bring out that slut inside her than to have her approach me and throw her sluttiness around.

[–]plenty_of_eesh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you know she was hypersexual?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (6 children)

You said too much, but good job.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (5 children)

TL;DR Girl lied. Water wet. Sun hot.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (3 children)

The lesson for me was about "when i say no, i feel guilty" and its largely why the date even lasted as long as it did, also why you had to explain yourself beforehand.

Its a good book, we have it for marrieds on the sidebar, may be of value

[–]Chiptehubah 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Sometimes its fun to banter a little. I know its not cold, calculating, or logical, but if Im not at least having fun every second of the way, why am I trying? In his situation I would have thought up something witty and walked away, instead of only walking away

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yeah, as small as it may be, you're invested in a girl whom you aren't attracted to, nor fucking.

It's small, and if you want to live congruently, do so.

It's a good habit to get into, when someone is no longer your concern, not to concern yourself.

Even being honest with her was giving her a gift. Why gift someone who has been dishonest with you? Cathardic emotions for fighting injustice?

Got better things to do with my attention, IRL, I'll value it toomuch to waste. Plus, if anyone sees you doing it, you look like a dick, and not in the good, preselection way

[–]Chiptehubah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a good point, I value my time. Not even a word needs to be said, hell she's already thinking it anyways.

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[–]FinnFerrall 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Eats once a day....for 8 hours.

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[–]clint_bronson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got cafished once. He was man in drag.

I became suspicious when he wouldn't pick up the phone to talk and how he kept texting about how great anal was.

So yeah when i walked away, i had a man in drag, he was wearing heels by the way, chase me across the street yelling how sorry he was.

[–]drewshaver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sucks, but is this really getting catfished? I thought that was where they convince you to send them money or shit

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (7 children)

I got catfished once, the girl sent sexy photos of her lounging around in bed, and when she showed up it was obvious she did that because her fat would spread out and look like chubby/soft when it was actually I'm-a-fat-fuck-rolls. I still banged her tho, not gay

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[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (5 children)

that's not really true though, it's just something you said

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

that's not really true, though

nobody is 'attracted' to a flesh light, but sales are in the tens of millions of units

a fat chick with a tight clean pussy is several notches above a flesh light, and doesn't cost $59,95

you're not going to convince me fucking uglier women is a "might as well be gay" situation lol

also all your yours should be you'res

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't padding anything, i ignored the first time you made a fool of yourself and politely corrected you the second time. Not being able to take kind correction is a sign of being a gay faggot. maybe you might be coming out on something

[–]DaeBixby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women cost a lot more than 59.95 spending all their unearned tax dollars.

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[–]DoesNotMatterAnymore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"just so you know, like 90% of my friends are guys, so I hope that's okay. Women and I just don't get along"

Every time you hear this, flip the script:

"just so you know, like 90% of my friends are girls, so I hope that's okay. Men and I just don't get along"

So, as a man, what would you think about a guy who said something like this? Yeah, something is off.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Women always whine that sometimes the men they meet on online dating are like 1-2 inches shorter than they say, but when it comes to the reverse, every other woman uses instagram filters and photoshop, posts old pictures, or takes photos at misleading angles to hide the fact that "curvy" actually means "shapeless walrus".

[–]Barvazon 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Didn't you check her Facebook?

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

I did but she had a very limited public view and it had basically the same pics from her dating profile. In hindsight, I should've checked the dates on those but it was more just a quick passover to compare.

[–]TB3o3 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also the fact that the more attractive a girl is, the more public photos they typically have.

[–]dankvibez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've met up with a lot of people that I found online and if we are texting I sometimes have them send a pic of themself doing something simple like holding up 3 fingers. If they can't do that much they obviously aren't that interested in hooking up. It's always been the shady, too good to be true ones that fail this test.

Likewise they often ask for one back, but since I am actually the person I portray in my pictures, that isn't a problem.

[–]RealMcGonzo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

profile said non-smoker. I know this because I filter out smokers. She shows up smoking a cigarette and just fucking REEKS of them.

Walkable just on that unless she was smokin (heh) hot. Seriously. Turn and dodge. She lied on something crucial to you.

[–]EvrythingISayIsRight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All 3 times I met someone on OkCupid they were always uglier than their profile pictures lead to believe. Also, if for any reason they have unclear pictures, or headshots only, AVOID at all costs! They are hiding something for a reason.

[–]ReligiousGroup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope I'm not the only one asking this but why exactly was it a "huge red flag"

[–]poochman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you date online long enough, you WILL get catfished. It's part of the deal. One of the reasons I only approach in person now.

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, sure? That's probably accurate. But it's probably also fair to say that you return that same ghosting to...80% of the remaining ones. Or vice versa.

[–]BusterVadge -4 points-3 points  (2 children)

You were way too nice to her. You should have hard nexted as soon as you noticed that she wasn't who she said she was. Hell, make a scene of it. That sort of behavior needs to be made an example of.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

3 years ago, when I first discovered TRP, that probably would've been my reaction. Or even when I was 18-21 and a hot head, yup. But I've calmed down a lot and don't find it necessary to go overboard like that. It would've shown that I was disappointed, which shows a level of interest that I didn't have. Instead I didn't let it ruin my meal, or my evening.

[–]Mckallidon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've been catfished a bunch of times. Whatever. Pump and dump anyways. You're welcome sluts. It matters what they look like if other people know lol.

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