My God..I've been reading the Red Pill for years without doing shit but yesterday night I had one giant epiphany. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by WonderingTdot


[–]Senior ContributorRedPope 266 points267 points  (16 children)

My tip for you (and everyone else) is to write down the answers to these questions:

  • What am I doing tonight?
  • What am I doing this weekend?
  • What am I doing next week?
  • What am I doing next month?
  • What am I doing this summer?

Nine birds in a tree. Five decide to fly away. How many birds are left? Nine. Deciding to do something is not the same as doing it.

You made a decision to change your life. Excellent. Now you need to make a plan. Put it in writing.

90% of you won't bother doing this exercise. It looks too easy. Too simple. Pointless. You're wrong. If you can't answer these questions, you will never succeed. If you can't put it into writing, you haven't given it enough thought to put it into action.

Today is almost over. You need to get started on tonight's item right now. The weekend starts tomorrow. Get your ass in gear. Next week is just around the corner. Your goals for next month and this summer require some preparation. Get to it.

Think. Plan. Act. Succeed.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 36 points37 points  (5 children)

Thank you so much for this.

[–]50red 21 points22 points  (4 children)

Don't do too much planning, though. It can easily become an excuse not to act. "The plan is not good enough, I need to do some more research." Planning is useful but set a time limit. Nothing beats doing something, getting feedback, doing the same thing a little bit better this time, getting feedback...

This is a great article on this: http://jamesclear.com/taking-action

[–]bookofcookies 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And and addendum to that read! Go here: O F F L I N E

[–]Scroph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True. Don't fall into the trap of analysis paralysis. The effort you're supposed to spend on doing actually goes into planning so by the time you finish planning, you're left with barely anything.

[–]Senior ContributorRedPope 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% agreed. Exercises such as this are best done only a few times a year. If you find yourself without direction or motivation, give it a try. It is a good way to discover (and track) what you care about. The objective is to set some immediate goals and get yourself in motion. Not a binding contract for life.

[–]1mojo_juju 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Failing to plan is planning to fail"

"If it aint written down, it ain't a plan"

+1 for organizing your shit and acting on it

[–]thibi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I fully agree with this plan of action!

Due to some act of utter insanity, I'm moving to a completely new part of the US within 4 weeks. It struck me last night that a plan of action, that's very much akin to the above presented one, would be required for me to succeed.

Tonight? Researching specs on stuff and further searching on housing.

This weekend? Getting a vehicle ready to sell.

Next week? Have the UHaul reserved, vehicle on Craigslist, most possessions packed, and hopefully a place lined up.

Next month? Moved and preferably with a more permanent rental in my sights. Meet and greet. Find a local group to hobby with.

This summer? Get a proper truck. Visit Canada for the first time.

Don't just sit and vegetate! Get out of your comfort zone and make changes happen.

Talking the talk is expected, but to haul ass and run the walk gives you a drive that people get caught up in and makes life fulfilling. :)

[–]xmido 2 points3 points  (1 child)

[–]Senior ContributorRedPope 0 points1 point  (0 children)


"Continuous improvement spiral" -- exactly!

[–]J_AsapGem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

outcome base mindset, works wonders in business as well.

[–]RedIntrovert 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm gonna go ahead and steal that bird line. It caught me by surprise and actually made a lot of sense. Great post.

[–]infernoimp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say write down the answer, do you mean in regards to a certain topic or just in general everything you will be doing in that time period? Thanks

[–]Roaring40sUK -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would second all of this and add;

  • Make a Vision Board, even more powerful than writing stuff down
  • Read The Chimp Paradox - It explains why we plan, but then dont act.. this guy coached the UK Olympic Cycling team.. nuff said.

[–]fstrizzy 57 points58 points  (20 children)

I've had negative self talk going on in my head for as long as I can remember. Mainly due to being kind overweight and not having the body I wanted. I'm 6'3 and I was an absolute beast on my high school football team.

I still didn't have confidence when it came to chicks and I beat myself in my head for a long time. It's natural to do when you're young but it has seriously decreased naturally over time. I also went through a period of ungodly drinking and drugs and I can honestly say I was at my lowest both physically and mentally. I became anxious about everything and legitimately depressed. It was rough and I'm finally getting out of it.

The real focus should be training and improvement. I can honestly say it's saving my life from what could have been a terrible downward spiral. Don't even focus on chicks for a while. Your Body and brain will both change for the better and you will find yourself in a vagina again before you know it. Good to hear you're doing better. Keep it up.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 27 points28 points  (3 children)

Thanks a lot man. It sucks because the negative thoughts you have, they're so repitive, that you almost believe them to be part of who you are.

Im so glad I got out of this thinking and honestly, I'm blessed because I got this info at a young age. So thank you to you older guys out there who give us this info. You're the father's, mentors, teachers, guidance that we never had.

[–]theONE843663 8 points9 points  (2 children)

Interesting story I had the same red pill revelation when I smoked a gram of meth in 1 sitting. I No longer smoke if you're wondering lol.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Yeah, drugs can either be an amazing escape or they can honestly help you realize more about yourself because certain drugs expose who you are without the curtains.

[–]2wiseclockcounter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

acid is #1 for this in my experience. it's like a big reset button for your soul.

[–]TRP_BADGER 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I picture my old skinny-fat, weak self when I have lazy thoughts or bullshit thoughts, and imagine old me saying "you don't need to go to the gym" or "you can't do that" in my mind.

Then I focus on how weak and soft that old version of me was, really focus on how little respect I have for that version of myself, then tell the pussy version of myself "fuck you pussy, I'm doing this."

I dunno, seems to help me differentiate "RP me" from the "weak me" as different people in my minf, and how they had different values. And RP me does not tolerate weakness or breaks in discipline.

I'm definitely not where I want to be yet, but I LIFT 4x/week and and just continue to work on the mental side of things as well, and actively focus on embracing pain and struggle as the ways to forge the better man I want to be. Very few people get everything they want without work, struggle, and pain...And if they did, would they even value it or get appreciation from it?

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (14 children)

How'd you get out of drugs? I'm struggling really hard to fix that aspect of my life. I guess it is kind of sad to be posting this on the Internet but I can't be open to anyone about my problems because they just act like it's not real.

[–]fstrizzy 4 points5 points  (4 children)

Well it was more of a hard partying and drinking habit with some drugs thrown in on weekends. I never had a serious every day drug addiction. More like a party habit. About four days a week I'd wake up hungover as hell and just feel like shit. The more often you drink heavily the more fucked yo your nervous system will become. I just decided to kick the booze and be sober for two months and my head cleared up and I got on track with the gym and my hobbies again. I made personal development my top priority over everything else. I will still go out and party but it's much more limited and structured so I don't end up falling back into that old pattern.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (3 children)

I've used drugs daily for three years, damn near every class. Very hard to quit but I'm trying to. About to go throw away all my stashes though and reflect, thank you. This next month is going to be rough.

[–]fstrizzy 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Do it. You probably really need to. If your taking adderall or xanax or anything even weed you're only hurting yourself in the long run. A month or two of total sobriety may seem hard. You may have to cut people out of your life for a while and even tell them you're changing your life. Fuck em if they don't like it. It's about you feeling more confident. Drugs dont help it. They are just a crutch.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've managed to keep it to a purely mental addiction by being a polysubstance abuser, but you are right. Drugs are a crutch, and have mostly ruined my perspective on everything. I've never been more apathetic towards everything compared to this year. I've been through so many highs and lows from drug use thinking I'd never be an addict, but here I am.

I can't advance my career because of the daily drug abuse and it needs to stop today. I used to be confident and smart, but now I'm just a druggie that's hanging on to the edge of having a decent life or plummeting to the bottom like I've seen too many people do with drugs.

[–]CrashXXL 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Try different drugs. I started microdising mushrooms this week and feel better than I have in a long time.

[–]I_Need_More_Space_ 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Micro-dosing psychodelics is a great idea. I think there are some positive studies out there even for the likes of LSD.

[–]CrashXXL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt amazing yesterday. Its better than smoking weed for sure.

[–]abc69 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Every addiction is a shortcut, an escape from the reality that keeps you sad, angry, depressed. Figure out what you don't like about your life and what worries you, and you will see that whatever addiction you have is an attempt at trying to get rid of that bad feeling.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

There's nothing wrong with my life I just like drugs. Maybe the fact I'm wasting time at college but other than that not really anything to complain about other than having done a lot of drugs for three years straight.

[–]abc69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you used them to escape from the guilt that procrastination gives you? That was the reason of my past period of binge eating

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is kind of broad advice; I used to use a lot in my late teens/early twenties.. I realized it was because I was bored with my surroundings, not enough life stimulation so I needed chemical. Try new things, get out of your comfort zone. Eventually you will find things that take away your attention from drugs, or they clash with drugs - drugs are taking away time/effort I could be applying to other areas of my life - hopefully, these new activities will weigh more for you in importance than getting fucked up.

Good luck buddy. Natural highs are way better you'll find long term

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How'd you get out of drugs?

The most common way is to get addicted to something else. My vote would be bodybuilding but some guys swear by those 12 step things and others have found luck getting addicted to Jesus. Getting addicted to pussy sometimes lets you get off the drugs but when the the pussy dries up a ridiculous number go right back to the drugs. Go figure.

[–]19RomeoQuebec 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Great post, glad you got if off your chest. Now pick up some hobbies, stop watching porn, don't play video games.

If your in the City do some country boy shit: fishing, camping, fire making. If your a country boy do some city boy shit: travel, sight see, ethnic foods.

I believe that you should also look for MALE role models, I know that most love their mothers. But like you said yourself, and what we have all come to find out. Our mothers spew Blue Pill.

[–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 157 points158 points  (28 children)

Let me get this straight:

  • you have awesome genetics and don't put them to good use.

  • you've known about the redpill for a while and haven't put that knowledge to use yet.

  • your greatest epiphanies come from being high on drugs.

You don't need tips, you just need a good ass kicking. You have been dealt an awesome hand of cards in life and you just fold out of.. laziness to play the game.

  1. Quit weed. That shit is the reason you're a lazy mofo.

  2. Get lifting already. Use your genetics to become a top athlete.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (3 children)

Yup. Weed and masturbation kills my drive. Had to limit it to the weekends only and only if I can't get pussy lined up.

[–]TheFinalArgument1488 8 points9 points  (2 children)

now i understand why masturbating is taboo in religious circles. the "wisdom" we're figuring out today, our ancestors already fucking knew about! our society is so arrogant to think we know better.

[–]2wiseclockcounter 13 points14 points  (1 child)

eh, I think it probably was more about puritan bullshit back then. Masturbation is an entirely different monster nowadays with the internet.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. The internet bombards us with any sexual thing you want. So not only are you desensitizing your dick from masturbating every day. But your mind as well. Kinda like how Europe is being desensitized to Islam killing and blowing them up. Look at the London thing. People acting like it's just another regular day. Stockholm syndrome

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 55 points56 points  (11 children)

You're absolutely right man. And this is honestly the view I see now but hey, talk is cheap. Just gotta do what I gotta do now.

Thanks though.

[–]3rdtimesacharmm 39 points40 points  (9 children)

Don't listen to the stupidness about quitting cannabis . You've just found out why cannabis is widely considered the "weed of wisdom". Do not smoke it daily, though, and do not smoke and veg out. Only smoke when you're doing stuff. Good luck otherwise

[–]pezzaperry 27 points28 points  (5 children)

I have a theory that weed doesn't make you lazy, it just makes being lazy much easier. i.e. Sitting alone all day is boring, but if you're sinking those cones all day it's pretty fun being lazy.

I only let myself smoke as a reward now, not to enable laziness.

[–]Havikz 11 points12 points  (2 children)

It's because weed overloads your brain with endorphin's. The reason people get lazy is because there's no need to do anything to activate your brain, your brain is being stimulated on its own while you're just sitting there staring at the stucko ceiling and laughing about how it moves around. The brain actively seeks excitement, when it's being excited there's no reason to go excite it with positive things. This is why weed is a self destructive drug even though it doesn't have physical health concerns.

Theoretically if you only smoke weed after doing positive things like class work, or exercising, it's a benefit because it will train your brain to seek out doing those things for a reward instead of banking solely on the reward. If you just lay on the couch and blast all day you'll only do yourself harm.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To add to you theoretical.

I didn't have motivation to do anything at all while sober for a long time, wasn't just a lack of motivation but extreme psychological apathy.

I managed to fight this my smoking and doing things like drawing, writing, all sorts of shit. It was like I learnt how to enjoy certain shit while high and then I could work it into a hobby that I could enjoy sober. I swear to god bud is the only reason I was able to confront so much shit in my life and atm I'm working on cutting back down to occasional usage because that seems like the logical conclusion.

Don't doubt the power of bud when it's in the hands of someone set on changing their life around. Seems like it's effects change drastically based on the intention of the user, if you're not lazy and don't want to be lazy it won't just turn you into a lazy person.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like you are talking about acid; not weed.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean... I smoke a bowl pack before walking in the gym. Makes music much better, therefore making me feel more motivated, therefore I work much harder.

[–]anooblol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of people who are highly productive and smoke weed. Although I know a lot less that smoke daily and are highly productive.

All in moderation.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Cannabis definitely has a hangover. If alcohol didn't have a hangover or addiction I'd be drunk all day. Weed also has both. Treat it like you would a night of binge drinking and prepare for the after effects. I don't do either anymore due to the hangover.

[–]redrogue12 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That's why Alan Watts said about drug usage "after you get the message, hang up." After a while they become a crutch and impede further growth.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Weed doesn't do shit and it's been scientifically proven.

It's probably called the weed of wisdom because when you smoke it you feel like a worthless piece of shit and if you are the type of person who likes to self actualize you'll realize how fucked up you are and start thinking about ways to solve your problems. The weed itself has nothing to do with the "awakening".

[–]MisfitMind00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have confidence on yourself. Nobody will have it for you. I hope you can get there, brother.

[–]netuoso points points [recovered]

Nigga blaming the weed is weak shit.

If you weak on weed you probably weak without it

[–]SmilingWatermelon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Preach. I smoke a lot of weed yet still get shit done. Its not the weed. Its you

[–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 7 points8 points  (6 children)

Sounds exactly like a feminist's rationalisation to protect their ego-investment. Good luck getting rid of it

[–]netuoso points points [recovered]

Did.. did you call me a feminist?

Because you think it is okay to let weed, or anything else, dictate your actions? I have stopped cigarettes cold turkey after smoking two packs a day for a decade. Done the same with pot when I needed to quit for tests or something.

Now my job pays more than any other job I've had and there is no drug test. I can choose to smoke or not. No one dictates that choice on me. And I still am highly functional and living a great life.

Childfree, don't answer to anyone, never broke, almost zero debt.. and I get high nigga. Let the substances control you. You can avoid one substance only to be controlled by another. Even if it's something like sports or food.

All things are fine in moderation.

[–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Did.. did you call me a feminist?

Of course not silly. I only said you rationaliser like one.

Because you think it is okay to let weed, or anything else, dictate your actions?

This is the exact contrary of what I think.

I have stopped cigarettes cold turkey after smoking two packs a day for a decade. Done the same with pot when I needed to quit for tests or something.

This is exactly what I encourage.

All things are fine in moderation.

This is exactly what I think.

So yeah basically we have the same opinions.

My original comment to OP was to quit it because his behaviour is the exact same one I've seen in so many of my friends smoking all fucking day long and doing little else. One doesn't need to be a rocket scientist to see how the dopamine rush one gets from sitting in a couch getting high prompt your brain to do more sitting in a couch getting high. The occasional smoking is like the occasional fap or the occasional TV-watching binge or the occasional MacDonald dinner: it's all good as long as it's occasional so that you don't get addicted to the dopamine rush.

I'm sure you think the same.

I called you out on your comment because I read it exactly as the kind of rationalisation an addicted guy (say to fast-food ) would answer: "nigga blaming fast food is weak shit". Now I realised you're not, and that we share same thoughts. You just read too much in my comment. I don't say "quit fast food cold turkey because fast food a evil and just a gram of it is wrong for you", I would have meant "quit the fast food because you're a fat mofo because of it" and you would agree with that statement. If OP is a lazy pothead who smoke all day long, you should probably agree with me he should stop

[–]1FunAndFreedom -1 points0 points  (2 children)

Based on your post history you were asking about enlisting in the national guard just last month. Did you get an amazing job offer out of the blue in the past few weeks? If so, congratulations, otherwise I wish you great success in the military and hope you have a meaningful career, but you don't need to BS to strengthen an online argument.

[–]mabden 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Back in the day we called weed weed because it weeded out all the bullshit.

[–]SSJ_Trunks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sadly I have a similar problem. Great hand, too scared to play it. Really gotta start taking action.

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (3 children)

Some people on here will tell you that epiphanies are bullshit and you'll go back to the same mindset you had before eventually. Well, THAT is bullshit.

I had an epiphany last year at a business conference in New York where there were so many people and I was so damn anxious I felt like I just had to get the fuck out of there, so I did. I went back to my hotel room and found a post about mindfulness on the front page that basically said "If you live in the past you'll be depressed. If you live in the future, you'll be anxious. We have 24 hours to live in. Once you realize you have one day to live life, all of your nervousness and regret will go away."

I don't know if it was the combination of the environment and pure luck, or if I just never understood what it meant to be in the moment, but it was like a switch flipped inside me, and all my anxiousness went away. I went back to the conference as a new person. And I've been living in the moment ever since.

So keep your thoughts focused. Focus on the moment and nothing else. Yesterday doesn't exist anymore. Tomorrow doesn't exist. Focus on today and keep that positivity moving forward.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

It's completely fine. It would have bothered me before but I know they just see it differently. And we all do here. I'm just trying to stay humble, be hungry, and chase whatever I want now.

Thank you though man.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a great mindset to have dude. Go out there and take what you want from the world. Someone has to do it. Thanks for sharing

[–]potaloma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man. That switch flip you mention, I got the exact same thing. But mine was from a combination of reading about delayed gratification, meditation, and immersion.

"If you live in the past you'll be depressed. If you live in the future, you'll be anxious.

This. When I meditate, I like to repeat, "There is no past, no history, no future, only now. I am what I am."

When I was able to clear my mind from anxious thoughts, I was able to 'control' myself. And that's what I needed. After all, how can I control others when I can't even control myself? Mastering the self leads to mastery over others. Every anxious thought is communicated outwards through body language. It's impossible to hide. Likewise, when your mind is calm, everyone else can sense it. Once I was calm, I found that I could make business calls, hit on women, and get numbers without any anxiety. The power of now is the most powerful weapon in my arsenal.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (2 children)

hey i am mexican and can relate to being labeled but i am not 6'5 though lol. I think intelligence plays a big factor in the kind of person you are. I surrounded myself with "my people" , but after the blunt went out, I realized that I didn't have that much in common with my friends other than trying to get fucked up and get girls. I didn't like the same movies or tv shows as them. Also I didn't really behave the same way they did. It made me really depressed after awhile because I came to realize I would never truly fit in with them. I had a lot of "friends" at the time, but slowly realized they weren't at all friends, just really close associates. The one thing that doesn't play a factor in race is intelligence, which pisses racist people off. This mexican or this black shouldn't be telling me what to do, even though God blessed with us a gift. I stopped feeling sorry for myself for being a smart Mexican and stopped trying to fit in with people who are a lot less smarter than me just to have friends. I am on the same lonely road as you, but you just got to love the internet because it gives me a place to read about like-minded individuals. I am 5'10 by the way and tbh I wouldn't have any other way.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Wow, honestly, thats exactly like me man. I'd go out with them, we smoke, then I realize how much I don't like them Tbh. And what made me stay was my extremely low self-esteem but now I just don't care. And it feels good.

This song I have been listening to lately is how I feel now (Not being entirely serious, just enjoy it). It's the new Big Sean song, "on the come up."

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I will make sure to check it out. I have been listening to Big Sean "bounce back" hard.

[–]mmkzero3 14 points15 points  (6 children)

There's a huge difference of having friends or no friends:

You only have friends if you are doing good in life and shitty when you have serious problems and no one wants to deal with you anymore.

And yes, of corse it's a lonely journey. Just fight for your dreams and you will be the one everyone looks up to.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 9 points10 points  (3 children)

Yup, you're right. The only people I should support now is my mom, even though she is depressed, she has never yelled at me or ever put me down. She has definitely put blue pill beliefs into my head but she's a woman, so it's in her nature.

I just wanna keep moving forward. Get big, stack money, and travel.

[–]mmkzero3 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Family first remember that Anyone else can be your best friend and at the next day a complete stranger

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Straight up. But I know some of the dudes on here even have shitty family situations and can't even rely on that, so I'm blessed in that regard.

Thanks man.

[–]mmkzero3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Boi ur welcome, life is a bitch, and we control it. Remember: "Not everything that shines is gold"

It's like a family photo: At first u think everyone looks happy but in real they are all having problems

[–]sir_wankalot_here 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You only have friends if you are doing good in life and shitty when you have serious problems and no one wants to deal with you anymore.

RP truth, experienced it first hand. When you get back on your feet, they go back to trying to suck your cock. More elite schools teach one how to suck cock more effectively without appearing to be a two faced piece of shit.

[–]mmkzero3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not only an rp truth, everyone will experience it once. It's like u being a coach who can't handle his players

[–]TheOneTrueMagnet points points [recovered]

As a black man who grew up in a middle class white and asian neighborhood, I just have to say that the words oreo and white-washed are far more hateful than nigga. Someone calling you nigga in hate won't stop you from reading, math, or science, but I have seen oreo and white-washed slap promising black men back into a nigga mindset. I went to a black high school for one year and I was never more hated than there. Uncle Tom was the nicest thing they would call me. They would use oreo, white-washed, and even a few porch niggas here and there to let me know that excelling in school was not what real black men did.

The vast majority of the young men in the black community are shit. They are going to wallow in drug enhanced self-pity and try to drag you down to their level. You are the hero of your own life story. You need to use this as a turning point in your life and cut off all those who try to hold you back. I suggest moving away as soon as possible. You are the average of those you associate with. If you hang around with losers, you will become a loser. If you hang around with winners, you will become a winner.

[–]1OneRedYear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always remember oreos come in packs. Roll with those who are like you. Boojie 4 life.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Had similar epiphany 5 years ago. Lifted, started a business, and now I'm very successful.

My advice? Start small. What you're talking about is what I call "midnight motivation." It's great, and often necessary, but you may find a week from now that you've lost the motivation because things aren't going perfect.

Write out next actions. Take them. It won't happen all at once. Take massive action, but don't expect the world. Keep reading what you wrote.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the wise words! Best of luck on your continuing journey too.

[–]bigOlBeta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. Don't worry about anything except lifting for a few weeks

[–]1scissor_me_timbers00 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey brother, no shame. You're still a young buck. Lift heavy, and go full alpha. You've got a lot going for you. Great height and genetics. Also you don't buy into all the identity politics BS blaming racism for every perceived injustice.

You sound like a social guy, which is a good thing. You realized it's not good to come off as a people pleaser. But don't be a prick either. If you want to be friendly to people, be alpha first, then your friendliness will be appreciated. But mostly go for the strong stoic type thing.

PS that must have been a sativa strain of weed. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with getting high every once in a while and frankly it can produce productive insight like you've had.

[–]newflame97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good for you brother.

Very underrated post. Cultivate discipline, not motivation. The motivation will come and go, true discipline and resiliency will build the habits necessary to turn this thing around. There are no excuses. It's on you, always has been.

You know what you need to do. Get it done.

[–]ShakaLeonidas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You gotta Lotta life to live my freind. START LIFTING. Physique does all the talking for you. All you have to do is not talk yourself out of the pussy. Introduce, listen, agree and amplify, withdraw attention. Repeat that in mass and youll convert opportunities then you'll squander.. As a another 6'5 Black guy(31). Women will be around so don't worry about attracting them as much as you have to worry about entrapment, mind games and pitt falls.

Once you get some money and a little status on top of the height and physique the literal world starts to shit test you. Adopt stoicism, listen and percieve more than you talk. Learn SPANISH and Portuguese. Drop the weed and drugs. Weed distracts you and drugs can spin out of control(look at half the black community) plus they make you age fast. TRAVEL outside the country. Literally book a $500 cruise to Mexico. You'll come back to the USA with a totaly different perspective of how you can live life. SAVE your credit and your cash and don't be no simp (Read Ester Villars "Manipulated Man".) It will keep you from spending your 30s and 40s fixing what you did in your 20s. DONT get caught up with the "Oreo" haters. I wasnt an OREO but my intellect did make my hood bretheren wary of my priorities.

MAKE MOVES IN SILENCE. You'll link up with similar minded individuals on the path to greatness.

Escape my brotha unshackle from the rigged game and the fucked up system.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Start doing something, then pat yourself on the back

[–]OldeEnglish85 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Hey man just wanna say I can relate to your situation, particularly the clarity that results from some good bud.

You're completely right on making full use of your advantages in life. You're tall, in shape, and seem to have a pretty good upbringing. Many guys would love to be in your position with your gift, so don't squander them.

My only suggestion is to not wear your RP on your sleeve. It makes us easy targets, perhaps when we slip up and say something that comes out wrong. There are many trying to hunt our kind.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Especially nowadays. You're definitely right, which kinda plays into why the ones around me really tried to make me blue pill. Especially girls. Im guessing they saw how I looked on the outside and thought "ohh shit he's gonna turn into another jerk, better end that..". Not even saying this to showoff honestly, just what i think.

Doesn't matter though, I'm awake now and I'm talking about needing support when you guys just gave the most I'll ever need on this journey. From now on, straight monk mode and saving up money. Luckily Im going back to school in September too for a new specialized business program that isn't overesaturated like most business programs out there. So just consistency and hard work.

[–]cosine88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just really really want tips from you guys on how you kept your mindsets so consistent

You will almost certainly slip at points, and return to your old habits and mental state... just make sure:

You only *partially slip

*Recognize that you slipped

*Do NOT beat yourself up over it - it is human nature

*Embrace that you are in a "rebuilding" sort of phase

*Come back and re-question everything

*Proceed honestly once again, and build yourself up even stronger the second time

Perhaps a little part of you died. That was the weak part. Now you are stronger.

[–]take1fortheteam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really enjoyed reading this. Makes me happy to see another waking up to reality!

Well, I've learned that, in order to avoid the highs and lows after reading TRP, I just removed all other subreddits except for nofap, motivation, and mildlyinteresting.

Literally every time I log into reddit I have only educational or at least mildly interesting things to read into. Every time I'm bored, guess what? I read another post on reddit and it's always a small step forward. I'd say I read around 10 posts per day. I also spend time to comment and reflect on what I read so it goes even deeper.

I take cold showers.

I listen to chill (literally in title: "Chill remixes") music on youtube.

I stopped giving people explanations about why I make certain decisions.

I somehow found a way to ignore the fact that some of the girls I'm plating may be sleeping with other guys, always being ready to walk away because I know that I am more important than anything they could provide.

I use blue filters on my pc and phone to avoid sleep deprivation.

I keep on my diet for fear of gastroenteritis reoccurences.

I'm taking meds for my anxiety.

I drink water, coffee, or juice. Period.

I try to encourage others as much as possible because my enthusiasm in helping others seems to leak into my own life.

I've locked in some projects of my own to make sure my time is always capable of being occupied with something productive at any given moment. (ex: Man I'm bored... well I guess I'll log on and keep working on instert project here)

I have google allo on my phone give me one interesting fact a day. Occupies my mind for a few minutes and I learn something new every day.

Just some of my things. Maybe it will be useful to someone. Who knows?

[–]420KUSHBUSH 6 points7 points  (3 children)

You seem like someone I'd like to hang out with. Also, this is a long shot, but is the first letter of your first name D?

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, it's not lol. It's actually B.

[–]Kennen1Trick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear you have gotten on the path to improvement. Hope you reach all the goals you're shooting for.

I'm a white guy from SC and throughout grade school it was truly troubling to watch the type of social pressuring that young blacks would experience from their own. You act like you care about school or want to do well, you become shunned, bullied, and picked on and the ramifications of that attitude severely affected the outcomes of a lot of those youths.

[–]Skeletors_Sack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great nutrition and working out consistently helps me keep my mindset strong.

[–]1Sir_Distic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me happy to read. Happy that another young man has woken up to the realities of life. Yes there's racism, yes there's gold digging women, yes there's petty "friends", yes people will judge you the instant they see you, etc. No you can't do anything about it,

Know what you can do something about? Your life. So make it amazing. Make it the best damn life you can. Go start a mission. Girls are not the mission. (I need to remind myself this as well.) I want a few nice material items, not much, a comfortable retirement and good friends while I grow old. I'm sure you do too. So go start your mission to get that. I'm not a weed guy, if it helps you think better or just relax at times, do you.

But whatever you do, do it for you and no one else. Love those who support and love you, but understand the reality is they love themselves far more than they ever will love you or anyone else. Everyone does. I do, you do.

But now that you've had an epiphany (and they feel amazing don't they?) do something with it. Don't waste this life. You've got a chance to make something great of yourself.

Or you can be a POS young black man caught up in the system, wasting away, in and out of prison, hateful mindset etc. It's all up to you. It's up to each and every Red Pill man to make the best of his life.

[–]JackGetsIt 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I think every group in society has intellectual meme traps like this. For white women it's 'the patriarchy' for black men it's 'whitey's system' for white males it's 'SJW!!, immigrants!', for old people it's 'Heathens, gov, Atheists, lazy kids! Media! Immigrants!" for the impoverished 'No jobs! Cost of Living! 1% control of everything!!' For the over educated it's 'nihilism and existential crisis, No intellectual jobs!'

The reality is that all of these are bullshit and 99% of the time just excuses for lack of initiative, planning, patience and hard work. You don't feel like doing something before you do it. You force yourself to start and you want to do it only after you start benefiting. Which is why things like building a strong body, a business, a career are becoming atypical and rare in society. They don't have immediate pay offs when you start them. They often take months or years before they pay off. People have lost a lot of grit and determination in modern society. The reality is the real problem for all these groups is dopamine abuse.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Never thought of it like that. That first paragraph is so true. Basically every group has a silent minority ACTUALLY doing shit, and a loud minoritiy or majority that aren't doing shit but are compensating for that by complaining and bitching.

[–]JackGetsIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know why your post got removed? Also you might like this video


[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you get these thoughts from a little herb you should probably stay away from Acid or Shrooms.

probably harboring racist feelings

Was part of your epiphany that race is not as important as gender in 21st Century America? Black guys. White guys. Brown guys. Red guys. We are all on the same team. We are all living in the same compost heap. We are all the singing, dancing crap of the world.

how you kept your mindsets so consistent

Read and study the sidebar. When you have completed that read it again- and every time your mind starts to waver. While you do that read The Rational Male, The Book of Pook, The Manipulated Male, No More Mr. Nice Guy, The Art of War, The Art of Seduction, The Meditations of Marcus Aralias, etc. I can't link to my book list but there is a 'red pill book' sub somewhere around.

[–]wendysNO1wcheese 2 points3 points  (2 children)

You sound like you’re 15.

"I'm sorry for cussing like this guys but part of me is definitely angry now at all the lies that have been thrown at me.”

Stop that.

I couldn’t get through this post.

[–]Child_downloader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah OP is a soaked sponge of cringe.

[–]cjandstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've got to start somewhere.

[–]KCMOVIEBUFF 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Have you seen this book from Aaron Clarey? Seems like a perfect fit to me. He will pull no punches. Good luck on your new life! (btw, I'm not implying that you're in poverty, he just has some excellent advice you should really get value out of). It's at Amazon.

The Black Man's Guide Out of Poverty: For Black Men Who Demand Better Paperback – February 9, 2015 - Aaron Clarey

Black men suffer more than any other racial or sexual group in America. They have the lowest standards of living, shortest life expectancies, highest incarceration rates and suffer other sociological and economic ailments. However, for the past 50 years virtually NO PROGRESS has been made in improving the lives of black men. We have to admit what we've been trying has failed and black men have paid the price. And it's time for that to change. Life is too short and too precious to live it under poverty, making only 67% of what white males do. Fathers and husbands are too important to be replaced by a government check, ruining families in the process. And futures too vital not to be lived to their full potential. If you're a black man and have had enough and want more out of life then "The Black Man's Guide Out of Poverty" is for you. Not just a book on "personal financial management," "The Black Man's Guide Out of Poverty" is specifically tailored towards the plight of black men. It addresses the sociological, economic, and political forces that hold them down. It shows you the path out of poverty. It lays out the road map towards a better life. And makes sure your one and finite life is a happy, well-lived one. Demand a better life than what politicians and society PERMIT you to have.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

No worries man, I am broke. And funny enough, before id just get mad but obviously that doesn't did get me shit cause I'm still broke.

So I really appreciate you giving this info brother. Thank you and best of luck on your journey.

[–]redditJ5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My friend I have news for you, you might not have any money but you aren't broke. You have something money can't buy. Intelligence, experience, motivation, and you are working on wisdom. You have woken up from your coma.

You know what it's like on the bottom, and you know what it's like to remain on the bottom. You have seen there are places to move up to and you have that hunger, that drive, that motivation.

You think you are able to get out of the shit hole bottom you are in now. You are wrong. I can tell you for certain you are getting out and you are going places with the mindset you have, no thinking about it.

[–]redrogue12 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Last night I was conversing with my father and we discussed how the black community in the USA keeps labeling themselves victims (I'm speaking in general). Ironically most racism I've experienced have been from black people. At some point the victim tag has to be removed and new positive beliefs have to be adopted if as a group they want to. Just like we as individuals have to stop complaining about how our lives suck, grab our balls and improve.

Even the term African American irks me so much. Aren't you an American?

Now that I think about it I just assumed where you are from. How dare I assume!

[–]insoucianc 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Historically, black people have missed out on many opportunities handed over to white people at their expense. Not only that, but some of their most successful cities and leaders have either been literally burned to the ground or shot. Saying black people aren't victims is woefully ignorant, it's like saying someone who's been chained down then raped and beaten should just get over it.

[–]redrogue12 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Where I come from we have ancestry from african slaves. Nobody cries over it. It is our past, we recognize it, we honor our roots, we move on. Get over it.

[–]insoucianc -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Black people make up 17% of the population and 37.7% of the prison population, with 49% of black males arrested by the age 23. Cops largely patrol metropolitan areas where black people are the most concentrated and have the least wealth, further occluding their opportunities for wealth or success. Upward mobility has stagnated due to mortgage discrimination, GI Bill exclusivity, redlining, the Rosewood Massacre and Tulsa Massacre, predatory penal policies, and much more. We have clobbered the knees of black people for the sole purpose of their continual subjugation and yet we wonder why they are still limping to become 1st-class citizens.

[–]redrogue12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have some good points and I'll just have to say I will never understand their grief. The racial segregation in the states is anathema to me. In the caribbean the racial mixing is so strong so our problems are of a different nature.

My point in the end is that nobody can fix your problems but you. You have to take responaibility of your destiny. And yes it is true they are at a disadvantage but that does not mean that that can forever be an excuse. Men learn to be strong men from other older strong men. Statistically the black families are broken. With a lack of enough good male role models there will still be problems with criminal behavior. Since I bet young black men can't identify with a white male role model, at least until he matures and grows, it is important that successful black males to mentor and fill that void in their communities. Not easy I bet but then how?

And by the way I do not want to unappreciate them in any way. It is just sad. When I served in Iraq I sat down with some other puertoricans at a table and the table behind us were all black. They got up and moved to another table. I was shocked how could they treat us the way they don't like to be treated. In general I found white people were far more tolerant and accepting. Sad really.

[–]rook785 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Nice post, but what do you want out of this? What is the next step for you, and what are you already doing to achieve it?

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

I don't wanna become a better version of myself. I will become the BEST version of my self.

The immediate next step is go to the gym next to my house, apply there too, if not there's job fairs this whole week and next. I have a list of books that I'm buying this week. I bought a journal, I put one entry in already.

There's more and more but there but yeah. I'm trying to also avoid saying I wanna do this and that. And just do it. But that's also conflicting with what I just said.

[–]rook785 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Why is being the best version of yourself so important to you?

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I know im selfish. I've always known im selfish. I've realized now the things I want (and I know this goes against what i said up there) like a nice body, lots of money, even more knowledge, traveling, meeting new people, and women are normal things to want for a man. Desire is in our veins and it's not shame to chase that. No matter what anyone says.

It's actually even more shameful to have these goals and do nothing about it.

[–]Aaronindhouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You found your purpose man. TRP gives you things that help you build a purposeful mindset. A man with purpose is a man always looking to achieve. You can't achieve until you improve to the point you achieve. You can't improve until you get real about what you need to improve on.

You have done step one. You realize what you want to improve on.

Write down every single thing you want to achieve. After that pick the two or three of the most important to you and write down what you can do first thing tomorrow to improve them.

The best way that I have found to keep me focused is to meditate. It helps you maintain perspective on things.

Realize that improvement happens over time. Day by Day. Every day you can be improving your body and mind a little bit.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice job mate. Don't forget to capitalise on the brief moments of clarity and transcendance by setting in motion permanent changes. Like forcing yourself to go to the gym for 1 week at least 4 days. Then force yourself another week. By the second or third week it'll feel a lot easier to go. I think a lot of people make the mistake of not taking life one day/week at a time. They make lofty goals that appear too lofty when the brief moment of clarity disappears.

I say this as a reminder to myself too haha.

[–]tableman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

>Because I know myself well and that I go into periods of sadness and depression. Honestly, who knows, I might even be bipolar, I don't know.

That's what pills are for. I usually take anti depressants for a week if I'm feeling really shitty until I feel normal again.

[–]Carlosc1dbz 0 points1 point  (5 children)

What is an Oreo? Is it derogatory?

[–]G4RRETT 1 point2 points  (4 children)

black on the outside white on the inside. Yeah it's usually derogatory because the "white on the inside" part means some sort of weakness or softenss.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)


I'd always heard it meant as a kind of "pretender" insult as well - you're black in skin colour but white in thought, so a "traitor" to your own kind. It's pretty nasty.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup and if any black person is smart enough, they'll realize it comes from a place of bitterness.

[–]bluedrygrass 0 points1 point  (1 child)

But of course that ain't raycist

[–]kiplaya points points [recovered]

Now that I think intelligence plays a big factor in the future, you will never succeed.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily true.

OP seems to indicate that he believes intelligence is a fixed quantity, it most certainly is not, but there's nothing to say that he can't change his mindset and adopt a better outlook.

[–]razezero1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to have you around friend!

[–]Ke9817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man thank you for honesty. That self awareness is beautiful. We all need to take a long look at ourselves and many of us will see our own bullshit. That's right we are full of bulkkshit. But, once we call ourselves on it we can proceed and move forward in a positive direction. Good on you my dude.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats because you have to go back.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the feeling that some people have missed the main point of your post so Id like to bring us back to the topic.

You have reached a moment of clarity where you see things for how they truly are and understand that you are the only person who can help better your current situation. These realizations come in stages, first you begin to realize how few people actually know what theyre talking about and so you begin to question the narratives being forced onto you. Next you realize how little you actually know compared to what you thought you knew about the world/most topics. It is during this stage that people tend to breakdown; it is often hard for most people to be honest with themselves/admit their own flaws/acknowledge some level of personal responsibility for consequences theyve suffered as a result of poor life choices. People do not like to view themselves in a negative light, they have no idea how to cope with the possibility that they are not as perfect as they once thought.

You seem like youve passed that stage and have moved into the psychoanalytic phase where you reflect on your past to try to better understand "why you are the way you are (for lack of a better phrase). This is when people get confused and begin to feel sorry for themselves; but you must realize that there has to be a turning point where you finally accept the things that have happened and commit yourself to living a life of importance by bettering yourself each day.

There will always be days that are awesome and others that are complete hell, the key is to try to swing the balance so that the good days out number the bad, or at least break even. It seems to me that youve realized that youve been focused on petty/unimportant things most of your life; being a man/alpha has absolutely nothing to do with how you look, how tall you are, or how many girls youve fucked. Those things are irrelavent to us because we havent the time to think about petty shit.

The best way to maintain a positive mindset is to recondition your brain to actually thing positively (i.e., write down 3-5 good things that went on during the day each night before you go to bed; this begins to rewire your brain to shift your unconscious focus so you begin to become more of an optimist). After a month you will be in a far better place and way more equiped to deal with darker issues.

For all the people telling you to quit smoking are idiots. What you should do is find out what kind of bud it was and whether it was predominantly indica or sativa (very important, especially if you may be bipolar because one is more of a stimulant type high while the other is more mellow). You seemed to benefit from what you smoked if you ask me (which is exactly why I love bud, it allows you to get in touch with whats important without having to spend the whole day tripping off acid lol.

I like how you said you couldnt give a shit about girls right now because thats good; you will be able to focus on the things you know are most important to your success. I often think guys on here forget who is in control; women will always be easy and there for the taking, your sanity will not. This is all coming from a very successful guy who happens to have Bipolar 1 (aka im manic all the time, huge risk taker, adrenaline junkie, IQ over 160, and the devils temper with the mind of a criminal lol). But guess what, the vast majority of the worlds greatest discoveries/feats of accomplishment have been by us Bipolar folk.

There is also a lot of science that suggests alpha/masculinity and Bipolar 1 (not bipolar two, those people do not have the same gift, their minds are not unstopable machines capable of anything and everything). So dont let the mental health stigma keep you down, we are able to see the world for what it really is, its the other people I feel bad for.

My advice to you is to start writing far more often and shift your focus towards gaining as much knowledge about the world as possible. Try to find the meaning in your suffering so you not only survive, but thrive in all you do. And keep yourself out of your comfortzone at all times, the moment you start feeling comfortable is when you trick yourself into thinking that youve solved your problems and suddenly they reappear.

Its always better to seek the deeper meaning to life and the things you see going on around you than to just settle for some bullshit that leaves you feeling empty and unfulfilled on your death bed.

One thing i have noticed on TRP is how often people label themselves as being successfull. What criteria are we all basing personal claims of success on? And successful relative to who and in what areas. This info is important because most people generally have no idea what theyre talking about, which is why people tend to only want to listen to themselves; so if people are defining their level of success in life according to which girls/how many theyve fucked, or how high they got their bench up then I think we may need to reevaluate their life goals and whether or not their opinions are worth listening to.

[–]Luckyluke23 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I feel you man. right now, I'm chasing whatever is at the bottom of the captain margins bottle.

thing is, I KNOW this is a faze and I KNOW i will get through this. Most people are just scared of success. I realized this yesterday when I told my friend i couldn't do another set of leg press. ( was a hard set before) he kept complaining saying it's in my head. just to shut him up, I did another set of 10.

so maybe he is right, Or maybe i just don't want to be " that guy" I mean I've been doing gym now for 1 year and I'm virtually the same weight ( i am stronger ).

I know it's hard, but you have to project that guy in your mind before you can BE that guy

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, and I'm not saying this from a place of experience but I'm pretty sure you just need to eat a lot more. I've been reading and it says most of us overestimate how much we eat so it's vital to calorie count or have a rough idea of how much you're consuming.

[–]Luce_Bree points points [recovered]

From one Black man to another, I want to congratulate you for recognizing this:

Yes, I'm black. Yes some people will fear me and place judgments on me. That's the same for everyone. Me bitching and crying about it will not do shit. It will not do a single fucking thing.

Cats like you and me are proof positive that NABALT, lol.

[–]ArtNoize 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I like smoking weed. I don't smoke regularly, probably just once a month to get introspective with my self amongst other things.

[–]Je_suis_throwy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, Most good advice has already been given to you, so i can't say much more. I observed a tiny detail WHY you and generally everyone should have a plan for life: You will not do anything if you don't know what you should do. Figure it out, man. Godspeed.

[–]insoucianc 0 points1 point  (3 children)

I agree with a lot of your points but the self-hatred for your own skin color is alarming.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

It is man, but it's the realities of it. I don't hate black people at all man, I love them. But I just see them as other people now instead of putting one a pedestal just cause they're black. And most around me just fit a stereotype and live life by complaining.

And honestly, they might have valid reasons for a lot of why they do what they do but that has nothing to do with my life. Harsh truth but at the end of my life, it's only me in my grave. So family is all I care about.

[–]insoucianc 0 points1 point  (1 child)

White people complain too, just take a glance around TRP.

You should be using your skin color to empower yourself. We are the strongest, fastest, and oldest race on the planet. Smack your stupid friends upside the head and tell them to dream bigger.

[–]WonderingTdot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both know doesn't matter how many times you tell someone, if they don't want to help themselves, then its a waste. And I've tried, and my voice was shunned because my status wasn't high enough. Which makes sense. I accept that now.

[–]CrazedHyperion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there. To improve your level of happiness, you should find something to be successful in. I believe that you should do college. But not any major, do some branch of engineering. I find the engineers to be the most color-blind people ever. (but of course, I have no concrete proof of that, only my personal experience, and I am white, so there). Focus on that and earn a degree. Get some pussy on the side, without major commitment, if you can. Remember, just because you don't have a criminal record today, it doesn't mean that you may not have one tomorrow. If you associate yourself with people of bad reputation, you may end up getting mixed in their plans and schemes that may be criminal. So, I advise you to break out of your social circle and build a better circle. I hope it helps.

[–]King_Webb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make your life about you. That's all that matters. For the fear, sadness and depression you feel, take some vitamin D, seriously. Get the vitamin D level regulated and your depression and sadness will melt away. Fear is the result of sadness and depression. That'll go away. Make it happen!

[–]Heyokalol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to expand a little on what you said.

You're probably not bipolar. When you tell that shit to yourself, you prepare a way not to take responsibility and allow yourself to feel down and fuck around. It is insidious and probably a relic of beta conditioning.

About jobs and careers, any employer in his right mind is going to hire you if you can make them money. Employers don't care about the color of your skin, they want to see green, that's all. Become an expert in your field and you will never have to worry about money ever again.

Take care.

[–]nebojssha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, a tip, pick an instrument and learn to play. Or learn to draw, paint, basically anything that will train your creative side. It really helps mentally, and it can become side source of income.

[–]NoodlesTheClown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have goals, and make measurable progress toward them each day. Time either works for us, or against us. If you are not making progress, then due to the passage of time, you are moving backward. Your worth depreciates if you remain stationary, so keep moving forward. By having this epiphany, you are already ahead of most men. What matters now is daily action. Also, kill your television, forever.

[–]Jollarn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did this myself a couple of years ago, never looked back

[–]SmilingWatermelon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great post man. I myself had the same realization a couple years ago. As a black man myself I see no point in bitching about what I can not Change. Getting called a nigger isnt really an issue cause thats our reality. People feel how they feel.

The thing that bothers me the most are blacks that blame white oppression for all their issues. Same with any other race. That mentality alone is their handicapp. I've met black men and women with so much potiential that are going no where because they believe its a white mans world. It may be but I think the world is slowly shifting in that regard and we need more people to pioneer that shit.

Anyways only advice I want to give is this, consistency is key. You'll need to alter your lifestyle to fit in with making progress towards your goals. Do it. Every single day. Being black has its disadvantages like you said, but if youre aware of them, you can work around them. I cant even tell you how many friends I've made specifically because they wanted a tall black hood friend. Regardless of why, these people have shown themselves to great people. Especially the whites. So just avoid going where you're not wanted.

Also if youre ever /u/wonderingTdot feel free to hit me up. We can smoke a bowl or something haha.

[–]NotNormal2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is about relationships and networking. Don't burn too many bridges.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just really really want tips from you guys on how you kept your mindsets so consistent because it's so easy to read some shit on RP, feel good for an hour or two, then go back to whatever habits you had before.

Just like that.

Habits become mindset.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adopt core values or at least one core value for now.

You live your life following those values. You act on them and you judge your decisions on them.

Funny because you see people spouting creeds and values all the time, but those you see doing so, do they really follow what they say? Can you see that these values and creeds are a "part" of them? Nope.

For me, I shaped myself early on with one core value that was "Have Confidence". I did whatever I could to improve my belief in myself. The easiest way was to improve myself because hey, when you actually have shit to back yourself up it is much easier to be confident. I learned speaking skills, I learned to flirt, I gained some academic achievements. My initial "fake" confidence eventually became real confidence.

Kinda sad that BP conditioning from early on held me back a bit. I would have loved if I started becoming fit back then too but I had the old "look down on muscle heads" mentality back then.

[–]Avskygod0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, you probably got sativa weed instead of indica

[–]memphisjohn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good post. Thanks. And, congratulations, winner.

[–]saucedup2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now if only I was this productive everytime I got high. I had to quit because of how lazy I became everytime I'd get high

[–]Lookingforaspot points points [recovered]

That is some good writing there. Worth to get into textbooks. You should be a copywriter. Well maybe you are

[–]Andrew54321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good copywriting puts words in your head on the paper in front of you.