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Red Pill ExampleThanks Redpill. You broke me out of a decade-long loop of voluntary beta-ization and bitchdom. (self.TheRedPill)

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I've always been a bad ender. I get into relationships with mediocre women, and get invested in them, and then this happens:

  1. I realize they aren't a good fit for me, or they pull some bullshit that merits a breakup.

  2. Instead of breaking up with them, I stay. I turn myself into a bitch and then subsequently get treated like a bitch. I get surly and argumentative and passive-aggressive. We start fighting a lot.

  3. Then the girl loses attraction, and a messy breakup follows.

Well, I finally broke the cycle. It took me ten years to get my balls back, but I feel like a new man.

I was in a relationship with this most recent girl for two years, and after one year, I knew I wanted out. But I constantly told myself stuff like:

"Her dad just died, I can't leave her now."

"She's depressed and needs my help. I'm all she's got."

"She's more beautiful than any other girl I've been with."

"Her friends are cool and provide social value to me."

"She'll get better eventually, and our spark will come back."

But let me tell you. It was fucking awful. She was constantly bitter, moody, distant. She never wanted to go out or do anything fun. All she wanted to do was smoke weed and watch TV and bitch and moan. I watched her lose three different jobs, and she always victimized herself, and always villainized me. And yet I stuck around, I kept putting up with it, even after the sex life dwindled to a pitiful minimum.

But eventually things got so bad that I did everything I could to reject her without actually ending it. My desire to be free of her pervaded all of my actions. Eventually she became so frustrated that she broke up with me. But I kept trying to get her back and win her over again, but I could never follow up on my promises to "be better" because I didn't actually want to "be better." I wanted out.

So we got back together a few times. Kept trying to work it out. We started seeing other people, but we kept trying to rebuild our relationship at the same time.

Finally, I discovered Redpill, and then I discovered No More Mr. Nice Guy! and I realized these things:

  1. I'm a bad ender. It's my responsibility to get the fuck out of a bad situation.

  2. I've been living my life based around pleasing women, and putting myself second to women.

  3. I lived to please women because I was still "monogomous" with my mom, and my dad was an emotionally absent, emotionally week beta.

  4. I'm still a "boy" even though I'm 28. I never really transitioned into true "manhood." I realized my text-messages and instagram were full of women, and my only guy friends were similar "Nice Guys" who beta-ize themselves with women and are insecure.

  5. I need to stop getting into these stupid LTR's and focus on my life goals, my fitness, and my friendships with MEN.

  6. I need to find some way to grow into full manhood and get in touch with my anger, my strength, and my masculinity.

So, a week ago, I finally ended the stupid cycle with my ex. I told her, "This isn't working out. I need to make a clean break here. Good luck with your new job."

She texted back "Wow, okay. Good luck to you too." I did not respond and that was the last I've heard from her.

This was a huge deal for me, because the last time I had the balls to directly end a relationship with an LTR was in HIGHSCHOOL. I've gotten out of bad LTRs before, but I was always a manipulative little bitch about it. No more.

Yeah, I miss her sometimes. Yeah, I am tempted to text her sometimes. But I feel a huge amount of pride in myself for doing this. I have my nutsack back. It is incredible how much it has boosted my confidence.

The only problem is that now, I find myself almost involuntarily losing frame with other women because I'm lonely, and I want to fill that hole that my ex left. Even though I am practicing abundance, I find myself worrying when a girl doesn't text back, or stressing over what to say in a text. I am learning more about holding frame over text, but I keep making mistakes. But I'm holding strong, focusing on exercising and my career goals and taking care of myself.

This is just the beginning for me, but I have already learned so much thanks to this Sub, and thanks to No More Mr. Nice Guy! and Models by Mark Manson.

So thank you gentleman, you've enabled me to save my own life.


[–]1empatheticapathetic 152 points153 points  (5 children)

Don't text her back. That's a simple rule you don't and will not break under any circumstances. Period.

This pain you're feeling now is a growing period. Embrace it and keep reading. Fail with women, lose frame, realise it doesn't matter. Some success is important though, otherwise you might fall into some depression. Keep a stoic perspective and look at the bigger picture.

Glad to hear you are doing well. Good luck.

[–]Ostradamus 42 points43 points  (1 child)

I love your phrasing: "Fail with women, lose frame, realize it doesn't matter." The last part about realizing it doesn't matter is the most important part. Wayne Gretzky - "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Came to write this. Don't dare text her again. And enjoy the knowledge that her hamster is going absolutely ape shit, wondering what you're doing and why your text hasn't come yet.

[–]1Sir_Distic 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You did well. I'm glad NMMNG helped you. It's a great book.

No man becomes Red Pill overnight. It takes time. Keep working on yourself. Be brutally honest with yourself. You'll get there.

[–]animationphilosopher 48 points49 points  (1 child)

If your self esteem has been exclusively built upon a foundation of women, there will be strong temptation to just find another one to fill the void. Best thing you can do is focus on building a life and self esteem that is all about YOU. Good luck!

[–]GfiPal 17 points18 points  (2 children)

Great Job. Remember, enough time and discipline can solve almost anything.

For now: hit the gym, read, and pick up a hobby. Soon enough, your confidence will build and your ex will be forgotten.

Anyway, Best of luck.

[–]KickinWangg 14 points15 points  (4 children)

I wouldn't even worry about abundance mentality. It sounds like you are somewhat new to TRP so you should start/continue improving yourself first. Women are a lagging indicator of success, so if they're scarce in your life, its most likely due to your SMV being low. Or you're not approaching enough. Start approaching.

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    [–]Peter_B_Long 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    It sounds more like you have enough female friends to juggle, which you shouldn't. Keep in mind that women who have seen you as beta will continue to see you as beta even if you are improving yourself and are 'alpha af'.

    I know that it's an awesome mindset to have in your mind, 'just wait, after 4 weeks of hitting the gym every day and drinking protein shakes and meditating and cold showers, all my female friends are gonna want my dick.'

    Once women perceive you as beta, they want to keep in their mind that that is who you are. When you begin to improve yourself and start changing, these woman are going to rock your frame so hard that it's really not even worth it.

    It's best to start with new woman, who will see you as the man you currently are, and not the boy you used to be.

    PS. Some men will also give you shit and try to break your frame, because we as a species don't really like change. We tend to put a label on people and leave it as that. People changing and becoming different than what we are comfortable with insults our levels of judgement and we just don't like that.

    [–]Alchemist_XP 11 points12 points  (9 children)

    Haha I'm 28 and feel the same way. Growing up my dad was a beta, and my mom walked over him his whole life, my mom always told me to treat women like princesses and do all this for them and that I had to grow up and find a girl and get married. I was soft until my mid 20s. Lately I just give zero fucks what women think, but I do think I've taken it too far as I'm pretty resentful of women because I see them as manipulative people that just want to trick men into doing things for them, get kids out of them and screw them over later in life. Because of this I don't think I'll ever be able to open up to another female again. Last couple times I got somewhat close with a girl I would just cut her off and stop talking too her when shit got too real. Be careful out there man... shits tough.

    [–]HappyMexican 3 points4 points  (3 children)

    28 year old here as well. Odd time for us. We are just getting into stride with our careers (Hopefully), and feels weird not being married. Most women you will run into our age will be married as well. If you are decent looking prepared to be hit on by a lot of 30 year olds!

    I agree. I get a lot of pressure from my family and friends to "settle down". My own older brother who I am living with right now, is on me on daily basis about finding "The one". He is an old fashioned guy. He is going as far as showing pictures of me to his co workers cause he thinks I need the help. I am a bit offended but, I know it comes from a good place. And you never know, I may get laid from it hah!

    Family will not understand the work you will put into a new version of yourself, but will be grateful for it down the line. When I was in a LTR years ago, I was severely lazy, obese, selfish and all those things you posted about. My family did not listen too or respect me very much back then. Currently, they are always asking my advice, and act much more respectful. My own brother too, has said he is very proud of the me I have become. He said that just last couple of days. He never said that when I was younger.

    It is funny too, as their solution back then is the same now. Find a lady and settle down. If I would have done that I would still be 310 pounds and going no where with my life. After years of focusing on myself. I lost 100 pounds, make above average money from degree I finished and just a better, wiser, and more charming person in general.

    [–]Meteorboy 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    You weighed 310 lbs? How did you get any exercise done since it would have been painful, especially on your joints?

    [–]HappyMexican 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Its true I did. In retrospect diet change and walking is enough for someone that fat... but I didn't know that back then (Whoops).

    So after dropping about 10 pounds, I started jogging at the gym. It was super embarrassing and I felt horrible as I thought everyone was looking at me.I would only make it 10 minutes around the gym before I felt like dying and had to stop.

    Other days I would hit up elliptical machine. That is what I would recommend to any other super fatties. For those who don't know it looks like this. A bicycle machine or swimming in a pool (Indeed probably the best for joints). I never really did this but I have been told these are good alternatives.

    Ok so, This next statement controversial, but I still believe it to this day.

    When you are that fat I would strongly recommend you do not lift heavy. Which goes against common advice on here. Two big reasons is that:

    1. It will make you hungrier in the short run, and you may lose motivation/get depressed cause your weight loss is slower/stalled.

    2. You are indeed, more prone to injury as your are stressing your joints out further. May cause more damage in the long run

    I can name 5 other reasons too, but those are the biggest. I strayed away from lifting til I got below 220.

    [–]spisakmc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    At my peak I was over 300 as well. I biked a lot, easy on the joints, great cardio, until I was able to start running more and more.

    [–]rektHav0k 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Anger is only the second stage, brother. You need to get to acceptance. Make sure you've read up on the items on the sidebar, they help with the transition.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    it's funny bc my mom actually buys into TRP (not by name though) and then she trys to shit test when I call her on it

    [–]mfshit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Yo, don't go too far down this rabbit hole. You met some questionable women, but that doesn't automatically indicate that all women are as such.

    Sometimes you just buy a bag of apples, and some of them are bruised. That doesn't mean they're all bad.

    [–]MoukaLion -4 points-3 points  (1 child)

    You sound like a neckbeard .

    Are you sure there is even a women interested in you ?

    [–]Alchemist_XP 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    hahaha i sound like a neckbeard? well i can assure you im not. but for a women to be interested in me, id have to actually meet a woman and not just work... and go home :P .. i havent been to any social gatherings in quite some time now.

    [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

    I'm still a "boy" even though I'm 28. I never really transitioned into true "manhood." I realized my text-messages and instagram were full of women, and my only guy friends were similar "Nice Guys" who beta-ize themselves with women and are insecure.

    Honestly as long as they are liking your posts and shit it just improves your smv.

    Like coach corey wayne and some of the rsd guys said, times are changing and social media is a god way to build value and circles.

    6) I need to find some way to grow into full manhood and get in touch with my anger, my strength, and my masculinity.

    Congrats on breaking the cycle

    [–]Redteen224 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    I hope you realise you broke yourself out just as much as anyone here did. RP just gave you the knowledge. You did the work man, good on you.

    [–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 11 points12 points  (3 children)

    You need to read both of the rational male books asap

    [–]A_Bridgeburner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    OP listen to this. These books are 100% the next step.

    [–]elcarlosmiguel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    this read them OP plus "the book of pook" and the red pill handbook(google it)

    [–]cashmoney_x 7 points8 points  (4 children)

    YOU NEED TO STAY AWAY FROM WOMEN FOR AT LEAST SIX MONTHS.

    Ffs man, you're a mess.

    [–]ImTooCozy 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    This. I went into monk mode for a 8 months, working on myself, getting back on track with my mission, and loving myself again. Now I've learned how to pick out feminine women that contribute to MY life...I was too blind to do this before! It's worth the wait!

    [–]cashmoney_x 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I never left lol. Been almost 5 years- life's honestly never been better. I had no idea such mental clarity/peace existed past pre-pubescent childhood.

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      [–]Wampyr420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Also 28 here. Similar parental situation. Was also an overgrown boy till 27. Took 8 months of full-time monk mode in which I worked out and studied power, chess and the red pill. When I returned to humanity, I had stopped caring about external things. There is so much to this life that will be unlocked to you during sobriety. Good luck with your journey brother.

      [–]spisakmc 8 points9 points  (4 children)

      As a fellow 28 year old also just swallowing the pill im there with you. It all came to a head for me in december. Restaurant I was managing closed over night, I let the owners use me past my breaking point, stressed me beyond my limits, used weed to help get me through it too much. Then my first ltr, first "girlfriend" of 3.5 years left me, was seeing a beta bitch white knight behind my back for months, the last bit of beta boy I had in me was drained over the next month as she kept me on the back burner. But i said fuck that, fuck 2016, im going to make 2017 my bitch. Lost a good bit of weight, joined coed soccer and kickball leagues, got back into college for engineering (the dude she left me for manages a pretzel shop in the mall, and hes older. Shit you not). This year im honestly not even worried about women, my whole life i thought "if/when i have a gf things will get better..." but her leaving the way she did showed me how wrong i was. Wrong in my priorities in life, so this year its all about rebuilding myself. Not going to be a doormat. Not going to put my happiness into anyone other than myself. Rebuild my body, mind, spirit, and soul using the rp to kick myself out of my old routines. Like they said, its growing pains we go through but getting over it will only make us stronger.

      [–]HappyMexican 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Great. Keep going. I starting doing these type of things back when I was 24 and now I am 28. Totally worth every second you put in. Your biggest issue down the line wont be lack of success but lack of goals because you achieved them already. I set out to lose 100 pounds, finish my degree, get my lay number way up, and make at least 40k a year in a career, not just a job. Solid goals for a unemployed, recently dumped, morbidly obese, college drop out.

      Now that I did all that, and make a good chunk more then 40k a year even, Not sure what to do next! I am very happy I did those things though for sure.

      [–]spisakmc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Thanks man. I doubt there will be a lack of goals, one of the problems that caused this too was that I became complacent. But wont fall into that trap again. So many places to see in this world. So many things I would want to accomplish with my future career. Still have a couple of years of college, basically started fresh, but Im going to enjoy it this time. Take it seriously, use this year to gain frame and purpose, and the rest will just be surplus. The women will come, but right now its time to get my life back on track. Good to hear about your feats though, I know how hard it is to lose a bunch of weight like that, especially with everything else in life going the way it was. It would be easy to give in, but best things in life dont come easy.

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        [–]spisakmc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Yeah the more and more that i read and talk to other guys, the more i hear the same thing. I couldnt believe that she would do this to me, literally told me "i dont think you realize how much i love you" the night before she broke up with me after fucking her brains out. Asking me if i thinks she should get her tubes tied. But i was monkey branched, she immediately started seeing him the next day. They post dated a relationship status on fb to dec 3rd, 2 days after the breakup, on jan 13th. Unfriended her and havent talked to her since. I trusted her, believed her when she said that he was just a friend, promised me theres nothing to worry about. I had to learn this lesson the hard way, but fucking better believe i wont forget it.

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        [–]dykedestroyer 13 points14 points  (0 children)

        You don't need some kind of personal confrontation to move on from a girl or to make it official. It's no more a valid way to break up. All it takes is his will and determination. He could have ghosted her, it's more than she deserved. Delete number, block her socials, peace out

        [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        That is the pussy way but to be fair, the way she seemed relieved he actually broke up with her, I don't think she minded.

        [–]Saskatchemoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Talks about leaving the beta life behind then breaks up over text.

        [–]bouncycar1447 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        You gonna cry about it?

        Try reading everything he wrote.

        [–]7Tomus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        Ok, so you just disposed your gf and first thing you are doing is fishing for another? You know that the second you "succeed" and get a new one, you regress to your former self and get comfortable. Dont fucking chase women now, make sure you have something in your life that makes your morale afloat, and then when you are satisfied you are ready to chase pussy again. If your happiness depends solely on women you are fucked sooner or later.

        [–]yummyluckycharms 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        Women owe nothing to men, men owe nothing to women.

        I've dumped women for the most casual of reasons and probably worst of times for them. Zero fucks were given and I'd do it again in a heart beat. Being a man is about making tough choices - not winning popularity contests.

        [–]SanjayMethylPump 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Congratulations, brudda.

        She was facing a very difficult time with the loss of her father, and you were there for her for an entire year. She pushed you away and abused you, because perhaps she unconsciously felt undeserving. With her it would have ended badly. She may have cheated on you or done worse as she was unconsciously motivated to have you abandon her after losing her father. The fact that you were so supportive in the midst of her bad behavior is very telling.

        You did a good job. It is not your responsibility to save her. It seems her father's death triggered a breakdown and her true self and all her unresolved issues came to the fore. She need stherapy, not a relationship. If you guys remained together it would have ended very terribly, and you are 28. You need to focus on upping your net worth and being the best version of yourself.

        What you did was painful but you built your pride and dignity. No man should, regardless of the circumstances, put up with abuse and a bad relationship. Imagine if you bent over even further for her and it still ended. You would have lost a great deal of self-worth. Being a man is about making very painful decisions for the better of yourself. That, my friend, is what you did here. Congrtulations.

        [–]thetrpthrowaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I was reading your text, wanting to get to the comments... and bam

        and then I discovered No More Mr. Nice Guy!

        That's what I've wanted you to do. I'm at the end of the book, god. It's amazing how accurate can a book be.

        [–]Bombtheshitoutofem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Great work my man. My best piece of advice for you still "involuntarily losing frame", is that it seems like you're (at this point, which is common) only trying to "look the part" of the abundance mentality, strong man, etc. That's okay because we all start here. The key is to develop your self confidence to the point where you no longer just seem not to pedestalize these girls, but actually don't. Hit the gym, develop new skills, and soon enough you'll have the confidence and looks to back up your newly found outlook. Best of luck.

        [–]massivewang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Awesome man! I found TRP at 27 and that book as well, changed my life. I'm 32 now and I've grown a ton, almost s complete 180 to who I was. I still struggle and am no means alpha male God, but it's night and day.

        Do the hard work, celebrate the small successes, and don't lose hope. In a few years you won't believe who you've become and how far you've gone.

        [–]newName543456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        "Wow, okay."

        As response to break up that should tell you everything about how (little) invested she was in you.

        [–]Pkrizzy 4 points5 points  (2 children)

        Lol how did texting her to end the relationship "give you your balls back"

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          [–]Pkrizzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Bro, you are seriously a trooper. Comment retracted lol. Sorry you had to go through that, glad.to hear you're doing well now. 😎

          [–]666pede666 1 point2 points  (6 children)

          Honestly the best advice I can give you is to not jack off. Give it a few days. Usually past two or three days you'll be at your worst for women interactions. DO NOT GO ON DATES AT THIS TIME. But past that its like you exude this confidence that just works. Recommend 5 days+ and you'll be where you need to be. It's hard but worth it for talking to women. (not to sound like those nofap people but it has worked for me)

          [–]fischbrot 4 points5 points  (5 children)

          but then when you have sex, you cum in 30 seconds? i speak from experience : p

          [–]666pede666 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          that's the trade off ¯_(ツ)_/¯

          [–]fischbrot 1 point2 points  (3 children)

          3) I lived to please women because I was still "monogomous" with my mom, and my dad was an emotionally absent, emotionally week beta.

          care to elaborate? thanks bud

          [–]adamantium_bender 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          Is a point of view from the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, "Nice Guys Tend To Be Monogamous To Their Mothers", you can read in the chapter 6 about this. (Tip: You can find this book for download at r / redpillbooks - mega book collection v2.0)

          [–]Moneyley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I feel you man! Glad you broke out of it.... here is what it likely felt like huh?

          https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/e0/6d/2c/e06d2ce5c46da2191ea423be4248d91e.jpg

          [–]untitled_redditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Keep your standards high and your balls swinging free.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Nice work mate. Whenever you feel tempted to call/text her, remember the pure misery of the relationship.. and channel gratitude that you are free of it.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Now time for all the bitches.

          [–]ransay3277 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Glad your back on board. Take others advice here and don't text her. And if you do run into her and she wants to reconnect... Tell her "That wouldn't work in my current situation." Don't elaborate. (Your current situation is that you are avoiding problem women.)

          [–]purplecabbage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Dude, I give you big props. You're post is a condensed version of my 20 year marriage that is now ending. You are doing great; I discovered what you have found when I was 42! You're on the right track, and this RP shit is true! I've got a post in the works to prove it. Spoiler: I'm 44 and hooking up with a 28yo and the RP truths just keep coming. Its fascinating.

          [–]Peter_B_Long 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Don't text all day with girls. Only text to plan meetups.

          [–]mak11 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          Wow, I am right there with you on 1-6. It's crazy to read something that I can completely identify with. I was in a shit relationship for four years that I wanted to end after one. Now it's two years later, we are still friends and talk but are never getting back together. She has a new Bf that she's moving in with and I truly wish her the best with that. I've been with a few women since we broke up. I'm not much of a player so it's just been steady things with three girls. Two of them already had plans to leave town before we stared hooking up, so they left and I went incel for awhile. Most recently started seeing a girl from high school, but she lives six hours south so it was long distance. It fizzled out after awhile because I became aware that she was probably hooking up with other guys. That would have been fine had I been hooking up with other girls, but I wasn't.

          I discovered RedPill two days ago and am working through the sidebar and Mystery Method. Sounds like I should read No More Mr. Nice guy as well.

          Went out to a club tonight after a Bumble date and it was pretty fun. Some of my acquaintances were there, but I ended up dancing most of the time. Even though MM says no dancing, I can't help it because I have fun. There was a set of two 10s, one of whom looked like she could be Emily Ratajowski's sister. I did not have the balls to talk to them. Kicking myself for beta bullshit. Gotta get back on the horse and try again. Gym tomorrow. Study. Read.

          All the best to you bro. If you ever wanna talk pm me.

          [–]alefmale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          My desire to be free of her pervaded all of my actions. Eventually she became so frustrated that she broke up with me.

          Realized I do this a while back. Beta as fuck, to manipulate her so that she needs to make the decision to end it and I get to feel like the victim with no responsibility. Much better to be the responsible person and be honest with myself about what I want. If shit ain't working, shit ain't working. And it doesn't have to work, because abundance.

          [–]lyndasmelody1995 0 points1 point  (11 children)

          So you grew a pair by breaking up with her via text. I don't think you grew a pair at all. You broke up with her the least confrontational way. 404: Balls still not found

          [–]ImTooCozy 2 points3 points  (3 children)

          People are overanalyzing this. What is he supposed to do now, call her and tell her it's over after he's already sent the text because TRP is bashing him for having no balls? No.

          He ended it, it's a clean cut, and the end result is the same. Now go into monk mode and work on yourself. The past is the past.

          [–]lyndasmelody1995 1 point2 points  (2 children)

          I never said he could fix it. I said he still had no balls

          [–]ImTooCozy 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          Most people don't have balls before they find TRP. It's practically a prerequisite.

          [–]lyndasmelody1995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          He said he grew a pair. He did not.

          [–]newName543456 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          Why are people still having that dogmatic idea that confrontation is some sign of ballsiness?

          [–]lyndasmelody1995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          It doesn't have to be confrontational. But he doesn't get to pretend that he did this big fucking thing by sending a text message. Big fucking deal

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            [–]lyndasmelody1995 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

            If he's talking about being a man and growing a pair, yeah. Breaking up through text is the most cowardly way to break up

            [–]juliusstreicher 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            Just to give a different perspective: Perhaps he overcame society's pressure to break up with her 'face to face, like a real man'. Also, there is no real need to be confrontational. He did what HE wanted, not to make her feel good.

            Just a thought. I'm hardly one to give alpha advice, but, I can see that any face to face stuff takes a person's time and sometimes cash, if he's doing it at a restaurant. Chicks, when they break up, rarely give so much as a fuck you, they are so busy sucking a new dick, so, perhaps he's finding himself.

            [–]lyndasmelody1995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            That's BS. Every time a guy breaks up with me via text it's 10 times worse and it's the cowards way out.

            [–]lawstuff11300 -1 points0 points  (2 children)

            you will be back with her in a month begging her to take you back because your a loser

            people dont change, they never change, its in your fucking blood

            your going to go through a long dry spell of chassing of women by being a redpill idiot and then a year from now weed girl is going to be living on your couch again

            EDIT: YOU WILL NEVER WRITE A BOOK

            YOU WILL NEVER STICK TO YOUR NEW GYM REGIME

            YOU WILL NEVER GET BETTER

            YOU WILL GET OLDER WEAKER UGLIER AND CONTIUE TO BE WEAK AND POOR

            AND THEN YOU WILL DIE- QUICKLY FORGOTTEN WITH NOTHING IN YOUR LIFE

            WE ALL WILL DIE, JUST A MATTER OF HOW AND WHEN

            I TAKE SOLACE THAT I HAVE KILLED OTHER MEN- I HAVE TAKEN EVERYTHING THEY EVER EARNED OR EVER WILL EARN- THAT I DID THAT, FOREVER

            [–]ballerina12-24 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

            You sound like a pathetic loser.

            [–]GoofyPoltergeist -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

            What a bunch of pathetic, babymen you are kek