Red Pill TheoryYou are your mission. Period. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Endorsed ContributorWoujo

The most important thing in a man’s life is his mission. Without your mission, you are nothing.

You are your mission. Period.

When I say mission, I don’t mean your job. Your mission is building an incredible life – good friends, good relationships, spiritual, mental and physical health, fun hobbies, challenges, leisure, intellectual growth, and fun. The idea that a man’s mission is only his job is a modern invention designed to turn people into drones who sacrifice their entire lives for their jobs. By the same token, your job is a critical part of your mission. Just as the idea that a man’s mission is just his job is harmful, there is an equally harmful idea that you are a “slave” to the system if you dedicate yourself to a career and work a 9 to 5 job. A career is often the best way to challenge yourself, and you can live a beautiful and fulfilling life working a 9 to 5, so long as you are not doing it just to make society happy or feed your addictions.

The purpose of life

Since writing was invented, philosophers have tried to figure out what the highest pleasure in life is. Some said honor. Some said physical pleasure (food, sex, etc…). Some said spiritual enlightenment. Some said knowledge.

They are all wrong. The highest pleasure in life for a man or a woman is to follow their mission because following your mission includes within it all of the other pleasures. When I pursue my mission, I learn things, I gain honor, I have fun, and I feel spiritually at peace. Any of those pleasures by themselves are useless. What good is knowledge if you are not doing anything with it? What good is spiritual enlightenment if you’re sitting on top of a mountain by yourself thinking about nothing? What good are physical pleasures if you live like an animal and die of a heart attack at 45?

When I get drunk and fuck a girl on a Friday night, that’s part of my mission, because having fun and getting laid are necessary parts of a man’s life. Men evolved to have sex, and without sex and fun, we will not pursue the other parts of our mission as successfully. To borrow a Nietzschean phrase, it has only been “life-denying” ideologies that have tried to paint sex and fun as somehow bad things. No human emotion is inherently bad by itself - emotions only become bad when they become divorced from the mission as a whole and become the sole focus of one’s life.

What should my mission be?

Nobody can tell what your mission should be. Not me, not your parents, not your girlfriend, and not society. Reality and you are too complex for anybody to tell you what to do with your life. That said, it is smart to look up to successful and intelligent people to help figure out what to do. And here are my opinions as to what your mission should entail.

  • Challenges. Humans are attracted to transcendence, which I define that which just lies outside our grasp, just outside our knowledge, just outside our abilities. We evolved to seek challenges and overcome them, not to do the same thing over and over again.

  • Relationships. You need a strong and reliable network of friends and ideally, family and female relationships as well. Humans evolved to be social animals, not to be heartless hermits.

  • Creativity. Humans evolved to create. Period.

  • Helping People. Some of you may disagree, but I believe that humans evolved to help each other.

  • Physical and mental health. This one is obvious.

Aside from these broad strokes, it’s up to you to figure out your mission. The world is too complex and fluid for you to buy into rigid ideas that you should have this job or that job, or impress this or that person, or focus on this or that goal. All of society’s structures are built on sand and could be rendered irrelevant tomorrow. There are men that dedicated their entire lives to a job, only to have job eliminated by an app written by a 17-year old. There were men in the 80s that dedicated their entire lives to being awesome at heavy metal, only to see heavy metal be replaced by EDM. There are men and women who dedicated their entire lives to being a CEO, or a Congressman, or a whatever, and then realized that they were miserable when they actually took that job.

You must be flexible and fluid to constantly readjust your mission based on the realities of the world around you. If you base your entire life’s mission on a job, or achieving some goal, or a woman, what are you going to do when that job or goal or woman is no longer there? Kill yourself?

I know a guy whose dream, ever since he was 8 years old, was to play Major League Baseball and win the World Series. And guess what – he did! He won a World Series in the 90s. But because that was his life’s mission, he had no idea what to do after he retired from baseball. Now he is in his 40s, he lives in a one bedroom apartment, he works a shitty job, and spends all his time creeping on girls at nightclubs. The highlight of his year is a sports convention where people pay him a little money to sign their memorabilia.

He never readjusted his mission.

Society told him that winning a World Series was a worthy goal for a man. Society lied. Winning a World Series is awesome, but it’s not everything. You need a complete, well-balanced life.

And here is the most important part of following your mission: the joy is in the pursuit, not the results. Because really, you can’t control the results. You can be robbed tomorrow and lose everything you have. Your company might go out of business because of something that is totally not your fault. You can make $100 million and be sad because some other guy made a billion dollars. Your wife might turn out to be a cheater or die in a car accident. If you base your happiness on your results, you will always be unhappy. But if you base your happiness on the pursuit, nothing can faze you, because as long as you are alive, you can wake up tomorrow and fight the battle again. If you ask super-successful men what they most long for, many of them say that they secretly wish they could lose everything so they could start from the beginning because they love the process.

When you look at your entire life as your mission, every moment has meaning in the overall context of your life so overcoming every challenge is exhilarating. Cleaning your room is no longer a boring chore; it’s part of your mission and is just as important as pitching in Game 7 of the World Series because you need to have a clean room to be able to focus on baseball. Every bad thing that happens to you is just another challenge to overcome and an opportunity to learn and become an even stronger version of yourself.

What’s the point of this article?

You may ask: “You say that the most important thing in a man’s life is his mission. But if his entire life is his mission, aren’t you saying a tautology – a man’s life is his life?” I am. But I wrote this article to change your mindset. You will be much more successful if you see your life as your mission rather than as a series of unconnected events. You will also be more successful if you cut out distractions, addictions, and people that are not contributing to your mission.

How to pursue your mission

I can’t tell you how to succeed at your mission. But I can give some tips.

Reduce your needs and wants as much as possible. The more addictions, mental baggage, and shitty people in your life you have, the less freedom and mobility you have. If you can live in a one bedroom apartment and eat beans (and I guarantee you can), you can pursue your business or passion. But if you are dependent on having money, having a certain girlfriend, etc…, you limit your options.

You need faith. Focused, sustained, intelligent effort always pays off. The problem is that many people give up when things get tough. If I walk into a McDonald’s I am usually sure that I will get shitty customer service because the workers there hate their jobs. Working at McDonald’s is considered one of the lowest jobs in our society, and most of the people there hate their job, hate their life, and see no hope for the future. They suck at their jobs because they have no faith that working hard at McDonald’s will get them anywhere and they have no faith that there is a plan B they can pursue that gets them where they want to be. Nobody cares about being the best fast food employee, so they don’t do a good job.

If they had faith, however, they would see working at McDonald’s as part of their mission so they would figure out a way to move onto something better. They would either do a great job at McDonald’s and move up in the company, do something on the side, or leverage the people they met at McDonald’s to find something better. Either way, they would have hope that working hard would get them to somewhere better.

Stop thinking about what other people think The biggest obstacle to most men pursuing their mission is their obsession with what others think and their fear of others. This “other” may be specific people (their parents, their girlfriend, their friends) or it can be a more generalized fear (God, society, the cosmic alpha male, or the magical “them”).

Girls and your mission

Guys never sound dumber than when they pontificate on what women are attracted to in a man. They will say things like “women just want money, man” or “women just want assholes” or “women just want celebrities.” All of those theories are wrong because they only show one side of the story.

Women want a man that is pursuing a mission because, as I pointed out earlier, a man on a mission enjoys ALL of life’s other pleasures as well. Women don’t JUST want a guy with a fun life, or a guy with money, or a guy that gets other girls … they want a guy that has ALL OF THAT. They settle for guys that get only some of those things because they just can’t find better.

You may ask: why do women want a man on a mission? Why don’t they just go on their own mission? Well, women do follow their own mission, but men have an advantage in pursuing their mission.

Men, because they have a conquering instinct and a desire to be the alpha male, have an easier time not caring what other people think.

As I’ve written elsewhere, one of the biggest, if the not the biggest, source of anxiety for both men and women alike, is fear of the alpha male. Humans evolved to obey the alpha male, and evolution enforces this obedience by subconsciously making us feel anxiety whenever we do something that we think may upset or offend the alpha male. This is a primal emotion, and we may not even know that we are feeling “afraid of the alpha male” when we feel anxiety, but that’s what the underlying mechanism is. Similarly, scientists have theorized that at least some forms of depression are an emotional reaction we feel after we feel like the tribe has rejected us. Some scientists have even theorized that depression is designed to make us feel listless and paralyzed after we are “defeated” by the alpha male so we don’t keep endlessly fighting (imagine a drunk guy who keeps trying to fight after he gets his ass kicked – evolution is trying to prevent that).

Because of this fear of the alpha male, human beings aren’t wired for greatness. We are wired to be anxious, afraid of confrontation, submissive, conformist, lazy, addicted to pleasure, focused on petty things, and adverse to change. I call these emotions the “despairing emotions.” Furthermore, the fear of the alpha male congeals in people’s minds as a general fear of society and reality in general. We don’t know why we feel a generalized anxiety at everything, but the source of that anxiety is subconsciously a fear of an unknown alpha male (who manifests himself as reality itself) that is fighting against us.

Out of our many emotions, men have one emotion that can fight this fear of the alpha male: the conquering instinct. Men have a powerful compulsion to conquer other men and BE the alpha male. Like any human emotion, it is hard to describe this emotion in a name or to filter it out from all the other emotions that motivate us, but here is my best attempt: men have a desire to compete, win, and subjugate other men. It is most likely linked to testosterone. On the flipside, men evolved to become submissive and give up on being the alpha male once they have been subjugated to preserve the integrity of the tribe.

Women, for evolutionary reasons, do not have this conquering emotion (or at least, as much of it). To be sure, they want to be successful, powerful, rich, important and all the other things men want. But whenever they try to confront an alpha male, they become overwhelmed by anxiety and paralyzed. This is not their fault, it’s a natural biological reaction.

Women can work manage this anxiety by being given a fixed set of tasks and “encouragement” (usually from a man) that they can accomplish these tasks. If a man tries to induce anxiety in a woman the woman can work through it because she knows what she has to do and she has the confidence that she can accomplish her task. This is why woman can do any job with well-defined guidelines (secretary, lawyer, accountant). But a woman will struggle with anxiety if she has to compete with men on a playing field where there are no established rules, and a person’s emotional state plays a big role in defining their success. Even women entrepreneurs oftentimes start businesses in the mold of already-existing businesses. There are very few truly revolutionary businesses started by women.

When we think of a guy like Mark Zuckerberg starting Facebook, we think of a guy working very hard and being very smart. But starting a company liked Facebook also requires a lot of “alpha male” emotions, because the founder must have the emotional fortitude to venture into uncertainty and withstand society and other men trying to emotionally intimidate him. In 2006, only two years after Facebook was started, Yahoo offered to buy Facebook for a billion dollars. But Zuckerberg had a broader mission: he wanted to change the world, and he believed he could make Facebook much more valuable than a billion dollars. As you can imagine, almost every person in his life, including most of the Facebook management and investors, wanted Zuckerberg to sell, and many of them turned on him when he said no. Most of the Facebook management left within a year, and Zuckerberg probably received a lot of angry calls and messages. Now Facebook makes $10 billion a year and Zuckerberg is worth $60 billion.

Think about the Zuckerberg story. Most men and women in his position would have sold Facebook. Even though he had built an incredible company in two years, most people would have given into their despairing emotions (here, the desire to retire on a billion dollars) and would have been too afraid to change the world. But Zuckerberg, even though he looks and acts like a nerd, was the alpha male.

THAT is what attracts women.

What’s interesting is that women are not necessarily interested in the money per se, or even the knowledge that the man is pursuing his mission. Instead, they are attracted to the emotional state of a man on a mission. Just being around a man on a mission turns them on. This is why women are attracted to athletes, celebrities, and even lower-level guys like DJs and club promoters. Those guys are DOING SOMETHING rather than standing there drooling at them. A lot of men bust their ass on their mission during the day, and go out and become submissive and supplicating to women at night, and get rejected. Knowing that you need to keep your “mission” emotional state even when interacting women is one of those weird hacks of knowing game. You may ask “how can I pretend I am pursuing my mission when I am at a bar trying to enjoy a few drinks?” Well, it’s an irrational quirk of human psychology, but you must have the mental state and emotions of a man on a mission, even though you are technically relaxing in a festive atmosphere. I use the “cheese pizza” method: I focus on something I am passionate about (my business, jiu-jitsu, cheese pizza) and I focus my thoughts and emotions on that thing rather than the girl. The girl can FEEL that my true heart and soul is not fixated on her, and she likes that.

Women do not have the conquering emotion like men do, but they still want to feel the joy of conquering, so they need to experience it vicariously through a man. The same way men watch sports and subconsciously fantasize about being the athletes, women subconsciously want to watch you conquer your enemies. This is why you must FEEL like you are pursuing your mission when you are with a women – she is attracted to that feeling. It’s a weird thing, but when women are attracted to “alpha” guys who fuck lots of girls, she subconsciously vicariously feels like SHE is the alpha guy fucking hot girls, even when she is the one getting fucked! Human psychology is weird.

When hanging out with a woman, you must make her feel like you are confidently, joyfully, and resiliently pursuing your life’s mission, your life is fun and interesting, and that you will let her join your fun and interesting life if she emotionally invests in you and behaves properly.

All of these concepts are connected. If you are not joyful, she will assume your life is not fun and interesting. If you can be distracted from your mission or be perturbed, she will either think your life isn’t that fun and interesting, or that she shouldn’t join because it can be interrupted at any time. If you let her join without her emotionally investing, she will assume that there is nothing special about your life.

Resilience is the ability to confidently pursue your goals and not let anything or anybody perturb you. Women are attracted to resilience because they naturally want a protector, and a protector’s commitment is only credible if he cannot be distracted from his mission, whatever the mission is is. If a protector becomes emotional, distracted, or submissive, he can no longer be trusted to protect. If you shoot a bullet at Superman and he flinches for even a moment you will think “oh shit, maybe he isn’t bulletproof.”

Women “shit test” men to see if they can be perturbed or distracted from their mission. If she raises doubts about you, and you become a blathering, submissive, supplicating, idiot, then she knows that you will sell Facebook for a billion dollars when you could have waited for it to become worth $50 billion. In other words, she knows that if SHE can perturb you, anybody can.

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[–]En-Zu 68 points69 points  (13 children)

You kind of dissed philosophers but what you're advocating here is essentially Virtue Ethics which is one of if not the oldest form of western ethics predating Socrates and going back to Homer. It's undergoing something of a revival with some philosophers like Phillipe Foote and MacIntyre. Just thought y'all might be interested in that :). Especially MacIntyre since he is fairly conservative and interested in the decline of western culture.

I enjoyed this piece. It was well written and insightful.

[–]Mr-Mojo-rising 20 points21 points  (4 children)

I always took the red pill as being virtue ethics like. Self improvement and being the best you can be.

[–]En-Zu 20 points21 points  (3 children)

Yeah. It's the most intriguing and enduring aspect of the site for me. It's like a boot camp for "nice guys" where they come in with this bitter, entitled attitude and transform that into a positive, self-improvement message and leave behind the obsession that brought them here in the first place.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 19 points20 points  (2 children)

That's my favorite part of this sub. People come here for pussy and end up leaving hardly caring for it, but pursuing their own dreams and aspirations instead.

[–]En-Zu 12 points13 points  (1 child)

I know it's why I'm still here (as well as for the evopsych knowledge and because I like reading angry screeds)

But yeah I was reading some stuff about Zen Buddhism awhile ago and there's an interesting parallel in that approach to TRP. Exemplified in the work of Herman Hesse particularly Siddhartha. Essentially the zen path is one of an initial starting point, some sort of journey, and a return to the starting point but with a new perspective (mirroring Joseph Campbell's Hero's Journey).

A story I thought was a good illustration was just that the zen acolyte begins thinking that mountains are mountains, in the middle of his training he becomes angry because he thinks that mountains are not mountains and that he's been lied to, and in the end he knows that mountains are mountains.

I butchered that haha but to put it in TRP terms its essentially just that you come into TRP thinking that you're going to learn how to pick up chicks (like a PUA website), in the middle of it you go through a disenchantment because it teaches you that your goal is a lie and won't provide you any happiness (monk mode initiated), in the end you return to your starting point of picking up chicks but with the knowledge that you're not enslaved to it anymore (alpha male). This is the zen principle of Wu-Wei (action through inaction) coming to bear. Meaning that not obsessing on the results you want causes those results to come about. So the attention and attraction of women is not an end-goal but rather a byproduct of an end goal of living a virtuous life.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not deep in spiritual books at all but this reminds me of the 6th Spiritual Law of Success by Deepak Chopra. The law of detachment is categorized by the following:

  1. Today I will commit myself to detachment. I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will not force solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems. I will participate in everything with detached involvement.

  2. Today I will factor in uncertainty as an essential ingredient of my experience. In my willingness to accept uncertainty, solutions will spontaneously emerge out of the problem, out of the confusion, disorder, and chaos. The more uncertain things seem to be, the more secure I will feel, because uncertainty is my path to freedom. Through the wisdom of uncertainty, I will find my security.

  3. I will step into the field of all possibilities and anticipate the excitement that can occur when I remain open to an infinity of choices. When I step into the field of all possibilities, I will experience all the fun, adventure, magic, and mystery of life."

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Following your "own path" isn't virtue ethics. Having a soul with justice as it's leading part is the most important thing and all happiness will folllow

[–]En-Zu 7 points8 points  (1 child)

I'm an amateur philosopher at best but I think from what I understand about MacIntyre following your "path" is essentially the heart of virtue ethics because in virtue ethics your life's satisfaction derives from adhering to the strictures of a certain role.

Like in past societies your role would be soldier, priest, farmer etc. and your satisfaction would come from fulfilling the entelechy (purpose) of those roles. MacIntyre's thesis is that western society went off course from this with the post-Socratic philosophers when it started to try to answer the question 'what is the entelechy of a person' or 'what is general morality' without the moral framework of a community or a state i.e. Liberal Individualism.

Adhering to a certain social role doesn't sound like 'following your own path' but that's where we get into existentialism. Essentially, in a world where the structures of Modernism: state citizenship, religious identity, and company loyalty cease to have any meaning (the deconstructive work of postmodernists) we are returned to a state of radical freedom where we are faced with the absurdity of not having any purpose at all because our existence precedes our essence (meaning that humans do not have an intrinsic entelechy). Nietzsche is a good example of this transition because he came to the same conclusion as MacIntyre because he was informed by classical pre-socratic and prechristian worldviews. Nietzsche's Ubermensch is a man that has divided himself from the herd mentality, seen the absurdity of existence, and chosen to embrace it. Similarly RP's "Alpha Males" divide themselves from the paradigm of the herd, recognize the absurdity of romantic BP love as an end-goal, and choose to substitute their own "mission" in place of that one.

So what is the solution? In the work of Albert Camus we have the Myth of Sisyphus which defines the ideal postmodern man as someone who confronts the absurdity of his condition by creating his own meaning in it (very much in the fashion of the Ubermensch). Meaning becomes based on individual choice rather than imposed by culture or society. We have to provide our own "essence" or "purpose" and "choose our own path." Virtue Ethics is skeptical of this paradigm and, at least in the nostalgic work of MacIntyre, attempts to regress back into a society that is capable of providing meaning again. I think the conclusion that one should draw from all of this is just that man doesn't have a mission intrinsically, man needs a mission, and that mission comes from society.

tl;dr: What I'm essentially getting at in RP terms is that the postmodern society/culture does not give a man a mission, but (according to virtue ethics) man still needs a mission in society, so (according to existentialism) he has to pick a mission for himself.

A Caveat: You can, if you're a religious or nationalistic person, deny the radical individualism and absurdity of postmodernism but recognize that that's an outdated worldview and it is not the philosophical framework (I would argue) that the Red Pill operates with.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understood. But I agree with Plato about virtue ethics. At the heart of true happiness is justice. When one is in a fully authentic, honest , virtuous just state then that person will be happy. The goal of every man should be to just to one self and others. If you're not just to yourself and others you're being dishonest. If you're dishonest you can never be truly happy

[–]antonioxvx 1 point2 points  (1 child)

May I ask: will you define stoicism as a virtue ethics based philosophy? I've been only reading TRP and Stoicism for a while now and MacIntyre sounds quite appealing so I'll give him a try

[–]En-Zu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know less about stoicism than I'd like to honestly so I can't exactly answer that to the depth that I'd like but I'd be interested in your thoughts on it if you decide to pursue it :)

I can vouch for MacIntyre though. After Virtue is a very engaging book in particular. Very readable.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Following your "own path" isn't virtue ethics. Having a soul with justice as it's leading part is the most important thing and all happiness will folllow

[–]the_alpha_phoenix 9 points10 points  (4 children)

Fantastic post.

Pursuing my mission has been the focus of the past year, ever since I started Monk Mode in June 2016. The work is starting to pay off and I'm loving it.

[–]GaryAir 3 points4 points  (3 children)

How did you start monk mode and stay there so consistently for that long? Any tips?

[–]the_alpha_phoenix 7 points8 points  (1 child)

I started monk mode in the midst of some epic heartbreak. My ex GF was likely BPD, or at least a narcissist.

I didn't stay in monk mode the whole time. But for the first three or four months, I focused completely on stopping bad habits and establishing a new routine that got me closer to my goals every single day.

I only started to pursue women after my new routines were firmly established. And even now I don't allow any woman to become more important than pursuing my goals.

I've lost over 50 pounds, gotten much stronger, and I'm on track to run a marathon this fall. Lately I've been building a massive social circle in which I'm the leader of the tribe. Women that used to ignore me are now competing for my attention.

The grind has been tedious at times but it was well worth it.

[–]Docbear64 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Well stated I think the expression that your life is your mission over your job is your mission is critical. I know really intelligent , skilled, and talented people who are near the top of their field / industry who have miserable lives. If work was the mission and lead to happiness they should be ecstatic but they aren't . Life as a whole is a bit of our job , a bit of our passions , a bit of our conquests, a bit of our values, a bit of our aspirations, and if you neglect any of those you rob yourself of enjoying a full and complete life in it's wholeness.

Great post.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (3 children)

First: Stop thinking about what other people think.

Then: Girls and your mission, followed by women want, women want, women want. This is what you should do to attract women, that is how you should behave to elicit positive emotions in women. Women, women, women. This post - like most posts on TRP - is about placing women's life experiences above men's life experiences, and making men responsible for women's life experiences, feelings, and behaviors. It's people-pleasing behavior, is what it is.

Fundamentally, you're still encouraging men to be a certain way to accomodate women, while paradoxically telling them to stop caring what women think. It's contradictory. It's pussy-worshipping galore up in this bitch.

What does a woman have to do to attract YOU? What do YOU want in a woman? How does a woman have to behave to be compatible with YOU, lest you ditch her ass and move on to the next girl? Not the other way around.

I still smell woman-pleasing behavior emanating from this post. Be on a mission, but not for the sake of feeling good about yourself; do it for the sake of attracting slits, and meatholes. Women, women, women.

[–]Ericgzg 3 points4 points  (1 child)

It is not the nature of men to sit back and let women attract them. Go watch any nature show if you are unfamiliar with the nature of males. It is the male imperative to attract a mate, this is our highest purpose, our nature, and there's nothing wrong with that. Go ahead and be angry about that if you like, be angry that it's unfair women don't have to really do anything to attract a mate while for men it is tremendously competitive. But when you're done being angry, feel free to get to work.

[–]Pro_Like_Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You miss his point. The woman still needs to be worthy of his pursuit

[–]TheRedChemist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before you have the luxury of being the selector, you have to yourself be selected. Your post is absolutely right but it doesn't oppose the OP at all. You're just playing the level after the one he's talking about.

The starving man's first concern is finding FOOD, only once his basic needs are sated can he start concerning himself with the quality.

[–]Selassie_eye 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wuojo you are king of trp. Please keep posting!

[–]JackGetsIt 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Instead, they are attracted to the emotional state of a man on a mission

Yes. This is a powerful idea. However. If you haven't crossed a lot of finish lines (in relation to her self perceived SMV) and you're not entering more competitive races most women will still keep an arms distance. There are a lot of cringey, aspie, low value guys on 'missions' that don't magically attract women.

Garret is on a mission as well, but for some reason the girl doesn't fuck him right there on the spot.

[–]VancouverSucks[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. Comment from that video. "its easier to watch a Mexican cartel skinning someone alive than it is to watch this cringy video"

[–]Expectations1 1 point2 points  (2 children)

All game is derived from being on your mission. You can hack the orocess and focus on game only. But that is only a shell of what is possible.

[–]slay_it_forward 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Fuck this mission shit is irritating. Game is game. It's derived from wanting to fuck women. You will be more attractive if you look good and have a good life but that has nothing to do with game. Game is approaching women and presenting yourself / behaving in a way that makes a woman attracted and aroused by you.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

As I’ve written elsewhere, one of the biggest, if the not the biggest, source of anxiety for both men and women alike, is fear of the alpha male.

I don't believe this at all. I fear someone in the sense they might harm me or cause harm to me physically if the probability is there, whether they be a man or a woman. Otherwise I have no need to fear their judgment of me. This is the typical human response. We evolved from hunter-gatherer tribes with skill-based leadership and not alpha males. You have a poor theory because its founded on the poor theory of alpha and beta males in human beings.

[–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

This fear is subconscious, and it is related to the Freudian idea of the superego. Nobody wakes up in the morning and thinks "oh no the alpha male is out to get me." it's a more primal anxiety.

[–]Cycix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Btw, just thought I'd mention, the "Alpha Male" isn't just one person - it's someone that people can defer to based on their expertise. It's a quality seen in wolves. The common misconception is that there is one Alpha male in the pack but the reality is leadership changes in some circumstances - if one wolf knows where to find water, that wolf is the alpha. If a wolf is better at hunting, that wolf is the alpha (at least in that aspect). Being a true alpha is being so good at something that people respect your opinion and knowledge. Also, great read - it definitely makes me think.

[–]Nyghtshroude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah very true here. Women are a nice extra in life but that's it. When you create an attractive life women will naturally want to be a part of it. Now, sometimes these women might not be the sexiest in the world but the better you do the better women will want you. And don't simp out ever

[–]spydercanopus 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Booze is for losers, a step backwards. Surprised you promote it.

[–]GaryAir 9 points10 points  (1 child)

I'm gonna disagree here. Alcohol can be used responsibly and in moderation to promote social interaction. Especially in business alcohol is a huge part of the culture of a lot of meetings with clients, at least in NYC. There's a difference between having a beer or cocktail vs. killing a 6 pack multiple times a night by yourself. If you can handle drinking responsibly than I don't see a problem. However if alcohol started to control your life, change you and your mission that is when it should be eliminated all together as it is becoming/is an addiction.

[–]spydercanopus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess you could excuse it with all that, but the truth is if you're drinking, you're using a crutch to be a "better" you.

Drink seltzer, stay sober, fuck better, be smarter, work harder, have more money.

Have fun at the gym with those dehydrated cells and mild headache that wouldn't be there otherwise.

[–]Bulbasaur2000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, asexual men don't need sex

[–]slay_it_forward 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never forget, when you're on your mission, women show up.

[–]buddha_bears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holly god. This message is so accurate. All of this is so lost right now in society. Keep up the posts

[–]pn_me_your_dick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gotta see yourself as what you are and take responability you all have identity issues

[–]NeoreactionSafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)


My mission now is to follow the Trivium Method.

By following the Trivium Method I get to Truth.

Truth benefits my life.

I become stoic in my understanding.

Pleasures come and go, but knowing Truth tends to stay around.

(one seldom unlearns a Truth)


[–]SPREAD_THE_LOVE_7791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your wife died in a car accident?! NO PROBLEM! You've got other shit going on!

But seriously, great post. So it seems like my mission should not be one thing, but a balanced list of things that cover many areas. I want to be specific with my missions. Currently all I have is, go out five nights a week and talk to at least 10 girls. This pushes me on so many levels because I am new at this and have a lot of anxiety. But it's a bit odd that when I'm out talking to a girl, the act of talking to her is my mission.

[–]circlhat -4 points-3 points  (12 children)

Women want a man that is pursuing a mission because

You sound just as dumb, women want a man who is masculine and dominate , women would rather choose a heroin addict than a well rounded beta who has a mission, in fact women reserve those guys for post wall.

Getting women is a separate skill set and should be honed as they aren't men and require a different set of rules, I would never talk to a man like I talk to a woman I'm interested in dating and this is against social norms which guys tend to follow.

[–]GaryAir 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I think what OP is saying is that, game is part of your mission but not your mission itself. Basically that having good game is just one of the aspects of your mission. If you only fuck women and do not work on yourself you won't be as happy.

[–]buddha_bears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah if you make all your life just about game and getting laid eventually you will have completed that and be empty as shit. Setting you mission is more about setting purpose to life. Yeah everyone wants pussy and yeah it's apart of the equation but it isn't the only thing so focusing on it is dumb. Focusing on mission is focusing on discovering what makes you happy. And if you focus on mission pussy will be there so don't sweat it.

[–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 12 points13 points  (9 children)

Wow you totally misunderstood my post.

A beta is a man who supplicates to women. A man who doesn't stop pursuing his mission is not a beta because he does not stop to supplicate to women.

Also, most women would choose a well-rounded "beta" over a heroin addict. And if you think a heroin addict is an alpha male you are a fucking idiot.

[–]circlhat 1 point2 points  (1 child)

No, I didn't this post while good it's aimless advice that won't help you with women, getting women is a separate skill set that requires you to go against social convention which is why so many men fail.

I don't think women like bad boys in the sense of people who treat them like crap but it takes basically a psychopath for feminist programming not to effect you

Friends,family,mother,father,church,tv,movies,stores,advertisement all push it.

A man can purse his mission and be beta at the same time.

Also, most women would choose a well-rounded "beta" over a heroin addict.

Yes, After she has fucked the heroin addict had 3 of his children, she will need a nice beta to take care of them.

My point is the world isn't a nice little pretty package with predefined rules, your mission is completely separate from women.

But instead of arguing I will use science


So please stop with the blue pill advice, science doesn't say a man with a mission it says high testosterone and dominate, which is red pill, blue pill is becoming a better person, that is like saying if you want to learn guitar become a well rounded person

[–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)


it takes basically a psychopath for feminist programming not to effect you


That's a powerful insight... yes... the male psychopath is 666 (manipulative Game player) just like women.

The Feminist tries to manipulate but loses to the superior Game player. (the psychopath)


[–]diomedes777 3 points4 points  (6 children)

If it's between a well rounded, friendly average beta and a redpilled attractive heroin addict, she's choosing the heroin addict every time without exception, and to say otherwise is just male hamstering. She chooses the beta when she hits the wall and is searching for resources, but he will never be her pussy's first choice. This is rudimentary shit.

A friendly, well adjusted but timid beta is more repulsive to women than a strung out heroin addict. Who's providing the feels out of these two men?

[–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 4 points5 points  (5 children)

A friendly, well adjusted but timid beta is more repulsive to women than a strung out heroin addict. Who's providing the feels out of these two men?

What kind of "feels" can a heroin addict provide?

Do you have any idea what an alpha male is at all?

Women don't like losers that have lost complete control of their lives.

this conversation is so stupid I can't believe I'm having it.

[–]circlhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A heroin addict in himself can be beta, or he can be Alpha, so taking heroin doesn't make you beta or Alpha, in my opinion it makes you stupid, but feelz before realz, if that Heroin addict has a attitude, high testosterone and dominate, his genes will be passed on.

[–]d4nonymous 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Agreed. I don't know what a red pill heroin addict looks like because there aren't any. If you're a heroin addict you aren't trp...

[–]circlhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Taking heroin doesn't make you Alpha, but it doesn't prevent you from being alpha, If I had my way no one would ever touch that stuff, but the reality and facts are quite clear, A alpha male can be a swimmer, rock star, bank accountant, heroin addict, a Beta can also be the same thing.

A beta heroin addict vs A well rounded Alpha making 6 figures a year, will beat the heroin addict every time.

However a Alpha heroin addict, will beat a well rounded beta until she hits the wall, women do leave losers bad boys for their children, but come right back after they get the alimony pony.

[–]dakanos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a lot of rockstars who took heroin, and even ODed on it, including Jim Morrison and Jimi Hendrix. I don't think they had any problem getting laid.

But yeah, sure, if they had a well rounded-life, they would have fucked a lot more, and lived longer.

[–]Agreton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it hard to believe that some people can compare a heroin addict to a beta male enabler. I'm sorry but no matter how I look at it, someone addicted to heroin is a beta male enabler. They took the blue pill and decided to go back to sleep not realizing that the THOT next to the heroin addict is just chasing a bag. Which is the same thing women do when they keep a beta male around.

[–]TwitchTV_Subbort -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Stopped reading after multiple. Periods. Period.

[–]Rakosnik -1 points0 points  (5 children)

you lost me at that pos fuckerberg. a very bad example to chose. fuckerberg was not allowed to sell cuz his masters had other plans and didnt want to lose the control of that spying manipulative platform. you probably watched fb movie and took it as the truth. which is a total bullshit. search that fucker background and what elitist family he came from. otherwise a good post with some contradictions but not that bad.

[–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children)

well Zuckerberg is worth $60 billion and you're probably not even worth $1 billion, so he wins.

[–]Rakosnik 0 points1 point  (3 children)

you missed the whole point while justifying your own smarty shit which is totally unnecessary.

i could not care less how much $ worth that pos is.

[–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Your "point" is that you don't like him because I guess you think Facebook is an unethical company. You can have that opinion, but it has nothing to do with the example I used him for in my post. He is still an alpha male, at least in the way he runs his company.

[–]VancouverSucks[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zuckerberg is not an alpha male. Gtfo.

[–]Rakosnik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesnt matter whether I like him or not though I dont. The point was that fuckerberg is a very bad example in your otherwise good post. When you dont see the forces behind that fuckers ass he was riding on you are blind. The forces have nothing to do with that fuckers alphaness or betaness. You obviously still believe the fairy tail behind FB thus you cant see the point.