We have all been lied to. All of us. But if you came here from TRP, that’s not exactly news, now, is it?
But I’m not talking about sex only. I’m talking about how deep the lies actually go. We’ve been lied to also in terms of how to communicate – specifically as a man.
HOW DO YOU USUALLY START YOUR CONVERSATIONS?
That’s kind of a trick question. For most men in this BP day and age, most of us don’t really want to. We’re fed all kinds of bullshit on how communication is key, and that networking is important etc etc.
Let’s cut to the chase and let me tell you something I’ve discovered about myself and most other men:
As men, we need to have a clear objective before we decide to do something.
The usual scenario for most men is this:
Dude and his GF are talking. GF says so and so are having a party. Dude says yeah whatever. GF says they should go. Dude says “I don’t know anyone there.” GF says let’s just go. It’ll be fun. Just loosen up you’ll find something to talk about.
This is VERY damaging to the male because of a few important things:
Producing random conversations that lead nowhere for no apparent purpose is what WOMEN do.
And most BP men are pressured into these situations and of course they’ll make a fool out of themselves and they’ll incorrectly conclude that they just aren’t “good communicators” or they have “social anxiety”.
A man can do just about anything he set his mind to, including being a social butterfly, but on the condition that there’s a clear objective to shoot for that benefits him in some way.
This bears repeating. If there is no clear objective that benefits a man directly, he will find it very difficult to engage and apply himself to the task. This is true for conversations, socialising, networking, etc etc.
Women do not need this prerequisite. They can yap on and on about nothing in particular to nobody in particular or worse gossip about other people just so that they can have something to yap about.
They will pressure their males to engage in this worthless activity
and if he caves, hello BP Beta Simp.
TWO MOST COMMON MALE ARCHETYPES FOR SOCIALISING
There are basically two types of male:
The Lone Wolf:
If you’re a lone wolf, you really don’t need that much human companionship. Talking to other people are a chore, no matter how hard you try, and no matter how much time you put into it.
It just never gets easier. However, a Lone Wolf isn’t necessarily awkward or socially retarded. They just love their own company so much more.
The Lone Wolf is usually well-equipped to succeed on his own without much help from others. They might form a few long term alliances, usually with other lone wolves, and never have to make more friends than that to get everything they need in life.
If you’re a Lone Wolf, you may just want to skip this whole article altogether. You’re probably better off putting your time and talents into careers that are friendly to Lone Wolves such as affiliate marketing.
The Pack Hunter:
This is where most males are. Pack hunters forge alliances to reach a common objective or goal. The alliances may be short term or long term, but there is always a clear objective at the end that benefits the whole pack.
Pack hunting used to be the norm for our ancestors. To see how this works in the modern day male, one needs to look no further than the sarging culture where groups of men band together to get women to have sex with.
There are also the forums where men get together to discuss strategies on how to lift, how to make money, etc. Notice that in these sarge groups where the objectives are crystal clear, you’d be hard pressed to find anyone who’s anxious and not sure what to say.
Well among the men at least. Then they start approaching and the BP habits start to surface.
SO WHAT ARE THE IMPLICATIONS OF THIS?
Conversational skills were never the problem. The problem all along is that we approach socialising from a BP, feminised perspective.
A man who has been forced to participate in conversations and interactions that he never wanted to be involved with in the first place will always look like a bumbling idiot compared to a woman in the same situation.
This is the reason why men are so attached to video games nowadays. Video games are almost the only activity in which a man can feel like a man again, outside of sports.
There are always objectives: new levels to compete, new bosses to beat, new high scores and records to break. This is very engaging to the male brain.
WHAT ARE THE ACTION STEPS TO TAKE BASED ON THIS INFORMATION?
Never again agree to meet up with people just for the sake of meeting them. Maintaining relationships is the woman’s job.
If you really have to go and see Uncle Joe who you don’t really care about, at the very least set a time limit for the meeting and stick to it, no matter what mom or girlfriend says. 10 minutes and you’re out of there, the whole world be damned.
If it’s unavoidable, make it an objective to gain something from the meeting/visit. Meeting and talking to people just for the heck of it is what women do, not men. Always get something out of anything you put your time into. Self-sacrifice is beta behaviour.
A good thing to try is to try to gain favours out of the meeting.If the host asks you what you want for drinks, make them work for it. Don’t refuse out of politeness.
Ask for a coffee, anything they have to do some work to serve you with. An alpha is never afraid to assert himself. This will require practice though if you’ve been raised to be the thoughtful and polite type.
In that case avoid going for the visit in the first place.
Whenever you find yourself in a social situation, make it a habit to find out who the betas and alphas are in the room.
This will come in handy as you build yourself up. This is how you build or enter into Hunting Packs that will serve you in attaining your goals and objectives.
“During a volunteer mission days before the end of his first deployment, he crawled over 1,500 yards of field to shoot a high-ranking NVA officer. He was not informed of the details of the mission until he accepted it. This effort took four days and three nights, without sleep, of constant inch-by-inch crawling. Hathcock said he was almost stepped on as he lay camouflaged with grass and vegetation in a meadow shortly after sunset. At one point he was nearly bitten by a bamboo viper, but had the presence of mind to avoid moving and giving up his position. As the officer exited his encampment, Hathcock fired a single shot that struck the officer in the chest, killing him.”
The above is an excerpt from Wikipedia detailing the feats of Carlos Hathcock. This is the potential within a man if he truly gets behind the MISSION.
He is virtually unstoppable. Having conversations is nothing compared to what Carlos did. The only difference is that Carlos had an objective/mission he believed in, while most of us are stuck in situations that are forced down our throats.
The only way to break free of this conditioning is to be an asshole for a while and outright refuse to be forced into any situation you do not want any part in, societal pressures be damned.
If you handle the fundamental issue at hand, I promise you’ll pick up all the other conversation minutiae in due time.
This article is also available in ]my blog](http://attractioncypher.com/how-to-be-better-conversationalist-tips-men/)