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LTRIf you're in a relationship, you need to remember this. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by DahiyaBhaiya

Judge her actions. All the time. If you're spending your time with her and possibly your money with (or on) her then it is your utmost duty to yourself to ensure that you're not in a situation where you're the one being exploited. Doesn't necessarily mean you have to be the one who exploits - it's always better to pay for your own shit and keep your big problems to yourself to avoid any complications later on. Don't get so deep into her life that you forget your own life.

Do this once every few days - reflect on her actions and your interactions with her and other people. Think about her habits, how she treats you and how she talks to you and what kind of enthusiasm, willingness and eagerness she shows when she's communicating with you. When she talks and you're just kinda supposed to listen and not give a shit - don't waste that time ignoring her. It's the perfect time to analyse what it is she's talking about and what the hell is going on in her head. There's a neat little trick you can use to correctly guess the way she is treating you - you have to kind of zoom out and see yourself and her having the interaction in third person. Imagine what it would be like listening to that conversation from someone else'e perspective. Now imagine that it's not you in your position but your best friend (Male best friend. If you don't have a male best friend who's got your back in life then drop everything you're doing and reconsider the way you're handling your social life). Imagine that your best friend's girl is talking to him or treating him the same way your girl treats you. Can you tell if something is off? Do you maybe want to scream at your friend and tell him something obvious that he cannot see because he's so invested in the outcome of the relationship? If your answer is anything other than 'not at all' then you have a problem. Snap out of your limbo. You may not like what you've realised. It may already be too late or it may not. She will test you all the time and if something (anything at all) is different about her you need to make sure you notice it before it's too late. Women's reactions to us are subtle and are a reflection on how we are as their leaders. If she starts bitching or fighting too much then check your frame. You might be losing it. Their hypergamy, if correctly understood and implemented can be one of the many things you can use to keep you on top of your game and in a happy place in life.

Remember to see clearly. Almost every single man who has thought that 'this one is different' has been royally fucked up and down their goddamn ass. Women are like water, they take the shape of whatever they're poured in. The majority do not have any real interests, hobbies, ideas or passions other than the ones they need - to do the least they can get away with in life. And even the ones who do have a real hobby have some or the other issues. There is no one good enough, there is only how you can make the best from amongst the choices you have. Living alone is tough and having good female company can make life fun if done right. Make sure you don't let her become more than 20% (at best) of your life so that even if you have to let her go, you remain more than whatever she brought into your life. The great men in history have not become great by toeing their wives' lines. They've become great by doing what they wanted to help mankind push forward and not crying about their wives not sucking their dicks properly. In fact, you'll find that kingdoms upon kingdoms throughout history have been fucking ruined and men have been butchered just because some fucking king or prince or whoever couldn't stop fighting over some 'unicorn' pussy.

Judge her. She's not perfect. Make sure you don't put her in control. She will fuck off ASAP (great way to get rid of a pointless girl tbh). Women hate having to do anything more than they need to. They'll fuck it up anyway so its best if you take charge.


[–]RashErrAtik 119 points120 points  (9 children)

How she treats other will eventually turn into how she treats you.

[–]silverpal 77 points78 points  (3 children)

This should even be taken a step further. Ask her opinions on her best girlfriend or a guy friend she has and see how she talks about them. This is probably how she is going to talk about you.

[–]RashErrAtik 13 points14 points  (1 child)

I'll have to tuck this in the back of my mind for when I need it.

[–]francie-brady 30 points31 points  (11 children)

This advice came too late for me. So, I advice you to read it and reflect on it.

[–]iamtheswoop 9 points10 points  (5 children)

Advice came too late for me too man, I can commiserate...but at the same time I get to enjoy abundance mentality for the first time ever in my life. And that makes me excited!

[–]nickm205 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I think its never "too late", you now have real life experience to turn to, as a reference point of how you felt and behaved, when compromised :)

[–]slay_it_forward 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Turn it into abundance reality. That takes work.

[–]iamtheswoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting there.... Divorce needs to happen first, need to do some Monk mode training, but it will happen sooner than later

[–]Endorsed ContributorAFPJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No such thing as too late - you either get it on your own, or with the help of a painful lesson.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 65 points66 points  (11 children)

If you're spending your time with her and possibly your money with (or on) her then it is your utmost duty to yourself to ensure that you're not in a situation where you're the one being exploited

Never spend money on her. You don't have to worry about exploitation if you're not paying, investing or committing to her. Paying devalues you and pedastalises her and thus makes her less inclined to sleep with you.

Do this once every few days - reflect on her actions and your interactions with her and other people. Think about her habits, how she treats you and how she talks to you and what kind of enthusiasm, willingness and eagerness she shows when she's communicating with you.

This is awesome. I'd suggest taking it a stage further... remind yourself she could leave, you could leave, it could all end at any day.
Add that into an honest evaluation of her behaviour and her Relationship Motivation. (Her RM is really easy to judge if you've experienced a girl who is really into you and you don't buy into the myth that women are completely passive creatures who need dinner before sex).

Make sure you are not investing too much in her. Get other options. Do not invest or commit to a devaluing situation that someone else has control over ending.

Remember to see clearly. Almost every single man who has thought that 'this one is different' has been royally fucked up and down their goddamn ass.

This is how marriage works. Every guy thinks he has found "the one special true Super Special Snowflake in the whole world who Isn't Like The Rest". Then they get married. Then he finds out she most definitely Is Like The Rest and by then it's too late.

As men we are biologically programmed to see the best in women, especially those who will willingly fuck us. We have an innate optimism and an inherent belief that This One Is Good. This is a biological adaptation to make us overlook the true nature of women and think the best of her so that we stick our dicks in her some more.

Women relentlessly exploit this quirk of male thinking by marrying us when this feeling is at its peak after a couple of years. We get optimistic, she gets opportunistic, and then the state backs up her eternal rights to our resources. It's the perfect trap.

They'll fuck it up anyway so its best if you take charge.

Absolutely this. You're getting the blame either way, you might as well make the right decisions.

[–]wheresMYsteakAt 53 points54 points  (10 children)

Her RM is really easy to judge if you've experienced a girl who is really into you

This is extremely important and sadly some guys will never experience this. It's like light and day. A woman who is really into you will hear you get excited about a commercial in Febuary that you saw one time and thought was cool...you'll forget about it. Then Xmas rolls round and shes researched it, bought it along with another accessory that she read is good with it. They remember stories you tell them, recalling facts about your past you didn't remember even telling them. They literally hang on to your every word. They physically follow you as in when you get out of the car they wait until you've begun moving to go. They defer to you when asked a question in public. The list goes on and on but to say it best and I read this here. They will move mountains for you.

It's the kind of thing that you only need to see it once to be able to quickly tell if shes into you or not. This doesn't mean you are locked in for life but does at least mean for the rest of your life you'll be able to quickly spot if it's there or not.

[–]aga080 21 points22 points  (5 children)

its interesting that something as simple as Parking a car, and examining all of the actions that follow, displays nearly every dynamic involved in a relationship. If she jumps out and walks away/towards the store whatever... you are NOT in charge.

[–]antariusz 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Never consciously picked up on that behavior before, but it's 100% true...

If I parked so that I was closer to the store than she was, would I get out of the car and walk away from the store just to hold her hand? NEVER.

A woman that is into me, they do it ALWAYS, they don't care about shopping, even if we're going shopping for something for them, they care about latching onto you more so than actually getting the object.

[–]tempintheeastbay 10 points11 points  (2 children)

This is such a lovely description, I hope it came to mind because you have this in your life! It's very true - devotion and admiration are usually clear as day when they're sincere. Another little thing - does she try to.make you look as good as possible in front of other people? Does she take evident pride in being on your arm?

[–]wheresMYsteakAt 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I've had it in the past. I've also tried to work with the opposite thinking I had everything internalized and got a bar whore pregnant and Im now on child support, sadly after just reading about women lying about birth control. I've also tried to work it out with the one that was into me after things went south and I'll have what I think will be a good write-up when i get back from my trip.

It's sad in a way but I think the feelings a woman gets when she loses respect are very similar to how a man feels when he's lost attraction. I'll try to touch on that soon.

[–]eyejuantyou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Send me a PM when you write about this, I don't want to miss it.

[–]Alexinfinite01 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Gpof advice. Stay on top of things and remain vigilant

[–]Roaring40sUK 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Imagine what it would be like listening to that conversation from someone else'e perspective.

Good advice. Men have a habit of excusing womens behaviour, and so we ignore our gut.. and before long we become simpering Beta's.

[–]NamledaEcteff 28 points29 points  (6 children)

Do this once every few days - Put her face down on the bed and get on top of her holding both of her arms down. Growl near the back of her neck and breath purposefully for a few seconds. Let go of her arms, slide back and bite her ass through her clothes, give it a slap if you want and then just leave her and go about your business as normal. This is natural behaviour for me that nobody taught me but you can probably fake it.

[–]NamledaEcteff 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Its more of a grunt than a growl. I dont mean growl like a doberman who doesnt know you and you are slowly moving your closed fist towards its mouth. Its more like a very short lion roar, with plenty of bass in it.

Be warned, the first time you do this, after leaving her lying there, she may just jump you a couple of minutes later.

[–]BB_The_Plank 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Your autocorrect is malfunctioning. It keeps replacing him with her.

[–]NamledaEcteff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you get paid by the comment for calling people losers who girls wont talk to? Talk about projection. Do you need a cuddle baby? You are weak, thats why you are trying to put people down constantly over the internet.

[–]alefmale 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Hey troll, "his" is the opposite of "her". Dumbass. Possessive versus direct object.

[–]BB_The_Plank -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You would know. When you're with your boyfriend you like to possess all of his baby batter.

[–]aga080 22 points23 points  (0 children)

"Women are like water, they take the shape of whatever they're poured in. The majority do not have any real interests, hobbies, ideas or passions other than the ones they need - to do the least they can get away with in life."

you sir, are a fucking genius.

[–]Fedor_Gavnyukov 3 points4 points  (0 children)

'this one is different'

well, that's just like voting

[–]Dat_Chad 4 points5 points  (1 child)

here's a LTR tip, don't do it

[–]simplisticallysimple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do, do OLTRs/MLTRs instead of traditional Disney monogamy.

[–]Adreamdead 12 points13 points  (5 children)

Maybe 2% of women are good quality

[–]BB_The_Plank -1 points0 points  (2 children)

Nope, you've never had a good woman give you any attention so you wouldn't know. You meant to say only 2% of women are shitty enough to give you a moment of their time.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Who the fuck is this cunt. Fuck off mate.

[–]BB_The_Plank -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im just a guy who enjoys pissing morons off.

[–]joe579003 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I should send this to my cousin going through his 4th divorce. But I don't think he will ever learn.

[–]Adreamdead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people and women are low life's

[–]BB_The_Plank 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She should be doing the exact same thing to you, as well.

[–]newName543456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While judging, remember to appear as non-judgemental as possible. If she senses your judgement, she will start hiding the real demeanor.

[–]pabloethcobar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My #1 thing to remember is that the goal is to find a female with good genetics that can bear children. That is why sex exists, why dating exists, that's why this forum exists. Because we have glorified reproduction using our big complex monkey brains, people tell each other loads of bullshit lies about reproduction - business became involved, and now we're in the 21st century where technology and politics twist everything up even more. Break it down people!

[–]TonyL8173531 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Did you eat paint chips as a baby?

[–]BB_The_Plank -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

I wish I got paid. I do it for fun. Can you imagine how much more I'd comment if it was paid? I can only hope that some of my comments actually hurt someone's feelings. But people on this thread are so sociopathic and pathetic that I dont believe they have feelings.

[–]Wel108 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I've read all of your comments on this post and laughed. Everyone goes through shit, anger etc. It takes a special person like you to actually want to make their situation worse. Lol

If you break down what this sub actually represents, it's not even bad. But you get people(just like in every aspect of life) that take shit to the extreme. If you're actually a man, you would realize that women respect men, not love them. The second your value isn't there(in her eyes) then you slowly lose her. That's what this sub is about once you fully digest it.

There is no true love, there is no girl that will love you just because. As men we are brought up to put women on pedestals. This sub is about learning what actually attracts women(which in turn makes you more confident and successful in life) so that you can choose your path with them. As opposed to simply praising and crying because they don't find you attractive.

[–]Wissenschaft85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another way to put this is fuck what women think they want. Make yourself happy, focus on your goals, and dress and act in a way that commands respect. Turns out women will come on to you when you have the bearing of someone that looks respectable.

It doesnt even matter if your a buff macho guy or are a skinny nerdy guy whos just knows how to dress and act professionally. You want woman, make yourself someone who deserves and demands respect.