There is an extremely common pitfall to all kinds of self-improvement. Tell me if this sounds familiar:
A guy has an issue with his life. Maybe he's fat. Maybe he's lazy. Maybe he's got no friends. Whatever it is, it irks him. He thinks about it every day. He never seems to be able to overcome it. He reads tons of self-help material, searching for that one piece of advice, that one motivating book, that new mental framework that will finally unlock his potential. At times he feels like he has achieved such an epiphany, only to slide back into his old ways.
This is what I call the Mind Fallacy: the idea that change starts in the mind first, from which action follows.
It seems such a logical idea that it goes basically unquestioned. We are rational creatures, therefore we act on the basis of what we think. If we had the right mental framework, we would take the necessary action. Hence we must seek for the right mental framework.
Yet this doesn't work. People get stuck in a cycle of seeking after epiphanies that never pan out. That's because their model for change, logical as it sounds, is wrong.
Human beings don't change because their mental state has. Their mental state changes because they have. We tend to identify with our minds, but our minds are shaped by the totality of our experiences: we are not just what's in our brains, but more importantly we are what we do.
Going to the gym makes it more likely that you'll keep going to the gym. Why? because far deeper than the conscious level, your brain has stored information regarding benefits to health, self-esteem and other factors. You don't realize this if not in small part, but it happens all the same. Action begets action far more than thinking really hard about wanting to act does.
The Mind Fallacy partly explains the inaction paradox. Many if not most people know what they need to do to change their lives. Spend less. Save more. Dump that asshole. Eat healthy. Get out more. Yet they just plain don't do it. Why? because they focus on changing their mentality and expect action to follow, rather than the other way around; on waiting for an epiphany that will change their behavior, rather than changing their behavior.
What is your practical takeaway? that there is literally, practically, biologically no substitute for action. You won't change your mentality by thinking at it, your brain plain doesn't work like that. You can try for a thousand years and you won't think your way into acting.
Lifting, approaching, handling shit tests the RP way, spinning plates... whatever it is that you never can seem to start doing despite knowing the logical steps to, your problem is almost certainly the Mind Fallacy. Your solution is action.
If you think there are any other intermediate steps that go before Action, you're falling for the Mind Fallacy again. Every time you know what you need to do and the logical steps to it, but find yourself thinking that there are some other steps to take before Action, you're falling for the Mind Fallacy. Snap out of it and act, it's literally the only thing that will work.
Every time you prioritize mentality over action, you're falling for the Mind Fallacy. A shit-ton of self-help books sell you the Mind Fallacy repackaged as advice on "how winners think", because they want you to keep coming back for their next product. The only things you need to effect change are an objective, the logical steps to achieve it and Action. Mentality doesn't enter into it, ever. If you think it does, you're falling for the Mind Fallacy.