I see a lot of posts asking how to chat up hot women, and I thought I would write up a quick 'how to' guide with step by step instructions on how to get good at chatting up hotties.
TL;DR: Your approach sucks because you apply game. Don't game your approach and your approach game will improve.
The life of a hotty is a nonstop barrage of drooling incels hoping that by stammering 'You are pretty' they can somehow get her to touch their virgin dicks.
Meanwhile the life of the average incel goes days, weeks, and years without ever talking to a hotty, so when the chance finally avails itself, stammering is the best they can do.
Nobody ever stammers when they talk to an incel. The incel has nothing they want. They incel is uninteresting.
But the hotty has something everyone wants. Just her presence is a blessing for sore eyes. But what is interesting is her looks. Nobody cares if she won a Nobel Prize. 'You are pretty' is all she gets all day, every day. Just once she'd like to noticed for something else, or even flat ignored. Can't even go to the grocery store without getting some slackjaw drooling at her from the produce aisle.
How do you distinguish yourself from the crowd?
You need to find out what is interesting about her. Doesn't matter if you think it is interesting, SHE does.
Easier said than done, BIllee Boyee!
True that. Now I will teach you how to do it.
Step 1. Learn to find ugly people interesting. Fact is, ugly people are more interesting. They haven't spent their life getting everything served to them on a silver platter.
To do this, you need to chat up ugly people. That old guy who you see on the bench every Tuesday. feeding the ducks? Turns out he is a decorated pilot from the Korean War who marched with Dr King at Selma, saw the Beatles AND Led Zeppelin in concert, and raised 5 kids working as a beat cop for 40 years. He's more interesting than any of your contemporaries. He's sitting on a park bench right now, with nobody to talk to. Your conversation starts like this..." Pardon me, sir, my phone battery has died, do you have the time?" No matter what time he says it is you say, relieved, "Whew! Sweet. I've still got ten minutes..."
Next time you are at the mall to try to game hotties, try finding an ugly woman. Doesn't matter who, she can even be pushing a baby stroller with her husband. Your conversation starts with 'Pardon me, guys, I'm looking for a birthday present for my girlfriend, and she would just LOVE your (name accessory here). Did you get that here at the mall?"
This plays several games at once. By mentioning the girlfriend you become 'safe' - not hitting on her. By complimenting her accessory you are (by proxy) complimenting her good taste. The boots are nice, but it was HER CHOICE of boots that you are complimenting.
Turns out ugly lady is on a trip to the mall taking a break from caring for her sick grandmother, who requires constant care. When Grandmas doesn't need her any longer she's going back to being a hotshot, fighting wildfires in Arizona and California. Cuz ugly chick is cooler than you or I will ever be. And she's way cooler than the hotty across the way snapchatting selfies of herself in front of Victoria's Secret posters.
You don't want to sleep with Old Dude or Ugly Chick. It never crosses anyones mind. You are just a friendly guy on an unrelated mission with a few minutes to chat. Everyone is enriched by your interaction.
Now you chat up everyone you end up near. Supermarket checkout guy? Chat him up while he rings you up. You may not learn much in 30 seconds, but it's time to set up and knock down a joke or two. Do it right and you can pull in the person behind you in line into the conversation too.
Self conscious? Who fucking cares. Sometimes people need to know what time it is and it's okay to politely ask strangers. The checkout person is a captive audience. ringing up groceries for hours asking 'Did you find everything you need' over and over is soul crushing. Answering with 'You guys don't carry IQ, but besides that, yes." will make their day.
Now the Big Secret.
Chatting up ugly people, and chatting up hotties is THE SAME THING.
Once you have practiced a few harmless openers and gotten the hang of friendly banter it's time to move up to step 2.
Step 2. Try your harmless banter on hotties- then walk away.
The challenge in hitting up hotties is they can smell game from a mile off. It's instinct and it's uncanny. And they get tons of practice as guys game them day in and day out.
You are going to try the 'gift for my girlfriend' gambit on a gaggle of hotties. Same exact approach. "Pardon me guys, I'm looking for a birthday gift for my girlfriend she would LOVE that (accessory), did you get it here at the mall?"
You are gaming the FUCK out of them, but your intention is to walk away. "I have a girlfriend"- preselection. "I buy her gifts" - you have resources. "Your (accessory) is cool"- you value her unique opinion and taste. She is special for something other than her looks "Thanks ladies, have a great day!" - abundance, IDGAF mentality.
There are endless gaggles of wenches at the mall, you can practice all day, every day. If your intention is 'applying game to get in their pants', you will have less than stellar results. If your intention is 'learning to chat people up, then walking away', you will do fine.
Step 3: Find out something interesting about a hotty at the mall. Now you have the tools, you need to step up to the real deal. Chatting up hotties, gaming them, and never letting them know they are being gamed, because your intention is still to walk away. It takes that whiff of desperation out of the conversation. Women's 'no' instincts are assuaged because you are not stepping on the gas.
You may have trouble disceovering anything interesting about hotties, as snapchatting selfies with their guacomole brunch is often as deep as they get, but try. Then walk away.
Now you have it. All the tools.
Now you can go to the mall with the intention of getting numbers. Your naturally inquisitive and gregarous nature (Sure it's all an act.... Or is it?) means you can chat with anyone, from the homeless guy to the pornstar.
Once they have told you about their love of deep sea mountaineering or mudshark wrestling, getting their contact info is easy. It's still a numbers game, you will still have to chat up lots of people to find the one who wants to fuck you. You still need to be the best you that you can be- lift, dress well, groom, read, etc, but your approach game will be solid if you can ungame your approach.