There are many things women will say while having a conversation to show disinterest (in the moment) to you. Most guys have a hard time reading the signs when a girl likes them or not and that fine because all of us have men have been there before we got educated on women and dating. We simple lack the awareness to pickup on the signs.
Of course body language and how a woman treats you is a big indicator but I’m not going to touch on that today. There is also what women say that raises red flags. These are called IODs (Indicators of disinterest) which should be paid attention and calibrated to.
I’m going to tell you the 6 commons things women say to show disinterest and how to get past them.
Number 1 I Don’t Kiss On The First Date. Yeah right! LOL. 9 out of 10 times this is just a test. Women will say stuff like this because of social conditioning. A lot of the women that I have had sex with have told me this. It’s called Anti Slut Defense. Of course women kiss on the first date, a lot of women have sex on the first date. I have invited women over my house as the first date and had sex with them.
If a woman does say this don’t take it too serious, it usually just means that you are moving to fast and you are making her feel like a slut or that she isn’t attracted to you enough yet.
Number 2 I’m Really Busy. This one makes me laugh also. I love when women act like they are president of the United States busy, it just cracks me up. If a woman’s favorite movie or sports star was available she wouldn’t say that, trust me.
All this means isn’t attracted to you enough yet and that you aren’t a priority yet. Sometimes they are busy don’t take it personal. Play it cool. I have had sex with women who have told me this initially.
Number 3 I Just Broke Up With My Boyfriend. This may be true but in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t mean much. I have taken home women who have told me this. She may be talking about a break up that happened months ago. As long as a woman feel attraction and a connection with you in that moment you can overcome this.
Number 4 I’m Not Looking For A Relationship. I love when a woman says this to me. I always say, “Calm down you are moving to fast for me, you have to wine and dine me first. Not sure what type of guy you think I am LOL.” Works 9 out of 10 times.
Women are much more about relationships then men are. If a woman is single she is almost always open to some type of relationship, especially if she is attractive its too attached to their ego.
Also it’s in a woman’s DNA to want to be in some type of relationship as their nature is to cater to a masculine man going to back to the hunter gather days of our ancestors.
Number 5 You Will Make A Good Friend. Oh the good ol’ friend zone! Most of the time when a woman says this to a man it’s his fault as he isn’t being sexual enough and putting his true intentions out there.
It’s your job as a man to force a woman to decide if she wants to have sex with you or not by physically escalating, stating your intent, etc. I haven’t been friend zoned in 10 years as all the women I approach know that I come as a sexual intent.
Number 6. You’re A Nice Guy. You never want a woman you just met to call you nice. You want them to call you a dick or an asshole in flirty way because you teased her or busted her ball. A lot of women call me a dick and once they say that I know they are attracted.
When a woman calls you nice she is basically saying is that you are like every other guy and that is the kiss of death when it comes to attraction.
How To Overcome Those Objections
If a woman ever says those things to you this is how you should respond to them:
Cut the conversational thread aka change the subject Reframe from debating with her or having a long conversation about what she said. Don’t act all butt her. Smile, laugh and move the conversation in a different direction.
Tease Her Humor is a great tool to get past women’s facade aka her social mask. When you make fun of her, do push/pull, etc it makes her put her guard down.
It’s hard to dislike someone who makes you laugh. For this as always, I recommend taking an improv comedy class as it will make you naturally funny and not try hard funny.
Physically Escalate Touch is key! When you touch a woman you are sending her a non verbal message that you aren’t there just to have a nice conversation. It makes you man to woman not friend to friend.
Sexual escalation is key because it lets you screen out the women are who truly interested and those who aren’t which will help you get laid more and waste less time. That’s what it’s all about!
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Wishing you much success with women and dating.