Background: I am a recovering drug addict (opiate abuser) I currently have a year clean (which is great and all but it isnt shit in the grand scheme of things) anyway, I was using for about 8 years, would call myself a "functioning" addict (good job, own place, car, no one really knew, fucked tons of hot chicks) but during this time I could NOT stop for the life of me (rehab, NA, Therapy, I tried everything and nothing worked), looking back my thinking was so insane I wonder how it was even possible. Now that I have more of a clear head a lot of things are starting to make sense to me that never did. During my using days my game was fucking impeccable. It was a big part of why I found it hard to stop, it just wasnt as good when I was sober. I fucked over 80+ women, I would go out every weekend and almost always pull, or at least make out/get numbers. I was living like a rockstar. I felt invincible, my friends never knew how the fuck I did it, and to be honest neither did I.
Since my recovery it has been hard for me, I had to build my confidence from the ground up, and for some reason, although it was getting really good (still getting laid and spinning plates), it seemed as though women liked me more when I was on drugs. I never understood this, it always frustrated the fuck out of me and caused me to relapse a number of times. But now I am starting to make sense of it all.
Body: I realized since I have become clean I have been walking around looking for validation from women, although I haven't been "needy", per say, I would walk around looking at women, waiting for a reaction, doing things for a reaction. I had been lifting, self improving, setting goals, the whole 9 yards, so why arent they reacting to me like they did when I was using? My game in general was all based on their reaction. It was so subtle and hidden to me but after a relapse I realized something. The day I relapsed, 3 women complimented me, women were looking at me differently, asking ME to hangout. WTF IS GOING ON? Is the drug doing this? What is different???
Then it hit me in the face like a ton of bricks.
The truth is when I would get high, all I would care about is getting more high. That was my main focus, my main goal, and nothing else mattered. So where ever I would go I wouldnt be staring at women, I wouldnt be waiting for a reaction, I would be B-lining it to either go get high or do whatever I wanted to do (when I was high I was selfish as fuck and didnt care about anyone but myself). This is why the drugs made my game seem so good. I stumbled upon a red pill truth by accident. Drugs never made my game any better, they just shifted my focus. Gave my life "purpose/meaning" gave me a reason to wake up in the morning. I still got rejected but I was too high to give a fuck, I said what I wanted to say and did what I wanted to do, because I was, again, too high to give a fuck.
Lesson Learned: That is why red pill says be on your purpose, no matter what it is (for your sake I hope it isnt drugs). Find it or something close to it, until you do find it, make a fucking plan, put on the blinders and stay on that fucking path, each step and move you make should be focused towards that goal, walk through anyone who is in your way and dont give a fuck about what anyone does or says about it (this doesnt mean be a psychopath dick head, you know what Im saying) and most of all stop worrying about women, If you're like me your focusing on woman more than you should be. You are afraid because you arent getting success with them or you arent approaching enough that youre doing the wrong thing or not enough. WRONG.
Stay on that fucking path and on your purpose and if a woman happens to catch your attention while youre on it, smile, approach or keep it moving. The woman will come, they will smell the drive on you as you walk past. Now I am not saying to be an anti social workaholic either. Strike up conversations with anyone you want. In fact everyone, but do it because you want to and to entertain yourself, and help your social life, not because you want validation.
TL;DR: Find your purpose, make a plan, follow the fuck out of it, dont let anyone stop you or shake your focus. Treat your purpose/goals like a drug addict treats a drug, The women will come on their own.