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Be Honest With Yourself: You're Being A Pussy, You Dont Want To Put In The Hard Work. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by TrenGod37

This is a problem I see with about half of this sub (mostly over at asktrp). I'm going to be brutally honest with you, so hopefully you can be brutally honest with yourself. You're being a pussy.

If you're coming here to ask some other man how you should be acting, what you should be saying, what decisions you should be making, etc. Then you are in the wrong sub, the PUA community is where you should be. And there is nothing wrong with that. But this sub isn't meant for that type of stuff. It's showing men how to live by THEIR own rules, not the rules of someone else. I had read in a previous post someone had said (and it received a couple of upvotes), You can not have an abundance mentality if you don't have a lot of women already and you can not be non-needy if you don't have access to pussy. That if you lack social skills you have to be to told the things to say and how to act in order to get women and only then can you improve your inner game once you fake your outter game. This is an excuse and it's WAY too common, and toxic type of thinking in far too many new men who come here.

The problem is they want to be told what to do. They don't want to put in the hard work in going through monk mode, approaching and getting rejected, being uncomfortable, getting drug through the mud to create their own experiences and learn for themselves. They want a step by step script on what to do. They don't want to make mistakes they don't want to be uncomfortable. They want to be safe they want to take the short cut. And hey if that's what you want to do that is fine and it may work for the time being. But it's only hurting you in the long run because you'll be depending on that type of stuff for a long time.

You can absolutely be non-needy if you don't have access to pussy. You can absolutely change your thinking too an abundance mentality even if you don't have any.

Do you think every guy who isn't extremely attractive who gets pussy has taken or learned pick up prior to getting pussy? Not at all. I have a friend who was over weight and was always the nice guy, social skills weren't that great and never got pussy. Guess what? He got fed up and said I'm done being the nice guy. I'm doing shit for myself. He changed his mentality, worked (hard) on himself and started not giving a fuck (aka non neediness). Now he gets tons of pussy. My better looking friends even say They don't get how he gets the women he does. No PUA, no canned bullshit. No step by step guide. Just change of thinking and a Idgaf attitude.

Half the reason guys find this sub in the first place is because they are fed up. They change their thinking or go monk mode and all of a sudden, boom. Pussy is coming.

The ones who actually swallowed TRP don't tell you to use bullshit canned lines here, we don't tell you work on your outter game first. That's the problem with a lot of new comers. This is what they want.

As Men we need to stop making excuses of why we can't do things for ourselves and stop following in the exact foot steps (and using words) of other men. That's why the PUA is so popular. It's a "shortcut" men don't want to think for themselves or create their own experience through failures, they want some other guy who has the success tell them exactly what to do. You think cave men and your ancestors had a step by step guide on how to do this shit? No they learned for themselves and the ones who made excuses and wanted to be babied died off.

Learning off others is fine if it's done in principles not when it's done by telling you what exactly to say or how to act for everything particular situation.

If you want to swallow the red pill and become the man you were meant to be. This is the right place to be. Just know it's going to fucking suck at first. It's going to take work, you're going to be uncomfortable. You're going to want to go back to feeling "safe" but that isn't going to help you in the long run and will never get you where you want to be. You need to want this more than anything and you need to stop making lame excuses to why you can't do things. You need to stop following other men's exact way of doing things and using their words. Take their advice and put it to the test in your own way.

They were just like you at one point only they said fuck this. Stopped making excuses and started living for themselves.

For years of being a drug addict I had never been able to get clean. It was because I didn't want to be uncomfortable. I didn't want to put in the hard work of making my life better without drugs. I didn't want to think for myself. I was running from fear. And made excuses for years. Getting clean was and still is one of the hardest things I ever have done but now that I am on the other side of it. I realize all along everything I thought during my active addiction was just an excuse to why I couldn't get sober. I wanted an easy way out, It was so much easier to take a drug to feel normal (that was ruining my life and making me unable to function) than it was to deal with life and all the bullshit that comes with it. Now I couldn't be happier I'm sober. I stopped making excuses and did whatever the fuck I have to do to stay clean and I grow everyday from it. To gain the confidence I wanted that I'd get from the drug, I had to go out there and throw myself to the dogs and approach. I had to face my fears head on. And now I'm comfortable doing all that stuff.

You saying you don't have social skills is why you can't get women is like me saying. I'm an addict and that's why I can never get clean. It's an excuse. Stop being a pussy. Stop saying you can't approach because you don't know what to say. Stop asking other guys what you should be saying. Stop making those excuses and start doing.

I'm not saying don't take advice from other men, I'm in not saying don't gain knowledge and work smarter. I'm saying put in the WORK, take what you learn and do it for yourself. Stop tip toeing through life afraid to do things for yourself or making mistakes.

TL;DR You're probably making excuses and want to be told exactly what to do, instead of finding out for yourself. You don't want to put in the hard work and are afraid of failure. That's why you aren't making the progress you want.


[–]keysomea 73 points74 points  (14 children)

Heh yeah I agree fuck even I rationalize like a little bitch some things

[–][deleted] 44 points45 points  (7 children)

Which is ok as long as you recognize it. You want to be lazy and spend a whole weekend playing video games, that's fine. Just don't complain when the ladies are more interested in Chad's pecs and deltoids than your 100% Skyrim completion run.

[–]Chickachic-aaaaahhh 0 points1 point  (5 children)

What does it mean to be a little bitch though. Every one has a personalization of certain words. Some people have their own versions of freedom and truth. This sounds a lot like an ego trip but I do agree with him on the concept of you having to go through suffering before you understand that being a pussy is basically allowing petty shit get to you and break you down on the inside.

[–]keysomea 4 points5 points  (4 children)

In my conception being a little bitch is not standing up to the challenges

[–]Chickachic-aaaaahhh 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Specifics? Challenges applies to a lot.

[–]keysomea 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Challenges is a broad theme I know. But it's really boiled down to specifics. The challenges I meant are the challenges most people will face while trying ti build their optimal lifestyle. Lets suppose you want a lifestyle that have a wide selection of women to choose from. But to that happen you need to approach, get rejected and learn from success and mistakes. The same applies to any goal that your lifestyle idealizes it.

[–]Chickachic-aaaaahhh 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So for the sake of the argument I'm guessing you apply challenges to more than just getting women right. That's not really a type of challenge to me , the challenge is what are ok with and what are willing to stand up for. The challenge is fighting for your happiness and not giving in to society's ways of life. You just can't adopt a shitty way of life like a Nazi and pretend you have some value.

[–]keysomea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sir have a point that is a very good argument

[–]3nebder 32 points33 points  (21 children)

It's nice to have a starters guide. I had to piece my own together from the various readings I did here and elsewhere. Being a logical man, it makes sense for me to start with do X, Y, Z get results.

I wanted to take that too far and follow a script. It's not that simple upon reflection. There's a time for theory and preparation then it's on to action. Nothing beats experience gained from putting yourself out there. You can jerk yourself off with all these ideas of plans and groundwork but at the end of the day the baby birds gotta fly man.

Here's my skeleton plan based on what I learned here. Adapt as needed. 1. Define your mission 2. Fix your body 3. Understand game (PUA basics plus self-improvement) 4. Improve your life every day

[–]Salted_Pretzel 45 points46 points  (19 children)

You're plan sounds good but it's missing two thing. Mental and emotional mastery. We humans are not machines, we get tired, we get emotional and when things don't go our way we let the negativity and our emotions dictate our life. I realized the hard way that mental and emotional health is really important. I believe it should be number one in anything. You can have the best action plan out there but without the proper mindset and emotional balance it will make you even more miserable and get you nowhere.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (1 child)

This guy gets it. What is outer game without inner game? A fascade.

[–]Salted_Pretzel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You need both. It's like driving a nice car, sure it looks nice but without a proper engine it'll break down after a few miles.

[–]Gallobrax 6 points7 points  (2 children)

It's ironic sometimes how this works. We spend so much of our time worrying about external factors yet it's often our own emotions which bring us down. Further, when this happens it's often far more destructive. This, is the importance of frame, and without it we are nothing.

[–]Salted_Pretzel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Especially in this sub. Too many advice that spurt around here and not focusing the most important thing that makes you "alpha"

[–]HeavenlyMystery 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Bro, what happened to your daily story?

[–]Salted_Pretzel 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I realized that there was other more important things to work on. I'm still approaching and learning but I figured out that my mental attitude and emotions is causing me grief and pain. It's not easy to reprogram your mind after 10+ years of negativity and a unpleasant upbringing.

[–]Ludajl 1 point2 points  (1 child)

"It's not easy to reprogram your mind" I know the feeling man. Happy to point you in the direction that helped me. PM me if you're interested.

[–]trpperr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can always make a post.

[–]Old_Memes_Never_Die 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Mental and emotional mastery seems like a very broad thing, what actions would you think about ?

[–]Ludajl 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Emotional mastery is actually not vague at all, it's just that it's not taught to us in school, so we tend to go "Huh?" When we hear about it. It's simple: Either you control your thoughts & emotions, or they control you.

The goal is to reprogram your subconscious mind. This is what was conditioned during the first 7 years of your life and controls 95% of your behavior, which you don't see or notice.

[–]Salted_Pretzel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reducing the negative thoughts and filling the rest with positivity. You cannot completely get rid of negative thoughts and emotions, it's part of life. You can however distribute the ratio, 7:3 or somewhere along those lines.

Emotional mastery is not letting external and internal things(beliefs, work, family, people etc) dictate your emotions which in turn dictates your thoughts which then controls your actions.

[–]kelvin_condensate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 'game' should be a natural consequence of the mastery you develop. PUA tactics are a means to subvert this mastery.

[–]Johndoesmith67 19 points20 points  (3 children)

Alot of people don't have patience. It takes time. it all takes time. It takes talking to 10 girls that day cause that is what your schedule allows getting a no from all of them and saying "ok try again tomorrow". Like it takes time. It takes time to get money it takes time to get girls. Don't be a typical baby and want it all right fucking now and then say this sub is stupid when this doesn't work.

[–]Gallobrax 3 points4 points  (1 child)

The sub is a gathering of people and ideas. Nothing more, nothing less.

[–]Nucka574 1 points1 points [recovered]

Yeah.... Lots of new guys over at askTRP can't even be bothered to read the fucking sidebar these days it seems.

[–]Aaronindhouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think TRP should institute some sort of test, to see whether or not you have read the material and require a 100% score before you can post here.

[–]red_matrix 10 points11 points  (2 children)

Our default setting is LAZY, for everything. We have to train ourselves to do things: whether it is playing golf or Brazilian jii jitsu you have to train: over and over. Repetition works, but it's hard. That's why we are afraid of doing things new, we don't understand what we haven't done before.

After high school and college we start separating from friends/family. We are more on our own and we interact with people less. You live alone and probably don't have many people to talk to at work either. After work you go home alone and maybe go to the gym. Adult life is kind of solitary. You're not surrounded by your peers like you were in your youth and thus you lost your social default setting. You need to go through the repetition of talking and being more social if you want to talk to more girls. Being comfortable with being social will make you magnetic in all areas of life. Repetition works and will alter your default setting, but you do have to pay a put in the effort.

[–]Gallobrax 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I like how you've described the transition from childhood to adulthood. It makes a great deal of sense in these terms, but the issue then becomes how do you grow your social circle. As a twenty six year old I find that when I try to do this I am often faced with people who are trying to "turn back the clock" and return to the days of college and high school. To the contrary I desire a world where I associate myself with adults; other people who are trying to build and grow power and not simply exist.

[–]throwawayQCsummer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is no substitute for getting to 1000 rejections. I know it's easier when you are young. Thats when I did it. But even for older guys we live in a wild where there are always more fish. Work on yourself first. Put, out there and I'd get shot down, honestly, ignore that. Analyzing why is too emotional to be done with effectiveness. Its too easy to become excuses or a false ego.

Jusrelet your unconscious learn from the expeand keep working on becoming the you that you admire. Then it will come together. Practice is an amazing thing. It might not make perfect but it is as close as we have.

[–]svomadness 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Seems hearing the truth can also be uncomfortable

[–]cas_999 3 points4 points  (1 child)

What drug were you addicted to, if you don’t mind me asking

[–]RedPimpin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

no doubt, people want white teeth without having healthy teeth first

[–]Cunt_Robber 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What it all boils down to is... In your title. Stop being a pussy. Men didnt have that "luxury" back in the day. Men were men. If there was one takeaway from TRP other than game/women-related topics it was this: stop being a pussy.

Stop posting on askTRP, the answer's probably "stop being a pussy."

[–]tacko276 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pontificate much? guys come here for help some need more that others. We've all been there. Lord knows some of the best advise I've been given has been the toughest to hear. It's like when your big brother beats your ass for being stupid. I do agree tho some guys are soft don't wanna hear the criticism and don't want to put in the work. But there are a lot of guys truly working hard on there shit and will take all the help we can get That includes my sorry ass

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (5 children)

Yes, I think a lot of guys come here because of the reasons you gave, looking for validation of their poor choices or reassurance. But a lot also come here because they simply have no idea how to act. We're a generation of boys raised by single moms, many of whom have never had a male role model beyond books and movies. They are born into a culture that looks for convenient excuses to rationalize every failing or inequality. That was bad enough long ago when I was a young kid, I feel really sorry for a lot of the boys growing up now who must be totally lost.

It's tempting to hold the perspective you're coming from and tell these guys all they need is to harden up, hit the gym, and set their own course. Because you and I and some others have reached a point in our lives and our worldly maturity when we have a solid intuitive understanding of how to navigate this weird world. Yet a lot of young guys lack the experience that makes that intuition possible. There are worse things they could do than seek forums like this one where they can get an unvarnished reality check.

Whether it helps them or even if they ignore it and call it PUA bullshit or some kind of misogyny, one day life will shatter their blue pill delusions and hopefully they'll be in a better position to figure things out.

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

All they have to do is read the side bar to start. They don't. They start posting and keep posting even after they're told to read. How do I know.

I was one of them at first. And I wasted a lot of time by not reading and taking action. And so are they. And there are a lot

[–]PinHunter65 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Heck, the ones in our generation who had dads only had a 30% chance of learning this stuff.

[–]Gallobrax 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The internet has changed a lot. Now the problem is sorting through all of the "data" and turning it into information.

[–]Gallobrax 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, one cannot get angry at these people - they are simply not there yet. Without something shattering your original perspective TRP will not help you. If you are not ready to learn you will not.

[–]THETRUMPTRUTHTRAIN 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dammit I was told I would be given privilege !! Well where is it dammit

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your sobriety, TrenGod37! That's an amazing accomplishment that you should be extremely proud of. I would also like to add that I think a lot of women appreciate men who work hard, put forth effort, and are not afraid of failure. I'm sure your hard work does not go unnoticed.

[–]Dynamaxion 1 point2 points  (2 children)

started not giving a fuck (aka non neediness). Now he gets tons of pussy. My better looking friends even say They don't get how he gets the women he does. No PUA, no canned bullshit. No step by step guide. Just change of thinking and a Idgaf attitude.

He has to give a little bit of a fuck because he's putting in the effort to meet women. Unless he does things that just allow him to meet them organically. But for 99% of guys, getting into a scenario where you can pick up chicks takes deliberate effort and thus giving a fuck. Even the act of approaching and seducing takes some level of giving a fuck. If you truly, completely dgaf you probably wouldn't even care about women or bother with them.

Now, as far as wanting to get laid but learning how to have a demeanor of not giving a fuck and acting like it never even crossed your mind? Yeah, that I can relate to.

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 10 points11 points  (1 child)

The meaning of not giving a fuck as we use it here. Is not to literally give a fuck about nothing, it's to not give a fuck about what other people think. To do what you want to do without second guessing yourself. To not care about outcomes. To not entertain negativity of the things/people that surround you. Etc

[–]pn_me_your_dick 1 point2 points  (2 children)

but you are still doing it for women

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Nope should be all for your growth and because it's what you want.

[–]pn_me_your_dick -1 points0 points  (0 children)

but why even grow? its useless

[–]Trombonesandwiches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good shit here guys! It's a lifestyle change, not a race to see how many notches you cam get.

[–]sshtoredp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The true essence of TRP . Thank you

[–]Aaronindhouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last Thursday I was out with friends. One of them still hasn't had a girlfriend or sex. I spent the whole night trying to find women who would dance with him. Not a single one would. Women don't give their dogs treats for free, they have to do tricks for them. They LOVE their dogs, so you sure as hell aren't going to get something from a woman out of pity(for free).

All of life is a dare guys. You have to be the one man enough to take life up on it. Do shit that scares you, you will be a better(braver) man for it.

[–]Rhynovirus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pussy is a toy. If you're focused on women or sex you're not living your own life. Stop being a fraud and all the game the PUAs teach, badly, comes naturally.

[–]_DiscoNinja_ 1 point2 points  (1 child)

mostly over at asktrp

I thought asktrp was a bunny-lift for people that couldn't muster the energy to read the sidebar.

[–]1TrenGod37[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It shouldn't be but it's become that

[–]rapidprogram 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't wanna put it in the work to read all of this...

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How bout? FUCK YOU. Meet me in the parking lot.

[–]goon_child 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a bombastic, overblown and insufferable blowhard you sound like OP. Get off your fucking highhorse and quit preaching at people, you fucking insecure prick.

[–]KCMOVIEBUFF 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Thank you for posting this - I was just telling my brother about these kind of posts where the author magnanimously offers 'advice' about what's wrong with some type of posts or posters and how to fix the 'problem'. Often this type of poster will point to his history of having been guilty of the same problem, as in this case, and apparently feels born again enough to criticize others who are going through similar problems.

Nothing particularly wrong with this but for Pete's sake, please understand that the people you're aiming this wonderful advice at ARE NOT IN THE HEADSPACE to follow it. They HAVE to go through the suffering before they arrive at the decision themselves to fix the problem. It's called 'experience' - if simply reading advice fixes all problems then no one would ever have them in the first place.

[–]1TrenGod37[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I disagree to an extent. I've got plenty of people telling me they needed to hear this.

And the ones youre talking about can look back on this and maybe learn something. I get what you mean though.

if simply reading advice fixed problem we wouldn't have them.

Huh? That's what this post is all about. Don't just read. Take action. Make mistakes. Find out for yourself. Search for the answered you're looking for through experience. Trial and error.

The reading point you in the right direction and get the ball rolling

[–]TheRiseAndFall 1 point2 points  (4 children)

I disagree. The TRP subreddit is a resource. There is no point in being here if you have your shit together and don't want to help others.

When I came here years ago it was because I needed help. I read the sidebar material, I read the posts, and I asked questions. You do not learn if you do not ask for clarification of things you do not understand. A good teacher is worth a thousand books on the subject.

What you are suggesting is like a doctor turning away a patient because they want help with their symptom.

"Hey doc, I am experiencing pain in my side here. Can you check me out and give me some advice on how to fix it?"

"Look here, if you want me to make the pain go away instead of fixing the real issue, why not just go to the store and get some medicine! We are only here to help people who want to solve the real problems and work on themselves!"

How about giving some guidance? If a person is asking for suggestions with a specific problem or girl then we can help address their real issue. Why are they asking for this help?

People who stumble upon TRP might not even know how to ask for help. They might not know what problems they have to ask for help with.

I think turning these people away is a mistake.

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I think you totally misinterpret my post. Yes this sub is for people to learn other wise it wouldn't exist. I'm talking about the guys who come here. Don't read anything. Post mad questions. Asking exactly what to do. What to say.

The guys who post a question that easily be answered in the side bar. The guys who are afraid to fail and want the exact thing to say. The guys who don't put any work in and want a short cut. They don't lift. They don't read. They don't act. They just post. They don't go out and approach. They don't field report. They don't do any work

Literally go over to the ask threat and read 80% of those questions. You can tell none of them read a damn thing. And that is clearly stated in the top of the sub before posting. To read the sidebar.

None of us were born chads. We worked to get where we are. To understand this stuff. Put it to the test and reported on what didn't work. That's what the ask sub is for.

[–]H8CourtshipALot217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ya, but a lot of guys have good role models in their formative years that teach or help them how to be good with women, which makes knowing how to get a girlfriend common sense for them

[–]TheRiseAndFall -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

Everybody is different. Some people find new ideas intimidating and need someone to hold their hand through the first few lessons. I think this is OK.

I like learning about everything I can and jumping in head first. When I first got here, I had already read half of all the PUA books out there, listened to every David D'Angelo audio file, actively listened to RSD stuff, and devoured the sidebar.

But that is not how many people function. We are trying to build better men here, but we have to accept that when they first come, a lot of the people here qualify under the "little bitch" title. And that is fine. The whole point of askTRP is to help these people.

You are never going to help anyone if the only advice is "read the sidebar" and "search the posts, this question has been answered."

Give some guidance and then point them in the direction of the sidebar and tell them to read up more.

We aren't /b. "Lurk moar faggot" is not our call. TRP is here to help all men who ask for it, not to create an elitist club that is only here for those who can climb out of the hole on their own.

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Youre making excuses for lazy men that's all

This stuff takes work. Telling a man. Exactly what to say isn't going to do shit for him in his growth. He needs to figure it out on his own. Use the principles, fail. And learn. If he says exactly what you tell him to say. He might as well be you

That's why we have principles here in this sub not a step by step guide. Say this. Do this. Get this. That's not how this sub works.

If we follow just what you. Or so and so says. We are just validating your beliefs. Which may not be the best for the person asking the question. He needs to figure that out in his own. The principles are set in place for him to do that. IF he reads and does the work

[–]casemodsalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry but I can't agree with the title.

I'm not a pussy.

I lack game and also believe that women already have it easy enough.

That's why I use tinder for convenience.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I agree with you but I still don't know what to say. I'm an engineer, I lift and have a nice body, I'm decent looking. But it's like I'm fucking autistic when knowing how to talk to women. Or anyone besides small talk at work.

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start by talking to them like you talk to your boys.

[–]Pshkn11 0 points1 point  (2 children)

What is up with all these drug addicts and on TRP lately?

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not only on TRP man it's everywhere. It's become an epidemic really. It's sad to see

[–]Gnomeslime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think this is a very healthy place. I'll go ahead and downvote myself, fucking beta male. ;)

[–]face_north 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Why does every post have to be about getting laid or getting more women... is tat what TRP all about ? Is tat what all of your life abt ?

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. But You don't want/like sex?

[–]shapeshifter83 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm Being A Pussy, and I Don't Want To Put In The Hard Work!

Yay! Honesty is the best policy. :) I feel better, thanks OP!

/s

[–]Nobodykers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm too pussy to cold approach. But it will happen, eventually.

[–]Kingosaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so true, I can't really explain it. I used to have serious mojo, but I stopped taking care of my body and started living my life to please a woman instead of myself. Now I'm a sad sack of shit, but at least I know how to get right. I'm in monk mode now, focused on eating right and working out and making money. I've noticed how differently people treat you when your fat and sloppy. People used to suck on my schlong wherever I went, opening doors and making sure I'm comfortable, whatever that's not what I miss. I miss the confidence of knowing I'm awesome. It's a feeling nobody can take from you and it's worth more than gold.

[–]EBAH1991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright... full gangster mode engaged.

[–]H8CourtshipALot217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's why it sounds like men were meant to grow, and become a better person through this far more than women do

[–]Shaman6624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As every self help book will tell you. It's not the how that's important, it's the why. If you don't want to put in the work nothing is going to change. But if you want to change the way will show itself.

Don't put theorizing in front of practicality.

[–]zavatone -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dont

Sometimes, the hard work means learning second grade English.

[–]wow_wow01 1 points1 points [recovered]

i need to be told what to do, otherwise I'd still be playing video games all the time and I'd be even more autistic and bad at social skills than i am now. though im still bad at conversations

[–]Crimson-Eyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can absolutely be non-needy if you don't have access to pussy. You can absolutely change your thinking too an abundance mentality even if you don't have any.

The core of this non-attachment. People think this means literally giving up on all lives and pleasures and go become a Buddhist monk in the mountains (though ironically going monk mode in RP terminology is necessary for this), but non-attachment ultimately means you no longer suffer over things you are attached to. In the simplest terms, if you can't change something then why worry (move on), if you can change it then why worry (do it).

In RP terms it means defeats, getting turned down, having an extended period without sex, etc. no longer causes you grief, it doesn't means you don't have to stop pursuing women and MGTOW, the people who get laid all the time also get rejected and they don't dwell over it, it doesn't hurt them, they don't come to an Internet forum to angrily type about how women are bitches, after all AWALT you can't change that, but make it your advantage, then they know they're a conversation away with someone else to get laid all the same.

[–]Jack69x 1 points1 points [recovered]

You're being unreasonable. There's nothing wrong with trying to learn from others. If everyone had your "you must do it yourself" attitude, we'd still be living in fucking caves.

"Can you teach me how to build fire? I have ideas that--"

"Fuck off. Learn yourself." (This is you.)

It's where the saying "standing on the shoulder of giants" comes from. It's how science progresses. If you're trying to be artist, you learn and copy until you find your own style. Finally, you don't think through the countless experiences of men there isn't some underlying patterns of wisdom? That there aren't some objectively efficient methods to being your "true self"?

[–]1TrenGod37[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You misinterpreted the post totally. Read the edit.

I'm not saying figure out everything on your own. I'm saying do the work of reading the side bar. Do the world of Apply the stuff you learn and come back then and ask questions.

"Can you teach me how to build fire?" Yes there's a Manual right here called the side bar --------> on exactly "how to build fire." Read it. If then you don't understand. I will help you

Yes that is how scientist progress but scientist put in the work of becoming scientist before they ask other scientist how to progress. See what I'm getting at?

[–]SW9876 1 points1 points [recovered]

I believe /u/trengod doesn't want to put in the hard work. That's why he does tren. To take the easy path for fast gains

[–]Belmont_Trevor -3 points-2 points  (7 children)

focus on yourself. rants are beta.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Holy anger never is beta.

Also what a fucking retarded bullshit type of comment is that anyways? Who gives a fuck about what you deem to be beta? Nobody does.

Fucking go and provide some content of your own and put it to the test here you clown, instead of telling people, who are actively trying to give back to the community, about your opinion that nobody gives a fuck about. Not even you yourself I suppose.

It adds nothing to the post, it doesn't even adress anything of the stuff OP is talking about. It's just destructive and superfluos, boring and retarded.

[–]goon_child -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Get over yourself you fucking faggot drama queen

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

''Some people don't want to be right. They want to be heard."

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

This is a rant to help this sub. Get your head out of your ass

[–]Belmont_Trevor -5 points-4 points  (1 child)

no you're furious and venting

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope passionate and teaching. I was one of those guys and I wasted a lot of time and so are too. And trust me. There is a lot

[–]shlobbybox -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

Yes - please take this advice so you can watch yourself fail at everything and become a depressed garbageperson we are all destined to be. Trust me, even if you have everything - looks, skill, charisma, overwhelming drive to succeed - a clear vision to live free - women and white knights will rip you apart and never allow you to succeed. You're nothing but a threat to their egos and if you don't ally up with some powerful people you will be killed - economically, which is far worse and more humiliating than death. That is the real 'red pill' and why it's so hard to swallow. Accept your fate and grovel like the pig you are. A wise man once said "You're digging for gold in an old rotten oak tree".

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Nobody fails at everything they do. The most successful people failed multiple times and learned from it. Failure is inevitable. If you're afraid to fail you're a puss. It's how we grow. But you're a troll anyway so what's it even matter

[–]shlobbybox -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not a troll. My point is that no matter what - you can think for yourself, become part of the herd, or just keep plugging away at your dreams - and there will always be a legion of people waiting to crush you. The world doesn't want any more good men or competitors. They want more cogs, and if you aren't willing to play ball they will just kill you.

Or make a mockery of you. Especially groups of women. They will label you, mock you and run you out of their social circles, simply for being better and more successful than them or their boyfriends.

Live the good/free life at your own disposal, my friend. I'm just the messenger. Maybe the pussies are doing the right thing. Like cheech & chong said, keep your head down and swallow through. Hope exists to crush you. Only when you know that will you truly be red pilled. And if you keep going after you've been crushed by your peers... you might have a chance of success. Maybe. If you have the right people to help you. If you've made the right friends. Like I said, I'm only the messenger. It's more than just a long road and hard work to success.