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Rant/VentingBe Honest With Yourself: You're Being A Pussy You Don't Want To Put The Hardwork In (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by 1TrenGod37

I'm reposting this because it got removed for some reason and I didn't receive an explanation why. A lot of you appreciated it and a bunch of you have DMed asking why I took it down that you wanted to read it or re-read it. I didn't take it down. So here it is. Hopefully it doesn't get removed again

This is a problem I see with about half of this sub (mostly over at asktrp). I'm going to be brutally honest with you, so hopefully you can be brutally honest with yourself. You're being a pussy.

If you're coming here to ask some other man how you should be acting, what you should be saying, what decisions you should be making, etc. Then you are in the wrong sub, the PUA community is where you should be. And there is nothing wrong with that. But this sub isn't meant for that type of stuff. It's showing men how to live by THEIR own rules, not the rules of someone else. I had read in a previous post someone had said (and it received a couple of upvotes), You can not have an abundance mentality if you don't have a lot of women already and you can not be non-needy if you don't have access to pussy. That if you lack social skills you have to be to told the things to say and how to act in order to get women and only then can you improve your inner game once you fake your outter game. This is an excuse and it's WAY too common, and toxic type of thinking in far too many new men who come here.

The problem is they want to be told what to do. They don't want to put in the hard work in going through monk mode, approaching and getting rejected, being uncomfortable, getting drug through the mud to create their own experiences and learn for themselves. They want a step by step script on what to do. They don't want to make mistakes they don't want to be uncomfortable. They want to be safe they want to take the short cut. And hey if that's what you want to do that is fine and it may work for the time being. But it's only hurting you in the long run because you'll be depending on that type of stuff for a long time.

You can absolutely be non-needy if you don't have access to pussy. You can absolutely change your thinking too an abundance mentality even if you don't have any.

Do you think every guy who isn't extremely attractive who gets pussy has taken or learned pick up prior to getting pussy? Not at all. I have a friend who was over weight and was always the nice guy, social skills weren't that great and never got pussy. Guess what? He got fed up and said I'm done being the nice guy. I'm doing shit for myself. He changed his mentality, worked (hard) on himself and started not giving a fuck (aka non neediness). Now he gets tons of pussy. My better looking friends even say They don't get how he gets the women he does. No PUA, no canned bullshit. No step by step guide. Just change of thinking and a Idgaf attitude.

Half the reason guys find this sub in the first place is because they are fed up. They change their thinking or go monk mode and all of a sudden, boom. Pussy is coming.

The ones who actually swallowed TRP don't tell you to use bullshit canned lines here, we don't tell you work on your outter game first. That's the problem with a lot of new comers. This is what they want.

As Men we need to stop making excuses of why we can't do things for ourselves and stop following in the exact foot steps (and using words) of other men. That's why the PUA is so popular. It's a "shortcut" men don't want to think for themselves or create their own experience through failures, they want some other guy who has the success tell them exactly what to do. You think cave men and your ancestors had a step by step guide on how to do this shit? No they learned for themselves and the ones who made excuses and wanted to be babied died off.

Learning off others is fine if it's done in principles not when it's done by telling you what exactly to say or how to act for everything particular situation.

If you want to swallow the red pill and become the man you were meant to be. This is the right place to be. Just know it's going to fucking suck at first. It's going to take work, you're going to be uncomfortable. You're going to want to go back to feeling "safe" but that isn't going to help you in the long run and will never get you where you want to be. You need to want this more than anything and you need to stop making lame excuses to why you can't do things. You need to stop following other men's exact way of doing things and using their words. Take their advice and put it to the test in your own way.

They were just like you at one point only they said fuck this. Stopped making excuses and started living for themselves.

For years of being a drug addict I had never been able to get clean. It was because I didn't want to be uncomfortable. I didn't want to put in the hard work of making my life better without drugs. I didn't want to think for myself. I was running from fear. And made excuses for years. Getting clean was and still is one of the hardest things I ever have done but now that I am on the other side of it. I realize all along everything I thought during my active addiction was just an excuse to why I couldn't get sober. I wanted an easy way out, It was so much easier to take a drug to feel normal (that was ruining my life and making me unable to function) than it was to deal with life and all the bullshit that comes with it. Now I couldn't be happier I'm sober. I stopped making excuses and did whatever the fuck I have to do to stay clean and I grow everyday from it. To gain the confidence I wanted that I'd get from the drug, I had to go out there and throw myself to the dogs and approach. I had to face my fears head on. And now I'm comfortable doing all that stuff.

You saying you don't have social skills is why you can't get women is like me saying. I'm an addict and that's why I can never get clean. It's an excuse. Stop being a pussy. Stop saying you can't approach because you don't know what to say. Stop asking other guys what you should be saying. Stop making those excuses and start doing.

I'm not saying don't take advice from other men, I'm in not saying don't gain knowledge and work smarter. I'm saying put in the WORK, take what you learn and do it for yourself. Stop tip toeing through life afraid to do things for yourself or making mistakes.

TL;DR You're probably making excuses and want to be told exactly what to do, instead of finding out for yourself. You don't want to put in the hard work and are afraid of failure. That's why you aren't making the progress you want.

Edit: due to the few who totally misinterpreted the post. This post is for the guys who want everything spoon fed to them without doing any sidebar readings. Mostly all of your answers can be found there but you don't want to put in the work to read them and try them for yourself. We are not your mommies here. We are here to help you with the things you get caught up on AFTER you have done the readings and applied what you learned..


[–]RandalJulian 38 points39 points  (3 children)

Quality post, and in particular, "But this sub isn't meant for that type of stuff. It's showing men how to live by THEIR own rules, not the rules of someone else."

big big step back for me in realizing what I'm confused about and why I am so confused. I really want to live by my own rules, so badly, deep inside me I hate myself every time I stray from my own life- but am socially conditioned to try and please others and so by entering their rules and their frame.

In realizing that the red pill is positive masculinity, learning to forget about what other people want, and to live by your own accord, that is a nice refresher. Thanks for triggering that realization in me. Ups.

[–]good_guy_submitter 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This right here. Best quote in the post.

This is the path to real self improvement, which can only be achieved through self realization.

The individual actions are not important, only the principles are. Like when we say "go lift" it is your job to figure out your optimal workout routine for your body. Asking here which exact exercises to do and how often and how many reps, it's all a waste of time until you actually go to the gym and just fucking try them all.

Academia is cancer, those of you in college have been trained to think a certain way and talk a certain way. Hell it starts in middle school. You're handed scripted answers to a huge grade-making test that will never simulate anything you'll ever encounter in real life.

I've been in business for myself for 10 years and it all comes in little waves until what seems like all of sudden (a tipping point) you have more customers than you know what to do with. There was never any big moment. Your school teachers that hand out tests deserve a roundhouse kick to the face. It's the everyday grind that matters, the perpetuous uphill battle of learning and improvement.

[–]rp_newdawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said brotha. Good luck on your journey

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also note that you shouldn't live by TheRedPill, otherwise you're just a buffer version of the sheep you would otherwise be.

[–]IDGAFMentality 33 points34 points  (10 children)

Your posts have been high quality and I've learned a lot from them. I hope you continue to post as frequently as you have been recently, you have a very upbeat and immersive way of conveying your points which has really resonated with me. Keep up the good work!

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 11 points12 points  (9 children)

Thank you tell u/88will88 that lol

[–]Smigg_e 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You do post a lot but who gives a fuck? Not one post on your history made me say this guy's an idiot and has no idea what he's talking about. I know for me I stray away from these good frames of mind and so it's always good to hear what I need to hear time and again to remind me. Keep it up.

[–]Senior Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 10 points11 points  (1 child)

AskTRPs favorite pastime is deliberately confusing themselves. It's exactly what fat people do.

Jolly G Willikers I have absolutely no idea why I can't lose weight what do you think it is?

Well hm let me guess is it because you eat a lot of sugar and processed food like every other fat person?

Then the fat person looks at you in bewildered amazement as if they themselves don't know what the fuck they eat every day.

Then they use the conversation to feel good about "figuring out the issue" Then they go back to eating like a fat person. The process repeats.

That's what AskTRP is all about feeling good about pretending to solve the issue. They all ready know what the fuck they need to do. They're just asking so that they can procrastinate on doing it.

[–]p3n1x 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Then they use the conversation to feel good about "figuring out the issue"

Idea Validation.

A: I should go to the gym and workout, it will be good for me!!

B: Great idea, fucking do it, I'm excited for you!!

A: (never gets off the fucking couch)

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Recovery - check

Tren reference - check

Trp - check

I wonder how many of us there are

[–]BullshittingNonsense 10 points11 points  (1 child)

I really liked your last post, too. Shame it got taken down

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Not sure why. But at least it's up again.

[–]Japaliicious 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I'm one of those in the process of swallowing TRP and I agree with you. So many people here seems to be too afraid of leaving their blue reality. Kinda like they're afraid of becoming their own king.

Also, your post is exactly what I'ven been thinking, it's just that you put into words and now I can think clearly.

[–]p3n1x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Willful ignorance should not be equated to fear. Fear is a good thing.

[–]Flyest-Nihilist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to shit day, and THIS is exactly what I needed to see to get back in there tomorrow. Happy I found this subreddit

[–]Deadlybeef 1 point2 points  (3 children)

give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime

[–]1OneRedYear 1 point2 points  (2 children)

give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, sell a man a fish and you feed him and yourself. Teach a man to fish and you've ruined a great business opportunity!

[–]Deadlybeef 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Was that the neoliberal version?

[–]1OneRedYear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's the capitalist version. Get money.

[–]z0mby123 1 point2 points  (2 children)

What about for men suffering from mental illness like depression or bipolar? I think its very difficult for them to change because it depends on the chemicals in the brain. They have a huge impact and i speak from experience i have been struggling with bipolar type 2 and its very messed up. Some days you want to do cardio and feel very motivated because you are high on dopamine, others you feel like shit because the balance of chemicals is shifted. It has caused me to gain-lose lose-gain weight for 2 years. I have considered giving up but a part of me wants to keep fighting (therapy is not an option due to financial causes) so any other advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance :)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The answer is right in front of you. You just lack the balls to go with it. You are dealt a shitty hand of cards. Other people have better hands, other other people have worse hands. You can look down and see how people which are even more limited deal with it (though most people don't and just like you focus on complaining about it) or you can look up and use that as an justification for not dealing with it.

You have exactly two opportunities. Accept it and deal with it. Or complain and justify not dealing with it. There is only black and white on that matter. And to be truly honest, there is no "wrong" choice. It is your life. It is your card. It is your game. You play it the way you intend and noone has the right to tell you what "should" be done no matter how their hand of cards looks like.

So make up your own damn choice. Deal with it, work with what you have. Or dont deal with it, cope with the result of that.

EDIT:
Some analogy or maybe metaphor. One of the two words it is:
"Man, Jack in the Gym has such great genetics. He only needs 2 weeks to lose X amount of weight/gain muscle. I need 3-5 weeks for that. That is not fair! Im not on an equal playing field." (So one realizes stuff is not equal and makes a choice) A.) "Fuck it, i will still do it. My fight is harder than his, but i do it!" B.) "I give up. I don't want to fight an unfair fight. I'll do something else with my time."

Unlike other people i would not "shame" someone for doing any of the two responses even though most around here would probably call you out on unmanly or pussy for going with B. I just put up the facts. Make of it what you want and good luck.

[–]ZefirFML 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading this post will be my day routine since today. It motivated me to point, where i get butterflies in stomach. (lol!) Thank you so much, and have a nice day!

[–]seius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just like the legions of Rome, you can't tell someone what being a legionnaire is, they have to experience it.

[–]iamanenemy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's rare that a gem post like this one drops on TRP. Drink that knowledge, y'all. Get that improvement fuel. You know what? I'm the kind of person the post describes. Or, I was.

Forge your own path. Don't get caught up in what other men got going on. Learn what your unique perspective has in store for you and apply an ad-hoc, for-you-only worldview based on those experiences.

[–]1GreenPiller 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Change your title. You'll keep triggering a lot of people. The truth always hurts the most.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were your posts originally written using a different username? Many of them are extremely familiar, I am certain I have read them before, especially the "become more social" and the one related to your addiction.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good post, kind clarifying for a newcomer here on TRP - reminds me of the character/personality ethic difference in The 7 Habits. Also that part about getting clean hit real close to home, good job and best of luck staying that way.

[–]yizolo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It boils down to a poor relationship with failure. Whether it is from poor experiences in the past or none at all for some failing becomes synonymous with becoming a failure. That's why you see so many men asking for step-by-step instruction on how to be a better man.

This is a false narrative cemented in many people's psyche.

In reality the vast majority of major players in business, politics, technology, investing, athletics, etc. have suffered their share of would-be earth shattering failures. The difference is in how it is both approached and dealt with. Fearing failure and/or failing and continuing the same pattern over and over again is the trademark of a loser. Taking failure head on, learning from it, and applying that knowledge to new challenges is the behavior of a successful person.

Allowing that fear to take hold and affect your actions is what makes you a pussy. It doesn't matter whether you fear failing or not, do it regardless.

[–]keonkla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES ALL MY THIS! Sold post my man, look i know life from a mans perspective is alot harsher then it should be but this little corner of hell isn't filled with women now is it fellas? Its filled with grown ass men trying to make some weak pussy's into Tougher more masculine men. Look I was a complete Nerd/betaish guy and i still got a few dates/girls...But My school work was starting to slip up because i was chasing way to much tail. Its as simple as that, You as a man will succeed or fail on your own merits. So for the love of god have some Personal accountability.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like a lot of people in this sub take bits and pieces and try to put it all together and feel more lost than they did when they came here. Anyone reading this should take a step back and be their own person, and apply everything in a macro sense.. not try to be a cookie cut script following monkey chasing some ass.

[–]PM_ME_ROASTIES 1 points1 points [recovered]

Red pill claim #1: 20% of men are having sex with 80% of women.

Red pill claim #2: 100% of men can become alpha males with their own harems and if a man isn't getting results it's because he's a weak pathetic pussyfied omega loser who hasn't worked hard enough.

Which one is true and which one is false?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because 100% can doesn't mean 100% will. Those who do are fucking the "shares" of those who do not reach potential.

Also your point demands 1:1 monogamy to be true. To make an extreme point, there could be 1 woman per 10 men and we all could still be having sex with a woman

[–]1Inchado -1 points0 points  (5 children)

Maybe it was because of the autistic title. Truth is after reading your post, the title is unworthy. What you go on to say is valuable and well written.

The accusatory tone you used in the title was solely for the sake of attention seeking and made you seem cheap.

[–]TheGillos 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I for one appreciate accusations that are true.

"YOURE BEING A PUSSY BECAUSE X, Y, Z"

... Shit, you're right... I have some stuff to start work on.

This is TRP , no need to sugar coat, tip toe or walk on egg shells, fuck it. Give it to me strait.

[–]1TrenGod37[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Okay so the title could have been better. And I realized that after I posted it. But said fuck it. Still doesn't mean it should have been removed

[–]good_guy_submitter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No the title is perfect. Anyone who is triggered after reading the content of your post is someone who is terrified of changing themselves and needs to see this more than ever. The title is triggering, but like you said, people need to stop being pussies, myself included.

I've come a long way, but I'm learning more and more that successful people are successful because of their social ability to ask others for what they want from them, and then negotiate a deal. That's all approaching women is, that's all business is. But both seem impossible if you are acting like a pussy who won't go outside and approach.

[–]1OneRedYear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It got them to read, it did it's job. We live in a clickbait world where you have a few seconds to generate interest or emotion. You did both.

[–]cas_999 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This guy thinks hardwork is a single word I can’t listen to him

[–]trpanak1n -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

i'm superior to you in every way imaginable... you would look good in my trophy room.

[–]UltraCuyan -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Tldr; but you're an insecure tryhard if you have to do stuff to prove some bullshit macho worth to others..