Building PowerConor McGregor Confidence Analysis | How you can build your confidence by improving: Body language, your speaking, and utilizing visualisation (self.TheRedPill)

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Breaking Down Conor McGregor's Confidence

Now, this post isn’t a fan post about Conor McGregor. This post about how you can build your confidence up, I just so happened to use Conor McGregor as the subject of our analysis. There are three main areas that I will be focusing on here: body language, speech, and mindset.


Confident body language:

When you watch Conor McGregor during press conferences and interviews you will notice that he often takes up a lot of room. He sits comfortably as if he was home alone watching a new episode of Game of Thrones in his pyjamas.

During the UFC 196 press conference, the power of his confident body language is clearly displayed. Conor has elbows spread out almost like an eagle. His opponent Rafael Dos Anjos has closed body language. Dos Anjos’s arms are tucked under the table, his shoulders are tucked in and he keeps his head down as he talks. His body language is clearly weak and as a result, he gets dominated in the interaction.

The problem with having closed off, weak, and passive body language is that it can create a negative feedback loop during your social interactions. You lose confidence simply by being in these passive positions, your mind notices that you have bad body language and in turn makes you feel more nervous. Your nerves lead you to more close off body language which leads you to less confidence and the cycle continues until you lose your power.

There have been research papers done on the physiological effects of body language. This research was popularised by Amy Cuddy in her TED Talk titled ‘Your body language my shape who you are’. Her research concluded that doing ‘Power Poses’ (strong body language that usually takes up a lot of room), could lead to benefits such as:

• Higher testosterone levels

• Lower Cortisol levels

• Overall increase in confidence levels

Keep this in mind next time you see Conor McGregor doing that ridiculous ‘McGregor walk’ before fights.

How you can apply this:

If you have a date or an important social interaction, be very aware of your body language. Avoid bad body language as it will rob you of your power. Keep away from doing the following:

• Keeping your hands in your pockets and shoulders tucked in.

• Looking down

• Holding your hands in your arms

• Crossing your arms

• Sitting against the wall with a drink in your hand (stop hiding!)

Generally, bad body language is closed in. Don’t be afraid to take up more room. Below are some things you should be doing.

• Take up more space

• Have your feet a bit wider

• Have good posture while standing

• Keep your head up

• Relax ( no one is going to kill you )

Image of some 'Power Poses'

Confident Speaking:

When you watch Conor McGregor it becomes very clear that he is comfortable speaking. When he speaks he often slows himself down to emphasise an important point. He speaks with purpose and is deliberate about his delivery. Watch many of his press conferences and you will see that he dominates the conversations while other fighters often remain silent.

Nervous people usually talk very fast. They talk fast because they don’t like the spotlight being on them. Often, they are under the impression that if they don’t speak fast enough people will ignore them. You might have felt this feeling before perhaps back in school when you were asked to answer a question. Usually, your heart rate increases and you begin to feel uneasy, this unease is what forces you speak faster than usual.

Confident people don’t give a fuck about the spotlight, they are going to say what they are going to say and will take their time saying it. They don’t feel t the pressure that most people experience while talking. They understand that what they have to say is valuable, and that people want to listen.

This understanding allows them to take longer pauses and change up their cadence making them more engaging. Good eye contact is also a must; Conor McGregor has very good eye contact when he is talking to people. Poor eye contact displays weakness and insecurities, things that you must overcome.

How you can apply this:

When you are talking, slow down, remember that there is no rush. Own everything you say. If you make a mistake do not get embarrassed, just start the sentence over and clearly state your point of view. Confident speaking takes practice; make sure you practice with every interaction you get into. Below are some things you can work on to improve your speaking:

• Learn to maintain strong eye contact

• Do not feel rushed to say anything

• Use strategic pauses to create effect

• Own what you say

• Don’t lose confidence over mistakes

• Learn to use different vocal tonalities within conversations

Confident Visualisations

Conor McGregor is a huge proponent of visualisation. Perhaps his most popular example visualisation came before the Jose Aldo fight. Conor said:

"I felt when we stared down, I felt his right hand was twitching, which was a subtle tell for me. He's ready to unload that right hand and I feel that could be a downfall for him. If he lets that right hand go, I will not be there.”

For those who watched the fight, you know that his prediction was spot on. Conor attributes his visualisations of the fight as the key to his victory.

Conor has said that he visualises everything from the clothes that he will wear to the cars that he will drive and the how his fights will go.

Visualisation is a tool that is incredibly important. It allows you to play scenarios in your head over and over again until they become real to your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is influenced through repetition. If you envision yourself at your most confident and charismatic over and over again, you will become that character you envision. The movie ‘Fight Club’ did a good job of showing this process. The protagonist creates a character ‘Tyler Durden’ in his mind who is his ideal self. We can create ourselves through our thoughts just as much as our actions.

How you can apply this:

Before you go on that hot date, or before you give the speech in front of a room full of people. Picture yourself at your best and ask yourself the following questions:

1. What are you wearing?

2. How do you smell?

3. How do you talk?

4. What does your body language look like?

5. How will you deal with adversity?

6. How do you react to success?

Make this imagined you vivid and real within your mind with repetition. When the situation that you have envisioned arrives, you might find that you are simply repeating the action that you have done multiple times before in your mind.

[–]_felagund 40 points41 points  (26 children)

I'm terrible at maintaining eye contact and this shows me weak in interactions, any advice?

[–]Gainster1990 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Picture them having a unibrow and focus on it until maintaining eye contact becomes effortless

[–]ed4649 25 points26 points  (1 child)

Stare at one eye. Pick one of their eyes and stick with it.

[–]tinktinkdotorg 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I pretend it's a game. High-score for staring the longest.

[–]davven77 18 points19 points  (0 children)

look yourself in the mirror deep into your own eyes. Once you can do that for a long period of time you're ready to meet others eyes.

you have to face your own soul before you can face others>

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (10 children)

What helped me fix this was a little game I thought up. Go out for a walk in a relatively busy street and stare down people walking towards you for as long as you can. First person to look away loses. Keep track of your win/loss ratio and see how it improves after a few attempts.

[–]ptgx85 63 points64 points  (9 children)

That's a good way to get your ass beat if you stare down the wrong person.

[–]COLIE53 12 points13 points  (3 children)

no you just smile and say whatsup. No ones gonna wanna fight a person acknowledging them as they go on their way.

[–]VernonMaxwell 8 points9 points  (2 children)

"AND say whatsup". Just saying "whats up" can seem confrontational as well if you're staring at someone. A little DOWN head nod is appropriate as well. A head nod UP saying "whats up" can get you into some shit.

[–]cageypenguin 11 points12 points  (1 child)

The trick is recognising what is a "friend signal" and what is a "foe signal".

A chin up nod with a "what's up" after unwavering eye contact could definitely be seen as a foe signal. A better way to disarm people after making eye contact is with an "eyebrow flash".

Most humans instinctively do this when our gazes meet with someone we like or have no beef with. We do this half second raise of our eyebrows before we break eye contact. It's a universal signal which conveys: "I've got not quarrel with you, I'm your friend and am just acknowledging your existence." without having any submissive implications like bowing your head and gazing down.

Just start watching people as you make eye contact (especially male coworkers) you will notice that 9 times out of 10, you get this eyebrow flash. If you don't, it indicates that they probably don't like you or are nervous and see you as some kind of threat.


edit: words

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

If you look at them like a contract killer.

[–]ptgx85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's what a stare down is.

If you hold eye contact with a smile or nod then it might not be taken offensively, just a little creepy.

[–]FrodoMaiBaggins -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That's why you train hand-to-hand combat. How can you be a man if you can't even defend yourself, or your family?

[–]SasquatchMcKraken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick an eye and stick with it. Alternate eyes occasionally if you want, or keep focused on one for the "staring straight into you" affect. Trying to look people in both eyes at the same time is impossible and not advisable, unless for some reason you're going for the "staring straight through you" indirect gaze affect. I also don't suggest looking at a point near their eyes. People can usually tell the difference.

[–]cerahhh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same problem. I read somewhere years ago that people can't tell whether or not you're looking into their eyes if you stare at the centre of their forehead. I've been doing it for years and recently told a friend that's what I do and they made me look at both their forehead and their eyes to see if they could see a difference and they couldn't.

[–]1TrenGod37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read the recent post about it

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Look within. It's cliche for a reason. Do you have a definite purpose? A plan you believe in? Personal ethics you uphold? Are you confident in the goals you've set and goals you've accomplished?

How present are you?

[–][deleted] 29 points30 points  (4 children)

Want to add something to the deal:

Sometimes we tend to think about what we are going to say, order it in our mind and then go to say it. Literally planning out your point, hell even approaching girls and what to say.

If that happens to you, something i just started implementing: If you make a point in your mind and you plan it out for say more than 5 seconds you forbid yourself from even using that point at all. And if its approaching a girl -> THEN you do it anyway. If its shit like "Hey mate, where you got those fitness gloves from?" you kind of do it anyway, but don't formulate it the way you laid it out in your head. FUCK IT. Just do what comes to your mind, don't doubt yourself like a bitch. Cheers and thanks for reading!

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children)

I prepare like a bulletpoint of what I am going to say in my mind before I talk, this way it is not scripted but I still have the advantage of having it planned, should I apply the same 5 second rule to this aswell?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (2 children)

Definitly. Throw that behaviour right out the window. You are setting the bar waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to high and trust me those a's are not even remotly describing how worthless it is to speak from a observed, planned out thought.

Logic, Thinking, Abtract Grasp on Ceoncepts, Patterns... tools on which this world was build, close to useless in the field. Most simple proof: Say you get a girl here and there. Start asking them "Hey, which of my witty statments yesterday/in the past truly convinced you? Whats your favourite? Can you call even one?" The BEST you will get there is... "Eh, you are smart/witty! nods head" Well if one is generous she MAY remember a joke because she saved it so that she can use it again/herself/be in on the joke in case it comes up again.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I was not referring to specifically the field, but everyday life. I still dont understand your reasoning however, of course planning out exactly what you will say will sound scripted and forced, but if you dont have an atleast the slightest idea of what you are going to say you will not say anything of value or substance.

Logic and abstract thinking is the very core of my being, every thing I have accomplished in my life, whether it be financial or otherwise, was due to these tools. I am not going to change myself and take away the best tools I have to continue to conquer my goals just because it may or may not get me more pussy.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not my fault you did not specify. For anything buinessrelated or based on the tool of thinking... duuuh. Of course you think first. Or putting it more defined: For anything that includes emotion to some degree think and act at the same time. For anything which runs better without emotions straped to it, think first.

[–]1TrenGod37 16 points17 points  (3 children)

Another point that's good to note that isn't stated here. Is when he speaks, and he makes a statement he will sit in it.

He will make a statement. And then sit there stone faced after it's made. He will hold the silence and let the people react or not react. But he never reacts.

It's oozes with confidence. He demonstrates this in his press conference with Dustin. They ask them both how they think the fight will go.

watch here at 4:50. Dustin makes his statement. And then says he's 100% confident and then says "ya know?" His body language shows how he's truly feeling. Then watch how Connor responses. That example isn't the best for Connor but if you watch the whole press conference or any of them. You will see him do that.

Make a bold statement. Put the mic down and let it breathe. Almost as if he's in a room by himself. He doesn't care what other people say or react to what he says. He believe what he says and that's it.

[–]asymptotic_salvation 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Excellent example. "They don't move like I move, they don't think like I think, then don't talk like I talk."

He always ends his statements with a full stop.

[–]SlothOnRoids 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Props to Mcreggor, he's going to paid enough money to be set for life regardless win or lose.

[–]PlayerXz 23 points24 points  (25 children)

Good to see theredpill realizing the lessons we can learn from Conor McGregor. Two years ago people around here were all about Chris Weidman and called Conor an imposter.

[–]1thediamonddawg[S] 64 points65 points  (2 children)

I try take lessons from everyone. Take the good and disregard the shit. You don't have to like someone to learn from them.

[–]trpperr 27 points28 points  (1 child)

This one sentence right here is worth much more than tomes upon tomes of stuff I have read. Willingness to learn from anyone and to apply a critical stance toward everything is thr mark of a real, efficient, ever-improving man.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not to mention the importance of: "You can (dis)agree with what someone says without labeling the entire libary of what he talks about as (dis)agreeable".

To me for example actualizedorg youtuber has a few great points even if the dude went hard on hippie drugie mode in the recent past.

[–]jay1451 1 points1 points [recovered]

While I like this post and I love Conor McGregor, Amy's TED Talk has mostly been proven to be false, although it gets brought up on top TRP posts like twice a month...

[–]SamuraiPizzaCatz 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I wish people would fuck off with the idea behind power poses.

My own anecdotal evidence is that I naturally take up space and do pretty much all of those 'power poses', and yet I have absolutely no confidence and feel nervous around people a lot.

By their logic, I should have low as fuk cortisol and be basking in my own glory.

[–]ImTooCozy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The key thing is you've got to put in the work. When you consistently put in work, then you begin to trust yourself, then you become confident. Visualization is an important part, but it's nothing without the work!

[–]Wallace44 1 points1 points [recovered]

Most of this will come naturally if you lift. You cant become alpha by mimicking, no matter how well you present your articles.

[–]TheQuatum[🍰] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Conor is a wank. Disrespectin others doesn't make you tough, it makes you a punk

[–]1OneRedYear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It works for trump.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I can't be the only one who find McGregor annoying as hell.

I find him incredibly fake and insincere, he's cartoonish in his bravado. I'm all for MMA fighters to play up characters for entertainment, but he is just annoying and consists of talking non stop over people.

I think Conor McGregor is a far better role model for emulation for his talent, work ethic and skill as a fighter and promoter.

[–]NotMyBestEffort 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I am old, but as a kid this is exactly how I felt about Muhammed Ali... whom I learned to respect as I grew over the years.

[–]IkWhatUDidLastSummer 2 points3 points  (11 children)

I will probably be downvoted heavily for this but idk whats with the Conor McGregor circlejerk i've seen on here, i don't think he's that alpha. He's defintely not beta but honestly he's no different than alot of the blokes you will meet on the bar saturday night in manchester besides being way more succesful than them obviously which mostly boils down to overhype in the media and riding along with it and him continously adding fuel to the fire.

It's funny we always advocate for action over words and talk on here on TRP but for some reason when it comes to Conor we completely neglect that? He is literally all talk and zero action. He will get absolutely blown out of the water I don't think anyone questions that besides a few biased McGregor fans HE IS ALL TALK AND DOESNT BACK IT UP BY ACTION. Does he have some qualities that are worth striving for? Sure, a few, but he's not different than alot of the blokes just running their mouth on saturday night out in town with the lads besides being succesful like i mentioned. You can see how heavily emotionally invested he is which is just a huge no, aim towards being stoic, dont alpha monkey dance like McGregor.

If you want an athlete or someone to look up to who you can learn alot from then LeBron James is where you should look, a natural alpha and leader with good composure, or look towards Chris Pine (watch him in Hell or High Water).

Good tangible post besides that, though.

[–]1OneRedYear 3 points4 points  (3 children)

It's the same reason Trump gets love. They love a show. They mistake a good show for being alpha. If it was another guy with the same record who just did his shit, beat some ass and went home and never said a word, they would hate him because there was no show to rally around.

[–]IkWhatUDidLastSummer 2 points3 points  (1 child)

No lol. Trump gets love for other reasons. Primarily his opinions and beliefs.

[–]1OneRedYear 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If he had the personality of Al Gore, nobody would care. Everyone loves a show.

[–]0signal0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They mistake a good show for being alpha.

They mistook him for a good presidential candidate.

[–]HappinessTree 1 point2 points  (3 children)

This post reeks of jealousy.

[–]IkWhatUDidLastSummer 1 points1 points [recovered]

Your response reeks of a mix of retardation and blue-pilled naivety.

[–]HappinessTree 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm sure your life is fantastic!

[–]IkWhatUDidLastSummer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you have a brown dog in your staple.

[–]450k_crackparty 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I don't know much about UFC but doesn't he have a great record? I'd call that backing up his talk with action...

[–]IkWhatUDidLastSummer -1 points0 points  (1 child)

He has 3 losses in 24 matches. Thats quite a few losses i'd say, especially when you compare him to a guy like Floyd who doesn't know what losing is like and holds a 49-0 record. There is really not 1% chance that Floyd will lose, floyd has faced people who have boxed their whole life and they havent gotten close, not once, not twice, not three times... but 49 times. And now you're telling me an amateur has a shot, give me a fking break. The only chance he has is the chance that Mayweather is matchfixing the bout (because mayweather loves gambling) i highly doubt he will do that seeing how rich he is and how much money he makes off the bout itself (and so does mayweather btw)

Anyone who thinks conor has a shot is an irrational human being. He doesn't. I don't wanna compare this stupid bout that the degenerating mankind will be witnessing to anything really because nothing compares to how stupid it is, but imagine if the media hyped a 1v1 basketball game up between Eden Hazard and James Harden and Eden Hazard really thought he had a shot of beating him even if they played 1000 times.

UFC probably comes closer to boxing than soccer comes to basketball, but the point still stands, the skill level between the two is far too great to be negligible.

[–]NotMyBestEffort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eh Mike Tyson lost to Buster Douglas... It just takes a punch to the chin - Oh and they are boxing!

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really use much time.in my interactions, how can I change this? Also I heard.that it's bad to have upward inflection and too much downward inflection is too condescending. So I try to have neutral inflection but now I got confused and am monotone.

[–]csqr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One more thing, learning a martial art (jiu Jitsu & boxing are great starting points) naturally brings confidence and skills in visualization.

Knowing that you can pound/ choke someone into submission (if required) gives you a primal confidence that no amount of faking it can bring.

[–]wankyjoe 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Ultimate confidence = when you know your going to get your shit handed to you, but you're still cocky as fuck.

[–]SamuraiPizzaCatz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people view that as stupidity.

[–]ActuallyInActuality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

McGregor fights people for a lot of money. Surely his confidence can't be emulated by the majority of people?

[–]ioncehadsexinapool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great post. Something to note though: true confidence displays itself. Faking it kind of helps. But attack whatever it is that's causing you to not be confident, you will naturally display it without having to "fake it" (lift) when I'm trained, and can feel my muscles, I feel "safe". It's a basic animalistic instinct. If you lift and get big, eat healthy and still have confidence issues, see a therapist. There's something else going on.

[–]_MysticFox 1 points1 points [recovered]

Isn't visualization kind of bad? You imagine the date going one way and it fucks up

[–]milstonfilston -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So now Connor McGregor is the beacon role model for this sub?! How did TRP get so sophisticated?!