I'm 21, 6'2" 170 lbs. I was walking downtown with my 11-year-old sister. After a bit, she says "it's fun walking with you". What did she mean by 'fun'?
-She felt completely safe
-People noticed us
-People moved out of the way for us
Girls I'm dating have brought this up in multiple ways. Some straight up acknowledge that I make them feel safe. Some talk about how all these girls are staring at them. Some talk about how guys don't check them out when she is with me.
hmmmmmm that's weird, I wonder why.
-Be tall (optional)
-Be built (not optional) (shoulders, upper chest, back)
-Be well dressed (clothes that fit to show you're built)
-Be a safe and calculated leader. Think of it like driving, know where you're going, how you're going to get there and be aware of any traffic in the way(people, cars, bikes)
-Make eye contact with every male that is coming towards you, try to do so from as far away as possible. Don't be aggressive (furrowed brow), but let them look away first. Any guy you make eye contact with is not likely to look at the girl you're with, and is extremely unlikely to check her out in a way that would make her uncomfortable. This also lets them move out of your way in advance.
-Ignore every girl that is coming towards you. This has the opposite effect of eye contact, girls will feel more comfortable looking at you if they know you're not going to catch them looking. So, when out with a girl, act like all other girls are invisible. The girl you're with will 100% notice girls looking at you, every look you get is another bit of validation that she is with a high-value man.
-You are responsible for all interactions with strangers. I try to make it clear that I don't want to be bothered, but when someone does initiate I do my best to end the interaction quickly. Homeless man wants money "Not today, sorry", Greenpeace wants a signature "Not today, sorry", someone offers you something "No thanks". Say it firm, but add your please, thank you, and sorry. Your girl should know that you'll do the talking.
-Keep your girl on your right side. That way you are a barrier between her and people walking by, so she won't get bumped.
-Don't hold her hand. If you're in a crowded space grab her hand and walk in front of her. Clear the way and pull her along.
-Do all of this while remaining playful with her, she shouldn't know you're putting in any effort. This is the hardest part, you want to be fun, playful, and nice to her while remaining assertive to everyone else.
When girls are walking by themselves they get constant looks from guys checking them out. They have to move out of the way for people. They have anxiety about minor interactions with strangers.
When she is with you the difference should be overwhelming, she should have nothing to do but enjoy herself.
I walk downtown or on campus for first dates off Tinder. You go from internet stranger to protector/daddy pretty quick when walking in a busy area. How you make a girl feel is important, master it.
Edit: The look every guy in the eye thing is a bit excessive. Simply carrying yourself well and walking with confidence will give you the desired effect. Non aggressive eye contact isn’t a big deal, I think some of you are overreacting.
Also I don’t like being called skinny, sure I’m lean, but you guys are being pretty judgmental for not knowing what I look like.