If you’re trying to use your words to portray “non-neediness,” what you’re really doing is spritzing your “alpha” smelling word cologne, on your pile of shit reeking neediness in hopes she won’t smell it.
If she is acting up and you’re communicating with your words that you “won’t be treated that way” or “you don’t care how this interaction ends up because you’re so “care free” you’re really doing the exact opposite.
If you want to show non-neediness stop trying to talk your way into it. Remove yourself, your attention. And give it to someone/something that deserves it.
“I met this girl and I told her if she didn’t like what I had to offer. there’s the door”
“You don’t want to fuck me? That’s cool I can get any woman I want!”
“I’m over my ex/oneitis, but I texted her to ask her [anything]”
“She wouldn’t sleep with me and I told her. I don’t do the friend zone. It’s either fuck me or fuck off”
“You won’t speak to me like that. So don’t do it again”
“No girl of mine is going to do [insert what she did that you “won’t allow”]
Did you smell it? The stench of weakness? She does.
If you’re trying to show you’re non-needy or carefree and you’re doing it by any other way than your actions. Guess what princess. You’re a needy fuck, you care too much and she knows it.
This brings us to the inevitable “but it’s good to have boundaries Trengod37. How am I supposed to create boundaries if I don’t drill them in her head?”
Easy. You create them by (and take out your paper and pen for this one) not dealing with someone who crosses them. Your boundaries are there for YOU, they are what you will and won’t tolerate. They are not there for her to negotiate.
If you’re discussing your boundaries with her. You have already lost.
I mean yea even a cliff may have a sign right before it saying “beware cliff ahead, walk at your own risk” but that sign doesn’t need to be there to know. It’s a fucking cliff and you get to close to the edge you’re probably going to die. You think if that sign wasn’t there she’s going to go running off it and come back saying “well I didn’t know!”
Absolutely not. So why are you letting her do that when it comes to you and your boundaries?
Stop trying to trick women into thinking you’re not needy, you’re a carefree, alpha manly man with boundaries by talking about it.
I’ve seen a lot of post of guys thinking they are acting smooth, carefree, and non needy but they’re doing it with their words and it has the opposite effect because it’s giving her leverage.
Don’t talk about it. Be about it. Stfu, and stop dealing with anything that crosses you. And if you’re trying to be a less needy guy. The only way to do that is by taking your attention else where (ideally on yourself)