When it’s yourself/your mission.
Post after post about women. Post after post about problems with women.
The problem isn’t the women. Or even your behavior towards them (well for some it is but your way of fixing it is twisted). The problem is your mission. You either don’t have one or you’re making women your mission, or you have one but it isn’t fueling you properly.
I get it women are fun and obviously sex is an important thing to us men. But you’re putting them way too high on your priority list. A lot of your “issues” would solve themselves if you spend less time focusing on this one woman, her shit tests, how to pass them, how to respond to everything she says. And focus on finding a purpose for yourself. I’m willing to bet about 75% of this sub lacks that general direction. Or if they have it, it’s something that doesn’t excite or fulfill them.
Your ONLY oneitis should be yourself and your mission.
If you even have oneitis it means you’re giving a girl too much of your time and attention.
How come you see more post about women than about finding your purpose? (“Because TRP is about sexual strategy.” Putting you’re purpose first is strategy)
We always talk about it not being about the women, most of the answers are solved when you put yourself first. So why do these issues continue to keep coming up.
Because most of you are seeking female validation, attention. You so desperately crave that, that you will go years without a reason to wake up in the morning other than to spend time with your precious snowflake. And then when she cheats on you, you come back crying on how to get her back or get over her.
I used to come here and post about my LTR. She used to wear the pants. I hated it. I changed a lot of my beta behaviors and turned the relationship around. But still something was missing. I was the captain of my ship but had no idea where the ship was going.
This is how you develop frame and why most of your frames are jack shit. You don’t have a baseline or direction to build your frame on. It’s much easier (actually it’s the only way) to develop a strong frame to first have a direction/mission/purpose in mind.
I didn’t have it. My frame was shit and my relationship was mediocre with a lot of issues that had me scratching my head
Then I found it. And a weird thing happened. I became so absorbed in it. I not only didn’t have time to worry about her, I barely had the time to see her. I didn’t care about anything else but setting my business up, getting it run the way I wanted to, helping the people I was dealing with, and making as much as I can. The more I got into it. The deeper in love I fell.
Not only did it give me a reason to wake up in the morning but all my other problems with my LTR vanished. She saw I didn’t spend all my time tending to her, laying around etc. that I had things to get done to support us. Thats what came first now. She became more attracted, gave me way less shit and realizes I’m very busy so the time we spend together she values a lot more. Same with a plate I have on the side. It keeps them in check. Most guys are throwing themselves at these women. Mean while they are begging to spend an hour with me.
And I’m over here not giving a fuck about anyone but my mission and sir Benjamin Franklin.
I was amazed how this changed everything for me. I thought things were going to get worst. That she was going to feel neglected. And as she does miss me a lot. Call me at the gym and ask when I’ll be home because she wants to see me. She sees the fire I have in my eyes now and it attracts the fuck out of her. Not only that she knows it comes first and over time realized there’s nothing she can say to stop me from getting my shit done.
You guys come here looking for the quick fix to your woman problems.
You can learn all these tips how to be alpha, non-needy, to “pretend you’re busy”, clever witty responses to shit test that aren’t your own, but you’re just putting a bandaid over a gun shot wound.
If you were so absorbed in your mission you wouldn’t need to pretend. You wouldn’t need to “act non-needy” you would become all those things. I know all this is in the sidebar but a lot you don’t actually absorb this. You put it off. You put on the “mission” act without having the actually thing.
You can fake it till you make it but even then you’re wasting time. Take the time and figure out what you want out of life. Find that direction. And fucking go for it.
Hustle! Try new things. Job shadow, network, work for free for a couple weekends. Figure out how to make money off your favorite hobby. Talk to people. Volunteer. Etc.
Now I’m sure some of you are going to say “trengod37 I have millions in the bank and I’m not happy and still have woman issues.”
Money and a good paying job do not equal your mission always. When I say mission I’m saying whatever it is that wakes your fucking ass up in the morning. That if you had the chance to do that. Or get your dick sucked by a HB9 there’s a good fucking chance she’s going to have to wait for that dick till X gets done, unless she can finish this in 2 minutes tops”
Will this solve all your problems? No in fact it will probably create more but you won’t care Because it fulfills you. These problems will excite you. But it will solve the stupid shit you care about when it comes to women.
You’re only oneitis should be yourself and your mission. It will solve most of your issues. But most of you won’t put in the hard work to figure out what that mission is because you desperately seek female validation. So I’m probably wasting my breathe