Building PowerThere's no better time than today's society to approach. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Sowlo

In the midst of the #Metoo shitstorm, I want to tell you this: there's no better time than today to approach.

Indeed, as the SJW movement keeps going further and further, as men repress their natural desires more and more, the more women crave to be approached by a real man who doesn't hide his natural desires. Women will always want to be desired and oh boy they crave it bad in today's context where it is deemed ''harrassment'' to even look at a girl.

As a red-pilled man, you need to remember that women are first and foremost sexual creatures and that, despite all the artificial layers they put up today, at their very core they still are extremely sexual.

When you approach, you do something that probably 99% of men wouldn't have the guts to do. By approaching, you demonstrate that you are one of the few remaining men that actually follow his desires. And again women want to be desired on a deep level. It's also important to note that the type of ''desire'' they receive from betas will never ever compare to a confident masculine man desiring her. This also applies to desire shown through social media, as it will never surpass the organic process of a sexually tense face-to-face interaction between a man and a woman.

So women, in today's society, are deprived from one of the feeling they want to experience the most. Things aren't going to change anytimes soon and, in fact, they're probably gonna get worst. This means that approaching will become more and more effective. Simple economics. Women will want more and more desire from men (notice the trend of girls dressing sluttier as years go by) and men, because they have been taught to do so, will show less and less. I truly think that by genuinely approaching a woman you find attractive, you're actually making the world a better place by acknowledging the natural orders of things. At worst, the girl will say no but trust me she will be flattered and she will respect you for sure.

The last point I want to make is related to the fact that woman won't and will never approach. It is hard-wired in their brains. They will give you cues, a lot sometimes, but will rarely make an actual move. It is up to you, as a man, to do it for both genders sake.

To end this post, here's a story reflecting my last point : Last week I went to see a live DJ set. Good music, hot girls and a lot of attractive guys as well. At some point, in the crowd, there was a guy and a girl dancing close to me. There was no physical contact yet but you could tell that both wanted to take things further. For about 10 minutes, the girl gave the clearest IoIs I've ever seen to the guy. She was constantly touching him, looking him in the eyes smiling, positioning herself so the guy could grab her, etc. But believe it or not, the guy NEVER made a move. You could see that he was scared and hesitant, it was sad to watch really. So after 10 minutes, the girl gave him a look that i'll never forget; complete and utter disappointment. This is the extent to which modern ideologies have affected young men.

So, moral of the story, the girl rarely make the actual move and it's up to you to do it. Both parties will be benefited that way. So, gentlemen, the next time you see a girl you find attractive, go say hi! There's a good chance, if you've been upping your smv, that she wants you to.

[–]DrBrockStar 142 points143 points  (6 children)

Speaking of being around good-looking men, don't ever let the situation of being at an event surrounded by attractive males with a poor F/M ratio stop you from approaching. Handsome guys can be extremely timid or apprehensive about taking the offensive since interactions usually fall in their lap. Seeing a girl leave with a middle-of-the-pack rando because no top-tiers approached is far too common.

Go to line at these types of events after opening - "So how many guys have came up to you tonight". The response to this question can say a lot:

  • "Not many!" coupled with enthusiasm shows she likes the fact you approached, letting you know she's open to talking etc.
  • "haha, just a couple" she's still guarded but open to talk, keep up the charisma and dont get too deep.
  • "Actually, none yet/your the first" - the second line is golden, shows she knows your hitting on her and she likes it, can always continue with "Don't worry I'll make sure to be the last too" with some stupid wink or something. But the honesty is good and (using the primacy effect) good chance she'll remember you if you decide to come back.
  • "none that I like/no attractive ones" - superficial girl so treat her like one, keep the conversation light and you'll know within 5 minutes if shes into you or not so don't waste time.
  • "ugh not enough" if serious tone then shes a bitch and not worth it, joking tone then shes funny and wants guys to match her wit.

If you are at a big crowd where social risk is low and you know minimal people, then you really have no excuse not to approach. Even if you know you can't close (leaving right after, staying with family and can't ditch, etc) use the conversation as practice and social sharpening.

[–]FREEDNA 12 points13 points  (1 child)

"I have nothing but Yanni records"

[–]squatbro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I laughed out so loud my neighbours probably heard me.

[–]chrisb5583 15 points16 points  (3 children)

I'd be careful how I worded this question. You're also telling a lot about yourself if the first question you ask a girl at an event you just approached is about other guys at the event.

[–]1TrenGod37 24 points25 points  (2 children)

You’re thinking too far into it. He can open like that and still get success. One sentence doesn’t change a woman’s mind. It’s what’s going on, on the inside. What your body language is looking like. How strong your frame is. Etc.

To show my friends it doesn’t matter wtf you say. I’d go up to women I never met before. And say shit like:

“I came over to tell you I like your big nose”

“I have to fart, watch yourself”

“Do you like 3somes?”

“Ever fuck a white guy before?” (To black chick)

Of course the context in these are all different but they where pretty absurd and always ended positively.

You can talk about whatever the fuck you want.

[–]plainposter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

black chicks generally only bang white dudes imo

[–]chrisb5583 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Of course you can talk about whatever you want, but asking directly about other guys or about farting screams insecurity. Like you need to shock because you don't know how else to interact with a woman.

I'm sure you can get a chuckle if you're an 8/9, but if you're talking to some one out of your league you might want to bring something to table other than "I make $200k a year, drive a Mercedes, and lift". You attract what you put out into the world, and if it's insecurity you'll attract insecurity. We all know the female 10 that is boring, and has low self esteem. Might fun for a while, but a waste of time after a month or two.

[–]AussiecuntTRP 51 points52 points  (3 children)

This type of post comes along every now and then but it's absolutely needed. Lack of confident and strong fathers have left most boys in society totally cucked and afraid of girls just like I used to be. My father is like that and do you think I could ask him advice on how to pick up chicks? Nah I doubt he's done it once in his life. So we don't get the motivation or advice from our dads so we never learn that women are people too with sexual desires just like ours (until a few years ago I thought women hated sex LOL).

So much of the population is like this now so that's why it's so effective. Guys in 2017 either rely on Tinder to get dates instead of approaching girls in the street or they don't get any action whatsoever. Not to mention if you're not a total chad with amazing good looks and body it's way better to approach girls instead of using tinder or whatever. Because you can build that sexual tension straight away.

[–]GizmodeGarage 14 points15 points  (2 children)

A lot of posts complaining about weak fathers on here recently. They've always been here but I've seen a lot of them lately. I wonder if this trend has to do with a changing demographic of TRP.

I'm 22, something I've noticed about guys in my age group is they tend to have INCREDIBLY weak fathers.

My mother works while my dad does the cooking and cleaning. I found a prank video of a guy wearing a blind fold, taste testing chocolate and they put dog shit in his mouth. It was so funny. I showed it to my mother, she thought it was hilarious. I showed my dad, he got upset and had a hissy fit.

[–]AussiecuntTRP 40 points41 points  (0 children)

If you have a weak father then chances are you won't have much luck with girls. If you don't get girls then you will go looking for answers as to why girls don't like you and thus find TRP. It's only logical that a lot of TRP commenters have that in common.

[–]Tzeentch_Gnosis 138 points139 points  (17 children)

Yep. You think the other guy who's raw-dogging that girl you want and calling her his dirty little slut and making her suck his johnston dry waited for her to approach? He walked up to her somewhere, said hello, flirted with her a bit, and asked her out. That's why he gets to fill up her major bodily orifices with his hairy man meat and you do not.

There are thousands of girls in your city you could be doing that with right now. Probably tens of thousands. Possibly hundreds of thousands, if you're in a big city like New York or London or Chicago. That you aren't, and are sitting around twiddling your thumbs while all the girls you've crushed on in the past shriek their lungs out to other men plumbing the depths of their birth canals, is on nobody but you.

And trust me, no matter how much you think maybe that chick likes you, you ain't spit to her compared to the men she actually opens her legs to and who actually make her cum.

Quit being a beta m'kay?

[–]fishinatot 83 points84 points  (6 children)

Gotta love how guys here describe sex

[–]Churff 38 points39 points  (3 children)

I think the comments might be the best part of this sub

[–]greatslyfer 30 points31 points  (2 children)

You know what's the best part?

Going deep in to her birth canals.

[–]Drop_the_Dead_Donkey 26 points27 points  (0 children)

PLUMBING THE DEPTHS of their birth canals.

[–]HS-Thompson 24 points25 points  (7 children)

He walked up to her somewhere, said hello, flirted with her a bit, and asked her out. That's why he gets to

Or he swiped right on her, then texted and met up.

I am all for real life approaches, I think it's a great idea. But guys this is 2017. I've slept with about 150 women in the past few years and I didn't cold approach any of them. Let's not be actively oblivious to how the world actually works now.

[–]triadick 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think keeping your cold approach game sharp will make you more successful in Tinder hookups and other situations (day game). Limiting to Tinder seems... Limiting.

[–]Future_Alpha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

well jokes on you. my tinder pics suck balls though i get decent results from daygame, not a chad yet to get girls on tinder.

[–]meltingtapes 1 points1 points [recovered]

You’re a pussy. Tinder is ordering Chinese food. Low quality.

Approaching nets you hotter girls and enhances your social skills

[–]mrbluesdude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get the feeling you don't actually approach

[–]shakespeareSMG 18 points19 points  (1 child)

I support this message.

Despite the media’s best attempt to undermine pretty much every-fucking-thing men are men and women are women and they like a strong man in the classic sense.

The more things change the more they stay the same.

The only difference now is cry babies have a platform, but it’s weak and disgusting.

I see a return a more classic time like the thirties and the fifties.

Go out and adventure. Women love that shit.

[–]1Mr_Badass 14 points15 points  (5 children)

I strongly believe there is going to be an anxiety and depression epidemic coming in the next few years among the millennials.

[–]DiscipleBrown 12 points13 points  (2 children)

Already started, so many people I know my age (22) are depressed or just get anxious over nothing.

[–]Obi_Yo 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Can confirm, 23, just got over depression and anxiety I've had since I was 12. Still can't look women in the eye yet though. One step at a time right?

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

// , bla bla bla lift bla bla bla

[–]scepticferret 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Everyone seems to have anxiety at some point. World is fubar.

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

// , I'm honestly surprised how little anxiety I see.

I'd expect pretty much everyone would be panicking by now, but they all just remain quiet

[–]yerkinit 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Excellent post. Thank you. We live in an age of fear of approcaching / offending / harassing when really, women want to be approached. And like posters here say, women want to have sex with dudes. to quote rollo - "women will fuck someone. They might not fuck you, they might not fuck me. But they eill fuck someone." I'm gradually progressing in my number of approaches, shooting to add more plates

[–]d4nonymous 19 points20 points  (11 children)

Great points, but I disagree that a girl will never approach. Today I had a girl come up to me and tell me I had nice sunglasses. All I said was “thanks” and she wound up introducing herself to me and asked where I was headed. Granted, I’m 24 and she turned out to be 30. She was shocked when I told her my age and was clearly embarrassed. So while my story is probably the exception, girls will approach, usually more subtly, depending on who the girl is and how she perceives you.

[–]russbussdp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Follow ioi's. Being perceptive of body language is game on easy mode.

[–]ranluka 2 points3 points  (8 children)

Her age is probably the reason. The older a woman gets the more likely she knows what she wants and has gotten over the societal bullshit that dictates men must do the approaching.

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (7 children)

// , It's not just societal. Higher levels of blood serum estrogen, and lower levels of blood serum testosterone lead to lower levels of risk taking.

[–]ranluka 2 points3 points  (6 children)

While a compounding factor, there's no denying men do tend to take more risks overall (although it's hard to disentangle how much of that is the hormone and how much is societal. I'm of the mind it's a mix of both), womens Testosterone Levels decline with age, not rise. So I think we can chalk any tendency of older women toward increasing assertiveness up to experience rather than hormones.

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (5 children)

// , Increasing assertiveness can actually change your hormonal levels, too.

I'd be interested in scientific work that examines the interplay of behavior, psychology, and "sex" hormones.

[–]ranluka 2 points3 points  (4 children)

I've never heard of this, but it would not surprise me. Hormones and Chems are so intertwined with personality, the idea that mental changes could affect them would make sense. (And is a bit more hopeful a thought than hormones being this unchangeable force. )

Buttttt then we are back to experience being the root cause. Experience leading to more assertiveness leading to hormone changes to more assertiveness, etc.... then again... if this is the case, the hormone difference must be slight, since too much Testosterone in women can cause lovely things like facial hair and balding.... I think we'd have noticed a correlation between assertiveness and bearded/bald ladies... -chuckles-

But yeah. I'd definitely like see studies on this topic. My suspicion is that hormones have minor effects that are magnified greatly by society-wide confirmation bias. I suspect that genetically Men ARE naturally a bit more risk-taking, aggressive, etc, but that the difference is much less then what we perceive.. maybe 1/10th-1/5th, but that it's had a compounding effect with each generation compounding the differences in the form of social pressures and expectations. Shoot, this forum is a pretty good example of this. More natural Beta males coming here to learn what is expected of them and better navigate the current social landscape to be perceived as Alphas so they can get the booty/loot/status/etc.

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (1 child)

// , Lifting and career independence are two of the most obvious, well studied examples of behavior affecting hormonal levels more than the other way around. Plus, these two behaviors are more within our control than such things as high status and experience with assertiveness.

But yeah. I'd definitely like see studies on this topic. My suspicion is that hormones have minor effects that are magnified greatly by society-wide confirmation bias. I suspect that genetically Men ARE naturally a bit more risk-taking, aggressive, etc, but that the difference is much less then what we perceive.. maybe 1/10th-1/5th, but that it's had a compounding effect with each generation compounding the differences in the form of social pressures and expectations. Shoot, this forum is a pretty good example of this. More natural Beta males coming here to learn what is expected of them and better navigate the current social landscape to be perceived as Alphas so they can get the booty/loot/status/etc.

And your third paragraph sums up the reason why the twin mating strategies of Beta and alpha, which, NORMALLY, coexist peacefully in nature and both lead to reproduction (As per the superbly researched Evolution's Rainbow) are now at war. More and more aspects of the way we interact with each other have become "Winner take all", the electoral process being the most obvious example, and the SMP being one of the least.

The consequences for us are more grave than anything that TRP or the manosphere has pointed out.

[–]ranluka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure how you made that leap, but. I agree with your conclusion. It does seem like people are being squeezed more and more, resources and power are getting more and more concentrated making everything more competitive including mating strategies.

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (1 child)

// , Good show, ranluka. This might be a good question for AskTRP, if you'd have a go

[–]ranluka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm I think Ask TRP is for advice, not research.

[–]Narc26 1 points1 points [recovered]

Entire post is truth, always live your life chasing your desires and taking risks.

[–]AussiecuntTRP 18 points19 points  (11 children)

It's not even a risk but guys think it is that's why they find it so difficult. What is the absolute worst thing that can happen? She says "No thanks I'm not interested". The world isn't going to end just because a chick rejects a guy.

[–]fuckeh 5 points6 points  (6 children)

Also it's not like you were with her before, so really nothing has changed.

[–]AussiecuntTRP 4 points5 points  (5 children)

Yeah exactly, you don't even know her. It's not like high school where she tells her friends "omg this guy asked me out but he's such a creep". You have nothing to lose.

[–]letmereadthatshit 1 point2 points  (4 children)

:( I was like I’m going to approach girls at my school yes! Nvm I guess

[–]AussiecuntTRP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're not going to do that I'm just talking about the absolute worst case scenario. Be above that and just go for it.

[–]greatslyfer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude ignore the other guy, ask her out. If they shit talk you they're not worth your time and they're probably dickheads.

[–]xMellow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro even if that happens just treat it as a shit test.

[–]ThrowFader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is too short to spend it all being a pussy.

Go for it, because you only get one down.

Why punt?

[–]Narc26 1 points1 points [recovered]

I honestly dont even get rejected that often but sometimes I just dont feel like my ego needs to take a hit.

[–]ThrowFader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your ego should not depend on such trivial things as a strangers opinion.

I am in the process of removing the "self esteem" schema.

I don't have self esteem, I have goals that I either reach or fail to reach. I am conscious of what others think of me but I cannot let it affect me.

Be Machiavellian and start giving less of a fuck about other people's opinions.

You won't regret it honestly, its hard but its the best way to live.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. If they let you know they aren't interested, good. Both parties save time. It would be worse for some girl to feign interest and waste your fucking time. I thank girls for honest rejections. Also a reminder to keep increasing your SMV.

Not fucking the hot girls you want yet? Keep improving and they will come.

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

// , I don't think you understand

[–]Arkasio 8 points9 points  (2 children)

I can relate really well to this post and most of the comments here. I'm 21 years old and had a weak father who never taught me anything valuable about game and women so I wound up finding TRP. To make a comparison, I'm using Tinder and do cold approaches at the same time and holy shit - the differences in my age group are huge. I usually do not get the most quality matches on Tinder since I'm not blessed with Chad genetics but I get by. When cold approaching though, I can talk literally to 9's and it is IOI overload after I have introduced myself because it apparently never happens to them. My take is that your behaviour just shows a large discrepancy between you and other guys she meets on a daily basis in terms of value (confidence/masculinity). Young women are starved these days.

[–]Andgelyo 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I’m the exact opposite. I do decent on tinder(3-4 matches a day), can escalate quickly, and get a quick bang a couple days later, but this is highly detrimental to my social skills(because I feel like I’m losing them as opposed to just talking to regular people). I’ve started to day game again but holy shit is it hard after not doing for years (used to do it all the time when I was in high school). What do you when you cold approach? Where do you cold approach? Cold approaching is a skill I’ve lost(sorta like remembering to ride a bicycle again after recovering from a hip replacement for months).

[–]Arkasio 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can approach women everywhere basically. I always ho direct since it is the most efficient thing to do. I usually take four factors into consideration when cold approaching. 1. setting: If you are approaching a women in a library she is not there to get hit on (most likely) so you should use a phrase like "Hey, I know this is really random, but... In a club or bar she expects it though and she already gets showered in attention. Here you want to stand out from other guys. So think of something witty and make her laugh. 2. Your looks: Being good looking can actually be a disadvantage when cold approaching during the day if you give off the "Chad" vibe because she might think: "Yea he does that all the time". You have to be considerate of her level of interest. However, in bars and clubs they are useful because they make you stand out. Pair it with social skills and you clean house. 3. Her level of interest: Learn to read IoIs. If a woman gives you the eyefuck (doesn't matter when and where) you can hit her with "Hitler did nothing wrong" and she is going to respond heavy anyway. The higher her initial level of interest the weaker can be your game. Be careful of the slut defense though. 4. Your competition: The more competition you have, the more important game and social skills become and the less important looks become. For example, in bars and clubs you can go extra ham with the conversatiom starters while it might come off to tryhard during daygame.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (3 children)

the girl gave him a look that i'll never forget; complete and utter deception.

Disgust? Exasperation?

Otherwise, great post.

[–]fantastic_damage 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I think he meant disappointment?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that would flow best. Prolly not worth an edit.

[–]ThrowFader 0 points1 point  (0 children)


THinks he meant "detestation"

[–]-The-Pussy-Whisperer 8 points9 points  (0 children)


Perhaps you meant a different word.

[–]185poundsofhatredWIP 5 points6 points  (1 child)

At worst, the girl will say no but trust me she will be flattered and she will respect you for sure

No? If she doesn't find you attractive, the number one reason to say no, she'll just be bothered.

[–]maplemaximus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is true. If you’re a redpiller you’re one of the lucky guys. My fucking teacher’s husband is so blue pilled and her body language proves 95% of the theories I’ve seen about beta-bux and alpha-fux.

There’s no better time than now to exercise the philosophies and ideas of the red pill

[–]Trumeau 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Do you gentlemen have guides or other recommended reading for how to actually flirt?

I've never learned how. I've been MGTOW and banging escorts every week so I've never had to but frankly I want something steady. A girl basically needs to grab my dick before I know she's into me, so I need information on how to actually read the subtexts to conversation between genders.

I've got a couple girls I've approached this school year but I haven't taken things further because I didnt know if they were on board or playing games, I devote like sixty hours a week to school work so I do not have time to be chasing a connection that isn't legitimate.

[–]remember_nf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not an expert but social calibration and pay attention to body language.

[–]MrAnderzon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good point that the girls have been dressing sluttier. Never knew until now.

[–]Andgelyo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advice OP. Slowly starting to day game(hardest fucking thing ever, especially when you’re alone). I’m just waiting for all the posts on Facebook from all my stupid ass feminist friends about “being eye fucked all day is not cool guys” or “men are disgusting for telling me to smile” bullshit to sky rocket.

[–]simogza 0 points1 point  (1 child)

99% !! where do u think u are ?? go to a club and see !!!

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

// , To what do you refer when you say 99% ?

[–]Trooper_1868 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive gone to a lot of edm events, where I was pretty sober for the most part, dont like to drink too much these days. I make a lot of music in my free time, so an event is a good place for inspiration, hence approaching a chick is not my main goal.

Some guys will truly go there for the music. They will not lie about it as a barrier or anything. girls have given me IoIs, but Im just not interested sometimes. You have to do things for your pleasure sometimes as well.

[–]bluedholia 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Complete and utter "deception"?? desperation? exasperation? what do you mean deception, is that a type you made??

[–]Sowlo[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

yeah it's a mistake since french is my first language. I meant disappointment.

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

// , Your English is damn good. You plan to go to Eastern Europe?

[–]MizterUltimaman -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

When you approach, you do something that probably 99% of men wouldn't have the guts to do

You act like fucqbois don't exist.

[–]Andgelyo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorta agree with you. In cities like NYC there’s loads of guys hitting on girls all the time (coincidently where most feminist “metoo” fucktards are). I’m a rural/suburban place, where blue pill Billy’s reside, it would probably be more effective.