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Daily actions for a fulfilling life (self.TheRedPill)

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[–]iLoveBrianWilson 66 points67 points  (0 children)

great post. I'm ready to run through a brick wall

[–]Narc26 1 points1 points [recovered]

I'm kind of sick of this sub being dedicated to being "good and strong" enough for woman, lmao fuck them, these bitches need to be good enough for me.

[–]musicvita25 41 points42 points  (3 children)

We live in an age now where everything is superficial. From the car you drive to the woman you are dating etc.

I spent 10 fucking years pursuing women, and naturally I got laid alot, but rejected a fuck load.

What did I get out of it? A couple of stories that i'll cherish but ultimately nothing.

I am no richer because of it, I am no happier because of it, in fact I'm kind of bitter because of it.

Having said that I will absolutely say it was worth it in educating myself on the important things when it comes to being a man, and doing your own thing. Thats the angle TRP needs to go down, its about doing what you want, how you want, whenever you want.

This needs to go beyond feminism and look at society as a whole. Its a fucking mess, so make money, work for yourself, do whatever you want, and do not answer to absolutely NOBODY.

[–]pompous_p 9 points10 points  (1 child)

"do whatever you want, and do not answer to absolutely NOBODY."

So we should answer to everybody?

[–]Fyrjefe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, the case of the emphatic double negative. Happens in Romance languages and has rubbed off on certain American regional sub dialects. I love it.

[–]A_yoshi_Egg 7 points8 points  (0 children)

if you want to fuck women, be better then them.

[–]cashmoney_x 3 points4 points  (2 children)

That just doesn't reflect reality though. They are the selectors.

[–]Narc26 1 points1 points [recovered]

Thats the Beta in you talking, fucking shut it up.

[–]cashmoney_x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, that's the educated part that understands reality.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not this sub, it's the cancer that tries to redefine masculinity so it's low enough to get over the bar.

This sub is just one more place for it to fester, best stick to the report button

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I completely agree. I really dislike that you have to "be successful" and have money to provision to the female so she'll want to be around and feel I have value. Its disgusting. I'm not a females personal bank account. She can get her own money and take care of herself. Isn't that what they keep demanding?

That doesn't mean every man shouldn't work on his mission, he should. But that may be (probably will be) much less than a CEO making millions. If she can't see my value with who I am and appreciate that I'm doing the things I love without getting a payout, see ya.

[–]DPestWork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotta love being treated like an ATM with a dick, but we're not allowed to treat a woman as a procreation device with tits.

[–]HappyMexican 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno. Personally I am not that against gold diggers. I mean, it is a simpler transaction then love. Long as I keep the money flowing, and she does her part, let the good times roll. I would rather be the man with the wallet then the trophy wife with no direct control, just indirect manipulations.

Big supporter of Gender Roles so that may be why.

[–]sickboyish -2 points-1 points  (5 children)

why do you think you are better than them?

[–]DeepRedTomato 8 points9 points  (2 children)

That question tells me you haven't read the sidebar or improved yourself enough to attract a good woman.

[–]tropzumuch 25 points26 points  (2 children)

if you were to die tonight b. What would you regret doing?

This question is bs. When focus is on future and your goals it’s not worth digging in mistakes of your past life. When make a mistake take notes to yourself and do it better the next time.

The rest is good though

E: corrected question

[–]Heizenbrg 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I copied this text and added your change, OP edit it out and add this.

[–]tropzumuch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same bro. I’ll print that shit

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 8 points9 points  (14 children)

Great post.

Then, reconcile your desire for companionship with the patience required to not only find the woman you want, but (more importantly) to develop into the man that she would want to be with.

This conflicts with "no covert contracts". Exclusivity is a contract, and usually a covert one. And even if you make it overt, women are not loyal to you or their word.

It's a core tenet of male sexual strategy not to be "good enough for the love of your life" but to be "attractive enough to always have options and abundance".

99% of us here are more than good enough for most women. The main issue is dealing with her hypergamy. There's a constant level of game required to deal with her constant desire for proof that you are the best she can get. And this has almost nothing to do with your quality as a man.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Gonna disagree, because theres nothing in here that's successful. It's tangental at best, slave morality at worst. I can go through each one, some a are good, some are irrelevant, some are contradictory. here's the thing, they have no theme. OP literally grabbed a bunch of platitudes and threw them together, with 0 thought behind them.

Fuck that. If you're going to LARP, at least understand the concepts. I mean, anyone here actually read no more mr nice guy? Are they aware of what covert contracts are? Or is it distilled down to two words so you can fill it with whatever meaning you wan?

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I mean, anyone here actually read no more mr nice guy?

Not sure I've read it, now you come to mention it.

Are they aware of what covert contracts are?

The nature (and futility) of covert contracts with women (and to a lesser extent with men) is part of TRP awareness. I posit a high correlation between "TRP aware" and "covert contract aware".

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorRian_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, forgot I was on the old account.

You're right, problem is almost no one does the work to become TRP aware, they still treat this as a replacement identity to the one in the mainstream.

It's not an identity, and it's just impotent narcissism to make one before you earn it anyways. It's as stupid as 'gamer' or 'auto mechanic' as your identity.

Not so much a response to you, but a critiuqe for the pareto principled Guys in here, desperate to find something to identify themselves as men, without having to do anything to earn it.

For those guys, there's guiness

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

And this has almost nothing to do with your quality as a man.

You are looking at it from a mans point of view. A man can say "she is good enough" and actually mean it. Women - they ride the emotional experience of the moment much more. Thats why married / LTR'ed women are so easy. You inject some D(ick)opamine and tadaa...she loves you ( the new guy) for a while- or she resents her current guy more.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point  (2 children)

You are looking at it from a mans point of view.

Yes I am. This is exactly what I am doing. I am saying "quality as a man" from a man's point of view.

And as you say, this has little to do with attraction.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

if this sub is about being attractive to women, the man's pov with regard to what "should be good enough" is moot.

[–]royal_raijin 1 point2 points  (6 children)

How do you best deal with her hypergamy? I'm here because even though I was high value I messed up proving that I was the best my ex could get.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 1 point2 points  (5 children)

How do you best deal with her hypergamy?

Primarily you have to accept it. This is key to being happy with yourself and with women.

Women want the best, always, and will pull every trick in the book to get it, and to deny that this is what she is doing. Accepting this means I don't commit to her. She can't be trusted in any masculine sense of the word. Hypergamy means that I'm temporarily has best option, later I'm nothing but a stepping stone to her. I adjust my sexual (and dating) strategy according to expected female behaviour. Specifically this means I do not commit.

[–]royal_raijin 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Ok, I understand better now. Very well said. Deep down in my last LTR I felt not to trust her. But, I didn't know why. Now I understand and I'm glad my gut feeling was right. What I don't understand is when they leave and basically downgrade in every sense of the word. She thought I cheated/lied. So she quickly branch swung to some loser. Could that be considered hypergamy? Even if he's less?

Now I expect the same. To not trust them. There's no reason to. It's just how they are. Can't even be mad lol

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 1 point2 points  (3 children)

She thought I cheated/lied

Did she........ or just say this? Or use this as an excuse?

So she quickly branch swung to some loser.

You see a loser... .what did she see? More attractive? Better physically? More potential? Better game? Easier to extract resources from ?

Could that be considered hypergamy? Even if he's less?

no

Now I expect the same. To not trust them. There's no reason to. It's just how they are. Can't even be mad lol

Exactly. It's just how they're wired. No need to hate them. But don't trust them either. You can love tigers and not put your hand between the bars.

[–]royal_raijin 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Yeah, let me rephrase that. She caught me talking to another woman. Which was something I did early in the relationship too.

We talked recently and tbh idk. He is not attractive, fat, nerdy type, depressed, lives with parents. No hate to him I'm being unbiased. He seems like a nice person though. Which she said she liked. So that could be it? Also to distract herself from me?

I love that analogy. I love tigers but I love my arms too lol.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 1 point2 points  (1 child)

He seems like a nice person though. Which she said she liked. So that could be it?

Security then.

Don't forget that most women settle down with betas eventually.

[–]royal_raijin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that's it then. I'm labeled the dick that made her life miserable lol. I never provided security. I honestly felt bad about that. But, you helped me get over that. Thanks. I won't settle.

[–]bikermonk 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Hey thanks for sharing this, you've really put your heart into writing all this.

On a side note, what's up will all the hate and wise ass remarks people are coming up with? This guy has sincerely shared his learning and we should appreciate this.

[–]Herdsengineers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some guys on here think of TRP as only a sexual strategy to help them get into women's pants. When you get outside that point of view, they chime in accordingly. And maybe it did start as pure sexual strategy, but where the entirety of the material has gone, it can be applied to a lot more. It basically opens men's eyes to things in addition to getting laid that we used to learn from masculine fathers growing up, but that no longer happens (thanks feminism).

[–]ChadThundercockII 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Why the hell one this one removed?

[–]uebermacht 2 points3 points  (1 child)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know but if you PM your details I'll send you the word doc.

[–]uebermacht 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Removed post can be found here: http://archive.is/RAeVY

[–]NiceIce 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Terrific post. Mods, you might consider stickying this.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yo I'm going to bookmark this. Fire material. Thanks for posting.

Every day we wake up, no matter if we're happy, sad, stressed, confident, or whatever it may be, is a day alive in a short, ruthless life within which we must confidently strive to live to the fullest. Either that, or complain until you get cancer and die.

[–]SAPPHIREAURA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Very concise. Notice you quoted the four agreements too. ;)

[–]Nm473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“What you do today is who you are tomorrow” - ie how a change of perspective can make sticking to one’s plans/goals easier

Thanks for the post op!

[–]WeirdSmartKid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DUDE I do the exact same thing with reminders popping every day, so helpful right?!

[–]hudsonclay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Red Pill according to -

(Great little post)

[–]dontbedenied 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome post to read first thing in the morning, thank you.

[–]Hillarysdilddo_2016 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I think this post is a very good quick reference cheat sheet / reminder of principles.

However, a few things need a bit more nuance. For example, you speak of having confidence by removing self criticism. You speak of happiness by not focusing on the past and present. I agree, those things are true. But to become that self actualized man, we have to be our own critics. Your questions at the end, prove my point, by asking about regret. It's the analysis of desire and failure that lead us to improvement. We have to plan for the future. Few people will tell you the cold hard truth of your shortcomings, so we must be constantly vigilant and introspective about what we are, where we are, and what is needed to improve.

Also I disagree with your statement that the opposite of love is fear. You have to let go of fear to love, but the opposite of love-hate is apathy.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Completely agree, nuance is required and everybody should develop the details that suit their circumstances. I think the whole RP is like that though.

You're right about self criticism. You need to self assess all the time. The message is to be proportionately harsh on yourself depending on the mistake you've made, not go too easy but not too hard either.

Also I disagree with your statement that the opposite of love is fear. You have to let go of fear to love, but the opposite of love-hate is apathy

Yes in a usual RP context this is right. I read 'the opposite of fear is love' in a book about the 300 at Thermopylae and it resonated and I started saying to myself when I got in the ring to spar or fight.

Instead of seeing the other guy as someone I had to summon up all my courage/anger or whatever to beat, when viewed the other way, he was reduced to just a job to do-this approach almost makes me feel joyful about it because I'm doing something I love (the martial art) rather than overcoming a massive obstacle.

I get this is against the grain and not really about sexual strategy so each to their own on this one.

[–]Hillarysdilddo_2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an interesting take on fear/love. Never thought of it that way before. It's good and I'm going to think about it some more.

[–]AfshinH 0 points1 point  (1 child)

new to this sub, can someone explain “shit-tests”?

[–]GunnarX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out the wiki/sidebar.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If an incel can do this, is it useful?

[–]buddhadarko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely awesome post. Should be put on a poster and handed out to high school guys and college guys and guys that work in a big office building that are probably ready to blow their brains out from their monotonous and woman-controlled life!

[–]0signal0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great post. I don't agree with everything you wrote, but most of it resonated with me.

[–]naniro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how you said "don't make assumptions " and some paragraphs later straight up assumed what women want. Relationships are teamwork, you and your SO against what life throws at you not you against her in battle of the Ego. Some women are stupid, entitled or obnoxious. Some men are too. These are human vices not male or female ones but manifest differently in both genders. Please don't let yourself get bitter after encountering them, it will eat away your façade or frame or whatever you call the defense system against the inevitable vulnerability of close human contact.

P.S. I do agree with almost everything else you say. Good luck with improving your life and hold on in hard times

[–]mummersfarce_is_done 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh what a long list.

[–]Ananonguy88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good post. We need such synthesis at times, it keeps reminding us about the basics since we tend to forget some stuff eventually.

[–]claydn 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Gonna have to 'save' this post. Awesome. Thanks for sharing!

[–]putushnaki 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I dont understand why its removed..

[–]MySaddleWaiting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did this post got removed?? I was planning to use this.

[–]HedoNNN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deleted?!! I've saved this for nothing...

[–]tropzumuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is a good summary of thing you gotta think about when you want self improve. Thanks

[–]matisseman 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So much goodness in this post I may tape it to my wall. Thank you.

Biggest hurdles for me personally are acting happy when you're not, not dwelling in the past, and having true confidence by getting rid of anxiety, shame and doubt. Would love for OP or someone to expand with any further wisdom on these.

[–]Endorsed Contributorsqerl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've noticed the Biggest hurdles for me personally people in general are: acting happy when you're not, not dwelling in the past, and having true confidence by getting rid of anxiety, shame and doubt. Would love for OP or someone to expand with any further wisdom on these.

That's an astute observation and part of the human experience for many. It's what TRP may call "being a little bitch."

Here's the cure: read the sidebar, lift, become outcome independent, develop rock solid frame, and stay in the moment.

Edit: kill your ego while you're at it.

TRP is a toolkit. Its up to you to fill that toolkit to make it useful for you. OP gave away his toolkit as an example. Your questions are answered in the sidebar, your journey is your own, take responsibility for yourself and find the answers.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

This really does need to be stickied. Great post and really comprehensive.

[–]uebermacht 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Removed post can be found here: http://archive.is/RAeVY

[–]3LiveAFTSOV -4 points-3 points  (2 children)

strength is kindness and sensitivity.

And this is where you lost me.

I was open to reading your post - I really was, but it became exactly what I presumed it to be - a check list on how to behave without any explanation as to why one should behave that way with vague morality tied into it.

D for effort

[–]Torabor64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

a check list on how to behave without any explanation

That's exactly why it is a great post. The explanation is in the sidebar, this is just a way to remember everything.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, it's MY list. Pick and choose the bits that work for you (if any) and throw out the rest.

[–]redlurker9 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The opposite of fear is courage. The opposite of love is apathy.