Rant/VentingSome of My Personal Life Lessons For Those Under 30 (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by musicvita25

I've recently rediscovered this fantastic sub and wanted to offer some hopefully important advice to those in their twenties and even late teens. Although I am learning every single day I feel like since turning this age my outlook and opinions have dramatically changed. I want to offer these as I go along:

Chasing Women is a waste of time Luckily Tinder etc is the norm. Women do not disappear they are always there. Always. If desperate for a bang, drop your standards. But do not under any circumstances focus on it. Yes I got laid a lot, not as much as I wanted to however they are memories you share with your buddies over a beer, and they make you smile for about 1 minute. Thats it. But what I will say is get it out of your system. Fuck around, fuck an asian girl. Fuck a spanish one. Have a ONS. Do it, enjoy it. Then you'll know when you don't have the energy for it anymore that its out of your system unlike the beta that settles for any thing, and you can chill with a respectable LTR.

Lack of Goals = Lack of Improvement WRITE YOUR GOALS DOWN. All of them, and set yourself realistic targets. Do not just say "I want to lose weight" say "i want to lose 5kg in 2 months. Those who do not have clearly defined goals are wandering lost souls. Write your goals down, and stick to them. This will bring you greater pleasure then getting laid a lot trust me. Do not be a male bimbo.

Going out every weekend Biggest waste of money, time, energy and so on. I have stayed in on weekends for last 2 years half of it single and had the time of my life. Maybe cos Im 30 but seriously I do not recall one night that was "life changing" and so on. Its a load of shit and in the antisocial socialist heavy society we live in most people are insecure assholes in bars etc. So really think about it, on your days off/weekends why would you choose to go to a place full of people that are a bunch of cunts? Go to dinner, get a hobby, improve yourself, work on a project, even play a video game that you can improve on. Going out is finished. Again nobody on their deathbed ever remembers the night they go to the bar full of average to sexy looking women who were rude or might have fucked you.

Invest Real estate, shares, anything that produces income. Do not invest in something that gives you no dividends. Its a load of bullshit.

There will always be another job, but not another life If you need income, work, but if you want to be successful work for yourself. I realised at 23 that my bosses at all my jobs were no smarter than me, and I refused to ever work for another incompetent asshole again. Funnily enough 7 years later each one of those bosses have either been fired, company closed or quit. You got one life, do whatever the fuck you want on YOUR terms.

*Do not go to College Unless you are studying law or medicine, DO NOT BOTHER. Do not get yourself into THOUSANDS of debt, for a piece of paper. Im a college dropout, zero debt, worked for myself, whereas others I know cant even fucking go out as they are crippled with student loans. Do not do it, youre only doing it for the social life, and again thats a bubble not worth staying in for that amount of debt.

Friends come and go Seriously the friends I have now to before are chalk and cheese. If you dont like a dude, do not hang out with them. Also like to add, do not socialise with women. They are at their worst right now and are selfish beyond belief. Those who are lucky to use them to get laid etc well done, but majority of us have never been so fortunate. They offer you nothing good at all and I havent had a female friend (that i wasnt banging) for 3 years. Couldnt be happier.

Assume bullshit I believed everything I was ever told. We live in a bullshit heavy society. Do not believe a single word. None of it. Whether its in business or socially. Assume bollocks, smile, nod and don't give a fuck.

Its easier to make money for yourself then ever A guy I know had no money, no prospects got a business loan and paid it off in 13 months selling fucking burgers for a stand and is looking to expand. Seriously, take the hit, totally worth it.

Get dumped/Break up Greatest life lesson ever. Best painful experience too. If you've never had this, you've never lived.

Delete all social media Biggest waste of time ever, use it ONLY for trying to bang a girl or promote your business. Anything beyond that do not bother.

Take the risk Invest the money, ask her out, do something stupid, put a lot on red, but all within minimum. Ive gone extreme on all this, I've lost a lot of money, Ive done plenty stupid things, i put a lot on red and black came up. Don't regret any of it, lifes too short. But be warned do not overstretch yourself. Dont put it ALL on red, eggs in one basket and so on.

Last but not least Do whatever YOU want Your family, friends, spouse, teachers, boss do not know you. They think they do, but they are fucking stupid. You know you, and only you can do what you think is right. Trust your heart, but not what you think your dad would like etc. I'm telling you to be selfish because its not their lives its YOUR lives.

You can honestly achieve anything in your lives. Seriously, the amount of shit wankers told me and I proved them all wrong is the greatest feeling ever. I want you to know that you will be hated for all of this because it goes completely against the grain. But thats what this sub is about. Its about becoming the man you always wanted to be.

Edit: Life lessons to youngsters

[–]Ezaar 458 points459 points  (100 children)


I think the college bit should be considered based on the desired discipline. But that’s somewhat implied.

[–]kamikaze2001 208 points209 points  (81 children)

Depends a lot on the circumstances. But truth be told, having no degree is better than having an arts major with 75k of debt at 5-10% interest.

[–]BeachBum09 189 points190 points  (58 children)

Computer science. You can graduate making close to 100k. One of the highest paying 4 year degrees. Totally worth it.

Before someone comes in saying bootcamps, learn on your own, or stories of a friend they know who got into it without a degree. Is it doable? Yes but the road isn't as easy. Big time employers with a solid tech department knows that a few week boot camp on just learning code simply scratches the surface. They know that the basic foundation of comp sci concepts weren't learned. That likely basic programming problem solving skills weren't learned. You won't be getting that high starting salary offer. Rather you will still have to do some form of work to get there. You might get hired as a Dev who simply does very basic stuff like simple bug fixes or label changes. You will sorely have to gain the experience to where your job experience is what the next employer will look at instead of your education or lack there of.

Choice of school is a big one. If you get a degree and it costs you 50k, that seems like a lot. However, getting the degree and getting a starting salary of 90k is better than not getting the degree and starting at 50k. Especially considering that after 2-3 years the guy with the degree can now go to a different company making around 110k while the guy without the degree might be at 70k. Within that two years the guy with the degree made more money even if he paid off his loans within that time.

People need to do this type of logical analysis when looking at going to college. They need to have a direct plan for their future and have the ability to stick to it. Research the highest paying degrees. Find a few that seriously interest you. Then look at the salary ranges for positions with those majors. Find average starting salaries, average salaries for 3-4 years of experience, and then the upper range. Look at the potential cost for the degree. Does the salary figures from the info you gathered make this degree worth it? Would you ultimately end up making more money than the average worker? If not you need to look into trades. Hell, even look into trades to start as your base comparison. Will that degree including the cost be worth it when compared to a trade where you didn't need to pay for school?

Some degrees are incredibly worth it but like anything good planning needs to come into play.

[–]HappyMexican 45 points46 points  (19 children)

Difficult and a bit optimistic. The amount of mathematics it takes is what holds most people back from finishing a CS degree.

100k? starting pay for a lot of CS degrees is like closer to 60 - 70k. But then I live in the midwest so maybe thats why its lower.

School choice Doesn't matter as much as you think. You could get a online degree (Make sure the school is accredited or a state school with online program). And ya your pay wont be 100k, but you could still get IT jobs starting pay between 40 - 50k.

That being said after like 5 years 100k is totally a possibility. And I totally think your right in suggesting CS degree. 70k is still plenty to do whatever else you wanted too. I got a MIS degree and I make 60k. Just got back from las vegas where I had a blast. I have also visited China, and Austin Texas over the summer as well! Tech jobs are good paying.

[–]BeachBum09 12 points13 points  (10 children)

I'm just putting into perspective the differences between going for the degree and not. The salaries are just figures used based loosely on what I am aware of. More so used as an example, a hypothetical. I mean yea, Facebook and Google were offering up to like 110k for new graduates but thats in silicon valley where even at 110k you'll be living modestly.

The math is not even that daunting. I am and was the poster child for "terrible at math and deathly afraid of it" throughout my years in school including college. The way math was taught just never reached me. I guess I think differently which is why programming came naturally. I did horrible in calc. So bad in fact I had to plead to my professor to pass me so I can graduate. But once I started taking some of the CS centered math courses they never felt like math. Just abstract CS problems. Also, I did not have a lot of math associated with my CS degree. Truthfully the basics of math is really all you need. I think people get discouraged by the math involved because they see the symbols and letters and get overwhelmed. The thing about math is they teach it just as numbers and how they work together. "Solve for X in this arbitrary problem consisting of a formula of numbers." Which makes it hard to conceptualize. Just give me a problem involving real world situations so I can associate the numbers and figures with something tangible. If you look at the "math" involved with neural networks the formulas look incredibly intimidating. Except you can't view it that way. You have to view it as a symbol, a representation of something else. Pretty much that complicated symbol you see is just a simplified version of a bigger formula. It's essentially a variable. You take all of these outputs and put it in this variable so form now on we are just dealing with this variable instead of having to know the intimate knowledge of what's going on inside.

Like I said. I truly did not have a lot of CS math courses past things like discrete math and linear alg. I also have been an engineer for over 7 years and have not come across a situation where I have had to use complex math on the fly or where I could not look up a mathematical solution for a problem online and apply it programatically. If I need some random generator or to pull something random from a collection, I won't sit down and write out a complicated math problem using logarithms to produce said random generation or whatever other output I want. I would look at articles explaining random number generation in math or other concepts and apply them to my program. I only need to understand that particular solution at that one time. I don't need to be an expert on logarithms and continually hone my skills there for when I need to use it down the line.

A software engineer is sometimes more about knowing how to fix the problem but not knowing the intimate details on how to get there. You then learn or research those details and concepts and continually break the problem down and filling in any gaps in knowledge through said research. I know that I want to randomly display images to the user from their photo folder. I know that I would need some random number generator that will work upon a range of numbers based off the count of pictures. Oh, I realize that pictures see to be repeating too often? I will look up some other mechanic on how to track this and mitigate the issue. Or I can research similar tactics used by others. I wouldn't want or need to come up with some complicated algorithm on the fly.

[–]Gallobrax 2 points3 points  (6 children)

Semi related: You seem to have your head screwed on right as you are obviously dealing with some high level work. Perhaps then you can provide me some feedback.

When I started college I initially went for a degree in computer science. In my case the math on the curriculum actually washed me out of the program so I did what most in my situation would do: I switched majors. Luckily this was into economics which I think gives me a better foundation then IT alone. Incidentally my career path hasnt changed much (minus an initial auditing job I took.) as I'm now a quasi systems admin/hardware specialist.

Despite this i am recently finding myself very bored and very broke (Its a startup of 2 years) however the job has taught me a lot especially as it concerns microcircuitry and electrical work. I've hit a wall now though at the startup and need to expand further. With what I've described in brief is it in your experience better to focus on hardware or software?

[–]BeachBum09 3 points4 points  (3 children)

I'll be completely honest I don't have any experience with the hardware side of things. My opinion is that if you hit a wall and are getting that negative feeling about your work than you need to look at the market. You're in the tech category one way or the other which is great. You can always make that resume look great for the prospective role.

I don't think you should be wasting your talents at a place that makes you feel the way you do about work. Maybe no fault of their own. It's like any relationship. Sometimes they run their course. You just owe it to yourself to see what's out there. You spend a significant chunk of your life at work. You can't dislike that much of your life and truly be happy.

You have specialised skills. Shop them around. Do you honestly like software and programming? It's not for everyone. If you do. Go for it. I said that experience trumps all education for the most part. Only thing I know is there is a lack of solid software developers. Not just good senior guys but there is a lack of people willing to learn. It's not always about pure development and code. You have to learn the company's personal business application of it all. Not many people have both the social skills or ability to translate what someone who isn't a developer is telling you into build into something that can be properly translated to a technical problem. Then ultimately a solution can be worked out.

If you like that kind of thing you'll have no problem getting hired and quickly moving up in your career. Don't let momentum set it. Always bet on yourself. It's got the best odds in the house.

[–]pchthrowaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally biased on this one, but people with hardware experience make great software engineers. My schooling was in EE and very hardware focused but I’ve worked mostly in software. The expense of getting hardware right provides an incentive to get the software right early by habit. A lot of the formality in hardware design prevents the almost constant rework you see in the software world. There is software trade stuff to learn along the way, but you just gotta be open to it.

[–]Gallobrax 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I see your point and it's what I've come to the conclusion of myself. Onwards and upwards as someone once said. Thank you for the perspective, unlike others I do have a solid foundation I just need to explore my options much the same as I need to with women.

[–]theoracleofbromaha 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I had a very similar experience, however ended up getting a degree in Technology and Operations. It’s the business side of Industrial Engineering. However by specializing in Enterprise Software and learning SQL I am now making around 75 grand with 3 years of work experience. Find out if software is truly what you love. You don’t have to be a developer to make the money that the industry offers. Look into project management and agile certifications. Software engineers are seriously fucking happy when they get a new project manager or BA that actually knows how to write some code and understands basic software architecture.

[–]deepthr0at 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Currently a senior in college for my BS in comp sci and got most of the math out of the way, honestly the worst part was getting through basic algebra/trig after being away from it for almost a decade, even the dreaded Calc 2 was not too bad if your fundamentals from algebra/trig were sound.

Once you get to higher levels of math it actually becomes fun in a challenging sort of way and you actually start to appreciate the beauty of certain formulas and equations. And this is coming from someone that absolutely hated math in high-school.

[–]BreakingRed_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Difficult and a bit optimistic. The amount of mathematics it takes is what holds most people back from finishing a CS degree.


You wouldn't want to get a degree that everyone can get, as the value of the graduate would surely plummet in a few years.

[–]daprospecta 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I make 100k in Austin but that's not the standard and that's with 6 years experience. Unless you are graduating top of your class from a top it school, 100k isn't happening unless your in San Fran.

[–]satellite779 7 points8 points  (3 children)

In big tech centers (NorCal, Seattle) 100k is bare bone starting salary. With stocks, should be at least 120k, probably a lot more at Facebook and Google. It's ridiculous but it makes sense: computer science jobs are automating other jobs so there's more of a pie going to programmers

[–]Robocompany 1 points1 points [recovered]

Can confirm. Google, Amazon, Microsoft pay about $130k starting salary.

[–]satellite779 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yeah. With some experience, it's not uncommon to work for well over $200k even if you're not a genius.

[–]1dongpal 17 points18 points  (2 children)

fuck all this. make your own business

[–]wanderer779 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Just look at it like any other investment. What is the initial outlay, what is the stream of cash flows, and how sure are you that it will work out? The first two are easy, the last one is a bit trickier and would probably require a full post.

People try to oversimplify things. "no one should go to school, it's too much debt" is just as dumb as, "education is priceless, money is no object".

[–]BeachBum09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I just think that some people when dealing with decisions like these don't get analytical but rather start imparting emotions and feelings into the decision. They feel that if they study something they really like but doesn't pay well that they will be one of the lucky ones who gets the higher paying jobs. We tend to see ourselves in a good light and that it will somehow work out. You need to remove the emotion and feelings from the equation. Not necessarily to make the right decision but to make an informed decision. The result you come to when removing emotion and feelings can be just another metric used to decide. However, it's still important and essential information to be aware of.

[–]PM_Me_TheBooty 4 points5 points  (11 children)

I entered the workforce as a programmer after self study and make 65k in a very poor area. College isn't needed. There aren't degrees for new programming languages even

[–]BeachBum09 8 points9 points  (5 children)

That's because programming languages are irrelevant. Any CS course worth it's salt doesn't teach programming languages. They teach computer science concepts. Semantics vs Syntax. If your course, boot camp, or college cs major focuses on programming languages over the concepts of computer science you got robbed.

Having experience or knowledge on a language or a few languages means nothing if you don't know the basics they are all based off of. We don't learn basic comp sci concepts using C++ because C++ is somehow a great language. We use it because it's basic enough to be able to teach the concepts. Once you know the concepts the language in which you program is irrelevant. Last year I needed to do some Python stuff. Never used python before and really never interacted with the code. It took me no time to get the lang of it. You just have to look up the syntax. No prospective computer engineering student should focus solely on the languages. Languages come and go. New ones pop up all the time and fizzle out or take over the new "best" spot. They change so often with new ones constantly coming out that it would actually be a disadvantage to focus your time learning them as opposed to the basic concepts. Hell, learn pseudo code first. You don't even need syntax.

"If this is bigger than this, do this." is the same as

If (x > y ) { ... }

is the same as

If x > y Then ... End If

is the same as

x > y ? option1 : option2

All different ways in different languages. Yet my first sentence made using words and plain english represented the same thing.

I'm glad you found a job making okay money in a poor area. I'm not sure of your experience or how long you have been working but 65k is way underpaid for a software engineer. The national average is like 110k. Obviously that includes people with many years experience. I'm just trying to highlight the visibility of the education. Yea, you were able to self teach yourself. That's great. However, you likely had to start at a smaller company. One which pays less, which is why you are getting 65k. If your company is a bigger company that usually pays more, you got 65k because of your lack of qualifications.

Now, I am not saying 65k sucks and I am most definitely not saying you aren't qualified. Fuck, you might be better than half the people I work with. But that fits into my point. Your resume did not show formal cs education. So even if you might be the best programmer they have, they don't know that. So your salary is lower to start. Then when you go to a new company after 2-3 years your experience nullifies education or lack of. Then you can make the better money. Facebook, Google, etc will not hire someone without a college degree as their first engineering job unless they have some very impressive experience and projects on their resume. Many large corporations looking for engineers are the same. Those are the companies that tend to pay more. So you are eliminating yourself form the higher paying companies, at least initially. That's the point I was trying to make.

[–]PM_Me_TheBooty 5 points6 points  (4 children)

Nah this is the pay in my area. Of I lived in ny I would need a salary of 110k to live the same quality of life. Companies want people who can do the job. They don't care about theory.

[–]BeachBum09 3 points4 points  (3 children)

I wouldn't show up to work tomorrow for 65k. Software engineering salaries are pretty standard across the country. They have to compete with everyone. It isn't like most professions. I think you should do a little more research because you are very much being underpaid if you think you can do the job without knowing the theory.

[–]PM_Me_TheBooty 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Nah the median in my area is 70-75k. I am underpaid but local economy is a real thing you don't seem to be accounting for. I do intend to apply for a senior position. That would put me around 100k.

[–]BeachBum09 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good to hear. I was just wondering why so low. Good luck on getting that senior position!

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I graduated recently from a no-name university with a comp sci degree. Currently have a job as a software engineer making more than my parents.

Even though I enjoy what I currently do, eventually I'd like to start my own business, maybe doing something unrelated to my current field.

Yes, i have some debt, but I come from a home where money was always short and a concern. So to be where I'm at right now in my early 20s, its easily the best decision of my life. Highly recommend to others.

I think OP had the right idea, just didn't understand the breadth of good degrees that are out there. Certainly don't go to college to get a "hobby" degree. Get a STEM degree and start making something of yourself.

[–]BeachBum09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm with you on starting my own thing. Just gotta figure out what that thing is

[–]TemplesOfSyrinx[🍰] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Computer science is also one of the few disciplines where you don't necessarily need a degree to get a job.

I hire developers based on what comes out of their mouths during an interview and if they can prove to me that they are technically adept for the work. To that end, I've passed on Deans List graduates in favor of self taught applicants based purely on how they did in their interviews.

If you really want to pursue a career in software development, remember that it's not just how well you can code. It's also how well you can communicate, how well you can get along with others, the impression you make with clients/users.

[–]BeachBum09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I was simply stating starting credentials. Sometimes it's tough when some companies have these very strict guidelines.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You're way better off studying comp sci on your own. You can learn exactly what you want without all the uni frills, much quicker and completely free. As an engineer, I'd even extend this process to that. I've learned more post degree, specific to my interests than I ever learned in school.

[–]MrInternetDetective 12 points13 points  (1 child)

I went through one year of public university and dropped out. Couple thousand in debt. Moved cities, got an IT job off craigslist which is what I was going for anyway. Didn’t need to get certs or anything. Making good money for myself at a good company and only regret listening to my parents telling me “there’s no way you get a job without a degree”. I am getting offers for different positions every week. Do not take every word from boomer parents as truth.

[–]HappyMexican 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah your right, but when it comes to average 18 - 25 year old, I still say they should do school.

It is more of a factor of they need to go to a Junior college first. Spend the first 2 or 3 years fucking around and finding a major they like. Jucos are practically free so if they drop out no big whoop.

once they hit the job market with a IT degree they will get snapped up and not be forced to work for minimum wage Tier I calls (I did this) for years before moving up.

[–]Raz0rLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, you want a functional degree in a viable market. But different countries have vastly different study investments, and many at zero interest. Id say the US study cost is one of the highest if not the highest by far.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about engineering, accounting, finance, economics, etc.?

[–]newls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also depends on the country. In the UK you pay it back in what is effectively a graduate tax. It's technically a government loan but you don't actually have to pay it back if you don't have any income, and the repayments scale up as your income grows.

The socialists in this country love to cry about students graduating with thousands in 'student debt' but it's all BS. In practice it's just another form of income tax.

Easy to pay off. It does not affect my credit score, credit card applications, nor my mortgage. And if you emigrate outside the EU for enough time then it's wiped clean, if you're inclined to move country.

So if you're doing a STEM subject then it is of course worth it. But even if you're doing an arts degree (God help you) there's no serious financial risk at all.

[–]buddhadarko 3 points4 points  (0 children)


People need to step out of the mindset that society has pushed that tells us that we NEED college or we are nothing. Lots of people are successful that either dropped out or never went to college. Fuck it. It's nothing but a business and they only care about you while you're enrolled they are receiving money from you or from your loans. Nobody asks about you when you get your degree(s) and you're struggling to buy food and shit because you're trying to pay those loans off.

Fuck college unless you're doing law or medicine, like OP said.

[–]regpaq 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And not all college degrees cost more than $50k. I went to a state school in CA and tuition during my time (3 years ago) was around $3k per semester. I also went to a community college first which was under $500 a semester. I ended up graduating with a business degree and no debt by being smart with my money. My friends without degrees are struggling and I'm maxing more than twice as much as them. Not going to college shouldn't be advised as a blanket statement.

[–]Drumcode-Equals-Life 11 points12 points  (2 children)

You should only go to college if you're going to study a field that will pay for itself, I'm an engineer who paid off his college loans in three years, in debt free as I turn 26, feels good man

[–]Kampizi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Get a general degree, sucks to hit a wall where grammar matters and you realize you can't write at a college level

[–]therowdygent 3 points4 points  (2 children)

OP is right about college, most degrees aren’t worth the debt. Better yourself and learn a trade.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At least with a trade you can be working for yourself in 5-10 years. It’s a lot easier to run a plumbing or construction business than an engineering firm with limited experience.

[–]Ezaar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a viable option if college isn’t appealing.

[–]DroppinDimes52 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is very generalized. I have a mining engineering degree and it has EASILY given me more earning potential than the 4 years of work experience I missed out on.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would also scratch law school unless you're incredibly academically oriented. Law school is full of legions of people who think they're gonna be the guys from Suits, and then graduate to one of the highest post-grad unemployment rates and a mountain of debt.

[–]PM_Me_TheBooty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

College was a waste of time and one of my biggest regrets. Its the information age. Its all free online.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So what if, say the college where I am most likely going to doesn't charge high fee. Should I go there? Because the place where I am from, people are very judgemental here & if I don't at least graduate from college, they'll look at me like some uneducated fuck & I'll always get discriminated & belittled by everyone I know?

[–]coco5440 195 points196 points  (33 children)

Education is damn important these days. Don'y under estimate it.

My kids have degrees in pharmacy (Pharm.D.), chemical engineering (B.Eng.), business (MBA), and social work (MSW). They were careful to minimize debt (i.e. went to the schools that offered the best deals). They're making good money now -- even the social worker makes over 80K.

[–]RPTA3498 39 points40 points  (5 children)

Agreed. I have an MBA and it was definitely worth it. It has changed my income potential exponentially.

[–]VaguelyEuphemistic 1 points1 points [recovered]

as a counterpoint, due to bad timing (and certainly more than a bit of mismanagement on my part), my MBA was a complete waste. I finally got my loans under $40k :(

[–]askmrcia 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I recently got my MBA and it helped me tremendously.

To your point I was very hesitant that it would not help. Especially since I was 24 at the time with very little experienced. I finished it at age 26 and got a salary boost (from switching jobs) by $60k.

Yea I have loans, but those will be paid off and its not like the loans are killing me.

So I can see it from both sides.

[–]RPTA3498 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If it was mismanagement on your part then it's not the MBA that was a complete waste its on you. Back to OP's lack of goal = lack of improvement. I busted my ass in my MBA spend all day and even some weekends in the business building. Graduated near the top of my class with a 3.8 GPA and knew what I was worth.

[–]musicvita25[S] 30 points31 points  (5 children)

Congratulations on your children choosing degrees that bettered their careers. In the UK Media studies or PR and advertising degrees dont. But thats excellent.

[–]Knuzzy 3 points4 points  (4 children)

In the UK Media studies or PR and advertising degrees dont

Agree with this, but one other subject I would add to your list of being worthwhile is engineering. In the UK there is a very high demand for apprentice and graduate engineers. On top of that, it can be a very very well paid job if you get into the right side of it.

[–]Barmacist 3 points4 points  (1 child)

PharmD debt sucks so much tho, even if your debt free going in you can expect 100k+ coming out.

[–]coco5440 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In-state tuition at Texas Tech was barely over 10K per year. With a starting salary of 130K and 9-5 hours seems like a pretty good deal.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 11 points12 points  (10 children)

Education is damn important these days. Don'y under estimate it.

Most degrees these days are worthless. The first two in your list are a couple obvious exceptions. MBAs are only as good as the connections you made. They stopped teaching people how to actually run companies decades ago; marketing and debt facilities seem to be their focus now. Social worker? Yeah, fine and dandy as long as people are still buying state bonds. Ask all the social workers in CA how they feel in a couple years, once the reserves are tapped again.

I think school can be a great thing for everyone, but the most important lessons are not in the classrooms. You need to learn how to talk to people and make connections, plus you need to learn how to deliver on deadlines. School is a good place to do that, but it isn't the only place.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good connections at university can definitely change your life. Especially if you become friends with RP aware men who are in their 30s or 40s and who already have established careers.

[–]marplaneit 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I think what's important, it's the ability to learn by your own. 8 months a go I started brewing, now I have a small bussines running, I learned a lot, by reading tons of book and practicing and experimenting, all of this while I'm in med school. I had brewers with 5+ years in the trade, asking me how I do certain things...

[–]dingman58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think school can be a great thing for everyone, but the most important lessons are not in the classrooms. You need to learn how to talk to people and make connections, plus you need to learn how to deliver on deadlines.

Absolutely agree with this. In my opinion colleges are more about gaining access to a peer group (making connections), resources (experts, libraries, labs, shops), and opportunities for extracurricular projects. If done right you can use it as a launchpad for a business, inventions, etc.

[–]beginner_ 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Agree, Having connections is the most important aspect. With connections you can get a job without having a formal degree / education just because the guy trusts your skills. It's for sure the easier way to get hired. And for starting your own business, it's obvious you need a huge network.

A degree helps when going through normal hiring process because HR drones get a checklist and throw out all applications missing important items on said checklist which usually as a formal degree/education. If you don't have one, you won't even get the chance to prove yourself at an interview.

And for some professions (engineering for example) you absolutely need a degree. If you are crafty / skilled "handyman" going into trades can be a good option. Advantage being that you actually see what you did. As an "office drone" (manager, accountant, IT,..) you don't really see the result of your work.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A degree helps when going through normal hiring process because HR drones get a checklist and throw out all applications missing important items on said checklist which usually as a formal degree/education

A few years ago, we caught HR doing this at a company where I was building an org from the ground up. This is after I told them I didn't care about education, but only cared about experience and/or personal projects. One of the recruiting cunts decided on their own that I was wrong and still filtered based on education. After ten weeks of getting worthless resumes and largely headhunting on my own because of it, their new VP of HR came to offer a profuse apology, after firing her. Apparently, a couple of the other recruiters were there when she proudly announced she wasn't going to do as I asked because she knew better.

Sayonara, toots. It took almost three months to rebuild a hiring pipeline through recruiting again and I was running absolutely ragged running my own recruiting efforts in the meantime. Fucking hell.

[–]sadcaticorn 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm curious what field of social work your child works in and where?

[–]coco5440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's child protective services for a Bay Area county.

[–]Armydude19 129 points130 points  (10 children)

I agree with you except the college. The market is over saturated with lawyers and you'll just end up in debt with a piece of paper unless you're top 10% of your class at a good law school. Shows you don't know shit in that aspect.

What if your businesses tank or the economy goes to shit? You have absolutely nothing to fall back on. You still have time to get an education, don't be an idiot just because you're successful now.

Go to college but get a STEM degree.

[–]nedkeib 44 points45 points  (1 child)

"So why did you choose not to go to college?"

"Someone on an anonymous forum about being an alpha male and getting the confidence to fuck women told me not to"

[–]Herdsengineers 22 points23 points  (2 children)

i have a few friends that are lawyers. they are no rolling in cash. one guy works for a firm as a construction litigator, doesn't make any more than me (i'm an engineer), and he's fucking miserable. they treat him like shit because they can, there are so many lawyers these day if he quits, they can replace him easily.

[–]coco5440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, construction defect litigation really really sucks! It's not hard so the pay sucks and a ridiculous amount of billable hours are expected. Also, three day long depositions about window flashing that have to be summarized every evening for the insurance carrier (it's amazing more attorneys don't eat a gun). Switching to criminal law was the best move I ever made.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev 37 points38 points  (2 children)

Guys interested in this topic will find the below of interest:

Life After 30: How to Be an Old Guy

-You have one life. Here's how to enjoy it.

[–]hbPUA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every day I live by this. Not quite ruling my own world yet, but getting closer every day.

[–][deleted] 77 points78 points  (23 children)

College was fun af highly recommend it tbh.

[–]pollodustino 21 points22 points  (7 children)

Even just going to community college for general ed is better than not going at all. It gives you a routine, something to accomplish, a place to be social, and if you choose to continue on for a four year degree, it's way cheaper than going straight to a university right out of high school. It also has way more interesting electives and optional classes, as well as many trade programs. The class sizes are often much smaller, typically capped at thirty students, except for the large lecture courses with labs like Science and Math.

I've gone to community college my entire collegiate career. I learned a trade I can take anywhere, I can continue on to a four year if I ever want to, and I've made fantastic friends. And have ZERO student loans over my head.

[–]BaboonBukkake 16 points17 points  (6 children)

I go to community college too but the girls aren't hot lol

[–]askmrcia 23 points24 points  (2 children)

I go to community college too but the girls aren't hot lol

LOL I would think the girls at a community college would be hot because those were the hot bimbos that realized their careers in acting isn't planning out.

Then again I guess community college would be filled with the chicks that were teen moms so yea I guess you're right. lol

[–]Barmacist 32 points33 points  (0 children)

If you like overweight african american girls you're in luck!

[–]NapoleonicViewgraph 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So many moms in their early 20s in community college.

[–]HappyMexican 8 points9 points  (0 children)

...hey hey hey, they still got puss right?! Everyone looks the same in the dark bro.

[–]pollodustino 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some years I've gone have had nothing but fuglies, other years have been nothing but hotties. Depends on the area and time, really. The two colleges I go to (Same district) are in heavily white and Hispanic, and Asian and Persian areas respectively, so I get a decent mix.

[–]WolfofAnarchy 24 points25 points  (4 children)

Agreed with everything, except for this:

Going out every weekend Biggest waste of money, time, energy and so on. I have stayed in on weekends for last 2 years half of it single and had the time of my life.

I've had amazing times going out, met amazing people and have absolutely had life changing nights with people. From finding some awesome dudes and driving like madmen over the Autobahn through the night, from fucking 2 Japanese girls on a rooftop, life has been fucking amazing when you go out clubbing and leave your comfort zone at home.

People don't realize life is a precious gift, and they're wasting it in their dark rooms.

[–]ScoutEU 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I just wrote a similar reply. You're only young once, and I know many people who regretted not going out more when they were younger (and had less responsibilities, and a more forgiving body for recovery).

You learn nothing about life sitting at home, in fact isn't that why anxiety and depression is on the rise for young people? (Sitting at home on Facebook not meeting people)

[–]light_a_man_a_fire 1 points1 points [recovered]

I'm 30. You're right that going out every weekend is a waste of money. I don't really go out anymore however when i am on my deathbed i will look back EXTREMELY fondly of most the times i did go out, all the fun i had, and all the women i did in fact go home with. It wasn't extremely common but it certainly happened many times. I would never advocate for somebody to deny themselves these experiences.

[–]itsam 1 points1 points [recovered]

I'm 33, my 20s were really blue pilled religious and highly motivated. Married to my first (very promiscuous) girlfriend, saved all my money to build a house and have a wedding while working 2 jobs at 22. Watched all the money I saved for a home get hit by the housing crisis and lost every cent I saved. Now at 33, divorced last year (went on the second date of my life at 32) I'm just trying out the bar scene and I love it. If i can find some club or bar with good music and get out on the dance floor and that's all I want. It's what I really like to do now, I feel like most of this subreddit condemns things without explaining moderation. Do what you like in moderation and always remember your future self in 6 months and make sure that guy will be happy and healthy.

[–]parsnippityjim 39 points40 points  (1 child)

Wow there’s some bad advice in here that could really fuck up your life.

If you only invested in dividend paying investments you would have missed out on all the best investments of the last twenty years.

There a lot more majors that are good besides Law and medicine. Law actually sucks in the US if you don’t go to a top five school. College is important as social proof, do not underestimate it, just be smart about it. Avoid debt by going to a community college then transferring into a state school and pick a high paying major (Not all STEM majors are high paying).

In some age groups and some geographic locations not having social media means you’re a fucking weirdo. Again it’s social proof. Just control yourself like a damn man when using it. Don’t keep the app on your phone, only log in to post pictures of you doing cool shit or being out with friends. DO NOT post political shit. Think of it as a social resume.


[–]marplaneit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This. Not having social media, at least Facebook with a few pictures, is a hugeeee red flag, at least in the young crowd -35. I'm in med school, but there are a lot of good carreers at college, yes don't go a for a stupid degree, like a PhD on medieval art history, but most STEM do great. Going out, at least twice a month does great of my mind health... I own a small bussines and I'm in med school, I fucking study or work almot every waking hour, a few saturdays of playing hard won't make a dent.

[–]perfectcell- 43 points44 points  (0 children)

*Do not go to College Unless you are studying law or medicine, DO NOT BOTHER. Do not get yourself into THOUSANDS of debt, for a piece of paper. Im a college dropout, zero debt, worked for myself, whereas others I know cant even fucking go out as they are crippled with student loans. Do not do it, youre only doing it for the social life, and again thats a bubble not worth staying in for that amount of debt.

This is the dumbest statement in your otherwise decent post. Survivorship bias at work here. There's always state and city colleges that are affordable and your chances of landing a decent paying job is way higher than aiming to be that 0.001% of successful entrepreneurs.

[–]IkWhatUDidLastSummer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I always advocate for this:

  1. Dont waste your entire existence on chasing irrelevant pussy.

  2. Dont have female friends that you would like to bang IF YOU DONT/CANT bang them. Show your intend, show that you wanna bang them, escalate, make things clear, if she doesnt reciprocate THEN END IT THERE. Youre emotionally taxing yourself if you are friends with someone hoping she will eventually leave some pussy for you, its like a dog hoping its owner eventually drops some food accidentally - the dog will not survive if its the only way it relies on getting food.

And i know the male hamster will go absolutely crazy on me for saying this, trying to find justification for being friends with a girl they would wanna bang but is incapable of.

[–]emilandersen043 28 points29 points  (2 children)

I don't agree with all your points but some are solid advice

[–]DodgedAFew 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not sure how he jumped from Tinder to 'respectable LTR'.

[–]PurryFury 46 points47 points  (4 children)

" Delete all social media " , seems legit considering where it posted. Kek

[–]1clon3man 39 points40 points  (3 children)

reddit and forums are really not the same as places where you have your real name and all your highschool friends. totally different animal

[–]PurryFury 8 points9 points  (2 children)

I would say that Reddit is still a social media. People share their art pictures, memes some even their nudes and SH , stories. Even though it is just partaly a social media, still is a social media. And the part about real name is only up to a personal choice, for me i dont even share my real name or life on facebook and such.

[–]1clon3man 8 points9 points  (1 child)

yes, its still social media, but I think it's 80% less bad as facebook. Facebook isn't geared toward self-improvement or knowledge sharing and has addictive properties. Perhaps if you sum up all the self-help sources and combine that all together, you can reach an amount of time wasting equivalent to 1 mainstream social media website... my 2c

[–]Hillarysdilddo_2016 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Depends. if you're posting on two X you might want to delete your social media including Reddit.

[–]sssozi 1 points1 points [recovered]

Solid other than college.

Most people here I doubt are arts/English majors. If you attend college for a STEM degree it pays off just don’t be in crippling debt still. 25k+ And you’re doing it wrong

[–]musicvita25[S] 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Considering the minimum in the uk now is 9k a year just the degree then according to your theory every degree is wrong. Which i genuinely believe to be true

[–]CeleritySteam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even the cheap ass schools are something like 12k a semester. About 3k of that is overpriced books, another 2k is school lodging even if you have your own place but still.

[–]DoctorBees69 5 points6 points  (2 children)

This is all so contradicting. Don't chase women. Take a risk, ask her out. Don't go to college. Take out a business loan. Also super anecdotal. Staying in every weekend, having no female friends, and not working for anyone may work for some, but not everyone. Additionally, there are benefits to investing in things that don't necessarily pay out dividends. For example, investing in a company that focuses more on its own growth and raising share prices and financial confidence is better for some people than investing in a company that has to relegate a portion of their earnings to shareholder dividends. There are benefits and detriments to both.

[–]matthewzz1997 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Yeah I totally agree. I think OP is a bit older so a lot of this stuff doesn't really matter to him now that he's already had his fair share. But for those like me who are just starting out, I think his advice isn't very helpful.

[–]DoctorBees69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is some good advice in here, but it's hidden among potentially bad advice and most of it is stuff that is just a repeat of the sidebar that everyone should know. Not really a necessary post, if it's even beneficial.

[–]Noveno 26 points27 points  (17 children)

Terrible advice in general, can't agree. The invest advice is specially horrible.

[–]halfback910 2 points3 points  (12 children)

What about the investing advice is horrible? I'm curious. Dividend-based investment is a time-proven, defensive investment strategy.

[–]Slut_Slayer9000 2 points3 points  (8 children)

You have to have ALOT of money that you don't need anytime soon to make any real money with dividend based investing. For younger people its honestly not worth the time. I actually take Marc Cuban's advice, value and buy and hold investment strategies are outdated in todays stock market, if you wanna do that just max out 401k, IRA's and HSA's then buy ETF's/index/mutual funds. Its much much more practical to just save money, then buy big and sell big when you can cash in on the markets momentum, basically swing trading. You can make some actually money doing that, you just have to pay capital gains tax, and more importantly you have to have the disposable capital to be able to do so, most people don't, and you definitely aren't going to get that capital by buying stocks that give you dividends. Don't get me wrong it does work but when you crunch the numbers unless you have a shit ton of money to invest you're making pennies on the dollar.

[–]halfback910 1 point2 points  (7 children)

Blatantly false. I've invested spare money in high dividend yield stocks, held them, and have an average dividend yield of 8.2% to 8.5% over the course of a year and a half. That's solid.

These are stocks that haven't lowered their dividend once in five years. And regularly raise it. They have strong financials and operational metrics. Even if their equity TANKS, I'm still getting my 8.2%

Trying time the market is moronic. That's not to say that you shouldn't be opportunistic if you see an above average return on one of your stocks and sell.

But if you try and time the market, you're going to lose your shirt.

And if you are NOT maxxing out your 401k or saving money for multiple years for a large expense (home) you should not b investing period.

Edit: I've only invested like 13k in stocks. Just don't be an idiot and buy less than a thousand dollars worth at a time to save on fees. You really don't need much money at all.

[–]Slut_Slayer9000 1 point2 points  (6 children)

Blatantly false. I've invested spare money in high dividend yield stocks, held them, and have an average dividend yield of 8.2% to 8.5% over the course of a year and a half. That's solid.

Not blatantly false at all. I think you missed my point, its not a bad strategy BUT to make any real money you need to have ALOT of money to invest. 8.5% is really good but what does that equate too if you don't have 50-100+ shares of that stock? Its literally pennies on the dollar. If you don't have a lot of money to invest (10K+ at minimum) dividend based investing is a waste of time.

[–]halfback910 1 point2 points  (5 children)

... 8.5% is 8.5% regardless of what number it is. That is how percentages work.

And dividend yield is based on dollars, not numbers of shares. So if I invest 100 dollars in an 8.5% yield stock, I get $8.50 that year.

[–]Slut_Slayer9000 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Which is my point lmao. If you don't have a lot of money to invest that 8.5% ain't shit. You'd need to put up 10K just to make $850 in a year. I'm not arguing whether it works or not, I'm arguing that its not an efficient investment strategy if you have limited funds to invest with, as even investing 10k doesn't net you much profit in the long run, most people don't even have 10k to invest to begin with.

[–]halfback910 1 point2 points  (3 children)

But that's how yield works. You should always invest where your best yield is.

[–]Slut_Slayer9000 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Yeah if 8.5 percent is your best yield then you're lazily investing which is totally fine but its not the only option out there. I'm just personally saying that for the majority of people out there seeking investing advice its not worth tying up $10k for an entire year to make $850. Dividend based investing is for the lazy, and already rich. Most of the top companies these days don't even give out dividends, they just reinvest in their company.

[–]Lex-Luger 1 points1 points [recovered]

Fuck off if you won't give valid reasons why the advice is bad

[–]Noveno 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I'm sorry I hurted your emotions

[–]Lex-Luger 1 points1 points [recovered]

You are the reasons why people delete their comments. Nice vote brigade bud

[–]Noveno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If people delete their comments it's because 1) they're extremely sensitive, so I don't care the advice of super emotional people or 2) they said stupid things. In both cases I have no problem with them deleting their comments. I repeat, I'm sorry I hurted your feelings but in general this advice is horrible.

[–]HappyMexican 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lack of Goals = Lack of Improvement WRITE YOUR GOALS DOWN. All of them, and set yourself realistic targets. Do not just say "I want to lose weight" say "i want to lose 5kg in 2 months.

Probably the most valuable piece of advice for any age. I am turning 29 and I didn't start doing this til i was 24. Since 24 I went from unemployed 310 lbs dude with no degree who got cheated on and dumped and still lived with his parents. To 60k Salary with a Information Systems degree, 210 pounds, 2 cars, and a dedicated submissive LTR.

Mostly cause I came up with a game plan and half assed followed it for years. Even half assing is better then nothing.

[–]Ch1pp 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Don't invest if you don't get a dividend.

Ignore that one guys. If you're trying to trade shares while hoping to rely on dividend income you could struggle. Some shares grow in value but give tiny dividends, some give huge ones but don't grow, some do neither. Just invest smartly (and let me know when you find a share that does both).

[–]behindtheline40 2 points3 points  (1 child)

This man is giving explicit advice to people under the age of 30. Says only get dividend bearing investments. lol what. Fundamental misunderstanding of investing.

[–]Ch1pp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well all under 30s naturally have a big ol' pot of money to plough into dividend bearing investments and no time to wait for growth. /s

Don't know where the OP pulled that one from.

[–]OfficialBananas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Female friends are such a waste of time especially the ones that use you. Pick accordingly.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything except the college bit. Only go if you (or your parents) can pay up front or you had your shit together in highschool by getting many scholarships, etc. Otherwise I'd say learn a trade, work your way up in an already established company, or build your own company.

College can be a very valuable place to network and your future prospects are much better if you get a good degree, like personal finance (what I'm going for, 30% projected job increase and great potential to be self-employed. Also will learn investing skills to augment the income you already earn from helping people manage their money) or engineering.

[–]tibikush2012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First point is a very important one for all guys.

Every guy should pass a phase of scoring a lot of women through ONS or short term relationships. It will free him of the artificial crave of sex that we are bombarded with through the media.

[–]dinkstar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or learn a trade. I own my own concrete business. If you can learn how to finish concrete you'll make good money. Before I went into business for myself I was making $25 an hour. In Illinois Unions you'll be making around $45 an hour by Chicago. I was making more than most my friends who spent a lot of money and time in college.

I got sick of working for other people who made a lot of money off my talent. Started my own business about 6 years ago and never looked back. I'm the happiest and most successful I've ever been in my life. It's scary at first, but you just gotta nut-up and say fuck it. I have a few jobs ive done in my post history. I specialize in decorative design.

[–]Frenchy100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would add: take acid. Your life has not been lived until you do. It would be like dying a virgin to die without having the experience

[–]madking696969 2 points3 points  (0 children)

woohoo. love posts like this. i think self cultivation is way more important than getting laid.

wish there was a non sexual part of TRP

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learn Game when you got the energy for it.

I’m a good looking guy (always was) but now with unshakable self worth and muscles but can’t be fucked to go out lol.

When I had that energy in my teens and twenties I was an anxious, desperate, over excitable beta.

So go out and shag whilst you still go out young ones.

I’m doing great in life but was the nice guy when I had the energy of a bad boy now I “get it” but am not interested in that scene.

[–]infantinemovie5 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I know not everyone will be lucky enough, but if any of you get an opportunity to join a trade, fucking DO IT! College is such a waste of money. I'm 23 and about to buy a house after working in the trades for 5 years.

[–]Bear-With-Bit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Under fucking rated. College grad here, essentially starting a biz from a trade.

[–]Liviag86 2 points3 points  (1 child)

All good points except #1 (have lots of random sex). You sound like a degenerate with that advice. I'm sure you are not - just engrained with the ways of the declining culture. Horrible advice - at least for a new generation that sees past the frankly immoral views of the boomers, gen-x'ers, etc.

Fucking around outside of marriage is good for no one. Yes, I sound like a religious nut-job. Doesn't make it not true.

[–]awaken471 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Those are really good advices, but I feel like social media is now part of your lives, including to get a job, to attend and get invited to special events and many others. Instagram is shit, however

You seem to give a shit about women. How do you fake interest in order to get laid? I honestly can't pretend that I'm enjoying the conversation enough to move forward with them

[–]musicvita25[S] 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Firstly, you dont need social media to get a job or get invited to "special events" if they like you they'll invite to the party OR call you to say you got the job.

I got 47k followers on instagram and it is indeed the biggest pile of crap ever.

Where do i seem to give a shit about women?

I literally don't care anymore. I'll tell you a theory I came up with:

I have been in the presence of women who'd drop their panties instantly for an average looking guy but reject me. I also have been with women who adored me and wouldn't look twice at another attractive bloke.

To summarize, there are women (albeit you have some form of value) that would throw themselves at you, and some that don't.

So faking interest etc is all an enormous waste of time UNLESS she is a 8/9 OR she is like the most solid girl youve ever met and see a potential LTR. But like thats very rare.

So in regards to "moving forward" do what I do and assume theyre interested. This is a loose generation, many many people are sleeping around or at very least fooling around, esp when you meet off dating apps.

So just assume youre in there and just escalate. Example:

If you match on tinder If she replies If she gives the number If she agrees to the date If she flirts back and is interested If you kiss or bang on first date Then imo youre in there regardless.

Do what I do, I think about sports when women talk and just nod

[–]Sincam59BC 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Delete all social media but you have Instagram and reddit? You have some good advice in the OP, but several of the points are just “huh?” Deleting social media sounds like a classic “kids these days!” Besides, Tinder requires a Facebook account.

You shouldn’t be spending more than half an hour per day on it at most (unless it’s your job, e.g. marketing or business consulting).

[–]matthewzz1997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to be a dick but if he truly does have 47k followers on Insta, I feel like he's one of those people who doesn't care for it because he's already "got it" and is very successful with it. It's like when millionaires say money isn't important.

[–]DirtyRazz 1 points1 points [recovered]

I'm not sure about the college part. I think I will push my children to take advantage of education. Nothing beats having a good education at the same time, having fun and creating friendships or possibly find your future spouse. Of course you will have debt if you are not on scholarship, but it's worth it because a degree opens up more opportunities than not having one.

[–]GotRichVeryQckly 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Good advice.

Also, life is too short to listen to bad music.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Wise words but anything that doesnt pay dividents is bullshit? This is not true

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your college point is wack. "don't go into student loan debt" is solid advice, but what if you want to learn a trade in college or get a STEM major? I'm studying a life science because I want to. Sure, my mom is paying for the tuition I haven't covered for with scholarships, but I could have more scholarships and I've comfortably lived out of my vehicle in the past for finances. Even then, it's never too late to go to college. Work until you can afford it. You don't have to go to university (it loses it's charm after about a month anyway) to get an education.

An education is crucial for some men's pursuit of happiness, and of course it will help you get a job. At the very least get a degree in business and do your own thing from there.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nice post, was expecting some kind of retarded obvious list of facts but turned out to be great advices that I totally agree with
the thing I will try to apply the most is the "it is risky and foolish, but I don't care what they think about me" part, I too often find myself not doing something because of what people would think of it, also doing things because "that's what people do" and proceed to take snapchat/facebook pictures to prove I did it and that I had fun

[–]mgbkurtz 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Many comments, but I didn't go out pre-30 and really wish I did. Socialization is very important.

[–]matthewzz1997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I mentioned this in another comment:

I think OP is a bit older so a lot of this stuff doesn't really matter to him now that he's already had his fair share. But for those like me who are just starting out, I think his advice isn't very helpful.

[–]steven565656 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As for going out, it really depends on where you go. Sure, going to some pretentious bar or club full of dickheads is no fun, but that's very different from going to a cool live music venue where everyone is chilled out and having a blast. Find a scene you like and you will have a blast.

[–]chasebandz01 1 point2 points  (1 child)

What if we already fucked up and got a worthless degree? I have 20k left to pay, working a full-time and part-time job to pay it off rapidly, and I'm 26. I think I'm too stupid to code, but I could see myself doing IT and networking. Anyone?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get into IT asap and look into infosec. Lots of money to be made there. The important thing is to move fast on getting the career ball rolling.

[–]GraveyardZombie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I could add one to this list is that “Family is the one you create...not the one you were born to”. Even your mom and dad can become selfish toxic pieces of shit . Learn from your blood family’s mistakes and apply to your new family of what you think Family should be like.

[–]1scissor_me_timbers00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What have you done for career and money working for yourself?

[–]trp_nofap_rewire2018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, this is some good content

Thanks for sharing your thoughts OP

A few points you brought up are extremely important to the present context of my life (don’t chase pussy and college for instance). I used to think fucking girls was the most awesome part of being a man. After a few lays, I felt nothing but emptiness. I’m much more fulfilled after crushing a workout or finishing a book. Regarding college, you’re completely right. I’m about to drop Law School because I can’t stand it anymore and actually here in Brazil this degree isn’t a relevant factor to net you a job given the crisis. You’ve said it well, we gotta live under our own terms and nothing else.

I’m really fortunate to have stumbled upon this community at the age of 22, btw

Peace dude

[–]criveros 1 point2 points  (1 child)

the best memories I have are those where I spent Thursday to Sunday partying and getting drunk.

[–]musicvita25[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More to life then getting pissed

[–]ScoutEU 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I have to disagree on the 'don't go out every weekend'. I'm 34 and don't regret one weekend. (I have friends who are older and regret not going out more when younger). The saying is 'you're only young once' and that is very true.... When you're older going out is harder as it's harder on your body and friends settle down etc.

You've got the rest of your life to sit in your house if that's what you choose to do, but going out will improve your social skills, and give you memories and life lessons

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Like that song: Nothing else matters by Mettalica.

[–]ProfHotTub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great stuff. I never was heavy on going out every weekend but when I did/do they’re dialed to 11. Got plenty of stories that were well worth it. Also think the cure to hangovers is just not to sleep that night. This best utilized on high energy cities

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not invest in something that gives you no dividends.

A lot of good shit in here but this should be the #1 takeaway, both metaphorically AND financially.

[–]notonlyplace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lack of Goals = Lack of Improvement

Find something you enjoy, I see so many people improving themselves just for the sake of it, improve yourself in something you love, I started by business not to improve myself or work hard but to do something I enjoyed doing.

I spent 18-20 hour days programming because I enjoy it, Improving myself was a side effect to me it was the same as playing video games.

Chasing Women is a waste of time

Sometimes Women do hit on me, but most of the time I have to make a effort, I would say get a LTR if you don't want to chase women,

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

For education, I'd cut out law. Most that start an arts degree with the intent on entering law school never do it. The competition was insane.

Acceptable majors to invest with student loans are:


Computer science

Science - > medicine

Even these majors (minus medicine and law due to legal requirements) can be self taught for free. You seriously do not need a professor to learn fluid mechanics, electrical design or chemistry. Most people just lack the ambition and confidence in their ability to remain focused on self education.

[–]EscortSportage 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Funny, im reading this while i sit in a USELESS THEOLOGY college class.

ABSOLUTE pathetic beta teaching the class,

[–]kaertrolled 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Maybe I'm not completely correct with my terminology and I feel we are splitting hairs here because fact of the matter is a few months ago I bought a bit of Bitcoin, a few months later I have much more money than I put in initially. Therefore whether it's called profit or dividends or whatever is of little consequence, the person I replied to phrased it as though there was no money to be made from it and that was all I was trying to point out. If it's made me money consistently and repeatably then in my mind Bitcoin is making me money.

[–]halfback910 3 points4 points  (21 children)

Do not invest in something that gives no dividends.

Surprise excellent investment advice in TRP.

I would add that non dividend paying investments can be valuable due to the expectation of future dividends. For instance Amazon shares will absolutely pay out dividends some day.

[–]sparks_mandrill 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This is the same modern day regurgitated babble you find in most male self-help blogs. None of this is original whatsoever. OP is likely still in his 20's

[–]Future_Alpha 0 points1 point  (5 children)

kinda confused about some things.

They are at their worst right now and are selfish beyond belief.

Isn't the response to that to be even more selfish and put your happiness and beliefs above yours at all times? If that is the case who cares if a bitch is selfish?

[–]Alphadestrious 0 points1 point  (2 children)

This is the truth. Once had a female friend who I liked, would talk to and hang out all the time and of course she met other guys/people and got distant. Female friends won't be there forever.

[–]Future_Alpha 0 points1 point  (1 child)

curious: why didn't you ask her out?

[–]Alphadestrious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was years ago and I did. She had just got out of a 4 year relationship and you know what that means. She just wanted to "meet new people" and so she just slowly got distant over time. But I just moved on.

[–]musicvita25[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Should be that way regardless of feminism

[–]BeholdTheWar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good advice. Id probably also add that EVERYTHING IS CHAOS. Dont expect anything, and be ready for everything.

[–]VictxrSenpai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha Well nowadays a bachelors degree is worth as much as a high school diploma (unless your into medicine, computer technology, etc.) Still id rather have a bachelors in something, compared to just a high school diploma, because in all honestly im not "making money moves" with just my diploma nor do i think ill be like any of those drop outs who will be seeing decent money off some genius idea. I think its also the fact that i go to a community college for Gen. Ed. before switching to the uni and i have a scholarship . But to each his own. On some real shit though college is a fucking business just like any other business and as a student, im tired of getting fucked over by required classes needed for a simple degree. And from what ive been hearing lately is for most jobs(unless in a specific field) require an associates or bachelors, and they really dont give a shit what its in. Take Gen Ed at a community college before heading to any university, it will save you money in the long run.

[–]Blackkillerjoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with almost every advice but when it comes to investing your advice is horse shit, as a financial Analyst I can tell there are many financial instruments that pay no dividend but outmatched dividend paying stocks. Besides that h Your life recommendations are great

[–]jmjf7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not invest in something that gives you no dividends

Disagree on this point. Dividends should be a factor in the decision to invest in a specific company, but not a criteria to live by. There are lots of good stocks that don't include a dividend.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm. My group of friends make my life so much more enjoyable. Feel bad for dudes that can't develop real lasting friendships.

Going out is still tight if you do it for the right reasons. Yeah, looking for bar sluts every weekend gets old. Going to the standard douche bro bar every weekend gets old.

[–]LOLMUFFINLOL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about going to school for the trades like welding, mechanics, ect.

[–]zilti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If desperate for a bang, drop your standards

For that I'd need matches in the first place.

[–]2bb4llRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Few Lessons already known, some learned, thanks for sharing man.

[–]TheWolf149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really on point post, but I would argue that not all risks in business are beneficial.

[–]uebermacht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In case this gem of a post gets removed:
Thank me later.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Its easier to make money for yourself then ever A guy I know had no money, no prospects got a business loan and paid it off in 13 months selling fucking burgers for a stand and is looking to expand. Seriously, take the hit, totally worth it.

I've heard this line more time than I can count, but all the examples I find online seem like bullshit. What are some examples of good side hustle?

[–]EntitledShitHead 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Do you have any advice on confidence? I feel that mine fluctuates a lot and sometimes I can’t control it, especially around attractive girls.

[–]Prophets_Prey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solid advice. Thanks for sharing.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're going to college, STEM fields are still a good bet. They're getting a little saturated but most of them still offer employment available right out of school, if not soon after. There are a lot of trash degrees in the liberal arts and social sciences fields you should avoid, but most of those are occupied by women. A good rule of thumb is if there's a lot of women graduating with a particular degree, it's probably worthless and you should avoid it.

[–]mcavvacm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The college bit also changes on which country you live in. I laugh at the USA's crippling debt system.

[–]The3Percenterz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got outta the military. Started a weed business, that failed due to shit outta my control. I went back to college on Post 9-11 GI Bill, got a divorce, sold my place that was burdening me financially, I live 20 mins from campus and 100% debt/cc debt free, credit score 760, about 12,700 up in cash. Living behind my dad now b/c it is smart while I attend college and getting paid for that shit. Studying marketing and sales b/c I have a sales personality and i'm also doing radio b/c I love broadcasting. Dad recently got a nasty divorce so I feel it is a higher power that has me here for now to help him out. He was rough for awhile but is seeing the freedom at the end of the tunnel. I read, study guitar (taking my first lesson soon to improve) even though i've been decent at it for 10 years now. Divorced, no kids, run and workout. I'm 30. I also have a former boss trying to get me into a sweet GS11 gig in logistics as that's what I did before for 9 years. Anything I could be doing better here? I feel i'll use up the next 2.5 years of benefits, get the degree, a job, house, then freedom. Thoughts?

[–]246882257066 1 points1 points [recovered]

Nobody remembers how their nights went at the club on their death bed. This is true because in the grand scheme of things this is all BS.

But it doesn't mean it's not important. I feel like you're rationalizing this because your life didn't go so well... (my opinion based on what I read, I may be wrong. Not sure if reading you correctly).

[–]musicvita25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not once did I say my life didn't go so well.

I bought into the bullshit of going out every weekend, and so on.

I was obssesed I always thought I had to be out partying. When i wasn't I felt depressed. Now I love my nights in and relaxed lifestyle far more

[–]Kaiju0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems mostly pretty legit, although I've gotta say that I have a mix of male and female friends, and they each fill different roles as friends. I value my female friendships just as much as my male ones, but in different ways.

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