This short essay talks about the complaining that women do when they're past their prime and still haven't found a suitable partner with whom to settle down and start a family. The essay offers nothing new to Red Pill veterans, but new members will find value in understanding how women behave when they're approaching the Wall.
A woman by the name of Jessica recently started a blog called "Twenty Nine and Terrified" to chronicle her life in search for Mr. Right. One of her blog posts is titled "Where Have All The Good Men Gone?", where she whines about still being single now that she's hitting the Wall.
Of all the women who complain about not finding a Good Man, the "Leftovers" are my personal favorite, because it's the moment you get to see Carol the Carousel Rider lose her undeserved status and privilege in the Sexual Marketplace that she squandered for the last decade, and all in her own words.
The term "Leftovers" was first used by the Chinese to refer to career-women who were still single in their late-20s. For our purposes here as it relates to Western women, it's the point in Carol's life where she realizes that she's no longer getting the attention and privilege in the Dating Market to which she was accustomed in her youth, and is now complaining about being single and alone.
When carousel riders approach age 30, they go through what Rollo Tomassi calls the "Epiphany Phase", where she realizes that her youth is declining and she still has not found a suitable partner with whom to settle down and start a family. In The Life Story of Carol I call this phase "Chasing Chad's Commitment". It is during this time that many Carols attempt to clean up their act by putting away the party lifestyle and emulating "good girl" qualities. They then seek provider-qualities in men such as financial stability and being a family man. But when the jerks she dates won't commit, and there are no high-SMV men willing to date her, Carol whines about her predicament and officially achieves Leftovers status.
A dead giveaway that Carol has become Leftovers is that she will be around 30, and complain about how dating is "harder" for her than it used to be, reminiscing about her carousel days and all the attention from men she used to get, and feeling left out of marriage and family that her peers enjoy. All of this implies she had plenty of time and opportunity to land a suitable partner for long-term commitment, but the jerks, bad boys and carousel took precedence, and she's now regretting the missed opportunities. Leftovers status also applies to single moms who learn that the men who once desired her have lost interest now that she has kids.
Women who are Leftovers are also the main ones who ask "Where have all the good men gone?", and they post relationship questions like: "I'm ~30, where can I find decent men for a serious relationship?" She often uses the cover story of "school" and "career" as reasons for not finding a man yet, but doesn't mention the decent men she rejected or friendzoned to get banged by jerks on the carousel. So this is her first time needing to ask these questions because years back the decent men were in abundance. In her prime, Carol was getting marriage proposals from good providers. Now what little attention she gets comes from jerks who just want sex, or much older men to whom she's not attracted.
But Carol exacerbates her dilemma by still Chasing Chad, aka Mr. Tall, Handsome, Charming and Rich, or what she calls "quality men". She still won't settle for the few Good Men willing to date her because her hypergamous nature says "I can do better", and because she still expects to find the same high caliber of men who wanted her back in her prime. But alas, the most desirable men have rejected her for younger women.
Attractive women often wait until they're hitting the Wall before they seek high-value men for long-term commitment. When she realizes that finding such men is harder for her now than back in her prime, she blogs about her woes. While Jessica remains optimistic that her unicorn is right around the corner, a few people have already given her a reality check about her situation. But "feelz come before realz", so don't be surprised if she's still blogging a few years later complaining about not finding Mr. Right.
In a future essay, I will discuss how to have no-strings attached sex with Leftover women. Working title: "Earth Girls In Their 30s Are Easy."