Women respond to happiness - they won’t create it (self.TheRedPill)

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In twenty-seven years or so there was never any lasting period where I was attractive. I read The Game age around 20 so I knew the basics, started lifting and was naturally good looking anyway but never ever had even the sort of moderate success I felt I should have been having.

I understood frame, negs, push-pull and was socially likeable anyway but it just wasn’t working. But one thing changed all that. And no I didn’t become rich or famous.

I moved three hours away. That was it.

This city was slightly bigger, prettier and less violent than my hometown. But that wasn’t the point.

I felt energised, liberated and free. I liked that virtually no one knew me. I gave people a break. I didn’t look at those from certain areas with suspicion. I didn’t know the city’s criminal element by face and name. I didn’t have a group of friends (crabs on the barrel) whose leisure time always ended up in drug-fuelled madness. And I hadn’t experienced rejection en masse by the girls in this city.

In short, I was happy. Although momentarily unhappy for not doing it sooner.

People and places became a pleasure. And part of that was women. My happiness was making my physically and mentally vital to the point of effortlessness in my social interactions.

If you’re hometown is dragging you down, holds many unpleasant memories and is essentially a place that reminds you of the old you. Then leave. Yesterday. Nothing will improve yourself quicker.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 70 points71 points  (18 children)


Happiness is a ephemeral beast that too many men chase like the Dragon. Women actually don't. They need to experience all emotions to be well rounded. This is why it appears to you that women respond to happiness--they park at it from time to time when you provide doses of it, but that never stops all their other AWALT behaviors that to most men seem fucking nuts.

Learn to enjoy moments of happiness when they happen. Most of the time you won't be happy--you'll be on your mission. Focused. Stoic. Serene. Rested. Strong. These should be your ground state.

If you find yourself taking on a bunch of debt to by a boat because "it would make you happy," then you are fucked.

[–]SPREAD_THE_LOVE_7791 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Are they all really fucking nuts? Are there some that are just emotional but not crazy? I'm yet to experience one. But I'm reading The Way of the Superior Man and his attitude is a bit off-putting. He says the more feminine a woman is the more likely she lies, goes from saying "I love you" to "I hate you" in a moment's notice, and can't make decisions on her own. But the part that bothers me is he said we need to accept it, and furthermore it's a GOOD THING that they act this way, and to learn to love it. As if it's totally excusable and just part of their nature. While it being a part of their nature may be true, are we to excuse their behavior and learn to fucking love it? Deida is confusing me.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are they all really fucking nuts?

All women are at least a 4 crazy.

When compared to the behavior of males, they all seem crazy. When you swallow the pill and see things for how they really are, you realize they aren't nuts; their behavior is very rational when consider their goals and needs. Well, yes, a few of them are actually nuts. Don't stick your dick in there.

[–]macaroon18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is to not get stuck with their words, their words lie but their feelings cannot so feminine communcation is everything in the layer beneath the words or spoken indirectly

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (14 children)

Agreed but are you saying women are not attracted to happiness?

[–]chauncy_popperstein 27 points28 points  (1 child)

He is saying that women want to be excited. They need all the emotions to feel content. Its like sitting at the top of a rollercoaster track. It isn't fun because you are just sitting at the high point. They want the full ride, the ups and downs. Highs and lows.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 17 points18 points  (6 children)

I've seen them actively repulsed by it at times. They will form open disdain for Happiness-Cows with never empty teets.

You think the architect was talking about men when he told Neo why the first matrix failed? Fuck no. Hell, we'd plug ourselves back in to get high fidelity virtual pussy and steak. And this is where a silly movie (which screenwriters that should be shot for what they did to the ideas) predicts the future of the sexual marketplace. Billions of men will line up to get plugged into a machine so they can get the experience of easy sex from hot babes. They will let their AI pleasure overlords take take of everything for them. And then the human race will cease to exist as we know it.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Billions of men will line up to get plugged into a machine so they can get the experience of easy sex from hot babes.

What machine do niggas get plugged into to get easy sex from hot babes?

The hooker-chine? The sex-bot-chine?

C'mooooooooon bro

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 9 points10 points  (3 children)

The existence of such a machine is irrelevant. The import part is that most men would willingly enter it.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I think the context is relevant, because I see TRP as a machine itself, a bunch of billy betas on a conveyor belt moving down the line getting out fitted with armor and weapons until they are plopped at as Adonis Alphas

And this machine certainly opens the door to sex from hot babes.

Then again, they are working on developing 3-D virtual reality HD porn... only a matter of time before they connect those machines to flesh lights.

Maybe I have to much hope for humanity.

[–]TheNextMilo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah u know they’re working on a suit for VR so that when something touches you the suit presses down there.

[–]gELSK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

// , To the limited extent that our tech has produced its elements, they have already entered it.

[–]buddhadarko 1 points1 points [recovered]

Women are attracted to happiness. That in and of itself is the answer. They are attracted to it because it's coming from someone/somewhere else - not them. Women are drawn in, and men are the magnets that pull them in with value/excitement/status, etc.

It's like being invited to a party and you walk in and there's 5 people there, all of them are bored and quiet. There's no excitement or value. Now, there's another party and you walk up hearing the beat thumping, girls dancing, drinks flowing, lights flashing, etc. You are going to go right in without question and want to be a part of it because the excitement and value already exist.

[–]p3n1x 10 points11 points  (1 child)

"Excitement" should not be mixed up with happiness. They feed like sharks on "Excitement"

That doesn't matter if it is a screaming argument, scared shitless moment or pleasure.

[–]buddhadarko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very good point. Can't forget about the nonsense drama that women create in order to have that constant buzz of external stimulation streaming to them.

[–]numiru 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I don't think they're attracted to the happiness itself - rather, the success and self-love that causes you to be happy.

Being on meth and being happy from that isn't attractive.

Starting a business that leaves a positive impact and leaves you fulfilled and content is attractive.

[–]buddhadarko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, yes, you're correct. The context of the happiness also plays a part. I thought that was a given. Surely, no one on here is encouraging people to take meth to have an air of happiness to attract women, lol.

[–]Psycho-semantic 348 points349 points  (11 children)

How the fuck does this match ur title?

[–]TheWhiskeyTickler 60 points61 points  (2 children)

I think what he means is be happy for yourself and the women will follow. There's a lot of guys on here leading unhappy lives thinking if they just could get women then they would become happy. I agree though, the wording is odd. It should be, "women respond to YOUR happiness, they won't create it FOR YOU"

Edit: Due to nuances in English, you could interpret the title to mean that "women look to a man to create happiness for them or will respond to his happiness, since they are generally unwilling to create it for themselves." Which can also be true, however, as an idea this is unrelated to the body of text that follows, which is why everyone is confused.

[–]coolie4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought OP meant the latter. Clicked it because it seemed like some wisdom. Turns out that's not at all what he was saying.

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

His title is true. Shit, most people tend to adopt behaviors that don't make them happy. Women more so than men, and doubly true of women in relationships that make their happiness the man's responsibility

[–]SittingDistance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His title is part of the text and should be read as such. The title worked as a good start off to indicate worthwhile material, the premise and body was well founded, reading the title after the body the ideas come full circle to drive the point home. That’s how it matches.

[–]Kampizi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha i came in here to see stories about how borring women are and they don't have hobbies, so they focus on drama or changing men; or dating many men.

i'd read a post about that

[–]yomo86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is implied. Just think about it for a brief moment.

It is true. And until now, I was never really sure how to articulate it. Women are a symbiont to man's pleasures and happiness is the sum of that. In exchange we get access to their pussy. So whenever a man is happy he must be desirable to some degree. Even more so if she can check off those nasty AB/BB facts such as lifestyle, looks, provisioning and demand by others.

[–]Niphilim83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had to read it again.. I would have said something like. "Women responds to YOUR happiness, but they dont create it..."

[–]Ichewfivegum 54 points55 points  (15 children)

Can relate 100% my friends back home have probably broken damn near every law imaginable and been in and out of jail multiple times. My fiends down here just workout and drink like normal humans.

[–]slipperysalamander29 18 points19 points  (14 children)

Found the New Yorker who moved to Florida.

I can relate.

(Am i right?

[–]WaffleBoi014 1 points1 points [recovered]

Unless you are in Miami lmao

Everytime I meet someone they is not from Miami they always say they miss home. I don't blame them to be honest, the superficial nature of this city is unbelievable.

[–]unixhamster 5 points6 points  (2 children)

It is really unbearable. If you don't drive a nice car here forget it kill yourself or move.

[–]WaffleBoi014 1 points1 points [recovered]

The red pill isn't too hard to swallow when you live in Miami lol Girls down here would fuck you if you have booze and weed honestly

[–]jalapenopopperz4lyfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But every place is superficial to at least some degree

[–]mananlak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahaha my life story happens to be the exact same. Miss NY.

[–]Ichewfivegum 5 points6 points  (7 children)

I would prefer not to say what city I'm from and where I'm at now. On a side note, never been to Florida but I've heard it's the most fucked up state.

[–]Hillarysdilddo_2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go find Floridaman on Twitter. Lol

[–]vwzwv 2 points3 points  (2 children)

In Florida new agencies are allowed to go through police reports so the newspapers there are filled with extra fucked up stories. It might be an otherwise 'normal' state.

[–]Ichewfivegum 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Idk Florida music is fucked too. You guys created lil pump, xxxtentacion, Kodak black and stitches.

[–]mananlak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hah actually met Stitches in person, know his lawyer personally.

[–]slipperysalamander29 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Lol stay on the coasts of Florida and you’ll be fine. I don’t go inland. Shit gets weird.

[–]okiedokie321 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Why? Is it like rural hicktown Texas?

[–]slipperysalamander29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have not been to Texas but I would say most likely that’s the case, towns get smaller and just the redneckness grows the farther you get from the shore. West Palm Beach down to the keys is where it’s at.

[–]SonOfSparda304 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep, moving to a different state in two months finally getting out of retail and my hometown and starting my career in software development!

I'll be living in a major-ish city within driving distance of multiple places with a lot to do. Where I live now is basically a bubble of traffic and mistakes I made growing up, and enough people who still remember. Not to mention a lot of nasty rumors got spread about me when I went off to college but then people see me and act shocked that I got my life together.

I usually keep cool about it but it can be very frustrating when you find out that everybody's idea of you was a skinny awkward loser and they can't handle the dissonance of seeing the 50lbs of muscle I put on and short, clean buzzed hair.

[–]twofacedsonofajackal 7 points8 points  (1 child)

"If you're not living good, travel wide."

Moved from a hick town to the city in high school and discovered foreign girls. Got 0 attention from girls before.

If you were charismatic enough you could make it work anywhere but sometimes it's where you live.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agree and disagree.

I was so down on my hometown I didn’t want to be charismatic. Girls there reminded me of my teen rejectors and boys bored me.

[–]TheseNthose 17 points18 points  (10 children)

Not just your hometown. I used to work at a dead end, toxic, feminist gulag job a few years ago until I walked the fuck out like a badass. I felt my confidence rush over me instantaneously and it showed everywhere i went. I even felt more confident in being unemployed because i never sat still and never did one thing all day long for 8 hours. Admittingly it's easier to say fuck off and stand by your personal standards if you have money saved up.

But in the end change and taking risks is always healthy. It can offer new perspectives and ignite apart of you that you never felt existed or was possible. The sleeper must awaken. ha


[–]BLXII 1 points1 points [recovered]

Admittingly it's easier to say fuck off and stand by your personal standards if you have money saved up.

Was waiting for this part. You NEED fuck you money. If you don't have a good amount of fuck you money, walking out of a job with no plan is a huge NO NO. And it will not make you feel better.

[–]TheseNthose 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Yep but having fuck you money is part of the plan. Fuck you money isn't millions of dollars. It scales based on expenses, goals, etc. I had planned a head of time I didn't want to be there. Go back to school or even take a lower paying job to get out, so I managed my expenses and saved. Over years I engineered my life to by flexible. Don't take out loans or pay them off quickly, otherwise you're an indentured servant not free to make your own choices. Everything you do will be based off of circumstances rather than choice.

I should have walked out months before I did. It took the death of my father and getting hit by a car on my way to the shitty job that really made me pull the trigger. Rather take a chance then live a complacent life and going to the same place everyday only because I got myself addicted to the routine and afraid to create a new routine for myself.

There's the real point of my post right there. Take chances, take risks. People who don't don't actually have confidence in themselves. From the comedian Joey Diaz. "everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die."

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was waiting for this part. You NEED fuck you money. If you don't have a good amount of fuck you money, walking out of a job with no plan is a huge NO NO. And it will not make you feel better.

What? Quitting a shitty job absolutely makes you feel better. And jobs are everywhere. If you don't think you can do those jobs or think you're too good for those jobs then that's your problem.

[–]TheDevilsAdvokaat 1 point2 points  (5 children)

"feminist gulag job" .... wasn't in a library, was it?

[–]TheseNthose 9 points10 points  (4 children)

lol nah it was at a bank in an office typical office shit where the whole department was run by mostly staffed of entitled women. The only other men there besides me were cuckold wimps who placated to the fat cunts and even used feminist tactics of shaming whoever didnt play along.

Oh and the bank itself was turning into a SJW cult were the wanted you to huddle up every morning with your teams and talk about how you're feeling for the day. The CEO even wrote a detailed letter about how the company is supporting Trans bathrooms in North Carolina when that whole thing was going on.

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rob them, then burn it to the ground with these people still in it.

[–]hudsonclay 0 points1 point  (1 child)

What’s wrong with the last bit?? There’s a difference between OTT pandering and helping people live life like any other

[–]Work_In_Progress92 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can relate to this too honestly. When I went away to school, it felt liberating and I was able to just open up way more socially than I ever did during my years at home. Made tons of lifelong friends.

Unfortunately due to several circumstances I had to move back home, and it brought me back down but that's been changing since taking TRP.

That being said, I am not entirely sure what your title has to do with the actual content of your post.

[–]bragbragz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so true, i can relate in so many ways. Although i have more and better friends in my hometown i appreciate working and studying in another city, while still having vacations in my homecity and partying and meeting new people there, i can work and prospher even more when fluctuating between two cities.

I’m probably one of the most ambicious of my friends, but fortunatley my friebds are realizing weed, coke and booze isn’t all to life. When moving to a city you can surround yourself with people that give good energy And have ambitions. Anyway i have realized loads about myself, and the past couple of years i have really embraced selfimprovement. A must for everyone wishing to swallop TRP.

[–]dudeson12345 3 points4 points  (1 child)

How do you go about meeting new people as an adult?

[–]dainethemain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get yourself some social hobbies. Sports, artistic, literary - something that you enjoy doing and get involved.

[–]AwesomeCool909 17 points18 points  (5 children)

Woman do not create, they take.

In response they provide sex, babies, and respect (shit tests and disrespect happen due to the high amount of options a girl has). They only do this for the strongest man currently available to them.

[–]worktillyouburk 4 points5 points  (1 child)

i thaught about doing this for a long time. moving even further than just a town away though.

how did you just pick up and leave? did you line up a job first or just leave and figure it out as you got there?

[–]silverhog1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ll be doing this when I finish university.

I’d be applying for jobs in the area you want, or contacting companies and asking if they’ll have any positions available for XYZ - let them know you’ll be relocating to the area in ABC time so they know you’re serious.

Another option is if you currently work for a company big enough, they might be able to transfer you over to that location. Then you move.

Either way, you just gotta do it, but by sourcing employment first you can make the transition easier with less risk than quitting and moving with blind faith you’ll ‘hopefully’ find some work.

[–]Andgelyo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

SMV is contextual. A huge reason why I enjoyed living in western Massachusetts was that I received a greater deal of attention from women as opposed to my home town of Metropolitan New Jersey and New York. I dressed preppy city boy, acted alpha, and was all around charismatic and likeable. People and women flocked to me in grad school. I also felt much safer and didn’t have to watch my back like I do living in the city. Back here, I am a dime a dozen because there’s plenty of ethnics, trying to dress cool, and act hard everywhere you go. Location matters a fucking lot. I would rather be the big alpha fish in a small pond then be another fish in the ocean. Not to mention city women are brutal compared to their kinder, more nurturing suburban and rural counter parts.

[–]myaccountforIRLstuff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A woman's happiness is a moment-to-moment thing.

[–]Musicgoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here here! Well said OP! There's nothing more invigorating than a fresh start and fresh scenery. You get to reinvent yourself and change your frame. And it sounds like you got away from a toxic element of people. Bumps to this post!

[–]GunnarX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll be doing this once I finish school this spring/summer. I am worried that maybe it’s something else, because I don’t want to use my hometown mentality as an excuse. Maybe that’s all it is. Looking forward to what is to come.

[–]magnusjuhl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This fucking shit right here.

What turned my life upside down four years ago was getting the fuck out of my hometown for a year. A fresh start and an opportunity to be whoever the fuck you want. It worked.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And wtf does your title have to do with the actual post?

[–]Monsanto_Salesman 1 points1 points [recovered]

Maybe women will like you more if you learn the difference between your and you're. Literacy is attractive. Apparently you're not.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Or the earlier comment about 'sudo'-intellectuals. LOL. That's someone that shouldn't be pointing fingers at others and their posts

[–]Arabian_Wolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, that’s my plan op, trying my luck with jobs there but sadly most positions I want is in my own city so gotta make sacrifices to move, perhaps not now, maybe after a few years, gonna move out and marry and settle down away from this wretched place.

[–]PrincePound -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is junk science that has nothing to do with women. Yes, move if you're not happy where you are. Sure.