tl;dr: Male therapists get right to the point in providing solutions to your issues, think logically about your problems, and don't get swept up in conversations, rather than actual therapy, as female therapists tend to do.
I have always been one to suffer with intense social anxiety. Constant fear of people judging me in public, leading me to try and talk a certain way, stand a certain way, act a certain way, etc. The panic I've felt in social situations can be so intense that it literally feels as if my skin is on fire by the time I get out of public. After trying all of the medicines in the world over the years, and various therapists, I completely gave up on psychiatry and modern medicine in all of its forms.
After discovering redpill philosophy, and embracing things that are beneficial to me from it, I eventually realized that my problems with social anxiety were still not going away, and decided to have one last go at seeing a specialist about it. I rolled a die, made an appointment with no one in particular in mind, and showed up.
I'm greeted by a doc, a man named Steve. At first I thought nothing of it, and the typical "I wonder how bluepill this guy is, etc. etc." thoughts of judgment went through my head. But I remembered to put such thinking aside, and just roll with it.
Last time I'd given therapy a try, I saw someone who specializes in a technique known as EMDR. I was optimistic in trying it, and began attending appointments, and the specialist was a woman. Yet, as the third month of treatment rolled in, I still feel that there wasn't any real structure to the therapy, just as I felt with other female therapists I'd seen in the past. You see, women, as we all know, become engaged in conversation quite easily. Every time I've had a female therapist, this is what would always happen - I would share stories of my past, and then she would share stories of hers, as well. It never, ever felt as if any actual work was being done to conquer my issues, and nothing but lots of talking would be done.
It was as if I was being as much of a therapist to her as she was to me.
With Steve, all of that was different. I take a seat in his office, and he flat out got right to the chase, immediately, peppering me with various questions. He wasn't much interested in creating an emotional connection with me, but rather zeroed right in to the issues at hand, getting as many details as he could about the problems I was facing. As I answered his inquiries, I could physically see his gears of logic turning, as he was formulating possible solutions to my problems, rather than getting wrapped up in emotions about stories of my past, and relating my emotions to things that have happened to him.
So far, even though I have only attended two measly appointments with the guy, I feel that the advice he's given me and the work we've done has gotten me further than all of the time I've spent with female therapists. I know that, upon visit #3, he will have a plan of action in his mind, and will want to roll up the sleeves and get right to work, picking up from where we left off last time. With my last (female) therapist, there were times I would show up and she would literally ask, "So, what's on the agenda today? What would you like to work on?" I'm sitting there thinking, "I'm not sure...I thought I would explain my issues and that you would create a treatment plan." No. She was interested in having reciprocal conversations with me, as were other female therapists, rather than viewing my issues from a place of logic and using techniques that would begin to re-wire my brain and the ways it reacts to social situations. She once even got caught up in a fifteen minute long tale of how stressful things have been in trying to get last-minute details accomplished before her new (and first) book is about to come out. And I literally paid to sit there and hear that crap, along with her occasionally reading excerpts of her new book, and waiting to see my emotional reactions to them for validation.
She wanted to share tales, have laughs, and feel emotions.
Steve doesn't give a shit about any of that. He doesn't even care too much about why my issues have occurred, as he himself stated. His main concern is how we can fix them.
For those in need of one, do yourself a favor, and find a therapist with a male brain.
There's no shame in psychotherapy if you need it
Male therapists apply logic to your life and your issues, and develop plans of attack
Female therapists are generally more interested in conversation than actual therapy, and can't wait to share as much about their life with you as you share with them