This post is directed at AskTRP, but since the posts there needed to be asking for advice, I am putting it here. Too many times on AskTRP(and even here on the main sub) I see users asking for advice about a woman, and then I open the post and its a fucking War & Peace length novel detailing every fucking thing about the OP's relationship with said woman.
Hey AskTRP, I need help with this girl. I totally don't have oneitis, but just hear me out and give me advice.
Proceed to see a giant wall of text that would give me carpal tunnel syndrome to scroll all the way too the bottom of.
No oneitis, you say?
At that point I don't even have to read all of that shit to know what the deal is. I don't even have to read the first sentence. When I see a wall of text that fucking long about one single girl you know the issue is a crippling case of oneitis.
It's simple. When you have oneitis, you are not in control. It's like a parasite controlling the host. You are controlled by her. No man in control of himself would write a fucking novel length post on a TRP sub about needing advice on what to do with this one girl.
Under oneitis, everything you do, every decision you make, revolves around her and puts her as the top consideration. I remember my last oneitis before I found TRP nearly 4 years ago. Probably the best example of how she was in control was how I knew if I wanted to start my career in my field, I would have to move to another state. However I refused to do so for several months solely because of her. I didn't want to leave the area because I didn't want to move away from her. The sad part is that she had friend zoned me months earlier and I was still orbitting her hoping that one day she would finally see the light. I was letting one girl control my career path and major life decisions. When I finally snapped out of the oneitis I did what was necessary, took a position in another state and finally got on with my career.
Ask yourself: How much is a woman in your life controlling and influencing you? Be honest with yourself. The moment you feel like a woman is giving too much influence in your head, is the moment you need to walk away. As a man you will never be successful unless you are in total control of yourself and no one else controls you.