It's a lock that many of you heard all kinds of shaming yesterday.
When will you settle down?
When will you have kids?
Get a safe job so you can support a family.
The list goes on and on and I'll add a new gem that I heard from my uncle who is alone, depressed and had been cheated on and used like a wallet by women all his life. I love the old man and in person treat him with kid gloves because there is no woke RP moments in his future. It would kill the old man to see how his efforts were unappreciated by women snd in fact worked against him.
He spoke of his daughters and other female cousins who were so lucky to have men who adored them. Then he dropped a ShamingNuke that he didnt think I was lucky enough to feel the same as these guys.
Translation....you don't play happy life, happy wife therefore your marriage isnt good and thus you cant be happy.
As I said, I'm not keen to treat the mortally wounded. It would do more harm than good and I love the old softie.
I did tell him the following which likely went over his head but maybe one of you will hear me.
"I love me the best. And so does my wife (loves me). It's her who runs in circles trying to please me. Those guys may have it backwards eh?"
I said it with a grin and the plausible deniability of a man who is kidding but its no joke.
Women are mercenary and view their marriages exactly through the lens I described.
Flip the script and do the same to them.
If relationships were chess, she should be in check the whole game. Never on the attack and never at a point where she is overwhelmed and gives up.