All too often lately, I'm seeing a lot of this pop up on here, and frankly, this discussion should have been sorted out a long time ago.
(Starts with) I am (pick several)
- Low attractiveness ethnicity
- Have an ugly face
- Some debilitating physical ailment
- etc (some variation of "permanent impact to SMV")
First thing out of the way
If you think you are this person, you probably are not.
Getting in shape, dressing well and picking up a sales job so you can learn how to talk to people will get you laid, most of the time.
You will not be spinning plates. Fine. So be it.
There's plenty of guys who have a couple deficits with themselves and do OKAY or the few, chosen few, who despite, slay. You've decided, through rigorous analysis, that you will never.
FINE. This one post is for you.
Listen Chad, I understand that, point is, I don't want to be a provider and be taken advantage of
Cool, great, fine... we'll get to that in a minute.
To be clear, this post will exist for 3 reasons.
1) Your concerns are valid (some people will never be able to "spin plates" or not be a provider)
2) I am annoyed at the "Jim Jonesing" orwellian doublespeak about "enjoying the decline."
3) There is a solution
I will make this post under only a couple presumptions.
- You are not, the ugliest man ever to have existed.
- If you have some serious deformity, you need something, somewhere. Height, status, dark traits (being a criminal scumbag etc)
If legitimately, you can not change, any part of you, at all, and you're still horrendous, fine you win. You are the 1%. You are, again, not likely this.
And even if you were, information is not perfectly transparent. One woman's 3 is another woman's 5. It is unlikely, you are restricted to women who see you as 0 or 1.
Being in shape, and strong, puts you SO FAR ahead of the game, it's not even fair
It is, basically, unfair to be in shape. The VERY WORST that you're doing is living a longer life to formulate your best shootout strategy when you finally exact revenge on your old friend for stealing the girl you never even told anyone you were into, who would have probably tried to nicely tell you she wasn't attracted to you.
But fuck him and her right? Comeon man, I'm going to extend you this advice without talking too much shit, just at least take the stuff that should be easy to digest. You can't lose with this. You're going to be so far ahead of the game.
NO, you won't bang 8s. Sorry, most of us have A LOT of trouble doing that, most of us PAY for that right. And you know what, filling a 5 or 6 up with a bunch of cum is a good time, seriously, most of us subconsciously only achieve because of this. It is theorized that it is the underpinnings of competition within the socioeconomic system, and without that drive... well you'd probably just... oh my GOD... play video games, eat cheetos and drink mountain dew?
Okay, put down the controller, spend some time at the gym and now you're so far ahead we don't know what to do with you.
Damnit normie... you're still not...
That's not what I'm addressing. What I am addressing is the valid concern that you don't want to work your ass off just to become a high beta and get divorce raped.
Well, how fuckin' sad is this when I realized the reason why these guys are locked away in their rooms miserable is because they're still honor and duty bound.
So let me help you unwind this.
Women don't owe you honesty, and you don't owe it to them.
AND TO BE CLEAR
Women, in my opinion, most of them, aren't setting out to fuck up your shit intentionally. In the moment, they felt like they would be comfortable with you and spend forever with you. They probably think to themselves that "this guy is not attractive, at all, but he's funny, cares about me and he says he wants to be a programmer. He's not terrible in bed..."
She'll lose attraction to you, straight up. You're weak genetic stock, and that's okay, let's work with that.
Meet Casey Neistat
He's extremely unattractive, in shape, runs beta game and has an attractive (pick your own HB at or above HB5) woman who has chosen him to father a child with her.
Look at this guy, honestly. How much room do you have to claim you can't get laid, none. Take away his status or money and he's still having sex with women that will get your dick hard. And if not, put down the porn you god damn junkie.
Lot's of women that are fairly mediocre will turn you on, turns out your body is fairly apt to get your dick hard and cum inside a woman because it's only the most important thing for your body to accomplish outside of homeostasis.
Now... you might be saying "no shit, sherlock, but I'm not going to be a provider, you can't make me." FINE FINE FINE, let's deal with it... FINEally
Well you know what....
No one can make you be a provider, except yourself
Newsflash. Plenty of men, who deep down in their guts, knew, in their heart of hearts that the women they were with were "the wrong choice" only let it happen to them because they weren't half committed as you to the idea that women do not care about you.
They somehow convinced themselves the stripper with 4 kids actually liked that thing they did with your tongue. Which by the way, stop that, she hates that. That bamboozled themselves that "church girl" hasn't had a train run on her before. That believes, NAWALT.
Well guess what snowflake, you already think every woman on earth would only use your penis as a mechanism to extract resources out of you. So you're WAY ahead. You have AWALT built into your very existence because you don't have pussy goggles on.
You have built in cock blocking that while terrible, has a great side effect. You will never be blinded by the naive optimism of the average man.
Honestly, good for you. Lot's of guys would be IN BETTER PLACES if this was their life. If they could erase that 5 year divorce wreckage on their life they'd be in better spots, that you never got to. Look for some silver linings in your wastebasket diagnosis.
Yeah, so what, I don't want starfish sex
To be frank with you, I don't actually believe when Casey's wife started letting him take a trip to tuna town that she laid there motionless in terror of this man pumping away at her.
She probably enjoyed it and was turned on with the fact that she was with a guy that had some status, some money etc. She liked that he offered her access to this world.
And I'm sure for a while, she fucked him proper and well.
That's what a lot of you guys aren't willing to digest between the ridiculous dichotomy between DIEING IN LONELY AGONY and HAREM FULL OF SUPER MODELS SPINNING PLATES.
Easily 80% of men are serial monogomous, and easily 80% of men settle into marriages that become lackluster in the sex department.
Almost zero marriages continue to have "pornstar sex" into their older days. It's just the nature of attraction in a mutually exclusive arrangement. Now there are plenty of ways to get around that, but that's way above your level.
You're just trying to get laid, you're scared you're going to get dogshit sex and get taken advantage of.
Well guess what, we all had a bunch of dogshit sex too. That's what it's like being normal. And guess what, we all worry about and deal with that too.
But you know what?
No one is forcing you to propose to this woman, or even continue to see her.
Level two prep work
You're in shape, you dress not terrible, you've taken a sales job so you can talk to women without terrifying them.
It's highly unlikely you're not at least at the 50% mark for men, grats. Faggot. (This is a term of endearment among men, just like 4chan)
Now start researching TYPICAL dating websites like Hooking Up Smart
These are blue pill dating websites. They will tell you everything you need to know to attract women that are hunting for providers.
- It is important they do not think you are just looking for sex
- They are looking for well adjusted people who don't have extreme views or other peculiarities
- Income is not as important as you think, sales jobs are healthy for you and pay you
It is important that you do NOT give off any tells that you are "red pill aware." This means not talking about women poorly, you DO NOT need to lick their boots or be a male feminist. In fact, don't become one.
It is most important that
1) She can use you for comfort, you get sex from this
2) She can control you, this is because you have low SMV and are "blue pill"
If you try AF game, you are first, not attractive enough, and second, not offering comfort. Lastly, she can't control you. Large part of this arrangement, is she can predict how you behave and that you're not going to fuck her over, dump her out of her fertility window etc.
So then, as we know with Briffault's law, you are useless. Therefor no association takes place.
I don't even need to tell you to wrap it up, because of that built in AWALT you have, remember?
This is "beta game." Any site like Hooking Up Smart will be PACKED with this advice. Which amounts to BE A NICE RED PILL GUY THAT RESPECTS WOMEN AND WANTS TRUE LOVE.
This should not be difficult, because you are probably very needy. Just hide your dark inner sadness long enough to get it in. You're talking 3 dates, THREE. HOLD YOUR INNER DEMONS FOR THREE HOURS. THREE.
Explained to you in plainspeak, because you are unable to understand the simple things in life
Here is the simple manual for how to navigate your life of attractive, normies, to which you will, on occasion get to have sex with.
1) The initial sex, will almost always be good after you learn how to not be so goddamn terrible in bed. This may take you longer than usual. Hire a couple hookers to show you the ropes so you don't fuck up your chance when you land a normie.
2) She will press for your commitment, this is a trap. At this point, you have no choice, since you have low SMV. You tell her that you are falling for her. And you probably are.
3) Pull up horror stories and remind yourself as you pairbond that you're about to be used and discarded.
4) Continue having sex with this woman until she either demands that you marry her and then tell her that "love works in mysterious ways" or something non-falsifiable, and then dump her.
This is called "pumping and dumping."
As you become more and more skilled at this, you will slowly, slowly, become "a normie." And you can use your knowledge here to get there.
It's worth it, trust us. Even being a mediocre guy that gets mediocre pussy is miles beyond the guy who says he's "consumed with his hobbies."
The sad part here is lots of guys feel like "they need to be honest." Bullshit. You don't owe anyone, anything. Everyone is out there fucking each other over.
If she wants a guy to provide for her and she can't get it out of you, she'll leave for a guy that can. Maybe she fucks another guy on the side, maybe she doesn't.
Who cares, only the chosen few have women that really, really, yearn for them and love them in a way that you understand love.
You literally stop being a fat slob, have realistic expectations, and just don't open your stupid ass mouth and enjoy a woman trying to fuck you well enough that you throw caution into the wind. Which you're already built to be defended against.
So what the fuck is your problem now? Are you really going to convince yourself you'd rather play video games than get pussy, live longer and have a life which is worth living?
This is the basic manual for how you can get laid, and if you can't do this, then you really do deserve the scorn and misery that other users have given you and told you to go kill yourself.
I basically have never met a guy this wouldn't work with, never. If you don't think it would work for you, and you don't have horrible deformities or medical issues making you bed ridden, post.
If you are bedridden and deformed, none of us are talking shit about you. We're talking about the people you despise, that we do too.
Your concerns are valid, you have a solution. Now fucking move on.