There is an overtone here that’s really bothering the shit out of me. Women are starting to act really appalled when men are persistent in their advances. Can you blame them? Persistence pays off. Every positive thinking paradigm lauds the characteristic of being persistent and never giving up above all others. Throughout history, both ancient and modern, this is a lesson that is driven into men’s heads at every turn. And it’s a very good thing. Think about it. In business, in work, in school, in life, you have to be persistent and willing to fail any number of times until you start succeeding.
No one is going to hire you just for the asking to a decent job, you’ve gotta prove that you’re worth hiring that is going to require significant achievements, which require some (you guessed it) persistence. If you build your own business, you’ve had to struggle to succeed through endless red tape, and getting rejected time after time for funding, if you didn’t fail, it’s not because you had a better idea or a better system, it’s because you were stubborn and stuck to your guns when everything looked really bleak. You won’t graduate college unless you’re persistent enough to come back semester after semester to put yourself through increasingly more challenging workloads and rise to the challenge doing it.
Almost all of the central lessons about success in whatever endeavor you name reinforce the concept that you don’t take no for an answer, you don’t accept failure, you don’t quit ever. Think about all the quotes that come to mind. “It isn’t failure, it’s fail-u-respond.” Or “the difference between a master and a novice is that the master has failed more times than the novice has ever tried” I could go on. But I don’t think I need to.
Think this doesn’t apply to dating? There is nowhere it applies more truly than in dating. Think about how many stories you’ve heard about the persistent guy who lands the great girl. Think about it, if you’re female do you really want to be shackled to a guy who just meekly accepts a no? What the hell is he going to do when he wants to be more than a Walmart cashier, just meekly accept it every time a decent job turns him away because they know he isn’t persistent enough to be successful in their business environment? Do you really want to be shackled to that 30 year old parents-basement-dwelling asshat?
You all know you don’t want to date that guy. You want someone who isn’t a sniveling little bitch and has the willpower and drive to make something of himself... oh right, that would be the PERSISTENT ONE!! You can’t expect tons of grit in every other area of his life but then be totally subservient/submissive when it comes to dating and take a piece of body language as a no. Hell for that guy, even a spoken no is just an invitation to try again later. BECAUSE HE’S BEEN TAUGHT HIS ENTIRE LIFE WITH EVERY LESSON THAT PERSISTENCE PAYS OFF NOTHING GREAT GETS ACHIEVED WITHOUT STRUGGLE AND GRIT. The mental gymnastics and cognitive dissonance from the third wave feminists is staggering in its stupidity.
Omg he’s so successful, and he stays fit, Omg he won’t give up! I’m starting to feel uncomfortable BECAUSE HE IS USING THE VERY QUALITY THAT MADE HIM FIT AND SUCCESSFUL in dating as in everywhere else. Who’d a thunk? Seriously, this is not a surprise by any stretch of the imagination