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Field ReportTook The Pill a Week Ago. Lost My Virgnity Last Night. (self.TheRedPill)

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[–]ADeadDawg 257 points258 points  (11 children)

it gets even better the older you get, especially when you don't have to lie to get laid... you'll actually be the man, instead of portraying one.. as long as you put in the work of course.

[–]TheRealJesusChristus 68 points69 points  (6 children)

Pretend it until you have it. Thats the directive you should use.

[–]FauxBostonianBrahmin 28 points29 points  (3 children)

Mixed on that.

Faking it until you make it is often shared as good advice. I took that for a while too.

But at some point you’ll need to learn/make-up/bridge the gap otherwise you’ll get exposed. Depending on what you have faked the consequences could be catastrophic.

It’s good to know when to stop and pull back. Most people, however, do not. You get lucky (which I did) or it comes crashing down (which happened to me as well)...that’s why I love the “Building Power” tags. That should be the advice that is shared more commonly.

Build your power. One small step at a time. Every day.

[–]TheBattleshipYamato 8 points9 points  (2 children)

I think it should be changed to "fake it while you make it"

[–]GeneralDogsbody 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just don't forget to actually put the work in to 'make it', you can only pretend for so long.

Edit — yeah, what u/FauxBostonianBrahmin said

[–]sina3001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Fake it till you make it"

Applies to all aspects of life, even as an adult.

Edit: typo

[–]onlysmokebackwoods 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Fake it till you make it"

[–]OMGtothemoon 155 points156 points  (69 children)

Oh to be young and redpilled... didn't swallow till I was 31 but I least I found it lol

[–]seducter 33 points34 points  (51 children)

Ugh no kidding. The chicks our age are all washed up, bitchy shells of their former selves, and the young ones seem to suddenly prefer guys their age (go figure, when I was 20, the chicks all wanted 30 year olds).

Ah well, at least we found it lol

[–]2chazthundergut 26 points27 points  (5 children)

You've still got some learning and improving to do.

I recently turned 30, and my latest chick is 20 years old. Twenty.

And to think that just a couple years ago I had to pay a hooker just to lose my virginity.

Life is a strange and beautiful journey.

Thanks TRP. Thanks Rollo.

[–]seducter 4 points5 points  (4 children)

I envy ya bud, my first lay was at 28, I was drunk and don't remember much of it. And then second is yet to come, but I feel I'm making progress. Sometimes the hooker thing crosses my mind, and I don't judge for it, but I think I might keep trying for the free stuff haha.

Congrats on your progress!

[–]Art3mis2093 3 points4 points  (1 child)

the problem with hookers is the no refunds policy..

[–]2chazthundergut 5 points6 points  (1 child)

If it's feasable for you, I highly recommend a trip down to the Hong Kong stripclub in Tijuana. It will blow your mind, and completely alter your paradigm.

But if you can manage to hook up with girls who actually like you, for free, then that is also my preference. But it's nice to knock a few dozen notches on your belt with prostitutes, if you're having difficulty with amateurs. Especially to get over the initial nerves.

Once you've had a threesome with two Latina bombshells and had them twerking against you in the shower, hot-tub, and taking turns sucking you off and riding your dick- it changes the way you interact with amateurs. You'll put up with less shit, feel less intimidated by them, and be a lot more comfortable and confident having sex.

But free sex with girls who actually desire you will always be best.

Good luck :)

[–]seducter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate the suggestion. I'll keep it in the back pocket just in case I'm in the same position next time I head to Tijuana.

[–]Endorsed ContributorThotwrecker 12 points13 points  (6 children)

They still do (want the 30 year olds). It's just a very small % of those 30 year olds that are going to do all the fucking. Many, MANY girls I've fucked from the 18-22 range have an older guy they fuck. Now about 50% of those guys are sponsors in some capacity, but that's still a sizeable number that get to fuck with no strings.

Most young women have fucked older men and that isn't changing, especially as the beta faggot production facility of the 2010s has ramped up to max capacity. Most men their age are not really sexual contenders.

[–]seducter 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Lol, makes me feel like even more shit knowing that I'm just not getting any, regardless of age, effort, whatever. But that's a bad attitude and I'm workin on it. Guess I've had too many chicks tell me they just got out of a relationship and would totally bang if we met any other time. Then I find out they banged some other dude the night before. Guess I'm so numb to it all I don't really give a fuck anymore. But I do, so I just gotta accept that I'll have the bad days, remembering all the shit I've done to get laid that failed, and keep at it. A man can't stop.

[–]Endorsed ContributorThotwrecker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, the mentality that it's normal for guys your age to fuck young girls and that a lot of young girls are regularly having sex with guys your age is healthy. You need that mentality because she derives her sense of normality from you - ie if you see a girl and think she probably takes professor dick on the side, it's normal, she probably has a thing for older men, and then you approach as though of course she has a thing for older men, then you're A) non-judgmental and B) she assumes it is normal for girls her age to to date you, so why shouldn't she?

It's tempting to dwell on failures and develop an attitude forged by failure, but that's not attractive, it's a major flaw with guys who wear their "rejection count" like some badge in PU. Girls like guys who they can feel have not been rejected very much, so if you spent your 20s being rejected its important to wash it off and at least make sure you aren't telegraphing that subconsciously.

[–]spencerc25 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Can you expand on the "Now about 50% of those guys are sponsors in some capacity" comment. I'd like to hear some stories or insights into this. (used to sleep with a girl who has a $1k/week sugar daddy so know it exists but not to that extent).

[–]d0lphinsex 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Just google 'sugardaters'. I've been on a site called sugardaters.com and some of the girls there wants to fuck for money, some wants to hang out with you for money (no sex involved) and some wants to chat with you for money (no meetup involved). The price for sex was for some like an ordinary hooker (~$200), for others $1500/week (girlfriend experience). If you have the money and don't want the hustle of a girlfriend I think it's a good idea (especially with TRP knowledge).

[–]spencerc25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be so against the idea. But then I thought about a scenario: guy makes $200k hustling his ass off building his career, social networking and business networking, hobbies. He could spend ~$800 / month (which would be minimal) and get laid by a sexy hooker/escort at the end of every week. Then it made sense.

No hassle with dating. No chasing around chicks. Always in abundance mentality even if he doesn't have time to actually go meet girls in person.

[–]yessum447 74 points75 points  (9 children)

Get this "woe is me the young ones suddenly want guys their age" shit out of here. Women want the same stuff they've always wanted, you're either not talking to the right girls or you're just not that enticing of a man.

[–]seducter 14 points15 points  (8 children)

There's still a ways to go but in the last year I'm down 50 lbs, and been buying better clothes. I'm making good progress on the self improvement side but still no results with the women. Comin off a 4 year dry spell so I think there's still some old circuitry in there gettin crossed but I'm keepin at it day by day. Thanks for the pep talk!

[–]yessum447 20 points21 points  (7 children)

Getting in shape and dressing better is the easy part, it's very measurable. Tough part is getting into the state of mind of an attractive man. Girls will think of you the same way that you think of you. Until you think you're a high value guy girls won't really believe it either.

[–]Art3mis2093 2 points3 points  (2 children)

so put simply, confidence is key.. the old lessons are the best

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    [–]seducter 1 point2 points  (3 children)

    Yeah that's a good point. It's easy to lose the weight now that I've got it down to a science, and I've read the sidebar but think I need to go through it again to fully internalize everything. I think one thing is that I try to remember everything, but my memory ain't the greatest (would always have to cram for a test the night before in order to get things to stick just long enough to use em).

    Got any personal fav readings on how to project a more high value status? I used to have a ton of friends and was once at the centre of a pretty big social circle, but they moved away and I don't really care much for friends these days (got a few I chill with occasionally).

    But yeah, any reading you might recommend for higher value (sans the friends angle lol).

    Thanks again.

    [–]monadyne 17 points18 points  (2 children)

    I'm sure you've read enough by now, seducter. What makes pussies wet isn't a guy with a lot of stuff in his head, but a man of action. So, take action. Go start talking with women in bars and other social settings. Don't necessarily try to pick them up, but just get into the habit of talking with women for fun. YOUR fun.

    If you get shot down... so what? That's how you cultivate an "I don't give a flying fuck" attitude. Whether they reject you or go home with you... it's all the same. You are the center of your universe and nothing should shake that. Hence, you don't give a fuck about the outcome of you being at the bar, only the experience of it in the moment.

    Have fun!

    [–]seducter 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    Thanks for this comment, I think sometimes I take it too seriously and forget the key ingredient: It's supposed to be fun. Of course! haha really appreciate your response.

    [–]lopsidedlucky 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    I'd suggest you taking a vacation abroad by yourself. You'll learn a lot about yourself and if you do it right you absolutely won't be able to take women "too seriously" afterwards.

    [–]Mr_mnemonic 9 points10 points  (1 child)

    Bro, I'm 34 and pull 22-25 year olds easily. You've got the wrong mentality!

    [–]seducter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Guess I need some better Tinder pics ;p. Congrats bud!

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      [–]seducter 3 points4 points  (7 children)

      I had a tough past, and found a note I wrote back when I was 25 about how the situation was. I likely have some PTSD but am in a much better place than I was. I think you are absolutely right my mentality is defeating me.

      In a fucked up way I have a no fucks given attitude to the point where I don't really give a fuck whether I succeed or fail. But I've been to the bottom and came back and ultimately know that I do care and that's why, for the past 2 years, I've been consistently hitting the gym.

      I used to think a guy needed a woman to "give him" value. Was completely backwards. I'd hit up a therapist but I've heard some horror stories, so this guy is self medicating with the red pill, and it's slowly getting better but it's still a climb.

      [–]Art3mis2093 1 point2 points  (6 children)

      I used to think a guy needed a woman to "give him" value.

      Catch-22. You seem to get value when you have a woman, but the reality is that you need to have value in the first place. A friend of mine is a bit of a loser but has done it on several occasions with some of his work colleagues. I'm not your typical run of the mill virgin, but I don't care for what others think. I'll lose it when I'm good and ready which will probably be sooner that I thought.

      I likely have some PTSD but am in a much better place than I was.

      YES. THIS. The realisation that you are in a better place than you were previously is quintessential.

      [–]seducter 1 point2 points  (5 children)

      Oh crazy, so you're buddy is banging co-workers, and it's increasing his perceived SMV? Does he care if anyone finds out?

      And good on ya for not putting so much pressure on yourself to lose your virginity. I was drunk when I lost mine and don't fully remember everything.

      [–]Art3mis2093 2 points3 points  (4 children)

      I think he does it because of low self worth. He's not attractive by any normal standard, but I guess if it works for him then it works for him. I can't really comment much on the intentions and desires of others and whether or not they are good and/or bad. I just think it's weak to tap out like that. What bugs me more is that he calls himself a christian. Yet here I am as an atheist and a virgin.. At least I'm not giving up on my beliefs lol.

      Yeah I think I might need to be drunk in order to lose mine. But Idk. Time will tell haha.

      [–]seducter 0 points1 point  (3 children)

      Yeah I'm a different guy when I drink. No anxiety, etc. But the problem is one drink gets lonely, ya know. And my game falls apart after one too many. I stopped drinking to excess as a somewhat new years resolution. My limit is maybe 2 or 3 drinks, and only one or two days max a week.

      [–]Art3mis2093 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      Yeah I am kind of the same. If I drink enough to limit my inhibition I can be pretty good. I recently hooked up with a girl I met through a university friend at a university party. I say 'recently', it was like early November. But I noticed that my inhibition was not restrained. I found this girl cute and I liked her mannerisms. We were laughing at one another's jokes and being dickheads to one another lol. We danced a bit and I tried to do salsa/tango. I honestly just did whatever the fuck came into my mind at the time. It was probably the most liberating feeling I had ever experienced - just being who i was. I've been applying that to other aspects of my life before I start worrying about girls just yet. The other thing too is that alcohol removes inhibition, which is almost proof that inhibition is a psychological thing that bares nothing on truth. I'm trying to remove it without chemicals. So far it's working reasonably well.

      [–]seducter 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Shit that last sentence is somethin I hadn’t thought of. Inhibition is all in the mind, so really its nothing to worry about. I bet by doin the same things sober (dancing, pushing boundaries) would train that sober.

      [–]ThickDickWarrior89 1 point2 points  (12 children)

      If you get fucking (reasonably) jacked, you too can fuck some prime rib 20 yo pussy. The biggest difference is their WEAK minds. You’re a grown man! Would you let a 12 year old beat you at chess?

      Sadly, when I was 12 years old I did beat my father at chess.

      [–]seducter 0 points1 point  (11 children)

      Haha amen to that, I’m maybe 20 lbs away from seeing my abs. At that point I’ll be cut but will need to transition into a slow bulk to ensure the fat doesn’t come back.

      Just hope these chicks don’t expect much experience from an older guy with less sexual experience than some of these 20 year old guys that are lucky enough to be bangin at that age lol. Although all I care about is bustin a nut, long as I get mine I’m good haha.

      [–]ThickDickWarrior89 1 point2 points  (10 children)

      Burn that 20 lbs off then.

      If your concerned about her opinion of your performance- you are in her frame. Don’t step into any woman’s frame; rather, pull her into yours.

      [–]seducter 0 points1 point  (9 children)

      Yeah man, lately the fat has just been flyin off as I've re-affirmed my commitment to eating healthy and working out (I didn't stop over the past couple years, but just kinda slowed the efforts as I was getting burnt out, and have now dug deeper and am back to giving 100%).

      [–]ThickDickWarrior89 1 point2 points  (8 children)

      What are your stats old man? Good work. Progress is progress.

      [–]seducter 0 points1 point  (7 children)

      Haha true enough.

      Height: 6'2"

      Weight: 174 lbs as of this morning, down from 230 (still got some love handles but they're quickly disappearing so think I'm gonna go down to 160 and see how I'm lookin, then try to bulk up to 180 and ultimately a fairly lean 200).

      Squat: 200lbs Bench: 160lbs Deadlift: 250lbs

      Not the greatest numbers but I'm really focusing on form to ensure I don't pull something that sets me back 6 months (one of the reason I got up to 230, as I tried to push too hard too fast).

      Thanks for all your advice!

      [–]ThickDickWarrior89 1 point2 points  (6 children)

      No problem. If you’re an older man you can still build an aesthetic body off of the machines. Check out Dorian Yates blood n guts videos on YouTube. Every exercise h does is either with a machine or the exercise has a good machine alternative lift. You’ve still got a ways to go.

      [–]seducter 0 points1 point  (5 children)

      Well I'm 32 so still fairly young. I do the starting strength program (the name makes it sound like a beginner program but apparently the guy has trained top athletes).

      I built a gym in my basement with a power rack and bench so there's no excuses because its literally in the next room haha

      [–]ticklethegooch1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I have to oblige. There are some girls who like their peer group when it comes to age and many who like older men. It even turns them on to have older men as if they feel more feminine by having one. Of course, no Flavio Briatore looking men, but confident, stoic, athletic and modest men.

      [–]AmericasIronFist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I'm happy I found this when I was 17, although I can't actually apply most of TRP because of still being in High School. I can apply the building yourself up part and working for myself and myself only. Even before finding TRP I already had a personality like this, I find it weird.

      [–]witch_pimp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Dude's gonna hit 200 before he's 21. Nice work.

      [–]Govedo13 29 points30 points  (1 child)

      Great report. I find it practically useful for young people.

      [–]dutchgguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Sorta how I did it too (without the lies)

      [–]U-94 73 points74 points  (10 children)

      Most guys I knew were like "This is it?" when finally unwrapping the sex present. The profound emptiness after finally nailing a girl you liked and laying there wondering "Well, what now?" is striking. Schopenhauer is on my mind from another thread, he said "Directly after copulation the devil's laughter is heard."

      [–][deleted] 31 points32 points  (5 children)

      That's only because of condoms. The first time I had sex it was underwhelming. The first time I raw-dogged I saw Jesus.

      [–]Drumcode-Equals-Life 16 points17 points  (4 children)

      Pretty much this, first time I used condoms and had a hard time busting, then second time i went in raw doggy and came instantly, like literally two pump chump territory

      [–]Scriptopeia 9 points10 points  (3 children)

      The first few times I had or was about to have sex I couldn't really get "it up". I might have been too nervous.

      So basically using a condom was impossible for me. By the time it was on I was already flaccid again.

      Luckily both me and my first partner were virgins.. so STD's were kind of out of the game.. and I didn't really care about the risk of pregnancy at the time because I was young and naive and trusted myself to not fuck up.

      I actually don't know how it feels like to have sex with a condom on. I did not come for around the first 15 times we had sex. I thought I was blessed and cursed at the same time, because on one hand I could fuck her for 1 hour straight, but on the other hand I never got an orgasm.

      Everytime I meet a new girl I don't know what to do. "Will she think I am retarded asking for first time no condom?" So far I never got any problems.. No pregnancy and not STD's. But I am aware of the risks and am scared that sooner or later I will need to overcome my fear of condoms.

      [–]LaserEyes2029 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      I have the problem of regular condoms being too tight.

      I honestly think I'm average size, but a Magnum Trojan feels nice and comfy while anything smaller is like shoving my dick in a vice.

      That said, breakin' a girl in after she's had "smaller" guys is always a welcome surprise (FWIW I'm asian, so maybe I assume I'm smaller than most due to stereotypes in the USA).

      [–]Scriptopeia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I have nothing to compare to. My first condoms were bought online on TheyFit. So I actually don't know whether they are too small for me, because this could legit be a reason (A friend of mine pointed that once out to me)

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I actually don't know how it feels like to have sex with a condom on.

      Dude it's not great. You still get the thrill of the conquest and the pleasure of a naked woman, but as far as the actual physical feeling on your dick, I would honestly say wacking off feels better. If I'm drunk and wearing a condom, there's no chance I'm going to be able to nut.

      I did not come for around the first 15 times we had sex.

      I had this problem a bit too when I started fucking. It literally freaked me the fuck out. I told no one. I expected that I was going to cum in like 2 minutes because that's what everyone says happens to virgins, and I thought WTF is wrong with me?

      At the end of the day it was just that my dick had become used to my hand from jerking off for 5 years, so I cut back and it solved it. They used to tell kids if you touched yourself you would go to hell or go blind, and that was a bunch of bullshit. Now they tell kids there are no problems at all from masturbating too much and that's equally false.

      Your dick becomes used to your hand and no pussy can ever grip it as hard as you can. Also for those of us that are circumcised, the foreskin is really supposed to slide up and down over your dick head, but we don't have that so when we jerk off we slide our palm over the dick head, which makes us even more desensitized.

      Everytime I meet a new girl I don't know what to do. "Will she think I am retarded asking for first time no condom?" So far I never got any problems.. No pregnancy and not STD's. But I am aware of the risks and am scared that sooner or later I will need to overcome my fear of condoms.

      This is a big reason why I feel that I can't just do one night stands and plates. I don't want to wear a condom, but I also don't want to raw-dog someone that I am not exclusive with.

      [–]eccentricrealist 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      Jacob's Ladder makes more sense each and every day

      [–]TallDarkandBot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Hmm, my mind was all about going again.

      [–]2awalt_cupcake 20 points21 points  (0 children)

      congrats on getting your dick wet

      [–]tibikush2012 10 points11 points  (0 children)

      congrats on losing the virginity.

      [–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (7 children)

      This post is the proof that "fake it till you make it" works.

      Good job, and try meditation coupled with cold showers to get control over that anxiety (it's working for me).

      [–]TallDarkandBot 5 points6 points  (2 children)

      Can you elaborate on that? Specifically the meditation.

      [–]Guthix4Days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Imagine meditation as a sort of mental workout... It gives you insight into what you are afraid of. Zany explanation I know but that's how I see it.

      Cold showers are meant to make you used to discomfort, and therefore play a role in managing anxiety.

      [–]PekoPong[S] 4 points5 points  (3 children)

      Already trying! I'm not seeing any results yet, but looking forward to see them in a couple of weeks. It's damn hard to get to meditate, but I'm doing my best!

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      [–]PekoPong[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Wow, I watched a couple of videos and had a conversation with a friend of mine who meditates, but that's way more informative. I'll check it out, thanks.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      No problem.

      That book opened my mind really.

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      [–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

      Well obviously sidebar but you've probably been told that a million times as well as "go lift". These are absolutely necessary but if you want more reading go to filter by flair and choose red pill theory and select best of all time. Of course remember that going out and trying stuff for one night is more informational than reading for weeks

      [–]HaoleBoyz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      You can read all you want, but taking action and getting REAL experience is what matters. Get out of your comfort zone and learn to love every interaction, bad or good.

      [–]rigbed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Join a BJJ gym and learn to fight and join a dance class and bang older women. Once you get them down your age mates will be small fry.

      [–]PepeLePen 26 points27 points  (2 children)

      [–]PekoPong[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

      I'm laughing so hard right now, some of my friends reacted exactly like that.

      [–]2chazthundergut 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      Welcome to the Matrix young man. You are unplugged, driven, and willing to take risks.

      Keep lifting, keep learning, keep challenging yourself, and never let your guard down.

      This was just the first taste. Just wait.

      Life is about to get fucking amazing

      [–]Rares5555 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      You deserved it. Keep having more sex, you’ll get better at it, and remember to breathe calmly. Also, treat sex with indifference. You make it, it doesn’t make you.

      [–]strikethrough123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      This resonates so well with me, I too lost my virginity when I was 19 due to TRP. For me, it wasn't about faking it, it was about being someone I always wanted to be. It's as if I've always wanted to act that way, it felt so natural to trust my instincts. The best part happens when it isn't a lie. If you think yourself a king, you'll start treating yourself like a king.

      To give you something to try that works amazingly well, when she asks how many girls you've been with or if you've done this before, I say "idk what you're talking about, I'm a virgin". Only say this after you've fucked her senseless. It works like a charm. If she pushes further, say "I've never even seen a pussy before, I'm pure", you get the gist. Never reveal your n count.

      [–]Master1176 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Great job brother, this is the beginning of great things for you

      [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      My guy! It'll only get better from here, keep on pushing and grinding everyday.

      [–]Alpha_Jedi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      "You've taken your first step into a larger world." Congrats on the milestone and glad to see that TRP is helping people improve their lives. I look forward to reading more about your adventures. Cheers.

      [–]Jonlife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Spoken like a true pua lol

      [–]eaeulis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      keep striking while the iron is hot boy!!! i like that you got other shit lined up. abundance.

      [–]Helrade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Wish I took the red pill at your age. If you found this on your own, took interest in it and it made sense to you then clearly you have something right about you.

      [–]DirtyBastard13 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Congrats on taking the red pill and your first conquest.

      [–]5559theman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Well done grasshopper. The next phase is to use mystery instead of making things up

      [–]ThickDickWarrior89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      This is comical, good job for finally getting pussy but this is hilarious. As a 27 yo man (like myself) fucking an 18-20 year old is like taking candy from a baby. It’s TOO fucking easy. Wow.

      [–]fokm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      You won't find this story on bestof. Instead you'll find how TRP has led us to white nationalism.

      Congrats op! Keep improving your life.

      [–]LosBuratnos 2 points3 points  (6 children)

      Nice job just wondering which car do you drive?

      [–]PekoPong[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children)

      Nissan March SR 2013, maybe not a big deal in the states, a nice car for people my age in Argentina.

      [–]mattizie 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Meh, a car is a car.

      This is the one that got me laid (also at 19), but the one in the picture is in better condition than mine was.

      [–]PekoPong[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      That's awesome, I mean, if you could get laid with that at my age I have one more reason to accomplish something inside mine, anything, looking forward to doing so!

      [–]mattizie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Just keep faking it till you make it. And don't have kids until you've done everything else you want to do in life.

      [–]Art3mis2093 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Was she Argentinian as well ?

      [–]Starfuckingman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I don't like fresh pies, especially around your age cause they might easily regret these ideas later or some sort of shit, they're still going through a lot of changes but congratulations man and hope you continue on the path.

      [–]francisco_DANKonia 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      As soon as you said "anxious" I figured you wouldn't last long. Same happened to me. Much better now after getting anxiolytics. But I would recommend talking to a professional first about anxiety. It only gets worse if you don't get help.

      [–]PekoPong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I will, soon. I've spent a lot of time not worrying my parents about the need for a psychologist, but now it's time before it gets worst as you said, thanks!

      [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Keep plowing until the tomatoes grow ripe and big.

      [–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Awesome FR man. More to come! Keep feeding the hopper.

      [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Solid FR.

      Really shows that getting laid isnt all that special and isnt an accomplishment.

      Also illustrates that OP himself was the obstacle and he always had the power to remove the shackles and take what is his

      [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (4 children)

      Instead of lying about being a virgin you could just reply with this is she asks "you want me to just tell you? That would take all the fun out of it I always let girls decide how many times the morning after." Or something.

      [–]PekoPong[S] 6 points7 points  (3 children)

      Yeah, I thought about that kind of response, but she didn't ask me, at least not directly about that. She was refering to the tinder/motel thing, but I'll keep that in mind, at least until I can stop putting on the mask.

      [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children)

      Yeah I'm not trying to moralize at you, go ahead and fake it till you make it. One day you'll wake up and realize how many women you've bedded and that your good in bed with money and a car and you won't feel the need to fake it anymore. When I say wake up some day, I mean after years of work. Always focus on the mission.

      [–]DirtyBastard13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I've found fake it until you make it works. Pick a story you'd tell if pressed and stick with it. Make sure it's not something she could prove or disprove. Don't break your "cover". Practice makes perfect. Even half-remembered game and the red pill has got me laid.

      [–]MisterRoid 11 points12 points  (10 children)

      Just wait until you have sex without a condom. Feels fucking amazing. You will want to keep your dick in the pussy until it rots and falls off.

      [–]Justmagick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Without a condom that is exactly what might happen.

      [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (2 children)

      Only in a strong LTR. This guy is not ready for that

      [–]-Tooth 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      only with a vasectomy or otherwise it's baby I "forgot" the pill and you're fucked

      [–]monadyne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Why would you cede control of the birth control to a woman? All it takes is one "Whoopsie! I took the wrong pill!" to change the course of the rest of your life. The financial aspect is the least important part of it. One of the reason why our gender is so fucked up these days is because men aren't around to raise their sons. So, you either stay in the picture... or contribute to the problem.

      [–]mubee94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Haha that can be a trap easily in current situation in the US. You will get a "I am pregnant and its yours" in some days. Never not use a condom in casual sex

      [–]Augustuscrassus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Bro I just went on the Doxycycline after doing that. It feels great till your piss feels like napalm.

      OP wrap your shit. The clap and chlamydia aren't a big deal but you don't want Herpes or some permanent shit.

      [–]Snadderloffen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Nice, Congrats mate...Love the confidence you had in front of the girl.

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      [–]Scriptopeia 3 points4 points  (2 children)

      I am 22 years old.

      I didn't have my first kiss until around 21. Made out with over 20 different girls in the following year. Lost my virginity 4 months ago and now had sex with 3 different girls.

      I used to play video games up to 10 hours a day for the past 8 years at that point.

      I have to admit that "fake it until you make it" is too real. For example: I lied to the girl I lost my virginity to. She thought I have had multiple girls before. She is not the first one to think that. I often hear afterwards from girls that they thought I am some kind of "fuckboy"

      Though I must admit that I try to stay as honest as much as possible because I am a really bad liar and feel bad for lying.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Same here, I did research on where to put it and how to fuck before hand though so I didnt look like a total noob. Its funny how the vagina is so close to the asshole but you dont really realize until then LMAO.

      [–]Scriptopeia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I honestly only did some research on how to properly finger a girl to kind of get her in the mood. I thought the rest would come natural...

      Well turns out that sex can actually be mastered and there are a lot of ways to improve.

      I am currently reading "The Sex God Methods". Can only recommend.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      I’m a 17 year old and this really inspired me because you’re only a couple of years older than me. I have a dumbbell in my room also that I’ve recently started to use because of this sub.

      [–]_Ba_Dum_Tss_ 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Not sure what you can do with one dumbbell. I would recommend going into a real gym

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Yea use your school gym, i wasted years doing shit at home and p90x and made more gains in 6 months of regular gym going.

      [–]AmazingAsianGuy776 1 point2 points  (3 children)

      Naaa man you need aleast three condoms on you at all times

      [–]PekoPong[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Three? Hmm, I'll see if I can handle that

      [–]Retiredmagician 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Honestly 2 will be fine most times if you know it's gunna be a quick hookup/nothing more. If a girl is inviting you over to stay at her place/netflix and chill type scenario where you could be there for a while I'd say bring a lot. If you have a car carry a box in the glove compartment at all times/ Carry 2 with you in your wallet. If you use 2 and feel like a third time is imminent just say something like lemme check if my car is locked one sec (or any excuse to get to your car) and get more (of course try to do this when there is downtime not when something is about to happen as it can kill the mood sometimes)

      Another tip if you're carrying a wallet condom is that I hear they can ruin after a while due to temperature or something, so if ones been sitting there for a while unused swap it out for a new one if you have plans made just in case.

      Cheers and best of luck!

      [–]PekoPong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Thanks for the advice! And yeah, I used to have one in my wallet for the last year and they got ruined over time, and because of the temperature since I didn't use them. Not the case from now on!

      [–]Art3mis2093 1 point2 points  (6 children)

      So that’s it. It worked. When I took her home, she was still thinking about me as the “not-nice, direct, CONFIDENT handsome guy who owns a car at his age and has a lot of money” (only half is true, and if you do the maths you will note I’m not confident at all and I usually have anxiety attacks when I’m alone, so yeah). I was happy about lying about my sex life in multiple ways. I wouldn’t have done that without you, people, so…

      sounds like you had some things that were already in your favour.. like the looks and the car if i'm not mistaken? Not judging, just curious. I'd be keen on getting tips for tinder haha. Also, you mentioned anxiety attacks when you are on your own. Don't mind me prodding, but was that unprovoked? Or was it due to something else?

      [–]PekoPong[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children)

      I don't have any pictures with the car on Tinder, I just told her when we went out of the bar and well, there it was, she didn't know how I got there until then. Maybe I do have the looks, but I'm not fit at all, I don't do sport and I never ever did, I also have a nice beer belly (All of that is changing, as well as my diet and the sports thing). If I have the looks, it's my face/what I choose to wear/appearances. In the only shirtless picture I have on Tinder you can only see my chest lol. And about the anxiety... I've always been an anxious person, but these attacks started not so long ago, and I honestly can't find the cause on my own. I'll get a psychologist after I talk about it with my parents. Maybe he/she will be able to help me find the cause.

      [–]Art3mis2093 0 points1 point  (4 children)

      I see. I've noticed that Latino dudes don't necessarily need to be fit in order to get the ladies. It's more a case of the machismo not being based on putting others down or being a cunt to other people. It's cathartic I reckon.

      I'll get a psychologist after I talk about it with my parents. Maybe he/she will be able to help me find the cause.

      I did this too. But just in the reverse order.. as in I'm still a virgin but don't really care too much. But my anxiety stemmed from early childhood trauma and all that shit that I basically internalized. Got a really good psychologist to help out as well - make sure they are male. The 'professional wisdom' says that gender does not matter. But believe me, it really does.

      [–]PekoPong[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

      Yeah, I remember going as a kid and my parents asked me if I wanted a man or woman to talk to me, and I felt great with a male psychologist who could understand me. And about the need to be fit, I don't think it's a special case here, most of the people my age go to the gym and want to look great for the summer (since it's so long...). And I don't get the machismo part, that could be a thing in central america, but I never got what it meant, guess it depends on each culture.

      [–]Art3mis2093 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      When you see a female psychologist then the entire grid is set differently if you catch my drift. Men tend to be more practical and offer practical solutions for the issues that are presented. I've spent more time working on practicality in the past 5 months with my male psychologist than I ever have with anyone else. It also helps that he is younger (he's like 28 and I'm 24).

      I thought machismo was all around south america, not just central america. Very well. I guess all people want to look great, but it just differs. I mean if you were to look at Asia, the male 'stereotype' if you will tends to be more slim and less built. To a westerner it would loosely be called "feminised". Cultural explanations go some of the way in explaining different characteristics of male and female so I guess I was asking with that in the back of my mind.

      [–]PekoPong[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      That's a great advice, I'll be sure to check out if there's any good male psychologist that it's not too old for me to be open about the thing.

      I think the machismo thing comes from Spain (I'm not 100% sure) so it sticked more to those countries whose inmigrants/succesful inmigrants were from Spain. Here in the south we have more Italian last names than any other kind of them, so I'd say it's pretty much balanced when it comes to male and female counterparts. I've been in the states as a foreign exchange student for five months and holy s*** that's how I got to know what a total B**** is. Man, I feel sorry for men there, you have no moderation unless you take the pill or do something about it, it's pretty much necessary up there since the female attitude is so... frustrating.

      [–]Art3mis2093 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      It's a bit different in Australia, but it's changing here slightly. I could go on about why the difference exists but I think that would be best left to a different reddit page on politics haha

      [–]Mr-_Green 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Good job man! Can you link me some of those posts ? Thanks

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Its very easy to be mentally hooked when you have sex the first time. But you have to fight against your own mind on this one. Enjoy it, stay safe but if and when it ends. Don't let it destroy you, Chat some other girls, meet other people etc. Don't bet it all on just 1 one girl.

      [–]all_good_ 1 point2 points  (5 children)

      I don't get all the praise. He got a date from tinder cause of his looks and got laid. What's so special lmao. It wasn't TRP or anything.

      [–]PekoPong[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

      It seems like you don't get the post, instead of "the praise". It's not the first time I got something "cause of my looks", but it's the first time I accomplish something because of my "confidence", because I've changed my mind since I've discovered TRP. This post is a Thank You, specially to those redpillers who took the time to write down their thoughts and experiences through reddit. This is a post about the beginning of the game, about me saying I'll be here from today on.

      [–]all_good_ 1 point2 points  (3 children)

      Didn't know you need to read TRP to swipe right on tinder.

      [–]PekoPong[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      Didn't know either. For some reason, I knew how to swipe right on tinder before reading about TRP. I wonder why is that? Oh, maybe because it has nothing to do with it.

      [–]all_good_ 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Yea you didn't really approach any women in this scenario so 95% was already done for you lol. Out of curiosity, do you live in the states?

      [–]Nocryingok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Nice FR and seems honest. You're probably already high value for getting results this fast. Remember to keep learning and making your own style (as long as you don't forget the core principles). Good luck, pal!

      [–]Yeralt 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Just a little qiestion, how do you get a car at the age of 19, cause i'm 19 too, and i'm saving money like crazy to buy one, its my fucking dream, however used cars in my country are either too expensive or too used... Enlighten me senpai. Btw, congrats ;)

      [–]PekoPong[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      It was my dad's. He works for car companies across the country, so he can get pretty good deals. He got a better one, so he wanted me to keep the other one :) I'll always be in debt with him. I stopped working when I started going to the university two years after high school, and I couldn't save enough money, it's damn hard, so keep it up!

      [–]Yeralt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Oooh i see, you are lucky then, my mum works for a car company too tho she doesn't look very disposed to look for deals in used cars. I myself am a university student too and even tho i try to work and save money, i did 3000€ last year while studying engineering but as i said befroe used cars here are amazingly expensive, insurances too and even more i dont have a place to park it. (I live in a big city) Enjoy the car bro

      [–]primu5d 3 points4 points  (3 children)

      Wait, how did you and her go to a bar if you're 19 and she's 20? Are you not in America?

      [–]PekoPong[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      Nope, Argentina. It's pretty much common if you have the money to do so, and they are more like "nice, quiet coffee shops but with beer instead and at night", not the kinds of bars you see in movies.

      [–]Art3mis2093 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      THIS is why I reckon it's easier in Latin America. Lol

      [–]akrok297 1 point2 points  (15 children)

      I'm currently 16 years old, and very interested in swallowing TRP. I've been lifting for quite a bit now, but I'm not sure if I should be very outgoing or practice stoicism. I feel like if I perpetually put on the strong and silent type, I won't even be in a conversation. If I am outgoing and friendly though, then that kills it in a way? Any advice?

      [–]Endorsed ContributorThotwrecker 6 points7 points  (9 children)

      At 16 GTFO TRP and go build your SMV.

      You need to build yourself up socially, physically, and mentally.

      Socially, it's simple, go socialize and befriend high value guys, and regularly flirt with high value girls. Go up the social ladder of HS / college by learning the art of vibing with cool people and making connections. We cannot teach you this, we can only explain how to do it, you only learn through grinding social experience.

      Physically, go read a good bodybuilding / diet guide and stick to it, when I was 16 I was a skinny wrestling kid and I bulked at put on 40 lbs in 1 year, and then cut down the ~15 lbs of fat I gained in about 4 months. You will go to college JAAACKED, your testosterone is peaked, your metabolism is crazy, take advantage of it. Remember, eating right > lifting, and teenagers need 9 hrs of sleep especially when lifting.

      Don't be afraid of going up to like 15% bodyfat, but after you hit 15, it's time to cut back down to 10 or so, no one needs to be a lardo like I was to get shredded and big.

      Mentally, you need to push yourself to become excellent at important things that can one day make you bank. Never forget, money does buy happiness and it does buy pussy, and you don't want money to be your PRIME MEANS of getting happiness or pussy. Other than health, nothing does as much for every area of your life as money, and nothing will help you earn money more than setting yourself up for success now. Start networking with your parents friends and shit who have careers you think are cool, learn about what skills you use. Push yourself to learn challenging, diverse things, and explore your actual passions. A man without drive and ambition is worthless; no pussy can fix a lack of ambition.

      TRP is not really the right mentality for a high school kid to be in. It's not going to give you this super power game to mind fuck Sally the cheerleader into sucking your dick. High school and to a lesser extent college (but really, a massive extent still) is ALL SOCIAL LADDER GAME. Who fucks the hottest chicks, the alpha guy with no friends? Or the cool beta go-lucky guy with friends in a top frat? The second guy is mentally beta but he's higher on the social ladder so the hot girls will fuck him provided he isn't SO beta that he's impossible to feel some attraction for.

      Climbing up the social ladder is hard. But that's where the pussy is, and TRP will not necessarily teach you the best behaviors to do that, because we are more focused on what men should do in their 20s after they are alone in their own life, outside of a social ecosystem.

      [–]KidWonder101 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Amazing comment.

      I'm 20 and I'm having this 'improve SMV first' fallacy, I don't really wanna approach women right now because I have no car, live at home, mental/drug problems etc.

      Even though I subconsciously know that I don't necessarily need those things to get laid it'll just make me more comfortable. I just don't wanna fall into a bad habit of brain just backing out until I have the absolute perfect conditions.

      [–]Endorsed ContributorThotwrecker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      You have to prioritize your needs. Something like not being homeless / not being an addict > healthy fit body > hold down a job that let's you afford a middle class millenial life (apt, car, social life, gym) > a healthy sex life.

      You CAN have a healthy sex life if you're broke and a drug addict or mentally unwell, but devoting energy to lower priorities while neglecting higher ones is a common mistake.

      You CAN work on things simultaneously, but you can't really work on maybe more than 1 thing when you are in a shit state, and maybe 3 things max when you are in a normal state.

      Get a job, or get situated in school with at least OK grades coming in if you're in college, get your mental health shit fixed, toss the drugs even if it's just weed, save it up for a ride and crib. Getting fit and owning your own shit financially will cure like 99% of mental problems. This should be doable in 6mo - 1 yr. After that, you're 21 and you have the ingredients necessary to actually life a good bachelor life and get all the pussy you can. You don't need to go celibate until then, just deprioritize it. NO pussy has ever felt as good as the day I bought my tesla.

      But this is not about achieving perfect conditions before approaching. It's not about being a "success" before you approach. It's just about having a functional life before worrying about women (and to be technical, it's about being an independent man who's self-sufficient - ie you take care of your own home, car, bills, fitness, health, food, job, etc.) So many millennials are not at that level of owning their own shit, and consequently their minds and bodies are unwell.

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Kind of same place, im in a situation where i can fuck a couple girls easily it just feels like a lot of effort and I would rathers hang out and shit. I mean if they were begging to come over it would be great but im ghosting them rn for having an attitude.

      [–]akrok297 0 points1 point  (5 children)

      Thanks a lot for the great advice. I've been lifting for several months now, but I've been able to lose about 12 pounds in the last two months. I think I should still cut a bit more, but I don't actually know my bf%. Do you reckon if I posted a picture, that you'd be able to give me an estimate?

      [–]PekoPong[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      You can be outgoing while being stoic, they are not opposites. I've always been a shy, introverted person (and I accepted that a while ago) but there's always two sides to every coin. Try the MBTI test, start to analyze people's behaviours if you like doing so (I do) but be moderate. I can be wondering about the clouds of Narnia if I need energy in a social situation, but don't let that come after you. Smile, laugh, say things, ask questions, people love that. Sure, it can feel like acting, and you can become quite good at it and get good results. Don't do the "introverted face", be careful with that, I used to do that without noticing. People will come and say "wow, you seem to be quite in your own head", so start by thinking the best response you can come up with in order to make people comfortable around you. Be moderate, feel confident, that's my advice.

      [–]akrok297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Thanks for the advice, I'm just having a hard time grasping how to be stoic and outgoing- perhaps it comes with experience.

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        [–]akrok297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Haha, I feel like TRP can be useful for any male at any age.

        [–]XIIllIlllIIX 1 point2 points  (2 children)

        You pulled the biggest beta move of all by driving after drinking enough to say you were drunk. Don’t ever do that again.

        [–]_Ba_Dum_Tss_ 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        Not really a beta move, just a dumbass move

        [–]Retiredmagician 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Agreed, drinking and driving is for fucking idiots.

        [–]forgetful_storytellr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Sounds more like PUA than RP at this point.

        Fake it till you make it I guess though. Good for you for getting your weenie wet.

        [–]n4w5 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        You have only touched the surface.

        The red pill goes way further than the gender debate.

        [–]ntc1995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        im a virgin, and i would like to have a pussy. I would like to have the confidence that you had. How did you execute it ?

        [–]RisingPhoenix7318 0 points1 point  (2 children)

        What reading do you recommend? Please point me to the right posts

        [–]Retiredmagician 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Just look at this subreddits TOP posts and look through all of those.

        [–]AmatureProgrammer 0 points1 point  (2 children)

        What part of the pill do you read? Any advice for another anxious fello?

        [–]PekoPong[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        The whole bar, The Improvement Pill, Woujou's articles on his page, and some articles about the "shit tests" women do. I don't currently have any advice if you suffer from anxiety besides "get a psychologist, meditate, think about what causes it" which is hard, but if you are an "anxious" person in general and never had a big anxiety attack, you are fine, just don't worry too much. Everybody has worries, it's necessary, just don't let them control you, find the cause instead. Try with stoicism, it was great for me; there's a post here that describes three stoic "ways" lets say (it's one of the most populars of all time in this sub, you'll find it quickly), and every one of them helped me a lot.

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