That is the red pill.
THE red pill that We all must swallow.
And it's a difficult one, because Our ego always gets in the way. It can be hard not to take it personally.
But there's another side to this pill that most Men have tremendous difficulty comprehending.
"YOU" is an abstract concept. "YOU" to a girl means "YOU," i.e. her. Think about it for a moment.
she doesn't want to get fucked by a Man with the word "YOU" on His mind. Because such Men are accusatory. They put her in a position where she must take responsibility for her own actions. And as We all know, girls are utterly incapable of such deeds.
When a Man singles a girl out as the object of His desire, it is impossible for her not to think that she is being approached by a Man with the word "YOU" on His mind. He doesn't even have to say a word, and inevitably, is rejected. Oneitis always wrecks.
And this is exactly why abundance mentality is so important.
I would, however, argue that outcome independence isn't all that it's cracked up to be. Under such a frame, it is all too easy to slip into a frame of mind where sex becomes unimportant, to the point where it is impossible to pull the trigger when the time comes. Sex IS important. Nevertheless, I digress.
Not to put too fine a point on it, but....
she doesn't want to fuck "YOU."
she wants to fuck a Man with "Me" on His mind.
The best advice I can give is this.
Eliminate the word "you" from Your vocabulary.
A red pill Man must think and speak in terms of I or Me. First person. Always.
The speaking part is difficult to master, but it can be done.
Selfishness is an ugly word to some, but it is truly freeing.