Blue Pill ExampleSwimming in Blue: He fucked my oneitis... “multiple times” (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by swimminginblue

It was sophomore year in college, orientation day, I was fat and full of hormones, vices from a summer of shit food, beer and laziness - long before I discovered TRP, I was blue like the sky on a clear midsummer day.

As I stood by the orientation booths on the upper floor, there came a girl, she was a freshman, tan skin brunette hair and newly 18. She was from a small town and from the moment I set my eyes on her I was hooked.

She had an aura of innocence, as I got to know her more, it was evident she had to be a virgin, I hit the holy grail. This was the image I had of her. I wanted her to be my girlfriend, my love. I found “ the one “ I would day dream of us together and how perfect and romantic we would be.

If you haven’t puked yet, I’ll jump ahead. After a murky swamp of events; me being perpetually friend zoned, falling in love with her and going through painful rejection after rejection, Acting neurotic, needy and not being able to sleep because all I could do was think about her, my heart running an olympic sprint every time she would be around. Essentially, insert every patented blue pill beta behaviour and that was me towards this girl. Take every foundational lesson in the TRP sidebar and do the exact fucking opposite, that was also me.

Fast forward to Junior year. I’ve been taking my TRP medication as prescribed and it’s been working wonders to progressively cure my bluemonia. I’m hanging out with Mike* one of my natural Alpha friends at a bar with some girls and somehow my past oneitis gets brought up.

His response:

“ Yeah I fucked her, multiple times, didn’t even need to take her out on a date, I would usually just go over, she’s inexperienced but good.. so you’ll have to teach her “

I laughed.

TLDR: Why didn’t I discover this shit earlier ? Fuck.

[–]bbmc7gm6fm 479 points480 points  (26 children)

Why didn’t I discover this shit earlier ? Fuck.

Earlier? You lost nothing. Men get divorce raped and they are still grateful that they found TRP.

[–]OMGtothemoon 166 points167 points  (20 children)

I'm one. Found TRP at 30, divorce raped. Now happy at 35.

[–]babalu32 1 points1 points [recovered]

I did not get divorce rape yet but I am working on it by cheating as much as I can. If I'm going down, it's going to be swinging.

[–]excaliboor 47 points48 points  (17 children)

You’re cheating on your wife because you’re expecting her to divorce you?

[–]babalu32 1 points1 points [recovered]

No. Because she has other "priorities" than sex and I want to keep spending my money.

[–]p3n1x 20 points21 points  (13 children)

How is she with the new you? She knows you changed, my ability to have a couple mistresses saved my marriage.

Women love us being "dogs" and "pigs", they just can't admit it openly because that would hurt their social reputation.

[–]babalu32 1 points1 points [recovered]

Exactly to the point. She loves to be the victim, even if it means me shagging the neighborhood. It is all she wants.

[–]p3n1x 16 points17 points  (11 children)

I may screw up the quoting, but my youngest plate (late 20s) tried to explain why she "trusts" me over other potential providers. It boiled down to her saying "you will fuck whoever you want, when you want, but you are honest about it"... something like that. Basically behaving like mother nature intended, keeps her wet and makes her feel safer.

[–]Valendore 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The summer before my Junior year, I hooked up with this one girl I had the hots for all the previous year. I was driving her home one night and we pulled off, chatted a little, and she asked if I would try to say we will have a long distance relationship (I was transferring to another campus 3 hrs away) after tonight, I looked her dead in the eye and said "no way, that's 3 hrs, and I don't want to deal with that" She smiled and said good, if you would have said yes, I was going to have to take me home now.

Its surprising how honesty works.

[–]fanturnedon 1 points1 points [recovered]

My wife is the exact opposite. She knows I fuck around and has asked me to not bring any drama home and we'll be alright. She also knows it's her "low libido" that caused it and accepted the fact I will not settle for 30 minutes of sex twice a week. Sex used to be every day when we were in our early 20s and her libido has legit plummeted while mine has increased (gym and good nutrition plus got better at gaming sluts) I thought she was cheating for the longest time but could never find any proof or even any suspicions, I even hired a detective and he found nothing either. Turns out she's just become a boring fuck. Apparently it does happen.

[–]p3n1x 5 points6 points  (0 children)

keep it to myself and not bring any drama home or our social circle

Discretion. The winning formula.

[–]babalu32 1 points1 points [recovered]

It might be. I really think this marriage thing is really doomed.

I had an uncle that would bang his wife every day, even after he passed his 75 years old. She would go around telling everyone how she suffered. It was the most disgusting shit I have ever heard.

[–]p3n1x 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Sounds depressed also. She willing to eat better and work out? My wifes' ass came back two-fold and she wants to please again.

[–]acetylcysteine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe something else is wrong?

[–]dthlist 0 points1 point  (1 child)

How much does a detective cost?

[–]1Your_Coke_Dealer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Instead of burning your own assets so she can't get them, start stashing that cash where she won't look. What you describe is wonderfully petty but not long term helpful. Pretend you're a gambling addict, save the money for yourself, "go broke", and when it gets down to time to divorce, lose your job. You'll look like a bum, and honestly it's probably more pleasant looking like beta bucks til a woman leaves you. But if you're prepared to swallow a lot of pride, you walk away at least without a handicap because it won't look like you've got anything to take in the divorce.

[–]BigHatNoCattle 18 points19 points  (0 children)

#metoo right in the ass at 45 after 20+ year marriage. I am happy and having fun again.

[–]1RPAlternate42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm married and grateful for TRP.

TRP bridged the gap between politico/philosophical libertarianism and interpersonal dynamics, for me.

Watch this video but filter it through TRP

The video gets into the political ramifications of libertarianism, but the key point here is that the philosophy of liberty is about self-ownership.

Once I realized that I didn't have to apply the philosophy of liberty to just political views... but to how I live my everyday life I realized that giving time to someone who gives nothing back is giving valuable and irretrievable pieces of my life and liberty to her.

Now, I give only that liberty and life to her that is necessary. The difference is that now I choose instead of assuming I have to which means I can choose to rescind it.

TRP is the healthiest thing I've done in my life.

[–]etherealembryo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You learned didnt lose. You only lose if you let it happen again while you know. Think of cipher (is it a 'y')from the matrix.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very true, good point. You find the light when you see it and I guess this was just my time. Thanks

[–]1GreenPiller 134 points135 points  (4 children)

I hate reading posts like these, brings back cuck memories

[–]HellRaisor 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Hatred is a good way to stay driven, keep remembering

[–]swimminginblue[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

haha we have all been there man. It’s good to look back and be glad to be out of that shit. #nevergain

[–]GoCleanYourRoom 184 points185 points  (10 children)

Assume every woman you meet has banged atleast a few dudes and if she claims she hasnt shes most likely lying.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 66 points67 points  (6 children)

If she gives you her number, just go ahead and multiply it by three

[–]beginner_ 14 points15 points  (3 children)

3 is usually not enough, especially if the number mentioned dis above 5. If it's above 10 it's mos likely >100.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 48 points49 points  (2 children)

I fucked a chick once who told me she'd fucked about fifty guys. Next time we hang out she said it was still least a hundred. Christ Almighty, I hit that shit raw 😐 I'm still clean though

One poly turbo slut I fucked had banged like 26 dudes in 8 months. And five or six chicks. She had a "boyfriend" that she openly mocked behind his back. I told her she was a horrible girlfriend. She agreed. Then I made it 27 for her.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

That’s what I do now, I was naive at that time

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pussy blocks your vision sometimes, learn from your mistakes and never do it again.

[–]HoundDogs 1 points1 points [recovered]

At the end of the day, I truly believe we are all good people. Our instinct was to do the "right thing". Treat women the way that the culture (and your single mother) tells you to treat them. Look for a long term relationship. Be caring. Be their friend. Be romantic. Be a puppy. Respect their feelings.

Well before places like this existed I was in the same boat as you. Looking back, I can say that it was fucking pathetic but I can't say that I "regret" being that way considering that it was the experience I needed to LIVE, in order to drive change. I made these mistakes countless times in high school and college....and I mean fucking countless. I was a college athlete in amazing shape, while still failing with women repeatedly. I knew something had to change but had no idea what. Then, somehow, I had enough and developed the attitude that women were not worth my fucking time. I no longer cared to even try.

Long story short, I ended up being chased by women fucking relentlessly....again still being clueless as to why this shift happened. Long story shorter, I continue to develop and end up married. Now I have two kids. Wife and I are happy.

THEN, many years in, I come across TRP and start reading. I know now that many of the habits I had developed where why I saw that shift in my SMV to women. This place, strangely enough, has allowed me to kill off some of the "nice guy" habits that remained residual in my mind, and guess what.... my marriage got stronger. I became a better husband, father, and leader.

I see so many people claiming that this place is "misogynistic" and, I'm sure with some cherrypicking there would be ample evidence of this. However, I would argue this: What we have stumbled onto here is truth. It is not kind. It is not sympathetic. It does not care about your feelings. It is simply reality. For a lot of people, reality fucking hurts when you start taking it in. However, I've never met anyone who was WORSE off long term, because they learned the truth and adapted their life to reflect it.

[–]mghibli 8 points9 points  (2 children)

Misogynist? Please, women don’t even deserve my hate.

We are more like blasphemers who refuse to believe in the fairy tale imposed systematically by society to fuck us. Make no mistake we all had been fucked.

Yes it did hurt but there comes a time you no longer feel that pain in your ass constantly. Actually the pain goes away. But even if you amputate your leg, your brain will play tricks once in a while so you remember it every now and then. Nothing a man can’t handle though.

[–]Cissnowflake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy crap, it’s not misogyny it’s blasphemy. Most profound thing I’ve read in a while.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 7 points8 points  (3 children)

wow absolutely well said, I could not agree with you more. I hated the pain when I was going through it but now that I look back and how much better I am after finding these inconvenient truths, I realized I NEEDED to go through it in order to change and I can never look back. Thanks for sharing

[–]HoundDogs 1 points1 points [recovered]

I remember that pain. Fucking awful. The anxiety of what to do/say next or when to tell her how I felt, only to find out some guy made it further with her in a day than I did in months was literally sickening. It turns my stomach now just to think about it.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Soon, you’ll be that other guy.

[–]time4vipassana 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This place gets a lot of hate cause we're speaking the truth in a time of lying. Society needs blue-pilled men in order to remain stable because blue-pilled men bust their ass at work in order to be or buy what they think gets women hot and bothered.

[–]time4vipassana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This place gets a lot of hate cause we're speaking the truth in a time of lying. Society needs blue-pilled men in order to remain stable because blue-pilled men bust their ass at work in order to be or buy what they think gets women hot and bothered.

[–]Trowawaycausebanned4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women hate it because it's men empowering and they see it as a threat. But it really benefits them in a roundabout way because it's making their men better and they don't know that secretly they're secretly reading TRP.

[–]LTC-trader 1 points1 points [recovered]

And you were ready to marry her, pretty much

[–]swimminginblue[S] 35 points36 points  (6 children)

Sad eh , the tricks the mind plays when your in a scarcity mindset.

[–]p3n1x 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Innocence is a bitch. So many kids are kept in the dark about the real world and then "bam". Disney is successful for a reason.

[–]Lavlamp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's so easy to fall into sometimes. That's what real bro's are for, to bitch slap the blue out of your shitty decisions.

[–]vitamann 4 points5 points  (2 children)

You where spared the trouble of marrying her, fights, divorced raped, etc. I wasn't...

[–]daremeboy 2 points3 points  (1 child)

By friendzoning, she actually made him dodge a bullet.

[–]Knazgrim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes the universe was looking out for him

[–]LeftHookTKD 4 points5 points  (4 children)

This is why you should never marry.

[–]-Tepes 1 points1 points [recovered]

At least not some two dollar slut who appears as something she aint, whos been fucked by a bunch or even some other guy than you.

[–]LeftHookTKD 6 points7 points  (2 children)

90% of women these days have been fucked a bunch by many different dudes. It's not worth it.

[–]-Tepes 1 points1 points [recovered]


Well, I will actually take your 90% estimate and raise that to 95% of chicks born after 1985 in the western society, unless we are talking about some unicorns thats been married off.

And here is the kicker, a young virginal girl is like a guy who won the lottery, the more shes whores it up, less her worth, and far as I am concerned, any chick whos been fucked yes fucked, like a fuck slut usually is, often not even knowing the guy for an hour or remembering his name, happened to me where some hoes cant even tell me my name no more.. Anyway.. Deal is wont be taken as anything more than dehumanized fuck dolls. End of discussion my man. A mans value on the other hand is never affected an rises long as he takes care of his body and his finances.

I will even go as far as to say that these days, not only marriage, but entering a relationship after you take the redpill, with a girl whos been fucked left and right, is disrespectful to oneself. wont you agree?

[–]LeftHookTKD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, I will actually take your 90% estimate and raise that to 95% of chicks born after 1985 in the western society, unless we are talking about some unicorns thats been married off.

If I heard 95% I wouldn't be shocked. It's just a number I threw out there, but my point is that marriage in this day and age is idiotic.

but entering a relationship after you take the redpill, with a girl whos been fucked left and right, is disrespectful to oneself. wont you agree?

100%. Don't waste time with these sluts. Fuck them and move on.

[–][deleted] 41 points42 points  (5 children)


there's a film (a great one) where they say: there'd be no flowers in spring without rain in winter.

Why didn’t I discover this shit earlier ? Fuck.

So, no. It would be not profitable and preferable to "start learned". Trials and tribulations are a stage of life, an absolutely needed one.

TLDR Fixed version: It's good I suffered, it's the right "groundwork" for following learning. Now I wanna learn as much as I can — and never let oneitis erase from my knowledge from my mind.

[–]beginner_ 9 points10 points  (1 child)

So, no. It would be not profitable and preferable to "start learned". Trials and tribulations are a stage of life, an absolutely needed one.

Agree. There is only one cure to oneitits. It's to experience it and fall flat on the face because of it. That should permanently cure it.

[–]awakenedspirit1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish it was not this way. But now I don't see how I could've learned without

[–]Lavlamp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's like bombing your classes, taking a gap year (or ten) and then going back and wanting to learn.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, that’s how I see things now. Thank you very much. The pain that I went through gave me a foundation, it’s the reason I ended up here and if it wasn’t for it, I wouldn’t have been forced to make a change.

[–]1cappadocianhawk 78 points79 points  (5 children)

Usually it takes one to get majorly fucked by a woman mentally and/or economically to see the truth. Some of us went through years of pain and misery for the illusion to break. Some never make it.

The usual story is finding a unicorn and then learning painfully that AWALT.

[–]Lavlamp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish I learned this easy. It took literally dozens of brutal breakups for me to learn. I've always been able to pick up super easily, but always wanted more and would end up a little bitch by the end of it. Now I just spin plates, fuck commitment.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Divorce-raped after 7 years of rock-solid faith and fidelity on my end. I too thought I'd found a unicorn, until -that day- came. My eyes are open now because my eyelids were torn off in the process.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly, that’s what I learned. Looking back I appreciate the pain that I learned from my previous oneitis’. The illusion was finally broken, whether I liked it or not.

[–]lucasven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's my story, unicorn and AWALT

[–]daremeboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The alternative is to be born a sociopath who "naturally" exhibits alpha traits. There is nothing to learn from those people though.

Empathy is useful, and those without it end up at a disadvantage over someone who can learn balance.

[–]MisterInspector 23 points24 points  (2 children)

Im glad I found RedPill when I did, after being a beta orbiter for this one girl I tried hard to be with and completely fucked over a (real?) relationship with a different girl to pursue the other one like an idiot.

[–]excaliboor 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Did you recover the fucked one?

[–]MisterInspector 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not. I was blocked by her a year ago. And I blocked the other one on all forms of social media recently.

[–]red_matrix 38 points39 points  (1 child)

One guys slut/plate/fuck toy is another beta's oneitus. Really puts things into perspective. Talk about being red-pilled the hard way (or the only way?).

[–]swimminginblue[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s a painful realization but one that is needed.

[–]Ackcell 15 points16 points  (1 child)

absolutely love posts like this one. while in the process of unplugging you need constant reminders that AWALT, even that innocent cutie who you think is a unicorn. thanks for sharing, dude

[–]swimminginblue[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I learned that lesson the hard way, the only way. And anytime!

[–]fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- 16 points17 points  (4 children)

Yup. For every girl you just can’t get, there’s a guy or group of guys who have fucked her like a PornHub video. It’s just reality.

[–]witch_pimp 12 points13 points  (2 children)

So true. No woman is ever completely honest about her past. I've heard some insane shit about some past flings. Blew me away. Now I wanna go back and experience more of what I didn't even know I missed out on. Haha.

And remember. If girls ever talk about their numbers... those figures NEVER include other forms of sex (oral, anal, handies, etc.) Just because a girl is a "virgin" doesn't mean she hasn't had 300 cocks in her mouth.

[–]fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- 6 points7 points  (1 child)

“Just because a girl is a ‘virgin’ doesn’t mean she hasn’t had 300 cocks in her mouth.”

10000000000% truth.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

lmao reminds of an arab girl I know, 3 boyfriends, did anal with all of them and etc

"i'm still a virgin" LOL

[–]neverquitman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Triggering as fuck but yeah, especially the innocent ones. There are exceptions but most non conservative chicks did it.

[–]Forcetobereckonedwit 23 points24 points  (7 children)

I discovered TRP in my late 50s and I am forever grateful. I now take my natural position in the M/f dynamic and my antlers reach skyward.

It is never too late to benefit from TRP.

[–]ImSteveMcQueen 10 points11 points  (2 children)

I just turned 50. Life is good.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I'm turning 50. I just completed my first full month of lifting. It's never too late. I used to bike, run, swim, yet never just focused on lifting until now. Life is good.

[–]ImSteveMcQueen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was never really out of shape badly. But I didn't lift until a couple years ago and only seriously for the last year. It it quite rare for a 50 year old man to have pecs and biceps and almost have abs showing. We are a rare find for older women.

[–]fromthecrypt8 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Glad to see guys at your age here.

[–]serdarix 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I would be still grateful if i discovered TRP the day before my death. Pain enlightened the path to truth for us. That pain which caused my unplugging is nothing if you consider the pain of living a whole life as a battery for feminine imperative (although you won't feel it).

I'm praying for the holy pain that caused my unplugging every single day. I also genuinely thanked to the bitch that send me to TRP. I said 'I would waste my whole life for bitches who didn't worth a single hour of it, if i didn't meet you.'

Being awake may be painful, but it's the only way to actually live.

[–]Usziel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thought about thanking the girls who let me down in the moment but now that I think about how many bullets I dodged i.e. kids, divorce, mental anguish. I still have come out ahead of them and still have the chance to be an awesome dude.

Honestly, my failures with women have allowed me to see the red pill for what it is even the parts that seem ugly now make sense and I appreciate them more than the booty I could've yanked the old way I am way more excited to see the booty I can get this way now.

It's now given me the power to say I am the commander and if it fails it's on me in any and every situation with women. I used to fear being that Alpha because I was afraid of the power that came with it. Now I relish in the sweet strength found in my commitment to self mastery and I find the new responsibilities to be intoxicating and addictive...

[–]swimminginblue[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I should be happy I discovered it now! Best of luck to you and thanks for sharing

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (4 children)

This post brought to my mind Tom Wolfe's masterpiece, I am Charlotte Simmons.

A matchless novel on hypergamy, female no-exception feral (and socio-fake) nature, and the red pill altogether.

[–]ImSteveMcQueen 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Thanks for sharing the book. I might read it.

Does Tom Wolfe have any other good books for RPers ?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

His later Back to Blood is all about hypergamy too.

Charlotte Simmons is more literarily refined and deep, Back to Blood is more "paperback". Both are masterpieces and feature as main personage an hypergamic woman who does some good climbing up.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Ditto. I had oneitis in college for a beautiful blonde. I thought she was an angel. Turned out some alpha would just show up at her place and bang her occasionally. AWALT.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

LOL I had one for a innocent nerd, so shy and fragile. While I was working up my courage for 2 months to ask her out.

4 guys ran a train on her and she's an escort. shattered my world. I asked myself why me and then i found TRP.

[–]michasv 16 points17 points  (0 children)

she is just another human being.

[–]neverquitman 21 points22 points  (13 children)


this is like when slim understood that the dude was stan in the end.

In the end, how the girls were raised is what makes you want to marry her. Not her looks. Thats what matters..

[–]Lavlamp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I now only bang chick's who have good relationships with their fathers. They are always eager to please. Chick's with daddy issues are always a headache.

[–]archetypicalman 7 points8 points  (10 children)

How do you gauge a girl's upbringing? Do you have some litmus tests for character?

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (4 children)

Make sure she wasn't raised in America.

[–]Iord_perfumes 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Nah man, I got a good American girl. They're out there.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Absolutely. What I was getting at is that it's good to be cautious when dating women raised in Western culture.

[–]Iord_perfumes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cautious? You should be donning full battle regalia.

[–]Lavlamp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Easy. "what's your relationship like with your parents?"

Don't be afraid to qualify your women. They are applying to what ever position you have open be it plate, FWB or ltr. Be picky, let them know you are picky. Make them work for it.

[–]excaliboor 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Do you really expect to know that by looking at somebody? You have to get to know her over a longer period of time.

[–]greenlittleman 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There was post about it on TRP with which I'm agree. There is big correlation between her family and behaviour in LTR. Basically if relationships between her father and mother is something you want to see in your family, then probability of her be suitable for marriage is many times higher than if her father is blue pill cuck and mother is crazy bitch. Women can simulate good behaviour if you are important for them, but they couldn't keep this up after few years and then their behaviour become mostly imprinted by parents.

[–]archetypicalman 2 points3 points  (1 child)

No, but from experience someone shows their true colors in at least two situations. Travel, and Transactions. So in the case of a girl, maybe you could see how they deal with splitting bills on a date, or giving to charity. This, of course, is not just limited to girls. I'm curious to see if there are more.

[–]fromthecrypt8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the splitting the bill thing is more complex than upbringing; alot of women have this fairytale vision that they’ll meet a chivalrous guy who will sweep them off their feet, and paying the bill (in their delusional minds) is often viewed as a symbol of his appreciation for her, notwithstanding the realization that the guy of course faces the same expectations by most of the other bitches he dates too! And most men with a brain and a shred of dignity do not want to become women’s dinner-machine. Bitches are just delusional when it comes to these things.

[–]bluedragon239 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Ouch bro, hopefully I can avoid this in college. I'll take your story and remember that

Was mike Chad or just a natural alpha?

[–]swimminginblue[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Natural alpha, he was given what some of us have to earn.

[–]Grimsterr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, sounds like me in 7th grade when my oneitis walked into our class, transferred from the local private bible school when her parents divorced and her mom couldn't afford the tuition for private school anymore.

Chased that shit until graduation, came home Christmas break freshmen year, and "caught" my special little snowflake. Realized she was drugged up, fucked up, and already well on her way to used up, at 18, and I didn't even try to get her back to my place on our first, and last, date. I was dumb but at least not dumb enough to seal my fate.

[–]prostaddict 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Ugh reading this brings back painful memories that set me on this path. Feels good to be able to look back and feel disillusioned

[–]dta9191 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude....Same here. Thought I found a unicorn, dated her for two years, watched it all fall apart and her take all that juicy experience I gave her straight to the next guy. I'm still pretty mad about that. This kind of reading is definitely a very important reminder of the path we should probably stick to.

[–]-Tepes 1 points1 points [recovered]


Look Dude, hate to come off as an ass, and dont get me wrong, But Lol. Remember this with the next woman you are all head over heals over, if you are reading it anyway,

“ Yeah I fucked her, multiple times, "

Exactly, and dont you forget,

didn’t even need to take her out on a date, I would usually just go over, “

and this, you were gona take this little slut over dinner. without anything any commitment or anything at all required..and you want to dress her up as anything more... multiple times, and mike aint the only guy there will be you or ten more.

Now I dont know either one of you but from the sounds of it, Mike sounds like a good guy, and you a good learner not letting your ego or emotion get in the way or learning, what I have found with some "beta friends" has been they back stab you, so dont you go around backstabbing mike there.

Final lesson, next time you are with a chick, remember fucking is likely what shes worth. treat her like a piece of shit unless she proves to be otherwise. I am gona sound like a evil prick for saying this, but take it from guy whos been in the trenches.. ;) good luck and welcome abord. and remember not everything is black or white, red or blue, determine things yourself.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Thanks my man. Oh absolutely, this was a lesson that I needed to learn and damn am I lucky I learned it. It’s changed my entire perspective. I can’t help but to look back and laugh haha. Let the journey continue, time to get even further out of the trenches. Thanks for sharing

[–]-Tepes 1 points1 points [recovered]

You have my sincere brotherly understanding my man, regardless of your race or creed, look it happens to the best of us, your story has happened to a few good friends (betas who turned on me later even though I tried to help them because they are gentlemen, gentle means slave in the torah, dont be goyem ;)) And this kinda shit in relation has happened to me in my younger days per say where I would give maybe some girl a chance but almost every time turns out shes just another cock riding slut whos been bangged by ten other guys with nothing else needed, so as usual as you age you will slowly have a DGAF (dont give a fuck) attitude, so I rarely show my investment. Now deal is women have a way of being either attracted or repulsed by me, its my dark triad mental disorder at play, agressive, direct type, like your mate over there I guess, now back in my day there was no TRP to explain things, but watch out it can be a double edged sword, most guys here are former betas or some alphas or some posers, digest and process and look within not without, but most guys here will give you straight advice, but again you dont need non of us, just use our expriences and yours to make up your mind, ultimately its your life and you do whatever you want, guys like me see keeping most women around as disrespectful to our own self worth, Do this, go focus on body building, focus on making money, then focus on talking to girls and ask them out, no small talk, direct..if thats not your thing try to be blatant...but whatever you do, go for women, give them one, and eventually when you get a chance, give one to her, as I say, break her heart, rub it in, call her what she is, then never call her back again... you will thank me in 5 or ten years.. All the best

[–]swimminginblue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Time to go focus on my mission

[–]Andgelyo 3 points4 points  (1 child)

“Fat and full of hormones”

You have a way with words my friend. The first thing I think of when hearing that is a chubby neck beard with Cheetos crumbs all over his mouth and hands, starting at girls windows.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

painfully accurate, replace window with online porn. Those were sad times

[–]Attractos 2 points3 points  (1 child)

" I laughed " I could sense the pain in that last word.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Surprisingly, there was no pain. I was way over her at this point and had began my TRP journey. It was just disbelief at how ignorant I was and how accurate this sub is. That’s what resonated with me the most.

[–]Gozsayin 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Bro I'm only 22 and I wish I had this when I was 15. I was so blue pill I had multiple woman confess to me and I turned them down because T.V taught me u can only like one girl at a time. So I stiff armed the other girls to chase my "dream girl". Only to get dumbed right before the prom after I finally grew pair and asked her out. Boy was I in a bad space for years. Trying desperately to understand wtf went wrong. Trp taught me to the point I can literally pinpoint days/conversation where I can go Aha! So that what happened.

[–]swimminginblue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn exactly, after I learned this stuff after the fact I am able to look back and see what I did wrong. Damn, it’s so cringe and embarrassing sometimes but that a part of the process, makes you so uncomfortable so you never go back. Thanks for sharing

[–]drkinferno72 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The more Christian or innocent a small town girl is the more likely she's dtf once god can't see her at college.

[–]OSRoll20 1 points1 points [recovered]

Really I never had problem with being zoned and moon-eyed. I just find women incredibly fucking boring because I have no interest in small talk or pop culture. All the sneaky manipulative shit isn't nearly as annoying as them being boring. But that's true of most people, also. The Normie Question is the one that demands a Final Solution, women are small potatoes.

[–]mnhoops 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I just find women incredibly fucking boring because I have no interest in small talk or pop culture.

I also have no interest in those things but don't find women boring. Some of them who drone on and on, sure, but guys can do that too.

[–]Iord_perfumes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of them who drone on and on, sure

My dude, you're not gonna find a girl who doesn't drone on and on about mindless garbage. You're just not giving them enough time.

[–]clavabot 2 points3 points  (1 child)

"I was fat and full of hormones, vices from a summer of shit food, beer and laziness I was blue like the sky on a clear midsummer day."

Are you me?

All kidding aside, thank god I found TRP, On that Lifting Train, gonna get to becoming more social but its a process eh,

Good luck brother

[–]swimminginblue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Godspeed homie , thanks and good luck

[–]Cissnowflake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had this exact experience as a blue pill undergrad. She was so sunny and innocent. I would have done anything for her, was always there for her, calls in the middle of the night, anything.

She fucked my “best friend.” Casually and multiple times.

Destroy oneitis.

[–]___heisenberg 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Any tips on letting her know that you’re interested, but not overly?

[–]dta9191 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Ignore her? That's good one. I'd like to here more on this.

[–]Mmagikarp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on where you are and what you are doing. What I do, and I'm not saying it's the Red pill way, this is my way. @ College, "Hey you are pretty and I'd like to get to know you. What's your number?". - To- @ Club "You got a fat ass let's go to my place". But honestly I can give a girl the cold shoulder and her frienszone guyfriend will let me know that soandso want's to hookup with me. Work on yourself and raise your SMV to be honest.

[–]JupiterNines 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got to lose, to know how to win

[–]Venus-cutter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, even as a college freshman, that girl wasn't a virgin. She was probably gorilla-fucked multiple times in high school.

It's extremely easy to have the 'innocent doe-eyed virgin' look for girls, and many of them do attempt that, because they know guys (and other girls) like it. The more you peel back the layers, the more you know. Unless they're ultra religious and socially retarded, but even those girls get gorilla fucked from time to time.

Also, dude, it's easy for blue-pilled guys to care about "virginity" or how many times their girl got gorilla fucked in the past.

I would advise: "Who cares." Most of the time it's completely irrelevant and just your irrational jealousy and ego popping up.

It's ultimately a meaningless standard, in terms of whether your girl will cheat or not. Yeah you don't want to drive a 'used car' - but you can say the same about you, a male. The quicker you get over sexual experience, the better. The experienced girls obviously fuck better, too, and I would actually SHY AWAY from virgins at this point (unless I knew they were super hot and not clingy).

[–]time4vipassana 1 point2 points  (1 child)

And that's the way it goes, folks. Reality is not for the blue-pilled.

[–]packetdata 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sophmore year of college,same story diff girl the only good thing that came out of that relationship was i discovered redpill.

[–]rossiFan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a second I read "bulimia". That would suck.

[–]-Tepes 1 points1 points [recovered]

One this I dont get. Some Guys, (I had a friend in this situation) Onenitis for a chick you didn't even have any intimacy with or hanged, dated, fucked or even kissed or anything. WTF.

So what do some guys just having seen a chick go like "oh its the love of my dream's then oh I have lost her shes a cock banging slut dripping bunch of guys cum"


[–]swimminginblue[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Scarcity mindset does that to you. And my abundance mentality was nonexistent, drier than the fucking Sahara desert in a drought.

[–]Venus-cutter 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It's actually very common. And most guys (and women too) don't learn that you need to actively NOT start crushing/ falling in love with a girl you haven't fucked. You can actively AVOID it, or INDULGE in the crush by day-dreaming, wacking off, talking to them all the time (without moving things along).

I never do it these days, but in high school college, I would commonly get these 'crushes'.

[–]neverquitman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its been ages since this post but how do you actively "AVOID IT" if you really want to fuck her like in those pornhub movies ?