This is a post that started off as a reply to a guy that was experiencing approach anxiety on asktrp.
One thing that a lot of new guys get wrong is that they believe that our advice to build your own SMV is only tied to the benefit that the higher SMV provides itself.
In other words, many newbies here believe that we only teach people to lift or study hard, when they'd rather jerk off to Mia Khalifa and watch LCS, so that women might be capable of recognizing their higher SMV upon seeing their muscles or their shiny new cars.
That's not the whole truth. We teach that also because it builds character.
A man without character is but a boy. The boy hasn't gone through enough suffering, he hasn't implemented discipline in his life, he hasn't faced enough of his own fears in life that he might call himself a man.
He is only a wanderer seeking mere short-term pleasures that give him the perpetually shortening satisfaction that he requires in order to delude himself constantly that his life has any meaning.
That is why a boy and a man experience different things when approaching a woman.
Lift. Improve your SMV. Recognize your SMV improvement. Internalize TRP concepts. Recognize the man you are becoming and have become.
The result of all the decisions you've taken where you chose the hard path instead of the easy and pleasurable one is a man with not only higher SMV but, most importantly, with character.
Character is the foundation from which all other qualities arise. It's within character that good frame that we so much talk about here exists. It's within it that you find your mission. It's within it that you find abundance mentality.
You'll look around and you'll see mostly skinny-fat passive males with no concept of how to make a girl wet.
Realize your competition has chosen to spend their lives playing League of Legends and watching Netflix, while you've been lifting heavy ass weights, sweating your balls off in the gym, removing your addictions from your life, grinding hard through your academic or professional career, reading the words of great men and facing your fears. They have quit the game while you have become something not many do. You have become a man.
If you're not doing this, then you SHOULD be feeling internal resistance when making the decision to approach a woman. You know deep inside you're not worthy of having that girl. Your body knows it, your brain knows it.
Don't approach her because you're not a man yet, they tell you, you're still a boy. What's special in a boy whose past-year-achievements can be summed up to getting to Diamond elo and having binge-watched Stranger Things?
Take the hard path and next time a girl gives you IOIs you know you're capable of handling her. What's a 125lb silly little girl to a 440lbs deadlift?
After all, she's just secretly a little slut that fools everyone else besides you. You know her secret. Rollo has taught you their fascination for dominant men, dr_warlock the emotions she wants to feel in the interaction and GayLubeOil the technique to slap that ass.
Mention something about the venue you're in. Whatever it is. She'll answer positively if she's been given you IOIs. Get to know her. Close. Done.