Hi All. I am new to this forum and after spending hours going through the posts on here i could not agree more with most, if not all of what is said on here.
My path, day of awakening, and new perspective on women and life.
I am a 32 year old tall, fit, and successful guy. I am recently separated. This is my story.
I was in a LTR for 6 years, two of which i was / am married.
I met my now estranged wife through work back when we were both new graduates at a global consulting firm. I was a prime alpha (competitive bodybuilder), 6'4, and wealthy through years of saving and investing.
She pursued me like i have never been before. She basically forced herself into my life and made it her mission to integrate herself as possible into my day to day life. Eventually after a few months of this we ended up getting together and she was basically a stage 5 clinger, which at the time i found endearing as she was quite attractive and charming. She would essentially force herself into my life and make sure she was involved in everything from hanging with my friends to charming my family.
This went on for a year and eventually i caved in and we moved into an apartment together First BIG mistake.
The warning signs that i had been a victim of false advertising started on the very first night we had moved in. If i were to plot effort and affection over a time series then on this particular day it nose-dived to 50% of pre-committed levels. This was not just a reduction in the amount of sex and affection, but in general courtesy and behaviour.
When we moved in together she brought nothing, had nothing, and was in fact in $40,000 in debt. Let’s just say I’m an idiot for agreeing to this arrangement, but i was a blue pill kind of guy then.
Over the course of the next few years whilst living in the apartment i could see a slow degradation in her respect for me. This could be seen by her increasingly bitchy and controlling behaviour etc.
One by one her friends start getting engaged and hitched. She is wanting the same. She begins to swing back to the lovely charming woman she had led me on to believe she was. I did have my doubts, but after much internal deliberation i decided it was a good idea to put a ring on it (Not a good idea, once again I’m stupid).
Throughout the short engagement i started seeing her true colours. Nasty, controlling, uncompromising etc. etc. I just rationalise it by thinking its due to "wedding planning stress".
Initially we had agreed to have a pretty bare bones wedding etc. this did not end up being the case and cost me in excess of $40,000. I just copped a lot of shit from her as she wanted everything to be perfect and i caved thinking that "this is normal".
So, the wedding comes and goes and we start looking for our dream family home. Once again i must highlight that she has no money and blows her high monthly salary on selfish stuff like dinners with her friends at swanky restaurants, clothes and just general bullshit. I on the other hand have continued to save my ass off to build up a good capital base to buy a great home.
Basically i get pressured in to leveraging myself as much as possible to be able to buy this house (which i love). We buy our house (approx. $1.2m) in which i stumped up 90% of the capital.
We move in to our house and life is pretty perfect for the first few months, until her best friend decides to dump her long term boyfriend because she is 'bored and wants to live', basically code for "fuck other dudes and be irresponsible".
As soon as my wife tells me this my stomach sinks, and i know that i am going to be fighting an uphill battle here to combat the influence this friend is most definitely going to be pushing on her.
I see the results straight away. She comes home from work every day saying that her life is 'beige and boring' and there should be more to life than just working and paying bills. I start to get really worried here.
Fast forward 2 months. My wife comes home from work with the news that she has decided to take an overseas secondment for work, without even considering that we have just bought an expensive house and have a shit load of commitments. I am stunned, and, i know this is the beginning of the end.
What happens over the next 6-8 months is text book. She checks out of the relationship, starts going out a lot partying with her friend, and basically drops the ball on her home-life. She just didn't care anymore, she was going overseas for work with her friend.
We barely talked anymore, there was NO intimacy, NO sex, NO anything. I was miserable.
We had a number of tough conversations about our future and she assured me that she was going to work together with me to address our issues and save the relationship, however in the back of my mind I’m over it and basically can’t stand to look at this woman.
She starts spending loads of our cash on just rubbish. I'm talking thousands. In one hit. Multiple times. I confront her about and I’ll never forget what she said, she looks me dead in the face and says "Learn to deal with life. Don’t tell me what to do".
Then and there i could have killed her. I hated her. She became a blood sucking parasite who was now openly treating me like a piece of shit.
Fast forward another couple of miserable months and i have had enough of this shit. I act to stamp it out.
She tells me she’s had enough of MY shit and wants a divorce. I am incensed by anger that i am being thrown away for being a rock solid great guy, so i go to work and know that we are going to have a hard talk that night.
I get home that night from work and walk in the front door. It’s dead quiet. I get a sinking feeling. I walk into the bedroom and it hits me. She has packed up all her shit and abandoned the marriage. I was gutted, not due to losing her, but for putting myself in the position of fighting the divorce-rape that is yet to come.
One week after disappearing she contacts me to 'catch up' and 'see how i am as she is worried etc. etc.’ this is just a bullshit ploy. We catch up and she starts crying and turning on the 'woe is me talk'. I’m not having it and don't bite, i just listen and show no emotion. Then after she sees she’s getting nothing the real motive comes out.
She has the nerve to ask me to get cracking on sorting out the property and financial settlement as 'she doesn’t want it hanging over her head while she’s overseas'. I basically tell her goodbye and haven’t spoken to her in weeks.
The very next day i lawyered up with a prominent family lawyer. I explain the situation and the finances, and had proof to back it up. She is in for a rude shock. She’s getting a very small slice and i will hotly contest any bullshit arguments her lawyers throw at me.
There are no kids, equal earning potential, etc. etc.
One the shock of this had worn off i found the red pill. I now adhere to this way of life in respect to women, it is ALL true and i accept the truth. Never again.
I have still kept in shape and am back into bodybuilding. I got on a number of dating apps and have been slaying a plethora of horny women (some average looking but who cares).
Summary. Women are manipulative bloodsucking and heartless parasites if they feel they can get away with it.
D85 signing out
EDIT 1: For all who are asking, im from Melbourne, Australia.
UPDATE 1: I saw her today (We work in the same building), she waved at me and smiled. I walked past her like she did not exist. Felt good.
UPDATE 2: I have caught her off-guard by ruthlessly serving her with financial settlement terms. I strategised with my legal adviser and she is a position of great weakness financially, i will be setting the terms and she will need to play ball else i will make life hard for her. Thanks for all the comments guys.
Life is going well, i have been applying TRP behavious and i can tell you right now that they work, i'll be continuing on my red pill journey digesting and organically implementing these behaviors, as it stands i still need to actively 'get my game face on' so to speak. I am gaining confidence by the day.