The Red Pill was right all along (self.TheRedPill)

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[–]flyalpha56 464 points465 points  (21 children)

Cut her off completely, when she comes back, ignore her. Fuck her best friend for shits and giggles.

[–]gtafan912[S] 317 points318 points  (17 children)

Lmfao funny you say that because every time her best friend used to come around with us, she'd always eye fuck me. I guess my time has come to go balls deep

[–][deleted] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Good on you, brother. Glad to know you didn't get consumed with bitterness or depression. But that said, for sure get that rage fuck going. Own your destiny. Welcome THEM to the red pill.

[–]xiojqwnko 53 points54 points  (1 child)

Seriously, cut her off. Don't give her the time of day at all. She will likely try to come back at some point. Have some self-respect and don't have any part of it.

That's a personal suggestion

[–]saucierlol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or just hate fuck her once and make her believe it can work again that one night and then bail the next day, block everywhere and consider her dead.

[–][deleted] 33 points34 points  (7 children)

Except, that you've lost the single most important atractant--social proof. She wanted you because someone else had you. Now you're not only alone, but you've been dumped for someone "better." Friend will be too busy eye fucking new bf to even see you.

Forget them; move on; build your circle creating ongoing social proof from friends; slay more pussy.

[–]gtafan912[S] 21 points22 points  (6 children)

She reached out to me a couple of times after the break up asking how I was doing. I don't know if that's just her doing it out of pity or not but she's been contacting me slightly more than she has been while I was in the relationship. Maybe a sign, maybe not. Not too fussed either way anyway lol

[–]LordDongler 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Chicks don't do that shit out of pity even if they say they do.

Edit: I'd like to compliment your attitude surrounding this whole thing. You're going to be alright, man

[–]zyqkvx 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Find out quickly. It's not just about the fuck. You are setting patterns. Are you going to be the type that mops around after every breakup for weeks or years (figuratively or literally) or the guy knows he can fuck another girl in a week.

[–]maplemaximus 2 points3 points  (1 child)

She's making sure she can fall back on you when something goes wrong.

[–]ar4s 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ding ding ding ding ding. This is exactly what's going on.

Anyway, the hard truth is. All relationships are going to end eventually. Most of them end when someone secures the next.

It was either you were gonna do it to her, or she to you.

Seems like you're gonna bounce back and slay some pussy tho.

[–]ISaidThatOnPurpose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ok. She's NOT doing it out of pity. lol.

[–]__ROOSTER__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if she messaged you she wants to fuck, That simple.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Her best friend has probably seen this song and dance before. Maybe she was just letting you know she would be available after Chad showed up.

[–]bazingabrickfists 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Godspeed man! The spite game is always fun for a bit at least

[–]obalisk97 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]PIGamer86 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How about her roommate or her mom?

"Getting some orange juice." Fucking legend.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck her friend for shits and giggles

This would be fucking hilarious

[–]sd4c 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, best friends can get pregnant.

Fuck her mom. If she's 40+, chances are minimal.

[–]Endorsed ContributorRunawayGrain 85 points86 points  (3 children)

For that, I want to say thank you.

You've been given a gift and the best way to say thank you is to go out and apply what you've found here. Channel all that anger you feel into something productive for yourself. Bone up on the sidebar, lift, get in shape, make profitable decisions and just generally just have a good life.

As a starter, focus on making you happy. Forget all the shit you've been programmed with that says you need to find a girl to make you complete. As my old man said, "See to your own happiness, and everyone else is just a passenger on your train." You will start to see shit fall into place when you get to that state of mind.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (1 child)

"See to your own happiness, and everyone else is just a passenger on your train."

GodDAMMIT u/RunawayGrain! Excellent words of wisdom.

[–]Endorsed ContributorRunawayGrain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't take credit for it, it was one of the things my old man told me so many years ago.

[–]Steve_O-- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's the best feeling in the world when you run into her a few years later and realize she hit the wall HARD and you're with someone hotter, living a great life, in great shape and in the peak of your SMV.

[–]Lennythetrp 1 points1 points [recovered]

This stuff happens, we were all there once. Meet girl of your dreams, fall in love, debase your self-worth and tie to to hers. I'm positive this didn't happen for no reason, there's things about yourself you need to be honest with and look at before you consider moving forward. It's easy to be angry right now, but the great potential of this feeling is that you can target new lifestyle patterns (lifting, continual self-improvement) with a greater tenacity.

Also, if you don't already, start a journal or a notebook and start writing every day about how you feel, what you've experienced, and engage in mindfulness activities like meditation.

Don't chase this girl anymore. Don't message or call her, and if you see her around campus ignore her but be polite and stoic if she chooses to approach you.

Sidebar has lots of good info for you also.

Best of luck.

[–]SergiuIlescu 5 points6 points  (5 children)

About journaling, I've had a hard time finding what to write in an organized manners, do you use templates of some sort or do you have an example I could take ideas from if it that wasn't to ask too much? Thanks

[–]velinxs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Doesn't have to be organized mate. Just a place to compose thoughts.

[–]ISaidThatOnPurpose 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Bruh, you are asking how to journal = you are overthinking the point of the process.

It's free form thinking.

I knew someone who's "journal" was a collection of yearly calendars, with cutout magazine photos representing what went on during the weekends.

I keep a word doc that I just throw thoughts into willy nilly. Full sentances are a myth in journals. It's not even for reading, it's for confidence that your thoughts are laid down somewehre in the world so you can release them from your consciousness to make room for other experiences.

Get a paper and a pen. Write down 1 word. Not an important word, don't spend more than 5 seconds thinking of the word. If you can't think of one, write down the first ridiculous word you think of no matter what, after 5 seconds. And unpack your mind from that one word.

[–]L0RD0N 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couldn’t have said it better bro. I also write down my free flowing thoughts and ideas without organization on my notes app for that same confidence.

[–][deleted] 71 points72 points  (6 children)

If you're learning this at 19, you are so lucky.

[–]biglaughingcock 1 points1 points [recovered]

I am 19 and I know this and I want to kill myself

[–]2CasaDeFranco 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It gets better, trust me.

You have the world at your feet, kill it.

[–]Ambiguousdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cognitive behaviour therapy- see how you perceive things negatively, catch it, change your self, change your perception.

[–]ToxicReaper11 1 points1 points [recovered]

I'm learning this shit at 15 bro.

[–]HelpMeFindNewGlasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just 15? I learned this at 2 years old, bro.

[–]AggressiveBeta 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Anytime a woman’s behavior suddenly makes a consistent change seemingly out of nowhere, you can be sure there’s another guy in the picture

[–]dRePe_Thill 13 points14 points  (0 children)

"The Red Pill was right all along" ...

We know. - TRP community

**edit: formatt, +1 for thanking community and mark as field report ;)

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Then around a month ago her behavior suddenly changed. She went from immediately answering my calls to not answering them at all and calling back hours later. She started ignoring or even leaving some of my texts on read and if she would reply she'd answer with extremely short and cold sentences. We organized a day to hang out on Valentine's Day and she flaked. Didn't answer any my calls for hours until she texted me very late that night saying "Sorry I wasn't able to make it".

This is a woman passively "dropping hints". She's hoping you get the picture without her having to say it. It's a cruel and selfish way for her to avoid responsibility for her actions.

I wouldn't have ever thought she'd be that type of person.

It's hard to believe the A in AWALT isn't it.

I was devastated because there wasn't any closure

There is never any closure, but you should ensure she doesn't get any either by presenting her with cold, hard, happy indifference.

Closure, for women, means "being certain he's not attractive" and "leaving him a broken loser". If you happily get on with your life, she gets no closure and it leaves her in a confused state.

. They will lie and manipulate with their words to make you their bitch and have all the power and the upper hand of the relationship so that they can get away with doing whatever they want.

Yes, and then they lose attraction and then they leave. Don't walk so willingly down this slippery slope next time.

[–]Stationarity 12 points13 points  (2 children)

You're lucky you learned this at 19. Took some of us til we were 49.

[–]FlamingAmmosexual 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's no better day than today as they say.

[–]askmrcia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If I had a dollar for every time that I've seen this happen to a guy I'm sure I'd be a millionaire.

I know this sucks because I like everyone else on this sub had this happen.

There is good news in all of this. You learned what went wrong and how you can avoid this situation in the future. Now that you're here you'll better understand female nature. Unlike you, it took three different girls to wake my ass up. And you got some good sex and memories out of this.

Seriously though, this shit happens all the time in college. I personally wouldn't even do ltr relationships in college (really at all, but that's for a different post).

[–]GPbootlegger 7 points8 points  (0 children)

At least you're learning now. You can thank her for that.

I want to clarify something though. Women lie and manipulate yes, but not usually out of malice. They do it because, even regarding a man they care nothing about, they care about how they are seen by others.

She ignores you, because she's so unattracted to you. But she doesn't have the masculine ability to just shut you down. She bitches to her friends that you don't "take a hint". She goes, "UGGGHHH it's him again" to the guy she's seeing now. EVEN THOUGH you were close a week earlier.

So it's not so much women being evil, it's women being women. It's all amoral.

[–]anotherent 14 points15 points  (1 child)

I'm 29 and wish I had this knowledge ten years ago at your age.

[–]saucierlol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, happened to me at 29, which os kind of ironic in a way because im basically 10 years late in every aspect of life, so it all falls into place (also I literally look like early 20s)

[–]bitchpotatobunny 25 points26 points  (12 children)

It's what happens if you don't make them submit.

Careful there serial killer. Reread some of the sidebar. I believe what you mean to say is "If you allow yourself to be sucked into their frame."

Sorry to hear about your life lesson, but be grateful you got to learn it early in life. Use the experience to inspire growth.

[–]gtafan912[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah I probably phrased that out of pent up rage and anger. I didn't really mean that literally. But you get what i'm saying

[–]gtafan912[S] 4 points5 points  (6 children)

Decided to delete that phrase off the post. Realized it was extremely vulgar

[–]bitchpotatobunny 6 points7 points  (5 children)

I wouldn't call it vulgar; it just made the reader question if you understood the difference.

[–]FractalNerve 0 points1 point  (4 children)

Hmm, what is the difference, if I may ask?

[–]bitchpotatobunny 2 points3 points  (3 children)

"Making someone submit" is forcing them unwillingly into your frame. "Not being sucked into her frame" is presenting them an option to enter your frame, or be nexted.

The former is the behavior of an insecure psychopath, the latter is the behavior of someone who truly DGAF.

[–]FractalNerve 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Wow , you're so right about this!!

Today I had a master's class in "learning leadership", our docent is a woman with lots of experience with real big players in the industry. She let us write down answers to four questions about leadership. It was bait, because she used that to judge and time everyone's self-Evaluation infront of them. Even commanded a guy to do stupid stuff repeatedly, to show how submission works, because he fell into her frame, when he didn't question the command. Than made him do the same thing differently, to prove that change in behavior is bound to higher energy cost, but only this energy gives him the ability to remember details about the process, he couldn't recall when doing it how he learned it.

She proved everyone wrong so hard (most were meritocratic nice guys): "You don't get anywhere being just nice. As a leader you can't be nice when you want to see results."

This correlates perfectly with a study, that showed how most higher executive management has traits of a real psychopath, albeit that this is at least in the beginning more of a method than a lifestyle.

[–]Mukato 0 points1 point  (1 child)

what is the name of this class? I would be interested in studying it.

[–]FractalNerve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Leadership needs to be learned", I'm taking notes and we're writing a 20+ page report.

She only cares that we actually do lots of errors and learn from while she's there. Her sidejob is teaching top executives from TV and media leadership.

[–]empty_01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I scrolled down a bit too far to find this, thanks for the words mate. Someone had to say it.

[–]Blackbull_ 1 points1 points [recovered]

Women were put on this earth to submit. You just have to be man enough to be the one she submits to.

[–]bitchpotatobunny 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Willing submission is not the same as forced submission.

[–]TheLun4 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I feel you man. Something really similar happened to me, and i just couldnt figure what in the actual fuck was going on. The day we were supposed to meet and talk seriously, i got flaked and later discovered she was with another guy (lmao). Discovered red pill a while later and it all fell into the right places. Fuck this shit bro, rofl

[–]RedDespair 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Realize that you have to live it for yourself once.

When you are blue you can’t fuck up your relationship just because someone said it on a forum.

Now that you have seen where this path leads you’ll know better in the future.

It’s the sacrifice you have to pay in order to get fully unplugged

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (4 children)

When dumped and you handle rejection like a champ, you always get to fuck them again.

Key is wishing her well while you cheerily continue your path

[–]Dorkan 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Depending on what stage you are into TRP I wouldn't recommend this too much, he obviously still has feelings about this, either love anger remorse, so It would be counter productive just for some sex at this stage Imo.

[–]zyqkvx 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It's the same as how you carry yourself after getting rejected at a bar, or if you find yourself the joke in your friends circle. I've been pushing the 'handle rejection like a champ' thing in rTRP lately. It's an absolutely essential skill. In most circles the guy that approaches a girl, get's rejected and handles it like a champ is seen as the shit for trying and not crying.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

works at work too. I got dinged for a promotion to another guy last year and expressed disappointment but didnt bitch and moan. Got an unsolicited raise

[–]patrickwyeth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly what happened to me, word for word

[–]sixtynineningbeavers 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dog, never ever get in a relationship in college

[–]Endorsed Contributorex_addict_bro 10 points11 points  (0 children)

no shit sherlock

tell this to all those downvoting crews who get triggered every single time i write something about video games or "friendship with women"

[–]newgrounds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry man. Bitter pills, better pulls.

[–]Biggie_Smores 21 points22 points  (6 children)

These field reports always suck because they're always kids.

Dude I was a dishonest shithead to the opposite sex from 17-22 as well. I essentially branch swung to my third girlfriend when I got a car at 16.

Young men; when you are young relationships are so futile to begin with. You're fucking kids. You don't know shit. Not knowing shit about relationships is one of them.

You all really need go get out there and fuck botched, cheat on a girlfriend, have 3somes. Ditch your girlfriend for some other chick.

You all clearly had less than average dating lives. This is all whiney beginner feelings. If you think women are the source of all evil for fuck sakes will you be bleeding from every orfice possible with digust the further you get.

It's absolutely foolish to have had someone be shitty to you and chalk it up as all of them shitty.

I was shitty as fuck too. I've literally done everything you all complain woman do and that makes them the succubus of the planet.

I was also a fucking kid. Whether you agree women ever grow up or not, one thing is inevitable; people grow from experience. Do you think I enjoyed having to fight some chicks boyfriend when I didn't even know she had one?

You young bucks need to roll a flat blunt and maybe see; in your young 20s no woman or man in their right mind would rationally want anything serious.

Then get older and start thinking end game. Those of you who are anti LTR. Have you envisioned what you would be thinking on your death bed. "I banged lots of bitches and now I get to lay here and bleed all over my stacks of cash. And at the end nobody." If that's your honest true end game more power to you. But I'm pretty sure most of you are lying to yourselves that's what you want. Don't let this place convince you that wanting to die not alone and happy is a weak thing. That's inhuman horseshit.

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Those of you who are anti LTR. Have you envisioned what you would be thinking on your death bed.

That I lived my life the way I wanted, maximized my potential, and did all or at least many of the things I've dreamed of.

Doesn't sound too bad to me.

Don't let this place convince you that wanting to die not alone and happy is a weak thing. That's inhuman horseshit.

Everyone dies alone. Married or not.

There are two sides to every coin. It isn't a simply "get in a relationship = you won't die alone". You could get into a LTR and have your whole world fucked up by the woman, or she could be a great asset in your life.

Many anti-LTR can see both sides, and then decide that the "good" side isn't worth the risk of facing the bad side. It isn't "inhuman horseshit", its a cost/benefit analysis.

Trying to shame or scare men who reject LTRs doesn't make them more appealing. There is more to life than getting hitched to someone who may or may not fuck you up.

"I banged lots of bitches and now I get to lay here and bleed all over my stacks of cash. And at the end nobody."

You do know that friends and family exist, right?

[–]zue3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For a guy with such a "fulfilling" life you sure do sound salty.

[–]Niphilim83 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I bet you are fun at parties....

[–]pandaholic23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of parties are we talking about here?

[–]2gudfou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You all really need go get out there and fuck botched, cheat on a girlfriend, have 3somes. Ditch your girlfriend for some other chick.

As a young guy I think it's important to note that you can have an enjoyable sexual life, as I have had. Without the need to do this

[–]zyqkvx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then get older and start thinking end game. Those of you who are anti LTR. Have you envisioned what you would be thinking on your death bed. "I banged lots of bitches and now I get to lay here and bleed all over my stacks of cash. And at the end nobody." If that's your honest true end game more power to you. But I'm pretty sure most of you are lying to yourselves that's what you want. Don't let this place convince you that wanting to die not alone and happy is a weak thing. That's inhuman horseshit

As long as you acknowledge there's a huge difference between between an LTR relationship and marriage. Marriage isn't just about divorce rate it's an attraction killer. The only anomaly I could believe is if you had an LTR so long (25+ years) and married in your 50s. That doesn't even ring true, because if you together after 25 years I'd think you've both not want to fuck with the levers on the machine.

"I banged lots of bitches and now I get to lay here and bleed all over my stacks of cash. And at the end nobody."

So you want to live your life to ensure there's a free puppy on your death bed? Who is going to take care of it.

[–]ActuallyARaptor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I stumbled here 5 years ago, like you, I was young & naive. and while I'm still far from a master of game, I've internalized TRP and always am a step ahead of every social interaction.

I didn't come here to toot my own horn, I came to say it sucks what you're going thru, but AWALT. If you look at this like it's a part of your metamorphosis to manhood, it'll be easier to process in retrospect

[–]TomeofBlood 6 points7 points  (3 children)

Cut her off completely, try to transcend your SMV, try to communicate she's not who you thought she was, try to communicate that something happened and it wasn't you, rotate a harem of equal or higher SMV women around her, have a personal value explosion and a life-changing experience.

If she comes back purposely frame your relation with her as a casual affair then treat like a piece of cud. Sleep with her best friend. Ghost her, just dial back interest and effort to the most casual possible and ignore bad behavior while punishing very bad behavior. Her drama doesn't lead to capitulation or sex. Never be jealous when she tempts you, be calm and resolute like you don't care. Alpha Widow her if you can frame it right.(see: girls ask guys alpha widow). Put her through many hoops of investment then drop her. Demand more concessions from her for your occasional rewards at random intervals.

[–]CrikeyKay 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Sounds like a lot of work for one lady.

[–]rosbergsessa420 1 points1 points [recovered]

It literally takes no effort if you have the SMV for it. It's not really much to do but treat her like another plate.

[–]CrikeyKay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm fairly new here, but from what I've read, it sounds like a lot of work. A better way would be to just live life until she (probably) circles back. That way, if she does, it's all good. And if she doesn't, it's still all good.

[–]Rares5555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Women are not the ones who have the upper hand in relationships.

The one who’s the least invested/less in love has the upper hand.

[–]EatGreatEvnLate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They will lie and manipulate with their words to make you their bitch and have all the power and the upper hand of the relationship so that they can get away with doing whatever they want.

To be fair, your actions (excusing/ignoring a month of bad behavior) handed this 'power' to her and allowed her to play the manipulation game while she performed a month-long branch swing. I imagine you were scared to lose her, thus avoided poking the nest while she acted 'strange'. Lesson learned, and man you are really lucky to be learning this stuff at 19.

[–]jtmazari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Destruction is the purest form of creation. Use this energy to work on yourself and live a life where you do what you want and you just don’t give a fuck. I use to have the best workouts after my heart was broken, this is your first taste of the dark side use this power wisely... anger is a weapon

[–]krawm 1 point2 points  (1 child)

my only is advice is not to hate her, she is a child wrapped in an adult skin and that is all she will ever be...you can be angry at her for her short sightedness and idiocy but dont hate her. hating a child makes you no better than a child.

by hating the female you give her power over you, as yoda said 'hate leeds to suffering' donit wast your emotions on creatures not worthy of them.

[–]Rivale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hating women might lead to the path of misogyny, there's a stoicism ideal in that you must not be too attached to things out of your control, focus on things you can control(yourself) and just improve on that.

[–]Jman1994678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also having a girlfriend in college is pointless. There's a bunch of easy girls you can smoothly get.

[–]--Edog-- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be lucky you learned so young. Don't be so nice in the future. Nice = countdown to getting dumped.

[–]YasserZe 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Move on , let it go , game other girls , and fuck her

[–]newmeforever 4 points5 points  (7 children)

so what did you do wrong to make her behavior change?

Please enlighten us

[–]H42 1 points1 points [recovered]

Most likely, Chad noticed her, her pussy got wet, and she forgot all about him.

[–]newmeforever 1 point2 points  (5 children)

true - but must have been acting like a wussy to make her wanna go.

[–]gtafan912[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong on that. I realized I started giving her too much attention and validation. It probably turned her off.

[–]iwasbornred 10 points11 points  (2 children)

Not necessarily(although sounds like he was from the gist of the post). Sometimes Chad is just better, or better in different categories. Could be personality, looks, money, lifestyle etc... lots of reasons these hoes will branch swing, even from a guy with solid frame.

[–]gtafan912[S] 11 points12 points  (1 child)

even from a guy with solid frame.

That's the key point right there. I'm quite a decent looking guy, i'm in decent shape, and in general I have my shit together. But there's always going to be someone better, no matter how much you work on yourself. That's why I decided to never pursue a LTR anytime soon. Hypergamy truly doesn't care

[–]bluedragon2388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you didn't vet her right

There's ways to have a good LTR where the girl doesn't cheat but you have to be high value, SOLID frame, implement TRP principles, fuck her good, keep gaming her, etc.

And assuming she doesn't have any problems (daddy issues, thot, attention whore, etc)

It's way easier said than done, but it can be done if you start improving early enough and get your shit together. It's not a rare sight but it takes a bit of practice, a lot of failure, experience, and with the right girl.

[–]Dextorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happens to the best of us bro, cut her off and go concentrate on yourself! What’s done is done but if I was you try pinpoint where it stared going wrong and correct it so it doesn’t happen again! First proper relationship dude bound to happen learn from it and don’t do it again! Don’t put her on a pedestal

[–]1v1crown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may be realizing it now, but her flaking out on you is the best thing that could of happened to you. We've all been there. It's what opens our eyes. You are going to have a good life if you keep your eyes open.

[–]OshayPukeJackson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least you realized at a young age brother.

[–]Takenshiro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry that you had to learn the hard way but i also had to learn the hard way just be lucky it wasn't after years in a relationship. Read the rational male, and continue to dive deep into the forums, they're a great community of men who genuinely want to help each other out, aside from the occasional troll, but hey its the internet. I want to wish you luck in your journey but I'm sure thing are going to go great for you!

[–]L0wD0g 0 points1 point  (1 child)

We're all gonna make it bruh

[–]Host_of_Embers 0 points1 point  (3 children)


[–]Xoramung 2 points2 points [recovered]

men have been looking for proof for millenniums....

[–]1Sir_Distic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the right man. You have to include that. Many o' boyfriends can attest that not every girl is a whore. (until they find out that while his bedroom has been dead, hers has been flooded with muscular, confident and not needy cock day and night.)

[–]chinese-bible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, less than a year so it could have been worse.

Be thankful you learned something before you proposed to this woman, sharted out a bunch of kids, and THEN she left you for Chad Thundercock.

[–]INNASKILLZ2K18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ask yourself what you learnt, and what you can do better next time. There is never failure, only opportunities to grow and learn, depending on how YOU choose to take it.

Maybe next time don't give so much to her. Don't make her such a big focus. Focus on YOUR shit, YOUR goals, YOUR self-improvement. Take control of your self worth, don't tie it to a woman.

Always remember you're just having your turn...and you're letting her come along for the ride for whatever length of time she is willing to give you what you want.

Don't look for a woman for emotional support, find it elsewhere.

And next time you get her dropping interest...don't let her rule shit. You coulda been out doing your thing, making other plates, and putting a sense of dread in her.

[–]jaysire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The gift of "everything falling into place" is one of the greatest ones. No more sleepless nights, no more wasted time. It's worth it to take the pill for that alone. Welcome.

[–]_Hamburgler_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This truth just became reality for myself, in a similar manner as well, and I feel liberated to know that my time reading on here has not been wasted reading fallacies. The red pill is as real as it gets, never trust a woman's words. Time to internalize this motivation.

[–]8TheKingPin8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you completely, I was in one relationship similar to this. The problem with me though is that I have autism therefore it's very difficult for me to read what her body language is trying to say. I know when something is off by reading her body language but I can't tell what it means.

[–]DrCarter11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why make a throwaway for this?

[–]varlogmessages 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of her actions were pretty heavy signs. Who cares you're in college. Why would you want to settle anyway

[–]danO1O1O1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's an anger phase, go through it not around it.

[–]Cell_Technician 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to give the feeling you have right now to other sloots by smashing and ghosting. That's how you get off.

[–]mwjwork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guys do this too, but yeah that sucks. Not every girl will do this to you, so don’t beat yourself up too much about it bro.

[–]bluedragon2388 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Ig knowing And applying TRP inner game, being attractive, and taking action would really put you ahead of the curve...

Anyway OP, where did everything go wrong in your relationship?

What did you fuck up?

[–]gtafan912[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I said this to someone I replied to. I got too attached. Near the end of the relationship, I started giving her a lot of attention and validation. I'd text her a lot and call her multiple times a day and that's probably what turned her off.

[–]yummyluckycharms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One more thing to remember when it comes to breaking up with someone - you aren't owed anything by them, nor, do you owe anyone anything in return. You dont owe them a face to face encounter to telling them that you are dropping them, nor do you owe them closure.

In fact, in this day and age, ghosting would be the ideal way of preventing being accused of sexual harassment or trumped up charges of physical assault, which might happen if you dared to give them a face to face meeting to dump them. Cant be charged with something if you werent there, and your phone's GPS can be used in court to prove you werent there.

[–]badlifecat 0 points1 point  (1 child)

dude, I'm sorry this shit happened to you but blaming the entire gender for one experience, especially at the age of 19, is not a good response to this. We all do fucked up shit to one another; this is a fact of life. People are generally terrible an act in their own selfish interest, but you absolutely cannot blame an entire demographic for the actions of one. I hope you get over it and move on but please don't create generalizations out of it. People cheat and fuck around all the time, it's really nothing personal in the end if I've learned anything

[–]1Sir_Distic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Show me a college girl who won't cheat on her bf if she finds a better guy. I'll wait.

[–]Lambdal7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This isn't redpill. She lost interest and flaked, this happens all the time to men and even more women, where guy is tired of fucking her and lets it fizzle out by not responding etc.

[–]zyqkvx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds a hell of a lot like you became ultra needy so it was more about you than her. Don't sweat it, just don't do that. I can totally remember a situation when I was 20 I was as needy as fuck. This is the point you say what the fuck am I dong with this needy stuff and figure it out. It's easier today, you can read stories about others being needy.

[–]stop_stopping 1 points1 points [recovered]

this is the most sexist shit

[–]sleepyweaselisawake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sure is, and it's all true. I'm older than Op and have yet to meet a woman who wasn't a manipulative shrew.