Don't you deserve respect? (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Ketogainsmongoose

"Quit looking at her Instagram, she knows when you're looking."

"Stop giving her attention."

"Act like she doesn't exist. Ignore her. Don't look at her Facebook. Don't talk to her friends. Stop talking to her."

"When she finally realizes that she wants you, that she made a mistake, you won't want her anymore."

-My father, the Boomerang, because he'd always bounce back.

My love life had always been a weird one. If not for my father's advice, I'd have been a dead-to-rights incel. His wisdom and RP-esque advice would carry me throughout my young life. I was pulling HB7s and 8s when I had no business pulling anything greater than a 5.

We'd have long talks that stretched into the night.

"How do I get her to like me, dad?"

"Stop opening your mouth. They think you're attractive until you say something to change their mind."

And on, and on, and on...

When my dad became sick, the advice stopped. He was fighting for his life now. He didn't have time to indulge my oneitis.

Shortly after, I stumbled upon TRP.

The question on my mind-

"How do I get this girl to love me?"

Whilst my dad struggled to live, that's all I could think about. The first thing I'd think about in the morning and the last thing I'd think about at night.

"She likes abs? I'll get abs then." -Keto and fasting.

"She likes muscles? I'll get muscles then." -Started lifting.

"She likes bad boys? I'll become a badass, then." -went to the MMA gym everyday.

But it was never enough. It felt like she could see right through me.

I'd share the TRP wisdom with my coworkers. Do this! Do that! You have the value, not her! She'll only respect you if you deserve respect! Like a parrot, I'd explain all the theories to them, whilst internalizing none of it.

One day, I was called out by that same co-worker-

"Until I see you with a woman, I'm not gonna bother listening to anymore of your shit."

I was stunned. The theories were sound! How could he not see that!?

I was a fool.

I saw my oneitis for the last time. I went to her place of work. I had followed my dad's advice and ignored her.

She saw me and came up to me with a big smile.

"Hey you! Don't ignore me, don't give me that look! Talk to me!"

"Whats up, bud."

"I'm just waiting for my ride, my ex bf who cheated on me with his baby momma smashed my windows in on my car, so my homeboy is fixing it."

"That sucks."

"Yeah, so what's up with you?"


"Oh, well... Guess what? I'm pregnant."

Just like that, my frame shattered.

Later that night, I went to my dad, enraged. Yelling, almost frothing at the mouth. The girl I loved! Pregnant! I threw things around our shitty trailer.

"I told you to ignore her son, but you didn't listen. I told you everything you needed to do to get her, and you listened to none of it. Now you're upset that your precious angel got knocked up by a gangster's dick. Get over her, already."

I pushed him, my fist clenched-

"Fuck you, Dad!"

-before I collapsed, sobbing in the corner of our shitty shack in the backyard. My dad came over and hugged me.

"I'm sorry, dad. I'm sorry! I just loved her so much! I did all the things I was supposed to do, and she didn't fall in love with me!"

"She was never going to love you, son."

"She was the lesson in your life, a stepping stone. You wouldn't have done everything you needed to do to be a better man if you hadn't met her. Now it's time to let her go."

"If she truly loved you, she wouldn't put you through this much pain."

"The truth is, son, she doesn't deserve a man as good as you. Not anymore."

And just like that, a message clear as day ran through my mind-

Don't you deserve better than this? Don't you deserve respect?

Those who can't give up anything, cannot change anything.

Progress demands sacrifice.

Your new life demands that your past life be brought to the altar for sacrifice.

A warrior must face the consequences of his actions.

Your oneitis will never see the new you as genuine. To complete your transformation, she must always remain as the one you failed to obtain.

Otherwise, all the pain, all the progress you made, will be for nothing.

The weakling in you will always cling to the dream of you and her, together.

The only way to kill the weakness in your heart is to kill the dream, and accept the ugly reality. This is the final test, don't fail now. The people who don't agree with the new you must be left behind, it's up to them if they stay in your life.

A coward dies many times, a man dies only once.

Don't be a coward anymore, let the past go.

The reality was that you were too weak.

The truth was you deserved what you got: nothing.

The only way to own your future, is to own your past.

Advertise yourself properly, so that the people you're meant to have in your life recognize you. If all they see is a weakling, they'll pass you up, figuring that's who you really are.

There's a story about Vikings entering into Valhalla. The guardians knew who belonged and who did not.

Weaklings would attempt to sneak in, hiding their footsteps, because in their hearts they knew they were cowards.

True warriors walked right into Valhalla, with straight backs, loud and firm steps, head held high. There was no question in their mind that they belonged.

Make sure you're never that weakling again. Make sure it's clear as day for everyone to see what kind of man you are.

[–]maplemaximus 254 points255 points  (20 children)

Live your own life, have your own fun, and seek to have sex, not relationships. You chase after a relationship and you'll find it harder to have sex. Chase after sex only and you'll be swatting off relationships like wasps during the spring.

Just have fun and raise hell, sometimes it couldn't be more simple than that.

[–]Twentyfivedeep 63 points64 points  (3 children)

Truer words were never spoken. When I finally lost my v card and entered the sexual marketplace, I could go months without anything happening, then I'd start sleeping with a girl and all of a sudden there were five others I was having to turn down out of nowhere. Abundance is a beautiful thing.

[–][deleted] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I remember the first time experiencing this. It was the biggest mindfuck ever. This was around 9 years ago so I was around 17, when I was a virgin in high school I never got any attention from women, not the slightest bit of interest, and to be honest I wasn't attractive at all, I was overweight, had an awful haircut, dressed like shit, spent most of my time playing video games. Finally hooked up with a girl that lived in a small town 2 hours away, she was 15 and her parents had split custody so she would come and go for weeks at a time. Met her through a friend that had moved to my hometown from hers. I finally convinced my parents to let me go, drove my piece of shit car all the way to her hometown and spent a few days there and it was like I was a local celebrity to all these people I'd never met. Everyone was so nice and a lot of her friends were flirting with me and eye fucking and what not. She had a big social group and was kinda the alpha bitch of the group. I guess when we were apart she constantly talked about how great I was. That relationship lasted about 6 months then she dumped me, but we were stayed friends. Went back just to visit a few months later and the vibe with her friends was completely different, none of them were interested anymore. This was long before I'd read anything like TRP, made no sense to me at the time.

[–]Federkiel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It´s a Paradigm, a rule of the universe, could also apply it to Money.

[–]CutLiver 1 points1 points [recovered]

This exactly. And it's not completely relevant, but not being afraid to say shit to girls is key. If they piss you off, let it be known by ignoring them and taking away your attention. They'll figure out what they did wrong.

[–]ldamien65 3 points4 points  (4 children)

So instead of assertively communication, one must adopt a passive aggressive stance? Are you sure that's the best way to handle a situation?

[–]CutLiver 1 points1 points [recovered]

It's not passive aggressive if you simply don't want to deal with something. Personally, I don't want drama in my life so if anyone is causing it I'm not interested in being around them.

[–]Elky-pop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any tips on how you withdraw your attention from her?

[–]Ben_Eszes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd say that it's not a passive-aggressive stance here. You can be assertive and say something like, "Not cool." Then you withdraw attention. Women love attention, even if it's negative; therefore, you getting angry and focusing all your energy on her (even if it's negative energy) is still -- in a sense -- a reward to her.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Outcome Independence.

Sometimes, you gotta call their bullshit with your silence.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (5 children)

Hey man, I am trying this for the first time. Girlfriend flaked a big plan. I always end up arguing but this I said alight and stopped texting. She asked me like 3 times am I annoyed or mad at her. I said Nah. Should I continue this till I get an apology?

[–]EnormousMilkers 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Girlfriend flaked a big plan.

What was this "big plan" and why didn't she show up? Genuinely interested what happened.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Well man... We both had exams. We did not see each other for one week. After exams we set a date and planned a few places to go. Some new places for the whole day (friday 9th). Later she said her friends brithday on (13th) she is gonna hangout with her for 3 days before.

Then I took away attention with short replies and not talking. According to a redditors comment here a 180 change does not work we gotta do it differently.

Update on situation then we had a fight saying she does not make me a priority. She said she will see me for a little bit on friday. I asked do you really even wanna see me? She said no and she dont want to.

Past 2 days been cold.

Yesterday I asked why whatsup? She said she needs a break from us.

After a while she said lets breakup

Idk wtf is going on

[–]EnormousMilkers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Massive red flags all around you. Wants to take a "break" (= wants to fuck other dudes) and doesn't wanna see you. If a girl said that to me, i would block her from my life completely.

She doesn't give a fuck about you and most likely has her eyes on some other dude. I would actually bet that she has at least made moves on someone.

You said you don't know what's going on, it's pretty clear to me.

[–]KenMastersMD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ll never get an apology. Just proceed as you normally do.

[–]mummersfarce_is_done 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The answer is, you should not care what she does anymore. She disrespected you, she should be done. Have some self respect. Don't you deserve respect?

[–]Rommel0502 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You chase after a relationship and you'll find it harder to have sex. Chase after sex only and you'll be swatting off relationships like wasps during the spring.

One of the reasons I come here is to find the daily gem. This, to me, is today's.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Chase after sex only and you'll be swatting off relationships like wasps during the spring

Truer words have never been spoken. Plus you'll have among your choices the women that you know are really good in bed. Women can sense when other women are into you. They will work extra hard to get you to be exclusive with them. This is how you can eventually be with just one woman without necessarily having oneitis. Her understanding that youhave options is a very strong check.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

seek to have sex

Seek to make your life better and do things for yourself. The sex will follow by itself.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

nah you still ,chase a little alongside those things, sex doesn't just fall on your lap.

[–]Endorsed Contributorex_addict_bro 56 points57 points  (1 child)

I think I understand this story

Father = an EC over askTRP

Son = every askTRP poster ever

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Boom, nailed it!

[–]2Dmva100 212 points213 points  (21 children)

Good post.

Whenever a woman gives you shit, makes demands, tries to get committment, etc. Just next her. Its literally that easy. Her value goes down every day while yours remains the same and/or increases if you are actually making the effort and not playing Xbox 1260 and forgetting the gym. A new 17 year old girl turns 18 everyday too.

A beautiful woman dies twice; the wall, and at death while pooping her Tena pads.

Have some self respect and dont hesitate to use the NEXT. It is the most important tool to keep you focused and sane.

[–][deleted] 84 points85 points  (9 children)

This reminds me of a quote I heard once.

A coward dies a million deaths, a man only dies once.

Don't be a coward, let the past go.

Good post.

[–]warburgio 18 points19 points  (0 children)

A new 17 year old girl turns 18 everyday too

Young beautiful girls are like snowflakes- totally interchangeable.

[–]trp_nofap_rewire2018 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This and the post perfectly sync with something that happened today. A girl I used to talk to (during my dark BP days) texted me in the morning asking about myself and how scarce I was. I’m ignoring her. If she texts me with something provocative, I’ll ignore once again.

“Never give up what you want most for what you want today”. Responding her would be a signal that I’m still a needy mangina, ignoring means I’m moving on and getting my shit together. I think she recently broke with her bf that lasted 2 months. There are two possible scenarios: a) if I texted her back, we could fuck today. Short-term pleasure, I would feel like shit for the rest of the week. b) I maintain frame, make the hamster spin hard for a few days, move on and stick with my principles. Long-term happiness and keep the unplugging process going.

I’m in a dry spell but I don’t feel starved anymore. If it takes 6months or more to improve my SMV, so be it.

A quick message to you that is going through monk mode: don’t settle for scraps. When you’re more successful, ripped, confident and with your game on point pussy WILL be much more available.

[–]bobaisdope 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for these words! You just rocked my morning, sir :)

[–]PhaedrusHunt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A beautiful woman dies twice; the wall, and at death while pooping her Tena pads.

Three times. When she gets alpha widowed.

[–]DirtJellyBeanz 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Really though? That simple... Just let her go for demands or trying things? Just playing devils advocate here but isn't that how a relationship works?

[–]p3n1x 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you want "good" sex? Or a buddy with a vagina to watch bitch about your (insert what you like) with?

[–]Imalwaysrightred 1 points1 points [recovered]

A new 17 year old girl turns 18 everyday too.

As a 17 year old man (18 soon) should I even go for the girls my age (18) or should I go for girls a year younger?

[–]Raknith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the love of god don't fuck girls under 18 when youre 18

[–]throw31337 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Her value goes down every day while yours remains the same and/or increases if you are actually making the effort and not playing Xbox 1260 and forgetting the gym

The bold part is important

"She likes bad boys? I'll become a badass, then." -went to the MMA gym everyday.

MMA is not equal to bad boys.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

MMA is not equal to bad boys.

Doesn't really matter now, does it? That was the thought process of a person who's dead now.

MMA is fun!

[–]cl3537 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Excellent post sir, we all have one that got away I pined over one for years.

Then I met her again married with a kid, her looks had faded a bit all that was left was her stupid personality which was lacking before and still is. Her husband tagged along to our reunion, i bet he is in constant fear of her cheating.

My dream image was shattered I just didn't care about her anymore.

[–]Taco_Truck_Aficionad 71 points72 points  (2 children)

Those who can't give up anything, cannot change anything.

Direct quote from the Bhagavad-gita.

[–]Federkiel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice, i thought the same here. Sounds a Little advaita like.

[–]danoranika 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that was from Attack on Titan

[–]YungPlayStation360 29 points30 points  (9 children)

Yup. I needed to read this. Thank you, man.

Edit: I recently joined TRP and I just don't see why people hate on it so much from the outside. It's all for self improvement in men. Is it that threatening? 🤷🏾‍♂️

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 35 points36 points  (2 children)

Society fears masculinity, because masculine men are free men.

They dont need us free, they need us smart and innebriated enough to worship them through groggy eyes, while lazy and chained enough to not stand up and take another path. Our own individual path. An individual forging his own path is bad for the agenda, useless to the agenda. Youd be pissed if you were building a shed and your hammer decided to say fuck your shed and took all the nails with him. Thats how the people pulling the strings feel.

That is why the red pill is dangerous.

Just a theory:

You can see this desperate reaching for individuality everywhere, one example is people claiming to be zis unicorn gendered, they want to be their own person but they dont know how. That drives them to insanity.

[–]YungPlayStation360 16 points17 points  (0 children)

"I don't see how can you hate from outside the club, you can't even get in." - Chris Brown. Lmfaoooooo.

[–]Fyrjefe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

"If you want to know the extent of your chains, see what happens when you try to move". The social tyranny definitely clanks a lot when we look to leave our mollified state.

[–]Imnotracistbut-- 3 points4 points  (1 child)

This one is good imo, and masculinity is a good thing, but there are perverted points of view that say masculinity is being an entitled prick that needs to overcompensate for his weakness with over the top obnoxious, borderline sociopath behaviour. That getting laid is worth hurting other's mental health with abuse and other destructive behaviour.

It's hit and miss. It's good side is really good and it's bad side is toxic af.

[–]YungPlayStation360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a shame because there's a possibility of this law being abused too.

[–]csehszlovakze 1 points1 points [recovered]

TRP is hated because we refuse to blindly worship women like bluepillers and incels do, and this is why all parts of the manosphere are considered to be misogynistic. To quote from the video The Apotheosis of Woman by the Groundwork for the Metaphysics of MGTOW, which summarizes the blue pill viewpoint perfectly:

A man throwing a stone at a window has committed vandalism and himself a vandal – but if that window was the stained glass of a church then he has committed blasphemy and himself a blasphemer. And so too, violence against women is no mere violence but blasphemy, impiety, desecration – a violation of a kind particular and unique. Violence against men is mere violence, petty vandalism in comparison.

Now, the news about a Scottish county making misogyny a hate crime makes much more sense, doesn't it? And by the looks of it, Scotland might adapt it in the future...

[–]stonedghoul 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Where exactly incels worship women? I thought they are hatin' on them

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean we commit a lot of thought crime.

[–]rednoobpill 27 points28 points  (0 children)

"Your new life demands that your past life be brought to the altar for sacrifice."

Hit me like a truck, thank you

[–]LazyMagus 24 points25 points  (1 child)

Beautiful post. But I am curious about how this masculine father and the one from 'Man in the Mirror' both end up living in shitty trailers with their sons who won't listen to them.

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This event took place almost a year and a half ago.

The man in the mirror happened about 5 months ago, once my father's condition had sufficiently deteriorated.

You set your own pace, it's simply a question of how much pain you can endure, and if you are willing to pay the price for the results you seek.

[–]ImmortalAl 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm going through a divorce so this story resonated with me. Thank you. Time to move on to better things...

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Very good post. "She doesn't deserve a man as good as you," really spoke to me.

[–]flowrider00 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As a guy who is going through the process of ending a 3 year relationship and effectively bringing myself back to rock bottom,this hit home.

The temptation was there to blame her (unrealistic expectations...Unfair outlook on life) but ultimately the price we pay for being men, is we reap what we sow.

[–]Ezaar 7 points8 points  (2 children)

I will carry this into my retest for mechanics of materials tomorrow.

[–]timdo190 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Engineers rule the world. Not gurls

[–]Ezaar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Draw that free body diagram.

[–]ShawnCCMA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks I needed to hear this.
1. You can't force anyone to love you.
2. You must first die to be reborn.
3. Let go of the past.

[–]lovs2spuge 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Really needed this.

A similar situation to yours caused me to begin RP ways recently. 2 weeks in, and I’ve been loving the process the whole way.

Thanks for this, OP

Edit: just would also like to say that if this situation i mentioned didn’t occur, i would have never stumbled upon TRP. That was where i drew the line in the sand. If my oneitis hadn’t gotten the best of me and that female hadn’t went cold, I’d still be my old beta blue pill self.

[–]Frenetic_Zetetic 5 points6 points  (2 children)

The more you read and learn TRP, the more you realize that all this stuff is, is people just slowly arbitrating their own personalities into not giving a shit anymore.

That's when the magic happens.

Stop trying to untie all these fucking mental knots about how to have the right amount of game, muscle, and fucking hair gel to get laid.

Stop giving a shit about all of it, and get a hobby completely unrelated to sex, and master it.

If you can't do that, you have no business worrying about "game" IMHO.

The discipline of the above will carry you to that magical next level that keeps eluding you, despite your best efforts.

You are what you do, not what you "plan to do" to get a result.

You're just lying to yourself on a different level that your ego approves of.

You will never get an abundance of pussy until you abundantly accept that it's not a priority, and is about as important as that 10 min coffee break you take before getting back to work.

So many talk a big game but still lack the emotional intelligence to control their feelings, and in turn, their thinking and behavior.

Those are the skeleton keys out of the maze of endless doors, gentlemen.

[–]TucktheSnake 2 points3 points  (1 child)

"You are what you do, not what you plan to do to get a result." The importance of this is undeniable. And when you plan things out in an attempt to attract a woman, they will sniff it out, and they will be turned off. When pussy is not the priority it comes to you.

[–]Frenetic_Zetetic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just like money and everything else people fucking obsess over. It all comes when you're on a certain level of being. No amount of reading will ever, ever get you there. It can show you which streets to take, but you need to explore them, fail, learn, and grow.

[–]we_are_compromised 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"She likes abs? I'll get abs then." -Keto and fasting.

"She likes muscles? I'll get muscles then." -Started lifting.

"She likes bad boys? I'll become a badass, then." -went to the MMA gym everyday.

One of the things that strikes me about a lot of the self-purportedly red-pilled or MGTOW men I meet in online communities is that their stated motivation for throwing themselves into the self improvement side of the community is completely hollow. Most of these guys aren't doing it for themselves, they do it because they want attention. They aren't proud of who they are, so they want a shortcut to getting praise, approval, and most importantly the female gaze. They write these cringeworthy, long-winded tall tales about how they went back and hit on the Stacy that dissed them in high school five years ago just so that they could turn her down when she (of course) pulled down her panties right there in the bar and begged them for their semen. These are stupid, pathetic tales of self-validation from weak men who are still psychologically enslaved by pussy. We must call this out when we see it, because the taint of the PUAs and purple pills in this community is very subversive to the philosophy behind going your own way.

[–]mjb212 12 points13 points  (5 children)

While I agree with all of the advice here, one thing bothers me...

so, your dad was dying and all you could think about was some trashy girl you wanted? Idk man. Family should always come first. I'd take a look at those priorities...

[–][deleted] 44 points45 points  (1 child)

This happened around a year and a half ago.

I bought my father flowers for Valentine's day.

That's where the man in the mirror comes in. Couldn't look him in the eye during this.

so, your dad was dying and all you could think about was some trashy girl you wanted? Idk man. Family should always come first. I'd take a look at those priorities...

The redpill is seeing things for what they are, not what you want them to be. You're absolutely right in being disgusted by this part of the story. It made me sick to think about, looking back at it.

But I have to face the reality of my actions. I refuse to hide what I've done through clever wording.

A man who chooses pussy over their own family is no man.

You can rest easy that I paid my penance, and I ruthlessly hunted down the weakness in myself that was responsible and eliminated it without mercy, without hesitation. Never again.

[–]Endorsed Contributorex_addict_bro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have my respect. Added to friend list.

[–]redd_reality 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Op clearly used that point to show how pathetic he was.

[–]TangoZulu 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It's a perfect example of how powerful oneitis can be. Plus, it actually makes some sense in context; the OP was facing the loss of a loved one so he was clinging to someone else he loved and had lost.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What's amazing is how the oneitis is like a black hole. No matter what you put into it, it will never be enough.

As I was going home, all I could think about was how do I convince her to get an abortion. Absolute madness.

You either break the fever or you lose everything and perish.

[–]Angu_jungle_poo 5 points6 points  (2 children)

+1 For Valhalla quote, that shit is righteous. The man haven

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I used to live in an upstairs apartment.

I would stomp up the stairs.

That's when I was told the story.

[–]Angu_jungle_poo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

haha. I live in an upstairs apartment.

I pump my tunes out a downward firing sub.

I was told to fuck off.

Different place i guess

[–]AlterUltraEgo 10 points11 points  (2 children)

Frankly, what woman deserves an RP man? I mean in the monogamous, exclusive, soul-bonding sense? Live for yourself, others will follow.

[–]talltexan123456 23 points24 points  (1 child)

One who is willing to follow.

[–]RedpillAcolyte 4 points5 points  (1 child)

External validation, attraction, and respect come after years of internal focus and thoughtful, relentless self-improvement. You can't earn anyone's respect by chasing it; it's rewarded by chasing yourself.

[–]darkstar1031 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn, I needed that. Thank you.

[–]Witch-Doctor 6 points7 points  (1 child)

This is fucking gold man. Thanks for this post, I really got something out of it.

[–]diddatweet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

deleted What is this?

[–]Austin6403 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may be my favorite TRP post ever.

[–]amirican 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck man thank you for this. My dad is and still is the ultimate man. He fuckin gets it and tried explaining things to me when I was in my early 20s but I never could comprehend it until after my first divorce and finding this community.

"Make sure you're never that weakling again. Make sure it's clear as day for everyone to see what kind of man you are."

[–]PB0034 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Good post.

Every hour or so I practice the skill called detachment. Helps in keeping my ego in check.

[–]adrianstylez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What detachment? Is it an exercise?

[–]sammysep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You had one hell of a father. And you’re one hell of a man

[–]q2p3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Such a great stoic message. Let go of your past pain to improve your present moment

[–]revaforce 1 point2 points  (8 children)

So according to this, if I met a girl and I liked her and I tried to get her to like me before red pill, then I took TRP and now there’s no way on Earth I can get her and I should just use her as a past failure?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (5 children)

Your mileage may vary.

This doesn't apply to everyone.

You're your own man. Take what you can from this and discard what you don't need. I'm not here to do your thinking for you.

[–]revaforce -4 points-3 points  (4 children)

I’m not applying this to me, that’s why I said according to this

[–]adam_varg 1 points1 points [recovered]

only siths think in absolutes

what you read here are generalizations, rules of thumb and best practices how to succeed in SMP, not dogmas

so yes its possible, however main point was: why the hell would you put huge and longterm effort to change mind of girl who already pegged you as low smv, when you can get more bang for the buck by pursuing new girls?

[–]revaforce 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I considered myself to have a high SMV but my frame was just always broken and I was failing every shit test she handed me

[–]adam_varg 1 points1 points [recovered]

in that case your smv was low

dont get me wrong, i am not saying your are loser or something

smv is relative, not absolute, which means you dont get to decide your smv, she does

you can be top 1% dude and she can be some borderline ugo and still be low smv for her if her ego is fluffed up to the sky at the moment with gram of coke and dozen of asslicking comment on her insta post

[–]revaforce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think for her and me my smv was and still is high but looking back at it now my frame would break from time to time, which lowered it at that instant or time

[–]mummersfarce_is_done 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You say you liked the girl. Oneitis is about completely wanting to devote yourself to her.

[–]amberdus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Those that can’t give up anything, cannot change anything.

Progress demands sacrifice.”

Damn. I want that framed and put on my wall. Thanks.

[–]iSwallowedTRP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Progress demands sacrifice.

There should be a post on this. It is one of, if not the greatest realization in human history.

Learn to sacrifice the present for the future. If your sacrifice is relevant and meaningful to your goal, then your goal will come to you and be increased 10x fold.

[–]Zeparic 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I'm having a hard time finding the practicality in this post.

The only way to kill the weakness in your heart is to kill the dream, and accept the ugly reality.

How can you preach this when neither your father nor the red pill could save you, when it took a swing at your ego to wake you up? The flawed individual cannot know how to do the right thing, otherwise he wouldn't be flawed. Meaningful change is not a voluntary effort, we are changed because our experiences bring it out. I agree that "progress demands sacrifice" but it's not up to us to choose how/where/when the progress comes from. The best we can do is live life, apply wisdom whenever possible, and make countless mistakes. Do you honestly think you will never again have a moment of weakness?

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There was a part of me that knew what I was doing was wrong. The deeper I got into this black hole, the wronger it felt. I read all the TRP wisdom, I knew the concepts of the theories.

It took a good smack to my ego to make me internalize the teachings.

How many men on here come just because they want to win back their oneitis? Most men do.

At some point, they all have to realize that as the embark on their journey, they've far surpassed the SMV these women have. They deserve better now.

Your life is like a garden. You need to tend the garden, and pull the weeds. It's a never ending job. Weeds are weakness.

I'll be weak again, sure. Gotta keep on eye on them weeds.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good post

[–]leviathan51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solid content lately. My respect to OP.

[–]bkrugby78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very...motivating. Tbh, I originally came to this sub because I heard it was "crazy," but I find that it provides a lot of useful knowledge. Applying that knowledge is a work in progress. This one resonated with me though.

[–]foogauzie 1 points1 points [recovered]

story is so stretched out of reality it’s amazing drama action romance but unfortunately missing comedy.. well i guess trying to pass this story as real on TRP is the comedic aspect of it. A+ for effort

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Put down the game controller and pick up a barbell. Once you do that, things should start popping into focus for you.

[–]foogauzie 1 points1 points [recovered]

lol okay whatever you say mr. i punched my dad because some skank was skanking around. at least make the dialogue sound real lol it’s straight out of a movie, honestly so pathetic..

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What the fuck did you just fucking say about me, you little bitch? I’ll have you know I graduated top of my class in the Navy Seals, and I’ve been involved in secret raids on Al-Quaeda, and I have over 300 confirmed kills. I am trained in gorilla warfare and I’m the top sniper in the entire US armed forces. You are nothing to me but just another target. I will wipe you out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my words. You think you can get away with saying shit to me over the Internet? Think again, fucker. As we speak I am contacting my network of spies across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the storm, maggot. The storm that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your life. You’re fucking dead, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can kill you in over seven hundred ways, and that’s just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in unarmed combat, but I have access to the entire arsenal of the United States Marine Corps and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your ass off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little “clever” comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your tongue. You didn’t, and now you’re paying the price, you goddamn idiot. I will shit all over you and you will drown in it. You’re fucking dead, kiddo.

[–]swordshab -5 points-4 points  (3 children)

You sound like you used to be a bitch lol

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children)

What gave me away?

[–]modTheRedPike 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Normally, I'd ban people for giving ECs shit, but the truth is someone said the exact thing in a thread talking about all the bullshit I put up with... and he was right.

So, top poster's choice--thumb up or down? You can message me and I'll remove the evidence if you want it that way too.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He's not wrong.

I'm in the wrong sub if I'm expecting this to be a safe space. Let it stand, I don't give a fuck. I've told myself worse when looking in the mirror at the gym.

I'll be rolling out much better content in the months following, but I gotta lay out the groundwork on how pathetic I was so that it's relatable to these kids and it doesn't look like I'm sucking my own dick.

[–]Emstario 1 points1 points [recovered]

keto is horrible you big sobby cuck boy

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (4 children)

Cheese, butter, bacon and eggs! Yum!

[–]Emstario 1 points1 points [recovered]

i mean i enjoy the fact that you have such a bad diet because i sincerely hope you die but please dont spread bad information. you are truly a dumb cunt, a specimen of inept cognitive ability

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

64 ounces of black coffee a day, and lots of pink salt!

Also, I use half a stick of butter with my eggs and my bacon is baked so it's dripping wet with fat!

[–]Do not send modmail to my personal inboxCrazyHorseInvincible[M] 5 points6 points  (0 children)