Red Pill TheoryMost Common Shit Test of them All - IHABF (self.TheRedPill)

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"I have a boyfriend."

If you've been good boys and actually gone out hunting using your TRP knowledge, no doubt you'll have heard this line. Ad infinitum. Every day some variation gets posted over in asktrp. It DOESN'T matter. That combination of words should have absolutely no bearing on your behaviour. Zero impact. Keep doing what you were doing.

Sad beta boys take it as, "politely fuck off." Do not let yourself shoot yourself in the foot like this. Don't "assume" that this phrase means what you think it is. You aren't very good at translating womanese. Stop assuming you are. Tripping over your own dick, taking yourself out of the game. Proving you are Pareto's lower 80%.

Every woman worth opening has a long list of BF's, potential BF's, BFF's, orbiters, FWB's, etc., all jostling to get to the front of her stage. All the damn time. You should actually be concerned if a hot girl is "single". If you want to get into the mix, why would you be content with a spot up in the nosebleed section? Stand up. Be noticeable. Know that you are a much higher SMV prize than any Schrodinger's boyfriend she might have.

As your awareness and SMV rise, in response, the volume of IHABF you receive will drop significantly.

Why do women say it, then?

1 - Who cares? Watch their actions, don't listen to the words.

2 - It's often clarifying to add "right now" onto the end of every sentence that emanates from the female mind, the hamster and "feels before reals" rationalization is strong.

3 - It works. They notice that weak little creepy guys automaticallly bro-knight/whiteknight, tuck tail and go away. Which is what they want weak little creepy guys to do.

4 - A conditioned response to being hit on on the street.

5 - It just might mean, "Politely fuck off." Calibrate.

It's a shit test. Nothing more, nothing less. Treat it as such.

Read Chateau Heartiste's Guide on how to pass this test to your benefit regarding qualifying versus disqualifying responses.

You can't "steal" a girl anymore than you can negotiate attraction. It's always up to her whether she'll choose you. Does this have a reflection on her morals if she'll cheat on a boyfriend? Sure, that's part of the vetting process. But she chooses to alter her relationship status when it meshes with her own hypergamy...i.e. branch swinging. Be the higher branch. Be aware that most women hesitate to let go of their former branch before grabbing onto the newer better one.

Don't hate the players or the game. Use your knowledge of the game board to your advantage.

Personally, I'm a fan of acting like I didn't even hear it and carrying on, but here are some responses.....

He can join in too.

That's great, no one cares.

Perfect. I'm married and have 6 kids.

Are you happy?

Relax, who said I was hitting on you?

I have a girlfriend. Double-date?


Excellent, when’s the wedding?

You're an independent girl, right?


Do I look like Dr. Phil? I don’t want to hear about your problems.

I'll bring you back home in time for him to tuck you in.

You look like the type of girl that can handle two.

You need his permission to talk to people?

I don’t care.

I guess my place it is then.

I have an English test tomorrow. Oh wait, I thought we were listing things we will cheat on.

Tell him to quit cockblocking.

Me too. But mine lets me talk to other people without getting angry and jealous.

He's gonna be pretty sad when you dump him for me.

Don't get ahead of yourself, this is only the first time we have met.

I didn't ask if you had a BF, I asked for your number.

How long have you had this problem?

I have a girlfriend, so at least we're on the same page.

Does this smell like chloroform to you?

Thats fine, I can be your man-friend.

Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean I can't score.

That's surprising.

That's fine, he can watch if he likes.

Only one?

Me too, but he doesn't know I'm straight so this will have to be our secret.

What's that have to do with me?

That's fine, you could use an upgrade.

Thousands more on the Goog.

[–]lorum_ipsum_dolor 279 points280 points  (11 children)

That's surprising.

Touché. No girl worth her own salt is going to be able to withstand that retort. Especially if it's delivered with a wry smile and the appropriate level of seriousness/wit.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Now that response is gold. So many of the lines listed in the OP are pretty damn good as well, now just gotta employ them.

[–]Saberinbed 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’ve fucked girls who actually had boyfriends. Every time they would mention him, i literally act like i never heard it, or change the subject. Sometimes if she talked about “oh my boyfriend does ___” i’d either ignore it, or talk about whatever her boyfriend does, but use it as somewhere to lead the convo to. I find that acting like she never said it works the best.

[–]rambetino 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I love that one! I'd want to see the gears turning in her head when I say it and she slowly realizes the jab it's meant to be...

[–]dontmasturbate 1 points1 points [recovered]

But what do you saw when she asks “really? Why is that”? I can’t think of a good neg for that

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (3 children)

If she says that, then direct conversation elsewhere. Most of the time you don't have to answer the questions thrown at you

[–]nickm205 7 points8 points  (1 child)

ive actually used this before or something similar , and 90% of the time they go right back to "why is it surprising i have a boyfriend?"

[–]growinglats 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are they serious? I’ve used this just to give shit to guys “you married —yes— that surprises me” and the guys think it’s funny, it’s just messing around.

Sounds like someone with Aspergers if they don’t realize you’re just jerking them around

[–]cBIGONE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just smirk and carry on eye contact. After a little, carry on chatting about whatever

[–]p3n1x 1 point2 points  (0 children)

/points to AskTRP

[–]kendallb183 97 points98 points  (3 children)

Best I've ever heard was" how's that working out for you" with a smirk

[–]amrc39 53 points54 points  (0 children)

“Very good actually, thanks for asking”

[–]Zormut 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Especially when meeting a chick at some event without her "boyfriend" this would speak volumes.

Here I am, at your favorite event, being awesome and shit, while that dude is nowhere around.

[–]OfficerWade 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I consider everything s girl says as NOTHIN until we get to the bedroom and she says stop, that’s when you need to listen. Anything else is just Love and war and we know how that works.

[–]bongohai 134 points135 points  (3 children)

I'm not interested in your boyfriend, I'm straight.

[–]420KUSHBUSH 49 points50 points  (2 children)

When a girl tells me she's a lesbian I like to say "Oh good, we already have one thing in common"

[–]eccentricrealist 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Learning from the Tourettes Guy I see

[–]1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 38 points39 points  (0 children)

1 - Who cares? Watch their actions, don't listen to the words.

From experience, this single point, is the only one I follow. If she is responding to my flirts and my touches, with good eye contact, smiles, and touches of her own... it doesn't matter what she said about her BFfiancehusbandGF...

Her reaction to your action is all that matters...

[–]hammerhearth 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I took this TRP advice in 2015. Cute blonde girl. Maybe 22. I got a call from her boyfriend one night asking for the three of us to go out. I obliged - because as an alpha who lifts - I was ready for a little AMOG'ing.

The dude was 6'8 280lb linebacker for the university football team.

And I had to pay for my own dinner.

[–][deleted] 32 points33 points  (3 children)

Excellent list of ripostes.

However, everybody must keep in mind that responses must be attuned to the girl's wits.

As Rimbaud said, if you want peace with people, one of the rules is Never Tell People Things They Don't Understand.

You're an independent girl, right?

Will confuse a good 40%, or perhaps 60% of hens.

[–]alxjones 19 points20 points  (2 children)

never tell people things they don't understand

gonna remember this one for years

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Basically, it's a blow to their ego (they all wanna believe there's nothing they can't understand).

The ego will defend its narcissism by judging what you told them as "weird"/"nonsense" (it's the only option besides "I didn't get it"). If you then double down and tell them "You didn't understand", well...

what you are gonna remember for years is their reaction to that. Lol

[–]UncleChido 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. I've always kept to this tho.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It does not matter whether a girl has a boyfriend or husband or is single. Because in every case, every girl has options.

Whether she wants you or not is a matter of whether she prefers you to her other options. This is true whether the "option" is her husband, or just that cute guy in the next cubicle at work... and you should treat these two situations the same.

Girls who are way into their SOs, and totally loyal, will shut you down hard, so if you're seeing IOIs, you're in play.

[–]420KUSHBUSH 35 points36 points  (0 children)

"Don't worry I'm not the jealous type"

[–][deleted] 47 points48 points  (13 children)

I tried picking up a girl at the gym and she kindly told me "sorry I have a boyfriend", seemed really respectful about it. I told her, "well if that doesn't work out then you know where to find me (gym of course)". Her faced was shocked, jaw dropped with a little smile. We said our goodbyes, which ended respectfully. Sure enough, next time I'm at the gym, she's with a man. Guess she really did have a bf.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Her faced was shocked, jaw dropped with a little smile.

Any bout of sincerity will effect normal people that way, LOL

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The reaction was priceless😂

[–]Jailhouseredpilled93 8 points9 points  (8 children)

Her face was shocked...

Shocked because she wanted (expected?) you to pass the shit test and you didn't...

[–]halfback910 35 points36 points  (5 children)

I mean sometimes people do have boyfriends. Or are just lying cuz they're generally not interested. Not every rejection is a shit test.

"Okay, so you got past her IHABF shit test, the classic Nordis Home Security System shit test, and are currently being shit tested by her pretending to be asleep with her fake boyfriend actor in her apartment. Absolutely devious. Muster up your courage and go in there to pass this shit test."

[–]pbar 26 points27 points  (3 children)

"Goddammit...not the double barrel 12-gauge shit test again. Why do I keep getting that?"

[–]halfback910 21 points22 points  (2 children)

"Pretending to be a married man with children. This bitch's shit tests are fucking brutal."

[–]pbar 0 points1 point  (1 child)

"Having a dick."

[–]halfback910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"She faked wrapping her car around a telephone pole and dying. I am so in there."

[–]Jailhouseredpilled93 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It doesnt matter if she has a boy friend! If you give her tingles by passing shit tests she cant help her self. She will fuck you and you will only see her bf in the rear view mirror after she cuckolds him.

[–]0verpriced 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Eh, I wouldn't say thats a failed shit test. You dont have to knock down every single chick shit test thrown shit tests at you. If thats the card she wants to play, sometimes its just fuck it, not worth the effort.

Theres always more who are more eager.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was more of a shocked "I can't believe he said that" type of shock, with a blush. And this was before I knew about trp and shit tests. This is in Toronto too,where not too many young adults game or know how to game,so I bet the response caught her off guard. Still a funny encounter, regardless

[–]DesignerBrush 13 points14 points  (0 children)

All of these responses would make good t-shirts for young boys in JC Pennys, along side shirts that read: "Don't talk to me if it's Monday".

Here's how the convo would go: "I have a boyfriend" "Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean I can't score" "what..." "You know, a goalie" "Um, sorry..."

[–]2awalt_cupcake 31 points32 points  (1 child)

Every time a girl has used this shit test no matter how I handle it, make her laugh, I'm still rejected in the end.

Every time I fucked a girl who really DID have a boyfriend, she never said a word about it. Relevant meme

[–]epicfadeout 4 points5 points  (0 children)

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Nice post, love the endless list of passes for that shit-test. The only one I wouldn't use is "just because there's a goalie doesn't mean I can't score." That's something you say to your bros for humor, I can see this amplifying ASD hard on a cold approach.

[–]csqr 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Best counter to IHABF was from Ross Jeffries:

"Is that an objection or an obstacle?"

Lost count how often it has worked.

[–]SidgeBlueCollars 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Mate some of them responses are hilarious!!! Good work bro

[–]h4nkz 30 points31 points  (9 children)

I can't count how many times I got pulled over by female friends in clubs so they could tell the dude that was talking to her "that's my boyfriend". The dudes usually were creepy and clingy as fuck

[–]Zormut 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is barely a shit test. When a chicks like a guy they never says that straight. When she doesn't like a guy at all she goes straight for the I have a boyfriend, so basically it says you are starting from an absolute zero likeness level and need to work your way to the top. I bounced many times and I don't regret it.

[–]universalabundance1 5 points6 points  (1 child)

"Looks like it's time for an upgrade."

[–]rdpislove 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be your boyfriend but thanks for asking always works for me

[–]DatingCoach111 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“Did you know my dog knows how to juggle?”

She gives you a weird look, “What?”

“Oh, I’m sorry. I thought we were talking about shit that didn’t matter.”

[–]epicfadeout 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Schrodinger's boyfriend should seriously be vaulted into official TRP terminology. It's perfect.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You'll never know until you get a look into her box.

If it smells like dead cat, run away.

[–]bluedragon2388 3 points4 points  (7 children)

How do you know when it's a rejection vs a shit test?

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You basically don't know. Go ahead with the right attitude, and the subsequent events will tell you which scenario you are in.

[–]sgurb 19 points20 points  (5 children)

According to some idiots on this sub,there is no such thing as rejection. No women ever is happily in a relationship and they're all ready to cheat.

[–][deleted] 50 points51 points  (2 children)


A department store opened in New York City that sold men and a woman decides to visit it in search of a husband.

At the store’s entrance, there’s a sign outlining the department store policy.

The first rule states that you can only enter the store once.

There are six floors and on each floor you can choose a husband or elect to move on to the next floor.

You cannot visit a floor more than once other than to leave the building.

The woman visits the first floor.

The sign reads:

· Men with jobs.

She moves on to the second floor:

· Men with jobs that adore children.

She moves on the the third floor where the sign reads:

· Wealthy men that adore children and are very handsome.

She thinks to herself, "that's a very good deal" yet moves on to the fourth floor:

· Wealthy men that adore children, are very handsome and help with the household chores.

She decides to move on as things are constantly improving:

· Wealthy men that adore childern, are very handsome, help with the household chores and are very romantic.

The woman is about to make her purchase but can't resist moving on to the sixth floor.

There the sign reads:

· You are visitor number 31,456,012 on this floor.

· There are no men here.

· This floor exists as proof that it is impossible to please women.

[–]bluedragon2388 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the problem here is she doesn't know what she wants lol. Like a lot of girls.

Usually it's like

Girl: "I want this, this and this in a guy"

Guy with none of that shows up but has the right things going for him (attractive, lifts, things like that)

Girl still wants him

So it goes hand in hand with the saying "watch their actions" right

Anyway how does someone who can't even decide what they want to eat know what they want in a partner? I think it's about being the best you can be and keeping your girl in line and NOT PUTTING HER ON A PEDESTAL. I feel like whenever guys try to please a girl and put her on a pedestal, the less pleased she gets. Idk why


[–]1Ill_Will7 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Ask your girlfriend/wife/whatever, if she could fuck any celebrity in the world who would it be? She wont answer "nobody baby, i want you best." She will answer Channing Tatum or Ryan Gosling FAST. her answer is proof she is ready to fuck another guy she deems better than you.

[–]uNhoLeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ye and then u tell her channing has a line of woman around the block that are younger and sexier than her and she wouldnt even get one look

[–]halfback910 3 points4 points  (1 child)

A lot of these were genuinely hilarious. Consider a career in comedy. The gay ones got to me particularly because I'm used to "straight" guys saying the equivalent with utter sincerity while on Grindr. Cognitive dissonance is a bitch.

I can't speak for straight chicks (and who would want to?) But I find it I guess... sexually impressive when straight guys are confident enough in their sexuality to joke about being gay like in the examples you gave.

Sort of like how straight chicks will kiss each other exclusively to turn guys on. If that's still a thing.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love the CH guides examples. The go to for me is

im married

. me too, lets not tell them

[–]courtesy_flush_plz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ok is it just me or was that group of reactions as a whole exceptionally clever / fitting / awesome...

[–]88Will88 1 points1 points [recovered]

  • “what’s his name?”

[–]K_N0RRIS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Oh thats wassup"

[Continue conversation]

[–]FuckRightOfff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha, the "i have a boyfriend" line has NEVER stopped me. Though when chicks immediately open with it, i'm a little bit taken back, if they sprinkle it into the conversation i know its fucken GAME ON.

[–]lifestuff69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does this smell like chloroform to you?

Works every time! ;)

Thats fine, I can be your man-friend.

Hahaha stealing that one.

[–]NarcKammerjaeger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nice list man. But single ones or long distance ones can be, well you know, kinda handled on another level.

Comments are as spergy as ever. Carry on!

[–]love-you-long-time 1 points1 points [recovered]

[2Pac]Hey whassup? It's 2Pac

[girl] Hey, whassup?

[2Pac]Can you get away?

Let me come swoop you up. [girl]Ah, no, I got a man.

[2Pac] I know you got a man but he ain't gon' mind if I take you out.

[–]lifestuff69 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Oneitis is bullshit, but you sir are my soulmate.

Pac 4 Lyfe!

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[–]lifestuff69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The song "Wonder Why They Call You Bitch" seems especially relevant on this forum.

[–]meltboro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I normally say are you allowed to have friends? Maybe too beta though?

[–]a_rod_77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sometimes go with they call me the boyfriend replacer for this, it's the least cheesy line.

[–]Hush_0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks but I’m straight. I’d rather head home with you.

[–]thrownaway3141592654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always the conundrum. I've always felt that when I have a reasonable chance (signals all pointed to sex), I would be much more aggressive. It's worked with one girl who had a long term bf and three women who were married (truly married). I'm currently in a relationship with a married woman who is sexy as hell and her husband has no idea how to please her. She always tells me how she always found it attractive that I took what I wanted. When we're fucking, there's nothing that's better than when she tells me to "take what's yours".

Be alpha.

[–]pbar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was having a nice chat with a girl once, when she said something about "muh husband". I said, I wouldn't have spent all this time charming the shit out of you, if I knew you were married.

Her: "Sir, I'm always accepting applications from highly qualified candidates."

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

This is kind of stupid. You might get yourself in some dangerous shit with this method. I would stay away from competing with other men. When a girl says she already has a boyfriend, I leave. I love my life more than anything, let alone some stink pussy.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Like it or not, you're ALWAYS competing with other men.

But keep doing your risk-averse strategy... more stink pussy for me.

[–]wokedaoist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that you're always competing with other men, but you have to admit that there's more risk inherent in going after another man's woman.

You don't have to be an alpha male to own a firearm, and it's not hard to imagine a beta male going into a rage after getting cuckolded. I think it's best to consider the risks before proceeding.

[–]1Ill_Will7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still fun to fuck with her though. And show that that response does not phase your frame.

[–]rn7889 2 points3 points  (4 children)

I'm new to this page. What's TRP?

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I use it as a self improvement sub others use it to pick up women

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[–]rn7889 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I'm dumb, I see it now. Thank you

[–]U-94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And yet when you nail some dude's girlfriend, everyone thinks you're a monster. As if you magically hypnotized her into doing such a thing against her will.

[–]LazyA2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not hard to think of good ways to keep the conversation going.

"Just the one?"

"Does he have guns?"
... "Like these?" (gun show time).

"I assume you are familiar with the 10 mile rule?"

"Is he a good softball player?"

"Not a deal breaker. Anything else I should know about?"

"What he doesn't know won't hurt him."

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was entirely unprepared for the charge I got from a woman texting her boyfriend from my bed. it's like the anti-cuck charge. "Be the bull, not the cuck."

I have so much to do. I have to work and lift and run and plan trips and execute trips and run my household (even a 1 bedroom flat needs running, and mine's tight). I don't have time to provide validation/attention. I don't want a girlfriend. All I need for now are side pieces (aka plates).

It's surprising how well this attitude works, although I become less surprised by the day. Might have something to do with lifting.

To the OP's point, my last girl amped up the line: "I have a boyfriend, and he's the jealous type. And a Marine." Crystal clear fuck off......but let me tell you, she validated the shit out of the idea that hot girls are constantly hit on, but not always by those they'd prefer to be hit on by.

[–]Self-honest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me: "I had a pet goldfish that died." Her: "huh?" Me: "Oh, I thought we were talking about things that didn't matter."

Can confirm, as dumb as it sounds, it works.

[–]xovyz 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Adding to this, what about the opposite? A girl saying she does not have a boyfriend if it comes up, when in fact, she does? Imo she's basically asking you to fuck her but, any other views on that?

[–]1Ill_Will7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be hard to know that whithout some spying or inside info from a friend of hers

[–]Luckyluke23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Schrodinger's boyfriend she might have.

ROFL... I like this... I like this alot.

[–]uNhoLeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first time ignore it. second time , telling me about your problems already?

third time. i dont care about your bf or change subject, anytime some chick is talking about some boy ill say the weather is great today huh or something just as mundane. they catch on pretty quick.

also if she talks about how her bf makes her feel your out of luck. if she just says she has a bf no emotions or feels u can have her

[–]kurdishpower01 1 points1 points [recovered]

Those examples look like PUA people pressing the right buttons. Have a strong frame and you'll pass the shit-tests without noticing they are shit-tests.

The examples which put the bf (if she has one) in a bad light like: "How long have you had this problem" will make her defensive and defend her bf. (You could counter this by praising her bf which will make her like you more). Have a strong frame built with a Red-pilled core and shittests won't become much of a problem

[–]stylesm11 4 points5 points  (2 children)

I get what you mean, internalizing banter like this is tough for ppl who aren't there yet, so seeing some higher level shit is still pretty useful

[–]2virusofthemind 8 points9 points  (1 child)

You only need to internalise one reply as an autopilot. "I have a boyfriend" is itself a woman's autopilot reaction to a cold approach (sometimes warm) and it exists as a default because it's very effective and has worked for her hundreds of times before.

By not being phased by it you're communicating higher value than her boyfriend in a tacit way, and also demonstrating confidence.

The best response I find is the line "Do you have his permission to talk to other guys?". A very small % will realise what you're doing (and even then go along with it) but most will have some form of emotional reaction to it (especially 'empowered women').

Once you have dropped the reply don't wait for a reaction; There's no law which says you have to play verbal ping pong. Just keep talking and carry on the conversation.

The reason for this is what Tyler Durden of RSD fame calls "Barreling through". Your brain has a cognitive buffer in the same way your computer has a download buffer. If you keep talking the buffer has to fill with new information, and information at the beginning of the buffer (your reply) is shunted out of the way to allow new information to be processed (your ongoing conversation).

As a result your reply doesn't receive "Due cognitive process" and isn't analysed due to mental constraints. It's the same thing with stage magicians, when they do a trick they distract you from the part of the trick they don't wish to be analysed.

Once you've internalised the process you can add a little more by saying "Do you have his permission to talk to hot guys?" (Note: you're not actually saying that you are hot but the message is implicit). When you reach this level you can introduce the thought that you're hot yourself to her unconscious by the same distraction of barreling through and filling her cognitive buffer so your "hotness" is taken as accepted fact.

If you've managed to get to this level then you can amp it up even more by making full eye contact when you say the words "hot guys".

The eye contact amps up the emotional valence of the words even more and the effect is even stronger.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a result your reply doesn't receive "Due cognitive process" and isn't analysed due to mental constraints

Constraints which are, how to say, very tight in the chick's mind.

[–]Count0Interrupt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If IHABD would be real for her she wouldnt be out without him. Good post

[–]Da_llluminati 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I understand."

[–]ReluctantSlimeball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I have a pet lizard”

[–]Scandinavianredpill -5 points-4 points  (14 children)

It's not a shit test, it's a sign of 1. she is not interested. or 2. she has a boyfriend and does not want to cheat on him (with you atleast).

Stop wasting your time on a girl not interested, unless she is giving you non verbal ques. or for the sport of it?... Why would you do it for the sport of it?

[–]Self-honest 2 points3 points  (10 children)

Wrong. You're missing out man.

[–]Scandinavianredpill -1 points0 points  (9 children)

how am i missing out? I get laid plenty. I am just enjoying myself when I go out and get girls if I want. alot of guys here are obsessed with pussy because they get nothing. the same energy pushed into improving your personality, finance, body and be a great person to be around, guess what? you wont have to expend much energy to get alot of pussy.

Getting pussy is like everything else, anyone that write alot of field reports are not having any real success with women - you are simply cannot be obsessed with something you got plenty of. with the exception of the rare guy that needs it for ego purposes.

[–]Self-honest 0 points1 point  (8 children)

the same energy pushed into improving your personality, finance, body and be a great person to be around, guess what? you wont have to expend much energy to get to get a lot of pussy.

Nobody is expending any energy recognizing the "I have a boyfriend" shit test for what it is, then isolating and escalating as usual.

[–]Scandinavianredpill 0 points1 point  (7 children)

you are using energy on a girl that isnt attracted, why not let an attractive one approach you, or you go talk to her. I am not saying it's not doable, but the likelihood of you wasting your time is 101010 times higher. I understand most guys are not so attractive that this comes easy - but then for fuck sake work on your personality / appearance and it will come easy. If you look like complete shit, then guess what you cannot escalate anyway unless you got bank and it shows. sorry that's reality.

It's not like you are enjoying your bullshit conversation with that girl anyway. it's a shallow bullshit talk, if she enjoys all that negging and bullshitting instead of a real conversation, well guess what she is the kind of shit girl that everyone in here describes. she will be extremely hypergamous, shallow, have no morals. etc. etc.

I cringe every time cocky 20 year olds try to pull off alpha behaivor, clearly not having a handle on anything. you are picking the stupid bimbos while quality is attracting quality.

This place is all about hard pills to swallow right? then accept you need to work on yourself more than you need to work on "approaching". You need basic and good interpersonal skills with both men and women and you will be a social piraha if all you do is approach women. They can smell it a mile away also and you will only get to fuck some times good looking bimbos, but mostly bimbos.

[–]Self-honest 1 point2 points  (6 children)

Do you know what a shit test is?

[–]Scandinavianredpill 0 points1 point  (5 children)

I do, it's a sign that a girl is gauging if you are what you present yourself as (in this case a high quality man). If you are indeed a high quality man and it shows very clearly, you don't get alot of shittests - or you wont recognize them as such.

[–]Self-honest 1 point2 points  (2 children)

You're running around in circles there.

[–]Scandinavianredpill 0 points1 point  (1 child)

not really running in circles - anyway take my advice or don't. I wish you the best pal. Id rather be a high quality person and man than I want to spend time chasing tail. It's funnier when tail is chasing you and you realize it's really not the be all end all.

[–]Self-honest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. That's not the point I'm making, or the point of this post. Either way, have a good one man. I'm pretty sure we actually agree with each other.

[–]Scandinavianredpill 0 points1 point  (1 child)

okay to put my ideas around women and success with women into perspective.

I am slim, got low bodyfat percentage, got muscle. Interested in other people, both men and women. I am a good listener and I like to joke. Also i got a handle of my shit and wont accept whatever, and it shows in my body language. On top of that I got a handle on my career, but I am not my career. So I dont use much time talking about that aspect.

How does that affect people around me? It draws people in, I am accepting and I want to bond. Naturally that will make it so that I am a person people want to be around - do you think this is naturally more attractive to women than canned pickup lines and cocky funny behaivor?

[–]Self-honest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm all of those things too. Does that mean I shouldn't fuck a girl who throws the "I have a boyfriend" line at me. Who knows what she's thinking in the moment when she says that? Who cares?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she has a boyfriend and does not want to cheat on him (with you atleast)

Note how, for their egos, "I don't want to cheat with this guy" is always "I don't want to cheat". Until they cheat (with another guy). But then, they were either raped, were drunk, or something else.

It was not the "real her", ya know.