"Dude, I want to be lean and muscular, I want to cut this belly fat, I want to be able to run 5kms in 30mins." You spend your time with smokers, you stay awake until 2am watching tv/series, you can't do a 2 hour session in a gym.
"Man, I wanted to come to this thing I gave my word I would come to, I just had a shitload of work/school work." You didn't plan your time and enforce it, you spent the day scrolling through social media, playing games, wasting time on your phone.
"Dude, my homie/girl/random person totally disrespected me around my social circle. I wanted to do something about it. I just let it slide though, I don't want my friends to think something of it." You just let people disrespect you because you're afraid of other's reaction if you did something about it.
"Oh man, I want lots of girls, I want girls calling me up, fighting over my dick." You pass a hot girl on the street, "oh, she was walking too fast. I'll talk to the next one." You sit next to a hot girl on your commute, "oh, it's rude to bother people on a bus ride." You spot a hot girl alone a few tables away in a restaurant, "oh, she must be waiting for someone, I don't want to disrupt it."
You want to be comfortable. You want to be timid and meek. You don't want to take responsibility for yourself.
1. You are the problem. Recognize that. Look in the mirror. Change what you don't like.
2. Take Action. Stop wasting your time. Cut off people/things you don't need. Approach, don't think, approach. Don't have anything to say? Approach. People are looking? Approach. You're with friends, you can't? Approach.
3. Trust yourself. You trust these people who tell you to text for logistics. You trust these people who tell you you need a new smartphone/Ferrari. You trust these people who tell you you need to shower. Why don't you trust yourself for a change?
This was written for me and anyone else who is aware of his own BS.
TL;DR: "The cucumber is bitter? Then throw it out. There are brambles in the path? Then go around. That's all you need to know." - MARCUS AURELIUS