Field ReportFR: Dealing with a girl who doesn't want to put out (self.TheRedPill)
submitted 1 year ago by cartlentdentder
Summary: Girl refuses sex. I tell her to leave. She comes back, regretting her decision. We fuck.
I've been reading RP theory on and off for some years now. This episode happened when I hadn't been reading or thinking about TRP for about a year and a half. When I started getting back to TRP, I remembered this as an example in my own life where I stuck to my principles, RP or not.
I'm using the old post format because everyone should.
Around a year ago I met a girl on tinder and asked if she wanted to come over, which she wanted. For fucking, or so I thought. As we make out in the sofa, I kiss her tits. Now she's clearly very horny, but doesn't want to go all the way, "not too fast". We go back and forth with me backing off when she resists and escalating again a few times, after which I go "what's the time actually?" and she leaves.
At this time I wrote her off and didn't pay her any attention, but she contacts me again and she comes over, again. This time she tries to pull the same thing, now it's clear she's using sex as a weapon. That's the biggest red flag in my book and any woman doing this is barely plate material. I'm getting tired of her and don't want to waste any more time and flat out say "I don't think we are a good match for each other, I'd like you to leave", not half an hour after she arrived. I can see she's a little shocked, but leaves my apartment.
Three minutes later she knocks on my door, "having reconsidered", and I fuck her brains out.
[–]BlackFire68 246 points247 points248 points 1 year ago (10 children)
I expected to see a blank post here as you simply don't deal with a girl who won't put out.
[–]DeadliftRx 79 points80 points81 points 1 year ago (3 children)
That's my thinking. Just cold drop them, because, with today's atmosphere, they are way more likely to 'regret it,' afterward.
[–]pohlrich 7 points8 points9 points 1 year ago (0 children)
yes and claim rape, because she felt "pressured" and is a "naive young girl" who doesn't just have sex on a second date, she felt "manipulated" by a "sexual monster".
[–]altright_feminist69 1 points1 points1 points 1 year ago [recovered]
As a girl I disagree. To me if a guy insists on getting having sex so quickly, it just shows that he's a whiny, entitled asshole. Women don't exist in order to please men... sorry boys :/ if you're that desperate for sex maybe use Tinder? I use it all the time and get a ton of matches. It's really easy to find someone willing to have sex with you.
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 1 year ago (2 children)
What I was expecting.
[–]AshyBoneVR4 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
0:46... Holy shit I miss Street Sharks. RIP Ripster.
[–]BoringOral 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Read the title and was only clicking on comments to say wtf why are you even dealing with that
[–]Realworld 109 points110 points111 points 1 year ago (5 children)
Lost track of how many women (6-10?) joined me in bed but insisted they didn't want to 'go all the way' yet. In my pre-reddit days, I assumed they honestly knew what they wanted. I'd respond same way each time... tell them I was tired, roll over and go to sleep.
Every damn time I'd get the same result. They'd watch in disbelief and when they saw I was honestly sound asleep they'd realize they were blowing their one sure shot at me. They'd wake me up from sound sleep and want to fuck. "Jeez, what time is it? We'll fuck next time. Go to sleep." Seriously worried now, they'd insist on sex then and there. I'd roll on, fuck, roll off, and go to sleep again.
I considered it like putting a bookmark in place. We both knew she was ready and willing next time.
[–]Kinbaku_enthusiast 11 points12 points13 points 1 year ago (0 children)
The funny thing about theredpill is that when you start to analyse your own past behaviour, you've been doing the right thing in some places and not so much in other places.
I had to learn that half of what a woman says is maneuvering bullshit: she doesn't mean what she says.
But then there's the times where I was goofing around with friends, whether it was pretending to be stoned as a teenager or acting like I owned the bar in early twenties.... I never tied that back to some of my successes until recently I talked to a high school friend and she said that she genuinely thought I was stoned back then. She ended up cheating on her boyfriend with me that night, or would've if I hadn't stopped it (because I thought it was wrong).
I can see how that made her only want me more in hindsight.
(ps automod removed this comment because I had /r /theredpill minus space as unauthorized site. Perhaps a bit overzealous?)
[–]adirp 1 points1 points1 points 1 year ago [recovered]
Seriously worried now
Seriously worried now
Why? Sounds like you handled it like a champ!
[–]2Dmva100 195 points196 points197 points 1 year ago* (62 children)
Did this before except when I told her to leave I left as well and drove to my other plates house to fuck. She tried to follow me but got stuck at a red light. Texting ensued for the whole evening. I didn't respond until the AM after my other plate drained my balls.
When they try to weaponize sex, double down (A+A) and use it back.
And for all the folks reading who have been stupid enough to get themselves into an LCF position, keep a plate that can host so you can do exactly as described above. Never grovel for sex. LMR is just as contextual as a womans hypergamous evaluation. If you and your (god forbid) LTR have steady sex, but you went to a party and some Chadder guy talked to her for 10 seconds, when you both go home to bang afterwards, she'll probably throw up LMR just so she can rationalize knocking you down a few beta pegs because she thinks she can score him based on a microinteraction while you struggle to figure out 'what's wrong' while you try to overcome her stonewalling. Don't be that guy.
[–][deleted] 226 points227 points228 points 1 year ago* (25 children)
LCF, LMR, LTR
LCF, LMR, LTR
jesus fuck, is this a Lexus model lineup discussion or what? how the fuck is a noob like me supposed to know what all those fucking abbreviations mean?!?!?!
[–]SpaceEnthusiast 53 points54 points55 points 1 year ago (1 child)
LCF = Legal-cohabiting Female
LMR = Last-minute resistance
LTR = Long-term relationship
[–]untonyto 12 points13 points14 points 1 year ago (1 child)
Yeah my brain ran aground on LCF, I even began to question my redpill credentials.
[–]Trposh 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I read it as "Let's Cuddle First."
[–]Taodin 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Same... i am using a urban dictionary cause i am from europe. Can´t know all your shortenings. You would choke if you learned our language, try to talk with us and we would use our slang and words like this. And the funny thing about it is... the urban dictionary are translating wrong. WRong translation : LCF= Look cool factor, LMR= Like my recent. The fuck is going on.. THIS
[–]Old-Jewish 38 points39 points40 points 1 year ago (13 children)
There's this really cool thing called a sidebar, sounds like you should check it out sometime
[–]NakedAndMasturbating 1 points1 points1 points 1 year ago [recovered]
I have been reading TRP for years now and this is literally the first time I've ever seen the abbreviation LCF.
[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor -5 points-4 points-3 points 1 year ago (4 children)
It's mine. You will find it throughout my stuff. I just can't call her a wife any more, because functionally she isn't, but legally she is. (Just to note, she's an amazing mother and as such maintains her station.)
She should be the last LCF, because NO ONE ELSE SHOULD MARRY. Right, men?
[–]Libertarian-Party 18 points19 points20 points 1 year ago (3 children)
so are you gonna explain what LCF is though? Like the word for each letter?
Lesser Chinese Fake? Lower caste female? Livid cranky fuck?
EDIT: okay a post below says it: Legal Cohabiting Female. (but like that was not intuitive at all lmao.)
[–]PM_ME_UR_NAKED_TITS 11 points12 points13 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Livid cranky fuck
Livid cranky fuck
Holy shit I just died, thanks
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)
an upcoming sportier version of the new Lexus LC 500 coupe. To be announced in fall 2018, rumored to have turbocharged V8, a modified version of the current 5 liter V8 the LC 500 has, and Lexus leaked that it's said to have over 600 horsepower.
I'm pretty excited if you ask me tbh
edit: wrong sub, my bad... or is it?
[–]chubz4you 31 points32 points33 points 1 year ago (3 children)
Im new, feel like i need to print that list off. It is extensive.
[–]PhaedrusHunt 11 points12 points13 points 1 year ago (1 child)
Most of it is here
[–]spellignerror 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I put it up on the wall of my cubicle at work. Handy reference guide
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Not every acronym you see in the comments or in posts are in the sidebar.
[–]arissiro 11 points12 points13 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Glossary or not, I think it’s just a ridiculous way of writing. Jargon has its place here and there, but excessive usage is just bad writing.
[–]assparticacid -1 points0 points1 point 1 year ago (0 children)
You can use urban dictionary
[–]PhaedrusHunt -5 points-4 points-3 points 1 year ago (3 children)
[–]SpaceEnthusiast 14 points15 points16 points 1 year ago (2 children)
Both LCF and LTR are missing from there
[+]PhaedrusHunt comment score below threshold-12 points-11 points-10 points 1 year ago (1 child)
Yeah but most stuff is in there
[–]SpaceEnthusiast 16 points17 points18 points 1 year ago (0 children)
You posted that as a response to a comment asking what these mean...
[–]womans_algorithm 57 points58 points59 points 1 year ago (12 children)
and your (god forbid) LTR
and your (god forbid) LTR
Why god forbid? I have LTR and I have much better time with her than i ever head with my previous plates. I understand why some men prefer plates, but that doesnt mean you should preach everyone to walk same path.
[–]sd463d 1 points1 points1 points 1 year ago [recovered]
Yeah, can confirm. Had many years of screwing around. Was great, but I met a badass girl a bit ago and we couldn't be better. Have a very old school yet not relationship. We constantly laugh at how other men behave in relationships. Truly a red pilled woman. That's the type of LTR that's worth it.
Fuck yes I concur. My chick is amazing. RPd as hell just naturally. She's never HEARD of TRP but just gets it. Always wants my opinion on other people's relationships.
Also we NEVER argue or reallhave conflicts. It's easy.
[–]DivineDimSum 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (6 children)
So applying the above scenario to your LTR, would she throw up LMR?
Doubt it. I'm 6'5", decent shape, and know what I'm doing. When we fuck, I get off on wrecking her each time. We have consistent sex everyday because we both are that good. Been together for a year and can count on 1 hand the amount of times she turned me down and it was for legit reasons. If you both give a fuck about keeping the other satisfied and making it interesting I've found women almost never refuse sex. Women so rarely get fully dominated by a guy that when they find it, they take as much as they can get. I'm not bragging here, just giving my honest report of my current situation.
[–]DivineDimSum 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (4 children)
So how literally should I take it when someone uses the term, "AWALT"?
Depends I guess. For example, I love my girl....BUT if I all of a sudden stopped working on my business, stopped being in shape, let my frame fall to shit, and stopped reminding her each night what it means to fuck a dominant man...I'm sure she'd eventually leave my pathetic ass. On the other hand, if she stopped being fit, outgoing, hardworking, fun, or loyal I'd do the same damned thing. Nothing is guaranteed. You want a woman to look at you like you are the best thing in her life? Make sure you keep shit that way. My girl treats me the way she does because deep down she knows I'm a fucking catch and I dont and won't put up with bullshit. Yeah, that sounds rough putting it like that and I'm sure she doesn't see it all as quite so black and white....but were on TRP and honesty can be said here.
[–]Celicni 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (1 child)
It doesn't mean "literally every single girl WILL cheat on you". It's simply a "if you break frame, it CAN and PROBABLY will happen".
[–]DivineDimSum 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Ah I understand now, thanks
[–]wheredalootat 7 points8 points9 points 1 year ago (1 child)
How many plates have you had?
[–]Taxus_Calyx 1 points1 points1 points 1 year ago [recovered]
What’s LCF and why isn’t it in the glossary?
[–]every_minute_louder 68 points69 points70 points 1 year ago (4 children)
Ive been here 5 years and don’t even know LCF
[–]2Dmva100 45 points46 points47 points 1 year ago (2 children)
Legally Co-habitating Female
[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
The authentic Legal Cohabiting Female
[–]1Zanford 11 points12 points13 points 1 year ago (0 children)
haha the red light story, I have a similar one. I outright told a plate (who wasn't even misbehaving) I had to go grab some of my shit from an ex-gf. The plate waits for several hours in her car outside my place while I'm at the ex's, banging her brains out. I come back, let the plate in, and she was crazy horny, asking for it in every hole.
[–]Fuckerofmothers64 32 points33 points34 points 1 year ago (0 children)
This guy redpills, that is an insight few have
[–]seducter 8 points9 points10 points 1 year ago (6 children)
This sounds good but Im having trouble with what you mean by A+A and LCF. Never seen these terms before lol.
[–]RatRaceConqueror 31 points32 points33 points 1 year ago (4 children)
thats because hes inventing random bullshit acronyms on his own, but it can only stand for agree and amplify
[–]seducter 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Thanks man, you the real mvp!
[–]monadyne 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (2 children)
LCF isn't a made up acronym. LCF = Legal Cohabiting Female
The honorable thing to do would be to apologize.
[–]carvedouttastone 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (0 children)
"when she tries to weaponise sex agree and amplify" - can you give an example of this please?
[–]warthundersfw 8 points9 points10 points 1 year ago (1 child)
Rationalize knocking down beta pegs?
[–]2Dmva100 38 points39 points40 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Lowering your value by getting you to confirm beta status to her via your groveling for sex
[–]manonthemoon14 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)
"when she tries to weaponise sex agree and amplify" - can you give an example of this?
[–]tall_bacon 14 points15 points16 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I did this once and the woman threatened that she’d tell people about me at a local winery we frequented.
What happened was...I was escalating and each time she’d say “just letting you know, we’re not having sex tonight.” Happened about three times, and when number four interruption was about to happen I told her to get the fuck out.
Anyway, I called her bluff regarding her threat afterwards and told her that she was being a fucking bitch simply because the night didn’t go her way. I wasn’t about to let her weaponize sex and I made sure she knew that I knew what she was doing.
She apologized profusely an hour later, and then I blocked her.
Sometimes you need to rub their faces in it. Cold rejection is usually enough, but not for some women. They need to learn.
[–]Endorsed Contributorex_addict_bro 57 points58 points59 points 1 year ago (14 children)
She wanted to fuck the first time she met you. The problem was your handling of LMR and ASD. Textbook thing if you ask me. Still a solid post, no Sperg noticed, ou’re my bro. Read some shit once in a while please
[–]MonkeysOnARock 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (13 children)
How do you think he should have approached the LMR?
[–]Razkolol 55 points56 points57 points 1 year ago (2 children)
Had this happen before, op acted correctly. It's mostly a shit test, translation is: "will you do shit for me if I string you along w/o putting out?" the answer should be "no lel get out". They don't value their time since they waste it on stupid shit all the time (makeup, social media, chatting up betas etc., the average girl is boring as fuck), you should value yours and act accordingly.
[–]MonkeysOnARock 7 points8 points9 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Yeah that was the implication.
[–]yomo86[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Armchair pickupartistry or TRP alphaness is one thing. Making the right calls in the right situation is key and frankly, OP never made a wrong call he just haven't made the right ones. Happens to all of us.
[–][deleted] 16 points17 points18 points 1 year ago (0 children)
It's always the same thing man,
A lot of people have techniques and strategies... fuck that shit.
Girls just ALWAYS want to have fun... when you make a move on a girl- she goes inside herself and feels, "are things getting better?",
If you are momentarily making shit better, more fun, exciting, thrilling, you don't get LMR...
When you come across as an internet creep who hasn't fucked in a while and this is his big break so he is jumping across normal sexual tension building procedures... LMR gets hit up, when she's unsure... when she's not having more and more fun.
Make shit fun or sexy
[–]Endorsed Contributorex_addict_bro 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (0 children)
By reading sidebar, book of pook and getting some frame by lifting weights.
[–]CoolStoryBro1337 -2 points-1 points0 points 1 year ago (7 children)
In a sense, not playing her lmr game and just telling her to put out or get out is very RP in itself tbh
[–]MonkeysOnARock 36 points37 points38 points 1 year ago (5 children)
That is the worst LMR strategy I have ever heard
[–]Endorsed Contributorex_addict_bro 9 points10 points11 points 1 year ago (3 children)
A gym trainer once proudly told me that when a rich girl he drove around in his new diesel car told him it smells like fries he told her to gtfo
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 1 year ago (1 child)
....but did he bench her hot pocket?
[–]Wh1te_Cr0w 62 points63 points64 points 1 year ago (4 children)
Dealing with a girl who doesn't want to put out? Move on to the next. Fixed.
[–]Hviterev 31 points32 points33 points 1 year ago (0 children)
idk, in op's case it was dealt with.
[–]nofilmynofucky 22 points23 points24 points 1 year ago (2 children)
next time read the thread before commenting
[–]Wh1te_Cr0w -4 points-3 points-2 points 1 year ago (1 child)
This solution is universal, it doesn't depend on further context.
[–]RedPillWintergreen 21 points22 points23 points 1 year ago (1 child)
The sad thing is that in another world, a woman not putting out the first time you meet would be a sign of quality. Nowadays it means she's trying to pull a power play.
[–]tenXten 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Amen, brother. A-fucken-men.
[–]1Zanford 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (1 child)
Well played, you're an ice cold mofo in the right way.
[–]cartlentdentder[S] 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (0 children)
My tolerance for bullshit has gone down significantly the last couple of years.
[–]RandyBumgardner85 25 points26 points27 points 1 year ago (3 children)
It's probably worth mentioning here that there are quite a few girls on a Tinder who won't put out on the first date simply because they don't want to be pumped and dumped. For this reason if I'm met with LMR more than once on the first date I'll back off and subtly give the impression that I've got things to do.
On the second date there really is no reason for her not to put out and I'll ditch the subtlety if it's not going down.
[–]cartlentdentder[S] 13 points14 points15 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Ironically that makes me more inclined to pump and dump them.
[–]Ganaria_Gente 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Except that if your a girl who's on Tinder there's only two things you are looking for. Sex. Or validation ego boost
If she shows up there's only two things men should do. Pump n dump. Or just boot her
[–]simplisticallysimple 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Dramatically lower the chances of her withholding sex by asking her to come over for the first date
[–]simplisticallysimple 8 points9 points10 points 1 year ago (0 children)
When she doesn't put out, or resists sex, always cut off all attention. Don't even cuddle with her anymore. Keep a physical distance if necessary, purposely be distant, play with your phone.
99% of the time, she'll ask you, "What are you thinking?"
Give her a one-word answer. Keep attention withdrawn for at least 15-20 minutes. Now try again. If she's still acting up, ask her to leave immediately.
Don't text her again. 99% of the time, she'll text you first. Ask her to come over again. Same thing, but chances are she'll put out this time. If she still resists, hard next her.
You've tried your best.
[–][deleted] 19 points20 points21 points 1 year ago* (9 children)
This is a case where you should feel badly for the girl more than annoyed with her. She's been fed the lie that women are supposed to use sex as a weapon her entire life and she's just doing what she's been told to do, to her own detriment. You are likely the first guy who didn't give in and beg/fight for it.
[–]CC_ee 60 points61 points62 points 1 year ago (4 children)
Using sex as a weapon is more female nature than it is social conditioning.
[–][deleted] 34 points35 points36 points 1 year ago (3 children)
I disagree. Women are biologically programmed to want sex too. They are socially conditioned to think that they don't. Women are the ones who slut shame because they don't want their weapons to lose their power.
[–]WolfenSatyr 11 points12 points13 points 1 year ago (2 children)
Women are also biologically programmed to seek the fittest mate. LMR is the final tactic to force men to prove their worth. This desire often overrides the desire for sex.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (1 child)
LMR and weaponizing sex are two different things, don't get them confused (though admittedly I'm not sure which one actually happened here). The former is an attempt to test, the latter an attempt to subdue. The best way to think of it is:
LMR: I'm making sure you're man enough for my pussy.
Weaponized sex: I have the pussy and so I decide if you get to have sex or not.
[–]WolfenSatyr 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Oh trust me I know the difference. The first means I might try her again later. The second means I'm walking away from her.
[–]1empatheticapathetic 33 points34 points35 points 1 year ago (3 children)
Women aren't dumb. They know what they're doing. Wtf is this.
[–]Kingoffistycuffs -4 points-3 points-2 points 1 year ago (2 children)
Apparently someone who has as much standing as you do. Better step it up broskie!
[–]1empatheticapathetic 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (1 child)
Now it comes down to who has higher free T.
Dude definitely has more experience than me but that's a strange blue pill thing to say that goes against everything stated on this forum. An example would help push his point further but I think he's just not really thinking about it properly.
[–]S-Blaze 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Meh I see both sides as valid.
[–]TheDevilsAdvokaat 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I would worry about this kind of girl...she came back because she "reconsidered".
What if a week later she reconsiders yet again...and reconsiders it into some kind of rape?
[–]Joey_Lopez 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Same happened to me recently. I was seeing this girl. She said that their was a rule that she can't sleep with a guy until she dated him for at least 3 months. I corrected her and told her it's a 3 date rule that if the girl doesn't give it up by the 3rd date you drop her. She was shocked saying imagine how much her body count would be if that were the case.
Then the end of the 3rd date came and she still was holding out. So I told her that it's the 3rd date and if nothing is happening then I'm just wasting my time and said goodbye. After that she started texting me a lot to come over for Netflix and chill. I ignored it at first cause I already wasted 3 dates on her for nothing. Then I decided to answer and see what she was talking about. She basically threw it at me as soon as I walked in the door.
[–]Wolveryn 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
How deal with a girl who doesn't want to put out?
Imagine a Bill Hicks Laugh... "Nyahahahahahahahaha" then silence... followed by a deep slow motion:
[–]HumbleRedPillStudent 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
This puts into articulation, a red pill truth that deserves Red Pill balance-- LMR is real and it's often weaponized for leverage. Pickup artists will advise you to use techniques to "blast through" LMR, but that is not balanced. LMR does not mean to keep stubbornly banging your head against a sexual wall...but the disingenuous practice of a woman withholding something that naturally happens spontaneously and organically should grate heavily on your patience threshold. As Rollo says in light of LMR bullshit, firmly excuse yourself from the situation and devote zero attention to the LMR girl. She'll either reconsider or it won't.
[–]WestyWorld 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I mean yes the nuclear option works but...you only met her twice?
I think it’s pretty rash to conclude she’s using sex as a weapon that early.
Some girls just don’t put out right away because they are actually more selective about who they will spread their legs for.
Of course almost any girl will do it for their dream guy. But just because she said no to going all the way on date one or two doesn’t mean much.
Unless she lied about her intentions prior to the date (i.e. tons of sexual innuendos).
Otherwise though I am glad it worked. You wanted sex, you got sex. Can’t argue with results.
[–]KitchenRelation 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Your post format was so beautiful among all the trash I've seen so I up-voted immediately.
Quality and succinct field report with no non-sense just like how it should be.
[–]CourageousCauliflowr 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (2 children)
How maniplulative. This was rape.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (1 child)
You have no idea what rape is. And this is coming from a girl who experienced actual rape.
This chick was just stupid and lacked any self-respect, that's her fault.
[–]CourageousCauliflowr 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)
"actual" rape. "forcible" rape. "real" rape.
"it was her fault. she was asking for it." totes.
[–]thenatty1 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (10 children)
Wouldn't it be more satisfying to shut the door on her face after she "reconsidered" and have another plate come over instead?
[–]SavingMen 1 points1 points1 points 1 year ago [recovered]
^^^ Amateur hour right there.
It would be more satisfying to bang the girl, and then in a few hours bang the other plate.
Read more, post less.
[–]thenatty1 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (6 children)
So you would end up giving her what she wants? I’m still new to RP but wouldn’t that be a move by someone who doesn’t have the abundance to fuck other women?
Like I don’t need to give her my dick is what I’m saying
[–]1empatheticapathetic 32 points33 points34 points 1 year ago (0 children)
It's entirely up to you. When a woman disrespects you, guys on here say "drop to plate status". Personally I would just cut her out my life but this has resulted in pretty poor results for me honestly. I've learned from others experiences here that I should probably just drop my pride a little bit and get the sex and stop taking it so seriously.
You draw your own line.
[–]rcsob 12 points13 points14 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Sex is sex; if you want to have sex and can have sex then have sex.
[–]king_of_old 12 points13 points14 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Considering it 'giving her what she wants' indicates you're in her frame. Maintain your own frame. If you maintain your own frame, you are 'taking what you want'. Same exact physical reality, different mindset. It's about the mindset.
You don't need to give her your dick, but you want to. So you do. Abundance mentality neither broken nor displayed; it isn't a part of it in this case.
If she would walk off but not come back, then you would show a lack of abundance mentality by trying to make her come back. You would display the presence of abundance mentality by not caring and going on with your own business.
[–]MrH0rseman 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)
If a women leaves either sexually charged or you took a dump on her ego, she’s going to come back no matter what.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Basically every girl in basically every situation will mentally twist herself into believing she got what she wanted from you at your expense. If she's a colleague, you're on your way from the printing room to your desk and you drop off some paper at her desk, at her request, she'll assume you're attracted to her and that she has successfully manipulated you, even if it was no inconvenience to you and you did what you did out of simple choice. If you aren't willing to risk "giving her what she wants" in the process of taking what you want, you're hardly gonna get laid, and you're never gonna have a strong frame.
[–]Nocryingok 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Be careful with that mentality. I've been getting there often these days: seems like me and the girl are "competing to see who wins". truth is it's not a zero sum game. OP wanted to bang her, didn't he ? Now you suggest that he rejects her (and miss having sex with the girl, a presumably attractive one) just to come out on top and teach her a lesson?
If that turns you on more than sex then go for it, but remember: men and women complement each other, and when a girl decides she wants to be fucked by you she's submitting to your masculinity, putting herself in your hands. That's beautiful if you ask me.
[+]WolfenSatyr comment score below threshold-6 points-5 points-4 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Amateur hour? Sounds like someone who's frustrated that his unicorn isn't putting out.
[–]EcoastDistrib 7 points8 points9 points 1 year ago (0 children)
That’s the TRUE meaning of RP. Do what you want. Some dude just called you amateur hour but clearly he doesn’t realize that RP is doing what makes YOU happy. If it makes you happy then do it.
[–]fauxVision 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Did anyone else see the title as “dealing with a girl who doesnt want to pull out” LOL
[–]varlogmessages -3 points-2 points-1 points 1 year ago (3 children)
This could easily blow up in your face with serious reprecutions. Jail, rape accusations. You won't work, be able to rent, date others.
[–]Questionnaire7 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)
She willingly came back and stated she reconsidered. There is no increased chance of a rape accusation than in regular sex here. Shit this was regular sex.
[–]romansparta99 -2 points-1 points0 points 1 year ago (0 children)
These guys are pieces of shit just from having a look around, you’re talking to a brick wall
[–]smoko90 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (3 children)
So I am new here, what is plate material mean?
[–]Rapante 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (1 child)
Meaning she is suitable for an uncommitted sexual relationship.
[–]2Overkillengine 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
And specifically nothing else unless she proves otherwise.
[–]strikethrough123 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I lost my virginity this way. Left the bitch's place because she wouldn't put out. Next day fucked her brains out with 0 LMR.
[+][deleted] comment score below threshold-19 points-18 points-17 points 1 year ago* (4 children)
You might think this is a win...
But really- she might have been super into the idea of hot sex with an internet man. Then, she gets to your apartment and finds none of the ideas of which she had in her head to really satisfy her... IE a hot, sexy, fun, charismatic man who is just making the perfects moves and floods her feels with good vibration...
Maybe instead in her mind, she just meets some internet creep that expects her to put our right away with no escalation, no building, no vibing- as you have done.
Then when you kick her out, she is so fucking disappointed that she didn't get laid- that she says, "well fuck it, I am already here... okay buddy, I reconsider"
Knowing full well she's going to fuck and chuck you and considers you a low value dude.
Two sides to every coin man, you dissapointed her and forced her hand into fucking anyways,
Also, kissing or sucking a girls tits on a first date is pretty cringey,in my experience a fuck up... you like boobs, I get it. Put yourself in a woman's perspective. Babys suck on tits. When you are sucking a girls tits, you put her in the role of mommy. For a strange man to suck on a girls breasts... this is weird. Sucking on your woman's breasts should only be done with a woman you've had some commitment with or at least are a kinda recurring fuck buddy where comfort level is very high. This act alone coulda creeped her out enough to not want to fuck you.
Just sayin', Casanova
[–]Rhynovirus 12 points13 points14 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Babys suck on tits.
Babys suck on tits.
I'm a big baby with way too many moms then.
[–]cartlentdentder[S] 7 points8 points9 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Maybe, don’t think so though. Afterwards I soft nexted her and she has been messaging me for over a year wanting to meet up again.
As for the kissing and titty sucking stuff that’s just pure bs.
[–]SpaceEnthusiast 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I was kind of agreeing that your view-point may be valuable, but then WTF happened in your edit. I hope you're trilling.
[–]tokinbl -1 points0 points1 point 1 year ago (0 children)
"Bitches - people in general - are replaceable" - that should always be the mantra