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Wake the Fuck Up and Start Taking Massive Action (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by 1dondraper

Preface


Many of you need a wake-up-call. A slap in the face. A bucket of cold water. To snap out of this fucking phase of laziness and procrastination. To light a fucking fire under your asses.

TRP and the Internet offers all the advice you could ever need on how to get your life together. You have the sidebar, you have books, you have the advice of other people, and you even know yourself what the fuck you have to do. But you don't know how the fuck to take action. You know how to swim, but you're too fucking scared to dive in the deep end.

So here I am to explain to you clearly why the fuck you aren’t taking action towards your goals. And how to fix it.


Introduction


You always know what you need to do. If you could only follow it, you’d start seeing results. There’s no debate there. If you take action and systematically work towards your goals, you’re going to see progress. That’s just how life works.

Succeeding in most areas of life isn’t actually that difficult. 90% of success is showing up. If you can maintain a clear head and do what you need to do, work consistently towards your goals, and make steady progress, success isn't that hard to come by.

But most guys here live in a perpetual state of over-analysis. You read a hundred posts on Reddit, you read a couple more articles with click-bait titles, you read a couple self-help books, you watch Youtube videos, and you keep pretending like you’re taking massive action. Every once in a while, you feel like you have a fucking epiphany, and this makes you feel as if you’re learning and moving forward. When in reality, you’re stagnating and making zero progress.

As Tyler Durden says, "self-improvement is masturbation." You're pretending to yourself that you're making progress without actually changing anything. Instead of being a pathetic, miserable fuck who does nothing, you're just a pathetic, miserable fuck who reads feel-good self-help bullshit, goes to the gym, and repeats affirmations to himself in the mirror.

I’ll take a wild guess and throw this out there—if you could list 10 things you could do right now to move towards your goals, you could easily rattle them off.

You all know what the fuck you should be doing. You all know you should ask that girl out, study fucking harder, hit the gym, open that business… you know you need to fucking do it. You know you it’d be good for you and you know it’s the right thing—but you don’t fucking do it!

You just sit around in a haze of useless procrastination and perpetual laziness, telling yourself you’re going to do that fucking thing tomorrow. And then tomorrow comes. You’ve woke up late, you’re feeling like shit, and something else came up. And so you put it off until tomorrow. And so on.

A few weeks or months later you look back and you realize that all that valuable fucking time has passed and is never coming back. And you’re no closer to your goals.


Fear of Failure


If you were 100% guaranteed to succeed if you asked that girl out, started your business, and started lifting regularly, would you hesitate to go ahead with your goals? Absolutely not. You’d immediately do it.

You’re afraid to commit. You don’t want to tell yourself you’re going to quit porn and video games. You don’t want to commit to starting a new life. You don’t want to commit to breaking free from your endless cycle of procrastination. You don’t want to commit to anything.

Why? Because you’re afraid of failure. You don’t want to try and fail. What’s the point of trying anyway if you’re probably going to fail? Right?

Let me tell you something. You’re going to fucking die. You’ve only got one life. Every second you waste living below your potential is never coming back. Ever. You’re the youngest you ever will be right now. You're growing older, closer to your death, and becoming more pathetic by the second. Think about that for a second.

If you keep allowing this pathetic fear of failure to control you, you’re going to live out a sad, depressing, miserable existence for the rest of your days. And you’ll be buried six feet under and everybody will be glad you’re finally fucking gone.

So, what do you do?

Make a goddamn fucking decision. Silence the voices of self-doubt and avoidance rationalization, and just do it. Commit to the decision. Write it in a journal. Tell a friend for accountability. Change your fucking environment.

Start small and spiral upwards. Turn the shower cold for 30 seconds. And then a minute. And then go full fucking Bond and don’t turn it warm. Talk to one stranger a day. And then two. And so on. Go in small incremental steps that will exponentially push you further forwards.

Realize that if you don’t take action, you’re already a failure. Let your fear of failure propel you forward. Recognize it and accept it. And proceed the fuck on regardless.


Comfort Zone/Fearing Discomfort


Yeah, it’s fucking easy to wake up at noon each day, throw a pack of instant noodles on the stove, and sit back and binge ten episodes of Breaking Bad every day. Yeah, it’s fucking easy to just sit home, play Call of Duty, and avoid the gym. Yeah, it’s a fucking walk in the park to skip your college classes and play Fortnite all day with your friends.

It’s all you’ve ever done. And will do, if you keep living this way.

Your brain literally rewires itself to continue your habits, ways of life, and normal routines if you repeat them over long periods of time.

What you do, you become. And what you are, you do. It’s a positive feedback loop that spirals in whichever direction you choose. If you continue to act like a fucking buffoon, you will become one. Just like we say here that you shouldn’t look at what girls say, but at what they do—you are what you do, not what you say.

You tell yourself you’re going to start a Fortune 500 company, but you can’t even get out of the bed in the morning. You tell yourself you’re going to be fucking Casanova but you can’t approach that pretty girl at Starbucks drinking her fucking Frappucino. Get what I’m saying?

So, what do you do?

Train yourself to appreciate discomfort. “Get comfortable being uncomfortable.” You’ll never get anywhere in life if you do whatever you feel like doing. Love the discomfort and embrace the thrill. The pain of regret is worse than the pain of discipline. And ironically, putting yourself through discomfort will make your life miles better than you could ever imagined it to be.

Rewire your brain to be excited for new challenges. “The beast that bears you fastest to perfection is suffering.” - Meister Eckhart Successful people love discomfort. They embrace the challenges. Without it, they would have nothing to live for. It’s what keeps them going.

Realize that your “comfort” zone isn’t really “comfortable.” It’s just a place of stagnant procrastination and lack of progress where you just sit around, rotting internally and corrupting your potential. You only choose to stay in it because your fear of the unknown overwhelms your current discomfort.


Procrastination


The average person wastes 8-10 hours a day. Video games, Netflix, mindless browsing, cheap dopamine hits, etc. It doesn’t really matter. All procrastination comes from the same root cause—thinking that you have more time.

When you have a paper due in an hour, you’ll fucking finish it. If the bar is closing in ten minutes, you’re going to have to ask the girl back to your place. If you have a terminal illness and have just days to live, you’re not going to be fucking watching TV or doing any of the other bullshit that we fill our lives up with.

When there is a deadline, you’ll get it done. Apply Parkinson’s law to dramatically increase productivity in your life—“Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.” In other words, however much time you get to complete a task will be how much time you take to actually finish it. If you are given three weeks to finish a process paper, you’ll likely procrastinate the first two and half weeks and finish it on the last few days. If you are given two hours, you’ll fucking crank it out. It’s just how we work.

You think you have tomorrow. You always do. And how often do you actually do what you told yourself you were going to do when the day comes?

“The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow and loses today. You are arranging what is in Fortune's control and abandoning what lies in yours.” - Seneca, the great Stoic philosopher

You don’t have the future. So stop expecting to do things in the future and stop looking forward. You only have today. Don’t fall into the trap of telling yourself that you’ll have time later. When that time actually comes, you’ve likely forgotten all about that goal and you’re even busier.

So what do you do?

Write down your fucking goals. Writing your goals down has been scientifically proven to dramatically increase the chances that you meet them. Articulate them, describe them in fine detail, and journal about them frequently. Every morning.

Set a time limit. You don’t have infinite time available to you. How you allocate the finite expanse allocated to you is significant beyond measure. Force yourself to meet the goal by a deadline. Set a date. Whether it’s a few days, weeks, or months from now, set a date. A specific date. Don’t make it unrealistic. But don’t be lenient on yourself either. If you’re not serious about meeting your goals, you never will.


Closing Thoughts


Hopefully I sparked a fucking fire within your minds. That's what you need. You need to absolutely obsessed with success. Or you will get nowhere.

Life's fucking hard. Nobody is disagreeing with you. But it's time for you to start letting life passively control you, and for you to become the master of your own universe and fucking destroy life once-and-for-all.

It’s all on you. Nobody will change your life except you. No book, no Internet article, no quote, no video, and no philosophy will help you change your life, unless you choose to.

You’re dying right now. How long are you going to fucking wait before you start living the life you’ve dreamt of?


[–]oneredguy 48 points49 points  (1 child)

It's better to take any action than no action at all. Death isn't failing, death is what happens when you stop trying. Failing is life.

[–]CreatedItJust2Saythi 19 points20 points  (3 children)

It's way harder to swallow than you describe.

Let me tell you a world fact you're genetically deluded not to believe, assume or swallow:

This world is not fair.

This means you won't necessarily get your prize or achieve your goal if you strive, and you won't necessarily get punished if you don't strive. In this unfair world your efforts and sacrifices won't necessarily and automatically be associated with your achievements and rewards; such equation is false, it's not a working rule of this world. You'll see evil guilty beings getting away with murder, and innocent beings getting punished with suffering for no reason.

This is why success is not 100% guaranteed and you can fail even if you strive.

The original post assumes you fear both sides of the transaction: you fear the discomfort of striving, and you fear failure.

But it's just a conceptual mix-up. In reality you don't fear the discomfort of striving, you fear the unfairness of failure even if you strove; that is, you (logically) fear loss. In fact the original post contradicts itself when assuming you fear discomfort but then saying you wouldn't fear discomfort if you had a 100% guarantee of success.

You're genetically deluded not to believe, assume or swallow the unfairness of this world, but you indirectly acknowledge this unfairness by fearing failure despite your efforts.

So take this lesson, because it's the real meaning: it's the attempt that counts, not the success or the achievement.

It's the attempt that counts, regardless of success or failure, at all three levels, one logical and two ethical:

1- at the logical level, since you exist in a unfair world not created by yourself and you were brought to without being asked where success isn't 100% guaranteed even if you strive. Remember this is not a 100% law world, it's a survival percentage law world: a predator will hunt its prey the % of times that allows the survival and existence of the predator. A predator will know failure too. Failure is the procedure to success.

2- at an ethical level, since if you strive and attempt it you are freeing yourself from the responsibility for your own failure, so it's your only way to happiness even if you fail. The way is your destination. Striving is your relief and your rest. Attempting it is your success.

and 3- at an ethical level too, since attempting it regardless of success or failure is the only thing that can confer dignity and valor on you when you exist in a unfair world where success is not 100% guaranteed.

[–]smaillnaill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was very helpful for me personally right now. Thank you

[–]parfiant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nailed it. You can sacrifice your life to defend your country and still lose the war and your country. But you did your duty and that's what matters.

[–]Immune2DNP 17 points18 points  (1 child)

I just made a post that emphasizes the role fear plays on human beings and how to overcome them. I looked at the newest threads to see if it posted successfully and I see this. What a "coincidence".

[–]Vargurr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least you woke the fuck up and tried to take massive action!

[–]daffy_duck233 11 points12 points  (4 children)

So nowadays i keep close to heart these two principles that help spur me into actions:

  1. Memento mori (Remember that i will die)
  2. The impediment to actions advance actions. What stands in the way becomes the way. - Marcus Aurelius

Just throwing it out there as simple on the fly reminders for my brothers here.

[–]radicality 3 points4 points  (0 children)

'Memento Mori' is a principle I'm trying to keep in my mind as often as possible too. Actually just last week I bought a coin/medallion from Etsy with 'Memento Mori' etched on it and I'm carrying it my pocket every day now.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

My history lecturer said that when the early Roman generals would return from foreign lands after a conquest, they would always have a slave by their side, constantly verbally reminding them that they were only human, and that they were going to die like everyone else. It’s just a story, like an embellishment, but it’s powerful.

[–]tfarr007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is actually historically confirmed. It was part of a Roman “Triumph”, which was a massive celebration awarded only to those generals who performed the greatest military feats. They would stage a parade through Rome (important because Roman armies were usually not allowed in the city) with their troops and spoils and the slave would accompany the general on his chariot.

[–]KingDoni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saved. I'm going to read this everytime I feel like the chemistry course can wait till tomorrow, like the Turkish course can wait till tomorrow, like I don't need the workout and its not going to make a difference, you're a fucking godsend, bless your soul.

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    [–]ZaidanoJ 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Just discovered you can see the text by changing the "r" of reddit in the URL by an "c".

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Here is internet archive of it: http://archive.is/vODaK

    [–]miller211 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Thanks man! Needed this motivation boost

    [–]KookyDonut 6 points7 points  (1 child)

    Fuck it you're right. I've been journalling the past few days and it's seriously boosted my productivity. Just the act of writing down tasks you want to get done in the day and then getting a small dopamine hit when you cross it off your list makes an insane difference.

    Also what I've been doing is keeping a tally of no. of times I feel like relapsing (quitting porn). Every time I add a mark onto the tally (for the day), it's another mark of success for me. It's another time I had control over myself. For those who are trying to quit something, it is hard to judge how well you are doing sometimes because some days are more difficult than others.

    Sorry for the rambling.

    [–]swolemechanic 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    Is this cold shower really necessary?

    [–]RiseAtlas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    To add to the commenter above, cold showers also give many additonal benefits.

    • Increases Alertness.
    • Refines Hair and Skin.
    • Improves Immunity and Circulation.
    • Stimulates Weight Loss.
    • Speeds Up Muscle Soreness and Recovery.
    • Eases Stress.
    • Relieves Depression.

    https://www.medicaldaily.com/benefits-cold-showers-7-reasons-why-taking-cool-showers-good-your-health-289524

    [–]robbiedigital001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Serious question: Does anyone ever look at things and think what's the point? Everything you build will be gone someday, it's futile. We're putting maximum effort into the sandcastle that just gets swept away by the incoming tide. Short term dopamine hits of success but what's the end goal because that seems to be out of our hands.

    [–]coxyepuss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Aaaa why was it removed? I saved it for later.. Now is gone

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          [–]Garathon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          A man should have some kind of mission he strives for, no matter what it is. It could be anything, doesn't have to be the traditional getting rich or whatever. A man without mission is no man.

          [–]macmeeler 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          Remember that OP is using an imperative form of language, so as to appeal with instruction to a particular set of people who heed it for their benefit. He does not claim it to be some universal message that everyone needs to hear- in fact, he specifically describes a set of behaviors that function as prerequisites to this post being applicable to someone (stagnant, procrastinating, failure-fearing under-achievers with poor habits)

          There are a great deal of people, myself included, who aspire for goals, some as far-reaching and difficult as the ones you describe, and yet struggle to accomplish them or don't know how to or can't see where we're going wrong on our way there- this post is meant as an attempt to help that group of people progress forward rather than stagnate.

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            [–]ElijahBurningWoods 4 points5 points  (6 children)

            Thank you for the wakeup call. I'm still struggling with what i actually want to achieve in life. Well I know what I want but I don't know how to get there. I know the finish but I don't know the path. I want to be succesfull and earn a decent amount of money. Atm I'm a teacher and I love my job, so I litteraly don't know what I can do to earn more money. Any advice would be welcome.

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              [–]ElijahBurningWoods 0 points1 point  (1 child)

              I want to start brewing, cause beer is my passion. Maybe I need to look in that direction. Anyway thanks for the info!

              [–]VinterBot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              There we go. Now write it the fuck down. Separate into more achievable milestones and then separate those into more achievable milestones until you get something that you can do today. Not tomorrow. Then follow the stones back to your goal.

              [–]ElijahBurningWoods -1 points0 points  (2 children)

              Is it hypocrite of me to think I could make lots of money of investing in forex and crypto and still do my job as a teacher? Like thats something i've been dreaming of in the past few months...

              [–]slashaceman 0 points1 point  (1 child)

              fantastic way to lose a ton of money very fast.

              [–]ElijahBurningWoods -1 points0 points  (0 children)

              If you're unexperienced, yeah.

              [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (8 children)

              This is my goal this year.

              I run a business and, other than keeping up with the industry, I’m decided that I’m not going to read a business book, industry book, productivity book, - anything.

              If I don’t do it - what’s it worth?

              So that’s all I’m doing this year. Visualizing my goals, deciding what to do about them - then doing it.

              [–]CalmPassenger 1 point2 points  (7 children)

              How did you start a business? What kind of business is it?

              [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (6 children)

              Digital marketing. Plugged a MagicJack in and start cold calling.

              Have 30 employees now.

              [–]brandonnn11 0 points1 point  (4 children)

              I'm doing the same at the moment but currently sitting at zero clients as I just finished laying out the frameworks for the business.

              What was the best method you found for signing up clients for your marketing, the cold calling?

              [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

              I already had experience cold calling at a previous firm that did the same thing. I did it because I was unemployed and couldn’t find a job.

              Find a list of target companies (Google, or whatever way you can). Craft a pitch. Fire away.

              [–]brandonnn11 1 point2 points  (2 children)

              I see, I have no experience cold calling but won't let that steer me away from learning through experience. I'm in the same boat right now that you were in, so time to execute some actions. Gonna listen to some marketing podcasts today and hit the phones Monday morning.

              Thanks for the reply!

              [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

              Number one reason businesses fail is lack of sales. If you lead with revenue, you can fix any problem.

              I just binged all 9 seasons of Shark Tank and truth for all businesses is that if someone hasn’t even picked up the phone to call a potential distributor, licensing opportunity, etc. - they don’t deserve a deal.

              Hustle is one of the few things in business that doesn’t cost anything, and yet no amount of money can buy it.

              [–]brandonnn11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Definitely agree. Sounding like Grant Cardone there, haha. Cheers, hope to find someone as driven and like-minded as you are to work with one day!

              [–]Cantloginhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              "A man without a plan, is not a man." Friedrich Nietzsche

              [–]Awakeanddepressed 3 points4 points  (2 children)

              I’m chained by expensive traffic tickets to move my 🍞 to massive action. Although, I’m making strives in the fitness and social department.

              [–]oneredguy 15 points16 points  (1 child)

              Forward motion isn't a great leap. It's improving your life 0.1% every day. Every single day. Until you look back and go, wow.

              And when you get there you'll look back and think, wow, nothing can stop me. Once you internalize that and you know, you know, that nothing can stop you you're gold.

              Don't worry you'll be overcoming some much bigger shit then traffic tickets in your journey. Also stop getting traffic tickets dude.

              [–]WolfofAnarchy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

              Life is now. Death is coming. Live now.

              [–]hashedy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              That's so true pal, thank you for putting all of this in so fucking understanding way!

              [–]clonegreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              It often gets reiterated but its so important. Life (even for you nibilistic types ) is precious and can be a worthwhile thing if lived according to your standard, but hell awaits if you drift.

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              [–]big__sarge 0 points1 point  (3 children)

              So was I....till it got removed.

              [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Here is internet archive of it: http://archive.is/vODaK

              [–]Toverspreuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              A thought that plagues many here but that we were never able to articulate is now written down on a silver platter.

              I suggest people read and follow. The biggest motivation for people to start taking action is that the day you take action is the day you start being happy. Getting a win in Fortnite is fun, but it never beat the satisfaction and happiness I felt when I finally got lean or when I saw hard work paying off. That happiness will feed further goals and it will become self sustaining, but you need to take action.

              [–]SalemBeats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              It's a good attitude to take, but your post was far too wordy.

              Take massive action to make your message more succinct, and don't settle for the verbose version you have up right now.

              Remember that saying more words doesn't emphasize something -- It does the opposite, because people tune out. Marketing 102.

              [–]rippin_riles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Something that came to mind immediately was Jordan Peterson’s “Future Authoring” program.

              [–]Spezs_Douch3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Go run at least 5 miles today you slobs.

              [–]RosstheMoss81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Amazing how many of these posts wilt after a few days.

              [–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              I don't think people are scared towards taking action towards their goals - I believe the real issue is they don't fucking feel like it.

              [–]RosstheMoss81 -1 points0 points  (6 children)

              I feel like that entire essay could’ve been condensed into 1 sentence.

              [–]blackpilled_normie 0 points1 point  (4 children)

              Ha ha I know. It's not about taking "massive" action but about taking small consistent ones. That's why books like the Slight Edge are enlightened and methods like the X effect work so well.

              Typical motivational thread. Motivation is for the weak.

              [–]DakJev 3 points4 points  (0 children)

              Welp. Been depressed for awhile as I've been seeing more and more red pilled truths. Haven't made any progress, just keep mindlessly surfing for that one motivational quote/ vid or whatever to get me started. Fuk this. Thanks for this post. Next time I post, its going to be about some god dam results. My life starts now.

              [–]oneredguy 0 points1 point  (1 child)

              When you're just starting and drowning in so much shit you are just happy to have a gasp of sewage tainted air motivation is everything.

              Hell at that point in your life motivation is almost the only thing their is. Don't knock it. Many guys who need a hand need to internalize motivation. Hell it can be your way of life for a solid year and that guy will still get better results than a blue pilled do nothing fag.

              [–]room_303 -3 points-2 points  (4 children)

              And probably a good thing to remember and better way to look at your life, instead of this false RP sense that everyone here is gonna have a Wikipedia entry one day, is anything you do in life is ultimately pointless, your life means nothing in the end, have fun, do what makes you happy - whether that is video games and Doritos or benching 260 and strutting around in a thin shirt vaping being indifferent thinking girls will like you more or fuck you for it. Win, lose, doesn't really matter, money will not make you happy, either will working till you die, the good eras of working hard and being paid well are long gone, so are home ownership, 90% of women these days aren't worth it either, cunt attitude, fat, tatoos, blue hair, entitlement, #metoo.

              "Reflect too on the yawning gulf of past and future time, in which all things vanish. So in all this is must be folly for anyone to be puffed with ambition, racked in struggle, or indignant at his lot—as if this was anything lasting or likely to trouble him for long" - Marcus Aurelius

              [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

              The problem is associating immediate gratification with being "happy". Accomplishing great things the vast majority of people didn't have the strength for will always be more rewarding than playing videogames and watching porn for 30 years will.

              [–]room_303 1 point2 points  (2 children)

              Rewarding for whom?, when you finish this great thing nothing will happen. You'll just jut to the next grand scheme in your head until you are sick of that and it kills you from pride and jealousy.

              Climbed Everest so your life has 'meaning', you can say to everyone "I climbed that giant cold dead POS"

              We are conscious intelligent apes floating on a rock in space that that use (invented) pieces of paper to keep our slave race in order, the more paper you have, the better you are, more possessions, more tweets, more rape accusations.

              [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

              Why don't you kill yourself right now then if nothing matters?

              [–]room_303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              I want to live see this shitpile western world decay.