The Importance of Lifting
(Skip this part if you just want to read the field report)
18 months ago I had just discovered TRP and was a lurker here. I decided to try out tinder, put a picture of my face, a picture of me with friends in a social setting and a picture of me with a dog. I got 3 matches in one week, none of which responded to my message. I eventually got frustrated and deleted Tinder.
The blow to my ego acted like a wakeup call, I became determined to improve my SMV as much as I possibly could. At the time I was about 19% bf, not skinny-fat but very little definition on my body and face. I did lift, but had a case of fuckarounditis and didn't take the gym seriously. I was determined to change this, I hopped on a full body 3 times per week program. Essentially Jason Blahas (lol I know) ICF 5x5 except I did it 3x5 and removed shrugs and added chinups. With this program I increased my bench to 225 lbs, my squat to 330 lbs and my deadlift to 440 lbs. My body fat also decreased, my abs started to show and my face got more chiseled. All of this from only about 4 hours of lifting a week for about a year. Think about that. 4 hours a week. The AFC spends about the same time per week jerking off. LIFT and don't eat shit food everyday
About 180lbs at 5'9 and 12% bf. Visible abs in almost all kinds of lighting, alot of IOIs wherever I go, especially when I wear a T-shirt.
[Field Report] The Importance of Frame
Yesterday (friday) I decided to try tinder again. Now I have already achieved success with women through day game and social circle game from before, I have 3 plates and racked up a humble n-count of 7 after being redpilled for about 18 months. But I have never tried Tinder, mostly because there was never a need for it but also because I thought that due to my painfully average height I was better off sticking to day game and social circle game. But I wanted to try it out and see what the difference having a ripped body and a more chiseled face had. I used the same style pictures (but more newly taken), the only thing I added was a "candid" shirtless picture of me as the first picture, and I went from 3 matches in a week to 22 matches within the same day of starting Tinder.
It is very warm here in Sweden (for now), I have a pool and my plan for the evening was to chill in my pool. So my opening line to all of my matches was "Kom och bada" . This is hard to translate as "bada" is a verb that in this context stands for casually swimming/being in water. So basically "Come and bada". Some of them didnt answer, most of them said they wanted to but were busy that day, but 2 of them were up for it the same day (ended up picking the hotter one). ("Lätt" = "easily" or "I would love to".)
The second girl answers "That is perfect, as I just bought a new swimsuit today", to which I respond "Who said anything about a swimsuit?" Now this girl was about 10 km from me, but still decided to bike all the way to my place at almost midnight just to "bada" with me.
When she arrived I greeted her by hugging her (as always). I could feel that she really enjoyed hugging me as she was squeezing my lats, so I picked her up and and spun her around. She also really enjoyed this as she started to giggle, I put her down and with an arm still around her I pointed at her bike and said "Your little brother must be so nice to let you borrow his bike", which leads to her giggling even more
"Omg, I got it as a gift. Stop bullying me."
"You are an asshole"
I then tell her to follow me to the pool. Then comes the most predictable shittest. (keep in mind she is about the same height as me, maybe an inch shorter, and I'm about 2 inches below the national average.
"You are not completely as I thought you would be.."
I ask her what she means.
"You are short".
"I know, Im a down to earth kinda guy" (makes more sense in Swedish, where down to earth is called "jordnära", which also means close to the earth)
She continues the shittest
"But doesn't it bother you that I am taller than you" (she isnt)
I maintain frame and without flinching I answer
"Not at all, in fact you are not tall enough. I normally don't date women whos tits are not in the same level as my eyes, but ill give you a shot."
She raises her eyebrows
"Really? But Im still pretty tall"
"Yeah but not tall enough, but dont worry, Im sure you have other good qualities" smirk
Bam. Completely flipped the pressure and more specifically flipped who was in self qualification mode. She then starts to defend herself and explains that she actually is taller in the day, and that she has heels that make her 7 cm or about 3 inches taller that she wears often. I just sit back and smile. because Just by the virtue of having a stronger frame than her, I got a HB8 who is the same height as me try to qualify to me (the 5'9 manlet about 2 inches below the national average), about her height (I think 3 inches above the national female average) not being enough for me.
This is the essence of frame. The subconscious balance of whos reality you are operating within, as Rollo Tomassi puts it. As is known, in an interaction with a woman, if you have stronger frame she will submit to it. That is what has happened here. But keep in mind, I knew she was attracted to me beforehand due to the way she responded to my touch. That is also a big part of why that specific response to the shittest worked. If she was not already somewhat attracted to me, that kind of bold disqualification neg would probably not work as effectively.
Long story short, she initiates more kino while in the pool because she "wants to feel me flex my muscles", I escalate, go for the kiss. This leads to dryhumping in the pool and then I bring her up to my room and close the deal.
Lifting is very important, it significantly increased my matchrate on tinder. Frame is very important, it got a girl who is the same height as me try to qualify herself to me because of the fact that she wasn't tall enough.
Thanks for reading.