Rant/VentingIt's Not Her (self.TheRedPill)

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Oneitis, love...

Do you really love her, or do you love the things she does for you, and the illusion you crafted for her in your mind?

You don't love her. Or care about her.

I guarantee it.

You care about what she did for you. You care that she cooked, that she cleaned, that she sucked... You care what she did for you.

You don't love her, you love the idealized fantasy of her- the one you created in your mind that you dubbed "the ideal woman", and then compare her to. That's who you really love.

It's not her you like. Frustration, disappointment, anger... But it all goes away once she shakes that ass, becaus

[–]bobaisdope 285 points286 points  (15 children)

Before making any woman-related decisions, bust a nut first, then your logic works.

[–]Ardekan 110 points111 points  (4 children)

The Japanese have a word for that, kenjataimu.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (2 children)

In other countries its called Turning Japanese

[–]TasteTh3Rambo 59 points60 points  (1 child)

This is called Post Fap Clarity.

[–]xWasx08 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have never heard it put so eloquently before.

[–]alphabachelor 16 points17 points  (4 children)

One of the few times you can find a rare truths in a blue pill movie.


[–]eddielovett 23 points24 points  (3 children)

Nooo you want a loaded gun, that’ll give you the motivation to be a man of action. After I bust a nut I feel introverted and completely devoid of the sexual energy that makes interactions with women exciting.

[–]alphabachelor 6 points7 points  (1 child)

This is a blue pill movie for the masses. The frame they’re presenting the ultimate truth (that we think clear on women after we come which is true) but under a frame that men have to render themselves impotent and devoid of desire to be successful with women. Sad but that’s just another symptom of blue pill.

I’m a sexual being. I want my date to know I’m a sexual being. And I do that by being charming, being confident, being daring, you know be a guy with a little edge. And you do that when you’re carrying a loaded gun. Testosterone is that gun.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your not wrong, but i I beleive what they are getting at by "fapping on it" is that once that biological urge is removed you can look at your oneitus more objectively.

Anybody who has been in a ltr and broken it off knows the feelings of withdrawal you get from separation. I think if everytime you feel the need to reach out to an ex you jerk it. You'd realize it's not so great. Hover don't do this all day everyday and deff not before your gonna game new woman it does remove your desire IMO

[–]cruzbmx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I honestly think it’s a time-of-day to level-of-horniness ratio that has to be respected. If I’m low energy already, I don’t want to clean the pipes. I’d just meditate before going on a date, keeping in mind there’s half the world out there to fuck and only abt 60 years of fucking left in my existence

[–]hiaf 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Stupid advice, don't masturbate you fucking wanker. Losers wank it, winners hammer and nail pussy walls. How about this, instead of jacking off, fuck another bitch; and if you can't, then go talk to more bitches because you pussy ass faggots are just going to go right back to square one after you get horny again, ready for round 2 of your right hand man.Can't believe this is at the top, who the fuck upvotes this shit? This sub has gone to shit for real.

Fuck you all who condone this terrible advice. Sure you think clearly after busting a nut, but who the fuck wants to think clearly anyway. Go meditate, hit the gym, talk to more girls and more girls.

You know that feeling you get when you just banged the fuck out of a chick? How about when you get a number off a girl? That feeling you get when you banged a club slut in the back alley? Yeah that feeling is what you have to channel - remember that feeling and try to recreate it, remember it. acking off is not gonna give you that feeling my brothers. Imagine who you want to be: a guy who has to masturbate to control his emotions for a girl or a guy who knows that these feelings are to his detriment and meditates/lifts/games his way into abundance mentality.

Even with abundance, that girl that makes you feel those tingles because of her beauty, body or personality or whatever. Those feelings are fucking gay and will dry up pussy real quick. Here's the solution: find a way to invoke those feelings of awesomeness in you, try to remember what if feels like to be successful with many girls, and compare the feeling to your feelings of despair and fantasy and you will see which one you prefer. This sexual energy, is a feeling that you must transmit and internalize.

Edit: Downvoted, lmao. Where are the endorsed contributors at?

[–]ZidaneLoire 155 points156 points  (15 children)

I believe behind every great red pilled man, there's a bad oneitis. Maybe you got her. Maybe you never got her.

But without that crushing, aching, drop you down on your knees and put you in a catatonic state pain, you would never have become a red pilled man. Shit i knew rp in my late teens and this older rp guy (40s) said i would never understand it until i saw some shit. I didn't believe it, but he was right.

That's how I see my past oneitis. She wasn't a perfect person but she had a perfect role to play. To break my stone hard beta shell so I could grow out of it. Oneitis isn't a curse on your life. It's your release.

It's like the lobster grows. The shell is hard and doesn't grow. When it feels pain it notices it's time to grow and leaves the shell. During this process the lobster is very vulnerable while her new shell is hardening, but after that it's nearly indestructible to other marine life.

So be like the lobster. The pain signals your old shell is to be dumped and a new shell is under it aching to harden. Your new you rising from your core.

Embrace the pain and your new you. Ditch the old shell. To hold yourself back is to deny your natural evolution process.

[–]1scissor_me_timbers00 70 points71 points  (9 children)

Yes, tell us about the lobster Dr Peterson

[–]ZidaneLoire 2 points3 points  (7 children)

I have no idea who Dr Peterson is.

Was it a diss ? Was it any good ?

[–]Coptek91 1 points1 points [recovered]

He's referring to the very popular Jordan Peterson. I wouldn't take it as an insult, if you truly haven't heard of Jordan Peterson then I strongly recommend you check him out.

[–]ZidaneLoire 3 points4 points  (5 children)

I wasn't planning to, just trying to find out if it was funny.

Will definitely check him out, thanks!

[–]1scissor_me_timbers00 4 points5 points  (1 child)

It wasn’t a diss. Just a lighthearted joke.

[–]ZidaneLoire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I meant a diss in like a roast or something like that.

Totally ruined by not getting it though.

[–]wooksarepeople2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please do. This guy changed my entire mentality.

[–]xachariah 4 points5 points  (1 child)

'Lobster' is also a meme with Jordan Peterson. His most famous book starts with a chapter on lobsters; it's about how some instincts are wired into all life on earth and older than vertibrates.

Since it also sounds ridiculous without framing, lots of interviewers like to talk to him about it.

[–]TRPdoctor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's how I see my past oneitis. She wasn't a perfect person but she had a perfect role to play. To break my stone hard beta shell so I could grow out of it. Oneitis isn't a curse on your life. It's your release.

This is very true and anyone who is currently going through a "heartbreak" should absorb this line. I was lucky that my oneitis crushed me at 18. If that wouldn't have happened, then where would the anger come from that was essential for me setting myself up for success? It sucked at the time but I am damn grateful that this happened to me 10 years ago or I would still be fucking around in life and having boring starfish sex.

If you are wondering why betas don't listen to this shit it's because they have never had any evidence of what women do to a man who eats up society's BP narrative. They get crushed. Getting crushed sooner than later is best so that you can start your path to greatness.

[–]_nein_danke 1 points1 points [recovered]

I agree a lot with this. You should never be taken for a fool, but ironically, to me at least, there is something ironically BP about being hurt by a girl and then completely running away to TRP side of things. It's like yeah okay, don't get shit on but also pain is a part of life and you'll grow because of it. Avoiding pain is what pussys do.

[–]PerplexingPegasus_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couldn’t say it any better. My friends love making jokes on how I took an loss with my oneitis, I usually tell them I won instead.

They don’t get it because without her, I wouldn’t be writing this post on TRP or finally discover how society bp my old self and even my friends to thinking that these women need to be treated as if each one is the last women on earth.

[–]Zech4riah 241 points242 points  (54 children)

You know, men love unconditionally after pair bond has been formed which makes most of this rant irrelevant.

[–]44361066 211 points212 points  (21 children)

I told my first ex that men love unconditionally, she said some women also do so. I said I don’t believe it. She didn’t know what to answer. I saw her as the mother of my children, we put names to them even, and she left me a couple of months later. I told her she killed something inside me, I didn’t know what it was, but now I think it’s the ability to truly trust a woman ever again. She killed the child inside me. That’s how a man grows up apparently.

[–]dontforgetthispw 11 points12 points  (3 children)

I genuinely thought my wife-at-the-time cared as much about me, unconditionally, as I did for her. Boy was I wrong. As soon as I quit my job to focus on creating a business on my own, she left. Simple as that.

I'm always getting burnt by thinking people would do the same for me as I would for them. And it's not even just women tbh...

[–]MilkMoney111 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Same man... what lead me here. Had a (what I thought) great girlfriend. Met her in undergrad, we moved in together and I supported her while she applied to grad school. Told her I would cover shortcomings in bills (had savings from the military) as long as she focused on getting in to graduate school. A couple of years later, she gets denied and I get in to a doctorate program. Funds got real tight. It didn't matter that I supported her unconditionally for years while she tried to improve her life, the second I couldn't do that and she had to actually work, she was gone. It didn't even matter that I would become a doctor, bringing in even more money. It was the fact that I wasn't bringing in money, for her, at that specific time.

I admit, I was beta and never should have put myself in that position. But it's all good, the ordeal lead me here. A necessary evil.

[–]Cdsmasher 157 points158 points  (7 children)

You are being wayy too dramatic about it, kind of like a generic thot crying over her ex Chad. "teh child inside me dieded, I trust no girls any moar".. fuck that shit, start working on yourself in becoming a man instead of having that drama queen beta behaviour.

Don't just think that I am belittling you, I was similar years ago, when I had zero guidance from a strong figure, and was brainwashed to be some kind emo turd. I still have a long way to go, but at least I can SEE the direction I need to go.

Make TRP the father figure that you should have had.

[–]44361066 43 points44 points  (6 children)

Dude you’re right, I’m not happy with how I’m reacting either. You just can’t help after you bond with someone. It will only get better I’m sure.

[–]Cdsmasher 38 points39 points  (2 children)

You CAN help it. By reading stuff here more and prioritizing yourself, you WILL see that it is ridiculous to have those feelings, even if it seems impossible right now.

Trust me, you will be surprised at how much better things can get if you work on yourself.

[–]ObviouslyGenius 7 points8 points  (1 child)

THIS! You just can't expect it to instantaneous. Everything about this community is truly about the ongoing process, not necessarily the end result. Get lost in the process of being a better you today than you were yesterday and eventually you'll look up and realize how ridiculous you were in this moment.

[–]catchpull 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is all gold for me gentlemen as I’ve been realizing the truths of this over the last several months. Thank you all.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Bonding"and "Connections" are for male interactions. If you look at friendships that woman have they aren't solidified the way male friendships are. We as males catch oneitus because we beleive that women bond with ius the way we do with other men, through gestures of friendship, history, shared experience, etc....

When you accept that they are just different and can never bond they way you hope they would. Then you can take them off the pedestal, and began to engage with them in a way thats beneficial to both you and them

[–]dontforgetthispw -4 points-3 points  (1 child)

For what it's worth, you gave me a good laugh at "killed the child inside me," so the entertainment factor was decent anyway.

[–]44361066 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If I said “she killed my blue pill fantasy” I would’ve missed getting your compliment, so thanks. Being arrogant won’t get you anywhere in this forum besides a bunch of likes.

[–]TRPcez 17 points18 points  (0 children)

it’s the ability to truly trust a woman ever again

A post while back ago finds a fault in your statement. Women are different from men. That means you should treat them differently. Trust them differently. In other words, trust your women to act like women.

And what u/Cdsmasher said, keep working

[–]Shaman6624 4 points5 points  (3 children)

I hope you're right and something did die. That's how you grow and change as a person by the metaphorical death of parts of you that don't work in reality.

[–]hopelesstuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this as well 🙏

[–]look_in_the_mirror 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I know what you mean. But I miss that part of me.

[–]Shaman6624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Me to it is never really lost I think it just dissolves and then integrates in your personality in a new and even richer way. You just have to see the basic drive as something good but the old way it was integrated in your personality wasn't working for you. So in such a proces usually you first lose that part of yourself for a while while you figure things out and then it starts to reintegrate and resurface.

[–]AllgBeamtenrecht 1 point2 points  (1 child)

going through the same right now. she cheated on me for weeks, as the first woman ever in my life to do this. my whole life until now i was the heartbreaker (never cheated,not going to either) and left my girlfriends, now this. it is like a bubble popped and i fell hard on the concrete of reality. i will never trust a woman again after this

[–]cleverest_alias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed to hear this. Thank you.

[–]Endorsed ContributorKeffirLime 24 points25 points  (13 children)

Yeah, that's not true.

If she puts on 50kg, starts shitting with the door open, and fucking all your friends, you still gonna love her unconditionally?.

[–]Zech4riah 48 points49 points  (11 children)

You are confusing love and attraction.

[–]1redhawkes 14 points15 points  (3 children)

What you call 'love' is just a chemical reaction, pair bonding (oxytocin).

Try and love her when you have three hotter chicks on the side.

[–]Zech4riah 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I'm not going in to semantics with the word "love". Everyone should understand what I mean.

Yes, currently in that kind of situation. 1 MLTR and 3 FBs. Seems to be going well

EDIT: Well tbh, 2 FBs are pretty much as hot as my MLTR. One of the FBs is hotter than the rest. As Blackdragon says, never MLTR/OLTR the hottest girl in your roster.

[–]1redhawkes 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Then you should know that monogamy isn't natural. Keep the abundance.

[–]Zech4riah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly, never stated otherwise.

[–]Endorsed ContributorKeffirLime 0 points1 point  (6 children)

They are not mutually exclusive,

[–]bongohai 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Errm...all my LTRs shat with door open and so do I.

[–]UncleChido 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Thank you for speaking my heart. Men love and have oneitis for women they haven’t slept with -are too beta to escalate with. OP’s post is totally off point. It applies to women, not men. Women only care about how you make them feel. Men love unconditionally. Edit: typos.

[–]banthrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I fucked my ex GF in all orifices daily for almost 2 years. She left me last week, I got the bigges oneitis I ever had. Stupid me for not having abundance mentality.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 11 points12 points  (8 children)

Blue pilled men love unconditionally after a pair bond is formed, which is why they let themselves get cucked, or betrayed, cheated on, used as an ATM, and dragged into degeneracy.

It's all for the sake of blue pilled unconditional love!!

Fixed that for you.

Edit: if you still "love" someone who betrays you, subjugated your happiness... etc, then that is clear desperation, scarcity, and beta hood.

You don't love the person at that point. You just love the feelings, routine, and sex. Not Her.

Unless you do love cheaters and betrayers for who they are like a good little beta.

"I know you cheated on me but I still love you damnit!!" classic words of a bloopster.

[–]Zech4riah 2 points3 points  (7 children)

You speak like you think you can turn on and off your feelings. Good for you if you can. 99% of the people can't and this portion of the population should be realistic and admit that they have destructive emotions (unconditional love) which must be addressed appropriately. But glad we have TRP which gives tools to deal with these emotions and to your own advantage. TRP does not remove these emotions (like unconditional love) but it teaches you how to deal with them.

If a girl cheats you, betrays you or disrespects you, you won't stop loving her instantly even though you would like to. And again - TRP guides you how to deal with the situation and move on.

No matter how red pilled you are, you will love unconditionally when a strong pair bond has been formed. The difference to blue pilled guys is that how you deal with those emotions.

Rest is just semantics. You can say you love her or you can say you love her tits, easy sex, BJs etc. doesn't matter - she is still the catalyst of your feelings and twisting the words doesn't change it.

[–]rebbit_reddit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Realise that a feeling is just a feeling. Then set it aside and perform the right action

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 1 point2 points  (5 children)

If a girl cheats you, betrays you or disrespects you, you won't stop loving her instantly even though you would like to.

Love can turn to hate, fairly quickly.

The key is to turn the love into apathy.

This is done by the removal of trust.

You no longer care about the cheating, betrayal, etc. because you no longer trust her to behave in other ways, thus becoming apathetic to her actions.

You can say you love her or you can say you love her tits, easy sex, BJs etc. doesn't matter

It does matter.

I can fuck a hooker, for her amazing ass, and miss her amazing ass, but not love her as a person.

Same with a hypothetical cheating girlfriend.

She betrayed and all trust is gone - but she still has a sexy body. That hasn't changed, only a revealing of her character (and that of all women.)

So no semantics.

This is the difference for loving a woman for who she is, rather than what she has or does.

Edit: I'm sure you've been with women who you hated, were completely annoyed by, but their bodies were still attractive and you fucked their asses off.

I know I have. That chick was frustrating, irritating, but she had a sexy body.

[–]Zech4riah 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Yes, love can be numbed down in several ways but it can't be done instantly (which is the problem I pointed out). Maybe over months. Of course if you go HC red pilled way you never let yourself to fall in love or pair bond which is basically denying one of the greatest needs (but again, not all men has this need to pair bond but they are minority).

I guess you are confusing love and attraction as well. You can be attracted without being in love and vice versa. You talk about loving in your original post so lets stick with love instead of attraction which you actually talk about in this reply. You are sexually attracted to her tits n ass. You don't "love" them in the broader meaning of the word.

No, I haven't never loved (or more like pairbonded) women who piss me off right from the beginning but yes, I've fucked their hot ass because I was attracted to them. And yes, I've had GFs in my blue pilled days who turned out to be annoying bitches in relationships and generally after noticing that it took me around half a year to get rid of the "love" and break up with them but that's different kind of situation because the person I fell in love wasn't quite the person at the beginning she truly was.

I'm not sure why you have an issue acknowledging that the love and attraction are different things.

Actually I think more and more that we are arguing about semantics in the end... (love vs attraction and their difference).

PS. As a sidenote, I think there is actually a difference between falling in love/loving and pair bonding. I'm a lucky guy who never actually falls in love (which made my blue pilled life a lot easier). As I've said to many girls: "I don't fall in love - I start to love at some point" which in other words means "I don't fall in love - I only pair bond". Pair bonding is a bit more logic driven process which happens over longer period of time - usually months for me (falling in love can happen in couple of minutes or hours).

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 1 point2 points  (3 children)

love or pair bond which is basically denying one of the greatest needs

Love / pair bonding is not a need.

Sex and intimacy are a need - both of which can be received from a girl you are fucking without being in love with.

What is it with nerds and using the word "semantics" keep your semantic word to yourself - this sub is built on nuance. It's vital.

I have an issue with you not realizing that's the point of this post:

"Did you love her - the human being, or were you just attracted to (in love with) her ass?"

[–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (2 children)

This starts to be nitpicking but yeah, I guess you could say pair bonding itself isn't a need but it's a broader term for a set of needs and/or biological reproducing related processes.

I have an issue with you not realizing that's the point of this post: "Did you love her - the human being, or were you just attracted to (in love with) her ass?"

Finally we are talking about same language with correct words.

Now, keep on swallowing. One day you will get over the anger phase.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (1 child)

No, pair bonding is not a need nor a broader term for a set of needs.

Males need to reproduce. Not form families.

Males fuck, then run away, fuck again, run away...

"Pair bonding" is not a need in any form.

There's nothing to be angry at.

Actually. I'll be honest, I've been more frustrated with this discussion than I've been with any woman I've been with.

That's life - I accept it.

[–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, pair bonding is not a need nor a broader term for a set of needs.

Males need to reproduce. Not form families.

Males fuck, then run away, fuck again, run away...

"Pair bonding" is not a need in any form.

Totally wrong.

Honestly, you really have to put your ego aside for a sec and go to educate yourself. Human races reproduction is based on quality, not quantity (like rabbits or insects - they don't pairbond), this means forming bonds and families.

If you prefer videos. This explains the reproducing strategies pretty well and pair bonding is related to K-strategy to keep the father around long enough to rise a quality offspring and guarantee their survival.


[–]Redpillandrew 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Why is this upvoted to the stars? Bloopers who believe the lie love unconditionally, not me: I totally resonate with OP. I love her tits, her ass, the fact that she cooked and stuff. All the rest loses meaning once you put on red lenses glasses. Come on

[–]Zech4riah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men loving unconditionally isn't about beliefs. It's biologically hardwired into us. No matter how TRP you are, you will still have to deal with those hardwired feelings.

TRP gives you the tools to understand and deal with those emotions (oneitis, love etc) but TRP won't remove those feelings. If you really try you may able numb down emotions like "love" and when you add keep the distance to the girl, you may be able to avoid pair bonding - this is actually where spinning the plates helps.

I guess I should have underlined the "after pair bond has been formed" because most of the people seem to be ignoring it.

[–]lotikpotik 1 points1 points [recovered]

You know, they don't, which makes your comment irrelevant.

[–]44361066 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I still wanted to trust her, and she let me down, never again.

[–]Enigma221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly this. My ex was my first technically and I wasn't her first and she left me and didnt care at all even with our daughter but when she left her first guy for me she cried and cried to me. Never really felt like she didn't miss him or prefer to be with him. I still miss her and love her I can't get over her I try to think it's just the sex I miss but it really isn't though it's the pair bonding that I want back and cant live without. Pair bonding is true and it ruins womens ability to stay into committed relationships the more partners they have. It really is different in women though, one can have two partners and still have the ability to pair bond, someone can have five, and some can just have one,etc..

[–]redd_reality -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They do. And it is that unconditional love and subsequent removal of it by rejection that creates the void big enough for the boy to relinquish his childish ways and become a man.

This is why the smp, sexual dynamics and the burden we bear as men is so beautiful. If we want women to adore us as much as we love them, we must become effective men and lift up those around us.

It's as if nature used sex and love as the greatest tool to improve our worldly effectiveness.

[–]jaznex 23 points24 points  (0 children)

"You love the fish that's why you took it out of the water and killed it and boiled it. Don't tell me you love the fish, you love yourself. Because the fish tastes good to you, you took it out of the water and killed it and boiled it." Rabbi Dr. Abraham


[–]Endorsed ContributorKeffirLime 47 points48 points  (0 children)

We forget that all relationships are somewhat transactional. They have something we desire and vice versa. It's how she makes you feel, it's not really her. Its what you have to offer, it's not really you.

This is why abundance is so important. So that your entire supply of sex, emotional support etc doesn't rest on one individual.

[–]FlockaTV 59 points60 points  (7 children)

Think of her while taking a shit, thats how i got over my gfs tbh

[–]chrisname 101 points102 points  (5 children)

Nah, I enjoy shitting. Don't wanna ruin it with that association.

[–]AlphaNathan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Highlight of my workday for sure

[–]tropzumuch 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Bro I mean gay is fine and all but what part of the dumping do you enjoy?

[–]chrisname 22 points23 points  (1 child)

It's just satisfying, like a good piss. My asshole is strictly an exit btw.

[–]yllennodmij 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A surprise, but a welcome one to be sure

[–]Galaldriel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This also helps to take them off the pedestal. Every hot woman takes a nasty ass shit every day

[–]XtoDoubt 42 points43 points  (2 children)

Obviously I miss the sex. But I miss the affection way waaaaaaaaaay more. If it was just about the sex I'd really be fine just jerking off and not worrying about picking up women.

[–]qmc214 24 points25 points  (3 children)

Going thru this same thing now. Constantly reaching out and being rejected. Why do i still do it? Probably because im 40 and shes 23 and i think ill never get a young chick like that again. Why cant i just have the mindset of "fuck her if she doesnt want me. Her loss, ill get another one"?

Couple months ago she said "i love you" and "im obsessed with you" every damn day. She always said "we can get thru anything together". Now shes gone and wont talk to me or see me and like a little bitch i cant get her out of my head. I know im being a bitch and i need to snap out of it.

[–]lapeparoja 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Every time an older guy get together with a very young woman (18-24) he must be willing to lose her and never ever try to get her to commit or god forbid, mate guard her. You can attract plenty of young pussy if you play your cards well, but the moment you start idealizing a relationship, monogamy or love you are fucked.

[–]JerryLawlerPigFace 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Add “right now” to the end of those I love you’s and I’m obsessed with you’s and it’ll make a lot more sense

[–]lehappyjuice 35 points36 points  (4 children)

And what if I miss the human being

[–]Cdsmasher 37 points38 points  (2 children)

Cherish the fond memories you had without getting stuck on them. If indeed, she offered more than something physical, and was special in some way, think what it was you lacked that caused her to leave, and improve yourself so that when you find another one like her, you will not repeat the mistake (there should be a few million in the world, you'll manage if you get to meet people).

If it was not some obvious bad thing you did and she left you for Chad or had some other shit behaviour, and you miss the "human being" you are mostly a hopeless beta and can wallow in your self pity.

[–]scarynerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as i disagree with the whole red pill narative, this is some solid advice.

[–]Merwebb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes you aren't lacking and they still leave.

Sometimes they aren't lacking and you leave.

It's not personal, shit happens. Keep improving.

[–]ploppylumpkins 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just thank your lucky stars you didn’t get married and have kids with her. You got off easy.

[–]tropzumuch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This reads like a message to OP himself

[–]The_Chiselnator 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Fuck a hundred women. Learn what they are. Trust me; when you have a married thot with your dick in her mouth then pausing to call her loser husband to bitch at him for not remembering to get the chicken out of the freezer and then letting you fuck her in the ass 2 seconds later you will think twice about your love bullshit. No woman other than your mother will ever even remotely care for you other than what you can give her i.e. resources. And even your mother might not.

If you want to have kids select their mother carefully. Breed. Raise your kids strong.

Love is bullshit for losers.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I get the point of this post for most of the community but it doesn't apply to me and probably a lot of guys using women to fill voids in their lives.

My oneitis had bullet proof frame, a deep sense of self, incredible confidence and insight into the human condition plus several other qualities rare in men and virtually non existent in women.

Prior to red pill I lacked all those things and was drawn to her to compensate.

There are plenty of guys on here, superficial Chad's, who fell in oneitis with a woman not for sex, but to fill the holes in their character. Obviously that doesn't work and hence they found trp.

Jerking off or fucking other women didn't make any difference for me. Only introspection and hard work to improve had a positive impact.

[–]TissueBabies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this. In a way meeting a woman with those kinds of good qualities is it's own Red Pill, because most other women are so far off the mark it puts the bar for what a good partner is in the ninetieth percentile. You could hump your way across the country and it would only demonstrate what you were missing. It also shows that there are women out there worth having around, but you have to be good enough to have around too. As much as TRP is supposed to be about sexual strategy I see not having the kind of women you want as an indictment of poor character or lifestyle. It's something that's decidedly not about sex.

[–]Sittingonabigbluebox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The oneitis that caused me to come here I thought was hot af and I was beta af. Friends used to say she wasn't that good looking. A year later and I decided to look at photos of her and I'm just thinking, "wow, I had oneitis for THAT? All that shitbi went through and she wasn't all that good looking. Damn son, what were you thinking?" Lack of abundance was where my head was at. I laugh at it now. Fucking love red pill.

[–]Rhynovirus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shorter this thread: have a vetting process before you LTR a woman and sort your own shit out first.

Remember boys: LTR and marriage is RedPill on Hard Mode

[–]FlyGuwop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just go along with it and get every drop out of her while you can.

[–]Joethe31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a shame I can’t just forget my ex 100%. Should have had better pull out game.

[–]fridgefucker12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God damn feel like you wrote this for me.

[–]redd_reality 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're addicted to the drug of sex and love because the pain of becoming a man is too heavy for your bitch ass to bare.

[–]tonikroosofficial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy fucking shit.

Literally how I'm feeling right now. Ex used to fuck the soul out of me. Sucked the semen out of me like an M&M through a straw and rode me better than a cowboy rides a horse. This post spoke to me. I only miss the sex and the things she did for me. Not her.


EDIT: Just busted a nut. Logic has returned.

[–]Theprimevoyager 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Just finally rewired my brain after I was forced to "kill the puppy". This post is 100% right. I would get a few drinks in me once every two weeks and reach out. She would humor me but obviously it's done. The pair bonding chemicals have subsided and I have gone over a month without that 'empty' feeling or any of that reaching out bullshit. Now she's the one to text(deleted the number, didn't block) every week and I just ignore it. I don't question it or reply. Haven't been laid since but improvement within myself is going quite well.

I miss her body surely, but all the other bullshit and her BPD tendencies have sharpened me into something better.

[–]Imonreddityea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damn same thing going here. Losing that empty feeling as well. Thankfully my fix is working out.

[–]untonyto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The tits and ass may be missed but the BPD tendencies must never be forgotten.

[–]GoGetting 8 points9 points  (16 children)

And then?

Your philosophy cannot possibly bring you happiness. Only misery, resentment, the feeling of you versus them.

You're going to die alone, OP. You're going to lie on that death bed, alone, thinking "yeah, I bust so many nuts, yeah... I'm... happy... right...". Happy about that?

You're going to be a miserable withered old man, waiting for the cardiogram to flatline, after which no one will give a shit.

Hurray. At least you didn't get one-itis.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 5 points6 points  (4 children)

after which no one will give a shit.

That's how it alway ends. Watch the moralizing.

[–]GoGetting -3 points-2 points  (3 children)

No it isn't. As long as a tear is shed by someone when you die, your life wasn't worthless.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Well, that's some arbitrary bullshit.

[–]GoGetting -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

And would you feel that? A crying daughter, would be no different to a daughter who doesn't show up out of disrespect, which would be no different to there being none at all? A beloved wife sat beside you, who will miss you, would be no different to a list of tinder bangs you kept from your twenties, 50 years ago?

And the difference in those feelings in that room, would reflect nothing upon the meaning of your life when it was over?

Deny nature like that, and you're no better than the leftists. Don't let them turn you into a nihilistic monster.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (3 children)

"If you want to be happy, stop reading The Red Pill. Go away. Never think about it again. Be ignorant, content, satisfied with “good enough.”"

per Vanguard u/Archwinger...

posted 3 years ago...

Never be satisfied

[–]GoGetting 1 points1 points [recovered]

Junk. As I've said repeatedly without rebuttal, TRP paints no end game. Just "everyone else is so wrong and we're so enlightened". It's a dogma product, not a solution product.

Which is actually apt. The "red pill" is a reference to The Matrix movie. And The Matrix ends in Neo either dead, or reabsorbed by the machine (depending on interpretation of the ending).

You think you're enlightened, but if you were enlightened you'd realize you know nothing.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

If you knew anything about TRP you'd know that a toolbox has no end game, it's wonderfully up to the individual man what he wants to build with the tools contained within.

I don't think we can help you here.. your post history is full of you railing against basic TRP maxims and giving shitty advice.. You've been posting here for 8 months and you're still this green? Maybe you should just go.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 7 points8 points  (3 children)

Chasing happiness is an errand of fools because happiness, like other feelings, is fleeting and unreliable.

The better "high" to chase would be contentment and accomplishment.

Who cares whether you die surrounded by family, lovers, or the cold air - you go to into death alone anyways, so it doesn't matter. No accounting for the fact that we can die at any moment.

I have to question you - do you let women cuck you, then you over look it because you care about happiness? Or do you resent her for cheating on you, understand it was you Vs. Them, and then move on?

I don't know or care if I'll be happy in the end, but I'm certain I will be satisfied.

[–]GoGetting 6 points7 points  (2 children)

The better "high" to chase would be contentment and accomplishment.


I have to question you - do you let women cuck you, then you over look it because you care about happiness?

You would recognize she is a destroyer of happiness, and your enemy, and delete her from your life.

But in OP's case, the girl doesn't sound on that end of the spectrum. It sound much more like he was the one who spoiled things.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I am the OP, and this post isn't about a particular girl, it's a realization I made while I was "missing" a sexy, but cheating Ex.

God damn I miss that ass - but I don't miss the person.

[–]Endorsed Contributorredpillbanana 0 points1 point  (2 children)

[–]GoGetting 1 points1 points [recovered]

The rational male is a good blogger who knows nothing about the world. His bile and negativity filled blog is no religious text. It's a nod fest for those needing the therapy of shared hate.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 3 points4 points  (0 children)

TRM spreads the truth about the nature of women.

Understand them and you have no reason to be angry.

Much like a cat scratches, a snake bites, and a whore cheats.

Do not fault them for being what they are. Know and Accept them and enjoy the good about them.

[–]Thrawy124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you avoid this feeling of routine?

I chose ransoms days throughout two months to go to this girls house, yet as soon as it was over, I missed the place, not her, she was a bitch, but the house and the experiences I got from it, I'll never forget the house.

When it dawned on me that I would never go to that house again, my first thought wasnt"Let's find another one" it was "I miss it".


[–]pohlrich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

another utter nonsense post.

[–]GanksGriefersForFun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cold hard FACTS. Another fact you instantly make apparent is that many people aren't people we even love. It's just sex that drives many men towards women. This is bad on both ends. Women should strive to be good company and men should choose women they love to stay in their lives. Dragging things out is detrimental in the long run.

[–]1SeemedGood 1 point2 points  (29 children)

Nah man. You’re thinking like a woman. Men actually are capable of loving a woman for who she is as opposed to simply her utility to us.

That’s actual love, it’s masculine and we should embrace it.

It is, however, no excuse for oneitis. We should be judicious in extending our love and cease extending it to the vast bulk of women who are utterly incapable of honoring it.

But to deny our ability to love out of frustration that women cannot love us and thereby become as corrupted effeminate as they have is to doom humanity to total degeneration.

Enjoy the decline by taking advantage of it, but don’t become the decline.

Edit: typo

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 1 point2 points  (6 children)

Men actually are capable of loving a woman

Love is a combination of your sexual attraction to her ("i wanna fuck her"), her physical beauty (like a flower or a piece of art is artistically beautiful) and your own projections about her (pedestalizing her as unique).

There is no such thing as non-phusical based, non-corporeal love. Thus, neither men, nor women actually love anyone, not as we generally tent to view love (amor vincit omnia, romanticizing it, the deep spiritual experience etc.).

Enjoy the decline by taking advantage of it, but don’t become the decline.

That's like saying I don't support the war, but I'll buy the freedom fries b/c they are good.

[–]1SeemedGood 0 points1 point  (5 children)

There is no such thing as non-phusical based, non-corporeal love.

This is true if you locate your sense of self solely in your physical manifestation. But to do so denies the more potent part of yourself that is not material and confines your consciousness within the rule of your subconscious and innate programming.

Just because women have done that to themselves doesn’t mean we have to follow them.

It is entirely possible to locate your sense of self with that part of you which is immaterial and thereby escape the bounds of your innate “animal” programming. Doing so requires undergoing the intense and lifelong work of expanding your consciousness (which simultaneously reduces your sublimation to your unconscious self).

As men we are gifted with all the grist we need for the mill of consciousness expansion and until recently women have kept the pressure on us to do so by penalizing failure and victim-grasping behaviors. We have to consciously self-observe, objectively self-critique, and stay introspective to succeed and the natural result of that process is the consciousness expansion that allows us to escape solipsism, recognize the existence of others, and love them for who they are, not just their usefulness to us.

That is our greatest strength. It is what makes us stronger, smarter, and more creative. It is what distinguishes us most from being as shallow, needy, and self-centered as women have allowed themselves to become. Don’t throw it away just because women do.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (4 children)

Just because women have done that to themselves doesn’t mean we have to follow them.

Right. Women have the magical power to turn off the non-material, higher-mind subconscious and reject the real (not the philosophical) sacred values that were put there by god (or universe).

So either women are stronger than the supposed sacred (and it's creator) or the supposed sacred is pretty weak if something mentally weak and undisciplined as average woman can chose to reject it.

It is entirely possible to locate your sense of self with that part of you which is immaterial

Give a few meaningful examples of how that works and few meaningful examples of people who have done it.

[–]1SeemedGood 0 points1 point  (3 children)

There is no “higher-mind subconscious.” The subconscious is the lower mind, and we can all master it by expanding our consciousness. Women tend not to because they have managed to eliminate many of the natural drivers for them to do so.

The key to expanding one’s consciousness and thereby gaining mastery over oneself is the process of objective self observation, self critique, and introspection that women tend to eschew in our society.

While few men undergo it vigorously, the societal structure tends to encourage us to do so at least a little bit because it is less tolerant of male solipsism and failure.

Perhaps the most pertinent practical example of this process and its benefits (though a very minor one) is RP philosophy itself.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (2 children)

objective self observation, self critique, and introspection

So if that's as simple and plain as the above why the pompous words about "expanding my consciousness" or "reducing the sublimation of my conscious self"?

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (1 child)


IDK what he's rambling on with about that, but expanding your consciousness is akin to expanding your awareness, which is done by self observation, self critique, and introspection.

It's accurate - not pompous.

Pop acid - if done with the intent of the above, it will do wonders.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, so what exactly expands when you're getting more proficient at self observation, self critique, and introspection? It's like saying that I'm going beyond the boundaries of my physical body while doing a squat rep.

The moment you need to dress something in value adding words, the moment my bs meter starts to tick b/c it's a sell tactic, "expanding your consciousness" just sound better than "I try not to do the dishes on autopilot". Same thing as "live love laugh" or "let go and let god" when in fact it's just means she's getting railed left and right. Much hamster about nothing, if you get the pun.

I'm pretty sure a direct correlation (maybe even straight line linear) could be made between the amount of pompous words and amount of bullshit in stuff we're talking about.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 1 point2 points  (21 children)

Men actually are capable of loving a woman.

Yes, capable. The point of this post is for the reader to question whether they actually "love" their woman or if it's just her ass and the company/ not being lonely.

I see the point went over your head.

doom humanity to total degeneration

Not my problem

You cannot enjoy the decline by spinning plates without becoming the decline by spinning plates.

[–]1SeemedGood 1 point2 points  (20 children)

As you are human, the degeneration of humanity is very much your problem. This isn’t your first time at bat and it won’t be your last.

Spinning plates is not the decline itself. Rather it is just a reaction to the unconscious state of womanhood in our culture.

Becoming the decline is losing the better parts of our masculine selves to the choice-making of corrupted (and unconscious) women.

And I got the point of the post. Problem is that it’s woman-think.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Are you suggesting reincarnation ?

And what are these "better parts"?

[–]1SeemedGood 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Well that and/or that the true “you” is your consciousness and that consciousness is unbound by time as it is not material and time is simply a function of material distance.

One example would be our propensity to outgrow the childlike state of solipsism and our subsequent ability to actually love others.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Our consciousness is infinite. We've been in a decline before with hedonistic tribalism and death and violence abundant- we can handle it again.

That example advocates for guys to look past being cheated on, and forgive and love others.

Not my cup of tea.

[–]1SeemedGood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First point is true. The infinite continuum of consciousness is a spiral, but better to spiral up than down.

Second is not true. That we can generate actual love and share it with others does not mean we should do so indiscriminately. That we do and should love women’s souls does not imply that we should love their egos and their resultant misalignment with those souls.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (15 children)

Spinning plates is not the decline itself. Rather it is just a reaction to the unconscious state of womanhood in our culture.

It's a part of our natural, sexual strategy, just realized in modern times where we don't need to worry about starving if you don't find the berries in next few days.

As a man, you are the disposable gender, since you do not bear children and ensure their survival until they can eat something else than mothers milk (2-3 years old?). You can't do that, only she can. Thus, it's in your "genetic benefit" to make sure you have a lot of children b/c you have little control over them (plus most of kids died anyway).

Woman OTOH is dependent on the man during pregnancy and child rearing periods. BUT it doesn't have to be the father (or he might not know). Any man will do in tight spot. It's in her benefit to pursue relationship that ties the man to her, the best she can find of course, but in the end ANY man will do.

Plate spinning is not decline. Monogamous, life long marriage is not the all time, ultimate and eternal-best possible solution for humans. As far I can recall, the prevailing anthropological theory is that humans before sedentary civilisation appeared (depending on how you count from 200k years to 2 million years) were serial monogamists, some even say there was a bit more liberal approach to that, but that's a minority. I personally tent to think it was something along the lines of "smack the competition with a big stick Tinder + few years of child rearing + polygamy (b/c we didn't understood that sex=children, so we had a lot of casual sex)", if that makes some sense.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (14 children)

Plate spinning is not decline.

Yes, plate spinning is the decline.

The decline = decline of society.

Before society, and civilization, we had tribes of serial monogamists / polygamists.

Stage 0

Then we had monogamy and marriage.

Stage 1

Now, we go back to polygamy, sexual freedom, and serial monogamy

Stage 0

It's a decline.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (13 children)

Tl/DR: omg, no marriage and no monogamy = decline.

God save us, what are we going to do with our lives if we're not going to marry!?

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (4 children)

I personally dont care for marriage - I will never get married.

It's true though - with betas getting 0 pussy and alphas getting 100 pussy, then the betas will have no incentive to work and continue increase (opposite of decline) society and civilization.

This is why sex bots are coming into existence - because if betas dont get sex, society dont get worker bees to push us forward.

Without the sex bots and without forced monogamy, betas would gang up on alphas and steal women.

So yeah, I dont care for marriage - the truth still stands.

Not good or bad, just is.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (3 children)

betas getting 0 pussy and alphas getting 100 pussy, then the betas will have no incentive to work and continue increase

It's a myth, on par with a FEMA concentration camps. Nothing like that is ever going to happen, even for the simple reason that the betas do get to fuck, just a lot less, and they do get to have children, probably on par with alphas in this case.

Without the sex bots and without forced monogamy, betas would gang up on alphas and steal women.

The rule of thumb on TRP is 80/20 division. A while ago, I found some back of the envelope calculation on some gym forum, in which a guy concluded that roughly 3% of men in US lifts. Let's be generous and assume that "20% to 3%" decline actually happened, and it did over last 70 years (1950+). So, the betas had 70 years to do the uprising. Nothing like that has happened. Incel and MGTOW subreddits had 10% of population of TRP and TRP is already a niche community. Get real. There will be no MGTOW, incel, beta, BP uprising. As I said, it's a bs myth comparable to FEMA concentration camps.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Considering many walmarts can be converted into FEMA camps and FEMA has an overstock of mass graves, and armed guards at their facilities, that's probably not the best analogy to use.

It most certainly is happening - betas are checking out of the game - they stay inside all day play video games and masturbate. MGTOW subreddit numbers are not indicative of real world phenomena.

Beta's are not fucking anybody consistently (which is what matters), they get rejected by the majority of women.

School shootings happening more frequently too. It didnt take us 70 years to go from tribalism to civilization, so it's gonna take longer than 70 to go from civilization back to tribalism.

Life is a circle.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You forgot to mention Project Bluebeam and failed to connect Jews to that. This means you're not RP.

[–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (7 children)

As LiveAFTSOV already pointed out, this society driven monogamy has secured secured a good environment for mankind to develop in many different areas (culture, technology etc). If the betas get angry because they can't get women, they stop contributing to the society.

Top 20% spinning plates would be really bad for overall development of societies.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (6 children)

society driven monogamy has secured secured a good environment for mankind to develop in many different areas

Yes it HAD. Past tense. For that we paid the price of abandoning male sexual strategy (cultivating our masculinity).

Now that we paid the price, now that we have sufficiently postponed the reward, now that we do have the technology that allows us not to worry about starving and having roof over head, now that we have the understanding of m/f interactions TRP provides - maybe it's now time to let go of BP garbage of tradcon that only holds us, men, back and embrace male sexual strategy as much as women had embraced theirs. B/c being a BP alpha is akin to being able to deadlift 500lbs shopping cart your wife told you to.

If the betas get angry because they can't get women, they stop contributing to the society.

They haven't and they won't. I'll repeat again, this is as likely as FEMA concentration camps.

Top 20% spinning plates would be really bad for overall development of societies.

Using the gymgoer guesstimation, it's 3%, assuming we call ALL men who lift alphas who have game and can pull. My personal, in-field-observational guesstimation is between 5 to 10%, depending on geographical location. That's a generous guesstimation too.

You two are just fearmongering for some reason. Maybe the impeding doom you're imagining gives you chills, maybe you're angry at the state of things, maybe you're gullible b/c you read RoK article. No AMOG here, just an exploration of your reasons why you believe in stuff like that.

[–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (5 children)

No I'm not fearmongering because I will be fine no matter what happens. But it is a fact that there is significant increase in young men "exiting" the society and it has been studied here in Finland. One of the reasons is actually related to lack of relationships (or maybe vice cersa). Low value men and their problems are not taken seriously because no one cares. Anyway, here it translates them exiting the work force which means they will be living from my pocket (welfare -> more taxes) and that's something I don't want to be funding.

And yes, that tech aspect is interesting - I actually forgot it. It may cause an entertaining change in SMP balance.

Your estimates about percentages may be much more closer to truth than mine. I just pulled some number from my head.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 0 points1 point  (4 children)

significant increase in young men "exiting" the society

here it translates them exiting the work force

Link the study, quote the numbers.

[–]Suffercure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you even like her?

Do you even know her?

Yes, but does my oneitis? No

[–]openWh1te 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone read the book The Great Gatsby?

Don't let "the one" be your Daisy !

[–]VillagersUnite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All these things that were mentioned. Instant morning blowjobs and all. I guess people really had it made lol. I don't have shit to miss. That makes my past break up easy to get over. I never had anything really worthwhile from that girl. Sounds pretty shitty now that I think on it.

[–]Shaman6624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is love? Baby don't hurt me.

[–]BaelorsBalls 0 points1 point  (1 child)

What is dead may never die but rises again harder and stronger

[–]OfficerWade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my mentors growing up said it right. Let’s say her name is Susan. I told him I wanted her back because all women are like that and since we have a child together we should try and make it work..

“Find another Susan”

His words haunt me because how detached he was emotionally when he said. I mean, there’s no strings attached, just get you another girlfriend. You’re still the man you always wanted to be and noting has changed that. Nothing will ever change that. Indeed, some things never change.

[–]Westkanyewest1 1 points1 points [recovered]

This entire subreddit is run my betas who have been rejected by a girl they like and then try to compensate for their crippling insecurity by reducing themselves to nothing more than material and sexual desire and women to nothing more than sexual objects. I thought this subreddit was about the matrix wtf

[–]3LiveAFTSOV -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Read the side bar jack ass

[–]1Sir_Distic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't feed the trolls. Report them and move on.

[–]number1shittalker 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It was the ass. Definitely the ass.

[–]dwaynebenjamin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so what's the reversal of this where she glorifies you in her head and gets hooked?

Deeds of status? Dominance?

[–]NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr 1 points1 points [recovered]

Sorry dude. Her & i were ~97-98% matched in our personalities, likes/dislikes, humor. I miss my soulmate, for that's what she was. She has the body and personality EVERY single guy on the planet would kill for! Together 6 years and she started the slow fade on me. I broke up with her because i know what want. I know what i will not tolerate. Second hardest thing i've ever had to do in my life. Quitting smoking was 1st. Not interested in looking for "Mrs. 99%" and i've had my share of meaningless sex. Listen to me and do yourself this favor: if she's not even close to the mirror image of you, same interests, same sense of humor, likes/dislikes ...then you.are.wasting.your.time. with the wrong person. Trust me. But even then, you MUST be true to yourself as a man and follow the rules you've setup for yourself! No matter how much it sucks, no matter how much it hurts. Your self respect is more important than throwing in the towel for fleeting pleasure.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I miss my soulmate, for that's what she was. She has the body and personality EVERY single guy on the planet would kill for!

Hello unicorn hunter - I diagnose you with a severe case of oneitis

[–]NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Certainly sounds that way doesn't it? Thing is her personality ONLY matched mine. I guess you could call her a "unicorn". Is there another soulmate out there for me? Most definitely...but it's going to be an even tougher battle to get to the next one.

[–]shshshshady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anytime I jerk off I get a moment of clarity and realize she ain’t sheeeeee

[–]mikemnp11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Golden ! I definitely miss her ass and boobs and actually nothing about her personality !

[–]Yourgonnagofarkid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

love her body - Gucci mane

“Do I love my butch or am I in love with her body?”

[–]RedVelocitiy 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Hah. I wrote something exactly like this in my personal logbook. We tell ourselves that "I don't give a fuck about her" "I can get better girls than her" "I don't need her". We all know deep inside were lying. Its okay to be human, to accept your humanity. Were not some psychopathic emotionless robots than can't form bonds with people. We are human.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (2 children)

"I can get better girls than her"

We all know deep inside were lying.

Speak for yourself. Maybe YOU'RE lying when YOU say YOU cant get better girls, but I know with the way I'm going, my quality of women will increase, and the asses will get fatter.

[–]RedVelocitiy 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Sure buddy but you can't stop thinking about her, can you.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know who the "her" is that youre referring to.

If you thought this post was a mourning of a girl I just broke up with, youre mistaken

[–]Rathadin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Old school music was raw about it...

Donna Summer's Bad Girls:

I got what you want, you got what I need

[–]Libranite -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Applies to non-women related issues too. Nutting reduces stress and allows you to make better decisions.

[–]lilianluke 1 points1 points [recovered]

I do...

Stop trying to cope with the pain of losing her by telling yourself and others this bullshit. Your only chance is to fight to get her back and keep her besides you, or die having lived in vain.

And you know it.

[–]3LiveAFTSOV -2 points-1 points  (4 children)

I don't lose women, I tell them to scram. You're at mac coping levels.

Your only chance is to fight to get her back and keep her besides you

You're clearly a blue pill. Why are you here?

Oh wait, lilian, female ah?

[–]lilianluke 1 points1 points [recovered]

I'm for purple.

Also did I touch a nerve?

[–]3LiveAFTSOV -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

I figured you out, blue pilled female.

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