This was a comment I posted a while back to a guy’s situation where he was confused why a cheating wife he met at work went back to her husband, but the story applies to similar situations so I figured I’d share.
It can be husband or boyfriend, meeting wherever, cheating or monkey branching, going back to husband or staying with guy until cycle repeats, etc.
Girl is married to Husband. Girl knows everything about Husband. This makes Husband boring.
Girl meets Guy at work. Guy is exciting. Guy is different from Husband. Guy is new.
Most importantly, Guy is mysterious. Girl subconsciously fills in unknown parts of Guy’s life with high SMV traits. Girl gets tingles.
Girl has never loved husband. Girl starts cheating on Husband with Guy. Guy develops feelings. Guy texts, Guy calls, Guy pillow talks, Guy chats at work. Guy commits. Guy becomes less new.
Girl knows everything about Guy. Guy becomes less mysterious. Guy’s reality can’t match up to the high SMV picture in Girl’s mind.
Girl realizes Guy is not much different from Husband after all. This makes Guy boring. Guy is no longer exciting. Girl loses tingles.
Suddenly, Guy is not worth the hassle of cheating on Husband with. Girl decides to end things with Guy to ‘work on her marriage’ with Husband. Girl has always loved Husband.
Girl is a good, morally sound person for ending things with Guy, therefore she doesn’t need to tell Husband. Girl now appreciates Husband and is ready to stay faithful.
After a while, Girl meets New Guy. New Guy is exciting...