Meta18 Red Flags When It Comes to Dating Females (self.TheRedPill)

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Since I've been studying personality disorders for a long time (especially Cluster B, C and NOS), I thought I'd give you guys some guidelines to avoid the trap of female narcissism, which is purposefully being enabled by the retards who rule this sick Western shit show. So let's get into this shit.

#1. She Serves You a List of What She Wants in a Man

When women give you lists of what they want in a partner, they usually do it because they’re trying to appeal to your desire to impress them. They’re trying to mold your behaviour into something that accommodates them, setting the terms for the relationship and warning you that if you don’t try to please them by fitting into the box they’ve carved out for you, your chances of sleeping or entering a committed relationship with them are already forfeit.

Don’t fall for the manipulation; if she tells you that she doesn’t like men who spend their evenings in front of the TV whereas that happens to be something you do, the right thing to do is to tell her you’ll probably not be a good fit, and be on your way; not compromise by saying that you’ll reduce the time you spend watching it for her, or lie by saying that it’s something you don’t do.

#2. “I’ve Been Hurt in Relationships Before”

When someone tells you they’ve been hurt in relationships before, they’re essentially trying to solidify the relationship with you before it’s even started. They’re trying to prevent abandonment through guilt and threats (see below), as they’re terrified of reexperiencing the abandonment they suffered at the hands of previous partners (which actually started in early childhood with their emotionally unavailable fathers).

It’s a way to tell you two things:

  • if you leave me, that makes you a horrible person (guilting you into staying),
  • if you leave me, I’ll make a scene and potentially ruin your life (threatening/punishing you for abandoning them).

Healthy people don’t make others responsible for their feelings and previous breakups, so take it as a sign that she might be unstable.

#3. She Has an Entitled Attitude

This might be one of several things; a result of the feminist programming that tells women that they’re entitled to male servitude, an inferiority complex that stems from an inability to compete with men, or a bloated ego deriving from the heaps of attention she gets from hundreds of thirsty men on social media and elsewhere, especially if she’s above average-looking.

If she expects you to pay for a date and scolds you if you don’t, set an immediate boundary and make sure not to give in to her demands.

#4. She Dumps Her Emotional Baggage on You

I’ve dated girls with verbal diarrhea so bad you couldn’t put a lid on it if dinosaurs started falling out of the sky. They couldn’t stop japping about how bad they were treated by their previous boyfriends, what assholes their fathers were, and how unfair the world was to them from the day they were born.

I get that these thoughts need to be processed, but remember that your date is not supposed to be your therapist. If she doesn’t have anyone else to talk to about these things or if the compulsion to share them takes the shape of a freight train that can’t be stopped, she probably has unresolved issues of some kind that you shouldn’t attempt to solve (as this will become your entire relationship dynamic if you start enabling it).

#5. She Has a Bad Relationship with Her Father

If you take one thing from this post, let it be that a woman’s damaged relationship with her father is almost certain to translate to a damaged relationship with you. Whatever relationship dynamic she had with her parent of the opposite sex growing up, she’ll seek to reproduce with the men in her life; meaning, that if the only way she managed to get dad’s attention as a child was to give him the silent treatment, then that’s what she’ll do to you to get yours.

Also, I can guarantee that if she has any type of resentment towards her father, she’ll project that resentment onto you as well.

Bad relationship with dad = get the fuck out of there.

#6. She’s a Feminist

An absolute no-no in this day and age; telling you that she’s a feminist is the equivalent of confessing that she secretly despises men and thinks everything with a penis is sexist. Women who claim to be feminists have been indoctrinated by the system to believe that they’re victims of an evil patriarchy that seeks to keep them in the kitchen at all costs; they’re hostile and competitive in nature, which negates any chance of having a polarized relationship with them.

In addition to that, note that a lot of narcissistic females tend to gravitate towards feminism because it gives them an opportunity to get back at their abusive fathers/partners; an unacceptable substitute for personal development work, as it’s nothing short of obliterating the potential for healthy male-female relationships on a societal level.

#7. She Has No Sense of Humor

A therapist I’ve been following for years now talks about overseriousness as a sign of enmeshment; an emotional stiffness that results from unaddressed childhood wounds that are likely to make a relationship with her difficult. Overseriousness is often comorbid with high levels of reactivity, catastrophizing, and something that’s called operational thinking (lack of colour in one’s narration).

Bear in mind that I’m not talking about situation-appropriate seriousness here; cracking jokes at a funeral probably isn’t what you want to be looking for in a woman either. What I’m talking about, in a nutshell, is emotional repression, and an inability to let loose.

#8. Love-Bombing, i.e. Too Much, Too Soon

Even though fears of abandonment don’t necessarily translate to narcissism, they always translate to unmet childhood needs, which themselves lead to what’s called attachment trauma, and pair-bonding difficulties in adulthood.

Healthy women will take their time to find out if you’re compatible with them, whereas women with fears of abandonment will try to solidify the relationship with you as fast as possible (by offering sex, most of the time). That neediness goes back, once again, to their dysfunctional relationship with their father. Do not compromise. Avoid.

#9. She’s Vague About Her Past

There’s a difference between secrecy and personal boundaries. Some people are intrusive, which is why it’s important to not just divulge any information you’re being asked about without questioning the person’s motives. On the other hand, a symptom of mature adults is that they own their past experiences; they’re not afraid to live up to their mistakes, or talk about past relationships/events in a mature way, even painful ones.

This is not to be mistaken with point number 2, in which I made a case that some women tried to solidify relationships with you by talking about their hurtful experiences with men, basically asking you to take responsibility for how they’ll feel if you leave them. I’m simply talking about an open, honest conversation about the past here.

Also, the discussion should arise because you asked her, not because she spontaneously decided to tell you about it.

#10. She’s Passive-Aggressive

Direct communication is a trademark of emotional maturity. Conversely, an inability to ask for what you want directly and nagging the living hell out of someone because they couldn’t tell that you wanted them to pick the yellow curtain instead of the blue one, is a trademark of arrested development and possibly, narcissistic behaviour. Other passive-aggressive behaviours include:

  • she can’t confront you directly about something you did or said to her that she didn’t like, and takes small jabs at you in order to “get back at you”.
  • she drops hints as to what she wants, and gets bitchy when you don’t manage to mind-read her.

Any type of shaming, gaslighting or drama falls into that category as well.

#11. She Gets Defensive When You Shit Test Her

Because they’re naturally wired to find the man with the best possible genes to bear their offspring, women tend to be selective when choosing their partners. Men, on the other hand, are hardwired to spread their genes as widely and frequently as possible without discriminating, meaning that they’re not picky when it comes to procreation.

In today’s gynocentric society, however, it’s extremely important men learn to do just that; shit test women to separate the wheat from the chaff, as making a wrong choice could quite literally cost them their lives.

My advice is this: when women take small jabs at you to see how you’ll react, mirror the behaviour back at them. You’ll notice that most women can’t stomach the taste of their own medicine at all. Another double-standard that should be exposed, but no one barely ever talks about. Oh, and if they get defensive and start shaming you: say thank you, goodbye.

#12. She Badmouthes Her Ex-Boyfriends

Another characteristic of mature adults, is that they realize that it takes two to tango. In other words, both people have a responsibility in regards to the outcome of a relationship, any relationship, and dumping the entire responsibility of that outcome on the other person signals an inability to introspect and look at one’s own actions. It signals a blind spot, meaning a defense mechanism of which there can be many: blame, responsibility displacement, projection, denial, and many more.

If she badmouthes her ex-boyfriend, not only does that tell you that she’s not the kind of person who takes responsibility for her actions, but also that she’s going to badmouth you once she moves on to the next guy, which is bound to happen at some point.

#13. She Feels the Need to Compete with You (Not Feminine/Submissive in Her Attitude)

Contrary to what society teaches us, men and women are not supposed to be in a pissing contest with one another.

Remember that it’s normal for women to be insecure; if they start acting out, don’t take it as a sign that they’re necessarily narcissists. Many decent women today have been taught that they should be able to do just as well as men in every aspect of work and everyday life, making many of them insecure about not measuring up to their male counterparts. That insecurity is a direct consequence of the system’s feminist indoctrination, and should be able to be quelled if you just sit down and talk it out with them.

Healthy women will be able to be reassured that their inability to compete with you is not a deficiency, but a byproduct of human biology; unhealthy women will tear at your self-esteem to pull you down to their level, then trick themselves into believing that they’re just as able as you are. That’s the women you should avoid.

#14. She Has Addictions

The first thing you should know about addictions, is that they’re usually used as substitutes for needs that can’t be met directly, as well as shame-distraction tools. Even though women from functional families are susceptible to addictions too, addictions are usually reliable indicators that the family unit was damaged on some level. In other words, addicted females most likely had dysfunctional relationships with their fathers, and you know what that means if you’ve read point 5. Typical addictions in today’s females include:

  • Alcohol
  • Junk Food
  • Caffeine
  • Tobacco/Weed
  • Social Media
  • Gossip and Reality TV

Then, if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, it should go without saying that planting your seed in a sick body (and attached to a sick brain) won’t do your son or daughter-to-be any more good than it does you.

#15. She’s Glued to Her Fucking Smart Phone

Staying on the topic of addiction, there are few things in today’s women that make me want to facepalm myself more than them being glued to their stupid phones all the time.

Trying to have a conversation with females whose brains have literally fused with their mobile devices is like trying to talk to a toddler riddled with OCD, ADD and Parkinson’s at the same time. It’s like trying to talk to Malcolm McDowell in that CO torture scene.

She’s not going to hear you, and even if she does, she’ll have forgotten all about it by the time you take your next breath.

If she doesn’t value your presence enough to keep that stupid thing away for a couple of hours, or if she’s so addicted that she simply can’t do it without experiencing some kind of withdrawal symptoms, give her the boot asap.

#16. Piercings and Tattoos

What goes for polluting the inside of her body, goes for the outside as well. Tattoos can signal one of four things:

  • she’s hiding herself because she’s afraid of intimacy (red flag).
  • she’s promiscuous (red flag).
  • she seeks male attention to fill an inner void (red flag).
  • she’s following a trend.

Unless you can determine for a fact that she was young and naive when she decided to modify her body, consider maybe keeping her around for a quick lay every now and then, but never, ever choose to put a ring on it.

#17. She’s Trapped in Victim Mentality

Even though I understand that an environment can be toxic and hold you back from achieving certain results, I also understand that toxic environments can be moved away from.

If you hear a woman blame her environment for being unjust to females (which is extremely rare in Western society, where anything from schools to workplaces is designed to accommodate women), all the while choosing to stay in said environment, that probably tells you she’s either looking for a pity party, or a free handout.

#18. Responsibility is Her Kryptonite

Finishing this list with a reminder more than anything else, just remember that women have every incentive not to be responsible in today’s world; not only are they hardwired to avoid being too direct (as they can’t confront like men do), but they’re also conditioned, in this particular environment, to put the blame on men instead of owning up to their mistakes.

  • It’s the girl that doesn’t show up on a date and blames you for not sending her a reminder that the date was happening.
  • It’s the girl that cheats and accuses you of making her do it, as though her mind and body were controlled by someone or something outside of herself.

It’s the girls that haven’t grown up despite being 20, 30, 40 years of age, which is becoming more and more prevalent in the gynocentric West. Do not negotiate with them; see them for what they are, meaning adult children, and move on.

*Edit: Formatting.

[–]TallSwaggOVO 449 points450 points  (57 children)

  1. Inconsistent Sexual Standards

If it gets to a point where she wants you to wait for sex with her, even despite her not doing that in the past, you need to next her. She doesn’t find you as sexually attractive, and sees you as a reliable option. Odds are, when you do finally hit:

A. It won’t be as good as you thought

B. She won’t do half of the exciting sexual shit shes done in the past. She’ll use the excuse that “she doesn’t like doing those things anymore.” But really, she doesn’t like doing those things with you.

She’s busted it open for dudes in her past, but now wants to settle. Be the one she wants, not the one she settles for.

[–]Pragmaticpandas 120 points121 points  (24 children)

Underrated comment. If she's not giving it up for you, she's not attracted enough

[–]falconpush 18 points19 points  (21 children)

What is to be said of wholesome women that have strong religious conventions? Who have been brought up proper, in a nuclear family, taught to not be a slut? Or is that not possible?

[–]dingman58 53 points54 points  (9 children)

taught to not be a slut

I've found those girls are the sluttiest.

[–]armed_renegade 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No shit, catholic girls who have basically been repressed all the time are crazy in bed.

It's the age old adage of, the forbidden fruit.

Exactly why countries where they legalised and regulated drugs, less people do them. Less kids or young people try them etc.

Because they're forbidden they are exciting...

[–]omarieleo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100% true in my experience.

[–]RedHeimdall 14 points15 points  (1 child)

In the current year, that girl is known as a unicorn. You can look for one if you want, hell I probably am as well, but don't hold your breath on finding one.

[–]eyewant 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's probably 1 out of a million, so there's a big chance that when you find your holy saint unicorn, you won't be attracted to her.

[–]cdhunt6282 16 points17 points  (6 children)

If she is, she's a diamond in the rough. But more often then not, they aren't even if they claim to be. If she went to public school (or even most private schools anymore), what she learned there contradicted what her parents told her every day. Then you wind up with a whore and confused parents saying "b-but we didn't raise her this way. We don't know what got into her." Correct, they didn't raise her that way. They didn't raise her at all. They let the state raise her, the same state pushing feminism and all the other post-modern bullshit. Only a fool would let his enemy educate his children.

As an addendum, women don't really have strong religious convictions. They aren't rational creatures, and I mean that in a technical sense. Logical maybe, but my dog can be logical and see when something doesn't work. Rationality has to do with regulating emotions, so we know that at least a week out of every month, they're completely irrational. This is why women can't be priests in the high churches (read: churches that actually follow scripture and tradition, namely traditional Catholic churches and Orthodox churches). Being a priest, you can't change doctrine on a whim. Women would flourish in dionysian cults, where doctrine was based entirely on feelings and imagery, but not in a concrete theological system. This is why, traditionally, husbands were a few years older than their wives and also the reason we use the words "husband" and "groom" specifically. Where else are those words used? Husbandry and the medieval profession of being a groom refer to raising and caring for animals (and plants). The husband was older because it was a teaching role as much as anything. Taking over the position of authority in her life from her father. It was the father and then the husband's role to keep her on the straight and narrow. But I will say that they're different in this for a reason. Men are rational, but there are times when being rational isn't there best idea. For example (back to religious ideas), when Christ was arrested and crucified, the rational male apostles ran and hid to save their own skin and carry on the faith. It was the irrational women who stayed by His side and discovered His empty tomb. Men and women balance each other out, but it's the male's job to maintain values and beliefs.

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire2 13 points14 points  (1 child)

"Only a fool would let his enemy educate his children."

This should be put on a plaque and framed somewhere.

The problem is, the state propaganda organ, which the wealthy finance as a fig-leaf for their agenda, cloaks everything in the language of benevolence, and the parents are most likely already serfs or slaves to the corporations controlled by aforesaid wealthy interests.

[–]ImHerWonderland 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Well, where should I send my daughter to go to school then?

[–]whuttupfoo 29 points30 points  (2 children)

That isn’t a red flag on the girl though. That’s a red flag for the man. If a girl is holding off on sex with you, that means you’ve given off too much of a beta vibe.

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Not neceserally beta, she just doesn't like you, and you can alpha as much as you want.

[–]MrAnderzon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"Be what women want not what they settle for"

That's some mantle above the fireplace type sayings

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 25 points26 points  (9 children)

'I tried anal once, didn't like it...'

[–]domable19 8 points9 points  (8 children)

Me either, they make it look so much better in porn than it really is.

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 17 points18 points  (7 children)

I was referencing a common saying from girl's point of view.

[–]Nostyx 4 points5 points  (5 children)

I take this comment as “the guy I tried it with didn’t know what he was doing, and so it hurt and I didn’t like it”

I can usually win them over.

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 7 points8 points  (3 children)

Nah they say this to you if they don't want anal eith you. If they want they'll beg you to put it in her ass.

[–]GhostOnReddit 3 points4 points  (8 children)

Have you ever heard of “Bundle of Brittany ”? Because this post describes her down to the letter.

[–]them1lfman 1 point2 points  (6 children)

Her need for attention is crazy. 90% of her photos are halfnaked. I would never want a girl whose got ig post with prefect outlines of her pussy etched in her short shorts.

[–]Thefirstofmykind 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wish I could quadruple upvote this.

[–]615bachelor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This should be the top comment . I been in this situation before

[–]LAdude71 4 points5 points  (1 child)

How can one tell if you're the one she really wants vs. the guy she's settling for?

[–]dankmemem88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have to ask yourself this question, you are not her top priority

[–]dinnerwithfunions 464 points465 points  (28 children)

Sounds like I’m gonna have to turn gay if I wanna date lmao

[–]hackinghippie 164 points165 points  (4 children)

Lol, No better over here, sry

[–]Self_Descr_Huguenot 24 points25 points  (3 children)

Yup, most recent (male) ex had most of these red flags; turned out worse than my female ltr before him, kind of by a longshot too. Its actually more painful, in my experience anyway, to have a man betray you or mess with your head or what have you because you expect another man to be rational and reasonable like yourself- that makes it seem colder and more calculating than if it had been a woman wronging you.

[–]WhirlingDeath 16 points17 points  (2 children)

Am male and I have many of these red flags.

[–]Nicolacho7 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Then try to fix those. Girls probably see them too.

[–]WhirlingDeath 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would hope so. I don't try to get girls anyway. I get my dopamine from the internet.

[–]MyDarkSideOfTheMoon 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Next up: 18 red flags when dating gay men.

[–]AtticusWarhol 24 points25 points  (1 child)

Came here to say that.

Gonna need a revised version of this for dudes.

[–]Tenth_10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Straight here. I can honestly say both your comments are my biggest bad news of the day. I really hoped, that, somehow, this behaviour was only from the hypergamous, solipsistic, 21th century women and this would explain that.
Common, bros !

[–]AceofRains 12 points13 points  (3 children)

Trust me, gay dating isn’t a thing. Sex without all the complications of emotional attachment. It gets wierd when someone gets attached.

[–]Patri_Arky 1 points1 points [recovered]

Wait, blowjobs without bullshit are actually a thing?!?!


[–]BobLordOfTheCows 19 points20 points  (11 children)

Just get a foreign girl. You'll never go back.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (8 children)

neither will she once she sets foot on american soil. but she might divorce you all the same

[–]ImHerWonderland 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Depends on the guy. Yeah, if you're out of shape, a complete slob, and let yourself go then she'll run off as soon as possible. I've unknowingly slept with girls who were married to guys for the visa, and had no clue until way later. If you're desirable, then it's like any other girl.

[–]saargrin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Come to the dark side.
We got protein shake

[–][deleted] 324 points325 points  (11 children)

Lol try finding a bitch who doesn't have at least half of these..I was starting to think this was just a list of average female traits

[–]FratboyOnReddit 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Lmao i was damn that sounds like every fucking girl I know lol

[–]GETMONEYGETPAlD 1 points1 points [recovered]

Lmao I got through the first 9 or so and was like alright damn my girl is doing pretty good... you’re not finding a chick under the age of 30 that doesn’t strike at least a few of these.

[–]christmas_miracle_69 19 points20 points  (2 children)

I’ve gotta say my ex gf was super hot and displayed every single one of these traits and I had the oneities for sure.

Current girl I am seeing does not have any of these, but also not as hot and my feelings are not in the same spot (not even close to a potential oneitis.

Life’s not fair man...

[–]UrbanEngineer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What does "hot" mean to you? Ask her what it means to her and see how you can change while she loses weight/wears that brand makeup that makes you feel special.

[–]WickedCoolName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same boat. I have no idea what to make of it tbh. She is nice tho. just not the same spark. Hottness is lackig too but it has more to do with her being so fuckig reasonable all the time, not looks. 0 drama. and that is supposed to be good i think... I am clueless

[–]Andgelyo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This. Good luck finding a girl who doesn’t have these traits. All of them have some of these traits to some degree. Especially the “boyfriend check list”. Imo just do you. Date around, have fun, if it lasts enjoy it, if it doesn’t, then move on.

[–]iamadrunk_scumbag 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No shit. Where is this unicorn??

[–]RedSkeller 93 points94 points  (4 children)

Might as well start discussing the best weaponry to kill unicorns

[–]the_depth_of_self 35 points36 points  (2 children)

.45 Glock with gold bullets

[–]tehNOViCE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can we do silver instead? I've got to invest in Gold.

[–]askmrcia 135 points136 points  (12 children)

I always feel that these red flag lists are just pointless. Because you're not going to find a woman that doesn't have a red flag.

You can make a red flag out of anything. I just think it's important to see multiple red flags occur frequently to make any real decisions if you want to move forward with a girl or not.

[–]destraht 44 points45 points  (2 children)

Red flags are for increased alertness. Try telling a military or fraud department that "red flag lists are just pointless". Its just that with women the typical awful consequence is just that you got your head fucked and lost time. So you move to the next one and think that you are doing good because you got some sweet wetness.

[–]Nap4 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Let’s call them yellow flags? Then red flags will be saved for the more extreme problems.

[–]destraht 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, a tattoo probably shouldn't be a universal Defcon 1 red flag.

Just a little aside, when I lived in Shanghai I had a banging hot unusually tall girlfriend whose father was a Party "police officer", which basically meant that he was a small feudal lord slash mafia boss over his district. So as long as there were no problems then he gets a cut of illegal dealings. If something became a stink then it was his ass. So he wanted her to go into the glorious Party but she wanted to travel about (they can't so easily without permission) and run amock in some Western country. So she got a tattoo as a way of putting him off for good since Party members have to be clean. So he keeps on about it and how they can get it laser removed so then to cement the situation she went out and got a second one. Then he gave up about it. Well it didn't work out between us I guess this could all be written off as daddy issues and tattoos.

[–]phoenix335 8 points9 points  (3 children)

Then think of it as a risk assessment score.

Zero red flags would be good, a few progressively worse and a lot the sore reminder to bail out ASAP.

These kind of lists simplify a more complex reality by abstraction, which introduces a generalization error in favor of being easier to understand. Not all the things OP listed are equally bad, but all should raise the risk score.

[–]Terdmuffin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay so everyone here is saying how every girl has these red flags.... Yeah probably! Everyone has red flags... That's fine. We are all human. its important to recognize PATTERNS . Do these patterns suggest she is impulsive and can't plan for the future? That she has difficulty forming close relationships? That she lacks self identity? Is she manipulative?

[–]dankmemem88 43 points44 points  (3 children)

I would say a lot of these things are extremely common nowadays. But definitely right on #8. Love-Bombing, i.e. Too Much, Too Soon. If a girl suddenly latches onto you emotionally and you did absolutely nothing to gain that from her, run far away because that is 100% BPD and will fuck with your head.

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Usually goes hand-in-hand with #2, from my experience. They love bomb you from the start, and if you don't show the same love bombing back, they play victim and withdraw from you.

"I just can't go out with you again, I feel like I am just one of many options you have to choose from and don't want to get my heart broken...." - classic rejection line I've gotten from the ones who love bomb you right off the bat and then cut you off after one or two dates when you hold frame and don't show the same love bombing back.

[–]2CasaDeFranco 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I dated a BPD; it was a fun ride but I have the TRP to thank for pulling the trigger before it consumed me. She confessed she had been diagnosed BPD and even without knowing the nature of the disorder I dumped her twice (she wasn't Japanese but I had to drop the bomb a second time) to end the relationship.

Not even worth a plate, 2/7 would not try again.

[–]2Overkillengine 59 points60 points  (4 children)

Here's two more:

1) A woman that fucked up bad enough to have her kids taken away.

2) A woman that fucked up badly enough to get slapped with a felony.


Keep your dick and wallet as far as you can from a woman with either.

[–]cat_magnet 33 points34 points  (2 children)

Dude stay away from single mothers in any capacity.

[–]2Overkillengine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is a good general policy to have if you are a man flush with options. But relying on lower tier men to take the advice of choosing between dicking a single mom and enduring a dry spell is going to work out about as well as abstinence only sex ed. There will be a few outliers that manage it and a shit ton of others that fail spectacularly.

Thus coaching them to avoid the most radioactive ones (and to improve so they don't have to resort to single moms at all) is more practical.

[–]RedIntrovert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Immediate Left Swipe when I see her profile.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No shit? Huh. Wouldn’t have thought of that myself. Thanks for that mind blowing wisdom.

[–]bossplayaintraining 239 points240 points  (13 children)

LOL this is EVERY girl nowadays.

The ones that don’t have all of these traits are just manipulating you to maximize the pain when they cheat on you.

[–][deleted] 79 points80 points  (4 children)

More or less every person now a days. The solution isn’t to avoid women who have these traits, instead knowing how to manage them

[–]cbnyc0 29 points30 points  (0 children)

That's my thinking as well. I don't know any women who don't have at least two or three of these issues going on.

[–]nofilmynofucky 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Counter point: many of (if not all) these traits are indicative of deep-seated emotional issues that you simply cannot change in another person.

Some breaks can't be unbroken, and even in the cases where there may be some hope, it would require an amount of effort and force of will that is beyond most men these days, let alone women.

This list is a pretty sad one, but I do feel it's more or less accurate. Does it eliminate most women from the pool a man should consider as viable? Yes. Is this because that pool is a stagnant swamp filled with bloated toads? Also yes.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

No almost no break can’t be unbroken my friend. Whether or not someone is willing to do what it takes to fix it is another.

Nobody is going to be marrying a girl they date at 22. Have some fun and don’t rule out people simply because of traits that might be indicative of emotional issues. And even if they are it’s all about the extent to which they affect the relationship.

[–]ClassyNotFlashy 28 points29 points  (4 children)

I'll be honest I've met some decent down to earth girls who actually don't go to the bar/party every weekend. I met them through my parents social circle. So yes there are decent girls out there if you're willing to search in the right places.

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 3 points4 points  (3 children)

They probably want the tantric sex, right? 'Anal is for sluts' and shit...

[–]James_Rustler_ 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Well there's a tradeoff there, you gotta decide what you want. I personally would rather have one good stable relationship rather than x plates where I have to manage all of the above deficiencies.

The best situation for casual sex for me is where we don't have any attachments other than sex. That way I don't have to be involved with her for a damn thing besides fucking.

The OP basically describes marriage material and some people want that, some people don't.

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I personally would rather have one good stable relationship rather than x plates

I thought the same way, but it's too much pressure to be always on point... Besides i rather have rough sex than tantric so plates are better. Less screening too.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m growing to feel that way too.

[–]nofilmynofucky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

tbf most women these days are not relationship material let alone marriage material.

[–]st3roids 14 points15 points  (1 child)

You effectively disqualified 90% of todays female population

[–]Solipsistic_guy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

99% and I think that’s the way it’s supposed to be. OP doesn’t say don’t bang these chicks, just don’t put a ring on it.

[–]FrostyFurseal 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Bad relationship with dad = get the fuck out of there.

Respectfully disagree. This is like those woman who say "You gotta love your mama." We don't choose our parents. Some people get a raw deal in that department.

[–]grewapair 27 points28 points  (1 child)

#0 - Single mother. How can you have a list without the reddest of red flags?

#19 Rich dad. You run into these girls if you have money. They are looking for a provider to replace dad, and otherwise have no interest in you beyond what it will take to hook you.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, I think your rich dad comment deserves a post all in itself. Never thought of it like that before

[–]CapnPoot 87 points88 points  (8 children)

This is an excellent list - unfortunately almost every girl has about 80% of these traits.

And if I may add 2 obvious red flags:

1) Slept with guys outside of some form of relationships 2) Has a lot of “guy friends”

[–]WiseMonkeyGoodMonkey 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I would also add:

Has no hobbies of her own. Instead coops the hobbies of whoever she's dating all reverse borg like.

Not only does this make her spectacularly unimaginitive, it also means that she has a real chance of ruining your favorite thing - even if it's just shirt term.

[–]Cdsmasher 7 points8 points  (0 children)

a point where she wants you to wait for sex with her, even despite her not doing that in the past, you need to next her. She doesn’t find you as sexually attractive, and sees you as a reliable option. Odds are, when you do finally hit:

A. It won’t be

that 80% went up to 90% now...

[–]Heathcliff-- 1 points1 points [recovered]

Its a tragedy whenever I see a beautiful young girl ruined by a stupid fucking cringey tattoo. How can they be so daft to not realise they're permanently damaging the most important thing they own...

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove 41 points42 points  (2 children)

I've never seen a woman with a tattoo and said "Oh, that tattoo makes her even better looking"

But the opposite has been true hundreds of times. Especially when using something like Tinder. You swipe through her photos and she is definite right swipe material, but then boom, photo that shows some ugly tattoo on there and its a left swipe for me, no exceptions.

The thought process is easy to explain, though. Women find tattoos on men attractive, and that therefore, they think men must find tattoos on women attractive, so they get tattoos to try and appeal to men. That's not how it works.

Women do that all the time though. They think that qualities/behaviors they find attractive in men, that men must also find attractive in woman, so they emulate all these masculine behaviors.

[–]diggrecluse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it's nose/lip rings in Tinder, instant turn off. Followed by tattoos, blue lipstick, etc. It's just so unfortunate because these girls are willingly making themselves look unattractive and masculine.

[–]Tenth_10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dunno man. Given that women are very centered on their bodies, I see tatoos as an experience, a statement come from a nervous bad time, and a defiance to their age ("I'll be old enough" and "I'm not old yet!"). And once they have one done, the others are easier, and they are starting to pile up.

[–]lapeparoja 26 points27 points  (3 children)

I used to think like that. Now I get excited, why? Because it is a clear indication of : herd-following behaviour, lack of long term planning, impulsiveness, narcicism, all good signs of an easy lay.

Of course not all people who have tattoos are like that, but if combined with piercing and other stuff it increases the probability of her being a dumb slut. Delicious.

I even have some success offering to pay for a new tattoo, getting the lay and then ghost . Try it. You wont save any girl. And at least 99% are open to have a tatoo, or a piercing nowadays, the young crowd, and the post-wall crowd. So take advantage.

[–]2CasaDeFranco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand the logic but TRP is best used not for easy lays, easy lays are easy and I'd often prefer to masturbate and then go for a run then invest time with a thot.

[–]wayneinthegame 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personally, I've been with girls that had really well done tatoos and I thought it was sexy. Not saying I like tramp stamps or anything.

[–]WarViper1337 14 points15 points  (1 child)

My rule of thumb is each tattoo represents one psychotic break she has probably had.

[–]Tenth_10 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That... is actually not a bad theory you have here. Combine that with the theme of the tatoo and you got yourself a lead.

[–]CNaSG 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I think a few tasteful tattoos is fine, maybe a body piercing or two. There is definitely a point beyond which it is fucking cringy. I knew a girl who tattooed "the only thing worth living for is the only thing worth dying for" ALL across her abdomen. Her and her sister got the same one and that was cute and all but still...

[–]Andgelyo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dumbest fucking tattoo I’ve ever heard of in my life lmao and at the stomach of all places

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove 42 points43 points  (10 children)

16 is a big one, so much to where I don't even bother with them anymore.

Several times I've tried to make exceptions to girls with tattoos, and each time it backfires. For me its my red flag of red flags.

If its a small tattoo on her foot or something, that's different. But if its bigger than the size of a quarter above her ankles, pass.

Trust me on this one, guys.

If you want to plate or ONS them, go ahead, but I don't even bother with that anymore. Women with tattoos don't even get my attention.

Number 2 is also a big one. The thing is most women won't tell you this directly, it will be implied through subtext, context and her actions. The problem with these women is that they are a bit clingy off the bat, and don't respond well to you passing shit tests. They are so paranoid about being hurt and heartbroken, that anything that remotely hints at you doing such a thing, they'll either play victim or break things off. These women are too insecure for anything to work out with them. Unless you treat them like a fucking princess day in and day out, they will bail and make you out to be the bad guy, BUT the problem is when you treat them like a princess day and and day out, they will lose attraction to you and bail anyway. Lose-lose, avoid.

[–]betabran 11 points12 points  (2 children)

Number 2 is also a big one..... they will lose attraction to you and bail anyway. Lose-lose, avoid.

You really have to witness it to believe it. None of my blue mates understand what I have been through.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Nothing is a bigger turn off than seeing a 18-21 year old blonde hair blue eyes sorority-type girl with those huge compass tattoos on their backs on those open-back shirts

[–]SKRedPill 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Strange how female insecurity creates the very monster its afraid of. I have a theory that the innermost thought in your mind is always the one that ends up coming true.

[–]hailsatanordie666 12 points13 points  (0 children)



Doesn’t even matter how good she is in bed.


Neverrr again

[–]CaptZ 20 points21 points  (1 child)

Add to #16: unnatural hair coloring, blue, pink, lavender and such, applies mostly if they are a parent or over 30.

Edit to add: most of the traits also line up with people with Borderline/Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

[–]Ezaar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But colors are cool though lol

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (4 children)

So you’re going MGTOW then?

1 Is a standard shit test treat it like one.

2,4,5,8 make her easier to emotionally manipulate and control if you’ve properly cultivated your dark triad.

10 Women are instinctively passive aggressive. Ignore it.

11 Is a shit test to see if you are faking your alpha. Amused mastery. Of course I’m shit testing you. So what?

12 Is a shit test to see if you’re an emotional tampon. Treat it like one.

13 Is a shit test. Don’t compete with her, dominate her. Her little need to compete is a stupid little game to your amused mastery.

14 Good luck finding a girl not addicted to something. The trick is figuring out what and figuring out if you can live with it.

This list seems like you’re still very purple in your approach.

[–]lapeparoja 24 points25 points  (2 children)

Men DO NOT shit test women. Stop with the notion that every concept has an equivalent in the other sex. It smells of indoctrination at school. So NO, Men do not: -Shit test -Hamster past relationship/sex -Have Hypergamy -Have AFBB -Have "friendships" with attractive females

And women dont:

  • Become alpha -Improve their SMV with age (especially past 30)
  • Think about deep topics, etc , etc

[–]Endorsed ContributorMentORPHEUS 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Men DO NOT shit test women.

Glad someone mentioned it. My reaction to that bullet point was something like lol wut?

[–]ahg1008 4 points5 points  (5 children)

Could someone explain the too many male friends red flag?

[–]Tenth_10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

IMHO girl is only looking for validation, and has a lot of orbiters OR she is insecure because of past traumas and is looking to protect herself with her "knights".

[–]DannyShittu 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Just commenting so I get notified when answered

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You won't get notified brah

[–]BurnoutRS 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I second validation whore. Theres a point where the satisfaction of one dude being there in real life is never going to equal that dopamine flood she gets from seeing the 1200 unread messages from tinder or whatever.

Women value social standing and reputation highly because its key to their survival. So its easy as shit for her to become dependant on that massive validation sphere, so much so that you'll literally be competing with her phone. People who let themselves get sucked into that kind of shit seem to have a whole slew of other problems stemming from an absolute lack of impulse control

[–]Solipsistic_guy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I third, when I see a chick who has 5000 male followers on insta all commenting that she’s awesome, but no real friends...it makes me cringe

[–]mythrowawayletsplay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Doesn't know how to apologize properly - this in my opinion is the worst! A proper apology is a very specific formula. Acknowledging your slight or wrong, apologizing for said slight, showing that you are genuinely remorseful of your actions, and making whatever changes in character that are needed to avoid repeated slights.

[–]Thegymismyhome 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I think that some of these red flags come from reflection of these traits from ourselves.

Do you think that you attract what you are?

[–]diggrecluse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a good list but you have to consider what you're going for:

  • If you're just trying to get laid/spin plates, the type of girls you encounter will have at least some and likely a lot of these. These red flags will make it easier to fuck them.
  • Women with few or none of these red flags do exist. They're either living in a foreign country, or were raised in a conservative household with good parenting in a Western country. But the flipside is that they will expect you to see them for a long time before sex and expect a serious relationship.

[–]FOODYUMONION 6 points7 points  (1 child)

So basically every girl on Tinder

[–]DONTuseGoogle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Uh yeah. Tinder is for fucking full stop.

[–]DareDiablo 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Piercings and Tattoos?

Oh shut the fuck up. Seriously. So because a woman has them it's one thing but when a man does its another.

The double standards here is pathetic.

[–]Sumshot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What double standards? I think if a woman searches a man to become the father of her children and care for them well, she will (statistically) have better chances with a man without tattoos.

EDIT: let me clarify. I mean that tattoos on men are statistically an anti BP red flag - which means more trouble for the woman to handle her man and manipulate him easily.

[–]SPREAD_THE_LOVE_7791 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might seem like all girls have some of these, which may be true, but this is still really informative and can help you see some signs that you wouldn't have otherwise noticed. This writeup also helps you see WHY girls do some of the things they do. I learned a lot here. Thank you.

[–]BurnoutRS 17 points18 points  (7 children)

Im interested in what you said about tattoos. I love girls with tattoos but i've interpreted that part of the post as saying "theres no way that a girl would get a tattoo unless she is, in some way, damaged"

As an artist I feel that tattooing my own art on my body (if I ever do get a tattoo) is like the ultimate form of self expression. Decorating myself. Currently im holding off until I max out my physique. I dont wanna get a tattoo and then have it be all blown out as I continue to see size gains.

Im gonna tuck this one into my hat and keep a closer eye on any chicks with tats. Lmao some of this is definitely the BP in me being "what? you say my tattoo waifu unicorn doesnt exist? I cant have a perfect relationship with a suicide girl because to be a suicide girl you probably have to have psychological issues"

But as Im generally super into tattoos and piercings RP me is like "shit I better make sure im not fetishizing something thats a definite marker of crazy" anyways I have no intention of getting married so at worst its going to be a factor in deciding whether to keep a plate around or not

[–]TRP_TEX 1 points1 points [recovered]

I dont wanna get a tattoo and then have it be all blown out as I continue to see size gains

I got sleeves when I was 21. Since then I've gone from 11" arms to 15.5" and I don't have any stretch marks on my tattoos. One little line on a rose on my bicep. Food for thought.

[–]1dongpal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

women only do arts when they are damaged. it's kind of therapy for them.

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Tattoos represent risky decision making without long term thinking/planning, which is inherently a masculine trait. Women need to be feminine, not emulate men.

[–]1Jaereth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Quick side note about "Vague about her past"

I've met a stone cold bitch once that literally had a backstory made up for her past. Must have been rehearsed. Was nowhere near the truth.

If you are dating and you find out someone has told a lie to you about their past, game over. Dump them right there on the spot.

  1. You should have enough respect for yourself to do that anyway. You can't say out of one side of your mouth you love someone and then lie to them about something serious

  2. These women are always trainwrecks. The kind where everyone standing near the train when it wrecks is going to catch some shrapnel too.

Even if she's not vague about her past, if something sounds really odd or fishy, check it. If she's lying to you, ghost her.

[–]awoke11 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Haha I agree with some but 16 is a little ridiculous in my opinion. Come on we are human every human follow some kind of trend. In my country I would say 8/10 women in my generation got at least a small tattoo, as well as the dudes.

[–]anonusernametaken 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yup. Everyone I date has a tattoo and I have one and will get more. Tattoo alone is not a red flag. Focus on their actions to find red flags.

[–]Seven_Veils 10 points11 points  (3 children)

Piercings and tattoos are red flags now?!? Those are my turn ons

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the Red Pill buddy.

[–]Sumshot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Red flag doesn't mean it's 100% guaranteed doom. It's just making the probability higher. So if a girl has no red flags besides a tattoo, chances are good that she is on the bright side. But when you compare two girls which are equal otherwise except for tattoos, statistically speaking the one without a tattoo is the better choice (except for you being turned on...).

[–]iLoveReddit32 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In my experience, girls with tattoos, piercings, (or often both), sleep around A LOT. This isn't a negative in itself (everyone likes sex), but one needs to be aware of what they are getting themselves into when they are about to fuck a chick with piercings, tattoos. Also, those type of girls are often feminists, which IS a problem.

[–]DimensionalQuake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not really seeing #16 as being helpful. There are plenty of tattoos that people get just because they look cool. Other than following a trend, the other signals discussed seem completely unrelated to tattoos and piercings.

[–]zan1101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd argue tattoos these days are no indicator of a red flag, plenty of people make educated concise decisions to get tattoos and simply enjoy the aesthetic and are perfectly normal people.

[–]faithfamilyfootball 6 points7 points  (1 child)

5 isn’t necessarily true.

Not all of them really are. I have a great relationship right now with a girl who’s dad is terrible. They don’t speak but she actively works on making herself better and being good to me.

[–]Tak291 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Someone is afraid of women? Come on, you are describing every women in this century.

[–]seraphine288 4 points5 points  (0 children)

All you are is a sexist, misogynistic asshole with too much privilege to see how fucked up you are. Most of your points are complete and utter bullshit. You want to bash women for "having a list of demands" and "looking for perfection" while writing an impossible list of demands that require perfection??? I'm not surprised you're single. And good luck with that. You'd be better off dating bitter, rotten men like yourself. Only a woman with no self respect and SEVERE issues would date you.

[–]Hydrobobo 10 points11 points  (3 children)

Really, tattoos? Instantly took a lot of credit away from this list. I have tattoos because I like to represent my heritage and my past on my body. Does that make me undatable? No

[–]underground_gamblr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

While I wouldn't like to have one; I as well don't understand why it's on the list. It's just an appearance accessory.

[–]six-bible 10 points11 points  (5 children)

I can see most, but I disagree with #5 and #6.

5 - problems with Daddy

A lot of humans/ men are complete fuck ups. They're losers or crooks or assholes or idiots or pedophiles or drunks or who knows. This includes some dads. Irrelevant in my opinion. This sounds more like some Shaman nonsense than reality. And I've never been in a relationship where the girl I was pounding was treating me like "Daddy." Maybe your experience differs.

6 - Is a feminist.

I say this one depends. There's a difference between a purple-haired SJW rager, and a girl who thinks she should have the right to vote and not be groped, etc. There are so many different definitions of feminist that it's almost meaningless. If you're writing off a girl for this reason alone, well I think you care too much. I'm rarely discussing ANY political bullshit with a girl and that's the way I like it.

[–]youngzari 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Number 10.

That really hit me because it applies to men, too. In my BP days I use to "let things slide" and "bottle up" all my issues with people that I never and should have addressed head on. This would lead to disrespect and not having any boundaries.

I actually expect passive aggression from women (in mild forms) from time to time but that doesn't mean that it is tolerated. I'm always willing to walk away.

[–]WestyWorld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s useful to look at these “risk factors” especially when a girl you are already seeing does something undesirable and you are reconsidering the relationship. But I am not a fan of using these as a screening tool because honestly every girl will have at least one or two red flags. Heck it’s probably a red flag if they don’t have any red flags.

If you screen too aggressively you may miss out on something worthwhile.

[–]hackersaq 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, I see you've met my wife.


[–]TraditionalParty 1 points1 points [recovered]

It's a fucking nightmare out there, guys. I've gone on dates with girls that probably had all 18 red flags. I've started trying to pick up early-20s girls at church, and even then, it's too late. Tattoos, daddy issues, addictions, feminism, etc. They have it all. If you haven't locked down your high school sweetheart at 18, it's over boyos.

[–]eyewant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5 shouldnt count sometimes. There are men who abandon their wife and kids, so I don't blame people for resenting them. Now if his leaving was a divorce initiated by the wife then thats a different story.

[–]Niphilim83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldnt date a girl without tattoos.. Big turn on for me.. Rest is so true tho.

[–]ICanHeal 1 points1 points [recovered]

#19 - Owning Dogs. Single women with dogs often have an attachment disorder or narcissistic tendencies that make them unsuitable or unsuccessful with human relationships. While owning a dog isn’t intrinsically a bad thing, they are often misused as a substitute for human relationships or barrier to bonding with men.

[–]DouglasPR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. If I visit a woman and her dog(s)/cat(s) has human privileges (allowed to sit on the couch, sleep up on the beds, etc) or is spoiled like a baby, its a red flag for me. Multiple cats or dogs everywhere in the house are also a big nope for me.

[–]jadchronicles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i strongly disagree with #16. body art is a form of self-expression. that is not to say that what is mentioned in #16 COULD be true, but body art is not a direct or reliable indicator for these things. just my 2 cents

[–]BeeBopJoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bullet point #7 "having no sense of humor" is the reason which I don't date a woman I haven't originally met in person before. I went on a date with a chick through a friend who I never spoke to before, the date was awkward as fuck. She didn't laugh or smile not once. Having a good sense of humor is mandatory for girls I date, especially since I am a huge clown.

[–]ttt911 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Does purple/pink hair go in the #16. Piercings and Tattoos?

I swear to go all the girls I've dated that did this had REAL mental issues. At this point if I see a girl with pink hair I avoid her as the plague!

[–]VictxrSenpai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know that describes a good 80% of women living in this country

[–]ImperialEquivalent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another huge red flag: horse girls.

You’ll only ever be third priority at best. Number one is always the horse, two is her source of funds for the horse.

And god help you if you ever move into the number two spot.

[–]sillyhumins 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Whooooa what a trash ass post. Dude just because you can't get any doesn't mean you gotta make a whole list of reasons to justify "not wanting any", you're lying to yourself gtfo. You made SOME good points, like femism is a no-go, but a lot of this is way exessive and wtf bullshit waste of time.

[–]Wilreadit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

19. Single mommas baby mommas

The thing is, even with all the 'equal to men' tirades, life is still very hard for a woman. That is because for most of her life someone takes care of her. Parents, siblings, dates, bfs..whomever. For a woman who has lived in a bubble for so long, and convinced by her own lies, life is tough. And trying to raise kids, is tougher. They feel miserable as they feel someone should be there to take care of them. Never underestimate the will of a single mom to trap a guy. Be extra careful.

20. Avoid the crazies.

For the love of God and all that you hold dear: DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH CRAZY WOMEN. The ones worth mentioning here are BPD, ASPD, compulsive liars and girls that have impulse control. I point these out as these are the ones that are really damaging to you if you happened to be dating a sufferer. Sure a chick with depression or schizo is no fun but she won't actively hunt you down. The other chicks will. They will destroy your life, your reputation and your peace of mind. And dear dickholders, nothing is worth your peace of mind.

[–]walkinginsquares 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This describes my past ex gf perfectly. Glad I left her but now I miss all the countless fun sex sessions with that promiscuous girl. :(

[–]johnyann 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Do not date women that have been raised in western first world countries. It's very simple.

My girlfriend is Colombian. Has one thing here, and it's a tattoo, and she has one, which isn't visible, and is a matching one she got with her sister right before she left for the States for school.

Im never going back to American women. Not now, not ever. No Way. Hell, we've been together for a year and it's been fantastic. Seriously considering putting a ring on this one.

[–]Andgelyo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Be careful. I’ve heard of out of the country women branch swinging to the next gringo. Bottom line is that no one is safe.

[–]xRaiden99x 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Colombian women can be tricky hopefully you got a girl raised with good family values because there are bad apples too but majority are ok. Unfortunately latin america is changing because they always want to copy europe/usa and femenism is big nowadays.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None of this matters if you are spinning plates and you are not afraid to gtfo and next her if you see signs of trouble. It's as easy as blocking someone's number.

[–]poo4 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Gotta add in red flag jobs/lifestyles:

  • LMT (massage)
  • bartender
  • "student" when they are 30+
  • No job / on disability with no real disability

[–]Solipsistic_guy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Single mom, largest red flag of all.

[–]Senior ContributorNightwingTRP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an excellent post. I'd give you a point... but I checked your history. Seriously, get the fuck out of nofap. This isn't to take a stance on fapping. It's just the religious zealotry of those guys is not healthy. Do it if you feel you should, but don't rely on the nofap community. They ain't healthy either.

Anyways, pointers on this post.

She’s Passive-Aggressive

This point was kind of a meh point. Passive-aggressiveness is inherently feminine and it's how women actually display any aggressive feelings. (They do it in a passive manner.) Pretty much all women will do this at one point or another, you just need to manage it and it'll reduce to almost nothing over time.

11. She Gets Defensive When You Shit Test Her

I don't really get this shit testing of women thing. I never have. We can't beat biology guys. I get that it's in our interest to be the choosers by having multiple women lined up who have chosen us... but we're not the selecting gender. We don't shit test or piss about playing games to decide who we want. We know what we're doing, we have our plan and the bitch either comes for the ride or she doesn't. Anything involving testing her implies that her being part of this ride is important. - This is the wrong attitude. If dumb bitch don't want to be on the ride then that's her loss. I don't need to figure out if she wants to join my ride... the evaluation process begins with her already wanting to be on this ride.

16. Piercings and Tattoos

I saw a chick getting her hair dyed neon pink as I was leaving the hairdressers with my slick do all perfected... she looked at me with a yearning in her eyes. She wanted me to notice her. I looked away in total disgust for good reason. Attractive, mentally balanced women do not need to go out of their way to look different.

Gentlemen, if these women make advances on you, make your disgust clear. It is in their best interests that these bitches learn that their appearance and behaviour is not attractive to good, attractive men.

Other than those comments, crack on son.

[–]CocoaPill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to see it's not just me thinking most women have at least one of these... Relating from experience, dating a girl who has a bad relationship with her dad is a tough cookie; they will tend to push back on your authority with a variety of ways even if they are not feminists.

[–]dudethatneversleeps 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Some valid points (daddy issues and talking shit) mixed in with some very bad points (coffee addiction and tattoos really?).
For the newbies on this sub, take this post with a grain of salt. And most importantly, learn how to filter the bs from the truth. This applies not only to this post but to the sub in general. Not everything you read is good advice.

[–]WaitingInLab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sub is riot. Caffeine addiction? Really? Jesus fuck this is why they're all still sad or single.

[–]1TRPKiddo 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Wow. This list is so accurate and pertains to my exes so well that it actually scares me.

[–]Aggressive_Beta 1 point2 points  (2 children)

A woman who has a list of what she wants in a man is a woman who has been around the block so many times that she knows exactly what she wants and what she doesn’t want. These women more than likely have high N counts and are possibly alpha widowed and looking for a beta. Avoid at all costs.

She’s a feminist

I consider this to be more of a yellow flag than a red flag. Even hardcore feminists will ignore some of the most “misogynistic” behavior if you’re alpha enough and give them tingles. AWALT. Just treat feminism like the shit test it is and you’ll be fine. You’ll get called an asshole, which is really a compliment coming from women. By not being a feminist you are taking on the role of the rebel bad boy that she knows on an intellectual level she shouldn’t be attracted to, but her pussy begs to differ.

Plus if you feel like being a douche bag you can just intellectually destroy feminism right to her face with logic and it might make her angry or even cry. Which will make her want to fuck you even more.

[–]maniac1168 2 points3 points  (2 children)

1 red flag when dating in general:

Referring to the opposite gender with either male or female.

[–]superz1k 0 points1 point  (2 children)

What is she is a feminist but doesn't do all the things you listed?

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove 1 point2 points  (1 child)

She does. Welcome to the Red Pill. Feminist is a red flag of red flags.

I get it, though. We have so many video game anime nerds pass through here at TRP who desperately want to game those "cool gamer girl anime nerd geek chicks" instead of the typical basic bitch. I get it. Most of those "cool gamer girl anime nerd geek chicks" also tend to be liberal feminists as well, so you are trying to hamster away all these things because of your oneitis.

[–]Sumshot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of those "cool gamer girl anime nerd geek chicks" also tend to be liberal feminists as well

Maybe depends on location but I can't agree with this. There might be more feminists within this group, but not even close to _most_ of them. Also, a lot of these only want to get attention, they are not really into feminism like real SJWs. However, the attention thriving ones among them are also quite bad, as it's also a red flag.

[–]desanar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me Number 15 is the biggest buzzkill ..

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