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[–]RolandTheDickslinger 509 points510 points  (16 children)

Your loneliness is a product of a mismatched expectation: the expectation that you deserve companionship. Moreover, you feel entitled to having a set of people, friends and bitches, who love you unconditionally, for who you are.

The real truth is that everyone is alone, at all times. Kill every expectation you have over the world. You are not entitled to anyone or anything. Your loneliness will disappear, and you’ll cherish your friends even more.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFeralRed 106 points107 points  (4 children)

The glass is not half full nor half empty, but already broken.

[–]Gingham_Argile 45 points46 points  (1 child)

Spoken like a Stoic. Clean and to the point. I needed to hear this perspective.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He's basically saying what the sidebar teaches, that the world doesn't owe you shit.

[–]Sonic324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Disagreed.

Loneliness is a lack of relation in Reality. One can have no expectations and still experience loneliness.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your loneliness is a product of a mismatched expectation: the expectation that you deserve companionship. Moreover, you feel entitled to having a set of people, friends and bitches, who love you unconditionally, for who you are.

The real truth is that everyone is alone, at all times. Kill every expectation you have over the world. You are not entitled to anyone or anything. Your loneliness will disappear, and you’ll cherish your friends even more.

High IQ comment. Relatable, makes sense.

[–]LuftwaffeMeindl 43 points44 points  (0 children)

> I now find myself able to get girls with relative ease, but struggle with finding/keeping strong male friendships.

hard truths cut both ways

[–]Sonic324 131 points132 points  (24 children)

What TRP doesn't teach: it's lonely at the top.

Considering well over a majority of the population lacks any character and ability to consistently maintain any sort of healthiness, entwined with those who cannot reach the peak without giving up and quitting, you will find it rare to meet others in your Reality.

Either a blessing or a curse, achieving the outer bounds of humanity leaves one feeling fractured from the plebs. Spread yourself and bestow the knowledge you have learnt onto others.

[–][deleted] 28 points29 points  (4 children)

This is something I'm struggling with. I've now surpassed everyone in my friend group to the extent that it just frustrates me being around them due to their lack of life progress or ambition. Finding a more ambitious tier of companions is difficult tho especially as you age so I don't want to write them off entirely. Just appreciate them for their role in my life

[–]BeATrumpet 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Meh I don't think that way. I have groups of friends. Ones that I love and chill with and go party with. Others I hang out with and make money with, others that enjoy fine dining and can afford it etc and girls that I legitimately like chilling with vs ones to dump nuts into.

[–]AnInstant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should meet some valuable people on your path, if you didn't - maybe you aren't as good as you think?

I was best in my shitty group so I've changed groups. Moved out, took better job, and met better people. Now I'm on my way up to catch them and I have their backs.

Successful people are always helping other ambitious people and are friendly to them, because, as OP said - there aren't many successful people. And we are social creatures, it's nice to have someone around.

[–]ArdAtak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so I don't want to write them off entirely. Just appreciate them for their role in my life

This key I think. You don't need to take a scorched earth policy to every past friendship who isn't as Alpha, or Woke, or RP as you. Just appreciate them for the role they played in your past. Recategorize them correctly, and enjoy their company at birthdays and holiday parties during the 2 or 3 times you see them each year.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will discover that as you age, the friends around you drop off because they don't follow what you want to achieve from life, nothing wrong with that...just find better people to be friends with (or different people etc)

[–]party_next_door 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Physically you could go to the gym or better yet those fitness conventions. (If we are considering connecting with people with similar health goals .)

Not saying its a must its just an option if we were trying to focus on finding like minded individuals health/aesthetics wise.

[–]ianselfmade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

achieving the outer bounds of humanity leaves one feeling fractured from the plebs. Spread yourself and bestow the knowledge you have learnt onto others.

It is as if it was written from some philosopher, these beautifully constructed words come from experience, such outstanding words, sir.

[–]Throwaway_5252 48 points49 points  (15 children)

I feel lonely frequently too despite the fact that I plunder more puss then ever before.

I yearn for connection and someone who truly cares about me. I still hold resentment towards a girl who ghosted me with zero empathy 5 years ago. I still get pissed about my friends suicide, another friends murder, and a bunch of other humiliations that've pilled up over the years. My relationship with family in the past has been decent at best, borderline homicidal towards eachother at worst. I work in a sales job and that combined with all the reading I've done has given me a very pessimistic view of the world. So much so that I don't want to get married and I would never bring a child into the world. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in my Darwinian transactional black-piled analysis of everything I become nostalgic for the time I wasn't jaded, saw life as something beautiful overall didn't have a disdain for 80% of the population.

Most weeks I just want my ladyfriend to call me to say she's thinking about me and we should bang and see a movie and have a glass of wine. That's all I can really ask for I suppose. Putting everything else out of the way, that makes me happy. Being there with her makes me happy.

[–]SeedThrownAway 38 points39 points  (2 children)

When going through hell, keep going

Edit: Winston Churchill, I believe

[–]ooQueso 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don't slow down, and if you're scared don't show it

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This should be a mantra! No bullshit, just the truth!

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

all the reading I've done has given me a very pessimistic view of the world. So much so that I don't want to get married and I would never bring a child into the world. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in my Darwinian transactional black-piled analysis of everything I become nostalgic for the time I wasn't jaded, saw life as something beautiful overall didn't have a disdain for 80% of the population.

Someone hacked into my brain. This hits home, dawg.

[–]trancedj 3 points4 points  (1 child)

“Ghosted me with zero empathy”

I’m a couple months out from this exact experience. No fucking way could I survive 5 god damned years of this misery. Just kill me now if that’s my future.

Edit: I’m fine really. I have abundance and get plenty of puss. Not that women mean anything to me at this point. What I need is a purpose; still searching for that.

[–]furiouszeno 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Jesus dude, you sound salty as fuck. I think you have missed a critical piece of TRP philosophy somewhere along the line. Your probably stuck in an anger phase.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Your probably stuck in an anger phase.

But he gets puss, as he says.

[–]ap426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sales in an investment bank?

[–]BeATrumpet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro you got this, you have much unlockable potential. But nice words online ain't gonna do shit. You are your own temple. Build and improve your temple. You have sales experience? Work as a stock broker or investment, you'll find new friends its gonna be tough, but right now get your mind to a positive place.

[–]EscapeTheGoat 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Get a dog. Like no joke. Those fuckers will save your sanity.

[–]fabsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I rescued a greyhound after my 6 yr LTR breakup. Saved my life.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem as if you have depression, meditation will help.

there is nothing wrong with your expectation of wanting a woman to do that but instead of expecting her to do it, why don't you make those calls ?

try and build postive experiences that don't rely on getting your dick wet, howeever pussy is fun, the reality of sex is to bring children into the world. start doing other things to make your life enjoyable again and the loneliness/depression will dissapear

[–]look_in_the_mirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude I feel the same. When did life become so complex? I have a few good friends, but I miss the connection.

[–]TheLanternFlame 14 points15 points  (2 children)

Also, it's kind of like a road to the top. At the bottom, it's all fun and shit with the blue pill perspective. Once you walk away from that and on your way to the top, you'll see less and less people treading their way to the top. And when you reach the top, you'll find yourself all alone. That's why some people at the bottom will drag you down, but as long as you have a tight frame and all the things in the toolbox, then even if you trip a little, you can still get back up.

[–]BeATrumpet 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Fuck those people at the bottom, make friends with the fellow hikers you meet. And there are friends to make at the top. You guys are blinded.

[–]TheLanternFlame 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, you got it all wrong. WE all started from the bottom because we all live in a feminized, blue pilled society. No one escapes from the bottom of the food chain, unless you got someone from the family who is a hardcore red pill, or born like Corey (the young Alpha Buddha), then you got a good start. Of course now we have this community to open many things for us, we can now walk that path to the top. And we either just discard the past (fake it till you make it), or accept who we are in the past and move our ass to the top.

[–][deleted] 94 points95 points  (5 children)

Great post but like most of TRP it's too focused on girls.

TRP is a solipsistic journey, and I really like the message of this thread about loneliness at the top. TRP about you, not getting laid. Getting laid is a side effect, or at least it should be. Just another hobby on your list that shouldn't be your #1.

As I've said here many times women shouldn't be in the top 3 most important things in your life.

[–]FrugalKrugman 42 points43 points  (2 children)

My top 3:

1)Purpose/life goal

2)Strong male friendships that allow for constant growth

3)Hobbies/exploration of life

[–]hendlefe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would augment point number 2 with "strong friendships with men, women, and family who enrich your life". Some of my happiest and most fulfilling moments in life were spent with a friend or loved one. Humans are social creatures and we derive pleasure from meeting those needs.

[–]dream-hunter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This, 100 times. So sad to see so many here being focused and doing so much shit just to get more girls instead of putting that focus on growing themselves.

[–]-uftw- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TRP is mainly about sexual strategy.

Go read the sidebar.

[–]myrenaissance 71 points72 points  (21 children)

This should be a new chapter in the new testament

[–]ooQueso 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Clearly you haven't read the New Testament.

[–][deleted] 37 points38 points  (17 children)

This is what I was thinking reading 12 Rules for Life by JP 30 minutes before class starts, drinking my protein shake

[–]boxxybebe 3 points4 points  (16 children)

Wow what a coincidence, I'm reading that book too. How far are you? I'm still on the first chapter on lobsters. And do you think it changes your life practically, or is it mental masturbation?

[–]TheRedditGod 23 points24 points  (15 children)

It’s definitely not mental masterbation. It won’t change your life on its own, but the ideas in there, when internalized and applied are a solid foundation. I highly reccomend it, and also reccomend downloading the audio book. Peterson reads it, so it feels like your listening to one of his lectures instead of a book.

[–]boxxybebe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks, and great tip on the audio book. I fking love listening to Peterson's lectures

[–]ebaymasochist 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just apply game theory to finding new male friends. Obviously leave out the parts of trying to fuck them. Don't chase people. Give value. Preselection. Instead of going out with your friends to pick up girls, go out with your girlfriend to meet guys. lol. it sounds ridiculous but it's true. Maybe there's value in being friends with girls. not getting friend zoned, but actually having a friendship with a woman who you don't want to fuck. A friendship that you chose, not settled for.

Figure out what you want in a friend and go out and meet people.

[–]AshyLarry27 4 points5 points  (1 child)

GREAT write up. One thing I will say is this. Despite all the AWALT notions and "most guys are betas so we just end up alone because there is no loyalty anymore" is a bunch of nonsense. Loyalty to a T is nonsense and unrealistic thinking people tend to bunch with the idea of "being woke to TRP."

Let's be real for a second. It's 2018. Between how much faster society moves now, and the the amount of people and things we are exposed to now, it's difficult to have permanent relationships. This isn't your dad's era where there were no cell phones/internet and you had to remember someone's home phone number, limiting social interactions (or at least significant'y slowing them down).

Don't view this from a negative byproduct of being woke, you're only woke to the notion that you can grow and meet BETTER people.

[–]ianselfmade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly what i want to say/express but couldn't find the words. Thanks to this.

[–]WoodleyWarrior85 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Modern men spend too much time in low-yield social situations. They fear being alone and thus cling onto friendships and relationships that provide few real benefits.

Guys will cling onto a high school friend group full of losers or a "girlfriend" who only sticks around in return for free stuff because these relationships are comfortable and familiar.

If you want to improve, you do need to set out on your own. It will be lonely at times, because your relationships stop having the "clingy" factor. It takes some time to get used to this dynamic. Your new friends will be less based on irrelevant stuff like who was cool in 8th grade or who says funny stuff when they're stoned. These more mature friendships will be focused on trading value in the real world.

You definitely still have a social network as an alpha male, but your relationships tend to be based more on real stuff like business or worthwhile hobbies. When you're business partners with someone, they are literally making you money or helping you out in some other quantitative way. It's a relationship that objectively improves your life, rather than a sentimental attachment to some dude who happened to live in your town 20 years ago.

Finally, it's important to note that doing activities by yourself is completely OK. Some guys think they can't do any activity unless a "buddy" or a girlfriend comes along. They seem to be really afraid of being seen as "anti-social" or a "loner" or something. Fuck that. If I want to do something and no one's around, I just do it. Hiking, going out to eat, hitting the pool, etc. you don't always need a buddy for these things. Bring a book if you get bored.

[–]Robalot1970 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think what happens is that no one has many real friends. Very few people value a true relationship where there is mutual respect between two individuals. Everyone is looking for what they can get out of a friendship. As you stop feeding these remoras they just go away. If status and shiny stuff is your thing there will always be friends that want to be associated with the shiny stuff, they don't care about you. This loneliness is just shedding dead weight, the problem is you were comfortable carrying around that dead weight.

[–]MortalSisyphus 47 points48 points  (28 children)

It's sad you feel this way OP.

I've been married 15 years. I married a good woman. Traditional, humble, believes in gender roles, etc.

Perhaps I hit the lottery, or perhaps times have changed. I don't know. I haven't been in the game, and I'm thankful for that.

I spent a good deal of time on TRP, read all the articles, even wrote some influential posts. But at the end of the day I am happily married, and that's not what TRP is aiming at.

I haven't felt lonely in a long time, because I have someone I share my life with. We talk every night. Neither of us are particularly concerned with status, with wealth, with upward mobility... I still have standards as a man and fulfill those standards, but I'm not in constant fear about being as "alpha" as possible.

I'm sure I'm an outlier, and my wife is an outlier, and AWALT and all that stuff... Just wanted to add an alternative perspective.

If there's one bit of advice I would give, it is this: Leave the cities. Leave the coasts. Move to the midwest, where traditional, white, religious culture still exists. You won't find a good wife on Tinder, or in a bar in San Francisco. You may not find a good wife in Missoula either, but your chances are at least better. Much better.

[–]tbu987 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Naturally NAWALT doesnt exist but if you nurture a woman right and keep her away from western media and keeping company with thots then NAWALT will exist. It just is very difficult in these times for unicorns to exist because of how society is now but not impossible. You said shes traditional and women who follow past traditions are the more modest and faithful which is why i find generally a religious women grown up in a religious family is most likely to be a unicorn than a modern family.

[–]RedwallAllratuRatbar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've met genetic slut (people pleaser) as basically her first boyfriend. Hell I had unicorn. Year after we broke up she is one of terriblest human beings, partly due how those "romantic and innocent" men made her crazy

[–]PsychShrooms 20 points21 points  (3 children)

As someone born and raised in the Midwest. Fuck this place. Not only are there a very limited number of venues to meet women, the number of quality women are limited. They also expect to be wined and dined despite have accomplished little to nothing in life. Also, if a person doesn't believe in fairy tales, it's even more difficult. I'm just padding my resume and plan on moving on in the next 18 months. Have to be up at 5 to leave by 6 so I'll stop the shit post there.

[–]ThatOneDrunkUncle 31 points32 points  (1 child)

All women expect to be wined and dined, even though their resumes are garbage. It's funny, I thought the same way until I started to date women with advanced degrees, and they're still boring and vapid, just have brattier upbringing.

[–]ramaga 11 points12 points  (0 children)

All women expect to be wined and dined, even though their resumes are garbage.

So much this. I got stuck talking to a casual acquaintance the other day. She's an uneducated single mother with a shitty job who's overweight and balding in her early 30s. She's maybe a 2. And yet, she was giving me a laundry list of all the things she thought a man had to bring to the table before she'd consider dating him. She and women like her are delusional.

[–]TheTransFantasy 12 points13 points  (7 children)

What if I'm black and non religious? Can I not get a wife?

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    [–]TheTransFantasy 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    I mean my mom's Muslim lmao. But no I don't want Christian white people culture.

    My dad was also ghetto.

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      [–]TheTransFantasy 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Yeah just white Western values. Personally not what I'm into but whatever floats your boat

      [–]BeATrumpet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Of course you can. But think of finding a wife as a happy accident or good fortune. Like he said, finding one is like winning a lottery

      [–]187oddfuture 10 points11 points  (4 children)

      I've been to the midwest on a trip this summer and it's a shithole. Nothing but farmland and yokels. I hate liberals, communists, and feminists as much as the next guy, but I don't think I'll ever leave where I'm at. The coasts and the cities just have too many amenities. Stores, gyms, etc. I can get anything I want here and it's all pretty close together. The midwest had nothing. Couldn't find a supermarket, couldn't find an actual gym, couldn't find a person that wasn't morbidly obese, chugging cola, and talking with an exaggerated Southern accent. I gave them the benefit of the doubt, and they failed. No thanks to the hick life.

      [–]MortalSisyphus 19 points20 points  (0 children)

      Couldn't find a supermarket, couldn't find an actual gym, couldn't find a person that wasn't morbidly obese, chugging cola, and talking with an exaggerated Southern accent.

      You've got to be kidding me. Every city in the midwest has supermarkets and gyms. And the rate of obesity is lower than on the urban coasts or the south.

      Then you talk about an exaggerated Southern accent... Are we talking about the same part of the country here?

      [–]Atheist_Utopia 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      Dude, just move to Europe already. You'll have everything that is there in the US, but with much less fatties.

      [–]BeATrumpet 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Fuck Europe. Letting all those animals in from 3rd world countries no fucking thanks

      [–]Atheist_Utopia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Wrong. It's nowhere near as bad as you think, because the media lets you think that way. Don't forget that you are using american media.

      [–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

      Are you calling Missoula the midwest? Montana isn't the Midwest and missoula is the west coast of Montana

      [–]MortalSisyphus 15 points16 points  (1 child)

      You are really nitpicking the semantics here... holy shit.

      [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      I'm not sure you've ever lived in Montana. Missoula is a liberal paradise, full of California transplants. Terrible example

      [–]Skuggasveinn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Í can relate to the "5 friend avarage" I have had stagnating friends in the past that are hard to let go.

      [–]xxWildbeast13xx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      So I’m in highschool and I find it pretty easy to make friends. I’m basically cool with everyone but I’m not really that popular so to speak. So will fully committing to TRP kill that aspect of my life or enhance it?

      [–]BurntYams 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Solid Post OP, I enjoyed this very much.

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        [–]ddcy1845 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Ignorance is bliss. I've progressed a long way in my life, but there will always be a small part of me that wants to be back where I started.

        [–]Demiurge_Decline 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        The top of the pyramid is pointy and lonely like one step from toppling over. The bottom is comfortable but your standing shoulder to shoulder with mediocracy.

        [–]magx01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        My life was going from one artificial dopamine hit to the next.

        Since then, I've hooked up with several girls, had a couple of plates, and fucked a couple other as well.

        Lol same thing different look.

        [–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 3 points4 points  (3 children)

        The path to become alpha.

        No you have described the path to appear alpha. An alpha male doesn't have to be rich, tall, well dressed, well read, meditate every day, or any of that. Holy fuck, if this is what you kids think, we are truly fucked. This is how a beta or omega can look like a masculine accomplished male when he isn't.

        Obviously you haven't been in the presence of alpha males, maybe some violence prone wanna guidos or something, but not a man who commands respect. You have an idea in your head of what you think it is, and not only is it wrong, apparently you have no fucking idea. People gravitate towards the alphas, they defer to them in decisions, and follow their lead. If nobody is following you, no friends or acquaintances/co-workers, then no matter what you look like, you're not an alpha.

        Chad doesn't give a fuck. That's slightly different from a man who has better shit to do that takes priority, so a girl isn't the priority. Girls can't tell the difference between the drug addict who wants another hit far more than he gives a shit about the girl, and the man who isn't focused on getting pussy because he has more important things to do.

        Girls are something you don't have, so they're your focus. This distinction is probably lost on you. You think looking like you have better shit to do, you will get laid. Girls might be unable to tell a man with a plan on his mission from a drug dealer (probably because they're both on a mission and the girl isn't in it), but they can sure as fuck see right through your wannabe alpha desperation cloaking attempt.

        Being tall doesn't make you capable, dangerous, a competent leader, or an alpha, but it can sure as fuck give you an unearned sense of superiority. Having lots of muscle doesn't mean you possess those qualities either.

        You get those attributes by achieving, struggling against obstacles, overcoming hardships, and actually doing difficult shit. Coding doesn't cut it. Combat sports are a great start, but you must become proficient in it and be challenged. You have to prove it to yourself, and you compete against everyone else to do that.

        [–]Acropoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        self-acceptance. goal-driven, inner-confidence but you sound angry

        [–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Girls might be unable to tell a man with a plan on his mission from a drug dealer (probably because they're both on a mission and the girl isn't in it), but they can sure as fuck see right through your wannabe alpha desperation cloaking attempt.

        This thing comes up regularly and I keep wondering how true it is. Even tho I've reached an abundance with girls over the last 1,5 years I don't still automatically drown in (quality) pussy wherever I go. I still have to game girls, initiate proper txt game and use the general good guidelines - although most of these guidelines are already embedded to my behaviour pattern.

        I think it's bullshit that girls can see through a good alpha cloak at least in the beginning. Maybe they see it after few weeks when the fake frame starts to collapse but then attraction and attachment usually overcomes the lacking frame and the girl stays around atleast for awhile.

        [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        The sad reality is most men don't want to be men nowadays.

        I commend you for being selective with who you associate with though. I too am doing this and am becoming more lonely as a result.

        To rectify this, I find spending time vicariously through listening to inspirational people speak about self-improvement on YouTube helps. Having Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Mark Cuban, Gary Veynerchuk and Warren Buffett in my bro squad has helped tremendously!

        [–]gbdoragnic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        You aren't connecting with people because you don't understand humanity ,tell them the truth about why you improved yourself, they will understand

        [–]Acropoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Gymcel here. Great post OP, you mentioned a few insights about the realities of woman, but also respecting them and having self-motivation. i found it really insightful but balanced. This post.. only 1 post but it helped me regain the red pill perspective.

        I've hated woman too. angry at them, myself, the world.. some of it parental but i've gotten older and agree with the wisdom that the hatred towards them is usually a dysfunction within the man. so i just try to understand their nature and work on myself. I just find it impossible to trust them. i see myself expecting the worst whenever i get around to a relationship.

        [–]Gilgs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        We all are born alone and die alone, it's what you do in the between that matters. Live your life to the fullest and all will fall into place. Good luck mate.

        [–]Skuggasveinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Í can relate to the "5 friend avarage" I have had stagnating friends in the past that are hard to let go.

        [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        Think shit tests or "hamsterimg" is a female only phenomenon? It isn't. If you weren't a natural alpha (and you likely weren't if you found this place) then you WILL have your friends try to claw you down when you start building on yourself. Even the most loyal and long term ones. If you haven't experienced this then you haven't improved enough.

        Not every friend will do this. Some won't care, others will want to join in on the journey (these are less likely since it takes work), but about half will shit on you/resent you.

        [–]PlackOfCigarettes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I ran out of addy so maybe I’ll read it later

        [–]jkingauthor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Amen.

        But how about finding other alphas and forming a crew?

        [–]PR0JECT_XIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Great post OP!

        I do personally believe frame shouldn't be comparied with stong materials (metaphorically) instead frame should be compared with Water.

        Water bends and manuvers around it's environment, having the ability to take form when the circumstances change. Many great writings compare a powerful mind with water.

        [–]johnhello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        thanks mate, enjoyed the read

        [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I would add that part of non black and white thinking is that you can offer people advice to help pull them out of the dust without hurting yourself in the process. Self-improvement doesn't have to mean self-obsession. And the greatest self-improvement never does.

        [–]reddit_user_20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Hi

        I can't understand how some of the items in the list can help me to be alpha?

        • Lift hard, eat right - I agree with eat right, but why do you need to lift hard? Do you really need excessive muscles to be productive? May be boxing will be more important.
        • Groom well, have a good sense of style - ok, you need to show your status and your outer look is one way to do that. Such things as being clean and neat are good but I have some concerns with style and clothes, because it can lead you to consumerism.
        • Talk to everyone, learn to be social with everyone - why should you be social with everyone. You probably should be social with your clients and people who you do business with.

        [–]187oddfuture 0 points1 point  (4 children)

        For reference I traveled through Ohio, Indiana, Illinois, and Wisconsin. Chicago was just a shittier NYC. Ohio was a hick wasteland. Indiana was just farmland but the people there weren’t bad. Illinois was shot, Wisconsin is just a bunch of hicks with a weird accent.

        [–]xxWildbeast13xx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Damn, where I live in Ohio (Pickerington, about 30 minutes away from downtown Columbus) it’s got some country aspects to it but I don’t know if I would consider it a hick wasteland. There’s definitely some hick people here but it’s in my opinion not that bad. There are a lot of liberals, feminazis, the whole spectrum. It’s a really diverse place. I guess it all just depends on where you go, maybe it’s because I’m in high school and haven’t seen the “real world”.

        [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        Minnesota here. The Twin Cities are OK at best, but nothing special. SWJ princess syndrome in the cities and husky country girls everywhere else. We're usually at the end of any major music tours and don't get much coming through here. Most of the population wants to just hunt and fish which is fine except it creates a very strong bubble and nobody cares what goes on outside of the state.

        I'm finishing up grad school and looking to permanently leave the entire midwest.

        [–]187oddfuture 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        That seems to be the story for pretty much every college grad from the midwest. Plus, depending on your degree, all of the high paying jobs are in coastal cities because that’s where the money’s at. Everybody lives in their own bubble, though. There’s no escaping that, it’s just natural.

        [–]1scissor_me_timbers00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Fort Wayne Indiana has the worst strip clubs imaginable

        [–]casemodz -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

        How to get me to not read past the first 2 sentences. A story by op