Disclaimer: I am diagnosed with moderate ADHD-C but don't take medication for it. This post is intended for those here in TheRedPill that have been diagnosed with ADHD or strongly believe they have it. I wrote it in a manner that the majority of people can understand it. Read it on the toilet. Enjoy!
"TheRedPill is the perfect way of life for someone with ADHD. Plating women, lifting weights, and thinking independently is what we naturally do best." - Mr_Badass
How to TheRedPill with ADHD
- 1. Intro
- 2. ADHD Basics
- 3. Intense Exercise
- 4. Mental Stimulation
- 5. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
- 6. Attention Whore Addiction
- 7. Hyper Sexuality and Under Sexuality
- 8. ADHD and Approaching Women
- 9. Plates and Relationships
- 10. Friendships
- 11. ADHD and Dark Triad
- 12. How to Hyperfocus
- 13. Workplaces
- 14. Social Media (Greyscale Mode + Airplane Mode)
- 15. Innovator of Independence
ADHD, (Attention Deficient Hyperactivity Disorder), is one of those things that tends to be misunderstood by the general public and is usually seen as either a blessing or a curse by those that have it. In this post, I will talk about strategies for those who have ADHD to understand and use TheRedPill principles most effectively. People with ADHD have an "out the box brain" and need some guidance on how to understand some foundations of TheRedPill like lifting, getting stuff done, making money, and plating women. Just because you have ADHD doesn't give you an excuse to not excel at life. ADHD is not a get out of jail free card to be lazy and jerk off all day. You can manage it and even use its advantages to make some serious money, get fit, and plate women. When people hear the word ADHD they usually have four different perspectives about it:
- 1. Psychological Term - Some people think that ADHD means that you can't concentrate, are hyperactive, or can't focus for more than twenty seconds. To concentrate you must enter “hyperfocus” which means to have 100% laser guided concertation for hours on one specific task and ignore the world. Adderall helps turn hyperfocus on and off easily.
- 2. Lazy - Other people believe that ADHD is a made up disorder for lazy unmotivated people that need a good ass kicking. ADHD people simply need to stop "living in the clouds" and come down to Earth so they face stone cold Reality. They have the belief that ADHD people simply need to learn discipline and master their willpower.
- 3. Made Up by Drug Companies - A minority of people believe that ADHD is mass brainwashing by the pharmaceutical companies to sell Adderall to parents so little Timmy can be obedient in school. These drug companies championed the idea of ADHD in the 80s to earn extra profits and “ADHD is made up”.
- 4. Extraordinary Gift - Finally, others claim that Albert Einstein and Steve Jobs would have been diagnosed with ADHD if they were born in this millennium. They argue that ADHD is excellent for outside the box and non-linear technical skills like computer science, software engineering, high mathematics, and programming. They argue that ADHD is a gift for those that have careers were they need to concentrate on something for hours or need to do outside the box thinking.
2. ADHD Basics
The best way is can describe ADHD is that their brain is a Ferrari with really weak brakes. You can drive down a straight highway at 200 miles and hours but have trouble slowing down efficiency when racing around corners. Medication like Adderall allows those with ADHD to have the strong brakes to slow down to do detailed oriented tasks like reading. On the neurobiological level, ADHD is an imbalance of the brain chemical Dopamine, (feel good chemical), and having weak Executive Functions skills like starting tasks, not getting distracted and staying organized.
ADHD has three major categories:
- Not paying attention to detail
- Making careless mistakes
- Failing to pay attention and keep on task
- Not listening
- Being unable to follow or understand instructions
- Avoiding tasks that involve effort
- Being distracted
- Being forgetful
- Losing things that are needed to complete tasks
- Getting up often when seated
- Running or climbing at inappropriate times
- Having trouble playing quietly
- Talking too much
- Talking out of turn or blurting out
- Often “on the go” as if “driven by a motor”
This is the most common type of ADHD. People with it have symptoms of both inattentive and hyperactive-impulsive types.
Majority of people with the Inattentive type tend to be diagnosed in their 20s and 30s while those with the Hyperactive-Impulsive type tend to be diagnosed as kids. Majority of people assume ADHD only applies to kids and they row out of it when they grow up. The reality is ~40% of kids that have ADHD still have it as adults.
2A. ADHD Disadvantages
According to the book "Smart but Scattered", most people with ADHD have trouble with the following Executive Functions:
- Task Initiation - Ability to begin projects without procrastination
- Working Memory - Ability to hold information while doing complex tasks
- Sustained Attention - Ability to keep attention while distracted, bored, or tired
- Organization - Ability to create systems that keep things in order
- Meta-Cognition- Ability to see your life in a "bird's eye view" and ask "How I'm doing?
Other disadvantages include that we tend to be novelty seekers who have trouble staying with the same women, want to do everything or nothing at once, and energy drinks and pre-workout calms us down instead of giving us physical energy.
2B. ADHD Advantages
According to the book "The ADHD Advantage", most people with ADHD have the following Advantages:
- Resilience - We see the light at the end of the darkest tunnel. Never give up.
- Hyper Focus - We can have 100% concentration for hours on things that interest us.
- Creativity - We make connections between things that tend to not have connections.
- Risk Taking - We love a challenge and excel in emergency situations. It fires us up.
- Charisma- Outside the box thinking makes it easy to tell great stories.
- Multitasking - Excellent at doing many things at once.
Other advantages include being interested in multiple hobbies at the same time, being quick on our feet in emergency situations, and being the life of the party. Most people with ADHD have extra physical energy levels and can exercise for longer than the average person. This is excellent for Dancers and Runners who need extra endurance and stamina.
3. ADHD and Intense Exercise
The best way to manage ADHD is to increase your Dopamine levels and try to keep them high every day. If you have ADHD you MUST exercise every day. EVERY DAY. No ifs, what’s, or I'm too tired. You must do something that raises your heart rate, or engages your fight or flight responses. Exercise is necessary to keep your dopamine levels in a stable range. I recommend HIIT Running or Strength Training. Best exercises to engage your fight or flight response are Squats, Deadlifts, and Bench Presses. Personally, my biggest dopamine boosts are dancing for an hour with the hoes in Zumba class. For most of you doing HIIT Training before your weightlifting for 15 minutes should be sufficient. Realize that for most people with ADHD preworkout and energy drinks give them a calm meditative focus instead of extra physical energy. You can access your emergency dopamine by masturbating and then taking a cold shower. Make sure to hit the gym in the next hour before it wears off.
4. ADHD and Mental Stimulation
On TheRedPill I wrote two posts called," You Need Mental Stimulation to be Alpha", and "PT 2 Mental Stimulation and You" that describe mental stimulation in great detail. The TL;DR of those posts is that men need hobbies to be satisfied. If you have ADHD you MUST....I repeat. MUST have a mentally stimulating hobby to keep you from being bored and depressed. Your brain is like a Ferrari that needs to race down the track at 200 miles per hour once in a while. Your hobby can be anything that proves a mental challenge. It can be anything from fixing cars, doing math, shooting guns, programming, or flirting with women. Your hobby or hobbies must be something that highly interests you and keeps you away from spectator activities like watching television or sports. Spectator activities are not for you Mr. ADHD because they don't reward you with enough Dopamine. I'm sorry bro but your brain is wired differently and needs jolts of neurobiological electrical stimulation in the form of doing a hobby of interest. People with ADHD that are not mentally stimulated tend to get distracted on stop that doesn't matter like social media or focusing on an oneitis.
5. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
It is extremely common for people with ADHD to have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria which makes them extreme people pleasers. Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is an extreme emotional sensitivity and emotional pain triggered by the perception, not necessarily the reality, that a person has been rejected, teased, or criticized by important people in their life. RSD can make people with ADHD anticipate rejection even when it is anything but certain. This can make them vigilant about avoiding it, which can be misdiagnosed as social phobia. Social phobia is an intense anticipatory fear that you will embarrass or humiliate yourself in public, or that you will be scrutinized harshly by the outside world.
5A. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and Oneitis
The best defense against oneitis for an ADHD individual is daily intensive exercise and mental stimulation to keep your dopamine up. If you have ADHD it is extremely easy to get oneitis, and the oneitis tends to be many times stronger than the average person. The reason is that RSD tends to amplify and multiply the amount of dopamine generated when an ADHD person has oneitis. People with ADHD tend to scan every person they meet to figure out what that person admires and praises. Then they hyperfocus on that specific person which generates massive amounts of dopamine, because their brain is working at 400% speed like a hamster wheel which feels good. The more they analyze that person the more dopamine they receive. If you have ADHD you must use metacognition and meditate to analyze if you are unconsciously hyper focusing on a particular person. You must recognize when you are starting to get oneitis to cut that person off. If you already have oneitis I highly recommend you do intense exercise and take an energy drink to calm your mind down. If the oneitis is strong your last resort is to talk to many women to "plant many seeds that generate dopamine instead of one source".
5B. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and Approach Anxiety
For most ADHD people, if they try something new and fail or fall short in front of anyone else, it’s just too painful and too risky to even consider. For these people, Approach Anxiety and Social Anxiety is very common in dealing with beautiful women. The reason is that the sudden dopamine boost from the RSD "short circuits" their brain and they experience Task Inhibition, which causes massive procrastination. A metaphor is if you’re a passenger in a sports car and the driver suddenly revs up to 150 miles per hour for no reason and you don't know what to do. They get overwhelmed with the 100 different ways they can talk to her. For ADHD people, they don't know where to even begin because they become extremely overwhelmed by overanalyzing the situation. The best way for an ADHD individual to deal with RSD is to immediately approach the girl and just say hi ASAP. All they have to do is go up to the girl and say hello. That's it. The more exposure ADHD individuals have to beautiful women the less of a dopamine boost they will experience when approaching.
6. Attention Whore Addiction
For most ADHD people interacting with Attention Whores is like snorting cocaine; addicting. A similar effect also happens when ADHD men deal with women with bipolar disorder. The reason is that most attention whores and bipolar women have excellent skills in getting our attention, not giving it up, which causes a challenge which creates mental stimulation. They know how to activate our emotional regulation centers in the brain, which for most ADHD people are unstable due to dopamine imbalances. The way it works is simple. The Attention whore gets the attention of the ADHD person. Then the Attention Whore either plays hard to get or teases him. For the ADHD person, this causes them to start to overanalyze the situation to create a plan to fuck the Attention Whore. The over analyzation creates a dopamine boost because the ADHD brain gets to work at 400% hamster wheel speed which makes them feel good. The more the Attention Whore makes the ADHD person feel like they're closer to solving the challenge, (fucking her), the more of a dopamine rush he gets. A metaphor is like buying a lottery ticket where you get 4/5 numbers correct every time, and feel like you’re really close to winning the lottery the more you try. The best way to defend again Attention whores is to identify their behavior. Daily intensive exercise and talking to multiple women also helps regulate your dopamine levels so the attention whole doesn't get your hyperfocus.
7. Hyper Sexuality and Under Sexuality
People with ADHD seek novelty and stimulation. If you have ADHD you need to identify if you are hypersexual or the undersexual subtype. The undersexual subtype can go years without the need for sex because they can hyperfocus on their career or hobbies. The hypersexual subtype makes excellent seducers but gets distracted by pussy super easily. Both subtypes are determined by the levels of Dopamine of Noradrenalin, (feel good chemicals), in an ADHD brain. Medications that treat ADHD mobilize primarily Dopamine and Noradrenalin.
7A. Hypersexual ADHD subtype
For the Hypersexual ADHD person, sex gives them a 900% dopamine boost because fucking a new woman is like solving a challenging puzzle that gives them a super high. The hypersexual subtype is like a "Ying Yang Twins" stereotype that has women on their minds all the time. They literally have ass and titties on their mind and are extremely horrible at long-term relationships.
They're great at plating women and as teenagers tend to have masturbated a lot. In my personal opinion, I suspect a majority of people in the NoFap Community have undiagnosed ADHD with the hypersexual subtype. If you're the hypersexual subtype you must find ways to earn your dopamine from many resources like intense exercise or working on an interesting hobby rather than just pussy. If you feel like you are too sexual on dates, drink some coffee or an energy drink to lower your libido. The energy drink/coffee should put you in a mellow and chill mood.
7B. Undersexual ADHD subtype
If you are the undersexual type you must learn how to generate dopamine from women. You probably avoid women due to your Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. The good news is that the more women you talk to the more of a high you will receive. This means you must learn to get into situations that increase sexual tension like eye contact. You’re the type that needs to leave video games behind on Saturday night and go to the nightclub more. Approaching women in public should be a standard activity for you. Lifting heavy ass weights needs to be your daily activity to get that fight or flight response. The more sexual tension you are exposed to the more balanced your sexuality will be increased and balanced. I highly recommend you listen to sexualized rap music by Lil Jon, Ying Yang Twins, Too Short, Lil Scrappy, and Young Buck. Start with the song “Whistle While You Twerk" by Ying Yang Twins. Let the YouTube auto play songs for you, I also recommend you do some sort of dance activity whether it's a Zumba class or go to the nightclub being around beautiful women.
8. ADHD and Approaching Women
For both the Hypersexual and Undersexual subtypes of ADHD, approaching women has the same general steps. As soon as you see the girl you must go up and say hello. Don't let your mind do hamster wheels and get distracted by dozens of reasons why you shouldn't approach. Don't go into la la land or let yourself daydream of the future together. All you have to do is go up to the girl and say hello. Then use your ADHD brain to talk about something she is wearing or something around you. I would highly recommend you get yourself in an amused and relaxed state of mind by managing your dopamine levels. Jerk off before leaving the house or drink an energy drink in social situations. AVOID weed at all costs, unless you want to be a zombie. That's it! Undersexual subtypes should listen to sexualized rap music like Ying Yang Twins to get in the mood. If you’re the hypersexual subtype please for the love of the Gods please behave at the workplace. Don't shit where you eat! If you're getting oneitis you better be doing daily intense exercise to balance your dopamine.
9. Plates and Relationships
People with ADHD are excellent at having Plates but usually horrible a having long-term relationships. Having a hypergamous benefits people with ADHD because we love novelty and new situations. Plating multiple women is your natural gift. TheRedPill way of thinking is perfect for people with ADHD. The reason is ADHD people crave novelty and stimulation, and most sexual relationships will become boring after a few months. Trust me, unless you are on Adderall, you will get bored of that dream girl you want to be your girlfriend. An example is that you’re plating Abby and Betty. You will easily get bored of Abby for days and then focus on Betty. When you get bored of Betty then you can focus on Abby again. If you can manage your Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria you can become the perfect seducer. It's very hard for an ADHD person to be committed to one girl because his mind wants new experiences all the time.
9A. OCD Girls are our Natural Enemy
Women with OCD, (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), are our natural enemies because they love to nag. OCD Women will drive you insane with all their rules and need to have things in perfect order. Nagging is extremely irritating to an ADHD brain because it triggers a fight or flight response easily due to our emotional dysregulation. These women think its okay to behave as if they're our mother and they become extra frustrated when you forget the little things. The first sign is that they get mad when you don't text back right away. Women with OCD tend to be accountants, administrative assistants, and work in law. Avoid, avoid, avoid!
9B. Single Mothers and Daddy Issues Are Cocaine
Oh my lord. Single Mothers. Girls with Daddy Issues. Just avoid. If you get oneitis and hyperfocus on them prepare to give up your soul. If they trigger the hyperfocus of an ADHD he will make it his life mission "to provide for her". The Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria of ADHD can make men into the ultimate people pleasers if triggered. Single mothers and Daddy issue girls are excellent at asking for help. The more an ADHD person helps them the more of a long-term dopamine boost they receive due to the sunk cost fallacy. The hyperfocus makes the ADHD person analyze and think of ways of how to help the single mother or miss daddy issues. The more he analyzes the more of a dopamine boost he receives until he is hooked. For single mothers, it’s helping the kid with his homework which leads to babysitting the kid...which leads to being his new daddy. For daddy issues girls it’s helping her pay her phone bill, then buying her an iPhone, then buying her a MacBook. If you have ADHD be hyper-conscious about helping women. They can easily steal your soul the more you help them. You will feel good but she will have your soul. Plating multiple women and doing daily intensive exercise provides defense against getting hooked. Do your best to avoid.
9C. Bipolars; the Ultimate Attraction
Nothing attracts an ADHD mind stronger than a girl with Bipolar Disorder. If Single Mothers and Daddy Issues are like cocaine, bipolar women are like synthetic heroin that makes you want to gamble your organs away for a gram. They have both your soul and you're existing. Just run away. The roller coaster of good feelings and bad feelings is like orgasms for the ADHD brain. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria of ADHD creates one of the most intense people pleasing phenomenon when dealing with bipolar women. The reason is that ADHD brain will work at 1600% to find ways to please her which causes the hamster wheel to spin and generate massive dopamine boosts. She yells at you, beats you up emotionally, cucks you with many men, but you still come home to say "Yes Dear". If you have ADHD please, please, please, avoid bipolar women.
If you have ADHD majority of your friends will probably have ADHD or have some sort of rebellion to being normal or following the rules of society. The best friendships for you are people that love going to the gym or are some sort of Innovator. An innovator is someone who introduces new methods, ideas, or ways of seeing the world. Your perfect friendships are entrepreneurs, seducers, and artists because they tend to love outside the box thinkers. Friendships to avoid are close-minded rigid people who are highly religious, hate risks, socially shy, or extremely blue pilled. These types will tell you to "chill". The worst friendships are narcissistic A-type individuals because you will clash hard. A-types think they're the smartest people in the room and hate new ideas. These types are usually in Sales or Finance and highly materialistic.
10A. Homegirl Friendships Are Beneficial
For those that have ADHD having platonic female friends, (homegirls), is very beneficial. The reason is that you have a multi-tasking hypergamous mind and get bored easily in sexual relationships. Having homegirls provides safe relationships that will always be there. Trust me, when you replace plates every three months having stable homegirls that know your history and have strong bonds with will keep you from crashing hard from rejections. They are excellent for preselection and you can triple text them without worry. They are great at analyzing if you’re getting too attracted to a girl and can provide structure to bring you to reality. Great homegirls are those that have a cold view of reality and highly practical motherly types. Excellent at reminding you to not be a people pleaser or leave that girl alone.
11. ADHD and Dark Triad
ADHD types tend to be masters of Machiavellianism because they can lie easily, think outside the box, and have silver tongues. Machiavellianism is characterized by manipulation and exploitation of others, a cynical disregard for morality, and a focus on self-interest and deception. People with ADHD tend to scan every person they meet to figure out what that person admires and praises, and most children with ADHD learn to become naturally Machiavellian. A common trait for ADHD teens is that they're frequent liars, (google ADHD lying). The reason is that it's really fun for ADHD to tell great embellishing stories and see how far they can go before they get called out. Embellishing stories allow us to analyze and brainstorm on the fly which is very enjoyable because it's mentally stimulating. A way for an ADHD person to practice Machiavellianism is to learn improvisation and standup comedy. Our hyperfocus, multitasking ability, and hyper focus allows us to brainstorm stories extremely quick. If an ADHD can hyperfocus on themselves and their goals they can think of ways on how to reach goals faster by using other people.
12. How to Hyperfocus
The greatest ability for an ADHD is the ability to hyperfocus; which means to concentrate at 100% while ignoring everything around you. The more dopamine you generate, the longer your hyperfocus. The following strategies can be used to learn how to get into hyperfocus easier.
- Pomodoro Technique - use a Pomodoro app to concentrate for 25 minutes intensely, then take a 5 min break.
- Intensive Exercise - Go to the gym before you study. You should have 2-4 hours of calm focus after.
- Brain Dump - Write/Type everything you can think of for the next 10 minutes.
- Social Fire - Go approach hot women or get in touch with your plates before you study. Do something social!
- Emergency mode - Pretend your project is due ASAP. Try to get things done as fast as possible. Sprint!
- Psytrance Music - Listen to full on psytrance music. The faster the better.
- Delayed Masturbation - When you're about to cum, stop. Wait thirty seconds. Repeat several times.
- Meditation - Sometimes intense meditation can lead to a hyper focused state.
- Racing video games - Play a racing video game for 20 minutes. I recommend the Wipeout HD series.
- Ying Yang Time Get fired up by listening to aggressive and sexualized rap like Lil John or Ying Yang Twins.
- Bedroom Dance Dance in your bedroom to the most emotional blue pilled romantic songs like London Boys.
- Caffeine Once every four days you can have an energy drink or three cups of coffee. Only if you don't have meds.
- Start a Fight - Get in a situation where someone gets really mad ONLINE at you and gets you fired up. F' The Haters.
I highly recommend you don't tell your Boss or HR that you have ADHD because they will find a way to let you go. There is a misconception that people with ADHD make more mistakes and cannot focus. There is also a stigma associated with taking Adderall. In the United States, a person with ADHD who needs accommodations is protected by the ADA, (American with Disabilities Act), but HR will find a way to build a case around you and let you go. The best workplaces are those with minimal micromanagement where you can organize how you get your work done. The technology industry especially IT and Outsides Sales where you travel are excellent for ADHD people. Also if you have the hypersexual subtype of ADHD avoid the women at work. Don't chat with the receptionist. Don't eat with your female coworker for lunch. Don't cheat where you eat! Avoid!
14. Social Media (Greyscale Mode + Airplane Mode)
If you have ADHD I would tell you to avoid social media so you don't get distracted. The reality is that unless you're in Monk Mode, (I'm in a happy five months monk mode), you’re going to use social media. What I highly recommend is that you use Greyscale mode on your phone when browsing Instagram and Snapchat so you get a reduced dopamine bump since it's in black and white. Seeing your plate’s nudes on Snapchat will suck but you won't get easily distracted. I also recommend you put yourself in self mandated Airplane mode. This means that you try to get your work done first before you go on social media. Save social media for the evening, and tell the hoes you get busy in the day if they complain. If you're addicted to social media develop a regiment of daily exercise to balance your dopamine levels. If you're still addicted, then masturbate before you go on social media. Trust me, it's not going to be as enjoyable.
15. Innovator of Independence
If you have ADHD you must guard your independence since everything wants your attention to distract you. Your energy source is Dopamine which might be guarded like gold. You must also understand that your ADHD brain gives you the natural gift on innovation. Innovation is to think outside the box and form connections between things that rarely exist together. You must cultivate a sense of curiosity and wonderment for how you see the world. You need to find activities that allow you to naturally hyperfocus. Realize that your brain of non-linear thinking is rare and that having your "head in the clouds" can be balanced by keeping a list of stuff you have to do. Most people will not understand how you see the world and you will probably spend a lot of time being independent. Many people will tell you that you’re really smart, creative, or have lots of energy. This many flatter you, but realize the most innovative people with ADHD are always learning. Your mind must always be mentally stimulated. Many people with ADHD tend to take online courses at EdX or Coursera. Most people with ADHD have multiple artistic, technical, and physical hobbies. You must always see yourself as an Innovator and use your ideas and new ways of thinking to improve your own world.