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We all know that confidence and success with women go hand-in-hand.

This leaves us with two important questions:

How do you become confident? Is it possible to become confident in a short amount of time?

The answer to both questions is yes.

Confidence is generally thought of a trait (like intelligence) that remains relatively consistent over time. But this is only half-true.

Yes, everyone has a different baseline level of confidence. However, your degree of self-confidence is also an emotional state (or a mood) – which can change at any moment.

Even if you have no confidence in your ability to attract women, you can become incredibly self-confident (and you can do this in the course of a single day).

In this article, you’re going to learn how to enter a flow state to drastically increase your self-confidence

 

The Power of Flow States

 

In flow, the part of your brain that makes you feel self-doubt and insecurity literally shuts off. Normally you might see an attractive girl and think,

She’ll probably reject me.

She’s with her friends, I don’t want to bother her.

She’s too hot, I need to ‘warm up’ with some fewer intimidating girls.

Etc.

But when you’re in a flow state seeing an attractive woman will trigger radically different thoughts:

She wants a guy like me to approach her.

That guy she’s with is probably her gay friend.

She looks bored, I should brighten up her day by meeting her.

These positive thoughts will lead you to take positive actions (like approaching a girl or inviting her back to your place), and because you’re coming across as a supremely self-confident man, she’s FAR more likely to respond positively while talking with you.

Through thousands of hours of experimentation, I have found there are three key rules you must follow to consistently enter a flow state.

Follow these rules and total self-confidence will become a state you can summon whenever you want it.

 

Rule 1: Push Each Interaction Further Than The Last

 

Psychologists have found that the first and most important condition for entering a flow state is to do something that’s challenging (but not overwhelmingly challenging). (https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/800/1*KdE_EfgeK7Ya_fUaQU1Ntg.jpeg)

For example, if you were to play basketball against middle schoolers, you wouldn’t enter flow because there wouldn’t be enough challenge (hopefully).

On the other hand, if you were to play basketball against NBA pros, you wouldn’t enter flow because the challenge would be too great.

However, if you played basketball against opponents at roughly your skill-level, you would enter a flow state.

Here’s a list of relevant challenging actions you can take to enter a flow state while meeting women:

To enter flow, you’ll want to determine which of these actions is challenging enough to energize you, but not so challenging that you feel overwhelmed.

Personally, I often start my nights out not feeling social at all. So, I start getting myself in the zone by high-fiving some people or giving women compliments as I walk by them, (I.E. “I like your style.”)

Once I’m comfortable giving compliments, I take things up a notch by approaching women and starting a real conversation. The first few approaches I do rarely last more than a minute or two (at this point I’m still a little choppy), but each approach I do makes me feel a bit more confident in myself.

Once I’m comfortable approaching, I’ll make a point to lead my interactions progressively further. This means that:

  • I’ll have longer conversations.
  • I’ll bring the girls I approach to the dance floor or make out with them.
  • And eventually, if I meet a girl I have good chemistry with, I’ll take her home.

When I enter a club I’m usually in a logical, non-social state, but by following the above process, I become incredibly confident within 30 minutes.

My normal social fears completely vanish and I’m able to do things (like bring a beautiful girl home with me) I would never have previously thought possible.

Your process for pushing each interaction further than the last may differ from mine. You might not need to warm up by giving compliments or hi-fiving people like I do (experiment with what works best for you.)

Regardless of your exact process, the underlying principle for this rule is that you shouldn’t expect too much of yourself at the beginning of a night (or day) out – your first approaches aren’t likely to lead to anything sexual.

However, as you approach more women, your confidence will rapidly increase. And as you feel increasingly self-confident, you’ll be able to push your interactions progressively further – until you pull a girl home with you.

 

Rule 2: Act More, Think Less

 

Flow is a state in which your excuses and fears no longer have power over you. To enter this state, you must take so much action that your mind can’t keep up (so that eventually it gives up trying to control you.)

If you approach a girl and she leaves to “find her friends,” don’t stand around and think about why you got rejected – you’re just going to start overthinking and stress yourself out.

To prevent myself from overthinking, I jump from one interaction to another immediately. The less time I spend between approaches, the faster I enter flow.

To make this practical, you can start mentally counting up after you end an interaction with a girl. As you count [1,2,3,4,etc.] you’ll feel a mounting pressure to approach another girl. This will help prevent you from wasting too much time between interactions.

As a rule of thumb, you should aim to spend about 80% of your time in a club (or doing daygame) interacting with women. If you’re spending most of your time standing around observing the environment, you’re not going to enter a flow state (and you’re going to miss countless opportunities with beautiful women).

Approach All

I often approach women who I’m not physically attracted to. If I spend too much time looking for a girl who’s ‘hot enough’ to approach, I’m inviting myself to start making excuses.

So, I’ll approach anyone. I’m at the club to have fun and be social, I can do that with anyone, not just attractive women. By having fun with a girl who I don’t have sexual interest in, I will be in a more confident, carefree mood when I approach a girl who is stunningly beautiful.

(PS: If you’re only approaching women you want to sleep with, that can reinforce a mindset that you’re only talking to girls who you want to ‘get’ sex from. This mindset is inherently unattractive because it’s about taking value from women. By approaching everyone and having fun with them, you’re approaching to offer value – which is far more attractive.)

When you’re out, the more time you spend taking action, the less your mind will get in your way. I’m not advocating that you aggressively hit on every woman you see. Instead, I’m suggesting that you socialize with as many people as possible. By doing so, you’ll get yourself into a state of mind in which you’ll be able to effortlessly approach and attract beautiful women.

 

Rule 3: Embrace Rejection

 

The only way to avoid rejection is to stay at home and watch porn.

Rejection is an unavoidable part of the game: the way you respond to it is going to determine the results you get. If you see rejection as a bad thing, it’s going to be very difficult to have fun while going out and meeting women.

I’ve been rejected a lot, probably thousands of times. And that’s okay – by going through those rejections I was also able to date some incredible women. Furthermore, each rejection made me fear future rejections little bit less.

Don’t Dwell on Rejection

Harsh truth: most of your interactions with women are going to end in rejection. These rejections are harmless, UNLESS you think they mean something is wrong with you.

If you go up to a girl and she says, “Sorry, you’re just not my type.”

You might start thinking, “It’s because of my race, women aren’t attracted to Asians.” Or you might think, “It’s because I’m too short, it’s not fair.”

If you start down this train of thought, you’re going to end up feeling bitter and victimized – and this attitude makes you far less attractive to women.

When I get rejected, I still feel bitter about it sometimes. But as soon as I notice that feeling, I jump into another interaction. I don’t give myself the opportunity to dwell on negative thoughts. Beyond that, I immunize myself to rejection by finding humor in it.

Find The Humor In Rejection

Look, unless you’re an ego-less being, rejections are going to affect your emotional state sometimes. However, rejections won’t ruin your night. unless you let them. Rejection is an opportunity to take yourself less seriously. If you can find the humor in rejection, it will stop having power over you.

Practically speaking, you can turn rejections into a joke by making them absurd. For example, if a girl says, “Sorry, I’m not interested,” you can say, “Call me!” as she walks away. Obviously, she’s not going to call you, but you’re turning the rejection into something playful and carefree.

Other things you can say to make a rejection playful:

Wait! I make a lot of money, if that helps. Are you sure you don’t want to date me? My mom says I’m a catch! Or any similar line you can come up with yourself.

You can also immunize yourself to rejection by taking a moment after being rejected to tell yourself, “Fuck yeah, I had the courage to put myself out there and nothing that bad happened.” Telling yourself a line like this will help you subconsciously reinforce that getting rejected is actually a good thing.

The first few rejections you get on a night out might sting, but if you persist, you’ll reach a point in which you no longer care about being rejected, and rejection will no longer negatively affect your emotional state.

 

Conclusion: How To 10x Your Confidence With Women By Entering A Flow State

 

When you approach a woman in a confident, assertive state, attraction will naturally build between the two of you. The idea that you need to say a special line or “neg” a girl to attract her is completely false.

Sexual attraction is a biological process that occurs automatically when a woman interacts with a man who expresses attractive qualities (like confidence).

By following the process,I outlined above for entering a flow state, you will be able to make women feel (on a subconscious, emotional level), that you are a highly attractive man.

Now, you can and should develop your overall level of self-confidence.

But learning how to enter flow allows you to hack your own emotional state so that even if you’re normally shy and insecure, you can become supremely self-confident whenever you want to.

I understand you may be skeptical of the idea that you can (fairly easily) enter a state in which your confidence level is radically increased.

I would be skeptical myself if I hadn’t experienced this state countless times (and helped many other guys do so as well). You should be skeptical, but once you try the process outlined above, you’ll see for yourself that flow states are not only real, but are capable of transforming your dating life.

Here's a hidden camera video demonstration of the content in this article: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhmTUyDZc6M in this video you'll see a guy who has overwhelming approach anxiety rapidly increase his self-confidence using the strategies you just learned.

You can follow me on Snapchat to see daily infield footage (approaches, makeouts, pulls) Username: AveryGHayden a lot of people have told me seeing me go out and approach women every day inspired them to go out and take action.


[–][deleted] 107 points108 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

Is it possible to become confident in a short amount of time?

No. Real confidence takes years to cultivate. You can psyche yourself up, you can fake it til yo make it, you can put on an act, but that doesn't mean you are confident.

I think the term you should have used is bravery. The quality or state of having or showing mental or moral strength to face danger, fear, or difficulty

[–]guyau 39 points40 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Im surprised that people aren't more sceptical of 'this one simple trick for unlimited confidence and charisma' type stuff. For the most part of we're damaged fruit, harbouring neuroses resulting from childhood and living in fantasies and defense mechanisms that help keep our identities from falling a part at the seems. You don't fix that with 'quick tips' and 'hacks'.

[–]1Aghayden 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think the most useful attitude to have is one of optimistic skepticism. You want to be open to the possibility that you can change, you can improve, you can have an amazing life. But you're also skeptical, you don't believe something is true until you've tested it in your own life and gathered a good amount of evidence.

I wouldn't just believe an article like this as fact, but I would find the idea intriguing and test it out in my own life before dismissing it or accepting it.

That said, I'm pretty confident that flow states are a legitimate strategy for entering a highly confident state - I still get approach anxiety if I haven't gone out for a while, but when I build social momentum my anxiety disappears in the course of 15-30 minutes (usually).

I've also replicated this with a lot of guys and they are consistently amazed by how much they are able to change their own state for the better.

Just this week I helped a guy who had never even approached a girl, go from experiencing intense approach anxiety to easily getting 4 girls' numbers in 20 minutes (and he got one of them to meet him out on a date).

Yeah, be skeptical, but assuming the worst is a great way to paralyze yourself and give yourself an excuse to not even try to improve. The belief that success is impossible is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[–]McRoddy 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

How do you fix it then? Experience ?

[–]guyau 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

You probably can't. The feeling that your life isn't quite right, that there's a problem that needs to be addressed, that you're not quite satisfied, will never go away. Some clinicians think that coming to understand the causes (the memories and experiences one has suppressed) allows one to move on from some of it though. Some philosophers think it's best to distract yourself from it (though of course, that depends on how neurotic you are) by throwing oneself into effective action.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

You can fix it with meditations and self-expression (Diary, speaking with a mate etc..)

[–]erthian 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I've done this for years. When I don't I'm a neurotic mess. It 100% solves the problem. But it's not exactly fixed.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You know, i was thinking about your comment and i realized a thing.

Things like meditations, diary etc... actually helps you to cope with your problems and brings you peace. But they are not the solution.

Solution is to reframe yourself entirely by a set of thoughts, philosophy.

Let's say you are not satisfied with your life or you feel a whole in your soul or something that seems to be consistently bothering you which you can not solve it.

Well first, you express your emotions or let them flow( Diary meditations you get it) after that, you read philosophy, and reframe yourself. It is like cleaning the wound first and then operating on it. You can not fix or repair yourself without finding balance or soothing your mind nor just finding balance or soothing your mind will solve your problems.

[–]erthian 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You should read the book Scarcity. I think it really drives this home.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Im surprised that people aren't more sceptical of 'this one simple trick for unlimited confidence and charisma' type stuff.

Too many people want the easy way out of everything.

For the most part of we're damaged fruit, harbouring neuroses resulting from childhood and living in fantasies and defense mechanisms that help keep our identities from falling a part at the seems. You don't fix that with 'quick tips' and 'hacks'.

Exactly, one needs to figure out what caused their problem first before attempting to fix it. If they use quick fixes the problem doesn't go away, it's still there hidden waiting to be addressed. A major incident concerning the hidden problem exposes it for all to see. There's not much point in using quick fixes when you realise that.

[–]TheScarletScholar 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A quote that I like which is relevant is "Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear."

[–]greenlittleman 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Wrong. "Real confidence" is very easy to achieve. It all depends on situation. For example in military "boom" - you have higher rank in hierarchy and here you go, feeling confidence when you are among people who should obey whatever you say them to do. When other people accept what you are above them and you know it then you will have confidence naturally.

Confidence created by power you have over other people and by the fact what they don't have power over you. And power isn't about physical power it is about being able to do something person wants to avoid or controlling if they could get something from you what they really need. Woman control if beta could get sex and validation from her or not, this is why he isn't confident, she have power over him and he doesn't have any power over her. You also could change word "power" to word "control" then it would make even more sense.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Power tripping is not confidence. What happens when you get out of the military and suddenly nobody has to listen to you anymore? Does your confidence disappear because nobody has to listen to you anymore? Authority is not confidence. Privilege, especially military or legal privilege, is not confidence.

Confidence is a personal trait and it literally means a certainty in one's abilities. Certainty in ability is earned through the cognitive behaviors people engage in over a period of time. The State cannot grant confidence via rank or legal authority.

[–]greenlittleman 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Reread my post. Yes, confidence of military guy could disappear with people who don't need to follow his commands. But confidence which he have in situation when people should obey him - this is real. Don't you understand? Confidence is situational. Hot girl ALWAYS feel confident when talking to needy beta - because she have control over him. It doesn't matter if his life achievement higher than her. What matters is control over other person by means of carrot or stick and by the fact what they don't have any carrot or stick over you.

Independent confidence created by control of your own desires, understanding of what people could or couldn't do in certain situation and your ability to influence other people in one way or another. But even so all your confidence could just disappear if other person have real control over your life, like being your boss who could make you jobless (in case you don't have any other options to get the money), or some random junkie with a gun in his hand who could just kill you. "Certainty in one's abilities" is very broad term and tells me nothing in this context.

[–]gbdoragnic 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most girls want to fuck , and by gods grace we are blessed with slut walks and women embracing their sexuality, being a hoe is something to be proud of, sleeping with random people is the norm. Most men are to afraid to approach because of irrational beliefs that women don't like sex as much as them.

In essence most men live in false reality, therefore post like this bring them back into real reality , once you fuck 10 girls on the first date your perception will naturally change, anytime a girl wants to wait for sex, I just leave, she isn't worth my time , I know that I can easily find another lay , So Psyching yourself up is permitted and encouraged, it's a feast out here

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're not making it better for other people, this is post is very true, you can even test it yourself by being reluctant to go out with friends, but when you're there you actually feel like socialising, this concept of flow has actually helped me on a couple occasions.

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[–]Kanvaslaw 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your comment about fucking with people to entertain yourself resonates with me. Sometimes I find myself become too stiff when talking to women or strangers, it's an outcome dependence thing I'm trying to get over. So with your advice about just make it a game, have fun is sound, it will help you careless and enjoy the conversation more.

[–]ZephyrBluu 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Talking to people all the time is mentally and emotionally exhausting for most.

My thinking is people who lean towards Red Pill also find human behavior in general as interesting. Not just for sexual strategy but out of their raw curiosity.

Well, that's me to a T.

I think nearly all people are fucking assholes. But then again, I enjoy fucking with people. When you find it amusing, you'll do it because you want to do it. It's like a little sport.

I get this and sometimes yeah it's definitely fun but most of the time it's just tiring to me. I find most people to be insanely predictable or just boring, not to say you can't still have fun in those situations but it's not something I'd enjoy doing on a regular basis.

The irony is the best way to deal with the masses socially is to learn how to entertain yourself by yourself.

Oh hell yeah. I think most people don't know how to amuse themselves or have fun by themself and it shows when you talk to them one on one.

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[–]LiftMeditateApproach 4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

if you have no achievements to back that confidence up, then you are slipping into a delusion. you are not gonna fool anyone in real world, just because you imagine it in your head.

telling losers here to be confident is similar to finding a crackhead on street and telling him to imagine being rich to help solve his problems.

[–]zyqkvx 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's not quite true. Many 'crackheads' (figuratively) have achieved great success by being confident. Most are like your example though.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think the comparison is pretty extreme... it’s true that obese ugly dudes will struggle to pick up anyone above their 10 scale rating... but the main part of the bell curve could totally get huge value from this.

[–]adonai1828 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

nigga what

confidence has fuck all to do with accomplishments, if you need accomplishments to back up your confidence then you're actually insecure af in desperate need of things to validate your identity

fuck all that, confidence is confidence, it has fuck all to do with your achievements on this planet

[–]greenlittleman 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Actually - you will. It is easy to "bluff" confidence and then people assume what you have something to back it up. People don't have psychic abilities, you see.

And moreover confidence isn't about your "objective achievements", it is about control you have over others and how much control they have over you. If people can't make you feel bad no matter what they do.. and you could make them feel miserable just with words alone.. then does anything else matter? Confidence is about having power over people and you could have it just with your social skills alone. To "loser" become confident he should have mental qualities to back it up. Not achievements. There bunch of people with "achievements" who are insecure and don't have any confidence. And there are guys who don't have a lot, but who are confident and people respect them for that. Losers can't "fake" confidence not because they don't have enough achievements, but because they don't have mental qualities for that.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You could also think of it as progressive approaching. Start small - like making small talk with no intentions of getting a number. Say something about your surroundings or ask a question and then excuse yourself. Do this a few times and then take it a step further, and then another step further. What you will find it most women will be up for friendly banter if you are confident in your approach and she doesn’t feel like she’s getting hit on. By reading her body language you should be able to determine if she’s interested in continuing the conversation or not. And if I may add this — get used to being the one who controls when it’s time to leave the situation.

[–]Unboundaries 10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Some good points in here but if you seriously walk around high fiving people like a dudebro that's pretty cringe

[–]8700nonK 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Seriously, maybe it works in a place where everyone is more or less drunk, certainly wouldn't boost morale quite as you'd hope when everyone would be avoiding you like some lunatic.

[–]Accelon214 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

How do you become confident? Is it possible to become confident in a short amount of time?

The answer to both questions is yes.

Rough start. But a good read nonetheless.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

How do you become confident?

Yes

[–]ZephyrBluu 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Look at yourself in a mirror and say, "Look at me. I am the captain now".

[–]garrypig 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

One time I was warming up like above and was talking to an unattractive chick. She ended up inviting me home and at the time I didn’t know how to reject people. We end up at her place and she starts laying moves on me and the entire time I’m trying to figure a way out.

Now, I don’t know if any of you are like this, but when I’m not interested in someone, subconsciously I start doing gay acting mannerisms and it just looks really weird. This ends up acting in my favor sometimes because the girl assumes I’m gay and we just have a friendly time together. Although in the past a drunk chick couldn’t take a damn hint and ended up groping me. I’ve also had instances where the chick takes the hint, and then grabs a gay friend to hook up with me at the party, and these mannerisms only go one way and I end up leading on some gay guy who thinks he’s going to get dick, but in reality it’s my ‘Oh shit, how do I get out of this one’ phase, and it ends up making some interactions worse.

Usually these end with me having so much alcohol and drugs that I make myself look like an asshole and these people end up leaving me alone.

Anyways, we kill time doing boring shit like watching Netflix until I get tired and go home.

But yeah, this shit is a curse!

[–]jonpe87 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You become confident when you dont give a fuck about being confident

every time you try to cultivate it, its not

took me some years to realize this

[–]Rhythm_Man 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Remove women from the equation and this is valuable advice to live by. When internal negative thoughts arise: I can't do this because "x" consciously think the opposite. Why CAN you do it? Some advice from my father that he would always tell me "don't be a don't-be, do be a do-be".

[–]TheScarletScholar 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can consistently enter flow state in regards to women... when I'm blackout drunk

[–]_Ozu_6 points [recovered] (14 children) | Copy Link

For those interested, you can also enter a flow state through the use of microdose LSD. It has a range of benefits and appears to lack long-term negative side effects. It's extremely popular amongst high performers - I've heard it's even on Wall Street now. I was never the biggest advocate of nootropics/smart drugs, but the right combination can genuinely change your life for the better.

Edit: Not sure what the hate is about.

[–]Endorsed Contributorex_addict_bro 1 point2 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Does anyone else except the junkie notices that “flo” bro?

[–]darkkramer 5 points6 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

They notice for sure. LSD is actually the second healthiest drug on the planet and the flow state is real

[–]Endorsed Contributorex_addict_bro 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

They notice like “omg brotha got some mad flo” or like “jfc what a loser”?

[–]darkkramer 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

”Brotha got some mad flo fr damn” usually

[–]LiftMeditateApproach 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

this is what your "flow" state looks like a from other peoples eyes:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GzCeii_W7Jc

[–]darkkramer 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Molly is nothing like acid pal, you should make sure you know what you’re talking about before you act like you’ve seen it all. A microdose of acid is barely perceptual, you take 15 micrograms when 100 is a low/normal dose. If you end up like that on Molly you took too much and have weak genetics

[–]LiftMeditateApproach -2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

of course, buddy... your drug is totally different... f#ck those molly losers, you are way superior to them in every way...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're right, all drugs are completely the same. Next time you have a headache and run out of aspirin, just grab some fentanyl. Only an idiot would bother to distinguish between completely different drugs amirite

[–]darkkramer 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Lol read a book on how they work with your neurochemistry, molly burns serotonin receptors rendering them weaker. Acid is physically safe in every way, it promotes positive neuroplasticity and cures depression

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't waste your energy with arrogant close-minded people like him dude.

[–]gulhassan -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Any idea if it’s safe the micro dosing or lsd with adderall and the likes?

[–]MCA_T 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My friend started micro dosing, a few weeks later he woke up in bed with CO2 poisining and nearly died (not sure if microdosing was the trigger but was only change in lifestyle he had made)

[–]FinancierGuru 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Pretty good.

"Let me borrow your phone." -tell her (without knowing who she is)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think this is great advice, if any dudes here from Sydney Australia want a wingman to practice some approaches... dm me.

[–]gbdoragnic 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good post, most men don't approach because they fear something bad will happen and rationalize it as they don't want to be disrespectful , once they see women want to be talked too and like being fucked it will all fall into place.

> Look, unless you’re an ego-less being, rejections are going to affect your emotional state sometimes.

This isn't just ego, once you realize that rejections mean nothing you will stop caring

[–]venom444 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This carefree and self-confident assertive state can also be enhanced by a bit of alcohol here and there, just a pointer. Whenever i drink and are a bit tipsy my confidence really comes out and that carefree, playful mindset is attractive af.

[–]ShimaRoosman 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

How do you become confident? Is it possible to become confident in a short amount of time?

The answer to both questions is yes.

wat

[–]Dawnguards 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I get it.. replacing your own negative presumptions with positive fake presumptions can give confidence. But its in no way should be relied upon. Self deception is just wrong. Not sure how can people suggest it.

The best advice is to see for who women really are. Then you can start normal conversations and dont get bothered by their beauty.

[–]garrypig 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Imagine her boyfriend gets mad so you say “My apologies, I thought you were her gay friend!” And now he gets even more mad and looks like a beta, so bow he’s finna act like he gonna beatcho ass so you tell him to step up and he pussies out.

Now his gf realizes he’s a beta and them sleeps with you that same night 😂

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