What are some green flags on a woman? (self.asktrp)

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To me these are some green flags:

  • Girlie
  • Doesn't need alcohol/drugs to have fun
  • Has hobbies
  • Good relationship with parents, especially dad
  • Takes care of her body
  • Respectful to service workers
  • Has her place/room clean and organized
  • Knows how to cook
  • Has goals
  • Knows how to flirt with you
  • Doesn't spend too much time on social media or binge-watching Netflix
  • Good sense of humor
  • Optimistic
  • Knows how to cope with emotions in a healthy way

I know the perfect woman doesn't exist, but if she has a combination of at least 4 of these green flags I'd consider to upgrade her to a LTR. What are other green flags?

[–]NoAARPforMe 103 points104 points  (17 children)

Pretty basic list. I would expect 12/14 to consider a LTR.

Financial responsibility is huge. Passionate.....

[–]nofilmynofucky 69 points70 points  (11 children)

Lol 95% of women would fail that requirement

[–]Luftiwaffe 64 points65 points  (6 children)

98% of males fail women's requirement list

[–]nofilmynofucky 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hey you're not wrong my man

[–]2chazthundergut 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Requirement for what? To fuck?

It isn't nearly as difficult as you might think. Be around, dont be needy, grab your nuts and act like a man.

If I can do it, so can you. Believe me. And I'm not even close to top 2%

[–]BewareTheOldMan 8 points9 points  (1 child)

All...except Chad, Tyrone, and Rico Suave as these men have no stipulation for requirements - especially if they're the worst type of losers in any way, shape, or form.

These guys easily make a young woman's list..right up until the point they need a Beta-Provider.

[–]omega_dawg93 12 points13 points  (0 children)

hypergamy + da wall approaching = the woman who shows you more IOI's after SHE makes 28 yo.

but again... no need to get mad about it. AWALT.

men date around until they find someone worth a commitment, and women have the same right too. the problem is... men have to work HARD to go thru a few women while women can ride the cock carousel freely & wildly for YEARS & YEARS.

endless amounts of cock... as much as they desire.

but you can't know about it... so they lie, deceive, manipulate, blame shift, etc. this is where being game aware and aware of the TRUE NATURE of women becomes handy. society at-large (and women themselves) used to 'police' female behavior: no kids out of wedlock, no divorce, no cheating, no wild $$$ spending. but that's all over now... it's a free-for-all and men are the tools. "you go girl," and "what he doesn't know won't hurt him," is just how it is.

KNOW THE SIGNS of a damaged woman.

KNOW the games they play.

pick the best apple you can find out of the barrel... they are all in the barrel... and chad , tyrone, and rico have all dna blasted their vaginas. AWALT.

[–]NewNombreWhoDis 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well that’s because it is:

Must be 6’4” or taller

Must have chiseled cheekbones, perfect eye shape, dominating jaw, and basically model-like features

Must earn $300k+ a year

Those are things that nature/society has made scarce. You can just “choose” to fix them.

[–]omega_dawg93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a woman's list changes with her emotions and her needs.

the list is fluid, constantly under scrutiny by her, her closest friends, and her mom. and right when you think you're at a point to put a check mark for a completed requirement, she'll change it because...

well, just because. why not?

but here's the most important: you better NOT be a mama's boy. i won't go into detail, but women view men like men view screwdrivers & hammers = tools. women often raise their sons to be mama's boys to insure he's always there for her... esp. if she plans to run-off dad.

somebody has to protect her, put the garbage out, mow the lawn, put up with her bs. and some wives don't like you giving your time to another woman... even your own mom.

[–]NoAARPforMe 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Maybe. But just think how good that 5% might be...good LTR possibilities. Remember you are the prize.

[–]nofilmynofucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely true.

[–]Heizenbrg 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Plenty of guys myself included aren't that great with money..

[–]nofilmynofucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

... and that's one point on the list. I'm talking about the majority of the items

[–]the13thzac 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Currently dating a girl with 11.5/14

And one is she doesn’t clean her room

Which I don’t care about

Close enough

[–]imtheoneimmortal 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Next her

[–]the13thzac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nexted her

[–]Beachbum74 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I ignored that too. Later found out she had OCD but problem finishing tasks. Long story ending in divorce rape

[–]Pistolius 12 points13 points  (0 children)

that escalated quickly

[–]LowSpecTea 144 points145 points  (8 children)

I can’t speak for your city/part of the world but a girl who isn’t plugged in to social media that’s really hot is a tall order in today’s world.

Rest of the list is solid though.

[–]StrongAffordance 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Still a green flag though.

[–]matt675 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I've seen it a number of times, it definitely exists

[–]chaconuts 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know a girl who got rid of her social media after we started talking

[–]returnofthemackX 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Social media to women is the equivalent of porn to men. That says a lot if a girl does not have social media.

[–]send_it_for_the_boys 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If that existed that’d be considered a gold flag

[–]OfficerWade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. You gotta play the field and women who know the game won’t be removing themselves from all availability.

[–]jackandjill22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what I was going to say if you're looking for perfection sure. But realistically this probably doesn't exist in that way.

[–]thetetrahedron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dated a girl like that. Unfortunately the interest in her part wasn't mutual.

[–]teeekuuu 38 points39 points  (0 children)

All of those are just basic qualities in a healthy person, male or female...

Only 4 of those should not suffice, at least for nothing more than a ONS imo.

[–]Magnum994 73 points74 points  (1 child)

There is only one green flag, non existence of red flags. Why spend wasting time looking for green ones instead of red ones? In the end you’ll find so many green ones that you’ll only use them to rationalize the red ones.

[–]livear 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This. Everyone has some great qualities.

You need to look out for the landmines that will blow your relationship up, they are marked with red flags.

[–]Peter_B_Long 101 points102 points  (12 children)

God damn my LTR has all these.

A few more I might add:

• Doesn't hang out with mostly guys

• Has close girl friends

• Gets along with her siblings (they don't have to be best friends but as long as they're on speaking terms)

• Splits everything with you 50/50

• Is open to new sexual experiences, tries to please you.

• All her co-workers and friends know about you (means she's invested).

• She's open to try new things for you like go see your type of music or see your favorite movies

• Clingy enough where it's cute and you feel wanted but not enough to where it's overwhelming and annoying

• Ask your permission or your opinion on things that don't involve you.

• Gives you her suggestion / opinion on things but is ok with you choosing against it.

[–]baeslick 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Great addition to the list, this shows mutual respect and she is willing to give you the chance to reject her, which shows established trust and a chance to create deeper emotional connections, integral to any healthy relationship.

And great job finding someone that fits this description, something we all strive for, one of the "good" ones

[–]ANAL_SAILBOAT 10 points11 points  (0 children)

• Ask your permission or your opinion on things that don't involve you.

so much this

[–]2chazthundergut 4 points5 points  (4 children)

I almost don't want a girl like this.

You think I want to look down and see some good girl gagging with mascara running down her face?

Give me the sluts and validation whores. The neurotic harpies and chicks with daddy issues.

You can keep the good wholesome ones

[–]Russian_Bot_737 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Men who are looking for the potential mother of their children, rather than soulesss hedionism, will take and possibly keep the good wholesome ones.

I’ve been there and done that. Personally i find if meaningless, empty, and too risky for my tastes anymore (false rape accusations, STDs, unwanted pregnancies)

[–]2chazthundergut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair enough.

To each his own

[–]returnofthemackX 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Do you want kids?

[–]2chazthundergut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not yet

[–]Tuplad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

• Has close girl friends

Quality of these is very important. Also dynamics: is she only keeping ugly girls around? Are those girls very loose but she's "not like that"?

[–]TatumBetterFultz 4 points5 points  (2 children)

“Ask your permission or your opinion on things that don’t involve you” is more of a control freak beta thing to have in the list my dude

[–]Peter_B_Long 19 points20 points  (1 child)

You don't demand for her to seek approval or permission. You don't give a fuck what she does but she still checks if it's ok with you. It's more she seeks your approval / opinion.

[–]TatumBetterFultz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fair enough sounds better when you put it that way

[–]ddf804 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'll disagree on "Has close girlfriends" being a good thing, beyond a certain point. If her girlfriends are more important & permanent in her life than you are, it can feel like YOU are the intrusion. Been there,but I've got a gal now who hits almost all the OP's list, including no social media, and I actually prefer that her girlfriends seem few and not super-close. It makes her seem focused on me, in a good way.

[–]006rbc 29 points30 points  (6 children)

Haven't come across a girl that isn't addicted to social media

[–]DownyGall 7 points8 points  (3 children)

Always gotta get the right instagram. “Im not a whore!” But proceeds to post bikini pics

[–]1morescoobysnacks 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The IG test is real. New girl I'm seeing has an IG with 100s of pics and all of them are of her friends, her family, places she wants to visit, stuff she wants to cook. Literally 2 selfies. Most easy going chick I've hung out with in a long time. Has handled the fact I won't be exclusive more gracefully than most other girls. Is a joy to travel with (took her to a couple AirBNB spots already). Never seen her lose her cool even when some shit she didn't like happened.

She won't budge about having 3 somes or fucking a horse, but no body's perfect.

[–]006rbc 8 points9 points  (1 child)

If they have a profile that is 90% selfies, good chance they are narcissistic and get their dopamine fix from likes.

[–]DownyGall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha dude I feel like the hoes posting artsy pics may be worse because they’re more surreptitious

[–]Russian_Bot_737 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many men are this way now a days too... social media is the final poision that will destroy society for good

[–]koedeloe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same.. it's sad.

[–]alphabachelor 31 points32 points  (1 child)

I like threads like this.

We know bad women exist. But its great to be reminded that there’s actually some great women out there, too.

[–]Russian_Bot_737 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I second this.

[–]egwuatu 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Does not actively bad-mouth her exes

[–]El_Supergringo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Underrated addition

[–]Wulfwinterr 1 points1 points [recovered]

Snorts when she laughs (which is often) Upbeat and smiles all the time Looks good even when dressed down (pony tail up in baseball hat and still looks gooood) Doesn't take 1-2 hours to get ready to go out Decisive. (I hate "I dunno, what do yoouuu wanna dooo?") Just as happy eating at a 5 star restaurant as she is bowling Drinks beer from a long-necked bottle

[–]okuli 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I also like low maintenance girls.

[–]CDBaller 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're not going to get a decisive woman for a multitude of reasons. I have a rule: she picks between 3 I have chosen. If she can't, I pick.

[–]Ceroe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you want a dude

[–]red_matrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most girls are indecisive, they defer decision making to you.

[–]Russian_Bot_737 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed with most, but decisiveness is an inherently masculine quality

[–]returnofthemackX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why the snorting?

[–]bumbuff -3 points-2 points  (4 children)

Drinks beer from a long-necked bottle.

Except it tastes like shit from bottles.

[–]-TempestofChaos- 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Glass > Bottles > Cans.

Unless it is an IPA, then can > bottle

[–]bumbuff -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

Can's keep beer fresh longer.

[–]-TempestofChaos- 0 points1 point  (1 child)

If the time is 6 months plus or minus a week due to bottles or cans, I am sure nobody cares.

The issue to IPAs in cans is it removes ANY oxidation. Possibly that the acidity leeches some from the aluminum which helps?

Bottles may get oxidized after a long period, but there will be no additional leeching from any metals. It is pure neutral

[–]TFWnoLTR 58 points59 points  (5 children)

  • Perky tits

  • Nice round ass

  • Hips wider than waist

  • Has pulse

  • Puts out

  • Not working where I work

  • Disease free

  • Under 6' tall

  • Has all her teeth and keeps them clean

  • Smiles

[–]okuli 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Sex dolls satisfy most of those conditions. They just don't have teeth and no pulse. Gotta make sacrifices.

[–]i_mpossible 23 points24 points  (1 child)

Add dentures and a pacemaker to your sex doll, now you've got teeth and a pulse as well

[–]DownyGall 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]1morescoobysnacks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Has all her teeth

OK dad.

[–]Russian_Bot_737 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can see by your name we aren’t talking about the same thing here pal

[–]DebonairD 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree op

[–]basedgrizzly 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree with your list. To me, if a girl doesn’t have social media that’s a huge green. Rare, but if she doesn’t have any sexual experience, that’s a green if you are looking for LTR.

[–]new__vision 9 points10 points  (0 children)

[–]CDBaller 8 points9 points  (3 children)

Not involved in the military or a male-dominated field.

Cooks as a hobby.

Crafty or artsy

Has a goal to be a SAHM.

Knows how to stick to a budget.

Asks your permission or advice regularly.

[–]ddf804 1 point2 points  (2 children)

DO NOT let them be a SAHM. I pay the price for allowing that, every month :/

[–]Russian_Bot_737 3 points4 points  (1 child)

What do you mean? You pay the price in terms of well-adjusted kids who aren’t abused by ghetto monsters who create psychopaths to the tune of 3K a month?

[–]infamous3238 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More like you pay the price when she fucks the plumber because she’s sitting around all day with nothing better to do, divorces you for half the money YOU earned while she watched cartoons with the kids all day, and the real kicker is you have to pay her alimony forever because her income is zero.

[–]TatumBetterFultz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

  1. Ass

[–]chomponthebit 7 points8 points  (0 children)

  • no tattoos;
  • no fucked up piercings (including clit & nipples);
  • has held a job for more than two years;
  • at least a bachelor’s or two-year tech diploma;
  • pretty, feminine, charming, enhances my presence, adventurous in and out of bed

[–]Toxik6 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I don’t mind a Netflix binger. Still balancing is important

[–]DownyGall 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]ht2k9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's the list for LTR, to get married I would say you need to connect with her in some way.

[–]slurmfactory 3 points4 points  (4 children)

-tactfully rejects other guys' advances when out.

[–]Russian_Bot_737 -1 points0 points  (3 children)

If a guy is hitting on her when you’re present, that’s a problem with you.

Its what happens when you’re not around you should be worried about. If she isn’t keeping you updated in exquisite detail what, for example, aggressive ghetto co-workers say to her after she tells them for the 5th time that week how much she loves her wonderful boyfriend. (Source: personal experience)

[–]slurmfactory 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I mean if you are out and you are not physically with her: example- im playing drums at a gig at a bar, some chad hits on her, she shuts him down (and i watch from stage), also personal experience.

[–]Russian_Bot_737 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Okay I guess I didn't account for very specific situations like that. But I know personally if I'm out with my girl I'm physically next to her.

[–]slurmfactory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No youre right tho. If guys feel comfortable amog’ing you and hitting on your girl in front of you, you gotta work on your masculine presence. I remember being out with a really hot chick back when i was single, we were in a group and she wasnt my date but i was interested in her for sure, we were in an intense convo ab a mutual friend’s recent fuckups, and these chads came by and were clearly hunting for chicks. She was ignoring them and into our convo, and i saw them take a few looks at her and were likely thinking of swooping in. After the second look (the dude was kinda pacing back and forth) i gave him a solid side-eye and raised eyebrow, while continuing to talk w the broad. He immediately bailed. I wasnt in the mood lol.

Back in my younger more beta days, chads would def try to fuck w me and swoop in when I was with girls. Building your physical presence and confidence (martial arts is massive in this regard) definitely helps a ton. Now honestly no one has tried in many years (im married now but before, when i was single on a wrecking spree of tinderellas it just wasnt even happening. Guys wouldnt waste their time, they look for easy targets.)

[–]christophertracy92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Bright Triad ; Clarity, Maturity, Stability.

Check "The Tactical Guide to Women" by Shawn T. Smith.

[–]JerryLawlerPigFace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. easy to make plans with.

  2. Doesn’t have slut friends (this one is huge. You can indirectly see hat kind of person she is by looking at her friends. Don’t buy that whole “oh I’m the grandma of the group” line either. Where there is smoke there is fire.)

  3. A low Snapchat score and low IG follower count. (Incredibly dumb thing to judge by but it’s 2018 and social media is apart of our lives now. The score and follower count shows how much of a validation whore she is or isn’t).

  4. Doesn’t have that “I’m broken, but I’m still here” vibe. Every girl today thinks they’re this broken and battered war veteran who was destroyed by their ex. “He broke me”. It’s very refreshing to find someone who doesn’t carry this woe is me, victim mentality.

[–]Variasvezes 12 points13 points  (7 children)

Personally i like girls who admit they are whores

Anyone can fake green lights but how many can admit the true?

[–]mikeyp_88 10 points11 points  (2 children)

You forgot about the daddy issues

[–]bigkids 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Dad or Step-Dad?

[–]soadaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why not both?

[–]premeboi 27 points28 points  (2 children)

this ain’t it chief

[–]Variasvezes -5 points-4 points  (1 child)

Yeah pardon me for not being naive enuff to believe in green flags


[–]mattbrah 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If you accept that red flags exist then green flags must exist. You can't have darkness without light.

[–]Russian_Bot_737 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not, not EVERY woman is a whore

[–]RRBeachFG2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn I would take three of these traits, prob any three of them...so sad

[–]es1426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could only see myself really forgoing 4-5 of these for an LTR, and that’s only if she hits the right places in other categories/green flags.

[–]furcryingoutloud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too perfect is a crimson flag. Give me some defects. Run from too perfect. Hard.

[–]seedster5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's who I'm getting married to. Best of all. Her N count is 1, me

[–]HurricaneHugues 1 point2 points  (2 children)

  • Submits to you

  • Doesn't have many guy "friends" or doens't hang with guy "friends"

  • Has a group of respectable girls as friends, that are equally LTR material as her

  • IS very interested in fucking you

[–]Russian_Bot_737 0 points1 point  (1 child)

What if she has no friends or only 1 or 2 friends that she sees very infrequently (less than 4 times a year)?

[–]HurricaneHugues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would depend how healthy that is for her. Some can manage it, others will be super super clingy to you.

[–]awalt_cupcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Careful. I just got out of a fling with a girl who hit every item on this list except the drinking bit. She still leads men on like she's getting revenge. Her nails are starting to look like claws to me. My point is women are waking up to the idea of a "redpilled" woman and taking their form.

[–]gbnz87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Financially responsable, Tidy, doesn't hoard everything, manners, doesn't brag or gloat, patient, doesn't blame their problems on anyone else, not obsessed with politics, knows how to argue, likes animals, not an extreme feminist or environmentalist, have to accept my interests or hobbies and not a drug addict.

No particular order or importance to each one but it's what I look for. I don't think it's too much to ask for and in pretty easy going with a few of them.

[–]GooeyLoveJuice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great and all but one red flag has more weight than all of this.

[–]OfficerWade 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Green flag- she approaches me, asks questions about my hobbies, doesn’t get nervous when I say I had fun talking let’s hang out, etc. basic human interactions are underrated to what most people are used too. I like women who like me just for who i am.

Red flags are women leading you on, telling you what you did is wrong or refuses to work on the relationship and is only focused on you doing things right. Square peg, round hole.

[–]returnofthemackX 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Women can’t lead you on, only when you let them ‘lead you on’. This to me says overcommitment.

[–]OfficerWade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right because women aren’t at fault for men taking responsibility for our side of the street. It’s the perspective you see and when you spot it, you got it. So just because we should do the right thing doesn’t make what we’re doing the right thing. There must be someone who says what I’m doing is silly but if you do it with that, THAT attitude, your perspective changes

[–]1byronshadow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • Dad is present and is military, farmer, teacher, tradesman, etc.
  • Her apartment is clean(messiness points to mental illness or being allowed to skip chores and sit around being a princess as a child.
  • Religious or culturally-religious. Avoid atheist and new age-y girls who talk about karma and crystals like the plague.
  • Exes are kept at arm’s length.
  • High-quality friends. Birds of a feather...
  • No tattoos or piercings other than earlobe.
  • Interest in the outdoors.
  • Chose a practical major. Accounting instead of women’s studies etc.
  • Bookworm.
  • Likes kids.
  • Doesn’t care about politics.
  • Likes animals but doesn’t impulsively collect them. One cat is a good sign, 6 cats or a large dog living in her studio apartment is a bad sign.

[–]Cirrustratus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i also think finding just some of these on a woman is rare. I guess in men its rare too to find some and only green flags too.

[–]PIGamer86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t know how to give a good blowjob. If she does, well...

[–]faustian_talos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me also - gives blowjobs.

[–]As-You-Were 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never really understood the service staff thing - how friendly we talking here?

Add pursuing you to that list. If a girl hasn’t invited me out to do something she’ll forever remain in plate zone.

[–]kylerosa21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)