Summary : This was a brief back and forth I had with a friend with benefits this morning over text.
Her : I miss you...
Me : Hey, let's meet up Monday after work then.
Her : Honestly I need to stay home and clean... My apartment is a mess...and I don't know that you will like me as much after I tell you what just happened.
Me : What's that?
Her : I may have just accidentally slept with a guy I was hanging out with
Me : Haha nobody accidentally sleeps with anybody. Also, whatever. We aren't together, remember?
Her : I know...but I still feel guilty but that's also because it wasn't exactly planned and I would take it back in a heartbeat. And yes, I know we aren't together, but I said that if either of us sleeps with anyone, we tell the other person.
Wasn't exactly planned. I can assume she was drinking, as she likes to do that a lot, and they're alone at her place at 2-4 in the morning. All of the events leading up to this are not accidents.
Me : It happens, no worries
Her : Well I'm glad you're taking it much better than I am...
Am I supposed to be upset and / or sad?
Me : Well have I met him?
Her : The only person you've met is Lisa, and no it's not her. He came over just to hang out. Apparently just hanging out with a member of the opposite sex is impossible because somehow that turned into sex.
Me : Gotcha
Her : I hate guys, you all suck. I wish I could just turn lesbian. Few minutes later I'm sorry, I don't hate you. I just currently hate myself.
Me : Why?
Her : Because I didn't really want to sleep with him. But I did.
My ex-fiancé pulled this with me once, and I will never fall for it again. "I didn't really want to sleep with him" my ass.
- My lack of emotional investment kept me from getting hurt.
- She definitely isn't LTR material.
- This is more of a PSA. Nobody ever accidentally sleeps with anybody, especially in this situation.
Edit I thought I had put Friend with benefits in the Summary. Lesson learned : Proofread better.