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Red Pill TheoryThe Ultimate Guide on How a Sociopath Creates His Life Plan to Get Massive Results (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by 1IamGale

IamGale here, the psych and marketing guy of TRP, and today I’m talking about you getting massive results.

I recently wrote a post about “A Little Mistake that Cost My Best Friend 5 Years of His Life,” To be brief, the big mistake made was ghosting. Living life without a plan, and the saving grace was creating a plan that got big results.

If you don't know where you're going in life. Or if you're not getting the results you want. Then this will be your solution for getting massive results.

So today you’ll learn:

  • The Secrets of Ambition
  • How to Create an Unstoppable Plan
  • How to Validate Your Plan so You Don’t Spend 5 Years on the Wrong Path
  • How to Make a Plan That Will Actually Stick (Hint: Go against your natural instinct)
  • How to Take Advantage of Your Natural Strengths and Psychology
  • Creating Your Ultimate Habit Stack
  • How the Pros Create Plans: Lessons From a Billionaire VC
  • The 13 Skills That Will Make You Filthy Rich

Preamble: Why Study to be like Sociopath?

I like the term sociopath because of how well it fits within TheRedPill Community. That’s not to say we’re all sociopaths, but that TRP is amoral. Likewise, a sociopath will navigate through life in amoral ways.

We’re not here to judge based on our moral values, we’re hear to get one thing. And that's the only thing that really matters in life.

Because every sociopath out there finds his passion very early in life. And that's this:

To get results.

Now a sociopath will do everything in his power,sing like u social engineering, deception, and hard work to get those results. When I say passion I mean using your abilities to get you the most of out of life. This post will show you how to create a plan for yourself that gets your results.

Let’s dive in.

Secrets on Ambition

There’s a great quote by Napoleon Hill that’s always stuck with me.

“Set your mind on a definite goal and observe how quickly the world stands aside to let you pass.” Napoleon Hill - Think and Grow Rich

So dream big. But, truthfully I really hate this advice, because there’s so much of the world that we are unaware of. There are jobs, experiences, and girls out there that you would probably love, but that you just haven’t discovered yet.

I love what Casey Neistat, the famous New York filmmaker and vlogger, says about creating your plan. He says you’re either in two stages.

  1. You’re either discovering your passion
  2. You’re living your passion.

We’ve already discussed how your passion is getting results. What kind of results do you want to get? Do you want financial results, programming results, sales results? Do you want massive influence? Stage 1 is about figuring out the exact results you want.

Keep reading because I discuss exactly how you can determine the kind of results you want to get.

Create Your Unstoppable Plan

Right now you want to be orienting your life around maximizing your experiences. Search for exposure. But this can be problematic, especially if you have anxiety going out solo. This is especially true for guys who have had gaming addiction, or major social isolation in the past.

But this is your challenge. Because there’s much of our world that will energize you. Like Woody Allen says,

"Eighty percent of success is showing up."

This is the point where you need to do a mental shift. You need to shift what you find pleasure in and what you find pain in.

Almost everyone loves consuming information. Consumption is our greatest pleasure. That’s not a bad thing, if you love consuming social interactions, that will help you greatly. But to be clear there’s good and bad consumption.

  • Passively consuming Netflix every day for 2 hours is bad.
  • Actively consuming new experiences like travelling can be good.

The biggest mistakes in business come when you’re being passive and reactive to what's happening.

Shift to an active mindset.

But there's something ever better than that. Shift to the producer mindset. Do you have a problem? Instead of looking for a solution, create a solution. This is how a lot of successful business start out.

This mindset is crucial. So your plan of getting results starts with actively producing.

How to Validate Your Plan so You Don’t Spend 5 Years on the Wrong Path

Because this transformation will validate the process of discovering how you want to get results. Always be creating. When you’re creating solutions and putting them out there in the world you’ll get feedback.

You’ll also feel amazing.

Here’s a personal example from my life:

For the last couple years, I’ve been creating films and writing essays. Each time I created something new I felt like a more of a human being.

I’ll tell you why. Because the art of creating is a process of self-discovery and learning. You learn about something new, apply it, and solidify it in your mind by creating.

We also learn something about ourselves when we create. We learn what we like, we learn what gets us results and what doesn’t.

Creating is the essence of everything that makes us human. This whole idea of becoming a millionaire at 30 and sit on a beach for the result your life will destroy. Being lazy does not feel good. Work hard because it frees you.

Let me tell you a story:

There was a boy born in Spain. His dad was a painter, and taught him to paint at young age. And everyday this young boy would paint. At the age 14 he mastered the art of portraits. At 20, he created a new revolutionary art style. At 40 he was considered the best artist of his time. This man has the record for the most expensive painting sold, $104 million dollars at a Sotheby's Auction.

Who was this outrageous man? Only Pablo Picasso. And you know what his secret was to his incredible success? Everyday he created art. Every single day. In his lifetime, he’s created 50’000 pieces of art. Most people don’t know that but he was one of the most prolific artists of his time.

You can look at people like Stephen King, Warren Buffet and Christopher Nolan. Every day they work. Every day they’re creating value in the world. In fact, people actually get sick when they stop working.

The first habit to start getting massive results is to actively create and get feedback on what you create.

How to Make a Plan That Will Actually Stick (Hint: Go against your natural instinct)

You’ll read this often on TRP. But I’ve ignored this and I bet you have too. We all ignore because we’re ambition. Tim Ferriss says,

”We tend to overestimate how much we can accomplish in a week and underestimate how much we can accomplish in a year."

I absolutely agree with that.

Do you know why?

Because we do too much at once. We think by next week we’ll be able to conquer the world. Luckily there’s a very simple solution to fix this:

Only work on one thing at a time.

In fitness, the best program is the one the one you stick with.

You start with one thing and once it becomes a routine you add the next. This is how you create momentum and start getting massive results.

But it all starts with one habit.

Choose your priorities. Right now. What do you want to do? What’s the most important thing you can do right now? Maybe you want to go out every night and build your social skills. Maybe you want to write more. Make videos on Youtube.

Choose one thing and do it consistently. There’s an easy way to do this and a hard way to do this. It starts by understanding your natural psychological advantages and leveraging them.

How to Take Advantage of Your Natural Strengths and Psychology

Now you’ve chosen your one thing to start with. You need to make it as easy as possible for you to follow through.

So if you’re going to the gym, pack all your clothes the night before

If you want to wake up at 5AM daily. Turn off the internet at 8PM and force yourself to go to bed at 9PM.

We want to make this as easy as possible for you.

For instance I want to write everyday. I know that I work best in coffeeshops and libraries. That’s where I get my best writing done, do if I want to get writing I’ll just leave for my local coffeeshop and just being there will trigger me to write.

The process is effortless because that’s how easy it gets.

There’s a great book on making habits. It's called The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business But I'll save you the $10 and tell you what it's all about. It boils down to these three steps:

  1. Create a trigger
  2. Do the habit
  3. Reward yourself

I’ll give you a personal example:

The first thing I do every morning (after walking the dog) is write. I sit down and write. Then once I completely my essay, I’ll feel amazing and accomplished. That gives me momentum to help me succeed in my business tasks.

So you create a trigger, put in the habit, and have a reward.

Then once the habit becomes effortless for you, you add another habit. It’s when you have a stack of habits like this that you become an unstoppable machine.

Creating Your Ultimate Habit Stack

I learned about this from an interview with Sujan Patel, a pro marketer in the online community who run several million dollar businesses. This is his secret on how he’s able to so create so much content while running a full-time business.

He calls it his own personal habit stack. For the past 3 years, he’s been adding habits to his life like writing, working out, managing employee, create strategic plans. It wasn’t overnight, but after awhile each new habit stacks with his old ones and he becomes a production machine.

After a year of this, you’ll be amazed at how far you’ve come. Yes, you’ll hit relapses along the way but if you read my last post, “You Can Laugh At Your Relapses — If You Follow this Simple Plan” then you’ll know exactly how to handle them and stay on track.

The habit stack is by far the easiest way to starting producing a lot.

How The Pros Create Plans: Lessons from a Billionaire VC

Here’s a story from a billionaire and it’s not Warren Buffet. This guy grew up in California and he wanted to be involved in big deals. He wanted nothing more then to be involved in the growing tech scene. So like all wannabe investors, he moved to Silicon Valley and started doing coffee meet ups with everyone.

He was a venture capitalist and so he was desperate to back Unicorns and make money. But it wasn’t working...

Naturally, he kept doing more and more coffee meet ups, going to demo days, and taking more meetings. He never said no to anyone. He took all meetings because, in his mind, more meetings meant more opportunities.

But more meetings weren’t helping.

His problem was that he was reactive. Because he worked for a venture capital firm people would send him in emails and try to pitch him all day.

In the beginning, he went to all these meetings but he noticed a pattern that would completely change his investment philosophy.

This is the most important lessons that he learned.

He learned that the Unicorn companies were not going to be sending him emails to meet up with him. He would have to chase them.

But he couldn’t, because he all those coffee meetings taking up his time!

You see he was drifting in life. He was being reactive instead of proactive. So he made a drastic move.

He did the opposite of what everyone was doing and actually moved out of Silicon Valley (gasp). He moved 4 hours aways into a big house where his kids could run around and play.

Now he could no longer take these spontaneous coffee meetings. Instead, he was making moves. He went from being reactive to proactive.

Then he start chasing the right companies and now he’s worth 1.2 billion dollars. This guy’s name is Chris Sacca. One of the most successful venture capitalists of all time, he’s backed all the unicorns of Silicon Valley like Uber, Twitter, Instagram, and Kickstarter.

But his success only started when he stopped being reactive and started being proactive.

Your Next Step: the 13 Skills that Will Make You Filthy Rich

You need to stop being on autopilot and start actively creating.

Where do you want to be? Who do you want to be? If you don’t know put yourself in a situation where you'll have multiple experiences. That’s why so many people recommend travelling because it constantly exposes you to new situations.

So after creating and being active for a couple years you’ll start to get a good feel for yourself and what kind of results you want to get.

To end this post I want to give you a recommendation that will help you succeed in life. It's about developing the skills that you know you will need later in life.

Scott Adams in his book, “How To Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life” recommends 13 skills to develop for every kind of success:

  1. Public Speaking
  2. Psychology
  3. Business Writing (look up copywriting)
  4. Accounting
  5. Design (the basics)
  6. Conversation
  7. Overcoming shyness
  8. Second Language
  9. Golf
  10. Proper Grammar
  11. Persuasion
  12. Technology
  13. Proper voice technique

Look at this list and pick one that you think will most apply to you.

For myself, I don’t know exactly where I want to be, but I know a few things about my future. One, I’ll be communicating with thousands of people. Which means I’m going to need to develop great writing and public speaking skills.

I’ll also be growing more profitable online businesses. Which is why I’ve been developing my technical skills such as SEO, web design, basic programming, etc.

And I'll be dealing with people which is why I've been studying persuasion and psychology heavily.

A sociopath will find his passion wherever he gets the best results. For you, look at what kind of results you want in your life. And start building the necessary skills to get those results for yourself.


Lessons Learned:

  • Be ambitious and ask for what you want
  • Like Pablo Picasso create every day
  • Create habits that make it effortless for you to create
  • Focus on one habit at a time!
  • Start adding new habits once they’ve become effortless
  • Get feedback on your work and calibrate your plan as necessary
  • Like Chris Sacca, don’t be reactive, always be on the attack
  • Start developing the necessary skills now

Note for tomorrow:

One of the most important skills you can hone is persuasion. Which is why tomorrow I’ll have something very special for you. Check TRP tomorrow, I post around 8AM Eastern, to learn about surprising secrets on persuasion. And how it can be all boiled down to just 27 words.


[–]TNNRR 225 points225 points [recovered]

We've got to stop glorifying sociopathy here at TRP. It comes from a fundamental misunderstanding o what a sociopath/psychopath is.

First of all, there is no difference between the two. They are both medically classified as having anti-social personality disorder.

Second, there have been a number of studies that indicate that sociopaths lack activity in certain regions of their brain. It is a legitimate mental disfunction. Its not all that different from using someone with down syndrome or color blindness as an example for TRP.

Thirdly - sociopaths do not have great life plans. They are characterized by poor impulse control, the inability to form long lasting relationships, unnecessary risk taking, and the inability to learn from mistakes. ALL of these things are detrimental to a productive and happy life.

Its all good and fine to support machiavellianism and attempt to learn from dark triad traits. I think we should all try to do that. But, lets remember that sociopaths are individuals suffering from a severe and life-disrupting mental illness. A sociopath would never be able to do even half the things on this list.

Having said that, this is an awesome and helpful article. There is some great advice in here.

[–][deleted] 68 points69 points  (13 children)

We've got to stop glorifying sociopathy here at TRP

I absolutely agree. Having faced one I can tell how legitimately evil it is. I think most of this fascination comes from them being glorified and mystified in movies and the like and hence people having this cool image of them.

Let me put it this way. Would you rather get ahead by pathologically lying or actually improving and providing value. Let's say you think sociopaths are cool and you're going to try to act like one. Every single different person that you meet you will change your personality and what you say to what you think is the most likely to help you manipulate them into doing what you want. Not talking white lies either. You'll tell them you're a banker when you're not. You'll tell them fake very personal stories in an attempt to gain their trust. You will attempt to guilt or shame them into doing something you want. You will tell them of your connections or how you have beaten someone to a pulp in the past and escaped the law by bribing someone to intimidate them. All the while you'll be very nice, friendly and charming behind that. I don't believe many here are willing to do that. I don't believe any non-sociopath can do that without hating himself unless he has desensitized himself from remorse somehow.

Through the rest of my life I'm going to block all contact with any person I suspect of being a sociopath without question. I would legitimately rather be beaten to a pulp and survive than have to deal with a sociopath for extended periods of time. Might sound counter intuitive but obvious external violence is so less violent than cunning I "will destroy your reputation, isolate you, gas light you, continuously plot to destroy you and lie to everyone I need to while they truly believe that I am a good friendly person and you're the evil one who hates me for no reason". Fuck sounds a lot like some women now that I think of it.

Learning about Machiavellianism from Illimitableman helped me tremendously in finding this behavior and breaking all contact with a sociopath. I can see a lot of value in learning about these things simply to protect yourself. But except for a select few laws I wouldn't dare implementing most.

[–]KhazarKhaganate 26 points27 points  (3 children)

Yes there is a serious problem of RPers glorifying not just sociopathy (ASPD), but also narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).

These are dangerous. You certainly wouldn't want to date a sociopathic woman, an NPD woman, or BPD woman... so why would you recommend the reverse for men?

NPDs are especially dangerous because they cannot take criticism and have delusions where they are entitled to everything. They are particularly abusive of other people and take advantage of them. They are very self-centered and parasitic. Sociopaths can damage you and harm you, break the law, for fun or advantage, and it wouldn't bother them even a little if you suffer.

Don't hold anyone that is narcissistic or sociopathic as an idol. Sure don't be blue-pill and overly nice guy... But being confident does not require you to be the most moronic selfish asshole either.

Yes we can all learn from narcissism and Machiavellian tactics, but that doesn't mean remove empathy or glorify yourself to be immune from criticism.

Self-improvement is key in this subreddit. Becoming the perfect man (which is the ultimate goal) who has the best sexual strategy, requires self-improvement, self-critical outlook, while displaying confidence to the outside world.

Remember, that you could be VERY Machiavellian but some women actually refuse to have sex with anyone who show a callous difference to the plight of others. Some women will actually select men based on having empathy and kindness which in a way, is also Machiavellian.

Mutual-benefit is always superior to parasitism. Whether it's business, politics, animal kingdom, or human dating.

[–]trumpisafaggybeta 3 points4 points  (2 children)

they cannot take criticism and have delusions where they are entitled to everything.

Sounds like your average basic bitch. Fat/scrawny beta males and social media exist to help them maintain this illusion, and to reaffirm their horrendous behavior.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Narcissist behaviour is rising - you can be validated by your people online at any time. SJWs and the Tumblrinas are all feeding each other's egos about what's acceptable behaviour. It's how you get things like fat acceptance.

[–]RPmatrix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First, good post OP ... much food for thought and quality discussion, thanks

Next: Most people here don't seem to realize that extensive testing suggests 4% of the population fall under the 'sociopathic' tag. In fact that's such a high percentage it has been suggested that "sociopaths" are considered their own 'type' of humans! (Not even ALL "lgbt" people combined make up 2%!)

https://www.quora.com/What-percentage-of-people-are-psychopaths-sociopaths

  • According to Wikipedia, the DSM IV-TR gives the prevalence of psychopathy as 3% in males and 1% in females. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ant...) The DSM IV-TR was published in 2000, but I have no reason to think the numbers have changed much since then. The DSM is produced by the American Psychiatric Association, and I believe their prevalence numbers are for the U.S. population.

The Sociopath Next Door is a book by a Harvard professor discussing this, and she's far from alone, just google "sociopaths 1 in 25 people"

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0767915828/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0767915828&linkCode=as2&tag=wwwviolentkicom

Personality disorders

  • Total: 9.1% of the US population have a PD

  • Antisocial Personality Disorder: 0.6%

  • Narcissistic Personality Disorder: 6.2%, and specifically 7.7% for men and 4.8% for females

  • Borderline Personality Disorder: 5.9%, with no differences between men and women

[–]SecularNotLiberal 4 points5 points  (3 children)

BPDers are the bane of my existence. My SO pokes fun of me for it. If there were a Hell, it's filled with country music and BPDers. I have had a few very negative encounters with diagnosed BPDers in my life (even early on) and I understand now that they are fundamentally damaged, cannot be trusted, cannot be relied upon, and are not worth my time.

"But I'm in therapy! But I take medication!" No, no, show me a truly healthy BPDer and I will eat my own butt cheek. The ones I've met who are aware of their condition (rare to start) will insist they're fine and they are not. They still manipulate and still wreck people's lives. I've been stalked by a so-called reformed BPD.

One of the best things you can do for yourself is eliminating contact with BPDers/NPDers/sociopaths. Just do it. Not even friends. Meet them at work? Smile and back away - do not engage unless necessary. No one has the ability to absolutely crater your life like one of these freaks. I'd rather be trapped in a dark alley with a mentally retarded person with an ax than an angry BPDer with a knife.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I'd rather be trapped in a dark alley with a mentally retarded person with an ax than an angry BPDer with a knife.

Definite tell that you've been in contact with one. That's what I did with the aforementioned one. Broke all contact. Told everyone I knew who knew him to do the same. Facebook, phone all of it.

I wasn't aware that BPD was similar to ASPD. I thought the spectrum of ASPD was basically Narc/sociopath/psychopath

[–]SecularNotLiberal 0 points1 point  (1 child)

They share some similarities for sure but are still different. The impulsivity and the manipulation are definitely the same though, and these traits are very common in both BPD and ASPD. BPDers tend to also trend toward suicidal "gestures" as a form of manipulation and getting attention. Regardless, BPD/Narc/Sociopath/Psychopath individuals all have the ability to really destroy your life if you let them in it, which is why I swear them all off.

What I love about Tumblr culture these days (one of the few things I love) is that many people my age (20s) think it's "cool" to be a special little snowflake with tons of diagnoses so some people make it known from the get-go all of their problems. It comes out early in conversation. I will immediately distance myself and not talk to them again.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here man. Fuck them to death

[–]neoj8888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're evil incarnate. The only good sociopath is a dead sociopath. OP is out of his damn mind.

[–]Kafkaevsky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally disagree with you. As we all know TRP is a toolbox, take what you want and leave the rest it's up to you. /u/IamGale made an excellent post and mentioned sociopathy.

First of all TRP is amoral, so we don't care if sociopaths are evil manipulators or murderers or rapists.

Second he is using sociopathy not for its bad traits but it's useful traits i.e lack of morality, spontaneity.

Third he says "a sociopath will do everything in his power,sing, use social engineering, deception, and hard work to get those results. ". Just that that, the rest of sociopathy could be useless to your goals.

Fourth what is it with people in TRP taking things so literally. Try and understand the message he is trying to bring out, not wallowing in semantics.

Fifth everyone here knows what is good and bad, we are tired of being told by the world how to behave, that's why we are all here. If someone wants to change their personalities and lie to every single person they meet in order to gain their trust and succeed it's their choice. If you don't know yet, let me break it down for you, that's exactly how the world operates.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

But isn't ability to turn off emotions / empathy important for succeeding in life and business..and love as well?

I'm learned sociopath, and I save my emotions and companionship for my family. Others will just get over you.

But one way or another I'm not evil or smth.

[–]sassypaella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is a difference between turning off emotions and not letting then take control of you. You can (and should) act on your emotions as long as you remain rational about it.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMentORPHEUS 11 points12 points  (1 child)

(S)ociopaths do not have great life plans. They are characterized by poor impulse control, the inability to form long lasting relationships, unnecessary risk taking, and the inability to learn from mistakes.

I agree; your posts are great, but titling them as learning from sociopaths then describing healthy-mind behaviors and habits takes away more than it gives to your works.

To paraphrase a Science Fiction editor, "Show me a man who performs as well as a psychopath, but not like a psychopath."

[–]Top_Ozone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The sub tends to fetishize sociopaths for a variety of reasons. One is just the apex fallacy. They see a CEO or movie star that behaves like a sociopath, but ignore all the degenerate sociopaths in prisons or on the streets.

And then there's the false correlation. They believe that they got their because of sociopathic tendencies, when it may likely have been in spite of them.

That said, I love this post, a lot of great material. But none of these behaviors define a sociopath. Ambition =/= sociopath.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Excellent post. I agree with everything you said.

Furthermore, if you aren't a sociopath, there's virtually no chance of you ever becoming one. You can develop some of the traits of the sociopath, but you will never be a true sociopath nor be on their level of charisma. As you said, it comes from a fundamental dysfunction in their brain chemistry that allows them to do the crazy things they do.

My best friend from my childhood is a legitimate textbook sociopath. He is very bold and daring, and has banged a minimum of 50 girls, that I know of personally. Every single girl he's been with has fallen completely in love with him - doctors, lawyers, strippers - you name it. He possess a charm that I have yet to see another man come close to. He is actually the guy who opened my eyes up to red pill because of how insane it all was.

But, at the same time he is an emotionally void human being. He is unable to experience the emotions of empathy or remorse, and is a massive dick at times. Ex) When we were 18, he pointed a loaded shotgun in my face, with his finger on the trigger, for shits and giggles. And when I was crying afterward, there wasn't a single change in facial expression. Imagine that type of frame with girls. That is how the sociopath is such a pussy slayer - they possess ultimate frame control due to a brain dysfunction in the amygdala that doesn't form a proper connection between their actions and emotions.

It does sound very appealing to strive to become a sociopath. But that's all on the exterior. This dude is a very fucked up individual, and after many years of friendship I cut him out of my life. None of his relationships ever lasted more than a few months, because of how abusive he was. Sociopaths can be verrrrrrrrrrrry fun in the beginning, which to chicks is like Crack and Heroin all in one magic dick. But they will always burn you in the end.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck man. This hit home. This was the type of shit o pulled on my friends in primary school (used a bb gun and kept shooting my friends ankle cuz I thought it was fun)

When I realized all my friends abandoned me because NOBODY LIKED ME... I decided to change and become more "socially acceptable" instead so I got a med degree to make my parents happy.

That said, I still have that kinda tendency. I indeed pulled some girls when I was younger but they shared one thing in ckmmon: they were mostly damaged goods. I wish I can have a relatively authentic relationship in the future and that's why I kinda wanna redirect my "sociopathic tendencies" to the greater good (benefiting social interactions, making people WANT to hang with me instead of forcing them to)

[–]-xanax- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm diagnosed ASPD and the whole idea behind WANTING to have this disorder is absolutely pathetic and disturbing.

[–]marplaneit 9 points10 points  (20 children)

Well it kind of goes in degrees, a patologic psychopath with low IQ is fucking dangerous.

High IQ individuals with some Psycopath traits (like feeling no empathy) can achieve a lot by letting go innecesary weight even if that implies emotions. That's make me remember when Elon Musk, fired her executive assistant of 15 +++ years when she asked for a raise in her salary. Elon has some psychopath traitz, but he still feels and get ass raped by divorce courts...

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 10 points11 points  (15 children)

(like feeling no empathy)

You will never be able to emulate that if you aren't a sociopath. Besides that not being emathic is actually also one of the sociopath's Achilles' heels, since this is what will make them vulnerable to being detected. They are often not able to emulate proper behaviour in extreme situations which they haven't witnessed too often, like i.e. bereavement.

Also IQ is not what makes a sociopath dangerous or not, it just is an indicator if they will become a functioning or not-so-functioning sociopath.

It's psychopathy combined with sadism what makes them become really dangerous for society.

[–]TNNRR 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have someone in my family that has Anti-Social Personality disorder. Anyone who has known that person well for even a slightly extended period of time is aware that there is something "off" about them. They come off initially as clever, caring, smart, and relatable. Over time, though, the missing parts of their personality start to shine through. One of the biggest ones - like you mention - is bereavement. At a funeral or in the hospital, they have no idea what to do. They try to fake grief for a while, but it doesn't quite work.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (10 children)

Is it low empathy or 0 empathy considered sociopathic? I think have sociopathic traits but I don't think I'm a sociopath. Or maybe I'm low key autistic. I feel very little empathy for others and when I was younger I had to learn how to recognize social cues and pretend to empathize but I never really felt that compassion for others. I'd always get tthese weird looks when everyone else was feeling bad and I was completely fine, couldn't understand why people cared so much about other people.

[–]marplaneit 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I had the same problema, I don't feel much empathy really, but sociopath has like 0 fucking empathy, fucking ZERO, and there is like above said something OFF about them.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its after you get to know them, is when you notice somethings off. In the first meeting, theyre charming.

I only really care about close bros and my mother, and even then i have to constantly tell myself to be empathetic towards them. I just dont feel it. I want to be a good son to my mother, but i just dont care about her, im very self absorbed. I know im supposed to care about my mom but i have to force myself. I dont actually feel the compassion towards her, I just know im supposed to so i force myself to try. I care about my mother and yet im neutral. I dont really know how to describe it. and i dont really know how to comfort others cause i dont really empathize with them.

[–]RPmatrix -1 points0 points  (7 children)

No, not necessarily, and the fact you are aware of it suggests you're not completely devoid of fellings

do you ever relate to how another person is 'feeling' in a similar way, i.e laugh with them? If yes, don't stress, you've just been calloused by the world bro .. it usually gets better, esp if you're younger, say still in your teens, it's seems to be one of the phases associated with brain development but no one's sure why exactly or for how long.

Weird Fact: ~1% of Eastern Europeans have 'schizoeffective disorder' which is so high as to suggest there's a genetic benefit from inheriting whichever genes are causing it! Crazy huh?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Nothing bad has really ever happened to me though. I've been this way all my life. But yeah i laugh, i find stuff funny. Im not a robot. I have emotions, just a small range.

[–]RPmatrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

then you're fine bro, just more to one side of the bell curve than most -- me too! Howdy :D

And never forget, when it comes to how people treat/think about you: "Those who mind, don't matter and those who matter don't mind"

[–]Elodrian -1 points0 points  (3 children)

Weird Fact: ~1% of Eastern Europeans have 'schizoeffective disorder' which is so high as to suggest there's a genetic benefit from inheriting whichever genes are causing it! Crazy huh?

Alternative hypothesis: growing up under totalitarian communism causes mental disorders in adults. Look at all the Romanian orphans whose parents died under the Ceaucescu regime who were raised in state-run orphanages and developed attachment disorder. When the state destroys the family the children grow up broken.

[–]RPmatrix 1 point2 points  (1 child)

TBH I have no idea why, nor does anyone really, and while I see your point, and it's an intersting pov, the kids of Romania and Bulgaria and all those states combined don't make up enough numbers

It could be something weird like how people with sickle cell aenamia cant get malaria! Maybe this is some genetic throwback for some old reason that's yet to be bred out

Or, I could be completely wrong as the statisticians fucked up the numbers! lol :D

[–]Elodrian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying that the 1% is all Romanian orphans; I'm giving that as an example of how trauma caused by a totalitarian regime can manifest as psychiatric disorder. From 1945-1989 you had two generations of eastern europeans brought up under communism. That's a chronic stressor for those populations. I haven't done the actual sociological work to prove anything, of course, but I suspect that the increased prevalence of psychological disorder within this geographic locality is the product of environmental factors, rather than an evolutionary adaptation. Evolution doesn't work quickly. To get a population-wide effect like the sickle cell thing you need a population that is geographically isolated and subject to consistent selection pressures that are different than those in neighbouring areas and even then it takes dozens of generations for the trait to be consistently expressed throughout the population. Eastern Europe is not that isolated, nor is it that different from Western Europe on a thousand-year timeline.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

on the other hand, some artists show schizotypal traits. It's the very thing that makes them so creative, but weird in social interactions.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I don't think people admiring sociopaths have ever gotten close to one IRL. They are a different breed of human. They can do things us normal humans can't do due to the brain deficiencies they possess. Striving to become a sociopath is going to be a futile effort, because you are always going to feel remorse for certain actions. Remorse and guilt are abstract ideas to the sociopath. They understand it, but they can't actually feel it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I disagree. I'm not sure WHAT I am, but I found that meditation (by detaching yourself from your own emotions) helps (to detach yourself from external emotions).

By going to that calm state you can essentially function like a pragmatic higher consciousness robot. It's easier to call the shots because it's based on logic (if firing a fifteen year secretary because based on my calculations, she's a dead weight cost, then yeah consider it a no brainer)

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being able to detach your emotions does not equal not being empathic.

[–]dazedel8 3 points4 points  (3 children)

Saying that he fired of his assistant of 15 years when she asked for a raise is probably only 10% of the story. Do you know Elon? Its absolutly crazy to take anything you hear from the media seriously. That sounds like somthing out of US Weekly magazine.

[–]50pluspiller 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Actually it is in his biography.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I relate a lot to how this man thinks (and his lonely booksmart childhood)... I have to read this.

[–]marplaneit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep I read it in his biography...

[–]DaphneDK 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For some reason Hollywood loves them, but in real life most sociopaths and psychopaths are abject failures at life. Overwhelmingly found at the bottom om society, homeless without network, substance abusers, in jail, etc.

[–]Equilibriun 5 points6 points  (1 child)

There is LOTS of difference between the two. A sociopath literally can turn off the feels in certain situations. Literally doesn't give a fuck. Negative feels. Such as shame. Guilt. Remorse. All the good stuff is there though.

A psychopath literally is UNABLE to feel. Sociopath is learned behavior. Learned. Adapted. Whatever. Psychopath just is. Born that way. Dies that way. Numb to emotions and can only emulate them.

Both have impulses. Both can be mature or immature - meaning how they handle impulses and life in general.

Sociopathy is the next level of TRP. SEEING the truth. And not being butthurt by it. Ask yourself really, who wants to feel bad? If you could turn off your guilt and shame and remorse wouldn't you? Isn't that literally what we teach here? To not let people who keep us down keep us down?

[–]TNNRR 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its debated. Medically speaking - they are two names for the same condition.

But - there are psychologists and academics that do believe that they are two separate conditions with similar symptoms. So while its still not accepted in the medical community, I'll concede with you that there is room for argument, and no one's really 100% sure yet.

"If you could turn off your guilt and shame and remorse wouldn't you? Isn't that literally what we teach here? To not let people who keep us down keep us down?"

If you can turn it off and I again, that is a great skill to develop. I try to work on that, myself. I've read The Prince a few times, and 48 laws of power, Might is Right, etc. If you are arguing that those reading this article learn how to develop and control sociopathic traits - I'm right there with you. Some situations REQUIRE it. When was the last time you saw a boxer punch someone in the ring, then immediately apologize?

My point was that in the current medical environment - sociopathy is an incurable, disruptive illness that causes more people to have low economic standing and/or incarceration than non-sociopaths. I've known a few sociopaths/psychopaths/whatever, and I've seen first hand that they are really suffering people. They can't get along with others well, or at least not closely, and they keep getting into trouble - either with their friends and family, or the law. It depresses them that they can't act like other people, and they often use drugs to soothe those feelings. I like TRP because it IS about seeing the truth - and that's really the truth about those individuals. They hate being the way they are, because it makes their lives so difficult.

Anywho - I'll meet you in the middle here, and as a reader of the TRP, I appreciate the constructive response.

[–]The_Junto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The film industry is responsible for romanticizing sociopaths to a cartoonish degree. Shows like Dexter depict sociopaths as these interesting, deep, conflicted characters in need of saving.

In the show Dexter he actually begins showing glimpses of emotion toward the last few seasons which irresponsibly gives viewers the idea that sociopaths are capable of change.

People are naturally attracted to the idea of being free from all their fears and negative emotions which is why sociopaths appear so attractive in our society.

It also doesn't help that the media casts the most beautiful actors/actresses they can find to fit these roles.

[–]SecularNotLiberal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. There is an idea in society that living a life that is rational/introspective/questioning/not kow-towing to tradition/not relying entirely on emotion = sociopathy. This is not so. Glorifying sociopathy here is a mistake. It just further spreads this erroneous idea. Furthermore, people can be discouraged from critical, rational thought because that kind of thinking may be deemed as "sociopathic" by others. This is harmful.

I've had people call me a "sociopath" in my own family when the real word they were going for was "utilitarian".

Having worked with many actual diagnosed sociopaths, they are highly disturbed individuals and I agree with your assessment - they would be unable to do most of the things on this list.

[–]TheReformist94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's enough evidence on this sub and macroeconomic evidence in society to show that women give no fucks and are Inherently mentally violent creatures at base level when unrestrained. Fight fire with fire,pump and dump,all is fair in love and war.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not so sure. Psychopath and sociopaths is not the same. Sociopathy can be learned and I think it's absolutely necessary to accomplish anything today - in love or business.

Ability to turn of emotions and empathy in certain situations is crucial.. And I usually save this things with people I can trust, like family and few close friends.

But I'm not evil, wrong, or fucked up in any way that you describe in your post.

[–]Money_Bags97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because psychopaths are cool and mysterious! After all, that's what bitches dig right?.........right?.....

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I agree. I've never been diagnosed, but through my childhood I was a problem kid and had many tendencies that could be attributed to psychopathy.

Indeed, ID always get into trouble (to get what I want). I'd steal. I'd bully other kids. I'd make girls fight against each other for me to feel validated.

I got almost expelled from secondary school one year for those activities and felt really lonely. I had essentially realized that I had bullied/hurt all my friends away and nobody really liked me, they just liked following me.

I also acted on impulse, and in many ways still do, but what really helped me was developing a strategy on a higher consciousness. Aclong term strategy. Then once that strategy is planned out I use my impulses to my advantage and act in the present moment. Harder done than said and it's something I'm working on.

The impulse never stops though. And in a society that discourages impulsive activities (nobody likes a procrastinator), the only way to succeed is by suspending that primal instinct and working from a higher plane of consciousness

EDIT worth mentioning that I realized this when I was relatively young (16), so I decided to change for the better. Partly because I didn't want to be expelled (that was my goal), and making teachers and people like me was how I achieved that (in fact I ended up graduating as the #3 highest grade in a class of 200 students)

EDIT on a side note that impulse makes me completely obsessive over things I am interested in and dismissive of things and people that deter me away. I'm extremely passionate about knowledge

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You definitely don't sound like a sociopath. Then again, could be just one of your masks you're putting up. But a sociopath wouldn't bother writing this because there's no benefit in it really.

You should just take the sociopath test if you wanna be sure but if what you're saying is true and it's not a front I highly doubt you're anywhere on the ASPD spectrum

[–]Elodrian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever play one of Bioware's role-playing games like Knights of the Old Republic? They typically present you with a series of narrative choices and your decisions will affect the development of your character in a variety of ways. The first time I play through games like this, i tend to get into the story and interact with the characters in good faith. I'm playing my character in the context of the narrative. The second time though? Screw it, it's all about min-maxing. Helping the old lady across the road gets me an extra stat point? Do it. Pushing the old lady into the furnace gets me an extra stat point? Do it. The storyline gets sacrificed but by the end of the game my character will be the strongest possible. All the narrative is an illusion, the game is about collecting the power-ups.

Now imagine playing through your own life like that. Total adherence to your mission while remaining detached from the social entanglements. That's how I think we should strive to be. Cast off the illusions and focus on what matters.

[–]Hodensack666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the MOST important point u have left out in your list : they completely lack empathy ( they just can emulate, like a robot would )

( the reason is a lack of fear ( the reason for that again, is the lack of activity u mentioned in one of your first point ( the reason for that again seems to be a lack of blood flow in those respective regions )))

;)

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

We've got to stop glorifying sociopathy here at TRP

Why? Is your slave morality getting asshurt?

First of all, there is no difference between the two.

OK, clearly talking out of your ass. You have no understanding of either of those if you put them in the same bucket.

Second, there have been a number of studies that indicate that sociopaths lack activity in certain regions of their brain.

While there are a number of such maladies where too much activity occurs in a specific area, leading to stuff like panic attacks. Or you know, moralfaggotry.

Everything has a light side and a dark side. This post was meant to show us we can learn from the light side of sociopathy, not that it's a genuine upper hand or a cheat code at life.

[–]HS-Thompson 57 points58 points  (9 children)

I see a possible future for you in writing books sold at airports. You're not a bad writer, but take the buzzfeed/self-help style cliches down by 70% and you'll be a much better writer. Lines like "and that man.... was Pablo Picasso OMG" or "it can all be boiled down to 27 words" are lazy writing and a sign that your actual content can't stand on its own without clickbait phrasing. You can do better, make that a goal.

Otherwise it's not a bad article at all. You're missing something absolutely massive though -- other people.

I actually know Chris Sacca in real life, for example, and his trick is that he's connected to everyone. He didn't like move four hours away to the middle of nowhere and make a plan as you imply. In real life he was the former head of special projects and handled M&A transactions for Google, already plenty rich, and he moved to LA and started a complicated insider focused private equity strategy that involved accumulating Twitter stock via insiders. He's very well connected.

Remember this: the way to really get somewhere in this world is to be connected to the people that have all the money and power.

You can make plans in bookstores and coffee shops, and write, and I think those are fine and excellent ideas and there's a place for them. But you have to get the fuck out of the house and get mentors, credentials, a network, and a reputation, if you want to really become consequential. Don't skip that part.

[–]1IamGale[S] 30 points31 points  (8 children)

I see a possible future for you in writing books sold at airports.

Haha. I'm in Marketing and so a lot of my writing tends to be like that. But I'm working on finding a good balance.

You're missing something absolutely massive though -- other people.

Yea, that's a really good point.

But you have to get the fuck out of the house and get mentors, credentials, a network, and a reputation, if you want to really become consequential. Don't skip that part.

Yes I agree with you. You've got to hustle to get those connections.

[–]Freiling 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Extra points for taking criticism like a bro!

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I really enjoyed your post on charm. Would love more related to "social success", getting those connections and being a smoother talker people want to befriend...

And hey, this post wasn't too shabby as well ;)

[–]1IamGale[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'll be writing some more posts on it. Specifically about the biggest game changer people can implement today to get results. Coming soon.

[–]Wilreadit 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Dude nice post.

Many people have been giving you shit/honest advice about the click bait titles and the tension wording. But the thing is it is the title that brought me here in the first place. I do not think that is a bad idea in this day and age.

Now there was some inadvertent factual inaccuracy that was pointed out by a dude who knew Sacca. That was not good. Because going through your post I got the idea that Sacca was broke and he moved away from the Valley and it rained money. But the truth is he was already pretty rich and really in touch with all big wigs. That was a bit off.

Other than that it was cool man, I loved it. Clickbait if you must, but the content should be bullet proof.

Peace and pushyaw.

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

This is good feedback thank you. Yea I was going off an interview where he said he attributed a lot of his success to moving out of Silicon Valley and going on the attack.

[–]Wilreadit 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Sure bro. Nothing to it. I am a voracious reader of self help books like those by Malcolm Gladwell and Robert Greene. They do have some clickbait in them, but the text is solid with good reference. If you plan to be like them get the text to be bullet proof. The rest will follow.

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So your username check outs! Btw I'm the same way.

[–]Wilreadit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you could tell it, although it is more like a finger to Reddit(get it redit and wilreadit?)

You keep up the work man, they way you see fit. And publish to as wide an audience as possible, that way you can get to know how the average reader who would be interested in your stuff thinks.

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (2 children)

My favourite part of this post is the emphasis on creativity. Creating something is reaching inside your true self and bringing some part of you into reality. It is what all great men have in common. The vision and the passions required for a great life come from within.

It does not matter what you create, a song, book, poem, company, joke, a painting. It is yours and the more you create, the better you get at creating. We reach our goals by forming habits which aid our creativity and free us to exercise our desires.

The book of pook makes some similar observations regarding passions, habits and creativity. So over all a very solid post. I do not really think the reference to being a sociopath is helpful and may I respectfully suggest you edit that out of the post.

Sociopaths are destructive ultimately and cannot maintain decent long term relationships. I prefer to think of red pill men as alphas rather than sociopaths. We are capable of leading large and successful groups and we care about our peers and those we lead. There is a lot of love in here, we care about each other. Sociopaths do not care about anyone.

[–]1IamGale[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My favourite part of this post is the emphasis on creativity.

...It does not matter what you create, a song, book, poem, company, joke, a painting. It is yours and the more you create, the better you get at creating. We reach our goals by forming habits which aid our creativity and free us to exercise our desires.

I agree the act of creating is one of the best feelings of the world.

[–]AcrossHallowedGround 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is what kills me about US schools, and school systems in general I assume. They're basically designed to squash creativity and incorporate conformity.

Sociopaths are destructive ultimately and cannot maintain decent long term relationships.

Raises hand. Dx'ed Borderline and Schizoid. Learn empathy if you can. Being able to separate yourself from your emotions to make smart choices is good. Focusing on yourself 100%, 100% of the time, however, just leads to isolation. Personally I prefer the solitary life, but most people can't handle it and trend downhill from there.

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Your recent posts have been high quality, but the click bait titles are shit. Get rid of those and some of the sales pitch tension building and you'll be all g.

[–]1IamGale[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Fair point. My writing is definitely a little clickbait, I'll be improving it for my future posts.

But thank you for the compliment. Means a lot coming from you.

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clickbait titles are fine as long as you follow through. Next time you mention sociopath, it should be a detailed field report about manipulating others and the thought process behind it.

You're not here to sell anything or write suspense and cliff hangers like a novel. You're here to inform, share, and discuss. Length and detail are fine, but get to the point immediately and always tell it how it is.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why does TRP have late night infomercials.

I've got a bridge to the new youTM to sell you.

[–]FarOrAMess 11 points12 points  (10 children)

Just wanted to tell IamGale you're the most interesting poster I think we've had here since /u/OmLaLa. Thanks fpr consistently putting the effort and time to give us quality posts that change mindsets.

I'll also tell you why - this particular post helped me realize something about me. You see, I'm a music production student and even though I'm probably top of my class, I always had this burdening feeling in my chest that I'm the least likely to make it in the industry.

Then I realized, all the musicians and producers I look up to as inspiration all have one thing in common - they constantly put themselves in situations where they will have to get some creative experience to succeed at what they do. They created probably on the daily, or to make it short - they were PROACTIVE, while I was dead-end passive, waiting for homework to actually work on shit. Fuck that.

I'm not going to be passive again. I'll start creating shit and producing shit so there's no way I'll miss out on potential experience.

Thank you once again.

[–]Senior ContributorOmLaLa 17 points18 points  (7 children)

You talk about me like I'm some old folktale or myth. Like Sasquatch or President Hillary Clinton.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

President Hillary Clinton

I haven't been triggered so hard in a loooong time...

[–]Senior Contributordr_warlock 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Where you been nigga? Have you made that RP rabbit fable into a kids book yet?

[–]Senior ContributorOmLaLa 4 points5 points  (3 children)

I became Junior VP or something. Been busy as crap.

Got a shit ton of posts I need to wrap up. 3 months's a long time.

1st quarter ends this week. Then come the best field reports you've ever seen.

...or read. Whichever.

[–]An_All-Beef_Engineer 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I became Junior VP or something. Congratulations, and thanks man, you'll never understand how helpful your posts are to us.

 

3 months's a long time... Then come the best field reports you've ever seen.

Can't wait for it. Just know you've been killing it out there.

[–]Senior ContributorOmLaLa 0 points1 point  (1 child)

"I have so much to show you." -I forget

[–]An_All-Beef_Engineer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Post the quicknotes version then?

[–]FarOrAMess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, it's just that many of your posts resonated with me and helped me get where I am today (which isn't bragging-worthy or anything but I'm happy so there's that...)

[–]1IamGale[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then I realized, all the musicians and producers I look up to as inspiration all have one thing in common - they constantly put themselves in situations where they will have to get some creative experience to succeed at what they do.

This is a really habit of getting into. Look at what people did to become successful and not what they say they did.

A good example are iTunes and Amazon reviews of albums and books. Almost all the big guys will literally buy reviews... But nobody mentions this when they ask how they were able to sell so much.

I'm not going to be passive again. I'll start creating shit and producing shit so there's no way I'll miss out on potential experience.

Great energy!

[–]el_superbeastooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then I realized, all the musicians and producers I look up to as inspiration all have one thing in common - they constantly put themselves in situations where they will have to get some creative experience to succeed at what they do. They created probably on the daily, or to make it short - they were PROACTIVE, while I was dead-end passive, waiting for homework to actually work on shit. Fuck that.

Yep I was much the same. Got into a really competitive animation program but didn't do anything to develop or explore my potential other than assignments. Did well but I could feel that something was off.

After a while I realised that I was bullshitting myself. I considered myself an "artist" and "animator" yet didn't actually do the things that I defined myself as. So I started beefing up my demo reel with personal projects and picking up steam from posting videos online.

A little after graduating I got a decent job in the industry and got my career on track. Never stop producing!

[–]SmilingWatermelon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking forward to tomorrows post. Keep 'em coming!

[–]aazav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Proper Grammar

This is why I bitch about simple spelling mistakes. It's not so visible when you do things right as when you do things wrong.

People notice when you screw up (lose frame), so make it automatic that you always do things right. If you do make a mistake, recognize it and learn from it so you can program yourself to not make it again the next time.

[–]Heyokalol 1 point2 points  (2 children)

This is an outstanding post and I thank you for it. I am a bit confused about the reactive vs proactive part in your post: as an aspiring freelance web developer, how could I be proactive in getting new clients and not just reactive ? For instance, would cold approaching businesses that do not possess a website yet (or just plain old ones) be proactive (good) or reactive (bad) ?

[–]1IamGale[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Reactive means you only attend to your current clients.

Proactive means you do 1hr of new business development every day.

[–]Heyokalol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Proactive as in actively looking for new business opportunities. Gotcha thanks.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

This is spot on, I just made $180 in a day using affiliate marketing on Monday. I only started my online business less than 3 weeks ago and the startup costs are nearly covered already using the behavior that OP is on about.

Not as in manipulating people but spending massive amounts of time learning what I needed to know and then applying it.

I've spent every bit of my spare time for the past ~16 days working on it and it paid off.

Stayed up until 3am on Sunday night setting my site up for the expected traffic and then just spent the next two days watching the money roll in.

I'm only 19 years old and I've earned half a weeks wages in 2 days through the internet. Pretty crazy.

[–]1IamGale[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's amazing! Congrats on your early success.

[–]Money_Bags97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of business is it? And what was your startup costs?

[–]What_eskimo_custom 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Chris Sacca is an edge case and not a sociopath. He is a genius with excellent foresight and impeccable timing with a dash of luck.

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. But don't underestimate him. No one gets to the top without having the drive of mad man.

[–]pbgswd 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Fuck golf I wont do it! Bunch of stupid beer bunnies getting shitfaced on the links at 8:30 AM. Beware of the cargo cults of going through the motions, doing this or that in anything and expecting results to rain down from the heavens. It doesnt work like that.

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that word "cargo cults" probably the most hilarious scientific case studies ever.

But I actually think there's a ton of a value people can get even out of cargo cults like scientology.

You can learn so much about leadership and marketing from cults. If you take a scientific approach there's much to learn.

[–]Dookiestain_LaFlair 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm thinking of replacing golf with some type of sword fighting, either kendo or European 2 handed sword fighting. None of that fencing crap I'm not a nancy boy. Although I guess swinging a golf club at someone could be considered mace fighting as a golf club looks like a war axe.

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Golfing is more for business connections.

[–]Shamlei 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Very good post, how can you gauge when a habit became effortless though ? Any time indication ?

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you no longer write it on your to-do list.

[–]KIZAN 0 points1 point  (5 children)

How do you get started in all of this though? As awesome as this sounds. I find it highly informative yet vague as I can't relate to this at all. I'm in my first year at university taking whatever courses to "find" myself yet I feel lost more than ever before. Where do I start? I'm merely a product of my environment and I simply react to everything around me. I cannot create anything that hasn't been said and done I cannot revolutionize anything. First year students are not experts at anything. What value can I possibly create? My talents can only take me so far. It is so hard for me to explore as my campus has no good clubs worth going too. All my friends just goto school we don't hang outside or anything. I find getting a job difficult as I feel like most jobs obtained are through connections ( I've applied to so many jobs I gave up). I feel hopeless and invisible in this world. A lot of people say to me "if other people can do it so can you" As much as I find that true, its different they're on the outside looking in. They don't know my circumstance, my environment. I feel useless and unsatisfied with my life.

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

Buddy, take a deep breath. It's okay.

First thing is I would give you tactical advice but I don't think it would help. Just by the way you wrote that, you sound very defeatist.

Change your mindset. There's tons of stuff you can create.

  • You can write essays
  • You can make a YouTube Vide
  • You can learn how to make a website
  • You can learn how to become a good public speaker
  • You can learn programming

What are you interested in? Don't say nothing... When you have no momentum in your life doing anything seems very difficult.

I wrote a post about relapses but I think the advice I give would help you a lot. You'll find it very useful for your current situation.

[–]KIZAN 2 points2 points [recovered]

I don't know how to do any of those things and I don't know where to get started. Music is my passion. No matter how much time and effort I put I know it won't amount to the increasingly high expectations of others. Point being I don't know my place in this world I feel like a robot. I wish I could do those things you listed. I just don't have the resources for it. I don't have a computer and my laptop is broken. I'm a broke college student with big dreams but I'm faced with the limitations of reality. Even socially, I don't have much friends or connections and I know that's something I want to improve, but its hard because the amount of people I meet is limited, everyone in school keeps to themselves. I have no lead, nowhere to start progressing. I'm at a stalemate. I feel networking is a big part in success and finding your passion and going to the next level. I simply have nothing. I workout I'm healthy I look good but it means nothing. I know I can't expect things to be handed to me. But that's the problem I don't have any opportunities especially where I live its like depression capital over here. Even with all this self improvement I do, it amounts to nothing. I don't find satisfaction. I've never truly tasted what success is.

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Here's the secret to making friend:

Say Hi. Do that every day. The exposure effect kick in and you'll be best buds just through consistency.

[–]KIZAN 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Sounds good, but is small talk reliable? I seem to do that all the time but it feels like I'm taking to a brick wall.

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all about making the other person comfortable. Showing that you're not a threat.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what i call a good post, solely because it's not about how to get your dick wet

[–]hunteeer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In fact, people actually get sick when they stop working.

BS. I get sick if I have to work. Being lazy is an mazing feeling and is the ultimate goal for me.

[–]Endorsed ContributorClint_Redwood 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I typically hate cookie cutter posts that start with shit like,

"Five Easy Steps to Become Awesome"

But this post is not one of those.

Everything you've lined out is dead on with maybe one exception, I'll get to that in a minute and we already talked about it in another post.

A lot of what you are talking about is directly out of marketing, advertising and gorilla marketing tactics.

Right now you want to be orienting your life around maximizing your experiences. Search for exposure.

I did a short online venture about 5 years ago and applied guerrilla marketing to it. You do exact this, expose yourself to as much of the world as you can. I was posting everywhere, on every forum i could find. But instead of the basic copy paste, "Here's this awesome thing, Pay me" sales pitch, I took a bit different approach.

Always be creating. When you’re creating solutions and putting them out there in the world you’ll get feedback.

I was not just pitching myself. I was creating content for these forums and users to consume. Much like i write for TRP today, back then i was giving the communities my insights, knowledge, etc. for free.

Wait what? Yes I said for free. I based my model off of freemium games. I saw that some youtubers and companies where making bank off of giving free content, then if the consumer really liked the product, they would pay you for it or more of it.

This created a positive feedback loop. I'd create content, make money off of passive ads or income, sell a few things, ad revenue and the community would give me feedback that i would then use to critique and improve my methods for more monatization. Exactly like how /u/Rollo-Tomassi does his blog. He creates free content but gets passive income from ads and patreon if the consumers really like his stuff.

Eventually you can build a consumer base, or dedicated fans and switch your business model if you like but freemium is a great passive income source.

I will heavily advocate that every man here needs to find a passion and create also. It the most repeatable and insightful thing you can do to grow yourself and understanding.

I'll also back your 13 steps. Funny how you added Golfing but that is actually really true haha. I need to get some new clubs now that I think of it.

Onto that one exception though;

If you want to wake up at 5AM daily. Turn off the internet at 8PM and force yourself to go to bed at 9PM.

We want to make this as easy as possible for you.

I think you already know what I'm going to say /u/iamgale . I'm not a fan of the easy road. You should get use to and enjoy pain and discomfort, it's the only way to grow. Saying something is easy is a great sales pitch but the reality is nothing that's worth it is ever easy. You need to accept that and learn how to manage the hard road. I'll copy and paste it again for anyone that hasn't read it.

Revel in Your Discomfort

There is a common phenomenon in public speaking and is addressed in "The Charisma Myth" where you must not only acknowledge your personal pitfalls and fears but you must also confront them.

It's human nature to distance ourselves from anything that causes us discomfort. We see a injured animal, gut reaction is to look away. Given a piece of evidence contradictory to our beliefs, we reject it, backfire effect, etc.

We acknowledge our jealousy. We want to evade it, ignore it or not accept it, so in John's case, he gets drunk to over compensate. There is a third scenario that OP didn't line out. John seeing his ego but not facing it.

John could easily see the physiological response his body has, but not focus on it or acknowledge it. A lot of people do this. Women can be introspective and understand they are crazy sometimes. I've had girls flat out tell me, "I know I'm being crazy, irrational and shouldn't act this way. but i still do it".

There is a difference between acknowledging you have an ego and actually facing that ego.

"The Charisma Myth" uses the big red button and giraffe analogy.


Don't think about a giraffe.

You are thinking about a giraffe aren't you.

stop it.

I told you to stop thinking about a giraffe, why are you still thinking about about a giraffe?


If i place a big red button in front of you and tell you not to push the big red button, you'll immediately want to push the big red button.


Trying to actively not think about something, or do something, will actually cause the reverse effect for humans. We will solely focus on that one thing we shouldn't be doing. This is an ineffective strategy.

So how do we combat this? By reveling in the conflict. By facing it head on. In "The Charisma Myth" context of public speaking, the author notes to focus on the discomfort you are feeling. See it, accept it. Let your body sit in this extremely uncomfortable situation. It will adapt itself and eventually come to terms that it's safe and ok.

This is the same thing we do to our pets when a new animal comes into the house. Ever had a cat or dog that's really stand offish? Eventually it comes around and is ok. Now what really happened? The animal is put in a position of discomfort, in this case another animal in the house. Eventually the body adapts itself and realizes this discomfort is unfounded.

This teaching can be applied to any discomfort and anxiety. Accept that you have it, let your body feel the discomfort, anxiety, anger, etc. Let it work its natural course and eventually it will come to terms and adapt itself.

Don't acknowledge it then actively force yourself to do anything, anything you actively do will be counter intuitive. You just have to be you and let the discomfort happen, because it's going to be there till your body adapts. The old saying in PUA, "you'll always have approach anxiety, it never goes away. The only difference between beginners and experts is they've become comfortable with the discomfort".

[–]1IamGale[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks man. Giving away massive value then asking for the sale is a very effective approach when it comes to online business. Gary Vee has a great book on it called, "Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook."

And when you're creating daily, that stuff comes naturally.

[–]idgaf- 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Bro you could probably write a book and I'd buy it.

[–]1IamGale[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a compliment thank you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Your intent must be clear. Your thoughts, actions and words must all be aligned. You can't want to party, get wasted, never study and also be a neurosurgeon.

[–]bittr_n_swt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mate i love your posts, so delicately written, look forward to your next

[–]Kenny_Twenty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another gimmick based TRP infomercial.

[–]NeoreactionSafe -1 points0 points  (8 children)

 

I like the term sociopath because of how well it fits within TheRedPill Community. That’s not to say we’re all sociopaths, but that TRP is amoral. Likewise, a sociopath will navigate through life in amoral ways.

 

Red Pill recognizes the Natural Laws and realizes to be unaware of them is to be a fool.

The Red Pill points out that the Blue Pill does not recognize the Natural Laws and so we see a disconnect between truth and myth. The Blue Pill is a myth so we expose the actual Natural Laws at play which is the truth operating underneath.

So the Red Pill is actually waking up to deeper truths.

What is an error is to think you can invent your own "cause and effect."

Our version of being amoral is relative to the Blue Pill... but not to truth itself.

One can become foolishly corrupted and blind to the truth if you aren't careful.

 

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[–]NeoreactionSafe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm saying that Red Pill isn't advocating wild and unwise action.

The Red Pill is about learning the true nature of reality and from that to develop Frame and Game so that you master reality.

"Cause and Effect" and other "Natural Laws" always apply.

This is probably the best Natural Law youtube:

Mark Passio - Natural Law Seminar - New Haven, CT - Part 2 of 3 - YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=57UBuxnicOA

 

[–]Kafkaevsky 0 points1 point  (4 children)

Could you translate to plain english, for the love of me I cannot decrypt what you are saying.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Try reading today's Red Pill post:

Remember: You're Not Supposed to Wake Up

...the Red Pill is about waking up.

The Blue Pill is brainwashing... "dumbing down".

 

[–]Kafkaevsky 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I read it and I liked it very much. But what is your critique of this piece? and what do you mean when you say

What is an error is to think you can invent your own "cause and effect."

Am I just dumb or what?

[–]NeoreactionSafe 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The Blue Pill gives us a cartoon reality... a myth.

This cartoon is easy to understand and easy to become emotionally attached to.

When a child is given candy he takes it because it instantly satisfies him or her.

A "sucker" is the guy that takes the simple cartoon... the Blue Pill... the candy.

The Red Pill is a bitter pill... it makes people angry because they realize the cartoon candy was all a lie... a myth.

The truth has things like "cause and effect" that are excluded from the cartoon candy myths, but it's also possible to switch from one myth to another. So my caution was that we are not running away from reality but towards it.

 

[–]Snufek -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great post. Lacking creativity might be the anwser to why so many men feel empty inside. Adding vaule to the world is one of the biggest missions for a man - either it is raising a kid, writing a book or building something. But we have this urge to DO and not only to consume.

If you find one man who watches TV all day doing absolutely nothing creative and is truly happy with his life, I will give you all my money. Not going to happen though.

[–]gentleman_caller -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's a lot of self help books referenced in there

[–]neoj8888 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Umm...yeah... I have no intention of trying to mimic a sociopath. If that's what it comes to, then I'd rather bow out, altogether. Jesus...

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

I was wondering why you post every day when i read your name again in the title. Now i understand :). Keep up the great work

[–]1IamGale[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you recognized me. The overall theme in my posts rely on two strategies.

  1. Hustle
  2. Momentum

To get more out of life you need to get more of yourself. So every day I'm writing, the more I do the easier it gets, and the more I can give back to the TRP community.

[–]anansidion -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

Man, you are an amazing writer. That's it. I am amazed.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (6 children)

If TRP is amoral, you should have no qualms with me neutering or killing you in the name of eliminating sexual competition. It's an idea that needs to go. Being alpha means being a leader, and good leadership requires morality.

[–]Kenny_Twenty 0 points1 point  (5 children)

and good leadership requires morality

Oh wow. No it fucking doesn't. In fact, that's FAR from the truth.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

I'd absolutely love to hear an example where that's the case.

[–]Kenny_Twenty 0 points1 point  (3 children)

You're kidding me, right?

Every leader that had to participate in war.

Truman dropping the bomb.

The Vietcong exacting vicious revenge on any farmers who helped out Americans during the Vietnam war.

Mao Zedong killing educated people during the cultural revolution.

Ghengis Khan's barbaric treatment of his enemies.

There's are reasons sociopaths are found at a higher rate among leadership positions. Their lack of a sense of morality gives them an advantage.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

The first four examples you gave are terrible. Each of those leaders were still acting in accordance with what they thought was best for their followers. Hell, the living conditions in China actually improved under Mao... even for women.

Your example regarding Khan is completely irrelevant. His enemies certainly weren't part of his following.

Their lack of a sense of morality gives them an advantage.

No, their lack of feeling is what gives them an advantage. A sense of morality is still required to gain a following, even if it's a charade.

A good leader knows that by improving the conditions for their followers, they ultimately improve conditions for themselves and their offspring in the future. If you cut too many corners, you'll end up like the Czars.

[–]Kenny_Twenty 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The first four examples you gave are terrible. Each of those leaders were still acting in accordance with what they thought was best for their followers.

So fucking what? That doesn't negate my point. They behaved in amoral ways as part of their leadership strategy.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn't negate my point.

No, it confirms mine.

They behaved in amoral ways

Morality is subjective. They felt what they were doing was justified, and so did their followers. If that weren't the case, they would have been displaced.