Link to OP: https://archive.is/GuCmd
Summary: First sentence of post:
My boyfriend is the most accepting, loving, kind person I've met.
Last sentence (exluding tl;dr):
He has no friends, his life revolves around me, his whole family lives in another state, we've planned our whole future together including children, a homestead... I just don't know what to do.
Body: I know I post a lot of these hamster cross-posts, but I find this one especially interesting because she herself cant understand why she's not attracted to someone who holds all the qualities she's been told are important in a partner.
He's gentle, affectionate (more than me) and always been there for me, helping me through so much. But, I keep desiring to be with other men, and picturing what my life would be like with others.
So why isnt she getting the tingles, he's obviously Cosmos Mr Right?
Top comment then tries to show her how "wrong" she is for not being attracted to him by changing out 'manly' with 'big tits'. Somehow she (and an hypothetical man who prefers women with big tits) are wrong for having a sexual preference. Obviously if men have a physical preference, feminist would have to take care of their appearance to attract men (and support the patriarchy we call "the dating scene").
Most women buy into the idea that men should posses "Cosmo-qualities" but they still just cant understand why physical attraction doesnt happen
Beta-qualities wont increase her physical attraction no matter what her girlfriends tell her.
Women "want a bigger, more aggressive, independent, ambitious man." (c) OP
EDIT: A very good explanation of the core of the problem by /u/AtlRP
One poster gets close:
It sounds to me like the issue could be more than maybe that he isn't 'manly', it's that he has nothing in his life outside of you. That kind of dependency isn't attractive at all. I get the feeling it has a lot to do with wanting him to show initiative/take the lead in areas of his own life and your relationship.
But then drops the ball:
Encourage him to seek out his own hobbies, make his own friends. You clearly care about him. Just tell him honestly that it isn't attractive for him to have no other interests outside of your relationship. You need a partner, not somebody with no life of their own.
Telling him would defeat the point. Women want a man who "just gets it."