“Anciently… the androgynous sex existed… coupled back to back… till jealous Jupiter divided them vertically… after then, these divided and imperfect folk ran about over the earth ever seeking their lost halves to be joined to them again… and the reason being that human nature was originally one, and the desire and pursuit of the whole is called love…”
You got her panties off! Now what? It’s the moment of truth. The next hour basically determines whether you’ll get laid again. If you do not perform she will not fuck you again. And what's the point of ALL THAT FRAME YOU HELD if you only get laid once? That's inefficient as fuck.
Here's some tips you can employ tonight, split into three sections: Your Mind-frame, Preparation, and Sex.
This guide is for men who want to fuck women well. In other words, you have to think women are worth pleasuring to get anything out of this. If you get no pleasure from giving pleasure, you’ll likely not get anything from this post, so leave now. Further, if you’re a selfish lover and you’re fine with that, I appreciate you— because if you’re lazy and immature and can’t properly lay a woman you’re the male equivalent of a starfish and you make men like me rockstars.
TRP is a phenomenal resource that has a lot of theory and practical ideas on how to fuck a woman, but not so many guides on, well, how to fuck a woman.
Like many of us here, I spent many years a little BP faggot. As horribly deluded as I was, my genetics did allow for a small amount of success with womynz despite being BETA AS FUCK.
Here's some of the things I've found successful. Every woman likes different things. Whatever. Here's some stuff you can do and have control over.
ACTIONABLE TIPS: THE MIND-FRAME
1. A lot of sex trumps a lot of partners
Would you rather have a lot of partners or a lot of sex? I’d rather have a lot of sex. Having a lot of sex with a few women, or just one at a time, means that you need to be fucking them well. Her taking off of her panties must always be worth it for her. Hint: if she’s not coming it’s not worth it. And YOU have to make it worthwhile. Yes we work to take her panties off. And once the panties are off we have to work again. And then after we fuck we have to hold frame. And we have to do it all tomorrow night. We work. We’re men. Get over it.
2. Sex is something you give, not something you get
Sex is not something you get from a woman. If you’re “taking” sex that mindset impacts the whole interaction. Afterwards, the woman will feel degraded and empty, and probably guilty because she will FEEL that something was taken from her. If you flip that, and go into the interaction “giving” sex to her, trying to pleasure her and making effort, she’ll come out on the other side feeling pleasured, fulfilled, and (oh my god) wholesome. Fuck me right? Who knew sex could be wholesome. We can put this another way: No matter what, you’ll probably get your nut. With a bit of effort you can make sure she gets hers also, thus making her more likely to fuck you again.
3. Dick is free, but good dick is rare
A lot of men are lazy. You know it. I know it. They do not have the discipline to hit the gym, and they certainly do not have the discipline to hold back a nut so they can fuck their woman for an extra 20 minutes. At the first sign of orgasm they let go, come, and collapse, leaving their woman wanting more and ultimately unsatisfied. This is where you come in. If you can pleasure her properly, you can be one or two in a VERY LONG LINE of shitty lovers.
ACTIONABLE TIPS: PREPARATION
1. Keep your fingernails clipped
You’re going to finger her and you don’t want to tear her insides with gnarly nails. Keep ‘em smooth, gentlemen. (Side note: TELL HER you clipped your nails while flirting. She’ll get it, and she’ll smile).
2. Always be carrying condoms.
Glove box. Back pack. Pocket. No excuses. Knowing you’re always prepared to fuck some broad is valuable. Plus, sometimes you surprise yourself and she’s pulling your dick out and BAM you don’t have a condom. I let this happen one time. #strugglebus
3. Master masturbation
Masturbation is shit on around here. I get why.
Masturbation is a form of self-cultivation. Obviously, if your goal is just to bust a nut you're abusing your god given ability to FAP. Properly used, masturbation will make you a better lover.
When you masturbate approach it like meditation. The goal isn’t to nut, the goal is to get familiar with your own stages of arousal. What does it feel like when you’re about to come? How long does it take to get to that point. If you stop, and start up again, do you have more control over your orgasm or less? KNOW YOURSELF. Learn about your own dick! For bonus points, when you’re about to come, flex the muscle you use to stop pissing— if you have a strong enough muscle, you’ll experience the muscle spasms of an orgasm but you won’t ejaculate. And you’ll stay hard. Pull this off during sex and look at that! You’re now multi-orgasmic! Also use oil, not tissue.
ACTIONABLE TIPS: HAVING SEX
1. Keep your hands moving
Remember, women have thinner skin than we do, and are extremely sensitive to touch. If at any point while fucking a woman you’re hands are not moving you’re being a lazy fuck. The goal is to overwhelm her. Slap, pinch, grip, pull hair, grab tit, hold her down. BE DOING SOMETHING. Plus you’re pumping her, plus you’re doing something with your lips. Be multitastic.
2. Rhythm, not speed
Women come from sustained rhythms. Pumping? Pump her rhythmically. Flicking the bean? You need rhythm. Eating pussy? Your tongue needs a rhythm. Sex? Rhythm.
Something as simple as: 5 shallow strokes, 1 deep stroke. 2 clock wise circles, 1 counter clock wise circle. Stuff like that. You can also fuck to music, and go deep once per measure, or change rhythm at the chorus. Speed it up if you want, but maintain the rhythm.
3. Shift the point of friction onto her
When you thrust in and out, the point of friction is on the head of the penis— so you come quickly. If you, for example, thrusted deeply, and moved up and down instead of in and out, you put the point of friction on her clit/your pelvic bone— so she comes quickly instead.
4. Don’t ask her to switch positions, move her
Stop being a pussy and move her. Be forceful. Remember, the point is to overwhelm her. If she’s sweaty underneath you, and all of a sudden the covers are up and she’s being moved, she’s being overwhelmed. She wants different feelz. Give her different feelz.
5. When she comes leave the clit alone for a few minutes
If you keep attacking the clit and she’s too sensitive she’ll push you away. if you leave it alone yourself and play with other parts of her, you can let her recharge and then go right back to it. Remember she doesn’t want to be leading the interaction. Don’t force her to lead because you can’t tell when you’re hurting her.
6. For heat and sweat, fuck under covers
Pretty self explanatory.
EDIT:7.Learn how to eat pussyPUSSY EATING IS BP AND CAUSES THE THROAT CANCER
This is one point of contention I have with The Sex God Method. He seems to look down on eating pussy. I get why— dicking a woman down is much more dominate. Still, learn this. It’s invaluable.
You are what you eat.
EDIT 2: Om nom nom
RESOURCES (nsfw, duh):
How to Eat Pussy
Erotic Breast Massage
Multi Orgasmic Man
She Comes First
Married Sex Life Primer
Sex God Method
1. Lots of sex > Lots of partners
2. Giving sex > Taking sex
3. Dick is free, good dick is rare
1. Clip your nails
2. Carry condoms
3. Mindful masturbation
1. Move your hands
2. Rhythm before speed
3. Shift the point of friction
4. Move her
5. Know when she's too sensitive
6. Get sweaty
EDIT:7.Eat pussyPUSSY EATING IS BP AND CAUSES THE THROAT CANCER
EDIT 2: 7. Eat pussy (IF YOU WANT)
p.s. the point of the Plato quote is to emphasize that IF you want to access spirituality during sex you can access spirituality during sex. It's the only time, as humans, we're physically whole. That's part of why we seek it.