Hello, this is my first post on TRP, though I've been a lurker with my main account for around 6 months. I'm posting with this account since my main one can be tied to me irl.
I found this article a while ago, and I wanted to post and write some notes on it here on TRP. Sorry if the analysis is dodgy, but I'm not done practicing and internalizing all aspects of RP theory.
TL;DR A woman would rather share a high value man than lose him.
Kate's been married to Matt for 35 years. Kate knows Matt cheated on her all that time, so why did she stick around? RP theory explains.
We met at university and he’s all the classic things – tall, good looking, bright, funny. Very few women can resist him.
- Judging by his description of him I think we can say Matt's SMV is high. Typical Thundercock.
- Very few women can resist him. Preselection. She wants the man other women want, as a proof of his alpha qualities.
I watched as Matt broke one heart after another, always warning them – “I’ll never settle down, I’m a really bad lot” – but they were all willing to give it a try.
*1) Matt had women, a lot of them. Preselection.
*2) Matt didn't give his commitment. A post here said that a man who gives his commitment away easily is the equivalent of a woman who gives away sex easily. Basically they are both sluts.
He was from a very army family and I knew that I was the “right” sort of girl for him so I played it very cool, which he wasn’t used to.
- 1)Very army family? She is most likely talking about his father and grandfather. Probably disciplined and strict upbringing done by the father. Matt surely wasn't raised as a BP wussy.
- 2)She just "knew" she was the "right sort of girl for him". That's female solipsism right there. Matt's been with so many women, that he surely knows "The One" doesn't exist and AWALT. However she had some attractive, RedPill woman, qualities.
It took all my willpower not to fall into his bed. [...] I managed to keep his hands off me until our wedding was booked.
- Capacity to control her hypergamy. Matt probably gave this woman tingles 24/7 and yet she still didn't budge. I suspect she also had a low N-count, maybe 0. I believe this because it's easier to stop yourself from doing something you've never done before than it is otherwise, still, it's just a supposition.
*Was Matt bluepill by marrying this girl even thought he didn't have sex with her? Perhaps. But Matt knew he could get girls and sex, but a woman with self-control is a rare catch.
[...]three years later, I was sure Matt was tamed
*The typical woman dream, having a high status Alpha who she can tame into a lowly beta provider. Alpha Male Matt was a high value - high risk guy for her, he could easily game women, and she know it. So she wanted to turn him into Beta Provider Matt, to "tame" him.
He worked hard, earned a lot.
Always focus on your mission, not on your woman. Also, Matt was a good provider.
I’m a teacher and when we had the big chat about child care I happily agreed to give up work.
*Of course she did, why bother when Matt was providing and bringing in the $$$. Women don't want to work and be independent, they want to be provided for. As Rollo wrote, "man works the world, the women works the man."
I was proud of myself – getting fit really quickly, looking good and always ready to jump into bed with Matt when the babies were sleeping.
*Despite the situation, Matt was still alpha, most likely kept his physical SMV high as well. She knew that if she slipped, she would quickly be replaced. Also, a woman always provides sex for the Alpha Male. She doesn't actually write anywhere, but I'm sure advanced Dread Game was fully in place now, you need to be in a high Dread Game level as a stepping stone in order to get away with what Matt pulled of next.
After Simon’s christening, I wanted to get him out of his slippery christening robes so I left everyone eating and headed upstairs. I opened Simon’s bedroom door and Matt and Chloe, my best friend from school, were having sex on the teddy rug on the floor, so engrossed that they didn’t hear me. I swiftly closed the door and tiptoed to our bedroom, shutting that door loudly.
How can Matt fuck her wife's *best friend in his own home, when his wife was present, when he had a tonne of guests over? Simple, Matt doesn't give a flying fuck. Matt doesn't give a fuck about his wife, her friends, his belongings should he divorce and anything else for that matter. Matt is Zen. Matt is outcome independent.
- When we went back down to our guests, Chloe was sitting on her fiancé’s lap and barely glanced at us.
Best horror story I have ever read. Don't get married.
I wanted to pull Matt out of our bed and scream at him but I knew that if I did, there was no going back. Even if we didn’t split up there would be terrible rows and our lovely, happy life would be disrupted. [...] I was sure of only two things – we were staying married and from now on I would know everything.
*Translation: I didn't want to shit test him because he would most likely call me out on my bluff and I would risk losing him.
*How does a woman feel "lovely" and "happy"? By being submissive. Matt was the Alpha Male in the house, and she submitted to him, she fulfilled her natural role and was rewarded with these natural feelings that don't come to women any other way.
*Ultimately, she decided to share her Alpha Male, because she knew she had the ultimate resource: she was married to him. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment, and she had his, in it's entirety, why risk losing it? Women would rather share a high value man than not to have one and be with a beta.
I was convinced that if I said nothing, he would never leave me for anyone.
*She was right. If she started shit-testing him about the other women she would go down crashing, hard. You can't do what Matt does if you are not prepared to walk away.
It wasn’t easy and it was tiring being on full alert.
He basically Dread Gamed the life out of her. Kept her on her toes, made her work for his commitment lest it be given to another woman.
I checked Matt’s phone constantly and although his texts were always brief, some of the stuff his women sent was practically pornographic.
*Matt was no idiot, he purposefully didn't delete the messages. He wanted his wife to know that he had options, that she was replaceable.
*Matt also knew that the cucking of his wife was important to keeping their relationship strong, it meant keeping his SMV high and the tingles constant.
I did get tired of dropping friends I knew Matt was seeing but that was my limit – I didn’t want to see them hanging round him. Some of my girlfriends tried to warn me but I cut them off as even acknowledging what they were saying meant I would have to do something about it.
*This one was gold, she basically tried to find excuses not to know her own husband was cucking her. Women will do and forgive anything if you are alpha enough, that's why they remain in bad relationships with loser Chads and what not.
I outlasted any woman foolish enough to think the affair would lead to something and, in the end, it was worth it.
This end paragraph shows something more, women are tolerant to being cheated on than men are, that's why some of you guys are able to spin multiple plates who know of each other.